In Love With A Mama’s Boy? How To Make It Work

 Mama’s boys get a bad rap. Did you know, though, whenever you find a mama’s boy in a romantic relationship, you find a daddy’s girl as his partner? 

These two can make their passionate love work in spite of the odds!

The picture of the traditional mama’s boy isn’t pretty!  Imagine a soft male without much backbone who still answers to his mama whether he is twenty, thirty, or even older and there is the picture we find distasteful. 

Real Life Mama’s Boys

That is the caricature. In real life, mama’s boys come in all shapes and sizes!  A man who is charming and suave can turn out to be a mama’s boy.  One who is domineering, bullying, and macho can also be a mama’s boy. 

Another who is confident and a little on the dismissive side can be a mama’s boy.  How does a woman know if her man is a mama’s boy or not?  She knows by how he makes her feel, particularly once they move out of the courting phase and into a level of commitment.  

Where He Gets His Power

Beginning with his mother, a mama’s boy believes he gets his power from the women in his life.  He either pushes against or pulls on them to get a sense of his own power and worth.  A woman can recognize the feeling of either being pulled on or pushed against. It doesn’t feel good.

When children are born, the parent whose sphere of influence they first occupy is that of their mother. Both little girls and little boys venture out into the sphere of influence of their fathers as time goes on. 

How a Mama’s Boy Gets to be a Mama’s Boy

There is one thing that creates a mama’s boy.  If in his early teen years, he did not receive an invitation to enter fully into his father’s sphere of influence; or,if that invitation was thwarted and he remains in the sphere of influence of his mother, then he will be a mama’s boy. 

The invitation to the father’s masculine sphere of influence is lacking when a father is physically or emotionally absent or if he isn’t strong enough to compete with the mother’s sphere of influence.

When a man doesn’t get to enter fully into the sphere of influence of his father (also known as the masculine sphere), he doesn’t learn how to ground himself in his own masculinity, deriving his power and potency from that place. 

Instead, he grows up believing that the women in his life, beginning with his mother, hold the key to his masculinity, his power, and his potency.

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Sarah Elizabeth Malinak, relationship and self-love coach, is co-author of Create the Love You Want, the ebook that shows you exactly how to create the relationship that is ideal for you. Visit her at www.IdealRelationships.com.

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