Why not just say, "I love you but I'm not at all sure if I wanna marry you or not?" One moment of honesty and candor can save years of complications and buckets of tears. Love and committment go well together, but they're not the same thing. After all, I love my mother but I have no intention of marrying her.

I am recently single again. I am reflecting over my past relationships which may be a slippery slope. My ex-boyfriend and I had a break up that seemed to drag on and on but finally he told me he was lingering because he was afraid that he would regret it after we broke up and he was unsure if I am the one. I have heard this before from other men. He mentioned some of my great qualities and said that he didn't know what was wrong with him. I've heard this before too. Have you heard men say this kind of thing before? I always thought it was an issue with the men. But maybe it's me. I'm 37 and have never been engaged. I am a little closed off because of my split family but in the past few years I've had some serious relationships that just didn't make it. Maybe I'm not doing something show a man I'm the best catch for him. Anyway not dating now. Just reflecting. Any feedback appreciated.

i have been with my boyfriend for almost 10 months and it has generally been posiitive. we have always enjoyed each others presence and company. we go out dancing, to the movies, to the mall, or just kick back at one anothers houses. i feel like he can make me stronger and try out more things. for a while now we have been telling eachother "i love you" i truly mean the world to him, and he means a lot to me too.

thoughthere have been times where it has been dififcult. he has not always been around, due to him being in a college and me being a senior in high school.

as well he has personality and viewpoint differences that conflict with mine. he is more of an intrevert where as i am more of a party animal. i have not wwent out and partied in a long time and it does bother me. i sometimes feel like he keeps me from making new friends and living how i want to live. my bf does not like big groups of people; whereas i occasionally like it. i haved missed oppurtunities like going to carnivals b/c of this. he often intimidates me with his viewpoints nad even changes mine. in the end i am never happy with life, though i am when i am with him.

next year i am going to college so i dont think the relationship will work, due to me being 1 1/2 away from home. he realizes this, but that is 7 months away from now.

recently i have been going to a counselor b/c i am feeling unsatisfied and depressed with life. last night my father pointed out to me that my bf could be conflicting my happy thoughts i used to have on life. secretly i knew this all along but didn't want to admit it. my bf has a negative outlook on life and always have. he feels everyones lives are worthless, and he does not understand why we are here. the only thing he and i have agreed on is that love for one another can make life worth living. i used to not feel this way, i used to go out with freinds and appreciate life. could he possibly be making me unhappy andd the only way for me to appreciate again is to break up with him???! can i not simply ignore his comments about life and be happy myself while being with him?PLEASE HELP ME, I HAVE NO IDEA