The Relationship Secret – How to Use the Law of Attraction in Your Relationships (Video)
to identify the area of your relationship that you want to change, that’s not bringing you joy, that could be just a bit better. Recognize that your happiness in this area has nothing to do with your partner. You and only you are responsible for your happiness. (read that again, and again…)
Some common things that many of us would like to change are:
- Spending more intimate time with our partner
- Arguing and fighting less with our partner
- Feeling loved and appreciated
- More sex. Less sex. Better sex.
- Feeling like we have more things in common with our partner
The list goes on and on…
Feel It
Once you’ve decided what you’d like to change. Imagine how that area of your relationship would be if it were perfect. How would you feel? Where would you be? What would you be doing? (Notice I did not ask you how you would change your partner.)
Once you have the feelings secure, write these feelings down in a journal or notebook. Notice that I said feelings, not all of the technical little implementation details. This is another big mistake that people make when using the Law of Attraction. Stop telling the Universe how to do it’s job! Focus on you what you want and be open to ANY avenue from which it may come.
This is a hard one for many of us, because we feel that we need to control everything or it won’t turn out like we want.
Think back for just a minute…
I’ll bet you can remember a time in your life when something did not go the way you planned and you were angry and frustrated, but then 6 months down the road… You realized that it was really for the best.
The answer may come from a completely unexpected source like your partner canceling previous plans to spend more time with you or initiating a surprise sexual encounter. It could even be something that initially seems bad like your car breaking down or your flight getting canceled so that you get to spend more time together. Rather than getting angry or suspicious, how about enjoying the change and saying "Thank You!" to the Universe for getting what you want.
Own It
Now, Go back to your journal every day and read your description of this perfect feeling. Focus on it, visualize it, and know that it is already done. Focus on this ideal until you feel it in your core – and keep it there. One thing that I do is to write up a one sentence affirmation that I can repeat to myself any time I start doubting my own power. A sample affirmation is something like "I am filled with joy, love, and laughter!" – that’s my favorite one when I’m feeling a little low energy. Try repeating that 10 times and not feeling at least a little better. Create your own that is specific to the thing you are trying to change in your life.
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