that "Anything worth while in this life requires work and sacrifice"? I have. From my parents, my grandparents, and my friends. I even believed it for most of my life.

But I’m here to tell you now, out of experience, that it’s total BS! Life does not have to be hard in any way, shape, or form. What makes life hard is "resistance". Resistance to change, resistance to the way things are, resistance to others, resistance to resistance!

If you just stop holding on, stop trying to control everyone and everything around you, and just accept that life is going exactly as planned and that it’s perfect just as it is, believe it or not, life will get much easier for you.

Rather than trying to control and change your life, spend that time and energy focusing on the life that you want. Don’t give your energy to a single negative thought and your life will change for the better – guaranteed.

Read Tamera’s question and feel the frustration that can occur when you try to force things…

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I have read a lot on the law of attraction (including your article on writing down the description of your perfect mate – which I did), but I have one question I cannot find the answer to and I’m hoping you can help me.  I’ve been dating a man on and off for 5 years and while we love each other and have fun together, we have A LOT of differences.  My question is this, "How do you know the difference between when you need to compromise, when you need to use the law of attraction to attract more of what you want from your mate and when you should find a new mate?"

I love the man I’m with, but there are just some differences that I don’t know what to do about.  The law of attraction says focus on what you want, but what if I don’t want to put that amount of energy into this person I’m dating because deep down I’m not sure he’s the right person for me because of our differences?  If I want unconditional love the law of attraction says that I need to focus on that and give that to the man in my life, but what if I’m giving it to the wrong person? 

I’m 37 years old and my mate is 17 years my senior, he’s never had kids and I have two (8 & 10), he doesn’t want to move from where he lives and I want to remain close to where my kids go to school (he lives about 35-45 minutes one way from where my kids go to school), he’s retired and I’m not even close, he’s financially stable and I’m not, he requires a lot of attention and I don’t, I just quit hormone replacement therapy out of health concerns and so have lost my sex drive while his remains on high, and the list goes on.  I know a lot of these things can be worked through with compromise, but how much?  So many times we agree to disagree because I simply cannot see his point of view and vice-versa.

He tells me I’m kind of pushing him away with all my reading of the law of attraction because I now question everything, including whether we are right for each other.  Am I the one who needs to change my thinking?  Do I just need to focus on what I like about him and hope that by applying the law of attraction he will transform into the man of my dreams?

I would soooooooo appreciate any advise you can offer me.

Thanks for listening,

Tamara

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