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Watching Porn - How Do I Make My Lying Husband Come Clean? (Video)

Relationship Advice - Watching Porn - How Do I Make My Lying Husband Come Clean? (Video)

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So he watches porn…

Let’s break it down. He watches porn – why? Well, because he likes it. Women may not understand that but there are many things that women do that men don’t ā€œget.ā€ For example, women have their nails done. They do it because they like it and it feels good. Do women get their nails done because there’s something about their husbands that they don’t like? Absolutely not! For men, watching porn is pleasurable, plain and simple.

Of course he lies about it 

You ask him about his habits and he lies about it. Of course you know better, but why is he lying? The answer to that question is a tough one – he is lying about it because he doesn’t feel safe being honest with you. Why would he feel that way? He is afraid of you getting angry at him for doing something as natural to him as washing your hair. How would you like it if you got interrogated and yelled at every time you washed your hair?

Why you have a problem with it

Now that you understand more about where your man is coming from on this issue, you can delve a little deeper into how you feel about the situation. When he watches porn, it hurts you. Sure it does, but it shouldn’t and the reason it hurts you has nothing to do with him.

Many women are in this same position because they have low self-esteem and jealousy or control issues. These are coming from you – not him. Take some time to really think about why you feel the way you do about porn and do what you can to change those things. This is the time to really focus on yourself– trust us, when you take care of the inner issues, the outer ones don’t seem like such a big deal.

Take action

With that said, we know you’re not going to sit back and let him watch porn all day while you take a hot bath and work on self-acceptance. Here’s what you can do to take action:

Get your own porn, your own toys and get on with it! Too shy? Don’t worry – after you’ve taken care of those inner issues, confidence will begin to take their place. Let your husband watch how you do it and chances are he’ll really get into it.

Don’t make rules about when he can or can’t watch porn – he’s free to do it by himself or with you. If you leave the issue alone and let him be himself, he’ll probably take a little from column A and a little from column B – and that’s okay.

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One Response to “Watching Porn - How Do I Make My Lying Husband Come Clean? (Video)”

  1. Mr. Gentlenibbles on March 7th, 2008 4:43 pm

    I just wanted to say “You guys are right on” with this one!”

    The only thing that stands out is the fact he is lying about it! There could be lots of reasons he feels he needs to hide this. Some may have to do with you, other with him!

    -Do you ever make him feel guilty or embarassed about it? That would be a good reason to deny it!
    -Do you have a tendency to tell your girlfriends, or worse, family about it?
    -Maybe he has some fetishes he is a little embarassed of.
    -Maybe it is not the porn, but the accompanying masturbation he is embarassed of?

    There could be tons of reasons. The point is not the porn, but find out why the gaps in trust and communication exist.

    Just my thoughts!

    ~Mr. Gentlenibbles

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