Change in the Relationship

The beautiful part of this is whoever begins taking responsibility and making changes, the relationship begins to change. 

A woman who stops treating her man as a child accomplishes the following:

1. She gains some time for herself because she is no longer going behind him taking care of whatever she doesn’t trust him to do. 
2. The freer he is to express himself as an adult, the more he will meet the challenge. 
3. Then she gets to practice letting him do it his way, not hers, which ties into her spiritual growth! 
4. The more she lets go, the more the resentment between them begins to fade. 
5. He may decide to offer to help in ways that make a difference for her and the relationship.

A man, who quits pushing against his wife, opens up the door for her to trust him more, to fall in love with him again.  A man who stops pulling on her, enjoying her approval but no longer needing it, will find her attention on him shifting. 

In the beginning, she may be a little insecure because he has taught her to equate his needing her with his love for her.  However, it can begin to open up their love story to where they can take it to a completely new level.

Anyone Can Change Their Relationship

Even though our primary interest is mama’s boys and daddy’s girls, anyone can do this with any relationship.  All it requires is taking responsibility for the relationship as something you created.  Don’t do it to beat you up for making an unwise choice. 

Do it to get to know you better, to improve the relationship, and to get to know the people in your life better too.  After all, if they are a reflection of you, then you are a reflection of them.

Even Singles Can Make Changes

You not only do not have to wait on your partner to improve your relationship; if you are single, you do not have to wait for your partner to show up in order to lay a strong foundation for that future romance.  Review your past romantic relationships. 

Look for repeating patterns.  Discover what in you attracts less than what you are looking for in a romantic partner.  Then use that information to get to know you better so you can make better, wiser, more loving choices about how you show up in relationships!  How you show up determines the kind of person you attract.

Using Current Relationships to Make Yourself a Better Partner

You can also use current relationships with anyone in your life to make yourself a better partner.  Using mama’s boys and daddy’s girls again as an example, is a co-worker or your boss a mama’s boy who places inappropriate demands on you?  How can you operate in a new way that allows them to be grown men rather than overgrown boys who lean on you too much? 

In reverse, is a co-worker or your boss a daddy’s girl who tries to take care of you in inappropriate or demeaning ways?  How can you operate in a new way that sets healthier boundaries with them and let’s them know, without you risking your livelihood, they can no longer treat you this way. 

If you are attracting dysfunctional relationships anywhere in your life, it will show up in your romantic life as well.  You hold the key as the common denominator in all those relationships is you!

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