• “Can we keep the lights off?”  She will instantly interpret this one to mean you do not find her attractive and would rather fantasize about someone else while you are with her.  If that is true, it would be best to end the relationship and free you both to find better love elsewhere.  If it is a result of your own self-consciousness then request low lighting.  She will interpret that as romantic and you will be her hero!

• “No, Sandy, that’s not what I meant,” when Sandy is your ex’s name!  No one does this consciously!  When it happens, it is an accident.  Your best bet is to apologize immediately and ask her how you can make up for it.  Lavishing her with reassurance ought to disarm her.  Especially if it never happens again!

Natural Differences Between the Sexes

When men and women say things to each other they ought never to say, it’s rarely intentional.  Usually, it is a result of the natural differences between the sexes.  It often occurs because a woman is talking to her man like he’s her girlfriend or because a man is talking to his woman like she’s one of the guys. 

A really awesome, cool, magnificent way to insure peace, harmony, and hotness between a man and a woman is if each can put him or herself in the other’s shoes without feeling a loss of self. 

To consider the other’s viewpoint from within the other’s male or female chemistry, physiology, and mentality without judgment can open the imagination to numerous ways of communicating, “I love you,” or, “I’m interested in you,” or, “I think you hung the moon,” or, “I honor and respect you,” etc. with or without words!

You do not have to get lost in the other’s shoes.  Wear them for a short time, even for just a moment, for a shift in perspective that can make you number one on his or her list of favorite people of all time!

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