Ultimatums – The Fastest Way to End a New Relationship (Video)

How soon can you get your new love to say "I Love You"? 

You know the feeling… you’ve been dating for months, and he still won’t say those magical little words. How frustrating! Why are so many men (and some women for that matter) so afraid to say "I love you"? Is it really so hard?

Is he unsure about you, or just afraid of commitment?

Of course that leaves you wondering… is he really ready to give himself fully to you, or is he holding back? Is he doubting himself, or worse, is he doubting you?

Or is he just afraid of commitment? But you still have to wonder why that is.

How can you know he’s really over his ex wife or girlfriend?

In the end, you want to feel that he’s completely over the other woman – his ex wife, girlfriend, etc – and wants only you. And it’s only natural to want to hear those words from him, to want that reassurance that he feels the same way you do.

But how do you make him say it without damaging your relationship and even breaking up? More importantly, SHOULD you insist he say anything at all?

Should you demand to hear "I Love You" – or else?

Drawing that line in the sand sometimes feels like a good idea – a last hope of security and stability – but it can often backfire. Many couples break up every day just because they get too hung up on the terms they use to define their relationship, on saying certain words, etc.

Fact is, every relationship is unique, because every person is unique. When we try to put relationships in a firm box, we often end up disappointed, and sometimes we end up alone…

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  • Well I am sorry... we all have been in this situation, wanting someone who has not the same feelings as we have! Anyway from my experience (I mean after many many tears and crying so many times) I am sure about a few things:

    1. Stay away from the friend zone!!! It' will never ever work. Being friends means having contact, even if it is a simple phone call it will keep you back and make you feel more and more pain. Every contact of any kind provides new images, new information, new talks, facts, voices etc for your mind... which means more and more memories to deal with... as a result more and more pain. Just STAY AWAY!!!!!!!!! I ruined 7 months of my life in the "friends zone", and you know the worst is that being there I dealed with many many UGLY situations like seeing her depressed for an other guy and then I saw her being in haven after being with this new guy, this one just killed me, but was a lesson for me, I had to learn the rough way!!! You are risking you mental health, the more important thing ever ever in any situation is your mood and mental health.

    2. We make the mistake and believe that someone is special, or even worse we believe that our situation is not affected by the well known rules of love (which are: 1. both being happy, funny etc both wanting the same thing, both both both and both is all about both!!!!) because our loved one is different, just bull shit!!!!

    3. Focus on your "I want" and his "I want", if he does not want the same thing as much as you want it, then move on. Of course it is difficult but think that it is not fair for you to stay there. For example I would do everything (in the past not now) to be with my ex... you see what I mean it is fair to have a guy like me in your life, one that would do almost anything just to be with you, this is fair, the other thing is not!!!

    Anyway I could write a hundred lines here but I will not because anything I may say you already know it!!! The POINT IS TO STAY BACK, CUT ALL CONNECTIONS, GET YOUR MIND CLEAN (EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO CRY A RIVER FOR MONTHS) AND AFTER THAT BRING IN YOUR MIND ALL THOSE RULES OF LOVE (waekness, crying, romance etc etc are just bull shit!!! it is all about happines and fun, it is just a game not a struggle, every healthy relationship is just a game, whenever it becomes a struggle then the end has become etc etc) IN YOUR MIND IN ORDER TO REALISE THAT THIS RELATIONSHIP WAS NOT FOR YOU AND TAKE OUT OF LIFE THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT!!!
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