Sex, Religion, and Guilt… Will It EVER End? (Video)

This extremely controversial issue comes up over and over again. People from a very strict religious upbringing experience many relationship difficulties around sex and sexuality. 

They especially take issue with their partner’s sexual history. But the problem comes in when they pass judgment on their partner for "sexual indiscretions", and try to "save" this person. This is a very common problem with men from very religious backgrounds, when they discover their wife or girlfriend has had sex before them… and, gasp! sometimes with more than just one man!

This of course results in serious relationship problems, and often a break up or divorce.

We are today the product of our upbringing, experiences, and choices 

The person you love is who they are because of their upbringing, their experiences, and each and every choice they made up to this point in their lives. Without all those factors, this person would not be who they are today, and would likely not have ever met you - since all those circumstances in their life also ultimately led to the two of you coming together.

So it is naive and hypocritical for people to talk about "forgiving" their partners’ sexual past, when they love this person for who they are today.

Women and virgins… "Hey - who broke the safety seal on this one?!"

This whole thing about "I want to marry a virgin" sounds nice in theory, but it doesn’t reflect the reality in our society today. 

The real question to ask is - "who cares?" So what if she’s had sex before? Maybe then she’ll actually know what she’s doing when she has sex with you - better yet, maybe she’ll actually know what she likes.

Gasp! Women taking pleasure in sex. No, it can’t be! Sure, it’s barely been over 100 years since the ever enlightened medical establishment of the day (read: men with large egos) was telling us that women don’t actually take pleasure in sex. Of course during those glorious days doctors could only examine the parts of a woman that weren’t covered by her mandatory head-to-toe clothing. No, seriously. This is not fiction. It’s the height of the arrogance and hypocrisy of the Victorian age… a time from which many of today’s sexual taboos stem, and thus many of today’s relationship sex and intimacy problems.

There are places in today’s world still where women cannot show their faces. Lifting their veils amounts to public pornography, and is against the law of the land. Can you believe it? And let’s not forget that it’s barely been sixty years since women have been allowed to vote.

We live in fascinating times, but our dark history is not far behind.

Strong religious upbringing and sex education…

Something we see very often from people raised in a very strict religious manner is a complete lack of sex education. Unfortunately, when we hide away from sex and don’t teach our children about the realities of sex, the inevitable will happen…