Comments on: Rough Sex and BDSM – Going Beyond The Occasional Spanking http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/sex-intimacy/bondage-fetishes-fantasies/rough-sex-and-bdsm-going-beyond-the-occasional-spanking/ Love & Sex Videos, Tips & Advice from Ask Dan & Jennifer Sat, 17 Jul 2010 01:22:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Speak Sexy http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/sex-intimacy/bondage-fetishes-fantasies/rough-sex-and-bdsm-going-beyond-the-occasional-spanking/comment-page-1/#comment-23902 Speak Sexy Sun, 19 Aug 2007 17:18:07 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/sex-and-intimacy/rough-sex-and-bdsm-going-beyond-the-occasional-spanking/#comment-23902 Hi Dan and Jennifer, First let me say that I love your site! What a wonderful idea with the videos. This is much more entertaining (and educational) than watching regular TV. Personally I liked what you had to say about venturing into BDSM practices slowly and with trust/communication. Most people really do ignore the mental aspect of BDSM and start swinging a flogger with no idea of what their partner (or they) want out of their sex play. I'd just like to add that a lot of people are curious about BDSM, but when they actually try it find out the fantasy is a lot more fun/exciting than the reality...and that it's really OK to not like certain things. Just because you like to be spanked by hand does not mean you have to like a paddle, etc. It's all about finding the degree to which you and your partner are comfortable. But when you do get it right the physical/emotional/psychological rewards that come from a good play session are very hard to beat! Thanks for this great post. Rose, Speak Sexy Hi Dan and Jennifer,

First let me say that I love your site! What a wonderful idea with the videos. This is much more entertaining (and educational) than watching regular TV.

Personally I liked what you had to say about venturing into BDSM practices slowly and with trust/communication. Most people really do ignore the mental aspect of BDSM and start swinging a flogger with no idea of what their partner (or they) want out of their sex play.

I’d just like to add that a lot of people are curious about BDSM, but when they actually try it find out the fantasy is a lot more fun/exciting than the reality…and that it’s really OK to not like certain things. Just because you like to be spanked by hand does not mean you have to like a paddle, etc. It’s all about finding the degree to which you and your partner are comfortable.

But when you do get it right the physical/emotional/psychological rewards that come from a good play session are very hard to beat! Thanks for this great post.

Rose, Speak Sexy

]]> By: Dan and Jennifer http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/sex-intimacy/bondage-fetishes-fantasies/rough-sex-and-bdsm-going-beyond-the-occasional-spanking/comment-page-1/#comment-22987 Dan and Jennifer Fri, 27 Jul 2007 13:48:44 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/sex-and-intimacy/rough-sex-and-bdsm-going-beyond-the-occasional-spanking/#comment-22987 Hi Andey. We don't assume that the fiance is abusive, but she has indicated that he has a very strong temper - the two normally go together - anger and violence. We like to play these things "better safe than sorry". Hi Andey.

We don’t assume that the fiance is abusive, but she has indicated that he has a very strong temper – the two normally go together – anger and violence. We like to play these things “better safe than sorry”.

]]> By: Andey Randead http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/sex-intimacy/bondage-fetishes-fantasies/rough-sex-and-bdsm-going-beyond-the-occasional-spanking/comment-page-1/#comment-22981 Andey Randead Fri, 27 Jul 2007 09:59:46 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/sex-and-intimacy/rough-sex-and-bdsm-going-beyond-the-occasional-spanking/#comment-22981 Just watched your video about Su. Why do you automatically assume that the fiance is actually abusive. Seems to me that she wants the writer to think she has is rough so he keeps chasing her. Not to suggest that this is the case, and it is very likely that she may be telling the truth however, the advise should have been to first establish if in fact she is being abused. If she is not, she is looking for a step up, or a better situation with the second guy. On the eve of marriage she may be having second thoughts and wondering if she did as good as she could have done. Women are masters at optimizing their situation in marriage. She may want shmoe 2 to think she needs rescuing giving him insentive to sweep her off her feet and show her a better life with him. She will not leave schmoe 1 until she knows she has a commitment from schmoe 2. She may very well be waiting for that. Telling him abuse stories is a way to get schmoe 2 off his ass and commit to her. Just watched your video about Su. Why do you automatically assume that the fiance is actually abusive. Seems to me that she wants the writer to think she has is rough so he keeps chasing her. Not to suggest that this is the case, and it is very likely that she may be telling the truth however, the advise should have been to first establish if in fact she is being abused. If she is not, she is looking for a step up, or a better situation with the second guy. On the eve of marriage she may be having second thoughts and wondering if she did as good as she could have done. Women are masters at optimizing their situation in marriage. She may want shmoe 2 to think she needs rescuing giving him insentive to sweep her off her feet and show her a better life with him. She will not leave schmoe 1 until she knows she has a commitment from schmoe 2. She may very well be waiting for that. Telling him abuse stories is a way to get schmoe 2 off his ass and commit to her.

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