Abstinence Only? Does it Really Work?
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Give them some credit
I think the main reason why we see such a push for the abstinence only program is theyâreligious leaders, politicians and moralist– donât think young people and adults donât have what it takes to handle the great gift of sexuality with care. Funny.
We trust them to make a decision to give their life for their country, take a drink at a bar, vote, and drive a vehicle. God forbid if they are given the right keys to take control of their own body and to make choices concerning their sexual lives.
The Christian community has done everything from pushing school boards to teaching their view about sexuality to our kids to forcing state and federal governments to spend billions of dollars to quell the rampant sexual drive. Truth is, it doesnât work.
The better alternative
What a waste to spend all the money, time, and sermons to scare the devil out of kids touching themselves (or each other) when you can save money and talk about ways to treat your potential interest with concern and care.
What a waste of time to avoid people even seeing a condomâlet alone knowing what to do with one when you open the foilâwhen you can show the guys how to put the darn thing on and the benefits of preventing pregnancy and the risk of contacting an STD.
Why abstinence only isn’t working
One fact stuck out to me was how after years of declining rates in teen birth rates in 2007 saw a jump:
The difference between these two approaches, and their impact on teen behavior, remains a controversial subject in the U.S. Teenage birth rates had been dropping in the U.S. since 1991, but a 2007 report showed 3% increase from 2005 to 2006. –CDC National Center for Health Statistics Dec. 12, 2007.
This despite efforts by leaders to show this line of defense alone will curb the tide. Some figures show in some places around the country there was little to no signs of real change. But the hidden toll is the silence from those who either have taken these courses at school or took some sort of pledge of abstaining from sex in their churches (i.e. âThe Silver Ring Thingyâ).
For the few who succeed in achieving their goal of being âpureâ those who are active sexually must feel like failures not just to themselves but to God. Is this what we want to produce in our children?
Not everyone can live up to the ideals of Paul the apostle or the ideas of many in our society so wouldnât it make sense to give people tools to help them better address the problems young people face than to go into a relationship with a wing and a prayer?
My advice is to take the money making sex a foe and make it a friend and ally. Install respect for this great power, prepare for our young people the possible, and hope the things we teach them will help them make better decisions in the bedroom.
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Why abstinence only isnât working.
This line above stopped me dead. As the mother of 2 teens, I can sum it up. Anytime you tell a teen to flat out NOT do something, you are pretty much guaranteeing yourself th opposite outcome.
At what point did we begin to think teens were stupid? They know what’s going on and deserve the respect from the public to be educated enough to make their own decisions and not be expected to follow blindly like lemmings.
My spawn aren’t angels and have been know to make a poor decision or two. However, when we arm them with an education and real reasons other than “because I said so” and “because it’s bad” they tend to make the choice that is in their best interest.
Sometimes their choice isn’t mine but as the mother of 2 teens, I’ll have to get over that part pretty quick. What ever you do don’t tell them I said that. ; )
Ms. Bhaven