Premauture ejaculation is a common issue for many men, both young and old. There’s nothing wrong with reaching orgasm quickly during sex, although, it can definitely put a damper on a couple’s sex life if he’s going too fast for her. Here’s how you can slow it down and last longer in bed so she can reach orgasm too!

Question: I have a problem, when me and my girlfriend have sex it’s like 5 minutes into it or so then I’m ready to cum. Is that normal to go that fast? How do I keep it together longer so it’s more pleasurable for her as well?

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Masturbation Can Help

Masturbating can actually help a premature ejaculator to last longer in bed. Many men who have girlfriends, wives or regular sex partners feel like they don’t need to masturbate, however, they end up reaching orgasm within just a few minutes of having sex with their partner. By masturbating, men can somewhat “desensitize” their penis so they don’t feel the urge to climax as soon as they start receiving pleasure. You won’t desensitize yourself to sex completely, but you will program your penis to be able to withstand pleasure for longer. Practice getting close to orgasm when you masturbate and then back off a little before you actually climax. Do this several times in a row to practice holding and controlling your orgasm.

Take A Break During Sex

It’s not bad to take a break during sex when you feel like you’re almost on the brink of having an orgasm. Back off and let your partner know that you’re close, but you’re not ready for the sex to end. Do something else, such as light foreplay or pleasure for her. This coud be a great time to give her oral sex or finger her and give her an orgasm too! When you no longer feel like you’re ready to blow, resume intercourse with your partner. You can do this more than once during sex – in fact, you can actually do it as many times as you want until you just can’t control yourself anymore! Many men report that doing this during sex helps their partners to reach orgasm as well, and makes their orgasm more powerful and pleasurable when they finally do reach climax. If you don’t trust yourself to stop when you’re close to having an orgasm, try sex positions that put your partner in charge.

Practice Makes Perfect

The more sex you have, the longer you’ll last each time. Just like any other activity, if you want to be really good at it, you have to practice at it! Instead of going a week or a few days between having sex, try having sex every other day or even every day if you need to at first! Adding masturbation into the mix as well will really help you to become a master of controlling your own orgasms. You won’t have to do this forever either – as you become more accustomed to controlling yourself, you’ll eventually be able to do so even if you haven’t had sex for weeks. Even though premature ejaculation is a common problem for me, there are lots of ways you can fix it if you just put the effort in.