Just because you’ve heard that not a lot of women reach orgasms during intercourse like you do does not mean you should sit on your laurels. After all, there are orgasms and there are ORGASMS, if you know what I mean.

So, if you want to up the pleasure you get when you climax read on to find out what you need to do to really create fire in bed.

 Wild Orgasm Tip #1: No More Fake Ones For You!

Why do women fake orgasms? That’s a complicated one. Here are a few possible reasons.

• At the start of your relationship, maybe you faked it because you want him to think you’re this wild, erotic lover.
• You’re tired and you really just want to get it over with.
• You actually have no idea how to climax so you just fake it.

Why it’s bad: When you fake your orgasms, you are sending him all the wrong ideas when it comes to what turns you on. As a result, he will never really get what makes you tick sexually.

How to change: Make it real. Seriously, don’t moan if there’s nothing to moan about. Don’t say it was great if it wasn’t. Don’t say ‘yeah, yeah’ when in you’re head you’re already planning tomorrow’s chores.

This does not mean to say that you should be brutal with comments (e.g., I don’t know why you’re licking that way!) or that you should be passive (why wait for him to figure YOU out?). Instead, explore your body together. If you don’t want to do this, you can go off on a self-exploration journey first. Yes, masturbate more.

Find out what moves REALLY arouse you. And then the next time you guys make love, guide him to what you want him to do.

Wild Orgasm Tip #2. Bring In A ‘Third Party’ To Bed.

Sometimes women, in their frustration to reach an orgasm more often, turn to battery-operated lovers. This is all well and good and in reality, sex toys ARE great ways to explore your own sexuality. However, in many cases, women tend to turn to their sex toys more and more because well, it’s almost a sure-thing each time you use it.

Why it’s bad: This prevents you from exploring better climaxes with your lover.

How to change: Why not try to introduce your man to your sex gadget? A lot of people say this will hurt his ego but this really depends on how you bring it. For instance, why not give him a peep show first. You KNOW what one of men’s sexual fantasies is to watch their woman masturbate so why not give him a treat?

Engage in self-love right in front of him. This will not only drive him wild but will bring you to your sexual edge too. It’s a win-win situation. You can even hand off the sex toy at one point to him so he can use it on you!

Wild Orgasm Tip #3. Realize This: Perfect Sex Exist Only In Movies.

Nowadays, it’s getting harder and harder to separate fantasy from reality! And the bedroom is one of those areas that are suffering from this. We seem to think that making love should be almost ‘picture perfect’. I mean, heaven forbid you make a fanny fart or emit some gas as he takes you from behind. And woman-on-top is GREAT but then again, you have to be right in front of him where he can see how your face contorts as you near your climax.

Why it’s bad: All of these thoughts are not only unrealistic; they completely get in the way of a darn good orgasm! Instead of letting go and losing yourself in the sexual moment, you tend to become alert as to what MAY occur.

How to change: Practice feeling and not thinking while making love. Really try to empty your mind and focus only on your body. If you must ‘think’, practice mental stimulation instead. For instance, if you love the way he’s licking you then recite this in your head “Lick. Lick. Lick. Wet. Wet. Wet. Coming. Coming. Coming.”

Wild Orgasm Tip #4. Your Next Bedroom Project: Tantric Sex.

Oftentimes, when a particular sex position works (i.e., you actually reached an orgasm in that position), we tend to engage in nothing but that position over and over again. Tried and tested, right?

Why it’s bad: If you keep on doing the exact same thing, it loses its effectives in the long run. Furthermore, this means you’re dangerously coming close to that R word (routine) that kills a lot of sex lives.

How to change: Keep on experimenting. Ok, maybe tantric sex or the kama sutra is too big a project to start with but you must start something. It keeps sex alive and yes, you WILL find one that will push your orgasms to greater heights.

Enjoy yourselves!