3 Quick Ways to Tell if You’re a Sexual Introvert
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3. You Have Very Detailed Sexual FantasiesâŚ
But are usually disappointed when (and if) you try to act upon them. Often the imagined sexual scenarios that sexual introverts create in their minds are more powerful than âreal lifeâ experiences for them.
This is by no means the fault of their lovers. Itâs just that their fantasies are continuously perfected, like works of erotic art only they can see.
Because of this, real sex is often disappointing, and over time sexual introverts learn to go through the motions of sex in order to appease their partners rather than to satisfy their own sexual desires. Thatâs why sex with them can become so routine.
How to Spice Things Up if Your Partner is a Sexual Introvert
If you are a sexual introvert, or suspect your partner to be one, there are ways to make your boring and/or routine sex life more interesting and comfortable.
Assuming that youâve already gained their trust, and have moved past their initial emotional barriers, the first thing you have to remember is how cerebral sexual introverts are about sex.
If youâre going to spice things up, it has to be done in an intelligent way. Donât expect them to become our proverbial âwildcatâ mentioned earlier just because you suggest trying a new position.
Theyâve probably imagined what that position would feel like a thousand times, and unless you have something that surprises them out of their fantasies, theyâll stay firmly within their imaginations the entire time youâre having sex.
And therein lies the key to unlocking their true sexual selves - Surprise!
You are not their fantasy. They arenât controlling your every move, so use that to your advantage. Every time you do something that theyâre not expecting, something they havenât thought of before, it jolts them back to reality.
Carefully planned sexual rendezvous and little bits of added flare, like a vibrator hidden in the corner, or a sudden well-timed spank, can help them to appreciate the actual experience of having sex, rather than relying on their imaginations to turn them on.
Once out of their normal routines, those introverted sexual feelings are much more likely to come to the surface and to make their way into your real sex lives - Making both people a lot more sexually satisfied.
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