Comments on: 5 Tips To Please Your Man In Bed

By: marialatin

marialatin — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 04:01:13 +0000

Men have no problems getting orgasm – women do. These advice articles are biased in favor of a man’s right to orgasms, fantasies etc. By your account, you present the two sides in various articles and that’s the problem. The person who feels the most entitled to sex and is deluded in his thinking that he is a great lover will pick the articles that speak to his sexual grievances, not enough BJ, HJ etc. His partner, who has had maybe one orgasm with him in the last 10 yrs, is dumbstruck. She has sex with him, he gets an orgasm and then goes happily to sleep and she is left to satisfy herself and he wants her to work harder to satisfy him?? Having sex with a man who shuts down when you try to explain what you need is difficult enough, without the madness of being made to feel bad for not satisfying his needs. Your articles are for men who have done the work to satisfy their partner, which is the minority of men. Start your articles with the statement – this is advice for men who satisfy their partner – so that when men wave these things in their partner’s face, she can point out that – “this is for men who satisfy dear, don’t push your luck”. Female sexual frustration is a major problem and is not addressed in any meaningful manner. Bad sex for women leads to resentment, sex becomes another thing on the to-do list and no extras are to be expected under those circumstances.

By: Dan & Jennifer

Dan & Jennifer — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 10:47:50 +0000

Gary, absolutely, such great points. Many men (so many more than society in general would have us believe) are VERY romantic and NEED that emotional, mental bond to truly enjoy sex.

By: Dan & Jennifer

Dan & Jennifer — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 10:46:07 +0000

Maria, by your comment, you may not have noticed that there are dozens and dozens of articles and videos on Ask Dan & Jennifer for men (and women) on how to please a woman. You can find these on the Female Orgasm Videos, Tips, and Advice section.

But all the videos and articles in the world are not going to fix a troubled relationship where one partner does not WISH to make the other happy - and often this type of situation is mutual - like a he-said, she said, and it just doesn't matter who "started it".

The reality is that every day we choose EVERYTHING we do or do not. Every action (and inaction) is a choice, for which we own full responsibility. So for example, you have to choose whether you wish to be or not to be with your partner. You have a choice, every single day.

And if you choose to be with that person, then you must choose to either 1.) fix the sexual issues or 2.) accept them and move on. but becoming so bitter over them only poisons one's self and one's own life; it cannot in any way make anything better.

A suggestion to consider: perhaps you will find more sexual satisfaction by focusing on what it is that you want, and letting go of the anger around what you are unhappy with.

Anyone dealing with such an unhappy sexual relationship as the outlook described in the comment above is obviously experiencing a very troubled sexual relationship, and would be well advised to seek professional relationship counseling. Most people would be very surprised how helpful just a few sessions with an unbiased third party therapist can be - to help uncloud one's perspective and help one stop out of the victim role that so easily sets in when we become chronically unhappy with a situation.

Good luck, hope that you are able to find peace and happiness.

By: roseyemg

roseyemg — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 09:24:10 +0000

I agree 100% with your comment.

By: Maria

Maria — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 08:26:10 +0000

These tips are so useless, women don't need tips on how to satisfy men, it's men who need tips on how to please women. It's these tip articles that are responsible for the lack of sex for men in long-term relationships. The basic reason men have problems getting sex, is they don't satisfy their partner. They read these things and feel more entitled to penis pleasure and then demand more from the wife who in response, gives him even less. The man is giving nothing and yet expects more – he wife laughs in his face and gives him even less. Sex is a chore to a dissatisfied women – making men feel more entitled actually get him less attention. Write an article on the man's fault for his wife's loss of interest in sex, he is a lousy lover and that he is getting more than he deserves.

By: Maria

Maria — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:26:10 +0000

By: Sexy Sex Tips

Sexy Sex Tips — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 19:19:31 +0000

If I had to give you one piece of advice to make your lovemaking perfect, it would be: learn the art of fellatio. It’s true, all men love it. It feels great and actually takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. In short, it’s an important part of lovemaking and is often the main event. Problem is, women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation. Make sure you use different techniques and your tongue, as well.

By: Gary

Gary — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 22:38:38 +0000

What a great article. I believe we men often get stereotyped in many ways that are not all that flattering. We are much more complex creatures than we are often thought to be. Yes we love sex. Yes we think about it a lot. Yes we love oral sex. Yes, yes, yes ,yes… But, believe it or not, we also are very romantic, love to engage in the mental game of sex, and sometimes need to be romanced to be in the mood.