Think men can’t orgasm more than once? Think again!

It’s a common misconception that men can’t have more than one orgasm, but sadly it’s a misconception held by many people – both men and women.  There are plenty of different factors that come into play here and it’s important to take an in-depth look at each one.

Let’s take a look at social boundaries for a minute.

Before we address a man’s ability to be multi-orgasmic or not, we need to clarify the meaning of an “orgasm,” especially for a man.  Generally, most people believe that for a man, ejaculation and orgasm are one in the same. 

It might be surprising to hear, but they’re not!  It is quite possible for a man to have an orgasm without ejaculation and sometimes even the other way around. 

As a whole, people are very focused and goal oriented, even when it comes to something as enjoyable as sex.  Some people feel that giving their partners more than one orgasm is an “achievement” of sorts and before too long, it becomes a race to see how many orgasms you can give them – so much to the point that some people actually forget about their own pleasure. 

Just a quick note – orgasm is not the be all and end all of sex.  You can enjoy sex just as much without one, so make sure that if you’re trying for multiple orgasms, you’re still enjoying the ride.

With that said, can a man have an orgasm even if he’s already ejaculated?

Sure, but it might take some practice.  Of course, this isn’t like piano practice when you were eight – this is fun practice!  You and your partner can have a blast experimenting sexually to try to achieve multiple orgasms. 

Just make sure there’s no pressure to perform or judgment from either side.  This can seriously put a damper on the mood and the ability to have more than one orgasm.

What if he can’t?

While it’s certainly possible that men can have more than one orgasm (even after ejaculation), it’s also possible that they can’t.  While you should get any suspicious conditions checked out by a reputable doctor, in the absence of any other symptoms and a doctor’s diagnosis, not having the ability to be multi-orgasmic is not a problem in and of itself. 

So relax!  It’s also not a death sentence – if he can’t have more than one orgasm now, it doesn’t mean he won’t be able to later.  Just go with the flow.

There are lots of things you can do to help the situation – books are a great starting point.  There are lots of books about sex (namely tantric sex, which focuses more on the orgasm and not the ejaculation) and how to achieve more than one orgasm. 

Your local bookstore should be able to help you out.  There are also great resources online – just make sure you’re getting your information from a reputable website.

Above all, remember to have fun.  It’s not a race – so enjoy your partner and make the most of it!  

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