The three most common sex positions that involve the woman being in control of the action are, of  course, her on top facing you (cowgirl), her on top facing away from you (reverse cowgirl) and doggy style.

Doggy style might at first seem like a position in which the man is in control, but in reality, quite often the girl will start to move backwards and forwards, and well, you get the idea. She takes control and the guy stands or kneels as the action goes on.

So, with two of these positions in mind, how do you control your stimulation levels without stopping the action? Well, you don’t.

Controlling Stimulation Levels Without Stopping the Action

You use the Distract and Direct technique. Here’s how. Let’s say your partner is on top of you, in cowgirl. She’d riding you and it’s all good. Then you start to feel yourself moving rapidly up the stimulation scale, past a 5 and towards a 7.

To clarify, the stimulation scale is something you can use in your head to identify how stimulated you are and therefore how close you are to reaching your climax. 0 is not stimulated at all. 3 is somewhat stimulated but still in total control. 6 is where you really start to feel stimulated.

If you carried on with this level of stimulation, you’d rise to the next number on the scale: 7. 7 is where you’re very sexually stimulated. When you go above a 7 on the stimulation scale, you get close to the point of no return which is a 9. Passing the point of no return means you’re definitely going to ejaculate, no matter what you do.

By the time you reach 7 on this scale, you want to know that you’re going to be able to adjust the action in a such a way that will allow you to slowly bring your stimulation level back down.

Bringing the Stimulation Level Back Down When She’s On Top

Here’s how. She’s riding you and has been doing so for a minute or two. You reach 7 on the scale. You say to her,  “That feels so good. Come here, I want to kiss you.” She’ll then bend down to kiss you, so instead of sitting up straight, she’s now on top of you, with her head near yours and her chest pretty much parallel to your torso.

Distract Her With Kisses

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