Continue the Savoring!

Once the clothing has fallen away don’t just jump to the TARGET areas. Continue the savoring!  Kiss her, caress her, touch her hair, trace the lines of her body. The Coles Notes on the first part of the article are:  Make it known you treasure her and desire her– it WILL pay off!

The Detailed Technique

Now, getting down to detailed technique. When it comes to more involved sexual contact, one tid bit that I find makes women want you at a heightened level is to learn to master TEASING while pleasing. Don’t just dive into oral sex. Start with your hands. Look at making great sex like a meal (dinner before dessert!). 

When you begin to sexually touch your woman use a feather light touch to start. Stay on the perimeter – the crease where her legs join her body.  Once you do have your fingers working her most intimate parts ensure you are paying VERY close attention to what she’s responding to and, most importantly, to what she’s responding to MORE. 

Widen Your Focus

All too many men focus on manipulating the clitoris. What they don’t realize is that getting a woman turned on prior to that point will cause her to have greater swelling of that spot which leads to increased pleasure.  Keep the area warmed.  Cupping with your hand or breathing warm air from your mouth also stimulates blood flow (a.k.a. excitement). 

If you know your woman prefers to use a lubricant during sex, start with that early while you are playing with her and not only for penetration.  Everyone should know that lubrication makes everything feel better whether you are able to induce that from her naturally or not. 

When it comes to working with your fingers, start slow. That doesn’t only mean with one finger at a time, but make the insertion slow. Move in and out with just the tip to begin, up to the first knuckle. Are you getting the point here? It’s all about stages and gauging her reaction. 

Continue to use your fingers softly on her clitoris as well remembering that there are sensations on the sides and all around this spot not only from the top where guys tend to focus.  When you are ready to take it to the next level for oral sex, remember that you can alternate and still use your fingers . 

Start Oral Slowly

For oral sex I also suggest a slow/teasing start. Work the outside before going in for the magic button.  Make your tongue soft and loose when you are in contact with her clitoris There is nothing worse than a guy who just has one licking motion and for some reason thinks speed is exciting. It’s NOT! 

There is the licking technique with a nice soft tongue, you can also flatten your tongue against her clitoris and move your head in a circular motion while breathing warm breath onto her. 

Just a few suggestions but again,ultimately you want her feedback and hopefully you’ll know from her reactions what she REALLY enjoys.  Watch for the moments when she seems like she wants you even more pulling you in, breathing, moaning.

When she can no longer take it and wants you to move into penetration remember that ENTRY is another whole stage you don’t want to rush over.

Don’t Rush Penetration

Tease her. Go slowly. Don’t just thrust like you’re in a rush. After all, imagine how the rest of things are going to go if you have your woman at a stage where she’s clawing to have you when you are only starting to enter.

From there on in I’m sure you can use your own techniques.  Remember, slow and attentive, not throughout, but at least for the build up makes for an ending where excitement will be taken to a whole new level.

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