Comments on: Want More Sex? Here’s how…

By: Melody

Melody — Sun, 16 Sep 2007 22:37:02 +0000

It’s true that some women feel attracted to men who are abusive to them in some way or another. This is because their brain is activated in the survival area to link abuse with sex. They may have had early abuse related to sex, either experienced it themselves or witnessed it. This is a representation of their wounding. Men that think this is appropriate behavior are simlilarly wounded. The wounded meets the wounded and they have some “exciting” sexual enocounters until one or the other starts to not feel threatned and the “relationship” ends.

These people need therapy before they can ever expect to have any kind of healthy intimacy. If they don’t care if they ever establish a healthy connection, they can keep right on engaging in tense, heated sexual encounters that have nothing to do with intimacy. Honestly, no criticism is implied… if that’s what you want, go for it!

Safety and connection are what is required for long lasting intense sexul intimacy.

By: Danny

Danny — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 21:40:13 +0000

all i gotta tell you my friend you did come up with pretty tight title in netscape to get pr9 link for a while.. enjoy the link
btw i didnt catch anything after the start..

By: Anders

Anders — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 18:27:40 +0000

Jason, you made my day.

By: mike

mike — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 11:21:03 +0000

Good comments. Just try to make sure you are very sexually compatible before marriage. If not then it won’t work. Both partners needs emotionally must be met. Not just hers. Everytime I see an article with the phrase “meeting emotional needs”, I cringe. If she’s upset or ticked off I can see a woman not wanting to. But it’s evolved into a childish game played by women. If she doesn’t get her way, then she holds out. Guess what? Men have emotional needs to. No, you don’t meet them as much as you think. But when we really don’t feel like it and you do, we do for your sake. (True man secret) It’s supposed to be an enjoyable experience between people. Not she didn’t get her way, so now she holds out. (Sometimes acceptable, not all the time) Just give the ground rules up front to avoid confusion. Stop giving it up often and I’m gone. Strange we live in a society where women turn their partners down all the time, and it is considered normal. A man turns her down and all the sudden he’s cheating, or he’s implying she’s getting overweight.

By: Jesse Thurlow

Jesse Thurlow — Sun, 19 Aug 2007 15:23:23 +0000

Without seeing the authors name, how did I know a woman wrote this artical?

Aside from that, the logic is not there (poor logical skills are not uniquely a womans domain, why I alone have enough logical deficit for several people). Lots of good information, though.

Jesse

By: Jason

Jason — Sat, 18 Aug 2007 13:59:01 +0000

um, one way to get more sex is to avoid partners who utter the phrase “I don’t believe in evolution.” Why? Well, wouldn’t it follow that, on average, these people are also more likely to say “I don’t believe in sex before marriage” and once married, state “I don’t believe in sex unless its for procreation.”

So why are these people reading this article?

As far as the article itself, I think it is yet another way for women to coerce men into giving in. C’mon, “be concerned about what your partner is feeling?!” IF you partner is a man, he is feeling horny, that is what he is concerned about.

Ladies, give it up all the time. That is how men express closeness.

By: RR

RR — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 20:53:37 +0000

Why is it that when the “creation people” hear the word evolve, they automatically tune out? Wheter or not you believe in Macro-evolution (the type of evolution Darwin talks about as the creation of man), Micro-evolution is scientific fact and is fully accepted by ALL science, even the christian science.
Micro-evolution, in the case of humans, is basically how the human body changes as its needs change over generations. Why do we no longer need our spleen? Why does the human race become taller as time goes on? It’s evolution, micro-evolution, but evolution none-the-less.
What’s the lesson here? Even if you don’t believe in the full Darwinian definition of human evolution, don’t automatically tune out and discredit something because it uses the term evolve.

By: Mental

Mental — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 16:58:04 +0000

Unfortunately Dan & Jennifer , nobody wants to hear the truth . Your Article makes total sense , everyone with a brain knows especially for women sex is mental , but when you are dealing with people that don’t believe in science and truth , your beating your head against a block wall , then you have macho men that want to believe that women want to be beat up before they have sex , I suppose he thinks we like to be raped too . Anyone that doesn’t believe in some kind of evolution is just plain ignorant , look around people, it’s real . I enjoyed your article , I got it , and I agree .

By: Craig H.

Craig H. — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 15:23:43 +0000

this article is okay, but the third paragraph sounds really dumb, for lack of a better word. if you’re going to lose your job, your brain thinks you’re going to die? no, not really. the feeling you get when you’re about to lose your job is nothing at all like the feeling you get when you think your life is in danger. the feelings you get in any of the situations you mentioned in that paragraph aren’t at all the same as the feelings you get when your life seems to be in danger. have you ever had a friend question your character? have you ever had a gun pulled on you? not the same feeling, believe you me.

By: flavio

flavio — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 15:21:23 +0000

Hmmm, I agree with Dave Chapelle. Women get too much sex advice from other women, “…and they don’t know what they’re talking about.”

My experience has been that women are pretty much the same as men. They get tired of something, toss it aside and move on to the next thing. If anything, safety and comfort are a turn-off to women. Making a woman feel safe and respected makes her think that you aren’t a man. I wish I could say otherwise, but the women I’ve known and dated pretty much all want a guy to treat her badly, they find that sexually exciting. Serious, I wish I was kidding. Women lie, cheat and abuse just as much as men, for the same reasons, and in the same ways.

By: Lynda

Lynda — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 13:41:15 +0000

One should be cognizant of the fact that not all people see themselves as evolved from some primordial soup! Many people believe in creation and of those who do, your primary non-authoritative source deadens your credibility.

By: Dan and Jennifer

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 13:30:25 +0000

Hi smokin.

I understand that you may not buy into the theory of evolution, but look at this way…

Humanity is always evolving and growing physiologically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, etc.

I had a great conversation with a good friend of ours yesterday about how the human brain stem evolves in a growing child. Did you know that your brain stem is not fully developed until the teenage years? I was really surprised…

My point here is that even if you subscribe to the Adam and Eve theory, we have still grown and evolved since that time.

As our needs change, we evolve as a species. For example, we no longer have to worry about killing our food every day for our survival – that’s what Melody is referring to when she talks about ’survival’. But we still have some of that genetic coding that causes us to react as if that were true.

So she’s basically saying that we often perceive and react to things as if it’s a REAL life or death threat (subconsciously), even when it’s really just an emotional threat.

Make sense?

By: smokin

smokin — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 13:18:38 +0000

you lost me with that evolve stuff. We didn’t evolve.