Is a Small Penis Size Crushing Your Confidence with Women?

Do you worry that your penis is too small to satisfy a woman?

Even worse, have you had complaints from women about the size of your penis?

This is a question that has plagued men from the beginning of time.

The Question

I seem to be having trouble with the opposite sex.

What is the average size of the male penis. I measured mine erect and found that I am 3.7 inches long, 0.8 inches wide and 0.4 inches thick width a measured circumference of 2.7 inches. Is that normal, small or big?

I also have right curvature of the penis that doesn’t hurt but it’s shaped like a u-turn. If it was bigger it would probably point back at me. I also makes it look weird and really small. Is that normal and does masturbation cause that?

I just started shaving my balls, does that make the penis look bigger or is it a dead give away?

My last three girlfriends said my penis was pathetic and they had seen pencils bigger. One said my penis would get lost in her mouth if she tried to suck it. My confidence is shattered and I would love to have answers to my questions. Pleas help and write back soon.

The Answer

What is the perfect penis size?

This is an age old question with no "right" answer. Since we are not experts in this field, this one required some research…

I believe that the Taoist Masters have the best answer to this question, but I’ll include some Western views on the topic as well.

Taoist Thoughts on Penis Size

I’m currently reading a book called "Sexual Reflexology" by Mantak Chia (the same author as "Multi-Orgasmic Man") and William Wei. The principles in the book are based on ancient Taoist traditions and practices. Basically what this book tells us is that the size and shape of the man’s penis must match with the size and shape of the woman’s vagina. I don’t know about you, but that just seems to make sense…

The book goes on to talk about various ways to tell if you are sexually compatible with another person by looking at various body features on the hands, ears, and face. It’s worth reading if you haven’t already.

I’m also going to check out the "Multi-Orgasmic Man". The principle here is teaching men how to separate the orgasm from the ejaculation so that they can enjoy multiple orgasms and extended sexual excitement.

OK, back on topic…

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Posted On March 15, 2007 · Filed Under Sex Tips & Advice · Tagged With dating and relationship questions answered, intimacy, manhood, penis, penis size, relationship problem, sex, sex advice, sex question, sexuality, small penis

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Mr. Latino

If I were you, I would be more concerned about the curvature than the size. Go to a doctor.

Also, have you thought about surgery or the things that porn stars use to achieve bigger sizes?

Last but not least, I believe that if there are guys with 3.7 inch penis, there must be women with 3.7 inch vagina, its a matter of compatibility.

I have a 15cm penis, and I've been insulted by women who say that its to big for them, and with others they would roughly feel it. Luckily, for most of them its just a good match.

I think its a matter of compatibilty, but beware, I don't think there are women with curved vaginas, so I my advice is to get that fixed.

George Shaya

It is easy for those who have normal or larger penises to say one can still have a happy sex life. But the reality is that oral sex, or a great personality is not a substitute for penetrative penile sex. Also, those with small penises should realise that if the size wont change then how it's used can change. So for example if u practice for 2 years, I'm sure you'll be much better after those two years than you were before. I live in the third world and dont know about the pills but if they're safe then why not. Just be careful it doesnt go flaccid forever.

Crazy Horse

I really believe that all this "size doesn't matter" tripe is just a reflection of the feminist desire to preach that men don't matter.

Thankfully, sexual instinct is immune from philosophy. Sex is primal and real.

A woman wants affection, to be sure, and a large penis is no substitute for a loving touch. But face it, any lesbian can deliver a loving touch. A heterosexual woman wants a "COCK". In fact, many, if not most, lesbians tend to use artificial penises to make up for what they lack in physical equipment. Has anyone ever seen a 3" dildo? No. Has anyone ever seen a dildo less than 6 inches in length? No, and most dildos I have seen advertised are eight inches and up. Size matters, and a woman wants a substantial cock.

A man who cannot deliver the satisfaction that a large cock brings stands in the same position in relation to a woman he wants to approach as any other lover who has no cock. Yes, there are other ways to give sexual pleasure, and likewise, you can get all the nutrition you need from a feeding tube. But that doesn't mean that a feeding tube delivers the satisfaction as a steak.

kipkip

I can't understand what is "to believe in penis enlargement pills"... Is a pill an "unidentified flying object"? Drugs are things which can be helpful and useless. But we can't know it until we try them. I have tried several and one of them helped me (Extagen). So just find it. Try and try and try.

Ms Rachel

Stop thinking so negative. Your small size doesn't limit you to a life of masturbation by any means. Just take the time to get to know women before getting too physical. You can have successful physical relationships, you just have to believe it. Let your personality win women over, not your penis size. I am a women and i know women who have forgiven men for physical shortcomings in many instances. Be realistic about the type of girls who are open minded to these flaws. Also get really good at oral sex !!!! No seriously get REALLY good at oral sex.

stanley

so...don't you believe in penis enlargerment pills....c'mon...tried it and gained 4inches straight in d ist 4 months...it also keeps growing as u take them....my candid advice...

Timmi Hunt

Hi,
The three books you listed regarding penis size all listed the smallest average penis as being larger than the one mentioned in the question above! I know how he feels, as I have a tiny penis as well. Basically, its not even 3" fully erect )actually, its 2.75 inches fully erect - very, very small!) and very thin as well. And I have had my share of jokes made about it. I even had a couple of girls refuse to have sex at all once they saw the total lack of any size on me. And I don't think that I have ever even come close to satisfying a girl with it, thats for sure. I guess some of us were just not born with the ability to have an active sex life, but actually, I have gotten used to it and now I simply deal with matters myself through masturbation. Its easier than having to deal with the humiliation that goes along with having such an abnormally tiny penis because thats exactly him and I were born with. I would suggest to him to get used to it. Its not going to grow, and just accept his fate like I have. And to masturbate often!!!

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