Comments on: Porn Addiction! Huh? Women Addicted to Porn?!?

By: Porn lover

Porn lover — Tue, 06 May 2008 15:23:16 +0000

Porn addicted women?? Why not?

By: Jim Sanders

Jim Sanders — Thu, 06 Dec 2007 15:00:13 +0000

Hi all, I can understand what Jeff implies. There is not a convincing evidence to say if porn is something you need to carry on with or despise as for me I have a clear mindset, I am not supposed to entertain anything that is porn. All I am stating here is my point of view and what I know of porn is it is highly addictive and insatiable, the more you watch it the more you want out of it. I have been a victim of porn addiction and it nearly took the all out of me to get rid of this addiction.
I don’t know if someone can handle porn addiction gracefully unlike me, if they can then I would say I have just been an inept nerd who would just become spell bound and log into one of those porn sites. having said that I was lucky and strong enough to have quit watching porn , it has been a couple of years, since my marriage was in doldrums and I decided to quit. For all the porn addicts if you want to know the effects of porn on people that have been near or devastating the please check out the discussion forum in the site http://www.throughtheflame.org/ thats where I got help and finally here I am sharing my thoughts will you all.
If you know that you can stop watching porn at will then you are good but if you think otherwise then there is a problem.
Regards
Jim

By: Jeff

Jeff — Fri, 09 Nov 2007 22:15:16 +0000

Well angeline, thank you for sharing…but given the impersonal nature of this particular medium and its lack of ability to convey tone/intent/other aspects of expression, I’m not sure whether I should say “Hooray! Me too!” or a much more somber “Sorry to hear that. Is there anything I can do to help?” So, is your comment a proud exclamation, a weary cry for help, or a little bit of both…? (Don’t worry–either way, I got yer back! ;-D )

By: angeline

angeline — Fri, 09 Nov 2007 10:08:13 +0000

I’m female, 25 yrs old & I’m a porn addict!

By: JStarr

JStarr — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 05:18:06 +0000

I would like to know if 80+ year old men enjoy porn because relations with the wife are not effective..and low powered. Porn excites men when physical sex with partner is very tiring.

By: Kim

Kim — Wed, 03 Oct 2007 16:27:58 +0000

Here’s two thumbs up for Porn!!! The wife and I certainly enjoy watching it very much. The Mrs. especially likes the artistic and erotic porn of Andrew Blake. We think there is nothing dirty about sex or watching it and there are few things more beautiful than two or more people making sensuous erotic love….yummmmmm!!!

By: M. Simon

M. Simon — Sun, 30 Sep 2007 20:22:26 +0000

Come to think of it, porn is an anti-depressant.

By: M. Simon

M. Simon — Sun, 30 Sep 2007 20:19:13 +0000

I hate people who are addicted to food and air.

Tobacco is an anti-depressant.

By: Peter

Peter — Sat, 29 Sep 2007 23:57:48 +0000

Women love porn! As the webmaster of http://www.hugeadultdvd.com we were surprised to find that a HUGE percentage of the subscribers were female. Women love porn just as much as men do, but I think for the longest time women were afraid to buy or rent it because you had to go to a seedy adult bookshop full of creepy guys in a bad neighborhood to buy a video, or at least that’s the stigma. But now even grandma can safely rent adult dvds by mail just like all the other movies and game rental services.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sat, 29 Sep 2007 21:08:30 +0000

Oh I certainly agree that lusting after someone other than your wife constitutes a breech of trust. My point is that there is actually a distinct difference between being stimulated by the general act being engaged in and specifically lusting after one or more of the subjects involved in performing said act. You can really appreciate Shakespeare and even enjoy a performance of one of your favorite selections and yet not think all that much of one or more of the actors playing principle roles. Basically, It can be appreciated on a basic level for what it is and not involve lusting after anyone personally–just enjoying the stimulation involved in embracing your own sexuality.

It’s kind of like the fact that I can determine a person to be attractive without necessarily feeling specific personal attraction to them. Ya know…?

By: mike

mike — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 19:19:52 +0000

Sorry, came out wrong, I think I should have reviewed it. It’s not just looking of course. Quoting NIV, ” I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart,” matt 5:28. It’s the lust thing. Admiration, interest, etc. are obviously not going to be adultery. Pornography, though, is of course lusting. It’s not the “uptight about sex” thing that has Christians against porno, it’s the “lusting after woman who’s not your wife”.

By: me

me — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 19:02:00 +0000

YAY PORN!!!! wooo
(I am a woman btw and totally love porn)

By: educated over opinionated

educated over opinionated — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 14:14:23 +0000

If you’d like to read some research on the subject that is not biased by religion of social mores, read this: http://www.thefreelibrary.com/Psychosexual+correlates+of+viewing+sexually+explicit+sex+on…-a084866958

By: Jeff

Jeff — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 09:11:21 +0000

To Mike:
I don’t recall the exact wording right off hand, but I think it’s clear that the intent/spirit of that particular tenet is that, much like if “you have done it even unto the least of God’s brethren, you have done it also unto him” (roughly quoted…I’m not technically a Christian so bear with me, if you’ll be so gracious… ;D ), God wishes to make clear that since the nature of your commitment is one of thoughts and feelings well before it is manifest in deed, a betrayal in this personal, private realm is clearly an act of infidelity, even if no one else is physically involved.
So in my view, the question then becomes whether you were utilizing porn for the general, abstract stimulation gained from witnessing the act (and, in my opinion, almost certainly also from the taboo associated with the convention saying such an indulgence is clearly out-of-bounds), or if you were watching porn specifically to dream about a chance encounter with Jenna Jameson (that we all know will never happen) in more vivid detail by watching someone else perform your duties from the dream by proxy.
Without doubt your obligation in keeping and upholding the vows of exclusive commitment you’ve sworn to your wife is primarily to her alone. But the matter of whether you are in fact faithful in word and deed (and thought) is determined between you and you (and/or God, as per subjective beliefs dictate). So ultimately, assuming you’re honest with yourself (and don’t necessarily be so sure about that–it’s fairly disturbing the number of people lying to themselves about one thing or another and entirely unaware–but how COULD you become aware…?), if you sincerely only lust after your wife, then it would seem to me that you’d be using porn in a totally justifiable manner (not to mention in porn’s primary/basest generic–pretty much as sterile/harmless as it can be–function).
It’s important for your wife not only to be aware of this distinction, but I’d say also to be some level of okay with it. Otherwise it gets into there being issues involving questionable structural integrity of the very trust on which your relationship is founded…almost certainly due to some manner of personal insecurity felt/perceived to some degree on her part for which you are most likely in no way directly responsible, yet which nevertheless poses potential to harm your marriage at some future time, given the proper conditions…true happiness, trust, and security is a thing of great value/beauty which simply cannot be overlooked or in any way substituted.

Jeff
(Dallas)

By: diggmediggyou

diggmediggyou — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 05:48:03 +0000

Ha! if you said that only men that watch porn or only men addicted to porn movie; I’m totally disagree.
My girl used to watch with me together, she even sometimes want me follow what the actor did in the video..

I don’t agree this phase ” We’re Christian, and the Bible says that when you even look at another woman you’re committing adultery in your heart. ”
You can look at a woman, but you can’t think other than that.

By: Dan and Jennifer

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 05:36:27 +0000

“I gave up pornography for that reason: if it makes her feel cheated on, it just isn’t right.”

Mike, I have to say there’s just no way to argue with that.

You’re putting her feelings before your own enjoyment. Whether she’s “right” or not to expect that of you is not relevant, that’s just truly special.

By: mike

mike — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 03:21:45 +0000

The social stigma with sex isn’t what bothers my wife about pornography, it’s the feel that it’s cheating. We’re Christian, and the Bible says that when you even look at another woman you’re committing adultery in your heart. We’re perfectly comfortable acting out fantasies, describing exactly what we like to each other, and exploring our sexuality in detail. But it stops with each other, and doesn’t leave the bedroom. I gave up pornography for that reason: if it makes her feel cheated on (e.g., I’m getting sexual gratification from others) it just isn’t right.

By: Dan and Jennifer

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 18:35:37 +0000

Since porn objectifies women, does that make it ok to watch gay male porn? No women being objectified in that.

Hey Maxwell – thanks, excellent point there. That’s where the anti-porn stuff tends to break down.

Just to clarify for everyone, nobody is arguing for the oppression of women (or anyone else), not by ANY means. We’re talking about whether it’s OK for someone to “watch” porn.

Whether or not some people are breaking laws and engaging in criminal activities somehow related to you watching porn is highly theoretical and beyond the reasonable scope of this discussion, and makes this topic unwieldy. Criminal activity is criminal activity, and should be prosecuted as such.

Some of the same legal issues go for prostitution. But most of the evils often quote by the media about prostitution are actually CAUSED by the very laws that make it illegal. The crime, the horrible conditions, the violence – it’s all due to the black market nature of this profession. That means no taxes, no government safety oversight, no rights for victims of crimes (prostitutes attacked, etc.).

There’s an extensive discussion on this topic here: Legalize Prostitution? SHOCKING Poll Results Are In!

Many of the same legal and oppression issues as pertain to porn and oppression are addressed there.

By: Maxwell Hammer

Maxwell Hammer — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 17:01:36 +0000

I’ve got a question, Joe.

Since porn objectifies women, does that make it ok to watch gay male porn? No women being objectified in that.

By: Tominator

Tominator — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 15:25:39 +0000

I wish more women were more foward about , “things”.

By: Joe Hammer

Joe Hammer — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 14:56:26 +0000

Supporting the porn industry with your clicks or dollars helps support the objectification of women’s bodies, and oftentimes, many of the porn companies do not treat their female actors with respect. Supporting them with your dollars allows this disrespect to continue, and oftentimes you will not be able to tell who treats their actors with respect and who do not. Unfortunately, despite our best intentions, watching porn does lead to an increased tendency to view men and women’s bodies in parts, i.e. in an objectified manner (breasts n butts), which allow us to see women as less than human (which, incidentally, makes it easier to commit violence against them in the form of domestic assault or rape). This is all based on social science research within the field of psychology, rather than my personal opinion. I highly recommend checking out the American Psychological Association’s Task Force report on the Sexualization of Girls (dl online) for more info.

By: John B

John B — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 02:14:08 +0000

Hello,
I think that the question of whether porn is wrong is a question that is still not settled. I think whether it is wrong to watch porn can’t be solely reduced to ideas of sexual insecurity or repression within culture. Being a male I’ve become increasingly aware of the extreme nature of a lot of porn online for instance and at a certain point I’ve had to step back and really question whether it is healthy. I’d like to point you and your readers to a great article written by Don Hazen of Alternet entitled ‘Pornography and the End of Masculinity’ at http://www.alternet.org/module/printversion/62833

Based on that article and ideas of mine I’ve actually concluded that most though not all is not that great. Intuitively I think many of us already know this but don’t want to admit it to ourselves. But there is something to protecting a certain degree of wholesomeness and integrity within ourselves that I think can be compromised by indulging ourselves in porn.

In large part because porn gives us an inaccurate perspective on sex and our relationship to the opposite sex. It wreaks havoc on our perceptions of what a healthy sex life and fulfilling relationship is. And this goes for men as well as for women.

Ariel Levy wrote a book called ‘Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture’ which deconstructs a lot of the girl gone wild culture and more. She’s pretty interesting and here’s a good video of her on youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i780bzPyD6U and here’s a good vid of her on the Colbert Report: http://colbertondemand.com/videos/The_Colbert_Report/Colbert_Interviews_Ariel_Levy_and_her_opinions_on_Girls_Gone_Wild.

I think we need to get over the idea that we’re still in the 60s and instead of justifying behaviors in the name of freedom we need to actually think about which behaviors are really beneficial, healthy, and wholesome. What sexual liberation means for people today I think is something totally different.

The things that are going on in the world in the name of sexual exploration, liberty, and so forth are really nuts. I’m not even going to list some of the atrocious “advances” that Japan has made in this arena. And to a certain degree we must admit that in whatever way porn can be the “gateway” drug.

Of course it’s a big philosophical question but it’s good to hear other learned people’s opinions on the matter.

By: subcorpus

subcorpus — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 00:38:52 +0000

what with all these questions about porn …
its just porn …
own the remote … put your finger on the fast forward button …
and get it over with …
isn’t it how its supposed to be done …
hehehe …