3. Process VS. Goal

This is the 3rd crucial difference between men and women. Women ask, “What’s with men? They want sex so bad, but when you finally give IT to them, they sure want it  over as fast as possible!”

Guys are very goal-oriented. Look at everyday scenes and witness how we contrast with Eve. Take jogging at the park, for example. Observe how men and women go about this ritual and behold their idiosyncrasies.

Can you spot the differences?

Women are able to appreciate the view as they run, taking in the freshness of morning, sparing a second to marvel at flowers along the route. They are also more likely to smile at strangers along the way.

How ‘bout the men, how did we do? We were probably counting laps made, whilst cursing how many freakin’ more to go, constantly looking over those heart rate gadgets strapped on our wrists. Heck, we would gladly step over flowers just to get from point A to B! Men have a thing for goals. And this predisposition inevitably gets carried over to the bedroom ­ displayed by an obsessive drive to 3 specific targets:

Goal # 1 = Take her clothes off

Goal # 2 = Slide penis in

Goal # 3 = Cum

But with Eve… it’s not so much the destination; it’s really more about the journey. WOMEN ARE PROCESS CREATURES. For them, sex is a moment by moment experience. (Hint to would-be great lovers)

With HER, she’s thinking, “Ok what’s happening, NOW… what’s he doing down there, NOW… Ohhhh what he’s doing NOW really feels  good.”

Can you sense the critical difference?  They are on different worlds and different time zones! Women are into process, the Present ­ men obsess with goals ­in the Future.

So it’s quite difficult for the goal-oriented and process-oriented creatures to be on the same page. Is one more correct than the other? No, but men ought to look into process so they won’t miss the pleasures offered by along the way. If you’ve got eyes solely on the goal, you will miss on the beauty of the journey.

That’s not to say that women don’t bother if they cum or not, they just know that orgasms aren’t everything, and their quality depends so much on going through due process. Sextraordinary is found in the PROCESS.

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