Some of them will outright refuse it. However, the vast majority of women are going to embrace the sentiment of expanding their sexual horizon with you and engage in some kinky fun with sex toys if you present it to them properly.

Talk To Her About It

Before you rush off to an adult superstore or jump on your favorite website, talk to your girlfriend or wife about incorporating sex toys into the relationship. There are a lot of girls that would rather change positions or techniques rather than stick some plastic vibrating apparatus into their vagina.

If your girlfriend or wife is hesitant about trying a sex toy, tell that they don’t have to be dirty to have a sex toy. Most girls that are hesitant about using sex toys are embarrassed about their sexuality. Ask them why they do not want to use sex toys and about how sex toys can help them enjoy sex more.

Know Her Limits

You can’t just use any old sex toy on your girl. Make sure that you know her limits and what she is up for. While a girl might be game to use a small vibrator, that doesn’t give you recourse for buying a giant double-dong. Ask the girl what kind of sex toys she has always wanted to try.

Bringing her into the mix is going to increase the chances of a good experience. Chances are that she has always had a fantasy of something. This could be the perfect opportunity for you to learn more about her and what turns her on.

Shop Together

There are sex toys that come all shapes and sizes. Your girlfriend or wife is going to know her body much better than you do. Sure you spend a lot of time down there, but that doesn’t mean that you know big of a vibrator she needs. Remember that you’re not the one that the sex toys are going to be used on.

When you go to the adult store or shop online, do it together. She might have her eye on a g-spot massager where you are going for the clitoral stimulator. Girl’s know their body much more than you do so let her take the lead or at least give you an idea of what she wants before you ever spend any money.

Get Lube

Don’t rely on the girl to get wet just because she is trying something new. Yes, sex toys can exciting and she might not need it, but going to a sex store or even shopping online gives you the opportunity to stock up on a much needed item. Lube can be used for just about everything from sex to a massage. If you see a bottle of lube at the store, pick it up just to be safe. The toy might be a little bigger than she anticipated and that extra bit of lube can make a huge difference in her experience.

Don’t Rely On The Toy

One of the biggest mistakes that you can make is to let up once you have a sex toy. The toy is there to enhance what is already happening, not to replace it. Remember to use a lot of foreplay when you are with your girlfriend or wife. Don’t rely on a vibrator taking her to the edge. You should already know what is going to push her buttons and get her turned on before the sex toy ever comes out.

Let Her Take Control Of The Toy

Yes, you have a new toy and you want to play with it. Slow down though. Just because you want to play with it doesn’t mean that you’re going to know how she likes it. Let her be in charge of the sex toy. If she was a little hesitant to even bring the toy into the bedroom, the last thing that you want to do is have her feel uncomfortable with you poking and prodding at her. Let her do what feels good. Let her give herself an orgasm or two with it. When she’s ready, she will give you the go ahead to start using it on her.

Perhaps you have already taken a look at your local sex shop, or at online stores to see what the selection is like. I bet you were taken aback! Heck, my sex toy store has over a thousand different products in the lubrication category!

That is a whole lot of choice, so let’s take a minute and talk about your options. Lubricants can easily be broken down into a few categories based on ingredients.

First, the “base” of the lubricant determines how they can be used – silicone lube, for example, can’t be used with silicone toys; oil-based lubricant is not safe for use with condoms; some women are incredibly sensitive and will only be able to use lubes that are based on natural, organic ingredients.

Next, there are lubes that are best for anal sex, others that heat up or cool down, and even some with special flavors just for oral. Be sure you know what you’re getting into before going on a shopping spree.

Oil & Water

Oil based lubricants are great, especially natural ones, because the body just soaks them up and gets silky smooth. Most oil-based lubricants, unless otherwise labeled, are not condom safe. If this is your choice of birth control, move on to another selection.

Water based lubricants are the best all-around choice. Not only are they safe for condoms, but with silicone and other toys as well. They are also easy to wash out of sheets and clothing. They do tend to evaporate quickly, but a bit of saliva or a light mist of cool water will slick them back up in no time.

Silicone

Silicone-based lubricants are smooth like silk and great for long lasting play, but are no good when using silicone toys and not great for oral sex. Silicone may not taste very good, but you only need a touch and it will last for hours. It is safe to use with condoms, so if you do have silicone toys, you can protect them with a latex condom or nitrile glove. If you are planning to try a bit of back door play, pick one that is nice and thick.

Au Natural

If your wife or girlfriend is particularly concerned about what kind of liquid love gets inside her body, or if she happens to be sensitive to parabens or other irritating ingredients in most popular lubes, you should take advantage of the growing array of natural and organic products for the conscientious buyer. If plain coconut oil won’t do, or you want something a bit slicker for longer play, these are right up your alley.

Hot, Cold And Delicious

Whether you want something that is going to warm up with some vigorous thrusting, or a bit of icy gel to get her clitoris tingling under your touch and tongue, there are options available for your delight! Tingling lubricants and gels are also great for nipple play, especially if they are edible. They will help to harden her nipples right up, making them extra sensitive to your mouth and fingers, and also give them a bit of a slippery surface for extra sensation.

Flavored lubes are obviously best for a bit of oral play, but be very careful. Many of these lubes contain irritants or sugars that can cause a yeast infection if they get inside her vagina, so if you use them on her genitals, be sure to only put a drop on her clitoris and keep your fingers clean for insertion when your tongue techniques have made her wet.

Vibrators

A vibrator can come in all shapes, sizes, designs and uses so the possibilities when it comes to this particular toy are endless. Not only can you use them separately on each other, but vibrators also come in the form of a ring that your man can wear around his penis and give you clitoral or even anal stimulation. Sometimes, women need both clitoral and vaginal stimulation or sometimes, all three. It is tough for men to be able to multitask in that way so they need a little help.

Finding one of these toys that you can both use during sex will certainly make it way more pleasurable for both of you. It also gives him a light vibrating sensation throughout his entire pelvic region, making him feel something amazing too. Get your man to use a vibrator on you to explore the depths of your sexual potential or use one together.

You will be surprised how quickly you are able to climax with a little assistance. Also, try locating a waterproof vibrator if you want to get a little wet and wild. Then, not only can you give your orgasm potential a boost, but you can explore it in more places than just the bedroom.

Bondage

Now, don’t get scared. Bondage doesn’t necessarily have to mean extreme fetish things that you more commonly see in the porn world. There are varying degrees of how far you and your man can take bondage in the bedroom. For example, you can participate in light bondage such as tying each other up or down, gagging, or blindfolding.

All you are trying to do is to take away one of your partner’s senses and force them to focus on the others. It will heighten all of their other senses and make the entire sexual experience that much more amazing. Practice light bondage first and pick up your pair of sexy handcuffs today.

Strap On

Now, using a strap-on with your man might be something that is completely out of the picture but if he is willing, then it can be something that the two of you can find so much pleasure out of, you wouldn’t ever know that this kind of an orgasm could exist. A strap-on consists of a harness with a dildo attached to the front of it. Used primarily by lesbian couples, more and more heterosexual couples are finding a great use out of it.

Anal sex is not only enjoyed by women, but it becoming more popular among men, particularly heterosexual men. As a woman, we don’t have that power of being the giver, so to garner that power is definitely an orgasm booster. Anal sex can be really pleasurable for men because it can give the man a prostate massage, which is consider the g-spot in men. Pair your harness with a bullet vibrator so you feel some clitoral stimulation while you are giving your man intense pleasure and you both will be shuddering with desire for hours afterwards.

Use these sex toys as a guideline for how far you want to go in the bedroom. There are no limits to what you and your man do. If you chose to go down the softer route, then do what makes you both happy and satisfied. If you chose to go down the harder route, be prepared to be speechless.

A dildo is one of the most implemented sex toys in the lives of couples and singles around the world. If you are ready to buy your first dildo there are few things you must know beforehand. Choosing the wrong one could be a waste of money. Buying one that is too small or too big for you is not going to give you the satisfaction that you’re the looking for. Choosing the right kind is essential to staying happy in your sex life. If you are unsure about the kind that you need, do not fret. Here is a very quick guide to get you started.

Consider Size

The size of your dildo is going to determine the kind of model that you want. Do you want a 7-inch or a 10-inch length? Do you want a double-dong or are you going more for a model that has a lot of girth? All of these issues will come into play when you are searching for the right one. Are you really tight? What was the size of the best penis that you’ve ever had? The best dildos are going to be slightly bigger than the best penis you have ever had. Most of the one on the market are going to measure from about 4 inches or more. You can even find them up to a foot and a half.

Consider Shape

The shape is extremely important. They come in a wide variety of shapes and can accommodate any woman. You can choose from a shape that is a replica of a real man’s penis, or you can go for something with a more manufactured look. The main thing they need to remember whenever you were buying a dildo is that it is going to be inside of you. They can come curved or straight. Curved dildos are typically used to hit the g-spot on track.

Consider The Materials

The material that your sex toy  is made out of is another issue. Typically, dildos are made out of silicone; however, they can also be made out of different materials. Jelly is another material that you can find in the markets. Jelly looks a lot like silicone, however, jelly is more porous and will have to be cleaned on a regular basis. If you are going to be sharing yours with a partner, it’s best to stay away from jelly.

Pyrex glass is a very popular choice because it is extremely hard and can be cleaned very easily. Glass dildos can be heated or cooled with water to give you even more excitement. These tend to be more expensive. If you want to ride it, you might want to go with silicone. If you’re looking for something to use more like a vibrator for continuous hand propelled penetration, you can go with glass.

Vibrating Dildos

So you want to kill two birds with one stone? A vibrating one is the perfect solution for you if you want a vibrator and a dildo all in one. These work the same way as a vibrator and you’re going to get the same experience as you would from any other once it’s turned off. Some come with a suction cup on the bottom so you can ride it. These need batteries so be sure that you have some around. These typically take AAA or AA’s. The problem with these is that they usually don’t come with a clitoris massager. You will only be able to use it for vaginal insertion or you will have to pull it out to use it on your clitoris.

The Cost

The cost can vary depending on the materials, the size and the quality. When you’re looking, always buy a product that is going to last you a long time. This is one of the reasons that so many people buy silicone and glass. They are typically more durable than jelly or the new “cyberskin” models. They can cost anywhere from $5-120 depending on what you’re looking at. It’s better to spend a good amount of money right now and have it for years than to have to replace the dildo in a couple of months because the material is being worn out. Your dildo should come with cleaning suggestions. Follow these, as they will help you keep the materials clean and long-lasting.

Using a vibrator or a g-spot stimulator can help a woman to discover new things about her body and have orgasms like she’s never had before, while masturbating with a soft jelly or silicone sleeve can feel way better than his hand.

Items specifically designed for sexual pleasure are becoming more and more popular, with less and less taboo surrounding them. Many people are choosing to take sexual pleasure into their own hands and investing in sex toys for the very first time. Also, more and more couples are venturing into the sex toy arena in an effort to spice up their sex life. Using sex toys as a couple, either on each other or as an addition to oral sex or fingering, can make sex with your partner hotter than it ever has been before!

Check out our favorite sex toys articles and reviews of the year here!

• Christian Sex Toys – WTF? (Video)
• 10 Sex Toys For Married Couples
• 3 Ways Pocket Vibrators Will Blow Your Mind!
• Man vs. Vibrator
• 10 Beginner’s Sex Toys You’ve GOT To Have (If You’re A Novice)
• 5 Signs Your Sex Toy Is Potentially Hazardous To Your Health!

Also, don’t forget to check out the all-time best sex toy articles!

• Why Every Girl Needs Her Own Sex Toy
• Homemade Sex Toys – Should You Really Make Your Own? (Video)
• Male Sex Toys: Masturbators, Penis Pumps & More (Video)

Here are some our favorite sex toys that we’ve tried this year – don’t forget to get yours!

• Pjur Lube & Personal Products (our fave lube ever!)
• LELO Nea Clitoral Vibrator (also another one of our personal favorites)
• LELO Mia Vibrator (USB charger – need we say more?)
• We-Vibe Touch Clitoral Vibrator (like a waterproof version of the LELO Nea)
• Under The Bed Restraint System (perfect for beginner’s bondage)
• Wild G-Spot Vibrator (we like this one so much, we got you 50% off our FAVORITE vibrator!)

The Accomodator Dual Penetrator

This little dildo is actually worn by the man during sex. It functions as a cock ring too, because one of the “straps” slides around the man’s shaft to hold the dildo in place. The second “strap” wraps around the scrotum, holding the dildo in place just below a man’s actual penis.

What is incredible about this sex toy is that it’s one of the first of it’s kind. Sure, a guy can use a dildo or a vibrator on his girl, but almost never while he is penetrating her himself. This toy changes all of that – for the first time, a man can have double penetration with his girl with only him! He can enjoy the feeling of doing her in both holes at once! A woman can also enjoy the feeling of double penetration without having to use something on herself and without having to engage in a threesome.

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Waterproof Prostate Massager

Many women love giving their men pleasure. Often, the greatest pleasure a woman can give her partner is with a blowjob. Give a man a killer blowjob and you’ll leave him weak in the knees! For some fellas, a blowjob is even better than actual sex. But what if a woman could intensify the orgasm she gives a guy, even on TOP of her best oral sex skills?

She can, if she massages his prostate at the same time. The prostate gland is often referred to as a man’s “g-spot,” and when stimulated, it can give a guy the most powerful, load shooting orgasms he’s ever had in his life. Try using a prostate massager next time you give your lover a blowjob. Yes, you have to put it up his bum, but the title of the article does say that these sex toys are for kinkier partners. Make sure you’re using plenty of lube and that you get him fully aroused. In fact, start with your finger. It never hurts to “start small” and work your way up.

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The Rhino

The Rhino is a penis extension that has lots of other uses also. Place it over your penis for a much longer, thicker cock (use the sizing core if your penis is too short), or use it as a masturbation sleeve, a dildo all by itself or even a vibrator sleeve! While it’s primary use is the best, this thing is pretty versatile if you want to use your imagination.

The thing that makes The Rhino such a “kinky” toy for partners is that it’s really, really huge! It’s extremely long (about 8″) and very thick. This makes it an excellent sex toy to use if you’re role playing different fantasies or if you and your partner want to experiment with a really huge schlong!

Petite Vibrating Nipple Teasers

These vibrating nipple clamps were made with smaller nippled women in mind, so make sure you’re aware of what you’re getting (and what you’re packing in your bra) before you go making a purchase. However, if you do have small nipples (or your partner does) and you want to experiment with some extreme nipple action, these are the ones you want to get.

The clamps are comfortable if you’re small enough and can be worn by both men and women. They tiny vibrating bullets actually cause the clamps to heat up somewhat, so they’re even more fun once you get going. You can also use them as clitoris or labia clamps, which can actually feel better than using them on the nipples. The vibrations and heat are intense, so these really are for kinkier lovers! Use them during sex with your lover or during masturbation for a totally new, orgasmic experience.

Read the full review for the Petite Vibrating Nipple Teasers here!

No matter what sex toys you choose for your bedroom fun, how kinky and wild you get all depends on your attitude. Sex toys and other props can help, but you can also have tons of naughty fun without a single prop – just use your creativity!

Sex toys are wonderful things and can enhance any sexual experience whether it’s just you, you and your partner or you and a bunch of people! But not all sex toys are created equal. Some are low quality and won’t last very long but some are actually harmful to your body. Cigarettes come with a warning label now but sex toys don’t. Consider this your warning label! Here are 5 signs that your sex toy is potentially hazardous.

It Smells Funny

Have you ever had a sex toy that smelled bad? Whether it smells like old tires, old gym socks or just plain stinks, it’s a sure sign that all may not be right with that toy. Materials such as Jelly, rubber, PVC, vinyl, cyber/real-skin varieties and even some TPR/TPE can leach out any one of the many plastic softening chemicals used to create the material. These chemicals carry a strong odor. Other causes of odd smells can be something as simple as an error in the manufacturing process – maybe they didn’t let the glue cure long enough before packaging it up; maybe they used too much cleaner during the end stages and the smell is trapped inside the packaging. If the sex toy is made from a porous material it will likely “soak up” these odors and hang on to them. Not everyone has a reaction to these chemicals; but at any given time any sex toy can contain various levels of these chemicals and there are no regulations. You could be fine with one jelly toy and then have another one leave you with a burning/itching feeling inside.

You Feel All Tingly Inside

And I don’t mean from an orgasm. If you’ve not used a lubricant, or have switched to a “sensitive” formula lubricant and still get a tingling/burning/itching feeling or visible inflammation then the culprit is the sex toy. As mentioned above, some sex toys contain plastic softening chemicals or other chemicals that can be an irritant for some people. The reaction you get might range from a vague, short-lived tingle or itch to a full-blown low-grade chemical burn that takes a week or more to heal.

There Is A Crack Or Tear In The Material

Always examine your sex toys before you use them. Any sex toy can get damaged for any number of reasons. A crack in plastic or a gash in soft material means that it is time to ditch the toy. Bacteria can harbor in those cracks and tears. Do you own a wooden dildo? They’re wonderful (and no splinters, I promise!) but if you ever notice that the varnish/shiny coating is missing in a spot or looks like old, crackly paint then the dildo needs to go. It’s the coating that keeps a wooden dildo non-porous.

It’s Made From Porous Material

A lot of the less expensive sex toys are made from materials that can be porous. The same materials that can harbor foul-smelling chemicals are also usually porous. Porous means that it can never be disinfected or sanitized from bacteria. Anyone who uses a toy anally that is porous should trade up for something made of silicone (or glass, or metal!) to keep bacteria in check. If you won’t get rid of the toy and it doesn’t have a smell, you should at least cover it with a condom for added safety.

You Have No Idea What Material It’s Made From

So you purchased the sex toy from an online reseller that didn’t list all the properties and specs of the toy. Or you went to your local “adult bookstore” and purchased a vibrator where the packaging is merely a blisterpack with a photo of a hot girl or guy and some marketing words that promise orgasmic nirvana. It’s ok, we’ve all probably done this at some point in our lives. If you don’t know what the material is then don’t buy it or stop using it.

Silicone Is The Way To Go!

Now that you’re looking at your sex toys with a suspicious eye and wondering if you should just give up on sex toys altogether let me give you some advice: Silicone. Purchased from a reputable manufacturer, silicone (as long as it’s 100% pure medical grade silicone) is the perfect sex toy material. Non-porous, it never stinks, and lasts a long time (just don’t use a silicone-based lubricant on it, that will ruin it). Silicone can be sanitized/disinfected; so can glass, hard plastic, ceramic and metal. Are you still dubious? It’s understandable since there are no regulations and manufacturers can say what they want.

A simple test to be sure that your silicone toy is truly medical-grade 100% silicone is called the “flame test.” Using a lighter, apply the flame carefully to a small spot on the toy for 5 seconds. Silicone can withstand temperatures past 500 degrees Fahrenheit, so if it melted, it is not silicone. If there is a black scorch mark that doesn’t rub off, then it’s not pure silicone. Glass and metal are also favorites of mine but can be a little scary for the uninitiated. Just be sure to keep the size down since hard materials are less forgiving.

Question: I’m a young virgin, and I want an inexpensive sex toy that won’t stretch me out. Any suggestions?

Clitoral Vibrators

First off, if you don’t want to deal with insertion at all, your best option is a vibrator designed specifically for the clitoris. All it does is sit on top of the clitoris and vibrate – no insertion required! This is also the perfect choice if you’re a virgin and don’t want to stretch yourself out or damage your hymen in any way. In fact, many women prefer clitoral vibrators over other styles of sex toys simply because they can provide some of the best orgasms! The clitoris was designed for sexual pleasure – and that’s it! It has no other function at all except to provide pleasure. Many women – even very sexually experienced ones – choose clitoral vibrators again and again simply because it’s one of the easiest and best ways to reach climax!

Small, Slender And Discreet Vibrators

There are many small and slender vibrators out there that are designed for insertion, but they are so slender, they’re not going to stretch you out at all. In fact, many slender vibrators are thinner than a tampon! While you definitely want to stay away from Rabbit style sex toys (those can be quite large and are better suited to advanced sex toy users) and large dildos, small and slender vibrators might just be right up your alley. Most of these types of sex toys are designed to be discreet, and can fit in your purse or may look like a tube of lipstick. These make excellent starter sex toys, especially if you’ve never had sex before and are just starting to experiment with sex toys!

Bullet And Torpedo Style Vibrators

A bullet style vibrator is a must have for every woman, simply because it is so small and versatile. A simple bullet vibe can be placed on the clitoris or in the vagina, and some of them can be inserted into cock rings and used for couples pleasure (when you get there). Torpedo style vibes are also popular – they’re generally just a longer version of the bullet vibe. Jimmy Jane makes excellent torpedo style vibrators – they’re extremely classy and barely even an inch in width. G-spot vibrators are also popular, because they typically have a larger bulb on the top, followed by very slender handle.

Remember That Your Vagina Is Made To Stretch

While you certainly don’t want to purchase any sex toys that make you feel uncomfortable or feel too big for you, keep in mind that your vagina is designed to stretch and return to it’s normal shape. It’s not as though you’re going to put a vibrator in there and your vagina is going to stretch out and never return to it’s normal size. It will! The vagina will even return to it’s normal size and shape after giving birth – and that is definitely stretching. The only thing that won’t return to normal after using an insertable sex toy if you’re a virgin is your hymen – once you break that, it’s done and over with. But also know that the hymen can be broken during a variety of non-sexual activities, such as horseback riding, gymnastics, or even inserting a tampon.

Inexpensive Sex Toys

While there are lots of inexpensive sex toys out there that are great, there are many that aren’t so great. While price is a good thing to keep in mind when shopping for sex toys, you really don’t want to compromise on quality. Make sure whatever toy you choose is manufactured with body safe, phthalate free materials (or slip a condom over it if you’re not sure) and is made by a reputable company. Buying cheap sex toys may make your wallet feel better now, but you won’t be pleased when you open the package and find that it stinks like chemicals or the vibrations are weak. If you can find actual user reviews on the sex toys you’re considering purchasing, read through them! They can really help you decide whether or not a particular toy is right for you.

It Runs On Batteries

There are a lot of great sex toys that run on batteries, but there are far, far better ones that are rechargeable! They cost a little more, but in the long run, you’re paying for that in batteries anyways. Rabbit style vibrators use a LOT of juice, and if you own one, you’re probably at the store buying batteries every other week.

If your favorite sex toy runs on batteries, consider replacing it with a version that is rechargeable. If you’re looking for a Rabbit style vibrator, try the LELO Ina. Smaller bullet style vibrators also come rechargeable.

It Contains Phthalates

While jelly sex toys look really pretty, they can contain dangerous chemicals called phthalates that have been linked to cancer. If your sex toy contains phthalates, you could be unknowingly increasing your risk for developing cervical cancer. Ditch the cheap jelly materials and get something made from body safe silicone, wood or hard plastic. If you absolutely have to have sex toys made from jelly material or any material containing phthalates, protect yourself by slipping a condom over it before insertion.

The Vibrations Aren’t As Strong As They Used To Be

When you first got your vibrator, it was perfect. The vibrations were exquisite and catapulted you to orgasm land in no time flat. But a few months later, you notice that it takes a little longer to reach orgasm, and you have to press a little harder each time to feel the vibrations. Are the vibrations getting weaker? Probably. Sex toys aren’t made to last forever. If yours constantly sounds like it’s running out of power (even if you just put fresh batteries in), it may be time for an upgrade.

It Looks Dingy Or Has An Odor

Unfortunately, not all sex toys are non-porous. When shopping for one, try to get a body safe toy that IS non-porous (like glass), but you may not have known that going into purchasing your current one. If any of the sex toys you’re currently using don’t look as clear or shiny as they used to, or they’ve picked up an odor, it’s time to throw them away. Sex toys made from porous materials like jelly can pick up bacteria during use, and body fluids can begin to soak in. When you really think about it, you don’t want that hanging around in your nightstand!

You Want A New One

Every girl should have her own sex toy – or more than one! Couples should also have plenty of sex toys to play with! If you simply want a brand spanking new toy (whether it is an exact replica of your very favorite or something you’ve never tried before), you have every right to get yourself what you want! Even if you just bought one and you’re not happy with it or want something to accompany it, go out and get another one! Get whatever you want, provided you’ve got the funds.

Get A Good One!

You also have the right to invest in a good sex toy. Go for quality materials from a reputable manufacturer. Be choosy. Consider where you want to use it and what you want it to do. Do you want to travel with it, or do you want one that is ultra discreet? Try the LELO Mia – it’s rechargeable via USB port and looks like a tube of lipstick. Do you want a clitoral vibrator that is completely waterproof and you can use in the tub or shower? Get the We-Vibe Touch.

Look for the sex toys that meet both your needs and your desires. If you really would benefit from having a vibrator that you can take with you anywhere (for example, if you travel a lot for work), or the only peace and quiet you get in a crazy household is in the shower, then spending the extra money on a vibrator that meets your needs and gives you what you want is well worth it.

Should I bring sex toys into our bedroom? I’m looking to spice up my sex life with my man, but I’m not sure how he’ll respond. I really want to try them. How do I work them in? (No pun intended.)

What She Said:

I’m going to cut right to the chase – Yes! Sex toys can add a new level of satisfaction for both you and your mate. There’s no shame in making them a part of your lovemaking.

Talk to your man first before introducing the toys of your (and his!) choice. Make sure the conversation takes place in a neutral zone – say the living room instead of the bedroom. It sounds like you’re slightly nervous about his response, so surprising him with a dildo between the sheets is definitely not the way to go!

Be Positive

It’s important to place emphasis on the positive. This is not personal. Let him know you love having sex with him and enjoy his lovemaking techniques. You don’t want to make him feel defensive or inadequate.

After you’ve established that you’re happy in the bedroom, let him know you’d like to add even more to the joy you two share. Have a catalogue (or website) marked with some ideas of things you’d like to try. Odds are he’ll be thrilled to help you explore. After all, the more aroused you are, the better it is for him too! Loving partners are usually open to growing and sharing – I have no doubt this will be the case here as well.

The final step is to go shopping together – either to your local sex store or online (Adam & Eve is great AND you can use Dan & Jennifer’s special offer code for 50% OFF almost any item and FREE shipping – offer code is DANJENN) and pick out your new pleasure seekers. Run home, wash ‘em off and go have fun!

What He Said:

Yeah, sex toys can help, If you can handle them. Not everyone is into that kind of thing. Many people are pretty vanilla out there. But everyone can get a little bit wilder, all they need is a little bit of encouragement. Just a gentle nudge in the right direction.

How Does Your Partner Feel About Sex Toys?

Notice I didn’t say a push or shove. This can’t just be your idea. This has to be his idea too. Get his input on the idea and see how he feels about certain toys and most importantly, try and find out what his specific turn ons or turn offs are and more importantly, why. Maybe he had a bad experience with a previous partner. Maybe he’s afraid he won’t be enough for you. Maybe he’s open to using them, but not shopping for them in public. Whatever the issue it can be overcome, but you have to find out what it is first.

After you do that, be very open to trying these things and be curious and non judgmental. Don’t be too attached to any one outcome. You’ll find one or more toys that you both will like, but it might take a little time to do so. And make sure to only nudge, never push.

What Are Penis Extensions?

Think of penis extensions as dildos that fit over the head of your member. They are generally made of similar material (such as jelly, silicone or realistic skin-like material) and look very realistic. They extend the length of the penis considerably, allowing a shorter man to penetrate further into his partner’s vagina.

Average sized men can also use penis extensions if their partners desire a very deep, intense penetration. Some penis extensions require straps to keep them in place, while others simply slip over the head and stay there due to the soft, stretchy material that hugs the shaft.

Don’t They Reduce Pleasure? Why Would A Guy Want To Wear One?

It is true that penis extensions reduce some of the pleasurable sensations experienced during intercourse. However, many men and couples feel as though the benefits outweigh this. And of course, many men choose to wear a penis extension some of the time – while still having intimate, pleasurable sex with their partners without wearing one.

• Men who suffer from premature ejaculation may find penis extensions incredibly useful. They reduce the amount of sensation that the nerves in the shaft feel, so he may be able to last longer.
• Men who have smaller penises or simply just want more than what they already have will find that they can reach farther and stimulate more of their partner’s hot spots than with their own.
• Many guys enjoy the feeling of being able to penetrate their lovers so deeply. And many women enjoy being penetrated exceptionally deep. This is one of the key reasons that guys with average or larger sized genitals would want a penis extension. It can be totally erotic to go as deep as possible!

During Role Play

Sexual role play is another fun thing you can do with penis extensions. This works well if you and your lover have agreed on monogamy, but want to spice things up and experience something a little different every once in a while. A penis extension will make the male partner feel like he’s a different man to both lovers! Incorporate this into a sexy role play scenario. Use costumes if you like, and definitely up the ante with some dirty talk.

Care & Safety

Care for penis extensions is much like the care of any sex toy. You want to be aware of the material it is made from, because latex can be broken down by using petroleum jelly or oil based lubes, while silicone can be broken down by using other silicone lubes. If you use a water based lube, you’re pretty much safe all around. Most penis extensions can be cleaned with simple soap and water, but if you purchase one made of life-like skin material, you’ll need to dust it with plain cornstarch to keep it soft and supple.

Although a penis extension covers the top of the penis, it does not completely prevent semen from spilling into the vagina. It is not designed for safe sex – so it won’t protect you or your partner from pregnancy or any kind of sexually transmitted diseases. If you are in a monogamous relationship with someone and you are both STD free, a condom may not be necessary for you when wearing a penis extension if you are either using birth control methods or are planning a pregnancy. However, if you wish to practice safe sex, you’ll want to wear a condom underneath the penis extension to be sure you’re protecting against unwanted pregnancies and STD’s.

A penis extension can be a lot of fun to experiment with if you’re looking for something a little different in the bedroom. It’s not a replacement for intimate, natural sex with your lover, but it can definitely add some spice in situations that are lacking it!

The Wild G

A scary looking purple rabbit-style vibrator that really isn’t so scary once you get to know it. It’s made of soft jelly, slips in easily and has both a rotating shaft and an attachment for clitoral stimulation. Also, the rotating beads just near the base of the shaft feel surprisingly good. The only thing the Wild G doesn’t do is knock on the back door.

How To Use It: At home, by yourself, with the door locked! The Wild G doesn’t get too loud, but if someone decides to interrupt your party, it’s going to be pretty obvious that you weren’t taking a “nap.”

We-Vibe Touch

The We-Vibe Touch is a palm sized sex toy that is molded and grooved to fit both a woman’s hand and her clitoris. With a variety of vibe patterns that require just the touch of a button to activate (yes, 1 button!) this is quite possibly the easiest to use clitoral vibrator out there.

How To Use It: In the shower – this baby is 100% waterproof. It’s smooth, it’s cordless, it’s small and portable. It fits nicely in a shower caddy too. What more could you want for wet and wild masturbation?

G-Gasm Delight

Honestly, it’s the perfect g-spot stimulator. The G-Gasm Delight is made of hard plastic, so it’s well built for hard, squirting g-spot orgasms. It gets loud – especially when you turn it upside down –  so make sure you’re covered as far as privacy goes.

How To Use It: Any way you like! This lovely vibrator also substitutes as a prostate massager, so you can use it on him too. This is probably one of the least likely sex toys out there you would think could be a couples’ toy!

Freestyle W by OhMiBod

Like other g-spot/clitoral vibrators, the Freestyle W by OhMiBod is designed to stimulate both the g-spot and the clitoris at the same time. However, this lovely toy has more to it than meets the eye. This guy is designed to hook up to your music player, and it will vibrate to the beat of the music.

How To Use It: With your iPod of course! Again, privacy is an issue here. If you get caught, you may end up showing off your toys’ cool features when they realize your mp3 player is hooked up to your vibrator.

Hitachi Magic Wand

An oldie but goodie. The Hitachi Magic Wand has been around for about 30 years and is marketed as a back massager. However, women who have used the wand know that there are many more good times to be had when using it as a clitoral vibrator than a back massager. This toy goes up to 6,000 rpm’s!

How To Use It: Alone, or with a partner. This actually makes a great couples’ toy for women who have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. He can finger her or penetrate her while she uses it on her clitoris so she can experience an orgasm with her partner.

We-Vibe II

The We-Vibe II is designed to be a couples’ sex toy. One end of the massager will slip inside the woman and rest against her g-spot, while the other end wraps up and around to the clitoris. While a woman can masturbate with the We-Vibe II, it is really designed to be worn during intercourse. It’s a great way for a woman to experience an orgasm with her partner during penetration if she usually can’t.

How To Use It: With your partner. Try it in a variety of sex positions to experiment with different levels of sensation!

Ogee Twistee G-Vibe

The Ogee Twistee G-Vibe is very like the We-Vibe II in that it can be molded to rest against both the g-spot and clitoris and worn during intercourse. However, unlike the We-Vibe II, this little guy can be twisted into other shapes as well! This is actually a great option for women who have a hard to reach g-spot or a tilted cervix.

How To Use It: With or without a partner. It’s such a versatile sex toy! Experiment with different shapes to find the one you like best. Bend it any way you like, but remember the best shapes because you’ll want to go back to those!

Lelo Mia

If you’re looking for a discreet vibrator, this is it! So tiny, the Lelo Mia looks like a tube of lipstick and fits right into your purse. It also charges via USB port, so you can charge it on the go on your computer or laptop. Just say it’s a jump drive. For busy women who want a clitoral vibe, this is your best bet. Classy and discreet, but with loads of naughty pleasure.

How To Use It: On a plane, in the car, in the bathroom at work – anywhere you want because this thing is quiet. It’s unlikely that unless you make a lot of noise, anyone will know that you’re having an orgasm. Even though it’s small, it’s powerful, so you may have a difficult time keeping your trap shut.

Eve’s Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator

If you’re looking for a more traditional, dildo style vibrator, this is a great choice. It’s pretty, it’s somewhat flexible and the turn dial is super easy to use. A good choice for beginners, because it’s slim – only 1″ wide. It’s also fun for girls who are experienced with sex toys, because it just reaches those hot spots. Not super awesome at clitoral stimulation though.

How To Use It: This is yet another toy that is great to use alone or with your partner. Guys, you can use this during oral sex on her to stimulate her g-spot at the same time and try to give her a blended orgasm. Ladies, if you’re masturbating alone and need more clitoral stimulation than the Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator provides, use it in conjunction with your favorite clitoris massager.

Lelo Elise

These are luxury vibrations at their finest. Like it’s cousin the Mia, the Lelo Elise is very quiet. It’s silky smooth and just feels luxurious in your hands and in your vagina. It’s designed for insertion and curved specifically for g-spot stimulation. It’s just one of those sex toys you have to have in your toy box.

How To Use It: You can use this with a partner, but it’s much more fun to keep this gorgeous vibrator to yourself. It’s like a decadent chocolate bar that you don’t want to share. Let it be your secret.

What Are Sex Machines?

Sex machines are often seen in porn – especially fetish porn or other types of specialized porn. They are machines designed to simulate intercourse, penetration, oral sex and more, often at much higher speeds than can be achieved through traditional sexual intercourse or oral sex. The most popular speed is about 160 strokes per minute, but many models can do up to 300 strokes per minute without ever breaking a sweat.

There are many different varieties of sex machine, ranging from those simple in design to ones that have an attachment that stimulates almost every hot spot imaginable. Some of the more unique sex machines are:

• A custom designed model that simulates the licking of a clitoris with molded silicone tongues that are attached to a chainsaw
• Models for double penetration
• Models with attachments that spray water on the clitoris and penetrates the vagina at the same time
• A vacuum powered clitoris pump or nipple stimulator
• A spanking machine
• Models that are designed to penetrate two women at once

What Can Sex Machines Do?

The majority of sex machines are going to be seen in porn, used by women who are alone and masturbating. They have a variety of uses, however. They can be used by a woman for female masturbation, or by men with a male masturbator attachment. They can be used for anal sex, clitoral orgasms, nipple play and even spanking and restraining. There are many different models of sex machines out there, so whatever you like, you’ll probably be able to find a machine that does it for you.

Sex machines can also be used by couples that desire more in their sex life than just what trying different sex positions and other things to spice up sex can offer. Men who entertain a cuckold fantasy will definitely love watching their wives get banged by a mechanical dildo, while women may enjoy watching their partners be slowly pleased with a soft and squishy masturbator.

Are They Really Better Than Sex?

Orgasms with sex machines are often harder and much more intense than an orgasm that is experienced during sex with a partner. Women who have never experienced an orgasm can have one with a sex machine, and women who have never experienced female ejaculation will often squirt during sex with a machine without even knowing they can. This is because:

• Sex machines offer intense speeds that no human could possibly replicate
• They offer steady stimulation at the same speed, which for a woman, is necessary for orgasm
• They are designed specifically for firm g-spot stimulation, which can cause squirting
• They never get tired and they’re always around when you want them
• They offer just about any type of stimulation that you want
• Creative folks, mechanics and those good with their hands can often create their own sex machines that are designed specifically for their pleasure

Nothing Can Replace A Partner’s Intimacy

While sex machines can really deliver when it comes to the physical stimulation department, that’s not always what guys and gals are looking for when it comes to sex and lovemaking. Women who enjoy a fast and hard orgasm during masturbation with a sex machine are still going to need that emotional intimacy that only a partner can give.

Sex machines can’t give hugs, tell a woman she’s beautiful or take her out to dinner. They can’t look into the eyes of their man while they give them a slow, deep blowjob and they can’t touch and kiss softly during foreplay. While sex machines do have a lot to offer, they lack the critical emotional and physical intimacy that comes from real sex with a real, live partner.

Should You Get A Sex Machine?

They are fairly expensive, especially if you choose to get the kind of high quality models that you see in porn films. However, if you have the space and privacy at home for one, they can be a fun investment for masturbation and erotic play with your lover.

Safety Tip

Never try to turn a nail gun, a drill, a saw or a chainsaw into a homemade sex toy. If something goes wrong – like the saw cuts through the dildo you shoved on it – you can really hurt yourself or someone else. Only use sex machines you’ve purchased from a reputable company and follow all recommended safety guidelines.

A Masturbation Sleeve

Every guy needs one of these! Forget masturbating with your hand – these soft jelly or skin-like sleeves are specifically designed to maximize a man’s pleasure during masturbation. Male sex toys just don’t get any better than this – there are hundreds of different materials, sizes and looks to choose from, so it’s not at all difficult to find one that you really enjoy. Men who use masturbation sleeves report better, deeper orgasms and more overall satisfaction.

Also, keep in mind that to use a masturbation sleeve, you need a bottle of lube hanging around. Most lube will work, but pay attention and don’t use silicone lubes with silicone sleeves, or oil based lubes with latex sleeves. A good, water based lubricant will work with any material.

A Cock Ring

Most guys don’t think about using a cock ring during masturbation, but it can make a world of difference! Cock rings aren’t just for guys who have erectile dysfunction and can’t keep it up, nor are they just for couples who like a vibrating bullet in between them. A soft jelly cock ring can just feel great during masturbation, while a stiffer one can prolong a man’s erection and make his orgasm absolutely incredible.

A Prostate Stimulator

You may have heard that the best male orgasm comes from massaging the prostate gland – however, many guys are still too shy to try anal stimulation. If you can get past the “ick” factor that many men have when thinking about playing with the anus during masturbation, you can have a lot of fun and even more pleasure.

A good drawer full of male sex toys isn’t complete without a prostate stimulator. If you’re new to it, or are still a little creeped out by it but want to achieve that amazing orgasm that everyone is always talking about, try starting with a smaller prostate stimulator. A tiny butt plug will get you used to anal play during masturbation, and as you get more and more into it, you can replace your beginner’s sex toys with more advanced ones.

A Penis Pump

Penis pumps are also not male sex toys that are confined to men that struggle with erectile dysfunction. Any man can enjoy a penis pump, especially if he wants to mimic the sucking feeling produced during oral sex or if he just wants a bigger, harder erection. Penis pumps are often inexpensive, and you can even get pumping models that have a soft jelly or skin-like “masturbation sleeve” attachment.

Be careful when using a penis pump, and never, ever use a vacuum cleaner instead of a pump made specifically for sex. If you pump too hard, you can cause bruising or pain and discomfort. Not worth it! But when used correctly before or during your masturbation session, you can experience more pleasure with a bigger, longer and harder penis.

A Masturbator Mount

If you really want masturbation to feel like a vagina, try purchasing a masturbator mount. Some mounts may only be compatible with some brands of masturbation sleeves, while other types of sleeves cannot be mounted at all. If you’re looking into a mount, make sure you choose one that is compatible with the masturbation sleeve that you already have or are willing to purchase a new one.

A masturbator mount will hold the masturbation sleeve for you, so you can enjoy it absolutely hands free. There are different styles of mounts depending on which sex position you enjoy most – and you can pick the one you like instead of trying to find one that you and someone else will enjoy!

You will love the hands free action that a mount can provide, because it makes it feel even more like sex. Even with a masturbation sleeve, there’s something about doing it with your hands that makes it feel not as good as the real thing (probably because it isn’t the real thing). However, with a mount, you can trick your brain into thinking you’re actually doing the dirty, especially if you close your eyes or have your favorite porn playing on the television in front of you. Just don’t forget to lock the doors!

As a woman that likes to have things on demand (my favorite movies recorded, microwave meals in my fridge) I love to have a toy that is as instantly practical as it is tingly. Gyrating rabbits, and dildos that resemble the Incredible Hulk’s forearm, are all well and good for being stowed away at home; but are not the easiest of items to sneak away for a dirty weekend, or keep in your handbag.

Pocket-sized vibrators are the latest weapon in your arousal arsenal that will help you, and maybe a lucky male partner, enjoy naughty games on the go.

Hide It

As a ‘modern woman’ I reserve the right to masturbate at the office, the gym, or on my way to my boyfriend’s apartment; problem is all of those bright pink, spikey vibrators aren’t the easiest things to just ‘tuck away’ in the pocket of your handbag.

Pocket vibrators however, often come craftily disguised though as an unassuming article: there are the ‘butter fingers’ that look (ok, not that convincingly) like a candy bar; and then there are the ‘ lipstick vibe’s’. These small vibrators are sneakily shaped like a common place lipstick but conceal a naughty secret. Whether you’re more likely to have a candy bar or a lipstick in your handbag; there are pocket vibrators out there with enough stealth to make it through security at the airport; or your mother-in-law glaring into the contents of your carry on.

Play With It

Every girl should have a bullet!

These little devils are often only the size of the tip of your thumb but pack a punch. When inserted onto your clitoris they can vibrate so specifically that you’ll shudder more than with larger (and clumsier) vibrators.

Remote bullets are probably your best bet for fun and games with a deviant other half. Give your (lucky) boyfriend the remote control to adjust the speed and frequency of your vibrations; and then just pop the bullet into your panties. You can make this part of your normal foreplay routine; but I think it’s best to play some games instead.

If he wants to watch the football when you want some attention; get him to control your vibrations ‘remotely’ from the couch as you relax on your bed. Who knows he may even realize it would make great sense to join you during the commercial break!

In fact with a bullet you can forget ever having to have him cry ‘honey, dinner!!’ and get him to ‘buzz’ you instead.

Vary It

Bullets also come in a few other varieties. Some of them are not remotely controlled but instead there is a cable that connects the bullet to the remote; much like you might have seen with vibrating cock rings. Something about wires is distinctly ‘unsexy’. However, if you’re using a bullet during sex to stimulate your clitoris it does stop the two small parts becoming separated: let’s face it, it would be a tragedy that if in the heat of the moment you lost the remote to your favorite toy down the side of your bed!

Durex’s bullet variant is a slightly stranger design. The ‘play touch finger’ resembles those fake ‘witch fingers’ that you once cracked out as a kid over Halloween before you went trick or treating. Its design means that a soft rubber ‘finger’ slides over your own index finger, on the end of which is a bullet.

The bullets themselves are individually battery operated which means that they pack a punch. However, whatever genius worked out that Durex’s pocket vibrator design gave the most “Kapow” was severely let down by a designer who failed to realize that masturbating with a huge, synthetic finger puppet is just plain weird.

Boost It

The ‘play touch finger’ is also something I’d be too chronically embarrassed to pull out in front of a partner (though it feels so good I could probably overlook its ugliness when I’m alone… and blindfolded). So it misses out the best use of pocket vibrators; that they add spice to your sex life, without making your partner feel seconded to seven inches of silicone.

If you’re new into your relationship and don’t know how your other half feels about sex toys, these discreet little weapons will allow you to introduce some more buzz to the bedroom without referencing ‘Crocodile Dundee’, “You call that a vibrator? THIS is a vibrator!”

Pocket sized vibrators can be chucked casually into your over night bag and brought out at the crucial moment to ensure your orgasm. The clitoris is notoriously hard to stimulate during missionary (unless someone’s hand can be taken away from balance to be put down there). But the bullet is much smaller than your frenzied fingers and can slot comfortably between you and your partner as he penetrates you.

These ‘magic’ bullets are then well worth adding to, or beginning, your sex toy collection. In fact if you’re a woman who likes her orgasms clitoral, they’re invaluable.

And if you’re a forward thinking man who likes to please women, or want to know how to really tease a girl in a club, then they’re not only small enough to fit in a handbag: but can be slotted into a wallet too.

In very recent human history, discussion of women’s sexuality has become increasingly acceptable, and her gratification is becoming just as important as a man’s. We are studying the female body more closely, unlocking the secrets to pleasure centers of which we had little previous knowledge. You can practically get a vibrator on every street corner (it’s true, they sell them at American Apparel). And vibrators are vastly superior to men at producing orgasms.

Vibrators Are Not Obsessed With Their Own Penises

The vibrator’s sole function is to get a woman off. It is not frantically poking away at her most sensitive bits muttering, “Come one, come on,” under its breath because it wants to get through her stupid orgasm as quickly as possible so it can get onto its own climax. Instead, a vibrator is very giving. It doesn’t care about it’s own pleasure, and it won’t rush a woman through sex just to get off. It is there for her and her alone.

They Never Complain About Her Smell

No vibrator has ever complained about the way she smells. Just as men are always obsessing about their size, women are worried about their vaginal odor. The fact that it doesn’t naturally taste like passion fruit doesn’t help the insecurity.  Many women have had men comment on their vaginal odor, even when they’re clean and fresh. Sex toys, on the other hand, won’t say a single word.

Let’s face it – your testicles don’t always smell like a bed of roses, now do they? Genitals – male or female – are usually trapped in a pair of pants all day and by the time you get home, you’re probably ready for a shower. Even after a shower, you’re genitals are going to smell like…well, genitals. If you’re uncomfortable with cunnilingus, that is fine. Just don’t make a big deal about how much you hate the taste or smell, or she’ll never be able to get wet with you again.

Vibrators Maintain A Rhythm

They don’t gently stroke her for a minute or two, then audibly sigh, and increase speed and pressure for another minute or two, and then again audibly sigh and repeat until her clit feels so attacked it’s running in fear. Contrary to general male practices, this is not the proper method of stimulation. The rhythm and pressure need to be consistent. It needs to start out slow and then increase as she gets more and more aroused, and many vibrators are programmed to do just this.

However fast or hard you do it depends on the woman and the day, but whatever it is, keep it going. Once you find something she really seems to like, make sure you stick to that move and only that move.  If you get too jerky she’ll be thinking, “What the hell is he doing?” and not, “Oh, this feels so good.” If you change it up, she’ll never reach orgasm. Worse, if you change it up just as she’s ready to climax, you’ll ruin everything.

You want relax her and allow her to appreciate the sensation. If you’re not creating a soothing rhythm, it interrupts her concentration. However, if she’s screaming, “Faster! Faster!” go ahead and speed up. If she’s giving you directions, make sure you follow them! Some men aren’t so lucky – so whatever she tells you to do, do it without complaint.

Her Vibrator Doesn’t Beg For Sex

It just shows up and does its job when she needs it. If she’s had a long day, or if she’s in the middle of something, or if she’s just plain tired, her vibrator will not whine or complain or try to guilt her into using it. Her vibrator patiently waits for HER to be ready. When she is feeling horny, her vibrator has not irritated her to the point of being inutile in relation to her pleasure. And her vibrator has probably lasted longer than most of her relationships.

A Sex Toy Can’t Replace Intimacy

No matter how great sex toys are, they’re not going to replace the much needed intimacy between a man and a woman. This is where YOU come out ahead! So don’t be more concerned with your own orgasm than hers and don’t complain about how she smells or tastes. Maintain a steady rhythm and don’t pressure her to get busy when she doesn’t want to. If you do all of these things AND give her a great emotional connection, she may never go back to her vibrator again.

What Are Phthalates?

You may have heard of phthalates – these are dangerous chemicals that can be found in some rubbers and plastics that have been shown to be carcinogenic (cancer causing). Some sex toys also have phthalates in them, namely products that are made of jelly rubber. If you’ve ever opened a brand new product and it smelled of chemicals or had a strong plastic smell, you were probably smelling the phthalates in the rubber.

Does My Sex Toy Have Phthalates?

Most hard plastic vibrators and the like do not contain phthalates, and some jelly feeling products are made from silicone, so the only way to know for sure is to read the packaging and manual that came with your product and find out what it is made of. Some sex toys that do have phthalates aren’t going to necessarily advertise that they do, so if you suspect that your product does contain these chemicals and there’s no information in the packaging to suggest otherwise, you’ll want to assume that it does and take measures to stay safe.

If you’re purchasing a new sex toy or selecting your first one, finding one that is made without phthalates is actually very easy. Glass sex toys, hard plastic vibrators, wood, ceramic, metal and silicone sex toys are all phthalate free. A simple Internet search will reveal tons of phthalate free products for you to choose from.

Using A Condom With Your Vibrator

It’s a huge bummer to find out that your favorite sex toy is made with phthalates. It’s given you orgasm after orgasm and it works like a charm – but should you throw it out? Perhaps, but you don’t necessarily have to. Most people don’t think to use condoms during masturbation – since you’re not really risking getting pregnant or contracting STD’s – but condoms can actually help protect you from dangerous chemicals found in some sex toys.

The next time you’re getting ready to use your vibrator or dildo, slip a condom over it before inserting it into your vagina. This will help protect the delicate tissues inside the vagina from the chemicals. However, using a condom won’t protect you from any phthalates that are on the outside of the toy. For example, if you own a rabbit style vibrator, you can slip a condom over the dildo part of the toy, but you will still remain unprotected from the jelly covering on the vibrating clitoris attachment. All in all though, using a condom with sex toys that you suspect may contain dangerous phthalates significantly reduces your risk.

Using The Right Kind Of Lube

Not all lubricants are compatible with all sex toys. If you’re using the wrong lubricant with your products, you’re going to find that they degrade faster or become sticky, tacky or unusable in just a short amount of time. Finding the right lube to use with your product is essential if you want it to last longer.

Silicone: Silicone sex toys cannot be used with silicone lube. This will cause the material to degrade.

Hard Plastic: Can be used with any type of lube.

Wood: Can be used with any type of lube.

Latex: Cannot be used with oil based lube. Similarly, condoms cannot be used with oil based lube either.

Ceramic & Glass: Can be used with any type of lube.

Jelly Rubber: Best with water based lube, since jelly rubber can contain elements of latex and silicone.

In truth, water based lubricant is probably your best bet for any kind of sex toys. You don’t have to worry about buying different types of lube that are compatible with all your different kinds of products if you’re using a good water based lube. Water based lube is also a breeze to rinse off, unlike silicone or oil based lubricants.

Cleanup & Storage

When you’re using a condom with your sex toys, you can pretty much slip the condom off and store it right then and there. You might have to wipe it down some if things got really wild, but using a condom during masturbation actually helps make clean up faster.

If you’re not using a condom with your product, read the instructions to find out the manufacturer’s suggested cleaning methods. Most hard plastic toys can be wiped down with a damp cloth, while jelly rubber or latex products probably need a good soap and water bath to feel really clean.

You’ll always want to clean your products immediately after use. Sure, you may be spent after an incredible orgasm, however, you definitely don’t want to leave your toy sitting there for any length of time. This will cause it to grow bacteria and many sex toys are porous – meaning that the bacteria will actually absorb into the material of the product. This means your toys will retain odor and may never feel really “clean” again. Be safe and clean your products as soon as you’re done.

Purrfect Pets Tickle Me Dolphin

A cock ring and a vibrator all in one, the Purrfect Pets Tickle Me Dolphin is a great couples’ sex toy. The cock ring portion of the product will keep his erection rock hard, while the vibrator will stimulate the woman’s clitoris and help bring her to an incredible orgasm. This is a must-have for couples who struggle with erectile dysfunction or difficulty reaching orgasm. It’s also available in other shapes for more excitement, including a “Buzz Bunny” and a “Buzzy Butterfly.”

Crystal Jellies 6″ Anal Starter

Lots of couples want to get into anal sex, but they’re not exactly sure where to start. Sex toys built specifically for beginner’s anal play are probably your best bet, and the Crystal Jellies 6″ Anal Starter definitely fits the bill. It’s small and slim, so it’s perfect for guys and girls who are just starting out. At it’s thinnest point, this product is about 1/2″ wide, and at it’s widest, it’s barely 1″. When you’ve never done anal insertion before, smaller is definitely better when you’re just getting into it.

Sugar Lips Nipple Gloss

Guys love breasts, so why not make yours noticeable with a swipe of nipple gloss before sex? It also works on your lips too – and wherever you put Sugar Lips Nipple Gloss, you’re going to feel a tingly, plumping sensation. Not only does it make your lips and nipples look ultra kissable, the taste is super sweet. Try flavors like Lick My Strawberry, Kiss My Cinnabuns, Cock n’ Candy, Whip Me Cream and Pump Me Colada.

Tenga Eggs

For guys on the go, this uniquely designed masturbation sleeve is a huge hit. Packed in an egg like container, the soft silicone masturbation sleeve includes it’s own package of lube to be used with the sleeve. Tenga Eggs come in tons of different styles and textures, such as Twister, Clicker, Stepper, Wavy, Spider and Silky. Each egg feels totally different during masturbation! The downside to this sex toy is that it is disposable – you can only use it one time (really, you should only use it one time) before throwing it away.

Tongue Teaser

While oral sex is always fantastic by itself, you can add some great feeling vibrations to the mix with the Tongue Teaser. The soft jelly toy slips over the tongue and vibrates. This is an especially great toy for men who want to please women who have difficulty reaching orgasm orally. A snug band makes sure this product doesn’t slip off the tongue, no matter how wet and wild things get! It also runs for about forty minutes, so that gives you plenty of time for orgasmic pleasure.

Sterling Sleeves

Sterling Sleeves are soft, stretchy silicone sleeves that fit over the penis and are designed to be used during sex. They can help make your penis just a little bit longer, and usually the textured outsides stimulate a woman’s g-spot in just the right way. If you’ve been trying unsuccessfully to have (or give) a g-spot orgasm, try slipping on a Sterling Sleeve. The extra sensations may be exactly what she needs to push her over the edge.

Frisky Fingers Clitoris Vibrator

Every girl needs a small, discreet and easy to use finger vibrator that fits nicely over the clitoris. Sometimes, a girl just wants to get the job done and a Frisky Fingers Clitoris Vibrator will do just that. It slides over the finger and the soft silicone nubs feel amazing in conjunction with the vibrations. It’s quiet, so you can even throw it in your purse and take it anywhere!

Astroglide Strawberry Lubricant

Whether you’re having sex au natural or using sex toys, lube is definitely a must have. But why should lube – especially when used with a condom – smell and taste like rubber, plastic and chemicals? Astroglide Strawberry Lubricant combines Astroglide’s popular lube formula with a great strawberry flavor, so you can smell and taste great during sex.

Fetish Fantasy Series Beginner’s Furry Cuffs

If you’ve never tried bondage before – or have and loved it – a pair of soft, furry handcuffs are indispensable. Fetish Fantasy Series Beginner’s Furry Cuffs are strong yet soft, so you can have fun locking your partner up and having your way with them! They do have a quick release mechanism that you can use if things get too intense or if you or your partner lose the key. Comes in black or white.

Sportsheets Rubber O-Rings

If you want an inexpensive pack of basic rubber cock rings in different sizes, Sportsheets Rubber O-Rings are exactly what you’re looking for. No frills, just plain black rubber in a variety of different sizes to accommodate both a large and small penis size. You can also use them with harnesses that have straps – just don’t forget to use lube so you can slide the O-Ring off easily when you’re finished.

Lots Of Lube

Lube is extremely important to use when playing with sex toys. In fact, it’s also great to use during sex but many people that haven’t made the foray into sex toys have never tried using lube before either! Whether you’re having sex with a partner or masturbating with a vibrator, even just a dab of lube will make things slip and slide much better. Of course, the wetter the better so lots of lube is preferred, especially with anal sex!

Recommendation: Astroglide! It’s basic, easy to use and has been used for years. It’s an all around great lube to use that is safe for both sex toys and use with condoms.

A Masturbation Sleeve

Every guy starts out masturbating with their own hand, and many guys still do. If you haven’t discovered how really great masturbating with a sex toy is, you’re in for a real treat. Try slipping your penis into a lubed up masturbation sleeve before your self-love session and see what a difference it makes! You can get all kinds of sleeves to satisfy whatever desires you have, whether you’re into lots of texture or something really nice and tight. Masturbation will never be the same again!

Recommendation: Climax Gems Crystal Hand Job Stroker. It’s a great way to start using a masturbation sleeve if you’ve never used one before, especially since some of the more “anatomically correct” strokers can seem a little intimidating at first. This one is extra ribbed for pleasure too!

A Slender Vibrator

Women that have never used a vibrator inside before will definitely want to try something small and slender at first. A slender vibrator doesn’t hurt going in when used with lube – even for many virgins – and the torpedo design will reach the g-spot in no time. This is a great product to start out with when you’re just beginning to use sex toys during penetration.

Recommendation: 5″ Grrl Toyz Waterproof Slimstick. This is a great vibrator for women who are interested in trying insertion during masturbation or couples play but don’t want to start with a giant dildo. It’s slim design is great for even very small women or virgins.

A Clitoris Vibrator

Most girls start out rubbing their clitoris with their fingers or palms when they first start to masturbate. This is because the clitoris is packed with over 8,000 sensitive nerve endings and is responsible for most women’s orgasms. Many women prefer to masturbate with a clitoris vibrator, even if they’ve had sex before or masturbated with a vibrator or dildo designed for insertion. Using a vibrator on the clitoris can induce very intense, very powerful orgasms!

Recommendation: Ophoria Finger Vibe – 3″. Every girl needs to start out with a clitoris vibrator, especially if she’s a virgin. Women can reach orgasm most often through clitoral stimulation, so this can even be a great toy to use with a partner as well. It fits easily on the finger and also comes in a variety of fun, bright colors.

A Traveling Vibrator

Once you get into using sex toys, you’re going to want to take them wherever you go. Especially for those long business trips away from your partner where you know you’ll be “flying solo” so to speak! But if you’re flying, or even driving for that matter, you don’t necessarily want to take your most conspicuous vibrator in case your luggage gets checked. A travel safe vibrator is a must have for women on the go.

Recommendation: Grrl Toyz Lipstick Vibe. It looks exactly like lipstick. Enough said.

Toy Cleaner

Even if you’ve never used sex toys before, it’s not difficult to guess that they can get pretty nasty if you don’t clean them thoroughly before and after each use. While you can use soap and water to clean most sex toys, getting a good anti-bacterial toy cleaner is a must to keep your sex toys looking and feeling like new each time you use them. Often, it’s a lot easier to use a special toy cleaner than it is to bust out the soap and hot water.

Recommendation: System Jo Toy Cleaner. Priced right, all you have to do with this easy to use toy cleaner is spray it on and wipe it off. It’s a quick way to keep your sex toys lasting longer.

A Cock Ring

Just like with masturbation sleeves, most guys don’t think about using cock rings – or any sex toys, really – during masturbation. Since they can simply use their hands (and there’s rarely any evidence laying around if all you’re using is a hand), most guys don’t think about how much better a masturbation session can be by using and experimenting with different products designed for sexual enhancement. Next time you masturbate, try slipping on a cock ring to keep your erection rock hard and lasting long. You’ll be surprised at how good everything feels with a cock ring on!

Recommendation: M2M Nitrile 1.75″ Cock Rings (Pack Of 5). You definitely don’t want to use a metal cock ring, and these soft rings are made from nitrile, which is compatible with all kinds of lube, including silicone and oil based!

A Butt Plug

If you’re starting to get into anal sex or even just a little anal play, a beginner’s butt plug is a must have. Whether you’re enjoying anal stimulation during sex or during masturbation, a small butt plug can give you just enough stimulation without being painful to make your sexual escapades feel radically different – and amazing! Make sure you use any anal toy with lube and never insert anything into your anus that isn’t designed to go there, because it could get lost!

Recommendation: Basix Rubber Works Mini Butt Plug. Comes in four colors and is super small for beginner’s use. You definitely want to use water based lube with this one though.

A Bullet Massager

Often, a bullet massager is a woman’s first vibrating sex toy. Even if it’s not, a bullet vibrator is something you definitely want to have on hand. It too is a great vibrator to take with you on trips! A bullet vibrator is also the kind you want to use with a lot of couples’ sex toys, such as cock rings with a place for a bullet vibe to go on top. Sometimes, a simple bullet vibrator is all you need to get and stay satisfied.

Recommendation: Power Bullet Vibrating Massager – 3 Speeds. Small, discreet and easy to use. Tiny enough to take with you anywhere but it’s vibrations are powerful for how small this toy really is!

A Blindfold

A blindfold is a great way to get your feet wet with BDSM if you’re just starting to get interested in it but don’t want to go too far with the whips and chains at first. A blindfold adds such an incredible element of mystery and most of them are incredibly inexpensive. You can use a silk tie or other things from around the house to create a blindfold, but buying one isn’t very expensive and are much more comfortable to wear – especially for longer periods of time.

Recommendation: Fetish Fantasy Series Satin Love Mask. It’s just your basic love mask, but if you’ve never tried BDSM before, a blindfold is where you want to start. You can’t imagine how sexy things can get once you take away the sense of sight!

What Is A Penis Pump?

A penis pump is usually a plastic type, hollow cylinder that is fitted over the penis that has either a manual or motorized pump to put suction on the penis. When the pump creates a vacuum around the penis, it pulls blood into the shaft and head of the penis, making it erect and engorged with blood. Most men choose to use a cock ring in addition to a penis pump so the blood doesn’t go back into the body after being pumped into the penis. A cock ring fits snugly around the base of the shaft to keep blood inside the penis after pumping and to keep it erect

Are Penis Pumps Dangerous?

Most sex toys aren’t at all dangerous, but if used incorrectly, some of them can be. Penis pumps definitely fall into that category and if you have a penis pump, you really want to use it responsibly to keep from doing damage to yourself. For example, very hard or extreme suction of the shaft and head can cause things like:

• Blisters
• Bruising
• Broken blood vessels

You can avoid these unwanted side effects by reading the manufacturer’s instructions on your penis pump thoroughly and following the instructions for use exactly. Not every penis pump is the same, so don’t assume that because you know how to use one, you know how to use them all.

How To Be Safe When Using A Penis Pump

Penis pumps can be a great way to make your penis, bigger, stronger and harder but you definitely don’t want any broken blood vessels or blisters from using it. So, there are lots of ways you can make sure you are using your penis pump safely and effectively.

• Don’t use for extended periods of time. You’ve heard the warnings on Viagra commercials – if you experience an erection for longer than 4 hours, seek medical attention immediately. The same goes for penis pumps. A man’s body isn’t designed to maintain an erection for that long. Don’t use your penis pump longer than necessary.
• If it hurts, stop. Just like with anything during sex, if you’re feeling discomfort or pain, it’s your body signaling you to stop and that what you’re doing is damaging your body. It’s common sense – if you feel pain, it’s a signal to stop immediately.
• Never use an actual vacuum as a penis pump. The suction on a vacuum is way too harsh and WILL cause broken blood vessels and bruising which could require an expensive trip to the emergency room.
• Learn how to use the valve release. Almost all penis pumps have an valve release that you can use which will release the pressure on the penis. If the product you’re looking at doesn’t have this feature, you need to be looking at a different product! Learn how to use the release so that you can take the pump off immediately if you begin to feel pain, discomfort or experience blisters or bruising with your erection.

So Do Penis Pumps Actually Work?

The short answer to this question is yes, a penis pump can actually work, depending on what you’re using it for. If you’re expecting to gain 4″ of penis size when you use it, you’re probably going to be disappointed. But if you experience problems with impotency and erectile dysfunction, a penis pump can help you achieve and maintain a good erection and enable to you to have more satisfying sex with your partner.

Remember that any erection you get after using a penis pump isn’t going to be there for long if you don’t use a cock ring as well. A cock ring is designed to keep the blood in the penis after pumping, instead of allowing it to flow back into the body and leave the penis flaccid.

What Penis Pumps Can Be Used For

Penis pumps can be used to effectively treat erectile dysfunction, and they can also be used to treat Peyronie’s Disease (when the penis is severely curved or bent). While you probably don’t want to expect miracles when it comes to using a penis pump, the vacuum suction created by one is definitely enough to make a difference when treating impotency and a bent or curved penis. Of course, you definitely want to see your doctor first before using a penis pump for either of these conditions – he or she can recommend the best treatment options for you, which may or may not include the use of a pump.

Adam & Eve Couples Enhancer Ring

A cock ring and a clitoris vibrator in one, this enhancer ring will give you and your partner both heightened sensations. It’s made of soft silicone rather than a hard material that could get stuck on the penis and also includes an outer ring that can be slipped behind his scrotum for a tighter feel.

Hustler Bang Bang Bullet Vibrator

This pretty pink vibrator has a cordless remote control that can be controlled by a woman’s husband. The motor is quiet enough that you and your spouse can use it in public, making sex even more fun and exciting. She’ll love never knowing what is going to come next and when she’s going to have an orgasm!

Super Head Honcho Masturbator

Women are much more likely to enjoy giving their husbands a handjob every now and then if they have a little help. It’s easy for her hands to get tired, but when using a masturbation sleeve with a generous amount of lube, he’ll orgasm quicker and her hands won’t cramp up as easily. It’s a win-win!

Oral Delight Couples Kit

Make oral sex more fun for him and her with a kit full of flavored lubes and toys. She’ll get a flavored lube to use on him and he’ll get one to use on her, and they’ll both get an easy to use vibrator with a pink silicone “tongue” sleeve. This is a great option for husbands who don’t always enjoy giving their wives oral sex.

Swiss Navy 2-in-1 Enhancement Gel For Couples

When both a husband and wife need a little extra sensitivity, this his-n’-hers arousal gel does the trick. Both gels are stored in one convenient bottle with separate containers, making it easier to use and keep discreet. This is a great option for men and women who would rather use natural herbal compounds than pharmaceutical substances, because the base of the gels are comprised of herbal extracts.

Sexy Slave Kit

Since married sex can sometimes get boring, bondage can be the next step that couples take when spicing up their sex lives. The Sexy Slave Kit is a simple kit with easy to use items that make introducing BDSM and bondage in the bedroom a lot more fun. Restrain your partner with sexy handcuffs and tickle them with a feather tickler. Make sure to use the blindfold so they don’t see what you’re doing!

X-Large Ben Wa Balls

For wives who feel like they have lost the muscle tone in their vagina (especially after having kids) and want to be tight for their husbands again, Ben Wa Balls give the PC muscles a great workout. The balls move around inside the vagina and the muscles are worked by keeping the balls from slipping out of the vagina. Use with a tightening cream to make him feel like you’re a virgin all over again!

A&E Beginner’s Power Pump

After being married for so many years, a man may begin to experience problems keeping his erection like he could when he was young. Erectile dysfunction is common in older men, but that doesn’t make it any less disappointing when it happens. A penis pump can help a man get and maintain a rock hard erection.

Sexy Stripper’s Kit

A woman can spice up her sex life with her husband by learning how to give a little striptease. The Sexy Stripper’s Kit is a novelty item that includes lots of fun props that can help her feel even more like a stripper. However, some of the items are a little cheesy – skip the play money and slip some real dollar bills in your wife’s g-string. Better yet, make it a few five spots!

Bottom’s Up Finger Rimmers

Many married couples would love to try anal sex (especially after they’ve been doing the same thing over and over again in the bedroom) but aren’t sure how to get started. The Bottom’s Up Finger Rimmer is a teeny tiny little butt plug that is perfect for beginners – whether you’re a guy or a girl. It’s less than 2 inches long and 1 inch wide. Start by using this and work your way up to bigger sizes.

What Not To Shop For

There are lots of things that you want in a sex toy, but it’s unlikely that you’ll find the perfect made-just-for-you toy that meets every one of your requirements. That said, it’s essential that you think about what’s important in your item and what isn’t as crucial. Here are some examples of things you don’t necessarily want to narrow down your search:

Color

While you want your vibrator or dildo to be pretty, shopping for one based on what color it is alone is a great way to get a sex toy that you hate or can’t use. Certain sex toys come in certain colors, and if you’re only looking for clear or red (or whatever your chosen color is), you’re going to be limited in what you can get in that particular color. Instead, focus on a more important aspect – such as function or size – when shopping.

Brand

There are great brands out there, but not all the items produced by one brand are great. You may get a really fun, awesome dildo and swear up and down that you will only buy that brand ever again. The next thing you buy – such as a cock ring for example – may be a complete dud. Then again, it may not be.

However, by limiting yourself to one brand of sex toys only, you might miss something really great that has been that special item you’ve been looking for. Keep your mind open and look for items that meet other criteria, such as being easy to use or super discreet.

Price

Of course, most people shopping for sex toys need to stay within a budget. There are couples out there that can splurge on the $300 vibrator, but most people have an idea of what price range they need to be looking in. However, when you’re shopping strictly by price, you may run into trouble. Cheap sex toys aren’t always the best and the best ones aren’t always cheap. Then again, there are lots of inexpensive items that give a great orgasm – so price really isn’t a factor at all.

If you don’t have very much to spend, consider saving up for a little while longer so that you can have a broader range of items to pick from. If you’ve only got $20 to spend and are looking for stuff in that price range only, you may miss the awesome $21.95 toy that is everything you’ve wanted in a sex toy and more! Having a little bit more to spend when you start shopping allows you to check out a lot more items – whether you buy one that is at the bottom of your price range or the top.

What To Shop For

There are lots of things that are important when considering what types of items to look for, but some are much more significant than others. For example, size is pretty important – you don’t want to get something that is too small or too big for you. Here are some examples of things that may make or break your decision:

Size (Length & Width)

Size is probably one of the most important factors to consider when shopping for a vibrator or dildo. Think about what size you need – based on your previous sex toys and other partners’ penis size. Are you only able to accommodate a small vibrator, or do you need something that is a bit longer to reach your g-spot?

Take into account what size you are, and what size feels good to you. Purchase something that meets the basic length and width requirements and doesn’t go over or under them a lot. Your heart may be set on a pretty pink penis, but if it’s two inches too short, you’re going to be sorry.

Function

Need a vibrator that will massage your clitoris? You might not want to buy one that is designed for g-spot stimulation and vice versa. Before you buy, think about what exactly you’re wanting your new toy to do. Do you want something that will stimulate both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time? Take a look at a Rabbit vibrator or something similar. Are you a virgin and need something that doesn’t require penetration? Think about vibrating bullets.

Don’t go shopping for sex toys without thinking about what function you want it to have first – that’s how you get stuck with something that you don’t want!

Ease Of Use

You probably don’t want a vibrator that has a thousand different buttons and requires an astrophysicist’s degree to figure out. Sometimes, a vibrator with a simple on/off function works great, so don’t assume the more buttons and gadgets it has the better. Pick something that you know will be easy to use, especially when you’re in the throes of passion alone or with your partner.

Level Of Discretion

Some couples really need their sex toys to be discreet. If that’s the case, look for a small bullet vibe or travel vibrator – something small that can be easily hidden or taken with you in a purse, pocket or suitcase. People who need a certain level of discretion may want to stay away from purchasing traditional dildos, since most of them tend to be larger and penis shaped.

Regardless of what sex toys you use, make sure that they meet your needs and wants before making the purchase. If you don’t, you’ll end up spending a lot of money on something that isn’t very good or is simply “okay.” Once you find the right item, make it even more pleasurable and comfortable by using a lot of good, water based lubricant. Take care of it and make it last longer by cleaning it after each use, either with a special toy cleaner or hot, soapy water.

What Is A Yeast Infection?

A yeast infection is simply when the pH of the vagina has been thrown off – and this can happen any number of ways.

• Sex. Sexual partners can actually pass yeast infections to one another during intercourse.
• Getting sick. If your immune system is lowered, you can be more susceptible to the overgrowth of yeast in the vagina.
• Stress. Stress lowers the immune system and women with chronic problems are often found to be exposed to constant stress.
• Hormones, pregnancy and birth control. If the hormones in the body aren’t balanced properly, a yeast overgrowth can occur.
• Antibiotics. They change the pH of the vagina too, eliminating all the natural bacteria that are found in the vagina (the ones that consume excess yeast).

There are also a number of things that can help a yeast infection form, or make it much worse once it has started.

• Tight clothing
• Polyester or synthetic fabrics that do not allow good ventilation
• Lots of sex in a short period of time
• Wiping from back to front
• Sweating, especially in hot or muggy weather
• Douching

Is Lube A Culprit?

Some brands do contain glycerin – in fact, quite a few of them do. Glycerine is a sugar based product, which can affect the growth of yeast in the vagina. Things with high sugar content that are inserted into or near the vagina can cause an infection – which is why you always see a disclaimer when reading about having sex with chocolate or candies. Lube can certainly make a previous infection worse, and in extremely sensitive individuals, using it may bring an infection on.

However, since there are so many different factors that can cause or contribute to the overgrowth of yeast in the vagina, it is much more likely that lube isn’t the only cause of a yeast infection (although it is possible). It is formulated specifically for the vagina and is designed to mimic natural lubrication as closely as possible. It is likely that the pH balance in the vagina was off to begin with and lube tipped the scales towards an infection, causing symptoms of vaginal discomfort, burning or itching.

Some brands of lube may cause more vaginal discomfort than others. For example, warming lubes that are designed to heat up have been known to cause intense sensations, sometimes to the point of pain and discomfort in women that are very sensitive. You may have had a reaction to a new lubricant without actually having a yeast infection.

How To Buy The Right Kind Of Lube

If you’re very sensitive to yeast infections and get them frequently, look for some that is made without glycerin. Astroglide makes a glycerin and paraben free formula, which is great for women with sensitive genitals. Parabens are also chemicals that can cause an uncomfortable reaction in some women, so consider purchasing a lube that is both glycerin and paraben free.

Do not use things that you get from home – that means no vegetable oils, olive oils, lotions or anything that isn’t made to be put inside the vagina. These kinds of oils (even baby oil) can clog the pores on the inside of the vaginal walls and make the environment a great host for all kinds of unwanted yeast and bacteria. Spare yourself the trouble and spend a few bucks on a great bottle of lubricant, available anywhere from sex toy stores to your local supermarket. You’ll thank yourself for it later.

Seeing The Doctor

If it seems like you’re doing everything right and you’re still having vaginal discomfort or yeast infection symptoms, even after using over the counter remedies, it may be time to make an appointment with your doctor. You could have an STD – or just a really nasty bacterial infection that requires the use of antibiotics to get rid of.

If you’re to embarrassed to see your doctor about a possible vaginal infection, find a doctor that you are comfortable seeing. Honestly, your doctor has seen just about everything from anal sex injuries to STD’s to really strange stuff that you probably don’t want to hear about. That’s what your doctor is there for – to talk to and to find solutions to keep your body healthy.

Is it true that women who use vibrators for clitoral orgasm could become desensitized to getting it with their own hand or partners’ touch? I heard Dr.Drew say it on Love Line KROQ and it made me never want to buy a vibrator because I don’t want to risk my body being depended on it. Please, please help!

–YouTube Viewer

What A Vibrator Does

A vibrator is a powerful way to achieve orgasm quickly and easily without having to do a lot of work to get there. Lots of women enjoy using vibrators during masturbation because the orgasms are great and it can be done quickly, without a lot of mess.

However, after using a vibrator for a long period of time (say several weeks or more), some women have reported being unable to reach orgasm without one and others reported that they could reach orgasm without a vibrator, but it was very difficult to do so. Does this mean that they are “addicted” to their vibrators and can’t reach climax without one?

Learning How To Orgasm

A vibrator is very intense – consider it a “power tool” that will help get the job done quickly and easily. This means that reaching orgasm without a vibrator should take longer than it does when you do use one. The problem here is not the sex toys – it’s that a lot of women haven’t learned how to have an orgasm without the aid of their “power tool” and automatically assume that they can’t, without taking the time or effort to really figure out how.

Instead of wondering why you’re not able to reach orgasm with your hands in the same amount of time it takes to do so with your vibrator, slow down and enjoy the masturbation process. The same goes if you’re with your lover and he’s performing oral sex on you or fingering you. It’s not going to go as fast as it does with your “power tools” and that’s not necessarily a bad thing.

If It’s Causing A Problem

If you’re really struggling to reach climax with your lover or with your hands (without the aid of a vibrator) and you’ve given yourself plenty of extra time to actually get to the big “O”, you may want to consider trying to wean yourself off the power tools all together.

Try incorporating your solo sex toys into your sexual routine with your partner. Remember, sex toys aren’t just for masturbation alone – you can use them in addition to different sex positions, oral sex and manual stimulation to spice up your sex life. Doing this will help teach your brain that you can experience sexual pleasure with your partner as well, not just with a vibrator. This is because when you get used to doing something just one way (such as masturbating and reaching orgasm with a power tool only), the brain gets used to doing it only that way and will have a more difficult time adapting to doing it another way.

Other Things That Impact The Ability To Orgasm

If you’re having a difficult time reaching climax without the use of a vibrator, it may not be your sex toys‘ fault at all. In fact, there are many things that may cause a woman to become unable to climax for a short period of time. For example, you may be stressed, tired or sick. Also, some people don’t realize the fact that as men and women get older, they’re not as sensitive to sexual stimulation anymore.

If you used to be able to have an orgasm by just using your hand during masturbation when you were younger but you can’t orgasm without a vibrator now, it may be solely due to the changes your body has gone through as you’ve gotten older. Situations like that are actually a perfect time to introduce a vibrator into the mix because the body just isn’t as responsive as it once was. The most important thing with sex and masturbation is to find a balance and do what works for you!

What Function It Serves

Any pump – whether it be a penis pump or one for the clitoris and labia – is designed to force more blood into the genital tissue, enhancing the sensitivity of whatever has been pumped. After pumping, the shaft and head of the penis or the clitoris and labia are engorged with blood and can be much more receptive to any kind of stimulation.

Some men who experience erectile dysfunction may use a penis pump to achieve and maintain an erection, while other men simply use a penis pump to enhance sexual sensations during intercourse with a partner or during masturbation. Women who use a clitoris pump do so for many of the same reasons. Some women may have trouble achieving an orgasm, and a clitoris pump may help the genital tissue become more sensitive and make it easier for a woman to reach climax.

A clitoris pump may also be used by couples to increase friction during intercourse, as many men and women have reported after using a clitoris pump that the vagina looks and feels much tighter.

Different Types Of Pumps

Just as there are all kinds of different sex toys, there are also different styles of clitoris pumps as well. A simple pump will basically consist of a wide plastic mouth that is placed over the vulva, with a tube going to a soft hand bulb. Some clitoris pumps will have attachments on the inside designed for clitoral stimulation during use, while others will have a vibrating bullet attached to the mouth of the pump for even more sensations.

Some clitoris pumps are designed to cover the entire vulva (both the clitoris and the labia) while others are much smaller and are designed to be placed over the clitoris only. When the genital tissues have been pumped up, they usually go back to their normal size within a matter of seconds or minutes, depending on how long the pumping lasted in the first place.

Keeping Things Safe

As with any other types of sex toys, it’s important that you learn how to use the toy properly to get the best results – and to avoid doing damage to your delicate genital tissues in the process. Never, ever use an actual vacuum instead of a pump, regardless of whether you’re male or female. The suction on a vacuum is much, much more powerful than a penis pump or a clitoris pump and can actually cause the blood vessels and capillaries inside the genital tissue to break – giving you one nasty looking bruise.

In rare cases, people who have used vacuum hoses during masturbation have had to seek emergency medical assistance due to severe engorgement of the genitals. Choose your clitoris pump wisely and select the size that is right for you. Remember to keep it clean and dry when not in use and follow all directions on the packaging.

“Extreme Pumping”

Clitoris and labia pumping to the extreme is considered a form of BDSM and is featured in many fetish videos and porn. With extreme pumping, the clitoris and labia are suctioned and enlarged a great deal, to the point where the genitals appear very swollen and misshapen. This kind of activity can be dangerous, because it too can cause the blood vessels and capillaries to break and the skin to become stretched or bruised. There are lots of fun sexual activities that are fun and don’t hurt!

Trying A Clitoris Pump

If you’re thinking about trying a clitoris pump for yourself, make sure you get one from a reputable company. Go slow, using the suction for only a few seconds or minutes at a time. Gradually build up your tolerance to stronger and stronger suction, until you achieve the desired effect. Just make sure you’re not using too much suction or doing it for too long. Relax and have fun, but if you become uncomfortable at any time or are in any kind of pain, stop immediately!

Thou Shalt Not Use Sex Toys?

While many Christians and other religions believe that sex toys and lube are “dirty” or “wrong,” there is actually nothing in the Bible that suggests that married couples who are using sex toys together are doing anything wrong! There is nothing that says, “Thou shalt not use sex toys,” so the myth that Christians can’t enjoy these additions to their bedroom repertoire is just that – a myth.

More and more Christian sex toy stores are popping up all over the Internet (and some are even actual brick and concrete stores) that cater specifically to religious couples. Book 22 is a website that offers “intimacy products for married couples,” and The Pure Bed is an online “married couples intimacy store.” Those are just a few of these types of stores that are becoming available to this niche – a quick Internet search will reveal dozens of stores that offer similar products for Christians.

The Benefit Of Sex Toy Stores For Christians

Lots of religious married couples are interested in purchasing “marital aids” or “intimacy products” for the bedroom, but don’t want to be assaulted by the sights, sounds and smells of a traditional sex toy store. Most traditional stores like this feature nudity on posters and pictures, as well as on the DVD’s that usually line the walls. Some stores even play samples of their video products on a television in-store! While many people don’t mind seeing men and women in various compromising sex positions, this can be particularly uncomfortable for couples of faith who are simply looking for lube, massage oils, condoms or even just sensual lingerie.

Many Christians enjoy purchasing from these types of establishments because they can usually shop from the comfort of their own home, without putting their sexual desires on display for others to see. The products are shipped in discreet packaging and only the man and woman who are using the sex toys will know what was purchased and from where. Making Christians feel safe when shopping for intimacy products is the goal of most of these stores.

What You WILL Find In A Christian Sex Toy Store

If you’re thinking about purchasing sex toys from a Christian based outlet, you’ll find a lot of great items that are intimate and affordable without being crass or objectionable to religious consumers. You might find things like:

• Lubes and flavored lubes
• Vibrators (bullet and torpedo style vibrators are common, while dildos and penis shaped vibrators are usually not offered)
• Massage oils
• Intimate, sensual lingerie
• Sex games
• Condoms
• Feather ticklers

What You WON’T Find In A Christian Sex Toy Store

While you will usually find the “tame” stuff at a store that caters to people of faith, don’t expect to find any of these items unless you’re looking in a traditional adult entertainment store:

• Anal sex products of any kind
• Pornography
• BDSM products
• Gay or lesbian products

Most Christians believe that sodomy is wrong based on biblical texts, so the sex toy stores that cater to this niche aren’t going to offer any type of anal beads, butt plugs or any type of anal sex product. The same goes for gay and lesbian products, since a large percentage of Christian couples believe that homosexuality is prohibited. Pornography usually isn’t available because most pornography features non-married sex, as well as activities such as anal sex that are objectionable.

Have Respect

In today’s society, everyone comes from a different walk of life. Each person has different beliefs and values, and it’s important to respect the beliefs and values of others while staying true to your own. Remember that trying to shove your personal beliefs down someone else’s throat is only going to end badly. Do what you’re comfortable doing and allow others do what they’re comfortable doing. Each person must decide for themselves what is okay for them and what isn’t, and this is part of what Christian sex toy stores are all about – allowing people to shop for what they want in an environment that feels comfortable and safe!

If A Woman Has A Sex Toy, She Won’t Need A Man

It is a common misconception that if a woman owns a vibrator or a dildo, that she will no longer need a man sexually. While sex toys are designed to give a woman an orgasm (and usually can do it faster and more efficiently), they will never replace the intimacy, love and comfort that a human being can provide for us. A sex toy can give a woman an orgasm, but it can’t make her feel loved and cherished. A sex toy can’t tell you it loves you. The same goes for men – just because a man masturbates, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t need or enjoy sex with his female partner.

More Expensive Sex Toys Are Better

Luxury sex toys are just that – a luxury. They look and feel great, but does that mean that more economical toys won’t do the job just as well? Not hardly. A modestly priced vibrator will give you the same buzz as a 24 K gold one encrusted with diamonds. Keep this in mind when shopping for a new dildo or vibrator. It’s important to stay within your budget, but don’t deny yourself a great sex toy just because you think you can’t afford a good one. There are lots of great vibrators and dildos that will leave you just as satisfied sexually as one that cost twice or three times as much. Don’t rush into making the purchase – find one that has everything you’re looking for in a sex toy that is priced affordably.

Only People With Bad Sex Lives Need To Use Sex Toys

Another common misconception about sex toys is that they’re reserved for single people or couples who don’t have very good sex lives. This is definitely not true! Sex toys can be part of a healthy and hot sexual relationship. They can enhance sexual pleasure for both men and women, and can help a woman have an orgasm when she ordinarily wouldn’t have one. In fact, many couples who don’t have good sex lives won’t use toys because they don’t talk about what feels good or what they’d like to try. Don’t underestimate communication in a sexual relationship! Lots of sex toys are designed for couples who want to add an extra kick to their already spicy sex life. For example, a clitoris vibrator can stimulate a woman while her partner penetrates her, while anal beads can make a blowjob absolutely amazing.

Sex Toys Aren’t “Natural”

Many women can’t achieve orgasm through “natural” sex – that is, without the help of a favorite toy. It is not at all uncommon for a woman to need a vibrator to help get her over the top, even if her partner does everything that pleases her, including oral sex or fingering. Some women just can’t get there without the help of a toy. Does this mean she should fake her orgasm in lieu of “natural” sex? Absolutely not. Every woman deserves a satisfying sex life, and sex toys can actually be a great part of a naturally satisfying sexual experience. Many couples who use them actually notice that their relationship improves, both in and out of the bedroom!

Sex Toys Can Hurt Your Body

There is no medical evidence to support the claim that even regular use of sex toys will damage the body when used properly. Keep in mind that if you are super aggressive with your toy (and this can happen even during “natural sex”), you stand a chance of hurting yourself or your partner. However, do some research about the toy you’re buying – certain toys should be used for certain activities. For example, anal sex toys should have a wide, flared base at the bottom to keep them from getting “lost” inside the anal cavity. Anything used for anal sex should have this, or it’s simply not safe to use for anal play and is better suited for vaginal penetration or other types of stimulation. You may also want to pay attention to what materials are being used for the objects in question and whether they can leave you with harmful side effects. If you’re allergic to latex, don’t get a latex sex toy!

Travel Size Sex Toys

Before going on your trip – whether you plan to travel by air, sea or by car – consider purchasing a smaller size sex toy instead of bringing your usual items with you. Smaller size objects are usually much more discreet and can be packed away nicely in a side pocket, makeup bag or even your purse. They’re much easier to handle than larger dildos and vibrators and the risk of getting caught with one is much lower than if you bring your Rabbit or a giant, penis-shaped dildo.

Small, bullet shaped vibrators are easy to carry (some can even be put on your keyring) and aren’t going to cause any suspicion if they get found, because they can pass for just about anything – even lipstick. If you’re worried that a small vibrator isn’t going to give you what your dildo at home does, don’t be too concerned about it. The smaller vibes will get the job done and a bigger, better orgasm isn’t worth having your favorite sex toy found – or worse, confiscated!

Discreet Sex Toys

While it is harder for someone else to tell that tiny bullet vibes are actually sex toys at first glance, there are other vibrators that are ultra discreet and designed specifically for stealth. Take the rubber duckie vibrator for example. Designed to look just like a simple rubber duckie for the bathub, it has a secret vibrating beak and tail that will turn a boring bubble bath into something much more! Small, handheld clitoris vibrators can be held in the palm of your hand and could easily pass for a laptop computer mouse, while other discreet sex toys look like pens with a secret vibrating end!

Tips For Traveling With Sex Toys

One you’ve picked your favorite out of the many sex toys that are great for vacationing, there are also some other guidelines you’ll want to follow just to make sure everything goes as smoothly as possible.

• Bring lube with you, but remember that lube is a liquid and needs to comply with the same airport guidelines for other liquids such as shampoo, lotion, sunscreen, etc.
• Keep the other items in your bag clean and dry by making sure you place your lube bottle in a plastic zipper bag in case there is leakage.
• Take the batteries out of any vibrator that you bring and pack them separately. Nothing draws attention at the airport than a vibrating suitcase!

If You Get Busted

Even if you’ve taken every precaution that you can to make sure your sex toys don’t get discovered while you’re traveling, you still might get busted. Remember though, even if you do get caught with a sex toy or vibrator in your luggage, it’s not illegal. Even the largest, most offensive “mega g-spot dildos” aren’t illegal to have with you while in a car, on a plane, or going on a cruise. You’ve done nothing wrong by bringing something of a sexual nature in your bag so you’re not going to get in trouble – it’s just going to be a pretty embarassing situation.

You can, however, lessen the embarassment by having a sense of humor about the situation! Laugh it off and say, “That’s my vibrator, sorry!” The security guards have pretty much seen it all before and don’t have the time to stand around and show everyone your sex toys. If you do get caught, your vibrator will most likely be shoved back into your bag and the line will move on. However, if you act suspiciously when your sex toys get pulled out of your bag for examination, they may think that there’s something more to it than just batteries, lube and fuzzy handcuffs. That’s something you don’t want to have to deal with! If you get busted, brush it off and move forward with having fun while traveling because that’s what it’s all about!

The Good

The We-Vibe II used on its own is all the things your bullet toy wished it could be and when used with your guy, it proves that sex toys don’t need rabbit ears to show you a good time!

The Bad

The coating is wonderful as far as how the toy feels while using it, but it does tend to have a little tackiness when not being used that can get dirty by things sticking to it. So make good use of the pretty satin bag that comes with it and store it away properly after washing and drying.

The Bottom Line

With a clitoris and g-spot stimulator, what more could a girl ask for? Rechargeable perhaps so you’re local store clerk doesn’t start giving you that pervy look when he sees you buying batteries…again? Or how about a soft silicone coating that is firm enough to offer solid stimulation, but soft enough to be comfortable? Oh, and water-resistant. Yes, yes and yes! (Excuse me a moment.) This sex toy has all of that, and more.

The Review

When you get your We-Vibe, you’ll notice that this toy is all class from the start. Even the packaging is as discreet as the toy itself. To look at it, it doesn’t openly scream, “I’m a sex toy!” where you need to be concerned if it were ever glimpsed by someone you didn’t necessarily want to know all your private business. It’s just a small, colorful, u-shaped device that could be for anything. The coating on it is a top-quality silicone, so what this means to us girls is that it’s soft, not a hard plastic feel like some sex toys.

Here’s the best part, well, the second-best part. It comes with a plug so you can recharge it! No batteries in this puppy! The great thing about this is, of course, you can always have it ready to go and you won’t have that horrific moment when it stops working at just the wrong moment (we have men for that, right?), and it also helps the toy keep it’s slender size since they don’t have to make room for batteries. There is a small dimple in the coating where you plug it in to re-charge it, which also keeps water from getting into the toy if you use it in the shower or bath.

Now for the best part… how it feels! It has a nice, strong motor in it that offers great vibration to the clitoral and g-spot areas. This allows for women who use it to achieve a blended orgasm! It’s also multi-functional, so you have a variety of options, one for every day of the week if you like. (I apologize in advance for you indecisive folks, because you’ll have a hard time deciding just which one you like best!) Used alone, it’s that hands-free, wireless sex toy you’ve been looking for. But where the tortoise beats the hare, or rabbit, is that it is perfect for using as a couple.  Many sex toys are designed to be used alone, but this one is actually awesome for couples to use! The thin design and soft coating are made for allowing a woman to get the stimulation she desires, while having sex with a partner. It may take you a minute to figure out the optimal way to wear the toy so it is in the correct position during penetration, but once you get it there….well, I’ll let you imagine. The great thing is that he is also getting additional pleasure from the internal vibrator against him. So if you happen to have a guy that is shy about sex toys, having one that you can use together, and makes sex feel better for him too, is a great way to get him to reconsider.

There are very few toys out right now that can offer everything that the We-Vibe II does. I definitely recommend that you add this to your ‘must-have’ list!

If you’ve never tried incorporating a sex toy into your routine, we have some great tips on how to select the right ones and how to introduce them to your partner. If you’re a seasoned sex toy or vibrator user, check out some of the more advanced items like sex furniture or smooth, icy glass. Sex games can also bring some much needed fun and excitement into the bedroom, and we’ve got the best of both adult toys & games.

Try testing your luck with a sexy dice roll to see if your partner will go down on you, or try some fun roleplaying with or without sexy costumes. This year, we have rated all the great sex toys, sex furniture, super fun sex games and of course, the best condoms. Here are our top picks for this year so you and your partner can start (or continue) having a sizzling hot sex life all next year!

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• Choosing Sex Toys For Her Without Ending Up In The Doghouse (Video)

Question:  Please tell us all about your favorite cock rings! My boyfriend and i use them all the time, and we’re always up for trying different ones out!

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Decide What Sex Toys You Are Looking For

Since there are so many different sex toys out there, it’s important to decide what you are looking for ahead of time. For example, if you are looking for a vibrator, start thinking about what you want it to do. Do you want it to have multiple speeds, be waterproof, or have attachments for anal penetration? The same goes for cock rings – decide what you want the ring to achieve before you go out and get one. Do you want one that vibrates so you can enjoy it as much as your partner? Or do you want something textured, or just a simple, metal ring? What size do you need? Thinking about the details first before you make a purchase will help keep you from being overwhelmed at all the choices that are available to you and help you narrow it down to what you actually want.

Safety Tips To Keep In Mind

When it comes to using sex toys, there are always safety tips that make things safer and therefore, more fun. While using a cock ring seems pretty straightforward, there are some things to keep in mind so you and your partner can both have fun in a safe way. Always use a good water or silicone based lube to slide the cock ring on. Trying to put one on without lube will either be very uncomfortable for your partner or you won’t be able to get it on at all. Never use a cock ring for more than thirty minutes. It is possible for the penis to swell beyond the point where you can actually get the ring off afterwards, which would require an emergency call to your doctor. Thirty minutes is about the maximum amount of time a man can safely wear a cock ring. Always use a good toy cleaner after use to keep your toys clean, and avoid putting jelly or silicone style cock rings together – they can actually adhere to each other!

Different Sex Toys To Try

Cock rings come in all different shapes, sizes and textures. There are many more options available than just your simple ring-style toy. Here are some different ones you can try:

His And Hers Rabbits Cockring: Two vibrating rabbits are attached to a silicone ring that slides over the penis. The rabbits’ ears are designed to stimulate her clitoris and his testicles at the same time!

Bong O Cock Ring: A silicone vibrating ring that has a weighted gold ball attachement that is designed to bounce over a man’s testicles and perineum for added stimulation for him.

Double Penetrator Cockring: A silicone toy with a dildo attached to the base of the ring to allow for double penetration. Use this to have vaginal penetration and anal sex at the same time!

 If you’ve never tried a cock ring before, start basic and work your way up to the more adventerous styles of sex toys. If you’re using one simply to help your erection last longer, a simple, metal style ring will work just as well – if not better – than some of the softer, silicone varieties. The soft, silicone toys are great for men and couples that are just having fun, but may lack enough substance to really keep your erection going strong. If you’ve already experimented with this type of stimulation before, don’t be afraid to try new ones and check out some different styles. While the actual ring is designed to make an erection stronger, the attachements that come on different styles are geared towards so many different things from amazing clitoral stimulation to anal sex and more. The great thing about this type of sex toy is that the different sensations that you can experience are never ending!

Pay Attention To What She Likes In Bed

There are things she likes in bed and things she doesn’t, so it makes sense to get her a sex toy that is designed for an activity that she enjoys doing with you. Don’t worry, it won’t replace you – the right one will add to your sex life and make it hotter than ever before. For example, does she prefer to have her clitoris stimulated over anything else you do? Buy her a clitoral vibrator, which are designed to massage and stimulate the clitoris only. Or does she prefer vaginal or anal penetration? If that’s the case, select an item that is designed for g-spot stimulation or anal sex – or both!

Pay Attention To Your Penis Size

When picking something out for vaginal penetration, select something that is similar to your penis size. If you have a smaller penis, go for something that isn’t much larger than you are. You don’t have to select something that looks exactly like you in size or shape, but anything along those lines or a little smaller will work well. If you get something that is too large for her, especially for the first time, it may be painful for her. You can always graduate to larger sizes and start experimenting with different styles once you’ve both gotten used to using sex toys in the bedroom. On the same token, if you’re hung like a horse, don’t get a small, short or slim vibrator and expect her to like it – she probably won’t.

Stick With What You’ve Already Tried

When introducing a sex toy to your partner for the first time, you don’t want to get her something designed for an activity that she’s never tried before. This will most likely end badly and with you sleeping out on the couch – or worse, in the doghouse! For example, if she’s never tried anal sex, do NOT get her anal beads or a butt plug! This will make her uncomfortable, whether she decides to try it or not. Either way, you’ve just nixed the idea of ever bringing sex toys into the bedroom again. Instead, choose one that will be used in a way that she’s already familiar with through having sex with you. Most girls enjoy clitoral stimulation, since that’s generally how girls begin to masturbate when they’re younger. A clitoral vibrator is your safest bet if you and your partner haven’t tried much else.

Couples Sex Toys

If you’re bringing sex toys into the bedroom for the first time, you don’t necessarily have to get her something that is designed for her use alone. While these make great gifts later, what you choose for the first time should be something that is for you and her to use with each other. There are lots of sex toys out there for couples, and any sex toy can be used by both you and your lover together. Remote control vibrators give you the power to make her feel pleasure, without her having to do a thing. You can also just use a simple, sleek vibrator with your partner as though you were fingering her. If she enjoys anal stimulation, try using a butt plug or anal beads as you perform oral sex on your lover.

Don’t Forget The Lube

Even the best sex toys aren’t going to be fun to use without the right lube. Choose a lubricant that is either water or silicone based (depending on the material of the item you select) and is easy to clean up. Baby oil and other household “lubes” may break down latex and render the toy useless after just a few ventures outside the bottom drawer of the nightstand. You’ll also want to invest in a good toy cleaner, although hot, soapy water works well too. Specially designed cleaner will keep your toy looking like new for longer – which is a good investment if you end up selecting something that is more expensive or high end. You can also slip a condom over it if you really want it to last!

Cucumber Or Zucchini

A very popular homemade sex toy is the cucumber or zucchini. Many girls like to experiment with these instead of a traditional dildo, because it is easy to experiment with different sizes, shapes and textures. Other popular vegetables that can be used in place of a dildo include carrots and celery. These types of vegetables are popular sex toys among teenage girls and women alike, because they do not require a special trip to an adult toy store – instead, they’re available everywhere, including your local grocery and convenience stores. The downsides to using phallic shaped sex toys in lieu of professional sex toys is that many vegetables have cuts or knicks in them that can harbor bacteria. This bacteria can be transferred to the vagina or anus and can cause an infection in the body. If you must use a vegetable instead of a sex toy, slip a condom over it.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Slim Pink Pleaser or The Illumination by Doc Johnson.

Spinning Toothbrush

Some women enjoy using a spinning or sonic toothbrush on the clitoris in place of a vibrator. This will actually definitely work well in a pinch, especially if you’re traveling and don’t want to take your favorite sex toy with you. However, this is probably not something you want to use long term, because frankly, there are just so many better things out there to use to massage and stimulate the clitoris to achieve orgasm. Besides, you don’t really want to put your toothbrush back in your mouth after you’ve just gotten done using it down there, do you? Professional sex toys designed for clitoral stimulation are probably the best choice here, because many of them are just as discreet and easy to use. Think of a soft, squishy yet textured clitoral vibrator that feels just like a tongue – plus more.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Illumination by Doc Johnson or The Clitoral Kisser

Toilet Paper Roll

Many guys use a toilet paper roll for masturbation instead of their hands – ouch! They achieve a “vagina like feel” by stuffing a grocery bag inside the roll and squirting lube inside to allow it to slide up and down the penis. While this is definitely a cheaper alternative than a professional male masturbator, there are definitely some disadvantages to using this type of homemade sex toy. First of all, a male masturbator made from latex or silicone just feels better, and can come textured or ribbed for your pleasure. Paired with a good lube, a male masturbator will make it feel more like a vagina. Male masturbators are surprisingly inexpensive and easy to purchase – plus they can be turned inside out and cleaned thoroughly (with either special sex toy cleaner or good old fashioned hot soapy water) to make it last longer.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Super Head Honcho Masturbator

Clothespins

Men and women have both been known to use spring clothespins as nipple clamps. This is actually a very bad idea! Clothespins cannot be adjusted at all to make them squeeze harder or softer, and usually they squeeze really, really hard (unless they’re broken). Clothespins can squeeze too hard and hurt or bruise the nipple, making it painful for days afterwards. Instead, try to find professional nipple clamps with a sliding adjuster on it that will allow you to control how hard the clamp will squeeze. If you like rough sex, move the slider so that the clamp squeezes harder. If you prefer vanilla sex, adjust the clamp so that it only gives you a light pressure sensation.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Feather Fetish Nipple Clamp or Micro Vibrating Nipple Clamps

DIY Anal Beads

Some people who enjoy anal sex are using marbles, golf balls or other round objects of varying sizes and placing them in a condom to create a homemade set of anal beads. They either tie the condom in knots between the round objects or use string to tie them. While this will work to provide stimulation of the prostate gland, it is a very dangerous homemade sex toy to use. The condom can easily break and the objects inside can get lost inside the anal cavity, causing you a very expensive and embarrassing trip to the emergency room. Most anal beads are inexpensive and come in a variety of sizes for people who enjoy different anal sensations. Anal beads are also safer to use because they can be cleaned thoroughly with a toy cleaner or soap and hot water. It is extremely important to keep your anal sex toys clean and wash them after each and every use!

Adam & Eve Alternative: x10 Anal Beads

Candy Necklace

There are lots of fun things you can do with a candy necklace, ranging from the tame and sensual to the downright naughty. Start off slow by putting the necklace on your partner and nibbling each piece of candy off the necklace slowly to start getting things heated up. This is a great way for you to sneak in kisses on your partner’s neck in between kissing them sensuously on the lips. To take things up a notch, wrap the candy necklace around your partner’s penis and tease him by slowly removing the candy pieces one by one. Just be careful not to nip the skin!

Chocolate Sauce

Chocolate sauce is a great way to turn your partner on, because chocolate is an especially powerful sexual aphrodisiac and it is also downright delicious! Entice your partner by drizzling a little chocolate sauce on their lips and then kissing them deeply, sucking the chocolate sauce off. Drizzle some over their chest and nipples, and then all the way down to their genitals. Leave yourself a chocolate sauce trail to follow from their chin to their inner thighs, stopping a few times to give your partner oral sex. Guys may want to keep a glass of water nearby to rinse their mouth before going down on a girl, because a lot of sugar near or in the vagina can disrupt the pH in the vagina and cause yeast infections.

Red Hots

Don’t underestimate the power of a little heat when it comes to sex and giving your partner head. These little cinnamon candies are great for freshening up before kissing your partner and then surprising them with an extra long, deeply sensual kiss with a hint (or more) of cinnamon candy. They definitely won’t be expecting the cinnamon punch! Bring the Red Hots into the bedroom for even more fun, because they’re great for oral sex. Give him a blowjob with a few of the candies in your mouth and he’ll be clawing at the bedsheets. Not only does the cinnamon create a tingly, warm sensation while you’re going down on him, the candies moving around in your mouth will stimulate spots even he didn’t think he had.

Fruit By The Foot

Fruit By The Foot or Fruit Rollups are a much more inexpensive and better tasting alternative to edible panties. With a little creativity, you can create edible bras, underwear or even a bra and panties set! To turn your partner on, create some fruity, sexy panties and show your partner your creation by modeling them for him. Then, offer him a lick or two – or the whole thing! It’s a great way to get a guy that doesn’t like going down a little more incentive to give you oral sex. You can also wrap Fruit By The Foot or Fruit Rollups around your partner’s penis before you give him a blowjob. You can nibble the treats off his penis or you can wait until they disentigrate, although this may take awhile.

Pop Rocks

Everybody knows that this fun, popping candy is a great for oral sex and if someone hasn’t tried using Pop Rocks when giving your partner head, they probably kn0w someone who has. Before going down on your partner, toss a small handful of Pop Rocks in your mouth and wait until they start to pop and crackle. When the candy starts popping, place your partner’s penis in your mouth and be still for just a few moments, allowing him to fully experience the popping sensations. It will drive him wild! Then give him a few good strokes with your mouth before putting another handful of Pop Rocks on your tongue and giving him some more snap, crackle and pop. Guys can also use Pop Rocks when going down on their girls, but they need to be careful not to get any candy inside the vagina. Instead, try placing the Pop Rocks on her clitoris and holding them there with your tongue, allowing the popping action to titillate her most sensitive spot.

Sex Toys And Masturbation Make Orgasms Better

If you’ve never had an orgasm before, or your orgasms are few and far between when having sex with your partner, it’s time to invest in a great sex toy. This is especially true if you’ve never masturbated before! If you’re using a sex toy during masturbation, you will find that your orgasms come more frequently, as well as being more powerful and intense. Masturbation, even without a sex toy, helps to train your body to experience pleasure and reach orgasm without the stress and pressure of trying to reach climax with your partner. Many women who have never had an orgasm before aren’t ever going to reach their first orgasm in front of their partners because the stress and pressure to perform is just too much. Female masturbation can help a woman find her body’s own pleasure buttons without feeling like she’s being watched or being expected to reach climax. When a woman gives herself time to explore her body on her own with a sex toy, she is more likely to reach orgasm – and it’s probable that her orgasm will be absolutely incredible!

Why Your Partner Will Love Your New Sex Toy

When a woman masturbates, she learns more about how her body works and how she likes to recieve pleasure. This is excellent information that she can pass on to her partner! Women who have never masturbated or used a sex toy before have absolutely no idea what they like best sexually or what will bring them to climax. They don’t know how they like to be touched or even what feels good! How can a man know what a woman wants or likes if she doesn’t even know herself? Women who don’t masturbate essentially send their partners into sex blind, and they can only guess how she wants to be pleased. When she doesn’t reach orgasm (how could she?) he ends up feeling like he has failed her in some way, even though he tried his very best. Even guys who know just about everything there is to know about a female orgasm may not be able to make his girl reach climax if she’s never masturbated before. When a woman masturbates, however - especially if she uses a sex toy – she’ll learn about what she likes and how she likes it. She’ll show her partner her new discoveries and he’ll be inspired to use the same techniques to give her an orgasm during sex! So while many women believe that masturbating alone and using a sex toy is detrimental to their sexual relationship with their partners, quite the opposite is true. Using a sex toy and masturbating on your own will actually help make your sex life with your partner even hotter!

Which Sex Toy To Choose?

Of course, your first time sex toy shopping is going to seem a little overwhelming. There are so many different toys to choose from that offer so many different types of sensations. It’s easy to get lost or confused when selecting your first sex toy. There are, however, a few simple guidelines you can use to help narrow down the selection. You definitely don’t want to choose a giant double ended dildo, anal beads or anything of that nature. If you want to go for vaginal penetration, choose a sleek, slim dildo or vibrator instead. If you want to go for clitoral stimulation only, select a vibrator that is made specifically to be used on the clitoris only. While many people claim that getting used to using a vibrator to reach orgasm will train your body to only be able to reach climax with vibration, sporadic use can actually help you learn how your body goes through the stages of pleasure and orgasm. If you’re not sure whether you want to go with a vibrator or not, try getting a small, inexpensive toy that vibrates and one that doesn’t. That way, you can find out for yourself which one you like the best.

What Makes Glass Sex Toys So Appealing?

First of all, glass sex toys are very visually appealing. They’re often handcrafted with high end glass that can come in clear or a variety of different colors swirled together. While many traditional silicone dildos and vibrators are very obviously dildos and vibrators, glass sex toys can easily be mistaken for a small sculpture or work of art. Another major benefit of glass sex toys over other styles of toys is that they retain temperature easily. If you like to play with heat and cold during sex, a glass sex toy may just be right up your alley. If you place your toy in a bucket of ice or the freezer, it is going to become cold very quickly and stay cold. You can take the toy out after just a few minutes if you want it just a little cooler than room temperature, or you can leave it for several minutes or even an hour or two if you want it to feel ice cold. You can also warm it up by running it under warm water or even placing it in a bowl of very hot water. If you use very hot water, definitely allow the toy to cool some before placing it in the anus, vagina or on the clitoris and check the temperature against your wrist before using.

Using A Glass Sex Toy

In addition to excellent geothermal properties, glass sex toys are also very, very hard. They feel quite different from a traditional sex toy, dildo or vibrator. They are excellent for g-spot stimulation and prostate stimulation, because they provide the firmness and intensity needed to reach g-spot or prostate orgasms. Many different types of glass toys can be used for vaginal penetration, but if you plan on using your glass toy for anal penetration, make sure it has a wide base or ring on the outside end. A ring will be uncomfortable if not impossible to sit on, while a flared base at the end of the toy offers more flexibility and comfort. Either way, if it doesn’t have a wide base on the end, it could get lost in the anus and require a trip to the emergency room. Remember to use lube with your toy, but use sparingly. Glass does not need a lot of lubrication to become very, very slippery! Glass sex toys are also incredibly easy to clean. They can be cleaned with simple soap and water or can be placed in your dishwasher for that super smooth clean. Latex or silicone can become harder to clean after prolonged use, even if you use a special sex toy cleaner. On the other hand, when you clean glass sex toys, they stay clean.

Selecting A Glass Sex Toy

When choosing a glass sex toy, it is important to consider the quality of the item. In this case, you really are going to get what you pay for. High end, quality glass is more resistant to breakage and chipping whereas other types of glass toys may be more apt to break or chip easily. Never, ever substitute a glass sex toy for a glass beverage bottle or any other type of glass object. If you want to use glass for sex, get a glass sex toy! Choose one that you like but that also suits your needs and what you’re going to use it for. A glass dildo with a flared base can be used for both anal sex and vaginal penetration, while one without a wide base can only be used for vaginal sex. To keep your glass sex toy in good condition, clean after every use and regularly inspect your toy for cracks, breaks and chips. Never, ever use a chipped or cracked glass toy! Keep your glass toy stored at room temperature, preferably wrapped in a soft cloth or towel. When properly cared for, a glass sex toy is a worthwhile investment – they can give you unimaginable pleasure and incredible orgasms, as well as last for many, many years.

Kegel Exercises

Sure, you’ve heard of kegel exercises. Sit down (or stand up if you like – in fact, kegels can be done anywhere and anytime) clench your vaginal muscles as though you were stopping the flow of urine, hold for ten seconds or more and release. Repeat ad nauseam. Kegels are a very powerful way to tighten your vaginal and pelvic floor muscles, however, they’re not the only thing you can use and definitely not the best way to make your vagina feel like brand new again. For centuries, women have been using one secret sex toy to keep their vaginas tight and fit for sex and now you can too!

Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls are small, weighted balls that are inserted into your vagina and kept there for a period of time. You will naturally use all of your vaginal, anal and pelvic floor muscles to keep them inside your vaginal canal. This will completely and thoroughly exercise your muscles without you consciously having to do very much at all! There are so many different types of Ben Wa Balls available on the market and the best thing is that absolutely no one will know that you’re using them! For first time Ben Wa Ball users, start with lighter weight ones that have a string attached to them. You can get them in soft silicone or even the vibrating variety for extra pleasure! As you become a more advanced user, you can graduate to heavier balls, such as metal or glass balls, which will exercise your muscles more and more. Just like when exercising any muscle in your body, you need to start off small and build your way up to heavier equipment.

How To Get The Ultimate Tight Vagina

In addition to using Ben Wa Balls to tighten and improve the muscle tone in your vaginal walls, you can also use tightening and vaginal rejuvanation cream (such as PK24) to increase blood flow to your vagina and hydrate your vaginal walls. Creams and gels used for tightening aren’t long lasting, however, PK24 can last up to 24 hours. Other tightening products work for shorter periods, but can also be used right before sex to create even tighter sensations. Using Ben Wa Balls and tightening creams not only make sex better for your partner, but they will also make sex better for you! Women who use tightening creams and Ben Wa Balls regularly report having better, more powerful orgasms and that they’re able to reach orgasm more quickly and easily. If you’ve been living with vagina that you’re not happy with, don’t consider surgery or other drastic options until you’ve tried Ben Wa Balls first! They just might change the way you have sex forever!

Why Do You Need Lube?

If you haven’t used lube before, you definitely need to try it! Chances are, you’ll never go back to having sex without it. Sexual lubricant makes sex feel better, because it reduces the amount of friction during sex. Sex feels smoother, slicker and lasts longer than if you’re just using saliva or not using anything at all.

Water Based Lubricants

Water based lubes are by far the best lubes out there. They’re simply made of water and glycerine and are extremely cost effective. They’re easy to use and easy to clean – in fact, you can clean up water based lube with just water, no soap required! It doesn’t stain your clothes or your sheets, but it will wear out quickly since it’s a thinner style lube that closely mimics a woman’s natural lubricant. You can’t use water based lube in the water, because it will rinse off quickly, but other than that, water based lube is definitely your go-to lube. Keep it by your bedside and use as necessary. Many lubes even come with a convenient pump that makes using it a breeze.

Silicone Based Lubricants

Silicone based lubes are a little thicker and are much better to use in the water because they don’t rinse off as easily. You can still clean up silicone lubricant easily with soap and water (and maybe a little elbow grease) but it’s great if you’re having sex or masturbating in the shower or pool. It also lasts longer than water based lubricant, so it’s a little better for those marathon sex sessions. Silicone based lube is safe for most sex toys, but it cannot be used with toys made from silicone! If you have a silicone toy, you’re better off using water based lube. Silicone lube isn’t recommended for frequent vaginal use because although the vagina is self cleaning, it’s difficult to get the silicone based lube out.

Oil And Petroleum Based Lubes

Oil and petroleum based lubes are the hardest to clean and are very thick. They can stain your clothes and sheets and can’t be used with latex at all. If you use latex condoms or have a latex sex toy, oil or petroleum based lubricant will begin to break down the latex. Not so bad if you’re just using a sex toy, but if you’re using a condom to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, oil or petroleum lube can make the condom completely ineffective. Water or silicone based lubes are definitely better choices all around! If you must use an oil based lube, use it only for male masturbation. Women can use it during masturbation too (if the toys aren’t latex) but it is extremely hard to clean the vagina afterwards.

Flavored And Scented Lubes

Flavored or scented lubricants can be both silicone or water based (most likely water based) and are excellent to use for oral sex or just simply if you want a lube that smells and tastes good. There’s no difference between the effectiveness of a flavored or scented lube and a plain one, so it’s definitely a personal choice. There are many different flavors on the market, including yummy ones like strawberry or strawberry-kiwi.

Warming Lubes

Warming lubes can also be silicone or water based, but are most likely water based. A component within the formula of the lube makes the lube warm up during sex, and continue to get warmer during intercourse or masturbation. Warming lubes are great to have on hand if you want something a little different during sex, however, some people aren’t fond of just how warm and tingly warming lubricants can get when using them. If a warming lube is too hot for you, try diluting it with some regular lube for just a little extra kick.

Numbing And Desensitizing Lubes

There are numbing and desensitizing lubes and creams available on the market, but they do not come recommended. These are most often used for anal sex, since anal sex (especially the first time) can be quite painful. Numbing lubes will ease the pain of anal sex or even first time vaginal sex, but being pain free doesn’t necessarily mean there isn’t something wrong going on. You may not be able to feel the pain if your anus or lower colon tears, but tears can still happen and land you right in the emergency room. To put it bluntly, you need to be able to feel pain during anal sex so you can stop if something gets to painful or you feel like something might be wrong. Anuses aren’t made to accomodate large objects such as toys or penises (although they can) and the result can be a tear or even a bowel perforation. Don’t use numbing or desensitizing lube during anal sex because if you start to feel a lot of pain, it’s time to stop.

All Natural And Sensitive Skin Lubricants

An uncommon yet growing category of sexual lubricants are ones that are made for people with very sensitive skin. These lubes can be made with all natural ingredients and without dyes and perfumes that can be potentially irritating. If you have very sensitive skin and are using “free & clear” detergents and soaps in your home, consider using an all natural or sensitive skin lube during sex too.

Looks Fabulous

Have you ever had a sex swing, sex toy or some unearthly contraption that you hide when you’rsee not using it because it just looks so tacky? Meet the Tantra Sex Chair. This piece of furniture is actually a fabulous work of art that looks great in any bedroom, living room or den. It actually looks like a thin, curved chaise lounge. It comes in a variety of textures and colors that will complement any decor, so you don’t have to find somewhere to put it every time company comes over. Classy, yet deviously dirty when you turn the lights out!

American Made Engineered Leather

For those who oppose products made from animals, such as real leather or suede, the Tantra Sex Chair is actually made out of a wonderfully soft and pliable engineered leather. Engineered leather is not only better for animals and the environment, it is also easier to clean! Simply take a soft, damp cloth and wipe the Tantra Sex Chair down when you want to keep it clean. The Tantra Sex Chair is also American made, manufactured right in the heart of Arizona. You can be sure that the addition to your furniture collection was not made in a sweatshop across the globe! If you have questions about your Tantra Sex Chair, you’ll always be able to reach an easy to talk to representative that will be more than happy to help.

Helps Support The Body In Kama Sutra Sex Positions

Sure, the Tantra Sex Chair looks great and it’s environmentally friendly and American made, but does it really do what it says it’s going to do? Will it really make sex that much better for you and your partner? Yes, and much, much more. The gently curved design of the Tantra Sex Chair enables you and your partner get into virtually any position that you can come up with, and it was specially made to enhance the sex positions found in the well known sex tome The Kama Sutra. Many of the positions in the Kama Sutra book can be difficult to get into and stay in, let alone create enough friction between you and your partner to allow for pleasure. Not everyone is flexible enough to get into some of those positions, however, the Tantra Sex Chair will put an end to your sex position frustrations. Use this amazing chair to put a twist into man on top or woman on tip, or try sitting up face to face with your partner. The Tantra Sex Chair will also help support you and your partner’s bodies when performing oral sex on each other, or even while going solo! Your imagination is the only thing limiting you when you’re using the Tantra Sex Chair to spice up your sex life.

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“Help me out here,” you’re probably saying. “If I wanted to think, I wouldn’t have turned on my computer and Googled ‘sexy gift ideas.’” Well, go ahead and order the Ima Virgin Sexy Bride costume then. But deep down you’ll know that you just picked something off of the first page of search results. Even worse, so might your partner! Trust me. Put a little bit of effort out and it will be worth it.

Find Their Fantasies

First of all, does your partner have any fantasies? If you know what they are, your job is pretty easy. Many times, however, you won’t. People tend to be shy about these things. Do a little digging. If you happen to find out, for example, that your babe has dreams where she’s a damsel in distress and you’re her knight in shining armor, a trip to Medieval Times might get the night off to a great start. Maybe his fantasy is to be with nurse. Don’t stop at buying (or renting for the risk-taking folks) a costume. Arrange an evening that puts him in a “hospital” bed—maybe even where he is incapable of moving, due to whatever injuries you have concocted—with you taking care of his every…need.

Do something surprising. A dim desk lamp with a light blue cloth over it makes a great fake moon. Set up a moonlit beach picnic in your living room. Googling ‘sexy gift ideas’ won’t point you towards the Ocean Moods CD, but that can be part of your plan. With the right background ambiance, a bottle of Yellowtail wine, and a basket full of goodies, you’ve got yourself some sex on the beach in the privacy of your living room (without the sand in your you-know-what). What’s more, this can be yours for under a grand total of thirty bucks. You can bet she’ll be bragging to her buddies about the crazy, romantic, sexy thing her man did last night!

Get Creative

Or maybe a beach setting isn’t his thing. Maybe your man prefers the rustic outdoors in a camp setting. Pitch a tent (ahem!) in the living room—though I don’t recommend driving stakes into the floor—and roast s’mores. Rather than telling scary stories, take turns telling erotic stories.

Creativity is the key here. You can be as tame or as raunchy as you think is appropriate. The point is, you’re the one who knows. Or, at least, you’re the one in the best position to figure it out. It’s all the things that happen day to day that inspire the thoughts that come to us by night. Don’t be afraid of looking nerdy or whipped. Pay attention to what’s going on. Listen. Try new things.

But getting your first vibrator and using it for the first time doesn’t have to be confusing. Here are some great tips on what to do when you get your first vibrator.

6 Smart Rules For Using A Vibrator

1. Never insert any vibrator to the point where it cannot be controlled or removed. You may feel tempted to go a little deeper, but if you end up getting the vibrator lodged too far inside your vagina, you’re going to need assistance having it removed. This can result in a very painful and possibly damaging situation.

2. Always clean your vibrator after every use. Unwashed vibrators are excellent breeding grounds for all kinds of bacteria. Inserting a dirty vibrator in your vagina can easily give you a nasty bacterial infection that would require a doctor’s care to get rid of. Plus, clean, smooth and great smelling toys always feel so much better!

3. To make clean up easier, you can place a condom over the vibrator before use. If you often take your vibrator with you on the go, washing your vibrator with soap and water or toy cleaner may not always be a feasible option for you. Slip a condom over your vibrator before using and when you’re finished, simply take the condom off and throw it away!

4. Use only compatible water based lubes with your sex toy. Some sexual lubricants cause different types of vibrators’ material to break down and degrade. Not fun if you’ve spent a lot of money on the perfect vibrator! A good rule of thumb to remember is that water based lube works well with everything.

5. If it hurts, stop! While that seems simple enough to remember, such is not always the case. Many women compare themselves to women in adult movies, or that’s the only form of sex education they got and as a result they end up hurting themselves. Often, the way women use vibrators and dildos in adult movies is grossly exaggerated. Don’t feel like you have to make it hurt to make it good.

6. Do not use your vibrator on broken or irritated skin. You could possibly get an infection or at best, make your irritated skin feel even more uncomfortable and painful.

Additional Tips

• Inspect your vibrator upon arrival. Look for tears, holes and other defects in the toy. Plug it in or charge it’s batteries and make sure it turns on and off, and that all the buttons work. If the toy has to be returned for any reason, it’s better that you find out before you use it.
• Learn how to use it. Take some time just playing with the vibrator to see how it works and what it does. Learn how to work the vibrator first before you take it in the bedroom. Then you can experiment with the best techniques and positions for pleasure.
• Wash your vibrator before using it for the first time. Manufacturing companies and packing plants aren’t very clean places for your vibrator to have hung out in before you bought it.
• Use lube. It just feels better. Besides, vibrators aren’t self lubricating.
• Get comfortable. Using your vibrator is about taking charge of your own pleasure.

Question: How is a vibrator different than a dildo? Some of my friends say it is the same thing.

–YouTube Viewer

What Is A Dildo?

Typically, a dildo is used for insertion only. The most common type of dildos are the ones that are molded to look like real penises, but any sex toy that is used for insertion in either the vagina or the anus is a considered a dildo. Dildos can come in a variety of shapes, sizes, colors and textures and range from the very small and discreet to the very large and kinky. Anal dildos have a wide, flared base at the bottom to prevent the toy from going too far inside the anal cavity, and some dildos have attachments for both anal and vaginal insertion at the same time. There are double dildos for use by two people, or dildos with strap on attachments that can be worn hands free.

What Is A Vibrator?

Dildos can also be vibrators, but not all vibrators are considered dildos. Vibrating dildos are used for insertion, but other types of vibrators exist as well. Clitoral vibrators are among the most popular type of vibrators for women, and are made to simply be placed on the clitoris. These types of vibrators are typically small, but some of them can be quite large, especially wand vibrators that are also sold as back and shoulder massagers. Other vibrators include anal vibrators and vibrating beads, bullets and ben-wa balls. G-spot vibrators are also popular for women, as they’re made for insertion into the vagina but include a special curve that allows them to reach and stimulate the g-spot.

How To Choose The Best Toy For You

There are so many different sex toys to choose from, it is sometimes hard to figure out which one you’ll like best. First, decide whether you want a toy that vibrates or not. If you don’t want anything that vibrates, you’re going to be looking mostly at dildos and can simply decide which size and texture you’d like to try. If you do want some type of vibrating toy, decide whether you want one for clitoral stimulation, vaginal insertion or both. Many vibrators come with clitoral vibrating attachements, giving you both types of pleasure at once. If you’re looking for clitoral stimulation only, try a small vibrating bullet or even a strap-on vibrator that you can wear both during sex and under your clothes that can give you hands free vibration. If you’re looking for both clitoral vibration and vaginal vibration or simply vaginal vibration, look for a Rabbit vibrator or a slim and sleek, easy to use vibrator. You may want to have more than one sex toy in your dresser drawer, because you may be in the mood for something a little different now and then!

Question: Hey Dan and Jenn! Firstly, thanks for answering my last question. I’m in a long distance relationship at the moment – I’m in Denmark and my boyfriend is in Turkey. Our relationship is great and we fulfill our needs over webcam often, but I was wondering if there was any remote control sex toys that could work over that distance? I could send it to him and give him control over my sexual pleasure! I love your show and you both have always been very helpful to me, so thanks and have a wonderful day!

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Advances In Sex Toy Technology

While remote control vibrators have been around for awhile, teledildonics hasn’t. Remote control vibrators are usually battery powered, and the remote has a very short receiving distance. These types of vibrators are great for spicing up sex play in the bedroom (or another room) with your partner but have no real application for long distance relationships. Teledildonics, on the other hand, allow partners over long distances to control each other’s sex toys over the Internet. Imagine being able to give your partner an orgasm from thousands of miles away!

Teledildonic Sex Toys For Her

In the future, we will see more options available for teledildonic sex toys, but right now the best toy out there for her is an Internet enabled rabbit vibrator. The rabbit vibrator is one of the most popular vibrators available for women, allowing for penetration, g-spot stimulation and clitoral tickling all in one. The Internet enabled rabbit allows your partner to control your vibrator from wherever he is. He can choose when to tickle your clit, when to stimulate your g-spot and how hard or fast he wants it to go. With this teledildonic sex toy, your orgasm is completely in the hands of your partner! This is an excellent option for couples in long distance relationships or those where one or both partners are away on business often.

Teledildonic Sex Toys For Him

The Real Touch teledildonic masturbator is one of the most revolutionary male masturbators available on the market. This device is designed to be used in conjunction with adult videos, and uses USB technology to sync the motions of the Real Touch with what the adult video star is doing onscreen. The Real Touch offers gentle heat to simulate natural body heat and a lubricant dispenser to mimic the way a woman’s vagina will lubricate itself during sex. While the Real Touch device can be somewhat difficult to clean as it cannot be submerged in water or placed in your dishwasher, many men will enjoy the ability to masturbate completely hands free. This is an excellent teledildonic sex toy for long distance relationships, but it can also be used by any man who wants a revolutionary masturbatory experience.

Long gone will be the days of shyly talking dirty via Instant Messenger or even engaging in webcam peek-a-boo. While these methods of gratification may continue to hold a place in our hearts (and pants), the virtual sex industry is looking toward the future for new and different ways of stimulating its customers.

Sexy Video Games?

One avenue will be through video games. While there have been implied sexuality in video games, it has rarely been explicit. However, gamers are wanting more - more violence, more action, more control, and yes, more sex. Recently, it was discovered that a hidden “scene” in Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas allowed the main character to enter a house and engage in explicit coitus. But will consumers be content to merely watch such a scene? With such physically interactive consoles becoming exponentially more popular, how long will it be until a sexed up version of Wii Fit is released?

While video games have not yet reached this point, the Internet certainly has…and how! Some games innocently poke at the notion of sex like The Sims, while others base character development off of it. Red Light Social Center, for example, is an Internet-based social network, which allows its VIP members to engage in cyber sex with other avatars. The popular game, Second Life, even has a thriving prostitution industry (using real money, no less).

A Virtual Sex Machine

The most interesting developments in the area of virtual sex will combine the Internet and technology in a movement called teledildonics. The invention making waves is the Virtual Sex Machine. After affixing the machine (which resembles the infamous enlargement pumps of the past) to his penis and turning on a specially designed DVD, a user can experience the sensations which mimic the porn star’s actions. For example, onscreen fellatio will trigger different settings within the machine, causing the user to feel as though he is the recipient.

One potential off-shoot of the VSM will enable a person (possibly one who is performing sexual acts on webcam) to control the machine—and thus, the sensations—of another person. Similarly, such sites as Sinulate.com are releasing vibrators which are connected to a computer, and which allow another person to control the action from a different room or even a different country.

The sex industry is anything if not resourceful. They can take a current technology and tweak it ever so slightly, in order to create a new product or service. For example, the iBuzz is an iPod with a vibrator attached to it. When the volume is increased, the vibrations increase. They speed up for fast songs, slow down for the calmer ones, beating in time to the music.

Yet for all these new inventions and ideas, will virtual sex ever completely eradicate the need for real, person-to-person contact? Or will vibrators, webcams, and avatars always be second-best? I should hope so.

Making Anal Sex Safer

The anus, unlike the vaginal canal, was not designed for sexual stimulation or penetration. That doesn’t mean you can’t do it, but it will take a lot more effort to make anal sex safer for both you and your partner. The most important thing to do when having anal sex is to start slowly! Communicate with your partner about how something feels and if something hurts or feels uncomfortable, you definitely want to say something. Don’t keep doing it if it hurts! You could definitely tear something. You also want to make sure that you’re using lots of good, water based lubricant – not the desensitizing kind – to make sure everything goes smoothly. When you’re finished with your anal play, make sure you clean your toys and everything else that came into contact with your anus thoroughly with hot, soapy water or special sanitizing sex toy cleaner.

Safer Anal Sex Toys

All anal sex toys should have a wide, flared base to prevent the toy from moving its way past your anus and into your intestines which can and will happen if you do not have a base on the end of the toy to keep it from doing so. When using anal sex toys, it’s important to start small and work your way up, as opposed to starting with a very large anal sex toy. The anus can stretch to accomodate a variety of toy or penis sizes, but it is important that you don’t start large right away and give your anus time to stretch and become pliable or your anus or intestines may tear.

What Do Anal-Only Toys Really Do?

A butt plug is a popular anal toy, and it has a wide base and a narrow neck, with a wide angled “plug” at the top. It is designed to go in the anus and stay there during sex, thereby decreasing the size of a woman’s vagina and making sex pleasurable for both partners. Anal beads are another popular choice in anal toys, and the best choice would be ones that are completely plastic or silicone, without any cloth or real string parts. Cloth or string parts cannot be washed or sanitized thoroughly and can pose a danger to you and your partner’s health. Anal beads come in a variety of colors and sizes, and some models will vibrate or rotate. Anal beads are designed to be pulled out slowly or quickly depending on your preference, and can simulate orgasmic muscle spasms or increase orgasmic intensity. Anal dildos or prostate massagers are designed for men to use, and can massage the prostate and greatly increase pleasure for a man during his orgasm. Men who have used prostate massagers and the like swear they have had the best orgasms of their lives that way.

While the anus wasn’t necessarily designed for anal sex, people can and will use the anus during sexual play and have been since the dawn of time. If you’re going to engage in anal sex play, take precautions to make anal sex safer for both you and your partner. Remember, if anything hurts or becomes uncomfortable, it’s time to stop!

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We recently did a video on the 5 most popular sex toys and one in particular created lots of emails and questions – the “pink squishy”, a.k.a. the Super Head Honcho which is a male masturbator. So, we decided to do another video focused purely on the different types of male masturbators. Here are 5 of our favorites…

What Is A Male Masturbator?

Male masturbators are simply a soft silicone sleeve that a man can slip over his penis (with lube) to provide extra sensations while masturbating.  Some men try to masturbate with their own self-made masturbators and homemade sex toys, and you’d be surprised at what kind of stuff around the house they use! Banana peels, toilet paper or paper towel rolls, pantyhose…the list goes on. If you masturbate at all, buying an inexpensive male masturbator is absolutely worth it. Home masturbators tend to be difficult to use and a definite waste of time. On to the top 5 male masturbators!

The Tube Stroker

The Tube Stroker is your most basic male sex toy. It’s a simple, clear silicone sleeve with a hole in the middle for…well, you know. It’s fairly discreet – someone that looks at it without knowing what it is may not be able to guess what it’s used for. The Tube Stroker, however, has absolutely no grips on it whatsoever, so you may want to use something in between the stroker and your hand to provide you with some traction.

The Super Head Honcho

Also known as the “pink squishy,” the Super Head Honcho is one of the more popular male masturbators. It’s easy to use, and has good outer grips to make masturbation with the squishy easier. The Super Head Honcho also has inner suction cups to provide you with extra stimulation during masturbation, allowing you to have a faster and more powerful orgasm. The Super Head Honcho is one of the easiest male masturbators to clean – because you do want to clean your masturbators after you use them – because it flips completely inside out so you can wash every inch of it.

Eve’s Ruby Delight

Eve’s Ruby Delight is another popular male masturbator, with a flamboyantly reddish pink color and a textured entry for extra sensations at the base of your penis. The best thing about this particular male masturbator is that it has “action grips.” Intense grips allow you to really hold on while you’re masturbating, and it definitely won’t slip away from you. The Ruby Delight also tends to be shorter than other male masturbation sex toys, so if you’re very well endowed, you might find that it’s a little small for you.

Katie Morgan Cyberskin

For those who really want that “realistic vagina feel” with a male masturbator, the Katie Morgan Cyberskin is molded directly from, well, Katie Morgan. An incredibly realistic vagina (we suppose this is the part that looks exactly like Katie Morgan) adorns the entry point, and the inside is made of soft, sensual silicone. This larger male masturbator is great for the more well endowed men, but will work for almost any size penis. Unfortunately, it’s incredibly heavy and may make your arms and wrists tired during masturbation. If you don’t mind the weight though, and are really turned on by a more realistic masturbator, the Katie Morgan Cyberskin might just be right up your alley.

Super Cyber Snatch Pump

This combinaton penis pump and masturbator sleeve gives you multiple sensations during masturbation whether you’re going solo or are with your partner. The pump function works to give you an incredible “suction” feeling, while the masturbation sleeve provides smooth and sensual friction. The Super Cyber Snatch Pump doesn’t have a good grip on it though, so you may find it slipping out of your grip when you’re all lubed up. This sex toy is also great for larger men – it’s a whopping 9 inches long! Be careful with this one though, because too much pressure and suction on your penis can cause blood vessels to break and can be very painful. If it hurts at all, stop!

Choosing a great male masturbator isn’t hard, or expensive and it’s way better than going the “do it yourself” route. Try a few of them by yourself or with your partner to find out which one you like best! Just don’t forget the lube!

Dan and I were sitting around talking the other day and wondering “what are the most popular sex toys?” Sure, we have our own personal favorites, but what does everyone else like? So we sent an email to our friends at Adam & Eve and they sent us their 5 best selling sex toys so that we could see for ourselves (and share them with you). Watch this video for the results – I guarantee that a few of them will surprise you!

5. Super Head Honcho Masturbator

The Super Head Honcho Masturbator is actually a male sex toy (sex toy for boys) – it’s a soft, pink, silicone sleeve that slips over the penis to provide super sensations for a man while he’s masturbating. Don’t worry – it can also be used with a partner too! The Super Head Honcho Masturbator has several suction chambers for a truly realistic feeling, and turns inside out for easy cleanup with soap and water.

4. G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator

The G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator is a slim, easy to use vibrator that is designed specifically for g-spot stimulation. You can also use it for clitoral stimulation, because the vibrating “egg” at the top of the wand works well for both types of pleasure. The G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator can be used by even the most novice sex toy users, including your partner on his search for the elusive g-spot.

3. Eve’s Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator

The Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator is the perfect introductory vibrator for inexperienced users, and is also good for discreet travel or a simple, go-to vibrator that does the job. It’s just the right size for novice users and provides great vaginal and clitoral stimulation while still being easy to hold and soft but naughtily textured.

2. Adam And Eve’s Clitoral Kisser

The Clitoral Kisser might look a little strange at first, but the perfect clitoral suction it provides makes it an easy to use and devilishly pleasurable sex toy. Great for both individual masturbation and use with a partner, the soft silicone tip gently cups and kisses your clitoris, providing waves of pleasure.

1. Rotating G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator

Coming in at the number one most popular sex toy is the Rotating G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator. This vibrator is available at a great price for people who have never used a rabbit vibrator before, but is also made with several features to please even the most discerning vibrator user. The Rotating G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator has moving pearls, a rotating shaft, a perfectly angled g-spot tip for intense g-spot pleasure, and adorable rabbit ears for naughty clitoral stimulation. This very well may be the most popular sex toy on the market today for women who want to experience multiple types of pleasure at the same time. Don’t limit yourself to simply using it by yourself – use it with your partner to show him how you like to be pleasured!

There are dozens and even hundreds of different types of sex toys available, whether you’re a novice or experienced sex toy user. Try a few of the toys for yourself and find out what your favorite is!

And with masturbation – especially female masturbation (yes, it does happen) – being somewhat taboo in society today, a woman interested in pleasuring herself may have few options. Many women choose to masturbate with vibrators or dildos, and share their sex toys with their partners. Where can you get vibrators or dildos?

But if it’s your first time, what do you start with? What is the right vibrator for you?

If you’ve been curious about vibrators, particularly about buying your first one, this is just the video for you. We’ll walk you through 5 simple steps for choosing the perfect vibrator for you. It’s easier than you’re thinking right now!

How You’re Going To Use Your Vibrator

The first step is to decide how you’re going to use a prospective sex toy. Do you want to use it by yourself? Do you want to use it with a partner, or both? Do you need a vibrator with tittillating action, or will a non-vibrating, standard dildo do for you? Do you want something just to massage your clitoris, or would you like to use it for insertion? Do you want a toy that does double – both massaging your clitoris and inserting and stimulating your g-spot at the same time? Deciding what the most important aspects of owning a vibrator are for you is a crucial first step in finding the right vibrator for you.

What Material Do You Want Your Sex Toy Made Out Of?

There are several different types of sex toy materials available on the market today – for example, one of the newer materials is called Cyberskin and is soft and squishy, with a very real skin-like sensation. This is a great material for a penis-shaped dildo, making it more realistic. You can also buy plastic, silicone or steel vibrators, or go with softer silicone or even glass dildos or vibrators. Check out a sex toy website that will allow you to browse different materials available so you can find out what type of material intrigues you the most.

What Size And Shape Should Your Sex Toy Be?

Size and shape are very important when it comes to finding the perfect sex toy or dildo for yourself. Vibrators and dildos come in a complete variety of shapes and sizes. Do you want something small and discreet that will fit in your handbag? Or would you like a very large, very wide dildo that will bring you to the brink of the kind of pleasure you can withstand? Do you want something medium sized that will get the job done? Think about what you’re most comfortable with sexually so you can find the right size for you – it’s not a one size fits all sort of deal.

Your Vibrator’s Power Source

If you’ve decided to go with a vibrator and not a standard, non-vibrating dildo, you can run into the issues of recharging your vibrator or switching batteries. Both are good ways to charge your vibrator but both have their disadvantages. Running out of batteries (and often not having any more on hand) in the heat of the moment can be a huge disappointment, while having a cordless, rechargable vibrator can be quite expensive. Think about how convenient you want your vibrator to be by determining how often you think you’re going to use it.

You Get What You Pay For

If this is your first time vibrator or dildo, you might not be prepared to spend a hundred dollars or more on the hottest, most realistic vibrator on the market today. But you certainly are going to get what you pay for. That doesn’t mean there isn’t middle ground. Look for a dildo or vibrator that is in your price range, but the cheaper you go, the less features and power your new vibrator is going to have. You don’t have to spend a fortune, but for a good vibrator or dildo, you’re going to spend more than five bucks.

Sexy Stand Ups

Sexy Stand Ups are lifesize cardboard cutouts, much like the ones of mega watt movie stars that theaters use to promote movies. Remember those nerdy but fun cutouts of Princess Leia from Star Wars or Orlando Bloom from Pirates of The Caribbean? Well, you might not want those at your adult party, but Sexystandups.com has lots of sexy, life size cardboard cutouts that you can do lots of things with! For about $39.95, you can have a huge stand up cardboard of a stripper, a Chippendale, a porn star, a hot chick in a bikini…you get the idea. Send them as a super hilarious birthday card, use them at your bachelor or bachelorette party, decorate your rec or game room with them, or even send them as a gag gift! The possibilities with sexy stand ups are endless as long as you use your imagination!

The Game

The Game – it doesn’t sound sexy at first, does it? Don’t worry – it is! It’s a grown up’s version of strip poker, spin the bottle and truth or dare and can be especially fun for swingers to play to help break the ice if you’re having a sexy swinger party. You can also use it for a tamer party – just go through the cards and remove the more advanced ones that you feel wouldn’t be appropriate. While some 8th grade party games like truth or dare or spin the bottle are pretty boring once you pass that stage of your life, The Game puts a fun, sexy adult twist on them, making them super fun to play! The Game has four different levels, with the higher levels being more risque than the lower levels. The Game also has different cards to draw from, which vary from questions to dares to fun and exciting actions that will liven your party up and get your friends interacting with each other! The Game will definitely make your fun, sexy party ideas stand out from the crowd.

Host A Sex Toy Or Lingerie Party

Many men and women are afraid to go out and purchase sex toys or lingerie by themselves, or even afraid to take the initiative to do so with their partner. Throw a sex toy or lingerie party and have a representative come over to your house and show off fun sex toys, pretty lingerie and more! Many of these parties include free samples, fun games and much, much more! Both men and women will feel more inclined to purchase some fun sex toys or some gorgeous lingerie if there’s a whole party dedicated to it and other partygoers are doing the same. Try visiting Pure Romance, Just For You Parties or Fantasy, Inc. to find out how to set up a party that will get your friends trying new things! Don’t invite just the girls or just the guys – mix it up and make it a co-ed party for even more fun, sexy entertainment!