Talking dirty is a great way to spice up your sex life and make sex more enjoyable and exciting for both you and your partner. If you’ve never talked dirty to your partner during sex, how can you start? Some women are put off by dirty talk, but other women really enjoy it. How can you avoid making her uncomfortable? Here are 3 tips to talk dirty to your partner during sex without offending her!

Start Slow

If you’ve never talked dirty before with your partner, you definitely don’t want to jump in feet first. Avoid being vulgar at first, and start slow. Start by simply vocalizing your enjoyment during sex and see if she likes it. Try describing what you’re doing to her, what you want to do or what you are ab0ut to do. Watch her facial expressions and body language to tell if she likes it or not. Go with the flow and let her show you if she wants you to take it further.

It’s Not What You Say, But How You Say It

Your tone of voice and attitude is more important than the words you’re saying when you’re talking dirty. It’s important to be genuine when talking dirty to your partner, because it’s easy to see right through you if you fake it. Take the time to get to know your partner sexually, and don’t be afraid to ask your partner what she likes and what turns her on. You want to tailor your “dirty” talk to what turns her on. For example, a woman may be very turned on by romantic talk, such as hearing how much you love her during sex. A woman on this wavelength is going to become very offended by vulgar dirty talk. On the other side of the spectrum, however, a woman who really gets off on vulgarity is not going to want to hear anything romantic. Try talking about your fantasies with your partner, or talking about her fantasies. Describe them, act them out and roleplay them. You can even incorporate costumes and toys when you and your partner begin to incorporate dirty talk more and more into your sexual habits.

The Possession Theme

One “dirty talk” theme that many women enjoy is “possession.” Talk about how your partner is “yours” and how she “belongs to you.” Say, “I want you, you’re mine.” There is very little risk involved in this type of dirty talk, because women in a relationship generally like to have a claim staked on them, even if it’s just in the bedroom and between you and her. She wants to know that she’s yours and that she’s attractive to you and you want her. As you become more comfortable with talking dirty with your partner during sex, you can use the possession theme in a romantic way or in a dirtier, sexy way.