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Does Wanting to See My Wife Have Sex With Another Man Make Me Gay? (Video)

Swingers & Threesomes - Does Wanting to See My Wife Have Sex With Another Man Make Me Gay? (Video)

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One of the most popular fantasies out there is the idea of the threesome

Most men love the idea of seeing their woman have sex with another woman while they watch, or the idea of having two women have sex with him at the same time.

But threesome fantasies don’t stop there

There are also men out there, who love the idea of watching their woman have sex with another man.

Here’s an interesting question.  If a man enjoys the idea of watching his woman have sex with another man, does this make him gay?

Here’s a question from Michael whose fantasies have him wondering about his sexuality.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My girlfriend and I have talked jokingly about threesomes in the past. But recently she’s been bringing up the idea more often. I’m worried about what she would want afterwards like if she’d wanna bring home a guy. I don’t know how to respond…

I have entertained the thought of watching her have sex with another man while I watch. Would that make me gay to enjoy watching it? Also, I had more homo erotic thoughts but haven’t gotten hard around a guy that’s straight.

Am I just curious, confused or bi?

  — Michael, Massachusetts

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Does This Mean I’m Gay?

We’re all sexual beings. We all have a unique ideas and fantasies, things that turn us on. Don’t get stuck on labels and just consider yourself ‘sexual’. It’s very common, and very exciting for most men, to think of their girlfriend as bi-curious, but most men get a little nervous when they think of a bi-curious boy.

But on that topic… We ran an online dating site for over three years and were very surprised by the large number of bisexual or bi-curious men. It’s not as uncommon as you might like to think.

There’s nothing wrong with being bi-curious, bisexual, or gay. That’s just your sexual preference. The sooner you get in touch with your own sexual preferences and desires, the happier and more fulfilled your sex life will be.

On The Topic Of Threesomes

So the idea of watching your partner with another man or woman that you really excited - and you have talked to one another enough to know that it gets your partner excited as well…

Here three tips to help make your first threesome more successful:

1. Talk About It

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5 Responses to “Does Wanting to See My Wife Have Sex With Another Man Make Me Gay? (Video)”

  1. The Beautiful Kind on January 24th, 2008 1:57 pm

    I’m a woman and I think it’s completely hot to watch my man get with another woman. Never once have I asked myself, “Does this make me a lesbian?”

    Then again, I’m bisexual and am fine with that.

    I WISH my guy got off at the thought of me being with another man. Ah well, maybe someday. Good for you!

  2. Chris on January 24th, 2008 4:58 pm

    On to separate occasions I great the great pleasure of dating bisexual women. The first young lady and I used to play a game. When I had a party at my house I would make up an excuse to disappear. I would then slip back into the house through the back and hide in my bedroom closet. My girlfriend would then invite a guy, a girl, or both, from the party and take them to my bedroom for some fun while I stayed hidden.

    It turned me on to know end to watch her with the other people. When she was with a man, I wasn’t so much watching him as I was her put on a show for me.

    The other young lady and I had similar experiences but I wouldn’t hide. I would set back and watch her with other men (or women).

    In both situations, the sex we had afterwards was unbelievably hot! It in no way means a man is gay because he likes to watch his woman get it on with another man. They way I see it, “Gay” is a lifestyle, not a sex act.

  3. Dan on January 24th, 2008 6:25 pm

    My lover and I have had numerous MFM threesomes and I assure you I as “straight as an arrow” I get much pleasure seeing my lover pleasured by more than one man. I see the pleasure she experiences with four hands two penises, four lips all pleasuring her at one time. We do have friends who join us and they know agendas will not work. The pleasure and the eroticism is all there is and this brings us both closer and the friendship with the other man is enhanced.

  4. Map to the G Spot on January 30th, 2008 1:06 pm

    I must admit the title of the post really drew me in because prior to seeing the headline I had never thought of the idea of actually watching my woman having sex with another man.

    Personally, it is not something I would engage in.However it is definitely indicative of the infinite choices that exist today in the area of sexuality that there is a sub-category of the MFM 3some where the man just wants to watch and not participate.

    My hope is that these activities ultimately bond the couple and deepen their relationship and great advice about communication. This type of thing can be extremely uncomfortable and destructive unless people are willing to talk out what makes them uncomfortable about the situation.

  5. Rob Michaelson on March 21st, 2008 5:23 am

    I don’t believe that finding the thought of your wife with another man hot is anyway necessarily gay. Although I’m more “hot-wife” hubby (she plays-I don’t/my preference)then swinger though. I LOVE sharing the wife sexually. It’s White hot. Whether I’m there to see(prefer), or hear details after. Once was even listening to play by play over the cell phone at work. Once I matured and got beyond the jealousy and ownership, and we got secure(about 2 years) into our marriage, my personal epiphany was that it was ok to enjoy the thought rather then having others (repressed society/religion) tell me what I should enjoy. It took her a bit longer to realize I didn’t have ulterior motives and was really cool with it. The fantasy had always been there before marriage , but took that long to share with her. I WANT her to grow as a person and have experiences including extra-marital sexuality. It actually amazes me sometimes what and who she finds attractive, and how-who she gives it up for. We for most part do things together and our communication is open and honest. A benchmark of the lifestyle. No secrets. No shame. No guilt.

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