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1. Talk About It
Before you and your partner set out to act out your fantasies of having a threesome, it’s critical that you both talk about it and understand why you want to do it. It’s also important to talk about what kind of threesome you are interested in.
Do you want to see your girlfriend with another woman, or perhaps another man. Do you want to see your boyfriend with another woman or another man. Do you both want to be intimately involved, or you prefer to just watch.
It’s also important to talk about who this third person will be. Will it be a close friend? Will it be a stranger? Do you want to be friends with him or her afterword are you just looking for one night stand? What should his or her age be? What should they look like?
It’s important to talk about the details up front so that you don’t end up fighting over something silly halfway down the road…
2. Set Boundaries And Stick To Them
Boundaries…
This is an important one that many people overlook. Before your first threesome, and your second, and your third, talk about what’s OK and what’s not. Where is your comfort zone? Where is your partners comfort zone? Are there any actions that are forbidden?
It’s a worthwhile exercise to actually take the time to write down what is OK and one is not. We have some good friends who jokingly refer to their first list… it must’ve been 100 items long. You can do this. You can’t do that. This is OK. That’s not. — Now they have just two runs a list away. That works for them. Your list may get longer. The important thing here is that you talk about it and agree on the ground rules before during and after.
3. Try It And Then Talk About It Some More
Once everyone’s happy and feels COMPLETELY comfortable, go for it. Try it. See how it feels and talk about those feelings. What surprised you? What didn’t? Did the experience go as you expected it? Do you want to do it again?
Hopefully by now you get the point…
Communication is critical in your relationship and even more important when you bring other people into the relationship.
We can’t say it enough… Talk. Talk. Talk.
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I’m a woman and I think it’s completely hot to watch my man get with another woman. Never once have I asked myself, “Does this make me a lesbian?”
Then again, I’m bisexual and am fine with that.
I WISH my guy got off at the thought of me being with another man. Ah well, maybe someday. Good for you!
On to separate occasions I great the great pleasure of dating bisexual women. The first young lady and I used to play a game. When I had a party at my house I would make up an excuse to disappear. I would then slip back into the house through the back and hide in my bedroom closet. My girlfriend would then invite a guy, a girl, or both, from the party and take them to my bedroom for some fun while I stayed hidden.
It turned me on to know end to watch her with the other people. When she was with a man, I wasn’t so much watching him as I was her put on a show for me.
The other young lady and I had similar experiences but I wouldn’t hide. I would set back and watch her with other men (or women).
In both situations, the sex we had afterwards was unbelievably hot! It in no way means a man is gay because he likes to watch his woman get it on with another man. They way I see it, “Gay” is a lifestyle, not a sex act.
My lover and I have had numerous MFM threesomes and I assure you I as “straight as an arrow” I get much pleasure seeing my lover pleasured by more than one man. I see the pleasure she experiences with four hands two penises, four lips all pleasuring her at one time. We do have friends who join us and they know agendas will not work. The pleasure and the eroticism is all there is and this brings us both closer and the friendship with the other man is enhanced.
I must admit the title of the post really drew me in because prior to seeing the headline I had never thought of the idea of actually watching my woman having sex with another man.
Personally, it is not something I would engage in.However it is definitely indicative of the infinite choices that exist today in the area of sexuality that there is a sub-category of the MFM 3some where the man just wants to watch and not participate.
My hope is that these activities ultimately bond the couple and deepen their relationship and great advice about communication. This type of thing can be extremely uncomfortable and destructive unless people are willing to talk out what makes them uncomfortable about the situation.
I don’t believe that finding the thought of your wife with another man hot is anyway necessarily gay. Although I’m more “hot-wife” hubby (she plays-I don’t/my preference)then swinger though. I LOVE sharing the wife sexually. It’s White hot. Whether I’m there to see(prefer), or hear details after. Once was even listening to play by play over the cell phone at work. Once I matured and got beyond the jealousy and ownership, and we got secure(about 2 years) into our marriage, my personal epiphany was that it was ok to enjoy the thought rather then having others (repressed society/religion) tell me what I should enjoy. It took her a bit longer to realize I didn’t have ulterior motives and was really cool with it. The fantasy had always been there before marriage , but took that long to share with her. I WANT her to grow as a person and have experiences including extra-marital sexuality. It actually amazes me sometimes what and who she finds attractive, and how-who she gives it up for. We for most part do things together and our communication is open and honest. A benchmark of the lifestyle. No secrets. No shame. No guilt.