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How Do We know If An Open Marriage Is Right For Us? (Video)

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How to know if an open marriage is right for you

First of all, it’s pretty much a known fact (or at least an unspoken one) that open marriages are exclusively for relationships that are strong.  Real strong.  Does that mean that people always abide by that?  Of course not! 

Many people feel that an open relationship could possibly “fix” problems in a marriage or if they are bored or drifting apart that seeing other people (in addition to their relationship) is the answer.  This is far from the truth – in the majority of relationships that are on the rocks, deciding to have an open marriage ends up making things much, much worse. 

You should only consider having an open marriage if you and your partner are extremely happy with each other, and your relationship is strong.  “Swinging” or an open marriage can definitely spice things up.

Part of finding out if your marriage is strong enough to handle an open relationship is asking yourself some difficult questions.  Why are you thinking about an open marriage?  Is your partner the one suggesting it?  Why do you think they are bringing it up?  If the answers to those questions are “sex” then you’re probably on the right track. 

Open marriages and swinging are really all about experiencing a new level of sexual awareness that you and your partner have never had before.  It can be fun and exciting when the motives are purely sexual and there are no emotions involved. 

When an open marriage is a bad idea

If your answers to those questions gravitate more towards the fact that you and your partner are looking to fill an emotional void that your current partner isn’t filling, you’re headed into dangerous waters.  That’s when you need to sit down and really think about your current relationship – are you and your partner really happy together? 

If not, it’s something you need to work out before you and your partner start seeing other people in an open marriage.

Generally, if you and your partner are seeking an open relationship for healthy, sexual reasons and not because you’re unhappy with the other, you’re fine to try an open marriage. 

If you find that you and your partner are unhappy with each other or unhappy with your marriage, an open relationship will really rock the boat and you’re much better off working to make your current marriage healthy or going your separate ways. 

If having an open marriage is really what you and your partner want, then go for it.  Just make sure that you and your partner are completely open and honest with each other.  Talk to each other about your experiences and feelings about each other and about the situation.  Play it safe and play it smart sexually and you and your partner may end up growing closer together.

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2 Responses to “How Do We know If An Open Marriage Is Right For Us? (Video)”

  1. Jenny Block on April 19th, 2008 8:44 pm

    Hi,

    Thanks so much for talking about this subject so respectfully and openly. Open relationships are not for everyone. But for many of us, open marriages and polyamory have made for the most wonderful and fulfilling relationships of our lives. Keep up the fabulous work!

    With Best Regards,
    Jenny Block
    Author of “Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage”

    www.jennyonthepage.com

  2. Mr. Gentlenibbles on April 23rd, 2008 10:24 am

    Hey Guys,

    As usual, I think you are dead on with this one. So many people misunderstand the power of what swinging brings.

    It is all about adding an awesome addition to a fantastic marriage!

    Swinging has destroyed as many bad marriages as it has strengthened great ones!

    Take care,
    ~Mr. and Mrs. Gentlenibbles

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