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Of course there’s a lot of social stigmas around "swinging", but the reality today is very different. Rather than the old "wife swapping" lifestyle of decades past, some couples today choose to try new things to spice up their sex life, and this new thing may or may not include playing with other singles or couples.
This is not about "swinger groupies" - people who don’t care about much other than having sex with others in large orgies, and hanging out at swinger lifestyle conventions. It’s about a couple experimenting and trying a new thing or another to add more spice to their sex life. THAT’S IT!
What’s truly amazing is that for something with such stigma, over 20 million Americans engage in sex multiple partners, together with their spouses. And the most popular adult personals site shows a consistent number in each state, regardless of religious or political stereotypes.
Are you a bad person if you WANT to have sex with your friends?
Think back… maybe back to your college days. Have you ever had one of those late nights hanging out with some friends, another couple? You know the feeling… you’ve all had a little too much to drink, and card games are starting to become a contact sport. You look around the room and everyone’s feeling the excitement, the sexual tension.
And while you’re pretty excited to cross a boundary here, you’re terrified. Are you suddenly a bad person? Are you taking advantage of your friends? Are they taking advantage of you? Is it cheating to be even having those thoughts? Are you asking way too many questions for the amount of alcohol you’ve consumed?
Is It Cheating to Have Sex with Someone Other Than Your Partner?
That certainly depends on how you define cheating. It’s kind of hard for you two to be cheating on each other while you’re BOTH enjoying something together, isn’t it?
Cheating is a breaking of the sacred trust in your relationship. Cheating is being dishonest and going behind your partners back. When you’re both enjoying a fun, new adventure together, that’s not what we’d call cheating.
But BEWARE. While it’s not technically cheating, there are a few things that could go very wrong if you’re not careful.
You MUST have excellent and very open communication, and a great, solid relationship to start with, or this could tear your relationship apart. Swinging, or the broader concept of an "open relationship" is definitely not a crutch to fix, or patch, a failing relationship. It can only work for a couple whose relationship is steady and strong enough to withstand the emotional torrent that could be unleashed when you bring new people into your intimate relationship.
And as with regular sex between single partners, be very sure to practice safe sex, and know your playmates before you get too personal. Play it safe so you can have more fun.
What Will Your Friends and Family Say? How About Your Minister?
It doesn’t matter! Not at all. It is simply not any of their business, whatsoever. Period.
Some people make the tragic mistake of involving their family in their sex lies. This is a bad idea and will lead to arguments in all but the best of situations.
While it’s not always the case, in general, as a society we’re just not yet evolved enough to handle this type of discussion at the dinner table - largely because of the silly but amazingly widespread taboo around all things sexual in our culture.
So make your decision together with your partner, and go with what feels right to the two of you. While your family and friends may think they have your best interest at heart, they are not living your life - you are! Do what feels right to you.
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Swinging can be fun with the right people. Make sure it is what everyone wants and not just what everyone thinks they want. Things can go terribly wrong especially with close friends. Been there done that, don’t want the t-shirt. Almost destroyed two marriages and did destroy a friendship. Circumstances might have been a little different in our case. The husband who initiated the swinging decided after he had sex with my wife, he didn’t want me having sex with his. Did he think he would get away with that?
Does it make you a bad person? Um in a word….. yes.
You’re opening a pandora’s box. It’s wrong simply put. It’s an insult to the partner in the marriage. Saying in essence “well ya know, I love you but you aren’t enough for me, I think I need to go get some more people.” It’s infidelity whether or not both spouse’s are participating or not. During a marriage ceremony, you for sake all others, not marry and agree to go hookin up with your friends.
If any of my friends approached us about somethign like this, that would be the end of the friendship. My husband would be disgusted by it.
I’d say even if the couple agree to it, it’s REALLY playing with fire! I wouldn’t even CONSIDER putting my great relationship with my husband to such a risk. Anyone who does this, better be prepared for the consequences — and there would probably be more damaging consequences than you could ever imagine!
sex is sex. sex sells and sex thrills. if eve never ate that dam apple, life would be so much simpler. everybody has sex, no body talks sex. either get over your hang ups and enjoy or live your misserable lives.perverts do chase childern. but human love their wifes and enjoy great sex.
My husband pushed and pushed for me to allow him to have a stranger join us during our sex play. I never show an eagerness to lust after other men (for fear he would never feel like leaving me alone in the house and thus never leaving for work), which always seemed to upset him. Before we were married he invited three men to join him (I was in bed asleep) they did. They watched me being touched by my husband and then would take his place. It was all a fog of bits and pieces in the morning, I couldn’t tell if it was a dream or real. We continued until our divorce, lol.