4.  Don’t Expect Magic… At First

Culture through television, books, magazines and advertisements have slowly driven us to the point that we expect "magic" to happen in our relationships from the start.  Movies and television shows continually drive into us a concept of love at first sight.  These things are definitely possible but tend to be extremely rare.

Dating is about getting to know the other person, learning about who they are and what they are about.  It is your opportunity to present yourself as a possible mate and companion who can compliment their personality, and they yours.  If you are serious about a person you should try to put forth the effort to know that person as well. 

The goal of a first date, if you’re interested in the other, is to make it to a second date.  The goal of a second date is to make it a third date, etc.

5.  Don’t Force It

If you aren’t into her, then be upfront and tell her that you enjoyed your time together but you don’t feel you’re compatible.  Maybe there’s not much of a connection there and you aren’t really that attracted.  It’s important to make sure she understands this even if she’s more into you then you are into her.

This goes both ways.  She may not be that into you.  It isn’t the end of the world.  The ocean is large and there are many, many fish.  She may be honest and tell you that she isn’t or she may make it apparent by not wanting to go out again or continually brushing you off. 

Don’t take it personally, most people hate confrontation and they don’t want to hurt someone else’s feelings.  Go into a date with an open mind and remember that you’re both here to get to know one another, not to meet before running to the courthouse to get married.

Dating is about fun and enjoyment.  Meeting people new is exciting and fun and just because you don’t make good "mates" doesn’t mean you can’t be friends.  Just keep in mind that dating, like most other things, requires work and what you put into it you will get out of it.

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