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How to date online

So what about online dating?  When you meet someone you’ve been talking to online, that first meeting can’t even really be considered a “date” if you think about it.

After all, you should only be meeting casually at that stage to figure out if there’s any basic chemistry going on there at all.

That’s it.  No stress, no strain.  And certainly such meetings are without the necessity that any sex is going to be taking place…right there in Starbucks. 

Now if the sparks fly, so be it.   But my point is that this isn’t even really “dating”.

So what if there ARE sparks?  Should there be wedding plans after the first date?

It sounds silly to even contemplate, doesn’t it?

Why you should date more than one person

Ultimately, I’d recommend LOTS of dates with lots of people before entering into an exclusive relationship with someone.

There are two great reasons for this.

First, life is too short to evaluate potential partners one at a time.  Meeting and interacting with numerous people gives you a chance to find out what your real preferences are when it comes to MOTOs, as opposed to your pre-conceived ones. 

And amazingly, it’s uncanny how having several options when it comes to your mixed-company social life begets amazing confidence.  You don’t cling so desperately to each individual “opportunity”, and therefore you magically become more attractive to MOTOS in general.

Nothing succeeds like success, right?

Second, exclusive relationships should be meaningful.  Why cheapen the experience by giving it away so quickly?   Take time to get to know someone fully before selecting that person to the exclusion of all others. 

Make it count

Make exclusivity count.  If you fall in love, be sure about it and LOVE BIG.

Explain your philosophy to anyone you are “dating” who appears to be pressuring you into exclusivity too quickly.  Be honest with MOTOS, and rest assured that it will typically result in real respect and even heightened attraction.

Now that sounds to me like the path of someone with real depth.  And I don’t see any downside to that.

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