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Help! I’m A Booty Call AND The Sex Is Lousy! (Video)

Dating Tips & Advice - Help! I’m A Booty Call AND The Sex Is Lousy! (Video)

Booty Call: "Calling someone or meeting with them purely for the sake of having sex".

Have you ever been a booty call? Would you recognize if you were?

We all like to think that the person were seeing loves us, or at least likes us a lot. It’s really heartbreaking when we realize that we’re worth nothing more than sex to them.

Even if it’s great sex, it can still be heartbreaking to realize that you’re only a Booty Call…

When the sex is bad, it’s enough to make you go insane!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

 

I’m 48, widow, dating a 58 years old guy who’s been married 32 years for 7 months now. Sex isn’t great but I really like – love him. Am I nuts?

 

We work for an airline and I see him every week.  He has shared his past affairs with me. His wife has a million dollar inheritance, he hates her but the money is important. He keeps saying that he wants me…but while in Paris, when I confided that I felt like I was falling in love with him…he said he wasn’t as "into" me, as his past affairs….? However, as soon as we arrived back in the States, he wanted me to stay with him in his hotel… I said no and went home…..   HELP!!! 

 

Chris, VA

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Can You Say Booty Call? 

So, here’s this guy who supposedly likes you, but ironically, the only time he calls you is for an out of town rendezvous to have sex. This is the definition of a "Booty Call".

You may think you’ll love this guy, but it’s time for you to realize that you are only one thing to him… you are his Booty Call. PERIOD!!!

There’s only one piece of advice that we can give you. DUMP HIM! NOW!

Love is a two way street. Waiting for this guy to turn around and start loving you back is a complete waste of your time.

Make Room For A Two-Sided Relationship

It’s time to make room in your life for a two-sided relationship.

We all deserve someone who will love and respect us in return. There is absolutely no reason to waste your time with someone who is only using you. And this guy is obviously using you…

Now, having said that, if you don’t mind being a Booty Call and meeting this guy simply to have sex, then that’s fine, but recognize it for what it is…

In this situation however, the sex isn’t even that good.

This guy is obviously a total loser. He’s staying with his wife because she has a million dollar inheritance. You’re not his first affair. He’s just lame.

So run, run like the wind!!!

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2 Responses to “Help! I’m A Booty Call AND The Sex Is Lousy! (Video)”

  1. Brad K. on January 4th, 2008 7:22 pm

    Chris, This isn’t really a booty call. Dan and Jennifer are correct, you need to stop using this guy for satisfaction.

    The reason I say this isn’t a booty call is that he sees the intimate part of your relationship - the bed time - as something between friends. Like a massage or showering together after a basketball game.

    Continuing to sleep with this guy is a problem for several reasons. One is that right now your concept of relationship is defined by when this guy is ready to cheat on someone else. Another is that as long as he has a place in your life, you aren’t as likely to find a rewarding companion - an honorable man won’t be interested in trying to reform an ‘other woman’. Also, just consider how many adult individuals you are being exposed to, sexually, one or two steps removed. His wife, his other affairs, anyone they contact ..

    When you are willing to associate with a man that cheats, deceives, is disloyal - you have a problem with respect and self image. Demand better of yourself. Make your own actions be honorable, and choose honest, disciplined, honorable companions.

    Probably the biggest reason the sex isn’t that great, is that you don’t respect him, and don’t respect yourself for being with him. Please turn that around.

  2. Testaverde on February 8th, 2008 12:23 pm

    Dan and Jen,

    You arrived at the crux of the issue: respect and expectations. Chris expects to be more than a “booty call” but she is chasing a repeat affair offender. She doesn’t feel respected, yet she shows no concern for the wife at the other end of the love triangle. A booty call only works when both parties have the same expectations and respect each other’s boundaries. I agree that Chris should leave this guy who is leading her on, but she is also deluding herself by seeking love in a broken relationship.

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