You arrived at the crux of the issue: respect and expectations. Chris expects to be more than a “booty call” but she is chasing a repeat affair offender. She doesn’t feel respected, yet she shows no concern for the wife at the other end of the love triangle. A booty call only works when both parties have the same expectations and respect each other’s boundaries. I agree that Chris should leave this guy who is leading her on, but she is also deluding herself by seeking love in a broken relationship.

The reason I say this isn’t a booty call is that he sees the intimate part of your relationship – the bed time – as something between friends. Like a massage or showering together after a basketball game.

Continuing to sleep with this guy is a problem for several reasons. One is that right now your concept of relationship is defined by when this guy is ready to cheat on someone else. Another is that as long as he has a place in your life, you aren’t as likely to find a rewarding companion – an honorable man won’t be interested in trying to reform an ‘other woman’. Also, just consider how many adult individuals you are being exposed to, sexually, one or two steps removed. His wife, his other affairs, anyone they contact ..

When you are willing to associate with a man that cheats, deceives, is disloyal – you have a problem with respect and self image. Demand better of yourself. Make your own actions be honorable, and choose honest, disciplined, honorable companions.

Probably the biggest reason the sex isn’t that great, is that you don’t respect him, and don’t respect yourself for being with him. Please turn that around.