But How Will I Ever Find it if I Let it Go? 

Here’s the thing.  When we really want something, we become very emotionally attached to it.  Many times that attachment is based in fear.  Fear that there’s no one out there for you, fear that you’re not good enough to be loved, fear that you will grow old alone.  Letting go of that attachment, that fear, does not mean you are letting go of the desire or of the intention.  You are just letting go of the negative attachment to the outcome.

Besides when you look and look for that relationship, you become frustrated.  Negative emotions are born out of that frustration.  You find yourself thinking that there are no good men left, that all men are pigs, that there are only jerks on dating sites, and on and on.  Those negative emotions go straight to the ears of the Universe and that is what you find. 

Applying the Law of Detachment

The first thing to do is to identify the fear and negative emotions you are carrying around not only about men or relationships but also about yourself.  If you think you don’t deserve love, that fear will permeate every other thing.  It’s like a virus.  Fear feeds the virus and it grows and grows.  Your attachment will grow and detaching from it will become even more difficult.

Once you have identified and cleared the fear and negative emotions, you are ready to detach.  Commit to detachment. Allow yourself to enjoy the freedom of anticipating the joy of what will come.

Realize that uncertainty is the foundation of creativity.  Out of uncertainty comes solutions and freedom. Revel in the fabulousness of anticipating the wonderful things that uncertainty will bring.

Be open to all of the possibilities.  They are endless and exciting!  Experience the joy of life, have fun, broaden your horizons and soon love will find you. You won’t have to look for it any longer.

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