Of course he is going to be the doting father. Who knows what that child went through when he split up with her mother. He is feeling guilty either because she never sees her mother or because he rarely sees her. Just depends on how custody turned out. If her mother died then it will be even worse because he will feel that he has to fill both rolls. She is his princess. To quote a popular country song airing these days. “Shes playing cinderella” He knows one day some other prince charming is going to come along and take her away from him but until that day she is his princess. The woman he can put on a pedestool and never have to hear, “I don’t want to be up here. What if you don’t catch me?” No little girl in the history of mankind who had a good and kind father ever thought for an instant that if she jumped he wouldn’t catch her.

Its a time of faith building in men. She needs that from him and he needs as her father to give that to her. So you can either suck it up, realize it has nothing to do with you other than your wanting to be the princess and feeling usurped. She was there first and she is the real princess. Your the outsider wanting to become queen and if you can’t fit yourself into their world instead of trying to force them to change to fit into yours then you will be the one who loses out.

Grow up. Its passed time you realized that being grown up means you don’t get to be the princess anymore. Just be happy for them. They are creating a relationship she will never forget. Memories she can hang on to if say he decides to have a heart attack and die at 55 the way my father did. I will forever be grateful that my sister and I were my fathers princesses and that he doted on us because I will forever have those memories of him even if he won’t be there to see his grandchildren graduate highschool, or get married or anything else. Don’t even think about trying to deny her that. Its to important to her later. She needs it in order to have a healthy relationship when shes grown.