Why You Should Stop Being the Backup Guy Before It’s Too Late

She’s really saying that you’re not the kind of guy she thinks she wants. She may be taking advantage, intentionally or not, of the fact that you do like her a lot so that she doesn’t have to deal with her break up and face being alone.

Don’t settle for someone who’s not equally crazy about you.

The chase can be a lot of fun but is has to be a two way chase. Have you ever seen two puppies chasing each other around the yard or kids playing tag? They take turns chasing and then being chased and everyone has a lot of fun in the process. That’s how a new (and seasoned) relationship should be – fun! It can however been incredibly frustrating when you’re the only one doing the chasing.

The Vacuum Law

There’s a Universal Law known as the Vacuum Law. Basically, what it tells us is that when we give up something that we don’t want, or that is not bringing us joy, it creates an empty space, or vacuum, that can then be filled with something that we do want and that will bring us joy.

Time to Move On

If I were you, I would go with my gut on this one and move on. Create a vacuum that can be filled by someone that is right for you. She’s never going to move forward and if she does, she’ll probably dump you as soon as she sees some one that she thinks she likes more. I personally feel that she needs to spend some alone time to figure out what she’s really looking for.

So how do you keep your phone from ringing off the hook?

The first thing that I would do is be honest with her and tell her that you don’t see the relationship going anywhere and that you’d like to just be friends. Make sure that she knows you’re no longer sitting around waiting for her – and stick to it!

And if that doesn’t work…

Do you have caller ID? If I were you I would screen my calls and stop answering her calls. You are under no obligation to answer your phone for anyone. It may sound harsh, but she’ll eventually get the message.

I would however try the honesty approach first.

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