How To Avoid The Top 5 Mistakes Single Guys Make In Clubs

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3. Ignoring the club employees. 

Have you ever gone to a party where you knew everyone and as soon as you entered, they were all really excited to see you and gave you high fives and hugs?

How good did that feel?  Well, you can get the same reaction when you enter a club.

It’s not hard, just choose a club that you go to often and make friends with all the employees.  Introduce yourself and remember their names and talk to them like a friend. 

Ask the bouncer how his night is going, give the bartenders a big first tip, make friends with the bathroom attendant or tease the cocktail waitress. 

Remember, these people are working while you are having fun.  See if you can share some of that fun with them.  Before you know it, when you come to the club, you’ll feel right at home. You’ll be in a better mood, have more fun, and meet more people. 

This tip alone is one of the easiest ways to increase your confidence and status in a club.

4.  Waiting to get drunk before talking to women.

This is probably the biggest mistake that guys make every night, at every club, everywhere.  The best time to talk to women is actually right when the night begins.  Why?  When it’s still early, women are just arriving usually in a good mood, no one’s approached them yet; it’s like a blank slate.  

It’s your best chance to make what I call a little connection.  This is where you just make one fun or witty comment to someone and then get back to your friends. 

If it turns into a conversation then go with it, but it’s mainly a way to create a little connection of familiarity between you and someone you don’t know.

What most guys do, is they stare at the women they want to talk to all night until they’ve had enough drinks, then go over and try to force a full on conversation.  It’s usually not pretty.  

Instead, it’s a lot easier to make a bunch of little connections with women, then sit back and watch.  The women that are interested in you will come stand near you or they will look at you and smile when they walk by. 

Even if they don’t, it will be a lot easier to wave them over and start a conversation with them if you’ve already talked before. 

5.  Putting too much pressure on yourself to meet women. 

The last one is the most important.  Remember why you are there in the first place: 

To have a good time. 

Have patience with yourself and give yourself permission to relax.  Some guys get too attached to the outcome with women and even relate what happens to their own self-worth. 

You know yourself better than anyone else.

Clubs are a place where almost everyone has a very strong social mask up and it can be hard to reach the real person underneath.  So if things don’t go as planned, don’t beat yourself up about it.  Just leave the unwanted feelings at the club and enjoy what you do have. 

When you see every interaction within the club as amusing or an opportunity to "play with others", you’ll create a magnetic vibe and others will naturally be pulled in towards you.

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