The Top 10 Online Dating Mistakes Men Make When Contacting Women Online

Mistake #6: Asking for her personal information too soon

So you messaged this really great looking girl, and she responded with a basic “Hi” message. Now what?

You want her real email address, her phone number, her work number, or better yet her address so you can go there now, right?

Stop!

Asking her for ANY personal information in your first messages is a quick way to kill the relationship before it starts.

Think of two dogs approaching each other… what do they do? They approach slowly and cautiously, and proceed to sniff each other.

Why do they do this? They’re getting to know each other.

People are the same in many respects.

Don’t scare her off. Take it slow and let her get to know you before requesting personal information.

Mistake #7: Making sexual innuendos in your first message

Yes, she’s really hot and yes her profile seems flirty and sexual…

So you think it’s OK to be overtly sexual when you try to contact her, WRONG!

Unless you’re on AdultFriendFinder.com or other adult site, sexual innuendos are unlikely to help you.

They’ll most likely torpedo any chances you might have had with her.

So don’t do it.  

Mistake #8: Sending her money or a credit card number

Yes, the ever popular Nigerian (or whatever country is in on it this month) money scam.

Social networking sites, including online dating sites, are plagued by scammers.

And guys you know are falling for it every day…

Remember, the whole “if it sounds too good to be true” idea still stands!

If your online profile is really bad, and all of a sudden a girl strangely resembling a supermodel emails you and promises to make all your dreams come true, take it slow.

And DO NOT send money or other financial information to make her come to you…

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  • I think these are some great tips. When emailing a chick for the 1st time you should never act needy or clingy in the email.

    Even if you do like long walks on the beach and a glass of wine at sunset... Who cares? Don't say it... You have to spark interest before you move to the next step.

    A very successful message I've used in the past was this:

    You sound perfect... Let's run off to Vegas and get married... Or, we could start with chatting back and forth to see if we like each other first... Then, if you're lucky, I might agree to meet you for some coffee... :)... Anyway... I hope you've had a great day... I look forward to hearing from you soon...

    Later,

    Brian

    The most important thing about dating in general is to have fun.
  • Hey, great advice. Especially the one on waiting too long to message her. Like you said, the latest seduction methods can sometimes be taken too far. If you can spark the attraction with your messages, the length in between them doesn't matter as much.

    Perhaps your readers will benefit from an article I posted about online dating tips from a women here: http://www.yangtown.com/what-women-want/tips-on...

    Cheers,

    Ryan
  • Do guys really send financial information to woman in hopes to interest them?

    As for the online photo thing, I know no matter what type of site be it networking, dating etc I never leave my photo because I honastly don't have any of me. Funny that? Must be the photography syndrome ;) I like taking pictures of people, places, animals and don't like my picture being taken I guess.

    But I can see how it can be important to the dating scene, kind of breaks that 'blind-date' situation if they are truthful with their photo. And as much as people say they don't alot still 'judge a book by its cover' :)
  • On my mind the worst and most common mistake is judjing by the photo she sent. Photos usually do not reflect natural appearence of a person.
    http://www.a1-date.com
  • Great picture... who's the guy on the left? Can you airbrush him out? Just kidding. great start on your blog! Durk
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