Problem 4 – You were crass, rude, or sexual

Many guys think they should be forward and sexual with women… like they are some sort of sexual James Bond who can’t lose.  While there is a time and a place for it, many men go too far too quickly.  A lot of things can turn a woman off, but few like being crass, rude, or overly sexual in an opening email. 

She’s a woman, not one of your buddies, so don’t try to get her attention through shock value.  Yes, it works from time to time, but for the most part, she’ll just delete you as being a pervert, and move on. 

• Don’t use any four letter words… you know the ones I mean.
• Don’t ask her what her favorite sexual position is.
• Don’t ask her about her erotic fantasies.
• Don’t ask if she has any nude photos.

She gets enough of those emails every day from creeps and perverts… don’t be one.

Problem 5 – You tripped her red flags

You can’t always know what is going to trigger a negative reaction in another person, but there are some common things that will turn most people off.  Common red flags are baggage, exes, addictions, failures, anger, and obvious insecurities.  These should never even be hinted at in an opening email. 

Or any email.

Or your profile.

Ever.

So:

• Don’t email her more than once before she replies.
• Don’t bring up anything in your past (like exes).
• Don’t talk about the bad dates you have had so far.
• Don’t talk about why you think online dating sucks or how hard it is.

Besides, she’ll have lots of time to figure out what she doesn’t like about you on the first date!

Problem 6 – She’s just not that into you

This isn’t so much a problem as a simple fact of life.  No matter what you do, some women just aren’t going to be that into you.

Maybe she only dates short dorky poor guys, maybe you remind her of her brother, maybe she’s allergic to super hot guys with sexy hair… you’ll probably never know.  

This is one of those things that you can’t let get into your head.  If you’ve presented yourself in your best light, have a great photo, display your personality and value as a man… and she still doesn’t email you back?  It’s just not meant to be, so don’t over think it, just move on to the next girl.

Happy dating!

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