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Killer Blowjob Tips Every Woman NEEDS To Know!

Rochelle Stavi — Fri, 25 Nov 2011 14:00:24 +0000

Blowjob tips are essential if you want to give your man great head. THESE blowjob tips are ones you definitely don’t want to miss out on!

Start Out By Being Confident!

For a lot of women, oral sex is really intimidating. It can be very overwhelming having your man in your mouth. A lot of women immediately start preparing for the worst and worrying that something is going to go wrong. So many women worry that their gag reflexes are going to come into play or that they just aren’t going to be good enough. It’s time you put the worries behind you.

You can give your man amazing oral sex and you can do just that tonight. All you need is a little boost of confidence and some great knowledge. The more you know about oral sex, the more your nerves will be at ease and the calmer you will feel. If you really want to get your man going in the bedroom tonight, you need to learn these incredible blowjob tips tonight!

Start Off Slow

Just like with sex, you never dive right in a blowjob; you always start off slow with foreplay and gradually increase stimulation. The same goes for oral sex and it should be treated in the same manner. You don’t want to just take your man in all at once and then start bobbing up and down on him. This isn’t going to feel good for him because it is going to be way too much stimulation all at once. Instead, try easing him into it and easing yourself into it. Lick his penis with your tongue and trace it all over. This will ease him into feeling the warmth of your mouth and it will get the party started. Then, use your hand to stroke him a little until he is rock hard and your mouth is will salivated. Then, he can enter you and the fun can begin.

Use Everything In Your Arsenal

Just because these are blowjob tips, it doesn’t mean that you are only limited to just using your mouth. In fact, it is advised that you don’t. If you really want to maximize oral sex for your man and give him an out of this world orgasm, you have to use more than your mouth. Try doing this: use your strong hand on the shaft of his penis and stroke it up and down, use your other hand to stimulate his testicles by rubbing them and then finally, use your mouth on the tip of his penis. By following this, you are ensuring that no part of his pleasure zone is going untouched. He will feel so many different sensations and pleasure, he will easily explode.

Be Vocal!

This may sound impossible since you are going to have a penis in your mouth, making it difficult for you to speak but we aren’t talking about being vocal in the sense of dirty talking. Rather, it is a good idea for you to make some sexy moaning while you are going down on him. Your man could be feeling all of this pleasure but if all he hears is complete silence, something isn’t going to seem right to him. Men want women to enjoy giving oral sex. The more you are enjoying what you are doing to him, the more he will enjoy it.

Therefore, some sexy moans to let him know that you are really loving having him in your mouth will definitely set him off. Not only do they signal to him that you are loving it, but they also serve a bonus purpose. With your lips wrapped around his penis, and your mouth humming, you are going to send vibrations from your mouth to his penis and then throughout his entire body. This added bit of stimulation will more than likely be something he hasn’t experienced in this way before and it will feel amazing. If you really want to send chills all throughout his body, this is how you do it.

The Grand Finale

After giving him amazing stimulation and making him feel like a king, you want to finish off the main event in the right way. A lot of women can ruin oral sex in this moment and this is something that you don’t want to do. When your man is about to come, you have three choices and only one of them is the one you want to make. You can either stroke him to finish, allowing him to ejaculate on himself, you can let him ejaculate in your mouth and then spit, or you can let him ejaculate semen in your mouth and swallow.

Now, what choice do you think is the right one to make? Of course, swallowing is the sexy way to end off a killer blow job and it is a huge turn on for him. If you run to the bathroom to spit, you might as well never give him oral sex again because you are showing him that you are disgusted by it. You wouldn’t appreciate it if your man ran to the bathroom after going down on you, so don’t do the same to him. Finish off this amazing stimulation the right way and you will give him an experience he won’t soon forget.

7 Blowjob Tips That Will Leave Him Reeling

Kaylen Jackson — Sun, 29 May 2011 14:00:01 +0000

Oral sex is one of the greatest sexual gifts you can give a guy, because they absolutely love it. Some men even prefer oral sex to any other type of sex, including anal sex and vaginal intercourse! If you’re going to give your man head, you’re definitely going to want to make it special. Here’s how to give your man a blowjob that he’ll never forget.

Go Super Slow

A lot of women try to rush through a blowjob, or just go fast because they think that the faster they suck on their partner’s penis, the quicker he’s going to reach orgasm. This is actually quite far from the truth – lots of men actually enjoy slower blowjobs. They love the feeling of your mouth on their member, and they want to feel every movement. Suck on your partner’s member slowly, while covering your teeth with your lips. Swirl your tongue over the head of his member and don’t think that you can go too slow. If you’re really showing your lover that you’re savoring the blowjob, he’ll never want you to stop.

Flick Your Tongue Over His Urethra

As you’re licking the head of your lover’s penis, slowly flick your tongue over the tip of the penis on the urethra. If your guy seems really into the blowjob, you can also try lightly poking your tongue down into his urethra. There are tons of sensitive nerve endings around the opening of his member, so slowly licking and sucking in that area will definitely send shivers down his spine.

Hold The Base Of His Penis Tightly

Once you’ve given him an erection, take your thumb and your forefinger and tightly grasp the base of his penis. This acts like a cock ring and keeps the blood in the shaft during oral sex. This will help keep him rock hard and feeling every single thing you’re doing, even the lightest sweeps of your tongue. It will also help you steady his shaft and help you give a more coordinated blowjob. You’re also going to

Rub His Penis Underneath A Sheet

Before you get started, you may want to tease him a little bit first and get him hard and ready for what is to come. You can really get him turned on by having him lie naked on the bed underneath a sheet. Make sure your sheets are nice and soft, with either a high thread count or made from soft t-shirt material. Lightly stroke his member with your hand over the fabric and his genitals underneath it.

He’ll love the naughty feel of your hand over the sheet and you’ll really enjoy feeling his shaft get harder and harder under the fabric. Switch between soft and hard strokes, and don’t forget to let your hand wander over his thighs and scrotum too. You can also switch from rubbing him with your hand over the sheet to slipping your hand underneath and touching the skin of his genitals. Make this foreplay last until he can’t stand it anymore, and then slip the sheet back to give your man head.

Learn To Deep Throat

Men love deep throating – there’s just no doubt about it. They absolutely adore the feeling of their penis in your hot, wet mouth and when you deep throat, your man gets to feel your whole mouth and throat tightly enclosing his member. If you have trouble gagging while deep throating, practice a little each time you give your guy oral sex. Even if you can only deep throat one thrust before bringing his member out of your throat, you can make progress. Remember to breathe through your nose and relax your throat muscles. Focus on thinking about not gagging and know that practice makes perfect!

Switch Between A Blowjob And A Handjob

You can tease and titillate your partner by switching between giving him oral sex and a handjob. This requires your hands to be wet also, so either make sure you’re producing lots of saliva or use a flavored lube to make sure things are smooth and slick. When switching, bring your hand up and make it an extension of your mouth.

Then, as you move your hand up and down, slowly take your mouth off the head of your partner’s penis and just keep moving your hand. This gives you a break too (and allows you to go down on him longer without getting as tired) and when you’re ready to switch back to giving him a blowjob, just move your hand and go for it!

Suck The Head Of His Penis

When you sense that your lover is really into what you’re doing, stop and suck the head of his penis firmly. This is usually a good move to do right before you start giving him a handjob, after you’ve brought your hand up and are stroking his shaft or holding the base of his shaft tightly. You can also flick the tip of your tongue firmly over the head of his member and after all the teasing you’ve already been doing, this sultry move is likely to make his legs start shaking!

10 Ways To Become An Oral Sex Master (For Women)

Kaylen Jackson — Sun, 01 May 2011 14:00:01 +0000

Oral sex is something every guy craves, but a lot of girls aren’t good at it. They try to imitate what they see porn stars do in adult films, but that’s actually not the best way to give a guy a blowjob. It’s all for the cameras - but here’s the REAL way to be great at oral sex. If you follow these ten easy tips, you’ll have him begging you for more!

Go Slow At First

Yes, guys like a lot of sucking and they like it fast, but not always when you’re first starting to give him head. Instead of licking your partner’s penis like there’s no tomorrow to get his erection going, start slow and let his erection build in your mouth. Slowly suck him and roll his soft penis around in your mouth as he’s getting hard. He’ll love the feeling of having his entire penis in your mouth as he’s becoming aroused!

Learn To Deep Throat

Guys love a deep throat blowjob, but girls often don’t like to give them because taking a penis so deep into their throats make them gag or vomit. If you gag now while deep throating, you can learn to do it well with practice. Learn to breathe through your nose while you’re performing oral sex and relax your throat. Take a little bit more each time until you can deep throat your partner with ease.

Give Him A Handjob

If you can’t take him really deep into your throat, it’s not the end of the world. You can still give a great blowjob to your guy by giving him a handjob with it! Use your hand as an extension of your mouth and grasp the base of his penis while you suck on the head of it. Move your hand up and down as you move your mouth up and down, and don’t be afraid to let your saliva drip a little and function as a lube to make things go more smoothly. Gently tug on his scrotum or hold it gently to give your man even more pleasurable sensations.

Don’t Use Your Teeth

Teeth hurt during a blowjob and that’s all there is too it! Every once in awhile, a guy will enjoy teeth gently scraping against his penis, but odds are your man doesn’t want your chompers anywhere near his shaft. Keep your teeth out of his way by wrapping your lips over them while giving oral sex, so you don’t accidentally scrape or bite him during the blowjob.

Try Different Sex Positions

As opposed to letting him lie there and receive oral sex, try using some different sex positions to spice it up. Let him stand while you kneel on a pillow to give him head, or let him stand over you and lower his penis into your mouth as you’re lying down. Be creative and try all kinds of different sex positions – he’ll love how adventurous you are with just oral sex so much that he’ll be begging you for sex all the time!

Surprise Him With It

Give your man oral sex the next time he least expects it. Next time you are driving a long distance, surprise him with a blowjob in the car (which will probably lead to some amazing car sex!) or sneak off to the bathroom at a party to give him an impromptu blowjob. He will absolutely go wild over oral sex that happens anytime, anywhere!

Give Just A Blowjob

Instead of expecting sex after giving your man head, or expecting him to return the favor, give him a blowjob just for the sake of giving him a blowjob. Make sure he has an orgasm, and leave it at that! Let him know that you just wanted to go down on him – because you enjoy it so much. He’ll be thrilled that you like to give him head just because. Don’t be surprised if he asks for a blowjob next time “just because” he wants one!

Be Enthusiastic And Make Noise

No guy wants quiet oral sex, nor does he want to feel like giving him head is a chore for you and that you don’t enjoy it. Instead, show some enthusiasm while you’re giving him fellatio and let him know how much you enjoy it by giving him a moan or groan here and there. He’ll also love hearing the wet sucking noises, so make sure there are plenty of those too!

Give Him A Show

Men are essentially visual creatures and even though a blowjob will feel great if he can’t see what is going on, he’ll like it much better if he can. If you’re lying in the bed, prop his head up on a few pillows so he can look down and see what you’re doing. Better yet, have him sit on the couch or in a chair and kneel while you do it, giving him a full visual. Make sure to make eye contact with him every now and then while you’re sucking on him – it will drive him absolutely insane!

Let Him Grab Your Head

Most women don’t like it when a man grabs their head during oral sex, and for good reason. It can be uncomfortable, especially if he grabs your hair, and it can make you gag or vomit if he pushes your head too far down on his penis. However, men really enjoy this so if you have a partner you trust completely, try this the next time you give your partner head. He will love the way it feels to be in control like that, but make sure you both communicate about a sound or gesture that means “stop.” If this is going to work, he’s going to need to stop immediately if you give him the signal.

How To Deep Throat (Without Gagging)

Kaylen Jackson — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 14:00:18 +0000

Oral sex is incredibly pleasurable for a guy. In fact, it can even be more pleasurable than penetration and intercourse! The best part about oral sex for a guy is feeling a hot, wet mouth all over him – especially when a woman takes his entire penis in her mouth in a deep throat move.

While just about every guy loves deep throating, most girls do not. This is because deep throating often causes a woman to gag – and sometimes even vomit. The gag reflex, however, can be controlled with a little effort and some practice. Here’s how you can deep throat your lover without gagging.

Learn How To Breathe Through Your Nose

When giving a guy a blowjob, it’s important that you learn to breathe through your nose, even when you’re not deep throating. Even a small penis can block the airway from the mouth to the lungs, making it near impossible to breathe through your mouth during a blowjob. This is because your partner’s penis will go into your esophagus when you deep throat, blocking off the passage of air through the windpipe. Instead, learn how to breathe through your nose so the air can go directly from your nose to your lungs, completely bypassing your esophagus.

If you try to breathe through your mouth during a blowjob, you’re much more likely to gag or even vomit. Learning to breathe through your nose during a blowjob and while deep throating is an important skill to have in your oral sex tool belt.

Get Your Throat Parallel To His Penis

A big reason that the gag reflex gets stimulated during a blowjob is because the angle between the mouth and the throat isn’t set up to have a straight penis go in. You can actually overcome this easily by switching sex positions and getting your throat parallel to your lover’s penis.

Usually, the easiest way to do this is to lie on a bed on your back, with your head at the very edge of the bed. Scoot up so your head is basically hanging off the edge of the bed, which puts your mouth and throat in almost a straight line. This will make it much easier for your partner to insert his penis down your throat without rubbing so hard against the top of your throat (which is where the gag reflex is.)

Learn To Relax Your Throat Muscles

Relaxing your throat muscles is essential when it comes to giving your partner a good deep throat. Slowly insert your partner’s penis into your mouth, pushing past your gag reflex and down into your throat. When you feel the urge to gag, work on closing your eyes, breathing through your nose and relaxing your throat muscles.

This isn’t a technique that will come easily – it’s one that must take a lot of practice to really get the hang of it. Your partner probably won’t mind if you want to practice on him though!

Make Sure You’re In Control Of The Thrusting

While having your head hanging off the edge of the bed doesn’t exactly put you in a prime position to control your partner’s thrusting during oral sex, make sure that you at least have your hands on his hips and can guide him in and out of your mouth. If your partner is in complete control over his thrusting during fellatio, you’re much more likely to gag because you can’t control how deep he goes and when.

Trusting Your Partner

Since this type of oral sex can go wrong in so many ways (who wants a lap full of vomit?), it’s important to have a partner that you truly trust and can be open and honest with. Talk with your partner about the level of trust you’re putting in him to allow him to deep throat you, and make sure he agrees not to abuse it by going too hard or too fast without your explicit consent.

Having A Safe “Gesture”

While this type of oral sex is generally safe, you should still consider having a safe “gesture” that will let your partner know to stop immediately. You can’t use words while deep throating, so decide hand signal of some kind before you and your partner get busy. Use the safe “gesture” as though you would a safe word during bondage or kinky sex to let your lover know that you’re uncomfortable, in pain or want to stop for any reason. Make sure that you and your lover are on the same page about stopping whatever is going on immediately if the gesture is used.

Best Blowjob Tips Of 2010

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 24 Dec 2010 14:00:17 +0000

Every man loves getting a blowjob. The simple truth of it is that feeling a warm, wet mouth wrapped around his penis is absolutely divine and not even explosive sex can come close to how awesome a great blowjob feels. Of course, a bad blowjob can be ultra uncomfortable or even painful for a man!

While giving someone head seems pretty straightforward, there are lots of mistakes that girls can make when going down on their partner – and these mistakes could keep him from reaching orgasm or cause him to take longer getting there (which can be hell on your neck). Many girls don’t enjoy giving their man a blowjob, either because it’s uncomfortable or she doesn’t like the taste of his semen.

All year, we’ve given you the best information on not only how to make his toes curl during oral sex, but also how to make going down on him better for you. Whether you’re trying to find a comfortable position to be in during sex (and get some action for yourself in the process) or make his semen taste better so you can actually stand to swallow, we’ve got the best suggestions and techniques for you to use. Scope out some of these super hot blowjob techniques to turn you into a sex goddess in your partner’s eyes in 2011!

The 5 Hottest Oral Sex Tips On The Planet – For Him

Kaylen Jackson — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 23:00:04 +0000

All men love getting a blowjob – in fact, many men prefer to be on the receiving end of oral sex more than they like intercourse! If your guy likes it so much, naturally, you want to learn as many techniques as you can so you can rock his word. Fortunately for you, there are only 5 awesome oral sex tips that you need to learn to give your guy an amazing orgasm with your mouth – and he’ll never look at you the same way again!

Use Your Hands Too

Some women think that giving a guy head involves using only your mouth, but that is far, far from the truth. When going down on a guy, incorporating your hands into the mix can mean the difference between giving him head for an hour or making him orgasm within ten to fifteen minutes. When giving your partner a blowjob, take one hand and wrap it around the base of his penis. Stroke up and down the shaft of his member as you would if you were giving him a handjob, but only moving your hand halfway up the penis. Lower your mouth down over the head of his penis to give him oral sex, but you’ll only need to go down as far as your hand is -around the middle of his penis. He’ll love the feeling of having both your hands and your mouth on his penis and you’ll be able to bring him to orgasm faster than if you just used your hands or your mouth alone. This is also a great technique for women who have a strong gag reflex to use, because it doesn’t allow the penis to go very far down the throat at all.

Massage The Prostate Gland Or Perineum

The prostate gland is much like a woman’s “g-spot” in the fact that it is a special spot located inside the body that can bring a man to an amazingly powerful orgasm if it’s stimulated the right way. The most efficient way to stimulate a man’s prostate gland is by gently sliding your finger in his anus and making a “come hither” motion with your finger. This will directly stimulate the prostate gland and may cause a man to climax immediately. Some men, however, are adverse to anal sex or anal play of any kind, and this is not the best approach for someone who is uncomfortable with anal stimulation. If this is the case for you and your partner, you can firmly massage his perineum (the space between his testicles and his anus) with your knuckles. This indirectly stimulates the prostate gland and can provide some of the same sensations as when using other techniques.

Pay Attention To The Head Of His Penis

The head of your partner’s penis is the most sensitive part, so it’s important not to leave it out when giving your partner a blowjob. Start by sucking gently on the head of his penis, swirling your tongue around firmly. You can start to suck more firmly if your partner seems to enjoy this, but beware of sucking too hard. The head of his penis is much like your clitoris – packed full of nerve endings that can cause pain or discomfort when stimulated too much.

Don’t Be Afraid To Slobber

So many women are afraid of using too much saliva when giving a guy a blowjob, so they skimp on how good of a blowjob they actually give so as not to end up slobbering all over his penis. Here’s a quick tip – ignore how much saliva you’re using and just let it drip. Keep a towel nearby if you’re that freaked out about it, but don’t worry too much because it’s almost guaranteed that your partner doesn’t care how much saliva you get on him at all.

Let Him Enjoy The Show

Men are definitely visual creatures, so if you can position yourself to allow him to watch while you give him head, so much the better. Make eye contact with him every now and then so he can see how much you’re enjoying giving him pleasure (this is a big deal for guys by the way) and he’ll never forget how great you can be in bed. Mix and match this technique with a few other oral sex tips and you’ll really end up blowing his mind! He’ll be begging you to give him a blowjob again and again after this – and you just might get him to be enthusiastic about giving you oral sex in return!

Q&A: How To Give A Better Blowjob

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 03 Oct 2010 14:00:26 +0000

It’s no secret that guys love getting a blowjob. Getting head is probably one of your guy’s favorite ways to be pleasured sexually, so you should definitely learn how to give great head if you don’t already know how. And chances are, even if you’re a blowjob pro, you could use a few tips to spice up your routine. Giving a guy head sounds simple, but there are a lot of things that girls miss when they’re going down on their guy. Here are some simple tips to help you give a better blowjob.

Be In A Comfortable Position

Being uncomfortable is one of the main complaints that women have about going down on their guy. Many women avoid giving their guy a blowjob at all just because they can’t find a comfortable position to do it in. If you’re not in a good position while going down on your guy, you’ll find that you tire more quickly and easily, your neck will start to cramp and your jaw and hands may get tired fast. You can give much better head if you find a position in which you can be comfortable during the blowjob. The best sex positions for pleasing your guy orally are usually if you are on your knees with him either sitting or lying down.

Start By Slowly Licking Him Up And Down

Most women don’t like it when their partners perform oral sex on them and just dive right in. They’d prefer if their guys started a little slower, kissing and licking lightly before starting the real show. Guys are the same. Your man doesn’t just want you to put his whole penis in your mouth and watch you start sucking like a madwoman. He’d love to see you lick slowly up and down his penis, getting him warmed up before you start going fast and using your hands as well as your mouth.

Tongue, Mouth, Hand And Fingers

Most girls’ mouths aren’t wide or long enough to completely take in all of their partner’s penis, especially if he has a big penis or a very long or wide one. So when giving your guy oral sex, use your hands and fingers in addition to your tongue and mouth to really make the blowjob great. Since you probably can’t take him completely into your mouth when he’s erect, keep your mouth on the head (which is one of the most sensitive parts of his penis) and use your hands and fingers to caress his lower shaft and testicles. Experiencing all the different sensations your hands and mouth create during a blowjob will make it truly amazing for him!

Show Him You’re Really Into It!

Guys don’t want to see a girl giving a blowjob like it’s a chore. So show your man that you’re really into it and you’re getting something out of it too. Make eye contact with him occasionally and don’t forget to make some noise. He doesn’t want to hear only himself! You can also touch yourself during the blowjob, but do so only as you’re getting him warmed up. When he gets close, all your focus needs to be on him. If you don’t mind his hands on your head, he’d love to put them there. If you do, just let him fondle your breasts during the blowjob instead. Afterwards, let him know how much you enjoyed giving him pleasure with your mouth!

Communicate With Your Partner

There are lots of things that men enjoy when getting head, and there are a few things that will make him cringe – such as using your teeth, for one. Don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner about what he likes and what he doesn’t like when you’re giving him a blowjob, because not all guys like the same thing when recieving oral sex. If you’re too shy to ask, pay attention to his non-verbal cues instead. If he really likes something, his eyes may roll back in his head or he may start breathing faster or moaning louder. He may grasp the sheets or the arms of the chair, or he may buck his hips towards you. When that happens, just keep doing whatever you’re doing! If you stop or change to doing something different, he’ll stop exhibiting these behaviors and he’ll come right back to the real world. When you find something he really likes, whether he told you or showed you that it was great, keep doing it! Chances are, it won’t be long before he reaches orgasm.

Do Tongue Piercings Improve Oral Sex?

Kaylen Jackson — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 23:00:04 +0000

You’ve probably heard that tongue piercings make make oral sex better, but is it true? How much of a difference does a tongue piercing really make when it comes to giving a blowjob or going down on a girl? Here’s the downlow on oral sex and tongue piercings and whether you should get one to please your partner.

Tongue Piercings And A Blowjob

Depending on the style of tongue ring worn, a tongue ring can definitely improve the sensations a guy feels during a blowjob. One of the most sensitive parts of a man’s penis is on the underneath, just below the head where the head meets the rest of the penis. The position of a tongue ring, even just one with a small ball on the top of the barbell is perfect for titillating this most sensitive spot and can really drive a man wild. Of course, the tongue ring will also stimulate other parts of the penis as well, and can provide tons of new sensations than just the tongue alone can. Other styles of tongue rings can be worn to create different sensations, such as “doorknocker” style tongue rings. These consist of a ring attached to the top ball of the tongue ring and the ring can move freely in a variety of ways. However, with the right skill set, a woman with or without a tongue ring can blow her partner’s mind during a blowjob!

Tongue Piercings And Cunnilingus

Tongue rings also have the potential to improve cunnilingus when a guy has his tongue pierced. During oral sex, the tongue ring will move around with the tongue, stimulating different parts of the vulva such as the clitoris while the tip of the tongue is stimulating an entirely different place. A man can use a tongue ring to drive his partner wild and give her incredible orgasms, even if he’s not schooled on how best to give a woman an orgasm through cunnilingus. There are many styles of tongue rings that are great for going down on a girl, however, the most interesting and titillating is the vibrating tongue ring. There are many tongue rings available that have a small vibrator attached to the top ball of the tongue ring and will vibrate as you lick your partner’s clitoris! Many women have trouble reaching orgasm through oral sex alone, however, a vibrating tongue ring can definitely put an end to that!

Should You Get A Tongue Piercing?

While there are many benefits that a tongue ring can bring to the bedroom, there are also risks involved as with any body modification, such as with genital piercings. Tongue piercings can get infected and cause major problems, and can also chip the backside of your teeth and reduce your gum line. Fortunately, piercings are removable and non-permanent so getting a piercing for your partner isn’t quite the committment getting their name tattooed on you would be. However, make sure you’re willing to go through the pain, swelling and healing period that comes with a tongue piercing and that you’re willing to take proper care of your piercing and keep it clean and infection free. Find a reputable, sterile piercing studio that has experience with tongue piercings and never, ever try to pierce your tongue yourself.

Why Men Love Oral Sex

Jessica Perez — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 18:34:29 +0000

Using your mouth to give pleasure is one of the most intimate aspects of sex. Some women are better at it than others. But one thing’s for sure: men love giving and receiving oral sex.

Why Men Love Giving Oral Sex

Cunnilingus is one of the best ways to make a woman climax. In fact, some men would argue that it is the only way to make a girl climax. This type of intimate kissing is sexy, arousing and extremely gratifying. Men enjoy the benefit of wielding power just by controlling the tide of a woman’s orgasm.

When a man goes down on you, he’s exploring the seat of your femininity. He’s amazed at how different you are from him, and honoured that you trust him enough to grant access to your secret lips. Although some men would rather receive than give oral sex, there’s no denying that oral sex on a woman is one of the things that all men should excel at.

Why Men Love Receiving Oral Sex

Men like receiving intimate kisses, especially from a woman who knows how. They like it when a woman uses her lips, tongue and hands down there. Even if the woman shows mediocre skills, any man will appreciate the fact that she is willing to explore his manhood and that she is eager to provide one-way pleasure by performing oral sex on him.

The role of a blowjob in sexual power play is ambiguous. On one hand, it is a man’s way of saying “you’re in charge.” A woman can thus proceed to use his tool to manipulate his reactions, all the while pleasuring herself with her fingers or a dildo.

On the other hand, it is also a way for a man to feel more powerful during sex. It’s no secret that men feel like kings when a girl performs this “service.” They can lie back and take all the pleasure they want.

I guess it depends on the man you’re with and his personality. You can ask a guy you’re thinking of going out with, “what does a blowjob mean to you?” and you will be able to discover at once what kind of lover he is.

Anal Play During A Blowjob

Some men enjoy being touched on the anal region while a woman is exploring his manhood. It’s just natural that a woman’s lips and fingers stray to that area since it’s so close by. However, there are men who dislike being touched there because of the connection between the anal region and homosexuality.

One thing I noticed is that the men who are completely comfortable with their masculinity tend to love anal play more than those who are not entirely convinced that a finger or two in their anal hole doesn’t have anything to do with being a homosexual.

How to Give Your Man Pleasure Via Oral Sex

The best advice I can give you is to simply observe his reactions while you’re giving him great head. Look for feedback and create your blowjob style according to what makes him happy.

Q&A: What Does Sperm Taste Like?

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 17 May 2010 14:00:09 +0000

When giving a blowjob, you know eventually the inevitable will happen. Your man will have an orgasm and you’ll have semen in your mouth. Many people are weirded out by the idea of sperm in their mouth, especially if they’ve heard horror stories from their girlfriends. So what does sperm really taste like, and is it harmful to swallow it?

Question: What does sperm taste like? Is it okay to swallow it? If so, can it do any harm?

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What Affects The Taste Of Sperm

Not all sperm is equal. Every man’s semen tastes different and it may even have a different texture or an aftertaste too. There are a great deal of things that affect the flavor of a man’s ejaculate, from what they eat to how healthy they are. Smoking, drinking and doing drugs or taking prescription medications are often said to give semen a bad, bitter taste, while the semen of healthy men is said to taste cleaner. Just think about it this way – whatever you put into your body is coming out, via sweat, urine and yes, semen. Eating fresh fruits and vegetables is a great way to improve the taste of your semen, and many people report that pineapples and pineapple juice can make ejaculate taste exceptionally sweet.

What Do You Like?

Not only does every man’s semen taste different from each other, each woman has her own flavor preferences as well. Some women can’t stand the texture of semen, regardless of the taste while other women love the taste of semen and can’t seem to get enough of it. You may have preferred the taste of an ex-boyfriend’s semen while your current beau’s just doesn’t do it for you or vice versa. One woman may report that one man’s semen tastes good, while another women can report that the same man’s semen is very bitter and has a bad taste to it. It’s difficult to give semen a solid thumbs up or thumbs down as far as taste is concerned, because there are so many different variables to consider. It’s perfectly normal to want him to finish in your mouth or to dislike it, or even to like one man’s semen but not another’s. You just like what you like!

It’s Ok To Swallow

Swallowing semen is not harmful in and of itself, provided something extraordinary doesn’t happen such as choking on it, etc. Some people even report that semen is good for you, as it contains a great deal of protein. The taste of semen and whether to spit or swallow is a personal choice, because neither will have any harmful side effects. Never do something that makes you uncomfortable, regardless of how much your partner wants it, and if you don’t want to swallow that’s all there is to it. Just don’t. If swallowing is something that turns you on and it’s something you enjoy doing, go for it! Just remember that semen can and will carry sexually transmitted diseases if a person is infected, which can easily spread to you if you swallow the ejaculate. If you really want to swallow, make sure you’re being safe and your partner has passed an STD test first.

Best Blowjob Tips Of 2009

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:00:59 +0000

Men love getting a blowjob. It’s a fact – some men even enjoy blowjobs or getting head more than they enjoy sex! Many women know how to give great fellatio – but many still don’t! If you want to get your man wrapped around your little finger, the secret is giving him amazing head – but it’s not all about technique! In fact, many women make blowjob mistakes or fail to do the few crucial things that make getting head so great for a guy! If you want to give your guy the ultimate blowjob, check out our favorite blowjob articles of 2009 so you can get a “head” start on 2010!

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Blowjob Tip #2 – She’s In Charge, Here’s Why…

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 14:00:26 +0000

If you’re learning how to give a great blowjob, one of the best tips you can employ is being in charge and being confident of your abilities to give great head. Even if you’re new at it, being in charge can be pleasurable for both you and your partner. Here’s why!

Why It’s Good For Him

Since most men take control during sex and even during a blowjob, logically, it doesn’t make sense that they would want to give up control, does it? But get this – most men take control during sex because they have no choice. Many women don’t know how to enjoy themselves during sex and end up lying there, making the man do all the work if he wants anything to happen. Guys are actually aching to give up control! What better way to get pleasure than to have a woman worship your penis and be completely devoted to giving you pleasure? It’s awesome! He loves it when you take control, let him lie back and enjoy the ride.

Why It’s Good For You

Taking charge when giving head is good for you because you get to do what you want to do. Don’t like a certain position? Try another one. Getting a jaw cramp? Switch to using your hand for a little while. Deep throating make you gag? Lick it like a lollipop instead. Of course you want to take his verbal and non-verbal feedback into account when using different techniques and do what he likes best, but you want to be comfortable and enjoy giving him head as much as he enjoys getting it.

Why You Need To Be Confident

It’s important to be confident – or at least appear that way – when you’re going down on your guy. Nothing ruins a great blowjob than a passive girl asking, “Am I doing this right?” or “Did I do something wrong?” Sure, you want to ask your man questions. But you want to use positive, confident phrases that assert your control, such as “Do you like this?” or “Does this feel good?” or even, “Tell me what feels good.” Your demeanor can actually make all the difference during fellatio. You want your man to relax and let go, feeling good about leaving you in the driver’s seat. Who wants to enjoy the ride with a driver who’s constantly worried they’ll wreck and asking you if they’re hitting the brakes right or accelerating properly?

A blowjob works much the same way – a guy just wants to know that you know what you’re doing (or at least perceive that you know what you’re doing) and get lost in the feeling of getting great head. So be confident and take charge! You’ll both like blowjobs a lot better if you do.

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Blowjob Tip #1 – Why It’s a Gift, Not an Obligation

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 13:00:58 +0000

Men love to get blowjobs – in fact, many men prefer getting oral sex to vaginal intercourse and sometimes, it’s their favorite type of stimulation of all time. Naturally, women who want to please their partners want to find out the best blowjob tips and advice so they can be an oral sex master – here’s what you want to know on how to give the best blowjob!

Oral sex is one of the most intimate gifts we can give one another. When a woman gives a man oral or manual stimulation, you are giving him a very special gift. That means you’re in charge! Here are some tips to make the experience more pleasurable for both of you.

The Greatest Sexual Gift

When a man gives a woman oral sex, he does what he thinks will make her feel good. When a woman gives a man oral sex, she let’s him take the reins and shows her how he likes it, even to the point of physically manipulating her to maximize his own pleasure. Not only can this be uncomfortable for a woman, it doesn’t allow her to give head as a “gift” to her partner. One of the great things about oral sex is that it’s one of the best sexual gifts you can give. Since oral sex provides the giving partner no physical stimulation whatsoever, the focus is totally on the receiving partner and their pleasure. So to give oral sex to someone means you’re focusing on their pleasure and their pleasure alone. When a man takes the reins when she’s giving him a blowjob, that takes away from the fact that she’s “giving” him a sexual gift, making her feel more used than treasured.

Women In The Driver’s Seat

If you’re going to go down on him, it’s time to sit in the driver’s seat. Let your partner know that you’re in control and that you’re giving him the gift of oral sex – so he just needs to sit back and enjoy it! Blindfold him and tie his hands behind his back if you have to (which can, of course, add to the fun) but it’s important that he doesn’t try to take control while you’re giving him oral sex. If he’s not the submissive type, it may be an adjustment, but in the long run, allowing you to enjoy giving him the gift of oral sex – instead of making it an obligation or making you feel used – will give him more pleasure. He’ll like watching you enjoy it and he’ll get blowjobs more often!

Listen To His Feedback

It’s essential that you listen to his verbal and non-verbal feedback when you’re giving your partner fellatio. While you get to pleasure him how you’d like, listening to what makes him feel good is important. For example, if he lets you know verbally what he likes, make sure you incorporate that into your blowjob routine. You can also listen to your partner’s non-verbal feedback. For example, if your partner is quiet or doesn’t seem to be getting into it, change what you’re doing. If your partner starts making noise and showing that he’s really enjoying what you’re doing, keep doing what you’re doing! Otherwise, your partner should lie back, relax and enjoy your oral sex gift!

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Blowjob Tip: How To Make Her Want To Give You More Oral Sex

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 14:00:36 +0000

Men want blowjobs – it’s a fact of life. Some women enjoy giving blowjobs, but others don’t. What if you’re a guy with a gal who you wish would give you more oral sex? Does she not do it enough? Does she not do it at all? Either way, you wish she would go down on you more. How do you get her to want to give you head?

Most guys just wish there girl would give them more oral sex – call it a blow job, giving head, or going down on him – fact is there are a lot of women out there who just don’t do it. Here are some things that you can do to actually help her enjoy the process so that she’ll want to do it more. Come on… You’ve just got to give a little to get a lot!

Getting Her To Want It

That’s the key statement right there – getting her to want to give you a blowjob. There’s nothing that turns a woman off more than a man who wants to “make” her give him oral sex. Have you pressured your woman into giving you a blowjob? Have you tried to make her do something she doesn’t want to do? We bet you didn’t get very far, did you? The trick is to help her to want to give you oral sex. Pressuring her to do it, or complaining or whining about how you don’t get enough oral sex…well, that’s just not going to get you very far.

Lead By Example

The best way to get your partner to give you good oral sex is to give her good oral sex first! There’s nothing more giving than a satisfied woman, and if you give her the orgasm of her life by going down on her, it’s only natural that she’ll want to return the favor. Read a few female orgasm tips to help you get in the mood to give her oral sex, and try some of the new, fun techniques that she’s never experienced before. She’ll be putty in your hands before too long! After you’ve given her excellent oral sex, relax and let her take the bull by the horns.

Make Blowjobs For You Fun For Her Too

A woman won’t give a blowjob twice if it’s not good for her too. That doesn’t necessarily mean pleasuring her while she’s pleasuring you (although that’s not a bad idea sometimes), but it does mean that you have to make giving you a blowjob less like a chore and more like something fun for her to do to pleasure you. Make sure you’re clean – a sweaty, smelly penis is no fun to go down on. Trim if you’re hairy, or shave if you want to give her a real surprise. The best way to make a blowjob fun for her is to let her know how crazy she’s making you! Give lots of good feedback. Before she gives you a blowjob, make sure to tell her how excited you are that she’s going to do it, and how much it turns you on to think of her giving you head.

While she’s going down on you, give her plenty of verbal and non-verbal feedback, such as groaning, shifting your hips, grabbing her head (if she likes that) and really getting into it. Don’t fake it – she’ll be able to tell. Just let yourself go in a way that you might normally do. After the blowjob, make sure to tell her how good it was for you, how much you love her and how happy she made you. She’ll definitely want to do it again!

Blowjobs 101: What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex…

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 22:40:32 +0000

Most women know that men love blowjobs. And many women can adequately please their partners orally, more or less anyway. But can YOU truly blow your partner’s mind when you give him head and have him absolutely begging for more?

Here are some surprising facts about blowjobs: (from Blow His Mind Tonight)

Did you know that your tongue is a muscle just like every other muscle in your body and exercising it will make it stronger and more powerful?
Did you know the tongue can put six to eight pounds of pressure on a man’s penis?
Did you know a great handjob can feel as good as a blowjob to a man if it’s done the right way?
Do you know that a string of pearls, a silk scarf and a bag of Skittles can make your man’s toes curl?

If you’ve ever wanted to give your partner the kind of blowjob you know he wants, then we have a little secret to share with you.

Our friend Jessica Perez just published an amazing guide called Blow His Mind Tonight which is all about the in-and-outs of giving your man the best blowjob of his life. Never before have we seen a book so loaded with useable blowjob tips and techniques as this one!

Not only is Jessica’s book great for beginners, it also contains a wealth of information for women who simply want to amp up their blowjob skills and increase their sexual skills.

Jessica’s Blow His Mind Tonight is not only a great place to get started with lots of exercises to help your mouth’s strength and stamina, but also a great place to get tons of ideas on what positions to use and what tongue techniques will work the best.

If you’re ready to take the plunge and start learning about how to really turn your partner on, check out the awesome information that Jessica has in her incredible book:

Learn correct tongue placement and easy tongue exercises that you can do anywhere, anytime to make your mouth a powerful pleasure deliverer!
Find out the right way to breathe during a blowjob
Learn how to make your hands baby bottom soft for that perfect handjob
Test your blowjob abilities with two fun, before and after quizzes to see how much you’ve improved your oral sex skills
The different parts of an orgasm, including arousal, ejaculation and recovery
Learn how to give your partner the holy grail of blowjobs – deep throating – without gagging
Learn dozens of different techniques to use during handjobs and blowjobs to give your man the ultimate pleasure

But hold on a second, there’s a catch.

Before you download Jessica Perez’s Blow His Mind Tonight, make sure you’re willing to put in the effort it takes to learn how to give your partner the ultimate head. While Jessica’s guide is practically bursting at the seams with information, it’s not going to guarantee that you instantly become an oral sex goddess. The tips and techniques included in her book are things you actually have to do to make work, so make sure you’re willing to invest your time into learning how to give your partner an amazing blowjob.

If you think you have what it takes to learn tongue exercises, handjob techniques, blowjob techniques and the ultimate deep throating techniques to really blow your partner’s mind, download Blow His Mind Tonight and get started!

4 Mistakes On How To Give Head To A Guy

Jessica Perez — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 21:00:50 +0000

Would you like to have a crash course on how you can master the art of fellatio? As you may already know, being good at oral sex is a skill that most women would like to develop – but it’s quite intimidating once you’re down there.

What if your teeth graze the skin of his penis while you’re giving him a blowjob? What if you accidentally suck too hard because you don’t know the right amount of pressure to apply? What if your gagging reflex is triggered?

Learning how to give head to a guy properly would normally involve mistakes – especially if you’re new at it. But don’t worry, practice makes perfect. In order for you to be a better lover, take a look first at the top 5 mistakes that most women make when going down on a man – and these are the things that you should steer clear of.

Mistake #1: Not Being Enthusiastic Enough

For both men and women, being with an unresponsive lover is a definite turn off. The same thing applies to a woman who considers giving blowjobs to be a chore.

When you’re going down on him, show him how much you love what you’re doing. Maintain eye contact, don’t be afraid to slobber a bit and make the moans and groans that you would usually make when you’re having penetrative sex.

Your enthusiasm would be a huge turn on for him and help him achieve an orgasm real quick.

Mistake #2: Not Allowing Things To Get Really Wet

It may sound distasteful for women, but most men agree that the more saliva or lubrication you use while giving him head, the better the feeling is for them. Before you move your mouth up and down his penis, wet it with your saliva.

Better yet, be a bit on the creative side and swallow a bit of warm coffee or some cold water before taking him into your mouth. The sensation of the liquid combined with the sucking motions that you will make should send him through the roof!

Mistake #3: Grazing Him With Your Teeth

Although some men would not mind feeling a bit of a graze from your teeth while receiving head, it is not a sensation that everyone enjoys. The rule of no teeth while giving blow jobs should always apply – so keep those fangs covered with your lips.

Mistake #4: Not Communicating With Him

Just like every other aspect of your sex life, it will greatly improve your ‘performance’ if you will have a talk with him about what he likes when you’re giving him head.

Be extra attentive to his moans and groans while you’re down there, take a cue from how his hands are moving on the back of your head and how he is moving his hips. By avoiding the top 4 mistakes that women make when giving head, you will be on your way towards mastering your skills at fellatio and be the best lover that you can be.

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3 Mistakes From How to Give Head Videos: Sex Lessons To Learn From Adult Videos About Giving Head

Jessica Perez — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 22:00:07 +0000

If there’s one thing about sex that men and women do not agree on, it’s the fact that men do like their porn – so much so that some seem to think that their sessions in the sack should mimic an adult film.

Although women do not find hardcore porn to be as arousing the way that men do, are there any ‘lessons’ that they can learn from something like a ‘how to give head video’? First, let’s try to check on the top mistakes that women make when giving men some oral love.

Mistake #1: Not Giving His Equipment All Your Attention

If there’s one thing that women should learn from female adult film stars, it’s the fact that enthusiasm counts for a lot. When you watch an adult film which features a woman giving head, you might be amazed at how enthusiastic she is – and keeps going at it for minutes and minutes!

There’s probably the fantasy factor added on to the mix – but the one lesson that you should learn is that men wouldn’t be watching these films if they’re not a major turn on. As such, take a cue from the adult film stars and give his equipment all your attention – and look like you mean to go on giving him head until he reaches his boiling point.

Mistake #2: Not Being Open To Different Positions

Visit any sex guide on the Internet and you will see that there is more than one position which will give you comfort – and give him the ultimate pleasure – while giving head. The next time that you see a unique position from a sex video, make sure to try some of the positions out.

Mistake #3: Not Trying to Take It All In

Being able to deep throat is like the Holy Grail of a woman’s sexual skills – and it is something that you should try at least once. If you find out that you’re unable to do it, that is perfectly fine because taking it all in should never be a requirement when giving head.

Now that you know about the top mistakes that women make on how to give head, you can probably take a cue from these adult videos so that you can amp up your own sex life.

Basically, the lessons that you should learn from something like a ‘how to give head video’ would be to appear enthusiastic while you’re going down on him; take your time in pleasuring a man while you’re down there and to use a combination of your hands, mouth, tongue and lips to give him sensations that will send him shooting though the roof!

Since you already know about the top mistakes that women make when watching a how to give head video, wouldn’t you love to learn exactly how the proper way of going down on him is done? Visit our site to get a step-by-step guide that you can use to improve your oral skills and give your man a mind-blowing time in bed!

3 Mistakes & Blunders That You Should Not Make When Learning How To Give Head To A Guy!

Jessica Perez — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 21:00:22 +0000

Do I have to swallow once he ejaculates? What if he wants me to take it all in but I can’t? What if my gag reflex takes over and find out that once I’m down there, I just can’t do it? When learning how to give head to a guy, these are just some of the dilemmas that women face.

But if you want to give your man as much pleasure as he is giving you, then you would need to do your part and learn how to go down on him. If you’re at a loss as to what you should do once you’re down there, then let’s start with the top 3 mistakes that you should not make when giving head to a guy.

Mistake #1: Treating His Equipment Like Breakable China

This is probably one of the most common mistakes that women make when learning how to give head to a guy. This could be due to the fact that when men are performing cunnilingus, women prefer them to be a bit gentle – especially when targeting the clitoris.

However, when it comes to a man’s penis, it is neither fragile nor breakable so don’t think that you should treat it and hold it like your grandmother’s fine china. Sure, it’s okay to treat it gently initially, but when things heat up later on, you need to amp up the pressure.

Mistake #2: Going Too Fast When Going Down On Him

How many times have you heard the maxim that men are such visual creatures? This is perfectly true, so why would you want to make it look like you’re in a hurry when you’re going down on him?

It’s okay to indulge in a quickie every once in a while during penetrative sex, but giving him head is not one of those instances. Take your time, look him in the eye while you’re doing it and treat him to a visual, sensual feast while you’re loving his penis.

Mistake #3: Getting Carried Away With All That Sucking

You want him to moan in pleasure – not in pain – so don’t get carried away with all that sucking! There’s definitely a wrong way to give a guy head – and sucking too hard is one of them. This is especially true if you are dealing with the most sensitive part of his penis which is the head.

The best way to do it is by taking more and more of his penis – slowly – into your mouth, and then applying a moderate suction.

Make sure to avoid these top three blunders that women make when giving a guy head, and you’ll be on your way towards mastering the art of fellatio.

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5 Mistakes To Avoid While Brushing Up On Your Oral Skills & Learning How To Give Great Head

Jessica Perez — Sat, 30 May 2009 19:48:01 +0000

Would you like to learn how to give great head? When it comes to the skills in bed that they need to master, this is probably the number one aspect that most women are insecure at.

It’s quite intimidating to go down on your knees and not know exactly what you should do once you’re face to face with his equipment. So what’s the best way to start? If you want to be the type of lover that men never forget, then you should brush up on your oral sex skills and avoid these top 5 mistakes that women make when giving head.

Mistake #1: Using Your Teeth

Sure, your man would not like you to treat his penis too gently when you’re going down on him – but using your teeth is too much on the rough category. You don’t want to nick the skin of his penis, so use your lips as a shield while you’re slowly taking it in.

Mistake #2: Not Playing With His Balls Enough

Just as it is when women complain that most men usually skip on the foreplay to get to the main event, you don’t; want to skip on giving him mind-blowing pleasure by ignoring ‘the boys’.

So what are the rules to follow when it comes to playing with his testicles? Don’t yank, don’t pull them down using a vise grip, never grab and squeeze his balls. What you should do is rub, lick and oh-so-gently tug them until you hear moans of pleasure instead of grunts of pain.

Mistake #3: Giving In To Your Gagging Impulse

The problem is that there are certain levels when a woman’s gag reflex gets triggered. Gagging when you’re trying to give a guy head is definitely a turn off – but what if you can’t help but give in?

Well, you shouldn’t put yourself in such a situation in the first place. Watch when you’re being overly enthusiastic while making sucking motions. If you’re new at giving head, don’t try to take it all in and if you find out from previous experiences that it’s something that you just cannot do – stop trying.

Mistake #4: Not Varying The Pressure Enough

There’s no rule book that you should follow when giving a guy head – but repetitive motions without varying your pressure is not enough of a turn on for him. Use his moans of pleasure to amp up the speed, or slow your motions down to an almost caress if you want to cool him off a bit.

Mistake #5: Not Being In The Moment

Men need to see that you do like worshipping his penis – so don’t just be still while you’re going down on him. Bob your head a bit, use your hands on other parts of his body, make sounds – live in the moment and make him feel like a king when giving him head!

Learning about the top mistakes that you shouldn’t make when giving a guy head is the first step to being the best lover that you can be, so steer clear of this blunders and you can get him off using your mouth in no time at all.

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How To Give Great Head: Top 3 Steps To Follow In Mastering The Art Of Fellatio

Jessica Perez — Sun, 24 May 2009 21:12:19 +0000

Did you know that there are some men who prefer receiving oral sex over intercourse? This is similar to the fact that there are a lot of women who cannot achieve an orgasm through penetrative sex, which is why they prefer when a man goes down on them.

So if you want to be the type of woman who will never be forgotten by a man because you’re such a great lover, then you do need to learn how to give great head. Take a look at some of the steps that you need to follow if you would like to master the art of fellatio.

Step 1: Remember That Achieving An Orgasm Is As Much Mental For Men As It Is For Women

Did you think that it is only women who can use their brains as the most important sexual organ? The same thing applies for men, too. So how exactly does this relate to learning how to give a guy great head?

Basically, you need to play the part and make him think that you love going down on him. Nothing kills a mood more than acting as if giving him head is a chore – or worse, a favor – that you owe him. Get in the mood by engaging in some naughty or downright trashy talk, or live out your sexual fantasies while giving him head.

Step 2: Make Sure That You Are In A Position Where You Will Not Get A Crick In Your Neck While Doing It

Scope out the sex guides online and look for a position which looks comfortable enough for you to really mean business while giving him head. Although it only takes about five minutes of direct stimulation for men to achieve an orgasm – you don’t want the action to be over too soon, so you might as well get comfy while going down on him.

Step 3: Get Down To Business

Start by lightly flicking your tongue over the head of his penis and slowly take it into your mouth. Remember that you shouldn’t use your teeth while giving him head, and you do need to give him variations when it comes to the rhythm and pace of your strokes.

Use your mouth, your tongue, your lips and your fingers to make sure that you are not ignoring any part of his penis. Try to listen to his moans and groans, take a cue from how his hand is making a gesture while holding your head – that should give you a clue as to whether he wants you to keep the pace, or go faster or slower.

No matter what you do down there, the trick is to try and love what you’re doing, keep on varying the pressure and use all the tools at your disposal so that you can give your guy great head.

Tips

To swallow or not to swallow is more of a personal preference, but don’t kill the mood by spitting it out openly if you don’t like the taste of his semen once he ejaculates.

What you can do instead is have him come on other parts of your body by taking his penis out of your mouth once he’s about to reach his peak – that’s as equally erotic as swallowing.

Warnings

If you’re having sex with someone who you’re not really sure of physically – make sure to always use a condom to be on the safe side.

4 Mistakes That Most Women Make When Learning How To Give A Guy Head

Jessica Perez — Thu, 21 May 2009 14:03:53 +0000

No matter how much you suck (pun intended) at going down on your man, it’s definitely the one skill that you should acquire if you want him to consider you as a keeper.

If you don’t like going down there, just consider it as a way of returning a favor. If you like all the attention that your nether regions are getting when he goes down on you – just imagine how doubly pleasurable it will be for him if you’re the one who will voluntary go down on her knees to pleasure your man.

Now, what are the top mistakes that most women make when learning how to give a guy head? Read on to find out.

Mistake #1: Considering Giving Head To Be A Chore

Again, it all boils down to your attitude once you go down there. Don’t expect him to come after a few minutes of your playing with his member without even the least bit of enthusiasm.

How would you like it if he went down on you and you feel as if he spent the obligatory couple of minutes licking your clitoris without really meaning it? Remember that men are such visual creatures – and they need to see that once you go down on him to give him head, you don’t consider it to be a chore.

Mistake #2: Thinking That All You Need To Use Is Your Tongue

Although there are men who love having their penises licked like a lollipop every once in a while, it should not be the be-all and end-all of your oral skills.

Giving a guy head involves using your tongue, your clipped fingernails, no teeth, and a combination of strokes, a few jerks and some gentle tugging motion that will literally send him to seventh heaven with your oral ministrations.

Mistake #3: Totally Ignoring His Family Jewels

This is perhaps one of the most common mistakes that women make when learning how to give a guy head. Although it is good to focus all your attentions on the penis itself when you’re giving him a blow job, you should not forget that men love having their balls tugged, licked and played with.

Mistake #4: Not Giving Yourself A Chance To Learn How To Deepthroat

Being able to take it all in is like the Holy Grail of giving a man the ultimate oral pleasure – much like his being able to give you a G-spot orgasm. Although this isn’t a necessity every time you are giving your guy head, it is a handy skill to have if you want to be the kind of lover that he won’t be able to forget anytime soon.

By avoiding these top mistakes that women make when giving a guy head, you can be the ultimate lover that you can be and give your man a mind blowing time in bed, both literally and figuratively.

After learning about the top mistakes that most women make on how to give a guy head, visit our site to learn more about the tips, tricks and techniques when it comes to giving your man some oral love.

How To Give A Guy Head: Be A Diva In Bed & Give Him A Mind-Blowing Orgasm Using Your Mouth!

Jessica Perez — Fri, 08 May 2009 01:13:25 +0000

Ask any man what type of sexual favor it is that they would like to receive from a woman and the one answer that you would get is: getting a blowjob. Whether you call it giving head, going down on him or performing fellatio – it all boils down to one thing – the fact that you should sharpen your oral techniques if you want to be the best lover that you can be.

As such, it pays to learn exactly how to give a guy head so that you can give him an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon. Read on to find out the top steps that you need to follow when giving a man a blow job.

Step 1: Be Really In The Moment

One of the most common mistakes that women who don’t like giving blowjobs is treating it like a chore. If you’re going down on him, look as if you really mean it and learn to love what you’re doing down there.
Remember that if you are just going through the motions, your guy will definitely know it. And the rule that having a bad blowjob is better than not getting one at all? It’s absolutely not true.

Step 2: Tease The Rest Of His Body First Before Getting Down On Your Knees

If you’re always complaining about men not spending enough time during foreplay, it will be the same thing for him if you head straight to his penis when you’re giving him head. If you’re in bed, try to tease his nipples, and nibble your way down south.

The extra sensations will make him anticipate – and appreciate – your mouth, tongue and fingers more once they already reached their target.

Step 3: Start With The Oral Action

Once you’re already down there, close your mouth around the head of his penis and feel it grow hard – if it’s not hard already – in your mouth. Flick your tongue over the head of the penis, that sensitive underside of the shaft and use the flat of your tongue to explore his most sensitive areas.

Step 4: Keep The Pace Going

Make sure to combine the sensations from your mouth, your tongue and your fingers. Use your fingernails to handle his balls – fondle, kiss, suck and lightly play with them – he’ll surely appreciate it.

Keep the pace going and be sensitive to his moans and groans. There’s really no step-by-step manual of what you need to do once you’re down there, just do what feels right and what you think will give him the most intense of pleasures until he reaches that mind blowing orgasm.

Tips

If you want to up the ante in learning how to give your guy head, you can try to take all of him deep in your throat by lowering your mouth over his penis. It may be tricky, but it’s something that can be done if you ‘practice’ on him enough.

Warnings

If you don’t like the taste of semen, get your mouth out of his penis just before he climaxes and use your hands to pump him instead.

Whatever you do down there, don’t use your teeth or your long nails to pleasure him – otherwise you’ll be risking him pain, if not direct injury.

5 Mistakes That Most Women Make When Experimenting With How To Give A Blowjob

Jessica Perez — Wed, 06 May 2009 23:53:36 +0000

Would you like to be a master in the art of fellatio and send him through the roof with a mind-blowing orgasm? If you do, then this is the best time to brush up on your oral sex skills.

What makes oral sex satisfying for men as it is for women is that the visual treat of seeing you worship his penis once you get down on your knees is extremely arousing. So if you want to know how to give a blowjob, you should first learn about the top 5 mistakes that you should stay away from.

Mistake #1: Having A Limp Grip

Remember that a good blowjob involves a combination of using your mouth, tongue and hands to send him over the edge. Once you take him into your mouth, you can use your fingers to stroke the rest of the shaft – and make sure to use a firm instead of a lax grip for this.

Mistake #2: Not Taking A Clue From His Body Language

Once you get down on your knees, make sure to be extra attentive to his moans, groans, the way that he thrusts his hips and how he holds your head against his groin. This will give you a clue on what motion he likes best – and to make sure that you’re not accidentally grazing him with your teeth, learn to distinguish between the moans of pleasure and the groans of pain that he’s making.

Mistake #3: Not Being Familiar With His Family Jewels

Don’t treat his penis like breakable china, but don’t ignore the family jewels, either. These are probably two of the best rules that you can follow if you want to give him an out-of-this-world blowjob.

Mistake #4: Not Showing Him How Much You Like Giving Him Head

Men are visual creatures, and no sight is more arousing than you worshipping his penis from down there. When giving him a blowjob, make sure to show him how much you like giving him head by making eye contact and letting him hear your own moans and groans of arousal.

Mistake #5: Not Using All Tools At Your Disposal

A good blowjob involves using your hands and not just your mouth to get him off – so make sure to combine a stroking and sucking motion when going down on him.

Steering clear of the top 5 mistakes that women make when learning how to give a blowjob is one of the best things that you can do so that you can sharpen your oral sex techniques.

Now that you already have an idea about the top 5 mistakes that women make when giving a blowjob, what is the proper way to do it? Visit our site to find out more about how you can give that special man in your life an earth shattering orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon.

How to Give a Blowjob: 3 Steps that You can Follow to Give Him an Earth Shattering Orgasm Using Your Mouth & Hands!

Jessica Perez — Wed, 06 May 2009 00:59:23 +0000

When it comes to the aspect of giving a man sexual pleasure, learning how to give head is probably the ultimate skill that you can attain. Nothing turns on a man more than the sight of a woman going down on her knees and worshipping his penis with his point of view.

As such, it would definitely be an improvement with your sexual skills as a lover if you know how to send him to an earth shattering orgasm using your mouth and hands. Read on to find out exactly how to give a blowjob to a man – and turn him into your willing slave!

Step 1: Use Your Hands & Mouth To Heat Things Up

This is probably the equivalent of a man indulging in some foreplay before getting it on with you in the sack. If you want to start heating things up, stroke his body parts and tease them with kisses, licks and love bites.

Begin with his chest, neck, abs and work your way down south. Once you reach that area below the belt, try to tease him first by staying away from his inner thighs and just zeroing in on your target when he least expects it.

Step 2: Use Your Tongue To Get Things Going

By now, he should already be anticipating the sensation of having your mouth on his penis. Once you finally give it to him, start by making a licking motion with the flat of your tongue on the head of his penis. Tease the underside of the shaft with little flicks and forays, before taking him slowly into your mouth.

Step 3: Get Down On It

As you take his penis into your mouth, you should use a combination of hand and mouth techniques to send him over the edge. Whatever part of the shaft you cannot take into your mouth, use your hands to create an up and down motion which is in harmony with how you are sucking on him. This will give him a sensation that you are actually taking his entire shaft into your mouth.

Don’t forget to tease his balls – don’t squeeze, just rub them gently against his shaft. Also, use a combination of licking, flicking and hand motions to send him to a climax.

When giving a man a blowjob, keep in mind that there’s no one set of rules to follow – just use his body language as a guide to know when he’s about to come – and intensify things from there.
Tips

Men are visual creatures, so treat him to that oh-so-arousing sight of you on your knees, worshipping his penis – by looking directly into his eyes while giving him a blowjob.

Warnings

Cover your teeth with your lips – nothing feels worse for a man than to have your teeth grazing the skin of his shaft – so closely guard those fangs.

3 Mistakes You Should Steer Clear Of When Learning How To Give A Blowjob

Jessica Perez — Tue, 05 May 2009 04:15:23 +0000

If you are trying to brush up on your oral sex skills, the first thing that you need to learn about is the worst mistakes that you can ever make. Although you might think that any blowjob is better than not receiving one at all – most men would wish that you to be skilled at it.

They would most definitely prefer not getting a blowjob at all rather than receiving a bad one – especially if you are a ‘teeth-grazer’ or if you treat a penis like it’s your grandmother’s fine china!

So if you do want to better your skills in bed and learn how to give a BJ or a blowjob, here is a list of the top three mistakes that you should steer clear of:

Mistake #1: Not Lending Him A Helping Hand

Perhaps one of the most common mistakes that women make when learning how to give a BJ is not using their hands enough. Remember that just like your vagina, there are secret crevices, curves and veins around his shaft and below his balls which require attention.

In order for you to explore these zones and give him some oral loving that he is not bound to forget anytime soon, make sure to lend him a helping hand. Move your hands up and down his shaft within the area which is not covered by your mouth. The motion of your hands and lips should be one fluid movement – which makes him feel as if you are taking it all in.

Mistake #2: Giving Him The Death Grip

There’s a thin line between sucking firmly, and gripping him with your mouth as if you are trying to strangle a live chicken. If you don’t want to give him the death grip – either using your mouth of your hands – make sure to always listen to his moans and groans.

If the sounds that he is making are moans of pleasure rather than groans of pain – then you are on the right track.

Mistake #3: Ignoring His Balls

You might hear how some men refer to their genitalia as his ‘package’ – and this is because the shaft of his penis should not be separated from their cousins – which are his balls.

While going down on him, make sure that you are well acquainted with his balls. Use your free hand to caress his balls – try not to squeeze too hard – tickle, tease them and do whatever it is that you want to do, just don’t ignore them!

By avoiding the top three mistakes that women make when learning how to give a BJ, you will be on your way towards mastering the art of giving head.

After learning about the top three blowjob mistakes that you should steer clear of, visit our site to learn more about what exactly you should do to properly give him head – and lead him to have an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon.

How to Give a Blowjob: A Crash Course On Giving Men Great Head

Jessica Perez — Sun, 03 May 2009 13:48:37 +0000

If there’s one skill that every man would like a woman to have, that is none other than knowing how to give a BJ or a blowjob. One of the most common mistakes that women make is thinking that all the work should be done by the man in the relationship.

However, if you want to have a great sex life, you should do your part and learn about the techniques in bed that will give him the utmost sexual pleasure. So what exactly does it take to give a man great head?

Below is a crash course on how to give a man great head which will lead him to have an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon.

Step 1: Be In A Comfortable Position

Just like penetrative sex, there are a multitude of positions that you can try while learning how to give a BJ to your guy. You can either have him lie down in bed, have him standing up or make him sit on a comfortable couch.

Let’s say that you choose the last position. What you can do here is kneel in between his legs so that you can gain easy access to all ‘the goods’. Although it only takes a few minutes of direct stimulation for a man to have an orgasm especially when you’re using your mouth, you would not want to have things over too soon – so make sure that you’re in a comfortable position while going down on him.

Step 2: Start Giving Him Head By Slowly Licking Him

It doesn’t matter if he’s already hard or not. The best way to start giving him head is by using your tongue in one long, slow licking motion from the base of his penis all the way up. Do this on as many sides of his penis as you can, then when you feel that he’s all worked up, that is the time that you can slowly take him into your mouth.

Step 3: Use Your Tongue, Mouth & Fingers

As you slowly take his penis deep into your mouth, make sure that you don’t ignore the rest of his package. Use your tongue, mouth and fingers to stimulate the rest of his shaft. Use an up and down motion with your fingers to cover the part of the shaft which you cannot take into your mouth.

Showing him that you are really into it will be a huge turn on, so stare into his eyes and watch his reaction. Finally, marvel in your sexual prowess at your being able to give him the ultimate pleasure in bed – and use every tool at your disposal to give him a mind-blowing orgasm that he’s not bound to forget anytime soon!

Tips

Don’t forget to gently tug at, lick or even swallow one of his balls into your mouth if you want to make giving head an extra pleasurable experience for him.

Warnings

The worst way to receive a blowjob is for a man to actually feel your teeth on him – so keep your lips covered. The best way to prevent accidentally grazing his penis with your teeth is by relaxing your jaw. If you need to, cover your teeth with your lips.

3 Mistakes Women Make in Porn Blowjob Videos

Jessica Perez — Fri, 01 May 2009 18:30:25 +0000

Since most women do not like watching hardcore porn videos, are there any lessons or mistakes that they can take a cue from when watching blowjob videos? Although it seems as if the women starring in these porn films are doing everything right, there are a few mistakes here and there which can serve as a lesson for other women.

Basically, your goal should be to blow a man right out of his mind – so you should steer clear of some of these mistakes when giving him head.

Mistake #1: Using Your Teeth

Okay, this one is something that you hardly ever see on blowjob videos – but that’s exactly the point! It’s really quite a major thing if you graze his penis with your teeth. You can either cause him discomfort or downright pain – or the fact that you had your teeth down there will be a major turnoff for him, so things will not really end up as you expect.

Mistake #2: Holding On To His Penis With A Death Grip

You don’t necessarily know how much force those female adult film stars are exerting on their stud partners on screen. So just because their grip looks tight, it doesn’t mean that you should imitate the ‘death grip’ in real life. The shaft of the penis can probably take the extra pressure, but the other more sensitive areas, not much so.

As such, it would help if you will listen to his moans and groans so that you would know exactly how much force to apply. You can also take a cue from the way that he runs his fingers through your head, or the way that he cocks his hips.

What you can do instead is use a combination of your hands and mouth to give him head – and don’t forget to pay close attention to his other manly parts that most women forget. This includes his family jewels and that oh-so-sensitive area on the underside of his shaft.

Mistake #3: Going Down On Him Too Soon

When you see a clip from an adult site, the camera is immediately focusing on a woman giving head to a man. If you don’t want to end things a little too soon, don’t go proceed to the main event just yet.

If women prefer a lot of foreplay just before penetrative sex, men would appreciate it if you will worship other parts of his body first – before zeroing in on his penis.

In Summary

There’s really a great deal of lessons that you can learn when watching a blowjob video. But the first thing that you need to learn are the aforementioned mistakes that you need to steer clear of when giving him head.

Next Steps

Now that you already have an idea about the top mistakes that women make when giving head, the next thing that you should learn about are the steps on how to give him a mind-blowing orgasm.

Oral Sex – Should It Hurt?

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:04:47 +0000

Oral sex is one of the most pleasurable sex acts that couples can engage in and many people enjoy giving and receiving oral sex. It’s a great way to strengthen the bond between two individuals and keep your sex life satisfying, but sometimes it can hurt! Should oral sex hurt or is there really something wrong?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

When wife gives me oral sex, it seems to hurt more than it feels good. Is there something wrong with me?

–Kevin, Michigan

When Does It Hurt?

It’s important to find out when your genitals hurt or become uncomfortable. If your genitals hurt all the time, such as during oral sex, during urination and at other times, you might want to consider making an appointment with your doctor.

While oral sex can sometimes hurt if the person giving oral sex doesn’t have good technique, your genitals should not hurt or be uncomfortable at other times. It never hurts to get checked out – it’s always better to be safe than sorry.

Technique

Most likely, your partner’s technique is what is causing you discomfort. Both types of oral sex – fellatio and cunnilingus – can become uncomfortable and even painful if your partner doesn’t have good technique. Teeth can get in the way and even a tongue that moves too quickly or is rough can become uncomfortable.

Abrasive facial hair is a big issue for women receiving oral sex as it can often make the genitals raw and painful after an oral sex session. Often, both men and women have poor technique when it comes to oral sex. Men are often too rough with women during cunnilingus and many women suck too hard or squeeze too tight during fellatio.

If receiving oral sex from your partner is uncomfortable and painful at all, try to pinpoint exactly what they’re doing that is causing you discomfort. Is your partner pressing too hard with their teeth, or are their teeth scraping you too hard? Is your partner performing oral sex on you too fast or using their hands in a way that feels rough?

Talk To Each Other

When it comes to oral sex – or any kind of sex, for that matter – communication between the two partners is key. If something becomes uncomfortable or painful, it’s important to let your partner know in a completely non-critical way.

Let your partner know that a certain activity is uncomfortable, but also suggest something that you like instead. Giving your partner positive feedback during an oral sex session is one of the best ways to communicate to your partner what not to do, simply by letting them know what you do like.

If you like a certain maneuver or technique during oral sex, your partner will automatically want to use that technique to give you the maximum amount of pleasure. Just let your partner know what you like! If your partner is going something wrong, suggest ways that they can do it differently that would be more pleasurable for you or keep oral sex from being uncomfortable.

Back and forth communication is the best way to keep oral sex pleasurable instead of becoming uncomfortable or painful. Your partner will most likely appreciate positive input and your sexual relationship will become better and more fulfilling and satisfying.

Getting Her To Give You Oral Sex More Often

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 15:32:50 +0000

Many people love receiving oral. In fact, most people do. Whether you’re a guy or a gal, receiving oral sex can be extremely pleasurable.

However, giving oral sex might not be as fun. Some people don’t like to give oral sex at all, or they seldom give it because it makes them uncomfortable.

If you want oral sex to become a regular part of your routine, how can you get your partner to give more oral?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Hi, I’m 18 and my girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for over a year and are very happy together; but, I don’t think she gives me oral often enough – like once in the past few months.

I talk to my friends and it seems like i’m the only one not getting it. I’ve spoken to her about it and asked why, but she just said “Do any girls really like doing it?” and sort of didn’t talk any more about it and i didn’t want to ask again since in case she thinks i’m nagging.

I think that if i ask the right way then she will but i’d hate to say “suck me off” or “gimmie a BJ” as I treat her with much more respect than that. Any ideas what i could say… or do to change her mind?

– Adam, UK

The Taste And Smell of Oral Sex

The biggest complaint from oral sex givers is that both male and female genitals have their own taste and smell. Sometimes the smell or taste more strongly than other times, but this is something that is completely natural. However, a strong taste and smell might be off putting for someone who is giving oral sex.

You can make sure your partner is enjoying giving you oral sex as much as possible by making sure you’re clean and trimmed. Take a shower right before oral sex if you need to!Although genitals’ natural smell is perfectly normal, if you’ve been outside mowing the lawn all day, it might be a little strong for someone to consider going down on you.

You can also improve the taste of your genitals through what you eat. Naturally sweet foods, such as strawberries and pineapples, make semen and vaginal secretions taste sweeter, so giving oral sex is more pleasurable…

Talk To Your Partner About How Much You Enjoy Oral Sex

Although it might be an uncomfortable issue to bring up, talking to your partner about how much you enjoy oral sex and how much oral sex you would like to have is the only way to communicate your needs and wants to them.

Don’t expect your partner to read your mind! Your partner might be completely unaware that the status quo isn’t working for you. Speak up and give your partner a chance to meet your expectations. It’s likely that your partner wants to please you, but doesn’t know how much or how often you would like to have oral sex.

There’s Nothing More Giving Than A Sexually Satisfied Woman

Make sure that your partner gets something pleasurable out of giving you oral sex. Perhaps you could give your partner oral sex in return, or even try having simultaneous oral sex. If your partner views giving you oral sex as a chore, they won’t be very interested in giving oral.

Try getting your partner turned on before asking for oral sex. If they’re sexually aroused, they might be more inclined to give oral sex than if they’re not aroused at all.

By the same token, make sure you’re not a bore to give oral sex to! If you’re very quiet during sex or don’t let your partner know that you’re enjoying it, how will they know you’re enjoying it? They won’t!

Make a few noises or let your partner know you’re really into it in some other way. Many people who give oral sex suggest that they get more turned on by giving oral sex if their partner is clearly having a good time. All in all, just talk to your partner about your sexual wants, needs and expectations so you both are on the same page.

Oral Sex and Orgasm Dilemma – I Want To Finish In Her Mouth…

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 17 May 2008 14:46:44 +0000

Men love blow jobs. That’s a fact.

Many men also love finishing in a woman’s mouth during a blow job.

It can make them feel powerful or good about themselves and for some men, it just feels better physically to orgasm in a woman’s mouth than finishing another way.

Unfortunately, not all women relish the idea of having a man orgasm in her mouth.

There can be many different reasons why, but if you’re a man who enjoys finishing in a woman’s mouth, it can be disheartening when she doesn’t want to. What can you do?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

When my wife gives me a blow job, she can’t quite let me finish in her mouth. Is there any advice you can give her?

- Pete, Alberta

It’s a texture thing

Some women don’t like the texture or consistency of ejaculate. There’s no need to get into details here, but ejaculate in a woman’s mouth may make her gag simply because of the consistency and texture. If this is her primary reason for not wanting you to finish in her mouth, there’s not too much you can do about it. Can you finish elsewhere?

It’s a taste thing

Many women dislike the taste of ejaculate. That’s not bad news because the taste of your ejaculate can differ depending on what you eat. Garlic and onions may make your ejaculate taste bitter while strawberries and sweet fruits will make your ejaculate taste sweeter.

If this is your partner’s issue, you can change your diet to make your ejaculate easier to swallow. Just remember to get feedback from your partner about what foods work well and what doesn’t.

It’s a gag reflex thing

Many women have big gag reflexes. It can’t be helped! While she may be able to tolerate deep throating and blow jobs in general, ejaculate in her mouth might send her over the edge. This is also something that you can’t really do anything about, so if this is the case, you should discuss with your partner some other ways to finish you while still making it feel good.

It’s a mental thing

Having a man ejaculate in her mouth is a very personal and even submissive thing for a woman. If your partner was abused in any way, sexually or physically, she may have some serious issues with letting go and letting you finish in her mouth.

If your partner has emotional reasons for not wanting to let you orgasm in her mouth, have her talk to a therapist and work out some of her inner issues. If she does let you finish in her mouth, it’s important to be supportive and positive, and show her that you truly do care and you’re not just using her.

There are many great ways for a man to have an orgasm with a woman after a blow job, without having to finish in her mouth. Get creative and find different ways that she can please you without having to swallow ejaculate.

If the idea of ejaculating in her mouth really turns you on but she simply can’t come to terms with it, try flavored condoms or regular condoms that are made for this specific purpose. The feeling might decrease a little bit, but you’ll get to finish in her mouth and she won’t have to swallow it so everyone wins!

Most of all, it’s important to talk with your partner about these issues and find common ground so you can both get pleasure from oral sex.

Desperate Housewife – Husband REFUSES Oral Sex!

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 23 Dec 2007 12:57:15 +0000

Oral sex is undoubtedly one of the most pleasurable of all sexual activities.

With the seemingly endless amount of delightful sensations oral sex can bring, it’s a wonder why anyone would willingly say no to it.

And although some people prefer to give it, and others prefer to receive it, most people enjoy doing both – Sometimes at the very same time!

But what happens when one person in a relationship completely refuses to engage in any kind of oral sex play, and the other absolutely adores it?

Is it possible to change someone’s mind about oral sex? Is it even reasonable or moral to try?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’ve been married for 15+ years & would love to have my husband to try anal &/or oral sex. He thinks it’s “vile & disgusting”.

I have been around the block once or twice before I married & enjoyed these activities very much! He won’t even let me give him oral sex, which I’ve been told I’m pretty good at.

How do I convince my hubby that I want this type of activity?

–Samantha, Ohio

How Can I Get My Husband to Try Oral Sex?

Talk to Him Openly Without Accusing Him of Anything

The first thing you have to understand when approaching a man with a sexual critique is that his ego will surely be bruised. For most men, sexual performance and sexual technique are very sensitive topics.

Our culture places a lot of pressure on men to be good in bed, so when you, as his lover, being to question something he is (or is not) doing sexually, his feelings will probably be hurt, and he will react defensively to your comments.

This is not how you want your conversation to go.

So in order to ease your partner into an honest and blame-free discussion about your sex life, be gentle and careful about what you say.

Never start this type of conversation with “What’s wrong with you?!” or any version of that!

Instead, begin by reinforcing the fact that you do enjoy having sex with him.

A compliment regarding your last sexual encounter such as, “I think you rock! Sex was great, but I just have one question…”, should make your partner feel good about himself and more open to whatever you have to say next.

Find Out His Real Reasons for Refusing to Try It

Once you’ve established a positive rapport, ask him in a non-accusatory tone, “Why do you think it’s so disgusting?”

Listen very carefully to what your partner has to say. How you respond will completely depend on what his underlying reasons are for not wanting to try oral sex (or any other sexual activity you are disagreeing on).

Three of the most common reasons why people refuse to have oral sex are because it goes against their moral and/or religious beliefs, it brings back negative childhood experiences such as abuse, or they’re concerned about the cleanliness aspect of it.

Obviously some of these reasons are easier to deal with than others.

If your partner’s main reason for refusing oral sex is that he feels it’s dirty or unsanitary, you could offer to take a shower before trying it. Or you could try taking an erotic shower together as foreplay and slipping it in then.

This might help to dissuade some of his hygienic concerns, as well as relax him into the experience itself. You never know, once you get your partner to try it, he may never want you to stop!

Be Prepared to Accept His Sexual Preferences

On the other hand, you must be prepared to accept the fact that regardless of what you say, your partner’s opinions regarding certain sexual activities may never change – especially if those opinions are based on foundational beliefs such as religion.

Even if his reason for not doing it is as simple as he just doesn’t like it, you have to understand, appreciate, and respect that. Everyone is entitled to their own sexual preferences.

In the end your partner may never be open to oral sex, and that has to be OK with you.

Remember there are hundreds and hundreds of other sexual things that you can both agree on and enjoy together. Don’t let one or two disagreements ruin the sexual things you do both enjoy!

Consider Swinging or Swapping as an Alternative

Even if your partner is uncomfortable having anal or oral sex himself, he may be open to the idea of someone else doing those things with you.

Depending on the dynamics of your relationship, bringing in someone else to fulfill those desires may be a good option.

If neither swinging nor swapping is an option, then you’ll have to make peace with your partner’s preferences and do your best to focus on and explore those activities you both feel comfortable with.

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