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Cinderella Was a Liar

Click by Lavalife, Lisa Daily — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 14:26:33 +0000

No Love Life? Blame Cinderella!

It’s all Cinderella’s fault.

"If you have ever sat in front of the television on a Friday night wondering ‘What the hell happened to the fairytale? Where’s my Happily Ever After?’

Then it’s time you knew the truth: Cinderella was a liar," says Brenda Della Casa, author of Cinderella Was A Liar.

That’s right ladies, we’ve been spending our lives searching for something that doesn’t exist, all because of that damned glass slipper.

And guys, you’ve been through hell and back just because you don’t happen to fit the image we’ve been carrying around in our heads all of these years.

As little girls, we took to Cinderella as through it were gospel.

We were certain that our perfect guy would show up any day on his white stallion, ready to profess his love and devotion and whisk us off to the ball: He’d pop that glass slipper on your foot, and instantly your life would be transformed from sweeping the cinders to true love and the spotlight dance at the big ball.

The men in our lives – decent, stable guys with jobs and receding hairlines and no horseback riding experience whatsoever were thrown back, and deemed unworthy. Or maybe we met someone we were certain was Prince Charming, and he just disappeared into the sunset after the first date.

Sure, he might have been under some sort of a twilight frog spell. Or maybe, you’re one of the "Sisters" no Prince wants to date.

Here’s how Casa describes the various "Sister" types. Are any of them YOU?

The Dramatic Sister

She’s so fair, so fun, and so damn loud! A dramatic sister fashions herself a diva (which she mistakenly perceives as a good thing) and loves to put on a show.

Everything from where to go to the wrenching details of her latest romantic drama is such a huge production that everyone around her feels drained by the second hour. The ugly truth is that she’s an energy vampire: she just sucks.

The Jaded Sister

With more baggage than Eva Peron on her Rainbow Tour, discussions start out light and airy and soon take a turn for the morbid when the topic of relationships comes up.

Still pissed over her ex, who was a total cad and did not deserve her, she often unwittingly makes comments about suitors that make everyone feel they are wearing a wool sweater in a downpour. Oh, and please don’t bother sharing news about your new prince!

She doesn’t believe they exist.

Sister Self-Importance

This sister can’t figure out why she’s not famous yet. She’s a total star!

She is fantastic, interesting and drop-dead gorgeous. Just ask her! She’s always wanted to give one of those celebrity interviews she loves reading which is why she treats every new suitor like an US Weekly journalist.

By the end of the night her date has enough info on her to snatch her identity and she knows his name – well his first one at least.

The Saucy Sister

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How Well Do You REALLY Know Your Partner? 1000 ‘Must Ask’ Questions for Couples

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 18 Sep 2007 12:25:21 +0000

How compatible are you really with your partner? Down deep, where it really counts?

How would you know? Just because you like the same types of foods and pets certainly does NOT mean you’ll have a happy, blissful, long-term relationship.

Do you know why your mate does or doesn’t attend church? Do you really? Do you know how they really think about the way you dress? Have you ever asked your partner what are the three most sensitive parts on their body? Thinking you know doesn’t make you right.

Does it really matter what your partner thinks about sex, religion, careers, household work, money and the future? ABSOLUTELY! Even if you are one of the lucky FEW who will never argue about these topics (like most people do), core differences like these can cause many, many issues in a relationship.

Love and a strong relationship can indeed conquer anything, but you have to know what you’re facing and what you’re really dealing with.

Don’t fly blind – find out where you stand.

Learn how to listen! Sit down, ask, and LISTEN to what you partner really feels.

Here’s our review of Oprah Love Expert, Michael Webb’s excellent book, 1000 Questions for Couples.

In 1000 Questions for Couples, Michael asserts that “An estimated 83% of divorces would not take place if couples asked each other the right questions”. Wow!

Fact is, a lot fewer couples would get divorced (or even marry each other in the first place) if they actually knew each other well enough before they got married. Married couples could cut down on a lot of their clashes if they simply knew more about their partner’s thoughts, beliefs and emotions.

Do married couples really need to bother with asking each other questions like these?

Absolutely. Not to mention the obvious point – showing your partner that you care enough to take time to get to know them EVEN BETTER (no matter how long you’ve been together) is sure to bring you closer. And that’s always a good thing.

While most of the questions in 1000 Questions for Couples apply to couples that are in their first months together, an amazing 700 of the questions are critical to married couples as well.

So many times a secret from one partner’s past comes out and you hear the question “how could you have not told me about that?”. The usual answer is “you didn’t ask”.

Amazing, isn’t it. And it can really be that simple…

Fact is, most couples are honest with each other, they just don’t take the time to actually get to know their partner, to actually ask each other about their past, their feelings, their convictions.

The best way to get to really know someone is to ASK!

Here are the key relationship areas where you’ll now have great questions to ask…

Personality, Feelings & Emotions
Sex
Morals, Convictions and Beliefs
Religion & Spiritual Matters
Relationships, Past & Present
Favorites
Pets
Attractions
Health, Food & Well Being
Vacations
Car & Driver
Holidays & Celebrations
Home & Home Life
Past & Future
Hobbies & Entertainment
Love, Romance & Date Nights
Friends & Family
Communication
Career and Education
Money
Children & Child Rearing
Wedding & Honeymoon

Michael Webb recommends trying doing this as a fun activity with your partner. Get creative, make it into something enjoyable, and you’ll get a LOT more out of it.

Make it a fun date and treat your partner!

Set aside an evening every few weeks to stay in and get to know each other more intimately. Set a romantic atmosphere… red wine, candles, just the two of you. And get to know each other better, on a deeper level. Choose a couple of the more probing questions and have fun revealing secrets to each other… getting closer.

How about an intimate, daily ritual for one special week?

Have fun with this! Here’s an idea. For a week, spend a few quiet, intimate minutes every evening and ask each other any two or three questions you’ve picked that day.

You’ll be amazed how much you can learn about someone you’ve spent months or even years with – if you just take the time and care enough to ask!

So what CAN you possibly ask someone you’ve been with for months or even years?

Here’s a hint… go through the book and pick a question or two from each category that jumps out at you. You’ll be surprised how much that gets you thinking, and how easy it is.

Whatever you do, have fun with it, and don’t make it a chore. Show your partner you care and truly do want to get to know them better, and become even closer – and enjoy the process!

Summary:

While we really love this book, there was one major problem with 1000 Questions for Couples… the sheer number of questions! Wow, 1000 of them! Where the heck do you start? Can you actually get anything useful out of this and not get totally lost? It can be a little overwhelming at first.

But we’ve got good news… Michael tells you exactly which few critical questions to start off with, so you don’t get lost – and most importantly – so you don’t get off on the wrong foot and come off like you’re grilling your special someone instead of just trying to get to know them better.

Overall we highly recommend this book.

Get your copy right now before you get busy and forget. Surprise your partner with something they’ll never expect – a true willingness to get to know them better and become more close and intimate.

While you’re at it, you’ll definitely want to check out Michael’s other terrific resources below.

Spice up your sex life with 500 Sex and Love Making Secrets (Our Review…)
Enjoy Lick by Lick – How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More (Our Review…)
Learn how to really please your man with Blow by Blow: A Tasteful Guide on How to Give Mind-Blowing Blow Jobs (Fellatio)
Discover 300 Creative Dates (Our Review…)

Don’t put it off.

You’ll kick yourself if you don’t get 1000 Questions for Couples today.

How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More – Oral Sex Secrets Exposed, Lick by Lick

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 15:25:32 +0000

With all the societal and social stigma telling women they have to be “good girls”, very few feel comfortable talking openly about sex in general.

So it’s no surprise that most women won’t tell you they’d love for you to “go down on them”. Sure it can bring them immense pleasure, but it’s rare for a woman to make that request of her man.

Here’s what’s even worse. Amazingly enough, many women have NEVER experienced an orgasm! Think about that for a minute… never having had an orgasm.

Now, how would YOU like to be the one to give her that very first magical mind blowing orgasm? To give her all that pleasure.

Here are some surprising facts about women and oral sex

there are 8,000 nerve endings in a woman’s clitoris? More than on the head of a penis or any other part of the human body? With something that sensitive, you better know what you’re doing before you go poking around, especially with your tongue.
88% of married women say cunnilingus is their preferred form of sexual activity?
81% of women regularly achieve orgasm from cunnilingus, versus
only 25% from traditional vaginal penetration?
only 60% of women say they enjoy vaginal sex at all?
only 7.7% of women who experience more than 21 minutes of properly rendered foreplay fail to reach an orgasm? That’s over nine out of ten women who do experience an orgasm when their lover understands a woman’s body and how to drive it to new heights of ecstasy

So what role SHOULD men play here?

Of course men don’t usually think twice before asking their woman to give them oral sex, or even try back door sex with them, which is now often referred to as “the new oral”. But here’s the rub. Considering everything she does for YOU, to get YOU excited, isn’t it about time you went out of YOUR way to give HER an amazing orgasm or two?

It’s time to step up and surprise your woman with the gift of orgasm and oral sex from her man.

Today, it isn’t about you, it’s about HER. And if you’re not doing the right things to really get her excited, then what’s the point?

Here’s our review of Oprah Love Expert, Michael Webb’s excellent Lick by Lick – How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More.

This book is a revealing step by step guide at oral sex and female orgasm from the master of romance. It’s about time we heard from a man known as a true romantic on the real sexual needs of a woman.

Most guys have SO much difficulty actually talking openly to their lovers about anything having to do with sex. Men don’t have trouble asking for one sexual favor or another, their problem is getting into intimate details with their partner… finding out what SHE really likes without getting the male ego bruised.

But it CAN be done, and the results should really improve your sex life – by satisfying the desires of BOTH partners.

Michael walks you through ALL the questions you need to ask your lover – so you REALLY find the right spot and bring her insane pleasure. Better yet, keep it fun – make this into an erotic date night game!

This book actually goes into the touchy details, like…

how to make her comfortable talking about RECEIVING oral sex from you
how to build the trust so she’ll welcome you
how to break through her self-consciousness barrier while overcoming your own inhibitions about cunnilingus
how to recognize and navigate the 8 components of the female genitalia with your tongue, and make them love it
how to tell if she’s enjoying herself just by watching and listening
8 questions to ask to determine what she really wants
9 tips for getting her ready for you, and for it
5 ways to set the romantic stage for cunnilingus
4 techniques to prepare her body for your most intimate attention

Summary:

One thing we didn’t like about Lick by Lick – How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More was the long and extensive focus on safe sex, sometimes to the point of taking all the fun out of it! Your mileage may vary of course. Fact is, Michael just added all that information so that you’re informed and you have it if you want it.

Overall this book is a great guide to pleasuring your woman and we highly recommend it.

A lot of men could score some serious points with their ladies for just THINKING about bringing them this type of pleasure – not to mention actually downloading this guide and mastering the techniques. It’s not hard, it just takes a little initiative.

Get your copy right now before you get busy and forget. Surprise your woman with the gift of oral pleasure… Isn’t she worth it?

While you’re at it, you’ll definitely want to check out Michael’s other terrific resources below.

Spice up your sex life with 500 Sex and Love Making Secrets (Our Review…)
Learn how to really please your man with Blow by Blow: A Tasteful Guide on How to Give Mind-Blowing Blow Jobs (Fellatio)
Draw closer together with 1000 Questions for Couples (Our Review…)

Don’t put it off.

You’ll kick yourself if you don’t download Lick by Lick – How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More today.