If she is already struggling to reach orgasm regularly, so might not want the additional pressure of trying to orgasm over and over again.

There are several ways to assist your partner with finding the path to multiples, as all women have the capacity, but only if she is prepared and has opened her mind to the idea. It’s all just a matter of creating the perfect storm.

What To Do After The First Orgasm

Once she has experienced her first orgasm, you want to ensure she remains aroused. Cuddle, coo, snuggle and tell your lover how much you appreciate her, all while slowly and gently stimulating the clitoral head and hood.

If she is too sensitive, pull back to the labia, the mons or even the inner thigh. Basically, whatever pressure, rhythm and position you were in prior to her orgasm, you want to continue along those lines but more gently and with less force.

Focus on the romance for a bit instead of the orgasm, and allow her a bit of a breather. Just don’t stop touching for more than a few seconds at a time, or the cool-off period will begin.

Watch Her Breathing

Once your girl’s breathing starts slowing back to normal (but before it gets all the way there), start with a bit more pressure along the mons pubis. If need be, shift into another position that offers strong symphysis and/or G-Spot stimulation.

If you can, put your hand over the mons pubis and feel around for the clitoral shaft, making sure she is getting the proper angle for lots of rubbing and friction.

Move your body further up hers if you are in a sex position facing her, so that you can help her rise toward climax again. If she pushes you away or says she’s too sensitive, take things back a few notches but don’t stop entirely.

Focus On The Other Parts

Focus on other parts of her body that arouse her until she starts to move of her own accord, rubbing against you in search of more stimulation. When her hips thrust and her breathing quickens, you can start playing with her mons pubis and pressing up against her pubic bone.

Her second orgasm should occur in less time than it took the first, only because her body didn’t regress all the way back to the non-aroused state before beginning her next ascent to climax.

Although she could be displeased with her man in the bedroom, her lack of sexual desire and orgasms is usually related to much more than his faulty techniques and inability to give her an orgasm.

The good news is that such problems can be resolved. But for that to happen, you must be willing and able. So if she does not have a desire for sex and ability to have an orgasm is lacking, take a deep breath, blow it out, and find comfort in knowing that this problem can be fixed. Neither of you are doomed to a sex life without pleasure.

In fact, if you follow all of the steps you will be able to provide her with what she needs to “want” to have sex and to achieve orgasm. The following sex tips are a few things you can do to help ease any tension that may exist between the two of you and open her mind to exploring new sexual terrain with you:

Don’t Be Negative

If you accuse your partner of being frigid or lying there like a cold, dead fish, you’ll cause her to retreat from sex even more. So do the opposite. Lift her self-esteem and shower her with compliments (sexual and otherwise). Help her to feel comfortable about talking about her sexual issues with you by sharing all of the positive thoughts you have about her.

Don’t Pressure Her Into Having An Orgasm

Pressuring your lady to have an orgasm when she doesn’t feel like it will only make her want to avoid it more. Remove the pressure by making it clear to her that you will never get upset with her or offended if she doesn’t have an orgasm or doesn’t feel like having sex. If pressuring her, sulking or getting angry is what you’ve typically done in the past, let her know those days are over and never do it again!

Discuss The Issue With Her

Find some quiet time to have a talk with your lady about her difficulty achieving an orgasm. Tell her you’ve noticed that she doesn’t seem to climax as often as you would like for her to. Ask her why, and be sure she knows you are only trying to get some answers, not make her feel bad. Ask her some pointed questions: Is she tired or do your methods need some improvement?

Does she want more foreplay? Would a sensual massage help? Provide her with support if her inability to orgasm is due to a painful past. Let your lady know you understand. Tell her you understand how painful it must be for her. Encourage her to talk to a counselor who specializes in sexual problems in women.

Be sure not to force her to tell you every sordid detail about her experience. But let her know that you are there for her if she wants to talk. Never judge her, and do your best to avoid offering her advice. Just listen and provide her with lots of nonsexual hugs.

Tell Her How Much You Love Her

A woman never tires of hearing her man say, “I love you.” And a woman who feels loved and secure will be more likely to relax and trust enough to allow you to satisfy her deepest desires. There’s a lot you can do to sexually arouse her and provide your girl with the stimulation she needs to have an orgasm.

Just keep in mind that it doesn’t happen overnight. If bringing her to a female orgasm has been a challenge in the past, then it’s going to take some time, effort, understanding, and practice before you are able to give her the Big O.

But that’s not all it’s going to take. It’s also going to take lots of KNOWLEDGE! And that’s exactly what you’re getting by reading this book. So keep reading—the best has yet to come (no pun intended)!

We now know that the muscular “flutter” that occurs during female orgasm helps to encourage fertility. The strong muscle contractions in the pelvis, vagina and uterus occur rapidly at less than one second apart, allowing the cervix to open up for incoming sperm.

The consequence of this is biologically significant and a verifiable physiological phenomena; couples who are able to have orgasms during penetrative sex are more likely to conceive. A recent study found that when a woman reaches climax anytime from one minute before and 45 minutes after her partner’s ejaculation takes up significantly more sperm than during sex when she does not orgasm.

Even more surprising, a woman has an orgasm before their lover by any more than one minute retains as little sperm as those who don’t orgasm at all, making it necessary for her to either orgasm during PIV sex, or find a partner who will continue to stimulate her after he has reached his own orgasm.

Rising Desire

Orgasm is a three-step process, the culmination of a lengthy build up beginning with psychological desire, climbing through the various plateaus physiological arousal and peaking in the spasmodic release of orgasm. There are some times in a woman’s monthly cycle when she may be naturally aroused both psychologically and physiologically, depending on the libido type, but these days are few and far between. The rest of the time, you’re going to need to know how to really touch the girl, inside and out, to get things moving in the right direction.

Building Arousal

The signs of physiological arousal are obvious, if you know what you are looking for and are paying attention. Increased blood
flow to the genitals caused by hot thoughts or stimulation results in swelling of the labia, clitoris and vagina. Increased lubrication helps make the peak experience of orgasm possible, opening a woman up for more intense activity.

This is prime time for using your ten best assets – your fingers! With such an incredible range of movement, those miraculous movers are exactly what you need to keep your woman going even when you can’t. And hey, your grand kids will secretly thank you for your Don Juan progeny.

If you go ahead and plunge into intercourse before she is fully aroused and open, you aren’t just depriving your girl of the pleasure of your hands, but actually decreasing the chances of being able to give her an orgasm with you inside! By “saving your energy” for the act of coitus itself, you are in fact ensuring that it doesn’t function properly.

Orgasmic Release

Orgasm is an extreme sensual experience. The heart races, breath quickens, pupils dilate, skin flushes, lips and breasts swell with anticipation of the pelvic floor muscles contracting and sending out a ripple-effect that emanates through the rest of the body.

Each woman experiences this process differently, and for most women, every orgasm is unique. Some may be the powerful, earth-shattering things we see in pornography or on television, but others are simpler, quieter and cascade like gentle waves along the body instead of a raging tsunami thrashing with ecstatic energy.

They can be silent or deafening, or even both at the same time. In her own medical practice, author Rachel Carleton Abrams M.D. explains that many women who come for help to reach orgasm are in fact already experiencing them regularly while having  sex, albeit mildly.

They just didn’t realize it, after the false expectations set by porn and Hollywood’s over-the-top acting led them to believe that what they were feeling somehow wasn’t orgasmic enough.

Learning to experience several different kinds of orgasms by experimenting with stimulation involving a variety of techniques aimed at eliciting different but complimentary reactions is the best way to help a woman discover her orgasmic range, her preferences and desires, her favorite moves and, most importantly, the best combinations to ensure that sex satisfies both of your needs and desires every single time!

Be A Multi-Tasker

Multi-tasking basically means the man does more than one thing at the same time. For example, he may be penetrating the vagina while also stimulating the clitoris by pressing his pubic bone against, also called “grinding.” This is a great method for the woman to reach orgasm.

If the couple wants to achieve orgasm at or near the same time, this is clearly the best option. Other couples I’ve met with have resorted to taking turns, meaning one partner will climax first, then the other. Depending on how each person best reaches orgasm, this may be a possibility, but for couples that enjoy climaxing together, this may not be a satisfactory option.

Experiment With Her Orgasm

The best thing about clitoral orgasms is that they can be achieved in many different ways. Because the entire area is highly sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can also add some interest and spice to sexual relationships, which may have become routine and boring over time.

The main benefit of experimenting is that you’ll learn just what makes your woman tick—sexually speaking, of course. While some women prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have learned how to have an orgasm through masturbation will generally have a much better idea of what type of stimulation they prefer than women who have not.

Know Her Orgasm

As I mentioned above, the clitoris fills up with blood and becomes erect like a penis. This means it’s much more noticeable when a woman is aroused. Because the clitoris does not need to be erect for sexual intercourse to occur, clitoral orgasms will only happen if the woman is properly aroused.

That means some type of foreplay is generally a requirement. With continuous stimulation of the clitoris, it becomes more engorged with blood and this further heightens its sensitivity. As stimulation continues, a point is reached when all of the tension in the area must be released—the point in which an orgasm is experienced.

1. The Coital Assignment Technique

Most sex experts suggest this position as a regular staple to ensure your climax, because it focuses on giving you lots of clitoral action at an angle beneficial for deep, highly enjoyable vaginal thrusting which strokes the clitoral complex. This positions is also great for intimacy. When you can master this subtle but oh-so-effective movement while on your back, you can try it in all sorts of sex positions to enhance the experience.

Start by lying flat on your back. Open your legs to accommodate your lover’s body while he’s putting his penis inside of you. Take your partner’s hips and pull them towards yours, while tilting your own hips upwards like you’re trying to touch your navel to your partner’s pubic mound. Your back will round and you may need a pillow under your hips for comfortable support. Next, have your lover move his body up as much as possible while still keeping his penis inside of you.

You want the weight of your partner’s body propped up by his hands and your pubic mound grinding into his. With each thrust, have your partner focus on rubbing the fleshy part of his body just above where his penis meets the flesh along your vagina. Most women find this action and angle rhythmically pleasing and just enough pressure to come.

2. The Arch Opener

While lying on your back, have your partner place himself over you. Open your legs and have him lie on top of you like he would in missionary style. Once he’s inside you, raise your hips up so that you’re almost in a crab position. Your lover’s body weight rests on your feet, shoulders and the length of your arms.

When you are comfortably raised, put your arms up around your head,  and have your lover hold your wrists to make a box-like shape with your upper limbs and shoulders. You can now use this frame as leverage to push back against your partner, in order to better grind your pelvis into his body for more clitoral action.

3. The Sit Up

When in missionary style, prop yourself up on your elbows so that it lifts your back off the bed. If you needs a bit of help, have your partner support your back with his hands by wrapping his arms around you. As he thrusts in and out of you, sit up even more, tilting your pelvis upwards, and then slowly laying back down again on your back. You’ll essentially perform continuous, assisted sit ups!

4. Legs To the Side

Pretend you’re having sex missionary style, but put your legs straight up in the air instead. It might be easier for you if you place a pillow under your head, but it’s not mandatory. Kneel down and just before your partner enters you, and take both of your legs and push them to the side, keeping them straight as possible. Your partner can use his hands to support himself if need be, or he can place his hands on the bed with his elbows out so you can rest her legs on them occasionally.

5. The Pretzel Cue

Lay on your back and lift your legs, pushing them back toward you a bit so that your knees are around your ears – keep in mind, only the most flexible women will be able to get their legs back this far, so take it easy. Have your partner push back slightly so that your back is off the bed yet still curled up.

Have your lover get comfortable between your legs, and he will press his knees up underneath you against your back, to help prop you up even higher. Have him Lean in and press his body against the backs of your thighs; you may want him to hold onto your legs for support and to keep you both in position. When he penetrates you, start to rock slowly, without him putting too much weight on your body from above, which could injure your lower back.

6. The Countertop Toe Curler

You’ve likely had sex already while you’re lying on something other than the bed, but this position takes things to a whole new level. You’ll see what I mean when you’re in this position. To perform it, lie back on a firm place: a couch, countertop, car hood or even a raised bed works. The tricky part is that when the man stands up straight, you want his pelvic region about a foot higher than yours if you’re lying flat on your back.

Have him get down on his knees if you need to, prop yourself up with pillows, or have him bend his  knees a bit to make sure the height difference works. While you’re lying flat on your back, have him move himself in between your legs. Put your ankles on his shoulders, and tilt your pelvis up towards the ceiling so your body is like a flat plank.

Sex furniture is great for this sort of positioning, especially if  you’ve never moved like this before. Only your shoulders and ankles should touch anything, with the rest of your body perfectly straight. He can grab under your hips to hold onto you while he thrusts into you, giving you both some leverage and support to keep elevated.

7. Legs Together Now

Start off in traditional missionary position. Have your lover keep his penis inside you with his body off the bed and his legs spread. Maneuver your legs in between his, while he focuses on staying inside you. Eventually, both his knees will sit outside of yours, and he’ll be crouched over you with your legs straight underneath him for better sex.

This is a shallow penetration position although your lover can increase the depth of thrusting by lying on top of you and using his arms to prop himself up. This hot sex position offers fantastic clitoral stimulation and a really tight fit for the both of you.

8. Two Chair Ride

You need two high-backed chairs to attempt this sex position, ones with firm armrests that offer a bit of padding for you. Place them side by side, close together, with a few inches between two of the arms. Stand between the two chairs, facing one with your back to the other.

From here, have your lover support you so that you can lean back, your shoulders resting on the arm rest furthest from your body, and your hips braced against the other arm behind you. Have him leave one leg on the floor between the chairs to brace you and add tension, while his leg that is closest to the backs of the chairs splays across armrests in front of you in a comfortable position.

To complete intercourse, he will lie with you so that his upper body is flat against yours. Have him brace his hands against the chair if need be, and have him lift the leg closest to the back of the chair to meet yours. Intertwine legs so that you can use his leg to push against while he’s thrusting.

How She Comes

The most frequent sex act reported by couples is by far coitus, yet only 6% of women report being able to orgasm from penile stimulation alone. Even with clitoral stimulation or vibration, only 29% of women are able to orgasm every time they have sex. Your hands may not be the most obvious sex organ, but the science is clear – 34% of women say that masturbation with their hands or rubbing up against something is their preferred way to reach orgasm.

In the heat of the moment, when she is panting from your foreplay and begging for more, your penis isn’t necessarily what she means. Tradition says that variety is the spice of life. Switching to your brand new “swirly whirl” technique just as she’s about to come will probably stop her dead in her tracks.

Trying new sex positions and different stimulation keeps things interesting, but when it comes to making her come, all the tricks in the book can’t replace the dexterity and strength required for the consistent movement that will bring her over the edge. She has had decades of practice at this subtle movement. If you don’t learn to mimics her own masturbation, she’ll be left wanting. In the heat of the moment, when she is panting from your foreplay and begging for more, your penis isn’t necessarily what she means.

One Way or Another

Do you have a defeatist all-or-nothing attitude when it comes to sex? Do you pass up the chance to get down and dirty for the sake of scheduling, or do you take the time to play when the opportunity arises? When I used to wake up in the morning and try to cuddle with my husband, he would always push me away.

We were so busy that he didn’t think we had time for all the hard work he would have to put in to getting an erection and having an orgasm, so he didn’t even want to bother touching me. Making love is supposed to be an emotional, shared experience and shouldn’t be relegated to goal-oriented time slots when you can run the full routine.

Foreplay, intercourse and orgasm are a great combination, but each activity is also enjoyable on its own. Sometimes my husband and I have time to kiss and fondle, sometimes there’s only a few minutes for a rushed quickie, and other days we may have a long, luxurious afternoon to tease and please each other.

Don’t push away the chance to make your wife feel good because you’re worried you won’t get off in the process!

The Dirty Thirties

While people in their thirties tend to be a bit more adventurous, they are also on average much busier than their younger (or older!) counterparts. Young children are incredibly demanding of both time and energy, and according the sexpert Tracey Cox, the average parenting couple have sex around once a month and if that frequency rises as the child ages, it does not start to for several years.

This kind of physical rift in a relationship can cause long term emotional and physical problems that permeate the later years of a marriage, especially if cuddling, kissing and foreplay disappear with the all-or-nothing approach. Paradoxically, a woman’s capacity for orgasm rises dramatically during this time period as well.

While only 23% of younger women come on a regular basis, 90% of women over thirty report frequent climax, mostly during masturbation.

The Fighting Forties

As a result of the sexual dysfunction of an earlier decade, both men and women in their forties begin a downward swoop on the roller coaster that is sex and marriage. While only 23% of younger women come on a regular basis, 90% of women over thirty report frequent orgasms, mostly during masturbation.

More than half of all men develop erectile dysfunction and this number only rises steadily from age 40 on up. People in their forties also drop way off on their rate of sexual activity – 69 times a year compared to 86 times the decade earlier.

The numbers regarding fidelity are not much more encouraging. In fact, it doesn’t take much for someone to cheat – somewhere between 25% and 40% of people have been unfaithful to their partner, and not all those people were unhappy in their marriage. Those who were “pretty happy” were twice as likely to cheat as those who were “very happy,” and those who were “not too happy” were three times as likely as their very happy peers.

Do Not Rush Foreplay

Despite all the amazing things your hands can do, you have probably not given them a good workout during sex in quite some time. Why the neglect? While women often look at foreplay as a great chance to spend some quality time playing with their partner, men tend to think of it as the work they need to get out of the way before the main event.

Talk On An Honest Level

Maybe you are so eager by the time she’s turned on that you can’t wait to be inside her. Perhaps you just don’t feel confident that you know what’s going on down there and need some clear, concise instructions on how to handle her intimate bits. TALK TO HER! Connect with her on an honest level to find out what she likes and how you can improve your sex life together.

Be Enthusiastic About Your Sex Life

Hot sex deserves your very best effort, and this is the kind of effort worth giving. Don’t spend another night wondering if you’ll be able to hold out long enough to make her come with you. If your wife has anything in common with the 43% of American women in the National Health and Social Life Survey who claimed to have sexual problems related primarily to lack of interest, difficulty reaching orgasm and the inability to experience sexual pleasure, then it’s time to find out what is going on.

Be enthusiastic about your sex life. If you are not positive then she could feel ashamed or embarrassed to the point that you stop having sex all together. Don’t let your sex life spin out of control because you’re not enthusiastic enough about getting it back on track.

Read Her Reactions When You Touch

Molly Triffin, a recent DuPauw University study revealed some interesting news about our responses to touch. “Touch allows you to tune in to feelings that lie below the surface,” psychology professor and lead author Matthew Hertenstein says. Many intimate details of your relationship can be understood in a mere five seconds. You may notice that your wife often tenses up, pulls away or avoids eye contact during sex. While Triffin suggests that the most common reasons for this reaction involve lies or secrets, it is in fact more likely a feeling of self-consciousness and body shame.

Improve Your Endurance Easily

What most men do not know is that improving sexual endurance takes just a simple tweak to the way they have intercourse. You see, most men simply go “thrusting right out the gate” when intercourse begins. The truth is, quick and relentless penetration creates a lot of friction and stimulation to the penis glans.

This is a surefire way to climax quickly, and because women typically take FAR longer to reach a climax, it can leave them totally unsatisfied. Focus on her emotional “hot buttons” first to make it easier for them to reach a powerful orgasm.

Pay Attention To Her Body

Men skilled in female pleasure know that women take significantly longer to warm up before you make love. Thus a great way to make sure she is adequately aroused is to first pay attention to the sensuous areas on her body. Most women get incredibly turned on just by being touched and stroked on their arms, neck, lower back and inner thighs.

Start Slow!

By starting slow, you are actually helping to speed up her climax during intercourse. The way you thrust also affects how long you last. Once you get her aroused, vary your thrusts during intercourse. Start with slow, shallow strokes, entering just the first three inches of the vagina, and then progress into deeper penetrations. The shallow part of the vagina will stimulate her the most as this area contains thousands of sensitive nerve endings.

Vary Your Strokes

On the other hand, the vagina opens up the deeper you go and creates less stimulation on your penis. Thus varying between shallow and deep penetrations will help you last longer. At the same time, move your hips in a circular fashion. This causes your pubic mound to rub and further stimulate her clitoris – the nerve center of the female orgasm.

Use Positions To Your Advantage

There are many more ways that can help boost your sexual endurance, including the positions you use during sex, as well as adopting the correct breathing and relaxation techniques. For a start, focus on heightening female arousal and tweaking your thrusting movements and you should last significantly longer that you used to!

Don’t Put Too Much Focus On Intercourse

Being a great lover you is about being able to please a woman. It’s all about her orgasm first. You must be able to bring her to climax before you. Then she’s going to want to bring you to climax and the sex is going to be that much better.

Too many men focus on the intercourse. They’re all about being good in the intercourse part, you know, good in the dynamic part of sex. A lot of men spend too much time researching sexual positions: how to flip a woman over and how to do it from behind and what the best missionary positions are.

And that’s all great. Understanding all the different positions and different moves and how to stimulate the g-spot are all fantastic. These are all things that you need to know to be a dynamic lover.

It’s All About Mindset

If you haven’t figured out by now, life is 100% mindset. When a man meets a woman for the very first time and there’s sexual energy between the two of them, it’s not just about what you’re going to do with them physically, it’s all about the foreplay ahead of time that really drives a woman wild and actually drives the man wild too.

When you’ve got a lot of mental foreplay with somebody, it opens up a whole new world of sexuality. A lot of men and women don’t understand the art of talking dirty, or how important it is to really bring somebody to orgasm. But more important, a lot of men don’t realize the emotional connection that women need to have. Because men tend to think with their little head, and women, well, they have a little head too, but their little head is so small they don’t really think with it.

Use Her Emotion

In order to massage a woman, in order to get her to really open up sexually to you, you need to be able to understand the way that she is wired emotionally. I’ve said so many times that women are like giant a giant clitoris. If you go in for the kill right away, they’re basically going to be shut down.

You’ve got to learn how to open them up. You got to learn how to really become a dynamic lover, because that is what they’re looking for. It’s like licking an ice cream cone. Spend the time to savor each and every drop.

Becoming the most dynamic lover is not just about physical. It’s about understanding her emotional core for then seduction and teasing her. Learn how to control your mindset, learn how to influence hers, and you’re already on your way to becoming the best lover possible.

1. A Woman Can Reach Orgasm More Easily If Her Partner Has A Big Penis

If you think your penis size has something to do with a woman’s ability to climax, you need to think again. The truth is that size really doesn’t matter all that much. Look at it this way: just as large breasts may be fun to play with and look at, they really don’t have anything to do with whether or not you climax.

Just as they say “more than a mouthful is a waste,” the same holds true for penises, except our saying goes “more than a vagina full is a waste (and sometimes painful).” Since only the first two inches of a woman’s vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is kind of useless during intercourse, at least from a woman’s physical perspective.

2. A Woman Doesn’t Enjoy Sex Unless She Has An Orgasm

Listen up: NOTHING COULD BE MORE WRONG!!!! Although a majority of men believe that the only way a woman enjoys sex is if she orgasms, nothing could be farther from the truth.

For many couples, sex is generally a physical and emotional expression of love, intimacy, and trust. Because women thoroughly enjoy being close to their partners, many enjoy the physical aspect of feeling their partner’s naked body against theirs during sex, even when it is not accompanied by climax.

The physical touch of her partner helps satisfy a woman’s need for affection, so sex can be very satisfying both physically and emotionally even if she doesn’t climax. An orgasm is an intense pleasurable feeling but it is not the sole source of sexual pleasure for a woman.

3. There’s Nothing Wrong With Faking An Orgasm

A lot of women sincerely believe this myth, but the truth is that there’s A LOT wrong with a fake orgasm. Although faking an orgasm may benefit the woman in one way or another, it does absolutely nothing for her partner. Faking an orgasm is nothing more than a lie.

It doesn’t matter if her reason for doing so is to spare your feelings or to get the act of sex done and over with. Allowing you to believe something that isn’t true is lying. While faking an orgasm may help a man feel good about himself in terms of his ability to satisfy his partner, the truth of the matter is that he is not satisfying his partner.

4. Some Women Just Can’t Have An Orgasm

While there are a percentage of women who have never had one, there is no evidence to suggest that some women are physically incapable of climaxing. One of the reasons some women have never had the pleasure of experiencing an orgasm is because they just don’t know how.

While men have a lot of practice pleasing themselves through masturbation, many women lack the same experience. As a result, they don’t understand what the big deal is about sex and give up trying to learn how to reach climax. The main reason behind this failure to achieve an orgasm is improper genital stimulation.

Contrary to popular belief, a woman requires clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, not vaginal stimulation. Without proper stimulation of the clitoris, orgasm is unlikely for most women.

5. Women Take Longer To Orgasm Than Men

This is another common myth, which has not been supported by research. The reason many men and women believe this to be true is because of their lack of understanding sexual arousal.  A woman’s pattern of sexual arousal is much different than a man’s.

As a result, it takes women longer to “want” to have sex than it does men. Once a woman is fully aroused, she can have an orgasm just as fast, if not faster, than her male partner. But should she fail to reach that optimum level of sexual arousal, it can appear to take her longer to have an orgasm than a man.

The key is to learn how to get your partner hot and horny first. Because men often don’t know how to sexually arouse their partners, they often engage in sex sooner than their partner is ready for. As a result, achieving orgasm can be difficult for the woman, if not impossible. Not only will that help her to climax faster, it will also help her to climax more often.

Understand The Female Anatomy

The clitoral head – the bud that you see poking out when a woman is aroused – is actually just the tip of a large, interconnected network of nerve endings.

As the clitoris moves from the outside of a woman’s body to the inner workings of her genitalia, it expands into a complex network of nerves and tissues. Starting just under the fatty layer that surrounds this entire area, the network starts off with the clitoral shaft – similar to a man’s penile shaft – and then separates into two shafts and does a U-turn. The turn, called the clitoral knee, wraps back around to extend to the G-Spot at one angle, and the labia minora and majora at another.

Basically the entire network hub meets up at the clitoral hood, almost like a flower in wait to bloom. When in its normal, non-aroused state, the clitoral head seems much like a budding flower waiting to bloom, and when a woman gets aroused, it opens up its petals internally, expanding in both directions down and out.

As the clitoral hood reacts and expands very much like the head of a penis, it is able to increases in size and becomes erect. When it fills with blood, the internal U-turn straightens out somewhat, and lies suspended even closer to the woman’s skin because of its engorgement.

The Key To Female Orgasm: Symphisis

For most women, the head of the clitoral network – the clitoral hood, head and shaft – sits underneath a padding of fat and skin around the bottom portion of the mons pubis. Doctors call this area the symphysis, and it’s identified in X-rays as a small, thin oval-shaped bone.

The symphysis sits under the clitoral knee and shaft internally, with another cushion of fat, muscle and skin over the top. When a woman is aroused, you can feel the shaft with a delicate touch, as it swells and presses up against the symphysis. Men also have a symphysis at the base of their penis, and it is also covered with a small layer of fat, muscle and skin.

Therefore, to enhance the chance of a woman’s sexual release, make sure that every time you have sex, your symphysese are pressed up against one another. As well, make sure that each thrust into your partner ends with a grinding of these areas together, thus stimulating the shaft of her clitoris and giving her the friction she needs to orgasm. Additionally, if she can tilt her pelvis up towards the root of your penis, she’ll further enhance the sensation.

The Symphisis Connection

Depending on your partner’s individual anatomy and how excited she is, you can effectively stroke her clitoral shaft up to two inches while performing this maneuver. She’ll instantly know that it’s working because she’ll feel the difference in stimulation, and will probably liken it to how she feels during her own masturbatory sessions.

In time, she’ll be able to maneuver her pelvis exactly so she can achieve the right angle of friction, and you’ll know when you’ve hit the right spot at the bottom of your thrusting because you’ll feel your symphysese press up against one another. For side or rear-entry positions, you may both have to alter your angle of thrusting and grinding, or use your hands, to achieve the same results.

Some women find that once they’ve mastered this technique, they orgasm quite quickly, and can control the speed of which they achieve climax as well. If she thinks she’s about to come and wants to prolong the pleasure, all she has to do is move her bum out and stop letting your symphysis rub up against hers. She’ll remain aroused, but won’t receive the stimulation that was pushing her too far too fast.

For men that find they orgasm too quickly for their partner to join them in the bliss of release, choose positions that don’t allow for a tremendous amount of thrusting, but instead focus on your partner’s grinding of her symphysis into yours. This way she’ll still get what she needs, and you won’t get the shaft rub that excites you too furiously. When she feels like she’s getting close to orgasm, you can change sex positions into one that offers you both the thrusting and grinding required.

The easiest way for both of you to learn how to perform this ‘symphysis press’ is to start practicing with woman on top positions. This way she can choose how deep you penetrate, how much grinding and pressing she receives, and can decide which angle works best for her physiology.

Sure, it’s possible, but it isn’t the norm. The corresponding body part for a woman is her clitoris – the whole thing, not just the clitoral head. Therefore, trying to get a woman to orgasm without ‘stroking the shaft’ so to speak is possible, but not probable.

The Vagina Isn’t That Sensitive, Guys!

The vaginal opening holds the most of a woman’s nerve endings along the vaginal canal, other than that small disc-shaped space an inch or so up the shaft called the G-Spot. The vagina does feel pressure, but most of its sensitivity lies where the vaginal canal connects to the clitoral network: the G-Spot, the A-Spot further back which controls lubrication, and the exterior contact points in the vaginal opening and the clitoral head/hood.

Normally, men orgasm when they are aroused from direct penile stimulation. The comparable act for women then is when their clitoral head, or somewhere else along the clitoral network, receives direct stimulation. So let’s talk a bit more about this clitoral network, and the clitoral head.

Tip Of The Iceberg

The clitoral head is what most folks call the clitoris, love nub, skittle, button – you get the drift. Many feel that this little exposed piece of flesh is all there is when it comes to the clitoris, but scientists can now prove that the truth is a much bigger story. The clitoral head – the tip of the clitoral network – expands and fills with blood when a woman is aroused, just like a man’s penis does.

The clitoral head even has a foreskin, called the clitoral hood, which protects it from infection and too much stimulation, just like foreskin. When a women gets exited, this hood slides back for better stimulation, and hides the clitoral head again just before climax.

One of the more difficult aspects of a woman’s anatomy is that the clitoral head and network aren’t easily reach – you certainly don’t want to reach out and grab your girl’s clit in the heat of the moment! The clitoris is also connected on both ends. A good analogy: if the top of a man’s penis was attached to his stomach, how would he thrust? He couldn’t.

He’d be dependent on his partner to rub up against him or touch him to receive direct stimulation during intercourse. This is exactly what a woman needs during sex. The fact that hers is buried so deeply makes the challenge a bit more interesting, but by absolutely no means impossible.

Why The Clitoris’ Design Rocks

While it may be difficult, there are some serious benefits to the layout and design of the clitoral complex. For starters, any stimulation to the network affects the entire clitoris. This is why some women are able to orgasm during intercourse with only the movement of a man’s penis thrusting inside of her: because the vaginal opening does have a few nerve endings hiding out there, and the in-out motion pulls the labia down, thus rubbing the clitoral hood and in turn, indirectly the clitoral head.

Basically, even if your wife is able to orgasm during intercourse without direct clitoral stimulation, just thrusting in and out gives her a taste of the indirect stimulation she needs to make it all the way.

The Truth About A Female Orgasm

Guess what? Statistics have shown that one in seven women never had the good fortune of experiencing an orgasm during sex. The fact that your girl even comes close to one, means that you can actually bring her over the edge, if you know this simple binding principle in any sexual relationship – trust. This means she trusts both herself and you.

Achieving an orgasm while having sex can be fulfilling, but it can also be a scary experience for any woman. Sounds strange? It is but this is a very real fear in a woman. The intensity of the sensations that she is about to experience can make any woman “chicken out” at the last moment. It is like pulling out at the last moment when you are just about to do a bungee jump.

The Element Of Trust Is What’s Going To Push Her Over The Edge

You cannot just rely or learn a new technique to get her to orgasm. You have to let her trust you enough to make her totally surrender and release all her hang ups and inhibitions, before she is ready to let herself go.

So how do you give her that element of trust? Simple. Give her the confidence that you know what you are doing, and that you are doing all you can to give her the most powerful sexual experience any woman could have. Ask her to close her eyes, lean back and relax. Continue talking to her during lovemaking, even in the throes of passion so that she knows you have her emotional well-being at heart.

Once she knows there is NO judgment on her and that you are giving her the emotional space to go crazy and let it all out, she will be ready to take the plunge with full gratitude! This is the key to giving her a powerful female orgasm on the spot that will rock her world!