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Master The Art Of Cunnilingus: Learn How To Eat A Girl Out

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 19:14:15 +0000

When it comes to oral sex, women are lucky in the sense that all they need to do is brave the waters down there and they will be able to give men a mind-blowing orgasm through fellatio. No matter how they manipulate the penis – as long as the teeth are not involved – it will be an experience that is well worth it as far as men are concerned.

Men are not so lucky, however. The vagina is quite a complex territory so the art of cunnilingus is basically a different one to master. It’s not enough for you to be willing to go down on her – it involves a bit of tongue dexterity, finger manipulation and being sensitive to how she wants to be eaten.

Also, there are quite a number of spots that you have to master: the clitoris, the vaginal lips, the G-spot and her anal opening. But don’t worry – once you have learned how to give women the utmost sexual satisfaction through cunnilingus – you’ll be a master lover for life!

Eating a Girl Out 101: Start with the Basics

As mentioned earlier, there are a number of parts of the woman’s vagina that you need to be familiar with so that you would know what to do once she opens up her legs for you.

Remember that giving her head is something which she anticipates, loves and wants more than anything. For most women, oral stimulation before sex – or it being the main event – is the easiest way for them to reach a mind blowing orgasm.

So master your oral love skills by familiarizing yourself with those female parts first. Take a look at some of parts of the vagina that you can try to manipulate while you’re going down on her:

1. The Labia

‘Labia’ is the Latin term for lips. At the entrance of a woman’s vagina, there are two pairs of lips – the larger outside pair, and the smaller pair inside. Together, they add up to what is called the vulva or the external female genitalia.

2. The Clitoris

The sensations that a woman can feel from her clitoris is equivalent to just how sensitive the head of your penis is. The clit is that small protrusion above the opening of the vagina. And interestingly enough, it’s the only organ in the human body whose sole function is to provide sexual pleasure. How’s that for using the clit to eat a woman out?

3. The G-spot

Finally, there’s the oh-so-elusive G-spot which is the Holy Grail of all the female erogenous zones. You can either stimulate her G-spot using your fingers while you’re giving her some oral love – it’s that bean-shaped, rough-feeling tissue located behind the front wall of her vagina. Pointing towards the belly, it’s about a couple of inches inside her vaginal opening.

Provide The Finishing Touches: How To Keep A Woman Begging For More By Eating Her Out

Now that you’ve had a crash course on the female parts that you need to be familiar with, here’s a blow by blow account on how you can eat a girl out.

The number one rule that you need to remember is that you should not zero in on the clitoris immediately. You may not like the sound of it but in order to prepare a woman to take in some of your oral loving, there should be some – preferably a lot – of foreplay involved. Start by blowing gently into her ears and doing a lot of kissing, touching and petting. Pay particular attention to her breasts and her nipples just so that you can prepare her for the main event.

Now comes the good part. Using your tongue, make some sweeping motions on her labia – both the inner and outer lips of the vagina. Again, don’t go straight for the clitoris because this is a highly sensitive area. Play around her vagina using your mouth and tongue – be sensitive to her moans and responses so that you’ll know which move in particular has an earth-shattering effect.

Once you feel that she’s wet, spread out her vaginal lips and do a literal writing with your tongue – use the alphabet or the numbers and find out which one is a hit with her. While you’re at it, use your middle finger to stimulate her G-spot and once you hit it, go for the clitoris next.

Her hips should be digging into your face at this point, and this is the time when you can amp things up and go for the finale which is to lick the clitoris faster and faster while stimulating her G-spot at the same time. Once her vagina tightens up and suddenly goes lax – that’s when you know that you have succeeded in eating her out.

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The Lazy Man’s Guide to Great Sex

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 19:15:09 +0000

Everyone wants great sex, but because of a busy lifestyle that include kids, work, bills and a list of other everyday stresses we have to deal with, not everyone has the time or energy to give 100% during their lovemaking sessions.

Sometimes, we want to have mind blowing sex, but want to get it over with sooner than later, so we can get some sleep and get up for work the next morning!

Well, I’m here to tell you that you can have your cake and eat it too

The tips & techniques I’m about to show you are simple and energy-efficient. They’re great to use when you’re feeling tired, lack the physical stamina to do the karma sutra sex positions, don’t have the time to engage in all-night honeymoon-like sex, and most importantly, they are EFFECTIVE.

You’ll learn:

The best sex position for simultaneous orgasms
The best way to finger a girl
1 simple ingredient you can add to oral sex that will give her goose bumps

Best Sex Position

Do you know what the best sex position is for giving you and your partner the feelings of intimacy? And at the same time, increasing your changes of simultaneous orgasms?

Before I share that with you, let me share something with you…

In many sex surveys, one of the most favorite sex position chosen by women is the missionary position.

At first I was a bit surprised to hear this; after all, there are other positions that can allow for greater feelings of physical pleasure. But after hearing the reason why women like this position, I can understand.

Here’s why: Women like the missionary position because of the face-to-face contact it provides. In other words, they liked the feeling of intimacy…

Even though this position isn’t ideal for female orgasms, it’s still a favorite among women.

Well, I’m sure you know exactly how to do the missionary mission, so I’m not going to teach you that

But, the key idea here is this feeling of "Intimacy".

Now, how can we better grasp this concept of "intimacy"? In other words, how can we increase the levels of intimacy, at the same time, increase the chances of female orgasms?

Enter the C.A.T

The Coital Alignment Technique (or CAT for short), is by far the best position for female orgasms.

Why?

Because this position is designed to maximize clitoral stimulation during intercourse…something that most other sex positions can’t!

The CAT position looks like the regular missionary position, but with a slight adjustment.

The main difference is that the male will penetrate from a higher angle (compared to the standard missionary position). And instead of thrusting in and out, the movement is more of a rocking or rubbing action.

Why The CAT Position Works

A woman can have an orgasm quickly and easily because the CAT position allows a woman’s clitoris to be stimulated. The stimulation from the base of the penis & pubic bone on the clitoris, combined with the rocking/rubbing action of the pelvis will allow a woman to reach orgasm. But it doesn’t end here… It’s a great sex position for men too. The woman’s legs are closer together, making the vagina feel "tighter".

WARNING: The feeling of tightness might make men orgasm quicker than normal!

Combining the enhanced clitoral stimulation, tighter feel of the vagina, and face-to-face, body-pressed-on-body intimacy…achieving orgasms at the same time has never been easier!

How To Do The Coital Alignment Technique

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Oral Sex and Orgasm Dilemma – I Want To Finish In Her Mouth… (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 17 May 2008 14:46:44 +0000

Men love blow jobs. That’s a fact.

Many men also love finishing in a woman’s mouth during a blow job.

It can make them feel powerful or good about themselves and for some men, it just feels better physically to orgasm in a woman’s mouth than finishing another way.

Unfortunately, not all women relish the idea of having a man orgasm in her mouth.

There can be many different reasons why, but if you’re a man who enjoys finishing in a woman’s mouth, it can be disheartening when she doesn’t want to. What can you do?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

When my wife gives me a blow job, she can’t quite let me finish in her mouth. Is there any advice you can give her?

- Pete, Alberta

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Top 10 Tips To Give Women An Orgasm

Michael Webb — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 15:43:17 +0000

Did you know that women can experience different types of orgasms and can even have multiple orgasms? It’s true! Unfortunately, many women can go years without an orgasm from their partner, and we all know how hard it is to satisfy a woman. Here are 10 tips to increase the chances she’ll reach climax, including the secret to multiple orgasms:

Start outside the bedroom

Want to increase the chances she’ll orgasm? When was the last time you surprised her with a little drawing, letter or flowers and sent them to her at work? Believe it or not, creative and romantic gestures DO turn women on because love and lovemaking are interconnected in a woman’s brain. Do this and you can bet-your-bottom-dollar you’ll be doing more than just eating dinner when she walks in the door!

Relax her

It’s very hard for women to orgasm if they are stressed. Give her a quick back massage. Rub her shoulders, upper back and neck to melt away the tension.

Ignore the vagina

Did you know that prolonged foreplay actually increases the chances of her coming? That’s right. By kissing, caressing and touching her LONGER, you’ll build the sexual tension and often the anticipation will be very powerful.

Change your focus

If you focus all your attention on the woman first, you’ll make love to her much more passionately. Think about it! If you’ve finished first and decide to help her come, you won’t have the enthusiasm and passion that’s needed to keep her hot and turned on.

Tip to last longer

Of course the first step to help her reach orgasm is by not coming. The best way I’ve found to not come is: Penetrate as normal and when you feel like you’re about to come, simply move your hips in a circular motion (like swaying a hula hoop) and wait until the “little guys” subside again. Now continue pleasuring.

Don’t use lubricants

Women have a natural lubricant that fills the vagina when they’re turned on. By using a product substitute, you’re only fooling yourself. Without products, you’ll instantly know if things are working; but with them, you can never be sure. * Editor’s note: use this tip with caution; we’ve always found lubricants to be helpful.

Never too much clitoris

Did you know that once you’ve stimulated the clitoris for some time, a little thing called the clitoral hood will actually come out and cover the clitoris to protect it from further direct stimulation? (And no, I’m not making this up!) The point is, once the clitoris is fully stimulated, make sure you pleasure the G-spot next, whether it be with your hand, tongue or penis.

Find and stimulate the G spot

The G-spot is a zone that feels like the roof of your mouth and is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. (On the underside of her stomach.) There are two basic ways you can pleasure the G. With your fingers by doing a “come here” motion or with a love position that helps hit the G-spot…

Use the best position

Not all love positions are made equal. The best one for women is the reverse missionary (woman on top). This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

Give her oral sex

The single best way to help a woman reach orgasm, even multiple orgasms, is by going down on her (cunnilingus). While at first I didn’t believe it, countless studies have been done to prove this fact. Oral sex is easier and much more satisfying for women than intercourse is. Try the ABC’s with your tongue, ask what she likes, and mix it up with lots of different movements! However be VERY careful! With over 6,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, make sure you know everything there is to know before poking your tongue around there, otherwise it could be really painful and, even worse, spoil the mood. So there you have it – 10 tips you can start using right away to give women the most earth-shattering experience of their lives. Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of Lick by Lick, the complete guide to giving women oral pleasure. Unfortunately, most men leave women frustrated and disappointed after cunnilingus. Find out how you can be one of the rare men who can satisfy her with oral sex by visiting the Lick by Lick website. Read our review here.

Desperate Housewife – Husband REFUSES Oral Sex! (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 23 Dec 2007 13:57:15 +0000

Oral sex is undoubtedly one of the most pleasurable of all sexual activities.

With the seemingly endless amount of delightful sensations oral sex can bring, it’s a wonder why anyone would willingly say no to it.

And although some people prefer to give it, and others prefer to receive it, most people enjoy doing both – Sometimes at the very same time!

But what happens when one person in a relationship completely refuses to engage in any kind of oral sex play, and the other absolutely adores it?

Is it possible to change someone’s mind about oral sex? Is it even reasonable or moral to try?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’ve been married for 15+ years & would love to have my husband to try anal &/or oral sex. He thinks it’s "vile & disgusting".

I have been around the block once or twice before I married & enjoyed these activities very much! He won’t even let me give him oral sex, which I’ve been told I’m pretty good at.

How do I convince my hubby that I want this type of activity?

–Samantha, Ohio

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How Can I Get My Husband to Try Oral Sex?

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Gasp! Do People Actually Have Oral Sex? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 19 Sep 2007 23:53:15 +0000

Everyone has their own sexual preferences, whether it’s plain old missionary position, lights off, oral sex, anal sex (gasp!), or any one of dozens of exotic sexual activities.

Of course, nobody thinks of what they like as a weird fetish. No, what they like is always "OK" and "mainstream". Then we hear about someone doing something just a little more weird, just a little different from what we’re comfortable with, and suddenly it’s a "kinky fetish".

Here’s a question from a man in Georgia, who’s absolutely shocked to have discovered that some people seem to actually enjoy oral sex. Is it blasphemy, or has he just been missing out?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Do people really perform oral sex? Seems disgusting to me. Is it rare, or do couples regularly do it? I never thought of such a thing until I got on the Internet. It was never discussed in my circle of friends.

– Harold, GA

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Do Regular People Actually Engage in Oral Sex?

Absolutely. There are people out there who enjoy every type of fetish and exotic sexual activity imaginable. From enjoying oral sex, to relishing anal sex, to threesomes and swinging, and other fetishes you’ve never even imagined….

How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More – Oral Sex Secrets Exposed, Lick by Lick

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 15:25:32 +0000

With all the societal and social stigma telling women they have to be “good girls”, very few feel comfortable talking openly about sex in general.

So it’s no surprise that most women won’t tell you they’d love for you to “go down on them”. Sure it can bring them immense pleasure, but it’s rare for a woman to make that request of her man.

Here’s what’s even worse. Amazingly enough, many women have NEVER experienced an orgasm! Think about that for a minute… never having had an orgasm.

Now, how would YOU like to be the one to give her that very first magical mind blowing orgasm? To give her all that pleasure.

Here are some surprising facts about women and oral sex

there are 8,000 nerve endings in a woman’s clitoris? More than on the head of a penis or any other part of the human body? With something that sensitive, you better know what you’re doing before you go poking around, especially with your tongue.
88% of married women say cunnilingus is their preferred form of sexual activity?
81% of women regularly achieve orgasm from cunnilingus, versus
only 25% from traditional vaginal penetration?
only 60% of women say they enjoy vaginal sex at all?
only 7.7% of women who experience more than 21 minutes of properly rendered foreplay fail to reach an orgasm? That’s over nine out of ten women who do experience an orgasm when their lover understands a woman’s body and how to drive it to new heights of ecstasy

So what role SHOULD men play here?

Of course men don’t usually think twice before asking their woman to give them oral sex, or even try back door sex with them, which is now often referred to as “the new oral”. But here’s the rub. Considering everything she does for YOU, to get YOU excited, isn’t it about time you went out of YOUR way to give HER an amazing orgasm or two?

It’s time to step up and surprise your woman with the gift of orgasm and oral sex from her man.

Today, it isn’t about you, it’s about HER. And if you’re not doing the right things to really get her excited, then what’s the point?

Here’s our review of Oprah Love Expert, Michael Webb’s excellent Lick by Lick – How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More.

This book is a revealing step by step guide at oral sex and female orgasm from the master of romance. It’s about time we heard from a man known as a true romantic on the real sexual needs of a woman.

Most guys have SO much difficulty actually talking openly to their lovers about anything having to do with sex. Men don’t have trouble asking for one sexual favor or another, their problem is getting into intimate details with their partner… finding out what SHE really likes without getting the male ego bruised.

But it CAN be done, and the results should really improve your sex life – by satisfying the desires of BOTH partners.

Michael walks you through ALL the questions you need to ask your lover – so you REALLY find the right spot and bring her insane pleasure. Better yet, keep it fun – make this into an erotic date night game!

This book actually goes into the touchy details, like…

how to make her comfortable talking about RECEIVING oral sex from you
how to build the trust so she’ll welcome you
how to break through her self-consciousness barrier while overcoming your own inhibitions about cunnilingus
how to recognize and navigate the 8 components of the female genitalia with your tongue, and make them love it
how to tell if she’s enjoying herself just by watching and listening
8 questions to ask to determine what she really wants
9 tips for getting her ready for you, and for it
5 ways to set the romantic stage for cunnilingus
4 techniques to prepare her body for your most intimate attention

Summary:

One thing we didn’t like about Lick by Lick – How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More was the long and extensive focus on safe sex, sometimes to the point of taking all the fun out of it! Your mileage may vary of course. Fact is, Michael just added all that information so that you’re informed and you have it if you want it.

Overall this book is a great guide to pleasuring your woman and we highly recommend it.

A lot of men could score some serious points with their ladies for just THINKING about bringing them this type of pleasure – not to mention actually downloading this guide and mastering the techniques. It’s not hard, it just takes a little initiative.

Get your copy right now before you get busy and forget. Surprise your woman with the gift of oral pleasure… Isn’t she worth it?

While you’re at it, you’ll definitely want to check out Michael’s other terrific resources below.

Spice up your sex life with 500 Sex and Love Making Secrets (Our Review…)
Learn how to really please your man with Blow by Blow: A Tasteful Guide on How to Give Mind-Blowing Blow Jobs (Fellatio)
Draw closer together with 1000 Questions for Couples (Our Review…)

Don’t put it off.

You’ll kick yourself if you don’t download Lick by Lick – How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More today.

How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms – The Female Orgasm Black Book Review

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 03:18:03 +0000

Oh Boy… We’re at it again. Covering sex and intimacy topics that seem to be considered hush-hush.

Do you believe your girlfriend or wife when she claims to have an orgasm?

How can you know for certain that she’s not faking?

Here are some surprising facts about female orgasm:

70% of women have NEVER had an orgasm with a man.
25% of men will get turned down by their own lovers over half the time. These men have women who think sex is a chore.
Nearly 50% of men have partners that will NEVER ask for sex (would you ask for something that doesn’t give you any pleasure?)
92% of women will FAKE ORGASMS just to “get it over with”. It’s obvious that what most men are doing simply isn’t working.

If you have never given your partner an orgasm, and you don’t know how…

Do you know how to give your woman a clitoral orgasm? How about a G Spot orgasm? And which type of orgasm should you give her first to really get her going?

Do you know exactly where the G Spot is and how to properly stimulate it?

It’s absolutely amazing how many women have never had an orgasm. Or how about the lucky ones that enjoy an orgasm once every year or two. Can you imagine the vast majority of men only having an orgasm once every few years? Right.

Get This. Our good friend, Lee Jenkins, has created the Female Orgasm Black Book for men and women, but it is especially valuable for caring boyfriends and husbands who want a no-nonsense, step-by-step plan for bringing explosive sexual pleasures to their partners.

You do want that, don’t you?

The “Black Book” explains the female orgasm, A-to-Z, with sex tips, checklists and examples of “orgasm routines” you can use to bring your partner to an orgasm (and yes, also multiple orgasms).

Here’s just a peak at the great information that Lee gives you in the Female Orgasm Black Book:

Why being a “pick up artist” doesn’t guarantee that you’ll be a “Stud” in bed!
How to re-ignite the white-hot passion of any long-term relationship!
The number one reason women can’t have orgasms…even if you’re using every trick in the book…and…what to do about it!
How to tell if she’s faking an orgasm on you and How to tell if she’s having a real orgasm!
A simple “shortcut” to knowing exactly how she likes to be touched! (This takes the guesswork out of foreplay)
How to create a setting in your home that will make her want to have sex!
The 10 best sex positions that will give her an orgasm
How to train your woman to be more orgasmic, and want sex more often!
The most common female orgasm problems…and what to do about it
18 hidden signs that reveal if a woman is really “turned on”…or…if she’s just faking it! (most men don’t have a clue about what “signals” a woman can’t stop sending out…which…always reveal the honest truth).
How to make heart-pounding intimacy last forever!

This book is easily one of the best and most comprehensive guides to the ever elusive female orgasm that we have found.

But, here’s a word of warning before you get the Female Orgasm Black Book… This guide will not make the woman in your life spontaneously orgasm. It may be an amazing resource that is actually easy to follow (yes, it has simple diagrams and step by step instructions), but you have to actually want to make this work. This means that you will first have download the Female Orgasm Black Book then then you will actually have to read it and do what Lee says!

So before you do anything else, decide that you will actually read this guide after you download it.

And don’t forget to check out the included 35 page Advanced Fingering Techniques (also complete with diagrams and simple step by step descriptions).

Caution. Once your woman experiences a night of orgasm after orgasm (read: basically what she’s been asking and waiting for), she will NOT want to go back to sex once every 3 to 6 months. If you’re just playing around, then this is not for you.

She’s going to want you to work this magic on her every chance you get. And you can be sure that after you give her 3 orgasms in a row, she’s going to want to reciprocate and give and give to you. A satisfied highly aroused woman can be very, very giving!

First, go to the Female Orgasm Black Book website today and sign up for the free Female Orgasms Exposed email newsletter.

And then download the Female Orgasm Black Book and find out for yourself how much better your sex life can be…