1. Not Thinking About Style The Way Women Do

A lot of guys think that they are in-style because they are wearing something that their guy friends think is cool.  The truth is that most women do not have the same taste as your guy friends. For example, here’s a few things you should NEVER wear on a first date, or basically ever.

Affliction or Ed Hardy-style clothing (anything with dragons or skulls screams “douchebag” to a woman), athletic jerseys (unless you are actually AT the game), any type of MMA clothing (Hit Man Fight Gear, Tap Out, etc.), excessive jewelry (keep it to your watch and maybe ONE other tasteful piece), Tevas or, God forbid, Crocs. Wearing any one of these things will kill your chances with a fashion-conscious woman, which is what nearly all “10′s” are.

2. Not Making A Move

Listen up! As a man, it’s YOUR JOB to make the first move to get physical – and if you don’t – you will end up in the friend zone, for sure. And here’s something else you need to know: A woman would much rather you take the chance and go for a kiss at the wrong time then have you not go for it at all!

With that in mind though, the best time to go for a kiss is NOT necessarily at the end of a date.In fact, that’s often a BAD time for a couple reasons: It’s a “high pressure” moment, and all of that build-up can make things awkward If you start kissing her earlier in the night – the two of you can be kissing the entire time – not just once at the end! So when you are planning your date, think about a good way you could start kissing part-way through.

This is why I love taking girls out for a drink at intimate wine bars or cocktail lounges instead of restaurants. Find a place where the 2 of you are sitting close to each other, and when conversation is going great, lean in and go for it! You’ll be surprised at just how much more willing a girl is to kiss you in the middle of the date during some great conversation versus waiting until that awkward moment at the end like most guys do.

Bonus Tip:

As a good way did get things started, break up the conversation with a sincere compliment, then go for it. For example, after she finishing talking, say, “Wow, you look gorgeous right now” and maintain eye contact. Then lean in to kiss her. If she gives you the cheek, that’s totally fine… it’s all part of the game. You see, most 10′s aren’t gonna kiss a guy the first time he tries! (They don’t want to feel too easy.)

Don’t be afraid of rejection. If you get “the cheek”, go ahead and kiss her on the cheek, then pull back and keep the convo going strong like nothing happened. Then, give it another shot a little bit later. You’ll be surprised at how often you start kissing passionately on the 2nd try!

3. Not Taking Action

This is perhaps the BIGGEST mistake guys make when it comes to women and dating is not taking action to get that part of their lives handled. I know, because I used to be absolutely TERRIBLE with women. I was a virgin until I was 24 years old. You want to be an alpha male.

For a while there, I just accepted that as my fate, and figured things would always be that way. But then a few years ago, I made the decision to figure this stuff out once and for all. It took me a long time before I started dating the 10′s. I started by dating 3′s and 4′s! I then worked my way up to hotter girls. And it was then I found that the HOTTEST girls were totally different than all the rest.

And after a few more years of trial and error, I figured out how to land those ultra-hot model girls as well. I’m still just a regular dude. I live in 2 bedroom apartment that I share with a friend, I drive a 6 year old car, and I’m no Colin Farrell when it comes to my looks.  But these days, I’m able to get most any girl I want – and do it without rejection, and without wasting a lot of money or time. The difference is, I TOOK ACTION!

The only problem is you went out a few times and now he’s not calling you back.  You can’t believe it.  You thought there was just this incredible chemistry.  You’re thinking, “What did I do wrong?” Here’s the deal.What you’re ‘doing wrong’ right now is you’re obsessing.

Whenever you sit around and you obsess about a man not calling you back, basically what you’re doing is you’re telling the universe that you’re not worthy of a great man. You’re driving your friends up the wall when you do that.  They don’t want to hear it anymore.  They don’t know why he hasn’t called you back.

They have no clue at all why this man has not called you back.  You go through this ridiculous session with them saying, “Do you think I said this wrong or that wrong?” And you obsess about it. You actually get them to give you their opinion on why he hasn’t called back, but your friends don’t know anything about him.

So how do you get him to call you back?

1. Stop Obsessing And Call Yourself

When he answers the phone, don’t mention that he never called you and don’t be rude or accusatory. Be sweet and flirt when he answers the phone. If he doesn’t answer the phone, leave him a tantalizing little message.  “Hey, been thinking about you.  How are you? Where did you disappear off to?”  That’s it.

2. Text The Guy

If you’re too afraid, then you can send a text. It’s the exact same thing. “Hey, you.  Where did you disappear to?  Did aliens abduct you?”  It’s about just being fun and it’s about being clever.

3. Forget About The Guy

If you haven’t heard back in a few days after a great date and he doesn’t return your texts, then you’re obsessing.  And if you obsess for way too long, you’re going to turn the energy off for meeting other singles. You’re giving your power away to a guy that doesn’t deserve the the gift of who you are.

I don’t care if you think you had great chemistry. Dating isn’t just about chemistry.  It’s not one thing you said or another thing.  You know what it is?  It just didn’t work out.  He made a choice not to pursue it anymore and you need to be okay with that.

You’re a beautiful, incredible, amazing woman and you deserve better. Open up your eyes and go meet another guy. If you’re obsessed with a guy, your eyes aren’t open, and you’ll miss the next great guy who is right around the corner because you’re too busy thinking about a guy that doesn’t deserve your attention.

Love yourself.