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How To Create An Online Dating Strategy That Works

Dave M. — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 17:00:09 +0000

Online dating can be fruitful if you have a plan that actually will garner you success. Here’s what you’ve been doing wrong – and how to do it RIGHT!

Create A Swipe File Of Emails To Test

I can’t stress enough how important this exercise is. First, come up with your own emails, each one different from the others. Aside from the e-mails you wrote yourself, go back to the “girl” proﬁle you set up and see what your competition is doing. When you get to the dating site, you can test every email to ﬁnd out which emails get the best response.

This way, you won’t spend too much time writing hundreds of different kinds of e-mails when you’re there. You can tweak and re-tweak the e-mails for sending to different girls, or to the same girl (using different accounts).

Soon, you will start noticing patterns; not only in the way your emails get received by the girls you send them to, but also in the personality type of girls who reply in a certain way. After this, you will know exactly how to handle an email correspondence based on your tests and personal experience with the women you met.

Why Testing Is Important

Just like when people who own a website test ad spots and promotions to see what works best, you need to test your email correspondences in the same way. Testing allows you to completely weed out what doesn’t work and keep and use what DOES work.

This is a must have plan if you really want to succeed. If you simply continue to send out emails that you don’t know are successful or not, it’s going to be hit or miss. By testing and eliminating the emails that don’t work, you’re going to be hitting a lot more often.

Choose A Dating Site That Attracts The Women You Want To Meet

Every online dating site has a certain “ambiance,” not unlike a new bar you’re visiting. Some dating sites have communities or chat rooms that give off a different vibe from the rest. What you need to remember is that not all dating sites will ﬁt your goal.

If you’re after a quick hook up and you read on the site that they’re in the business of making sure only serious-minded individuals (those who want to get hitched legally ASAP), consider yourself warned. On the other hand, if you’re looking for something deeper than a one night stand, feel out the site for a few days (or during the trial period) and observe how the women there build their proﬁles.

If you have an idea how to play the dating game on a matchmaking website, you will have a clearer vision of how you can tweak your testing plan.

So, are you ready? If you are, grab your ﬁshing rod and sign up for a dating site now!

How To Stay OUT Of The Friend Zone!

Chase Christopher — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 23:00:29 +0000

Dating tips are essential if you want to keep yourself away from a woman’s friend zone. THIS is what you need to know if you want to date her, not be her buddy!

The friend zone is not a place that you ever want to find yourself when you are interested in a woman. This aspect of dating can easily change you from a potential date to a person that gets the occasional hello.

Avoiding the dreaded friend zone is essential to keeping the spark alive in your budding relationships. If a lady only wants to be your acquaintance, then you need to cut her loose. However, there are ways that you can keep yourself from falling into this familiar path in the future. Here are some dating tips to help you stay out of the hated friend zone in the future.

Accept The Fact That She Is Not Interested

There are women out there that will never be interested in pursuing a relationship with you. Accept the fact that she is not interested. While this is not something that any guy wants to do, it’s a one of the best dating tips out there for finding a woman that is interested in having a relationship with you.

If you are clinging to a woman who has put you in a friend zone, you are wasting your time trying to woo her back. This is one aspect of life where being a quitter actually has its advantages. Nip it in the bud before you start begging and pleading for another chance.

Work On Yourself

Do you work out? Do you eat healthy? One of the best ways to gain confidence is to improve yourself before you try to date somebody. If you meet a lady that you like and you really want to impress her, give yourself a couple of weeks to improve various aspects of your life before you pursue her.

Two weeks can do a lot to somebody’s physique and eating healthier can give you the energy that you want throughout the day. Having more energy will show through your personality and the way that you carry yourself. Feeling good about yourself is an attractive quality for women, so act accordingly.

Meet New People

Getting stuck in a friend zone can occur when somebody knows you all too well. If you have been chummy with a lady for a long time, she might not think of you as a potential date. There is a reason that a staple of the most common dating tips is to meet new people. Meeting new people is exciting and allows you to play off of your own mystique.

Going out and meeting newer women will get you out of the friend zone and put into the hot seat of being a potential long term relationship. If you know the woman you like really well, this could also make her very jealous. While you should not do this with mal-intent, it is an effective means of getting her to think about you as a date instead of a “bud.”

Learn To Flirt

Some guys think that flirting is something that you’re born with, while others think that it can be learned through certain dating tips. The friend zone is dependent on being able to flirt. Teasing her a little bit about things that don’t matter is a great way to flirt with her.

Don’t tell her that her eyes are too far apart, but picking up on something little could get her laughing. Start small and work your way up to making more sexualized comments. Once you have achieved this properly, she should be looking at you in a whole new light. Be bold with her and you will never end up as an acquaintance again.

Slight Touches

Slight touches can be a great way to emphasize that you are not looking for a platonic relationship. Touching her arm as you laugh with her or putting your hand on the small of her back as she goes through a door are some of the best ways to show that you are sexually interested.

If she does not respond to these methods or responds negatively, back off immediately. The last thing that you want to do is make her uncomfortable. If she touches you back then you’re in the clear. Women do not touch guys that they don’t want to date.

Being in the friend zone can be one of the most frustrating aspects of dating. Getting out of it is tough and some methods work better than others. Turning yourself from a platonic relationship into a date is not always easy, but it is possible in most situations. Follow these guidelines and you should start to see a vast improvement of her perception of you.

Do You Suffer From The “Jerk” Paradox?

Bobby Bradshaw — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 17:00:51 +0000

Dating tips don’t often tell you what to do with the woman you’re really into is dating a cocky guy. She’d be better of with you, but just what do you do?

What Is The “Jerk Paradox?”

Have you ever known a hot girl – maybe you had a crush on her – but she was dating a guy who was a complete ass?

Maybe you felt like she’d be better off you – you would have treated her like a queen – but she stuck with the mean guy no matter what he did to her?

I think we’ve all seen this happen – a lot.

We’ve all seen a beautiful girl who is CRAZY over a man jerk who don’t pay her much attention.

Heck, I’ve even seen beautiful girls who could have their choice of great guys stick with dudes who were downright ABUSIVE! I used to say, “why isn’t that girl with a fella like me? Or ANY other man for that matter?”

It just didn’t make sense.

But then finally, I realized what was going on.

Why Mean Men Get The Girls While Nice Ones Finish Last

Have you heard the famous Chris Rock comedy bit about guys “offering d*ck”?

It’s REALLY funny. Basically what Chris points out is that every woman in the world, since she was 13 years old, has had pretty much man she’s ever met offering her sex!

He goes on to say how every time a guy talks to a girl, he is really just trying to get into her pants.

“Can I get that for ya” translates into “How ’bout some d*ck?”

“Can I help you with that?” translates into “Can I help you with some d*ck?”

Too funny! And let me tell you, this is truer than all the dating tips in the world!

Every woman you know – especially if she’s attractive – has men THROWING THEMSELVES at her 10 times a day!

So if you approach a woman in the WRONG WAY – which is any way that DOESN’T make her work for it – she automatically throws you in the same category as every other wimp she has met, and she automatically forgets about dating you.

Why Cocky Men Never Have This Problem

The thing about guys who are mean is that they NATURALLY approach, talk to, and deal with women in a way that is TOTALLY DIFFERENT than the dozens of other guys trying to get into her pants.

It’s very subtle. You actually might not even see the difference unless it was pointed out to you, but the RESULT is very different.

It’s different because it sparks a woman’s curiosity, then creates a subtle challenge that makes her feel like she has to WORK for his attention, not the other way around.

This type of challenge is very addicting to a woman. Women LOVE games and solving puzzles – it’s the reason they read all of those mystery novels – so when they meet a guy who is a challenge they just cant get enough of him.

How To Get These Same Smoking Hot Women - Without Being An Ass!

If you can make a woman feel like she has to WORK FOR IT, it gets her chasing you. She starts to see YOU as the “catch” and gets very excited about the possibility of being with you.

It’s this simple little thing that separates the guys who get the 10′s from the guys who don’t.

It NOTHING to do with being full of yourself and being mean to women. And EVERYTHING to do with being a CHALLENGE.

10 “Power Tactics” For Scoring Strippers

Dean Cortez — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:00:46 +0000

A stripper is the kind of girl that is unattainable, right? Wrong! Check out these ten excellent tips that will help you (yes, YOU) get laid by a stripper!

Experienced guys don’t view strip clubs through the eyes of the average chump customer. They see target-rich environments filled with sexy, available women. They’re also a great place to hone your skills and become comfortable flirting with 9’s and 10’s in other settings.

Sure, the girls are looking to get your money. It’s their job. This is why you’ve got to flip the script, cause them to stop perceiving you as a customer, and make them play YOUR game instead of playing theirs.

Put the these great tactics to work, and you can build connections, collect phone numbers, and set up dates just as you would at a bar.

1. Have A Bulletproof Mindset

Know you’re way more interesting and confident than 99% of the customers who come to this place. A stripper will spend most of their shift having tedious conversations with lame, unattractive men. Once you’ve demonstrated otherwise, she’ll be pleasantly surprised to meet you.

2. Have Confidence!

When you enter the club, have confidence and walk around with your head held high, like you own the place. Never lurk or mill around as if you’re unsure of where to sit. Find a seat and settle in and relax!

3. Make Her Sit BESIDE You

When a hot stripper approaches you, don’t let her sit on your lap. Make her sit beside you. (“Whoa, easy there. Have a seat next to me until we get to know each other a little better.”)

Also, don’t agree if she immediately offers a striptease. Instead, engage her in conversation and control the flow.

4. Maintain Eye Contact

Keep your eyes off of her body and maintain eye contact. Never comment on how good she looks; if anything, call her “cute.” (“Wow. Not only are you the cutest girl here, but you can actually hold an intelligent conversation.”)

5. Break Out Of Her Routine

Dancers, like salesmen, have canned routines that they use to make customers feel comfortable and ready to spend money. When she asks you your name, or where you’re from, ignore it. Go into your OWN routine.

6. Be Respectful Of Her Profession

Never refer to it as “stripping”; the term to use for her is “dancer.” Say (or imply) that you’ve dated dancers before and demonstrate familiarity with her profession. “It’s too bad I swore off dating dancers, because I can tell you and I would get along. I get the sense there’s a lot more to you than meets the eye.”

7. Befriend The Staff

Bouncers, coat check, bus boys, DJ’s, managers, owner, etc. When you visit, staff members should know and greet you. This gives you high social value in the eyes of the dancers; you’re not a typical customer.

Befriending a male staff member is easy: say, “Dude, you’re the envy of every guy—hanging out in a club full of beautiful, half-naked women and getting paid for it. You make me want to consider a career change. By the way, my name’s ______.”

(Sometimes I’ll buy a bottle of water or a Red Bull, and bring it outside and hand it to a doorman. I’ll say, “hey man, I figured you could use a drink out here. I’m not getting good cell phone reception inside, I need to check my messages.” I’ll check my messages real quick, then introduce myself to the doorman—who is always very appreciative of the drink—and get him on my side.)

8. Don’t Forget She’s There To Make Money

Go on slow nights (i.e. a weeknight) when there aren’t a lot of customers vying for her attention. After you’ve been chatting for a little while, it’s okay to buy a dance from her—but a minute or two into the song, tell her she can sit back down, and resume the conversation. (Again, always behave like a non-customer.)

9. Use Good Conversation Lines

During the conversation, apply the same techniques you would use on women in a bar. Ask her questions that prompt her to reveal quirky things about herself. Use hypotheticals, i.e., “If you could teleport right now to anywhere in the world, where would you go?”

Here’s another good one: “Tell me something about yourself that the customers in here would never suspect.”

10. Don’t Expect To Go Home With Her Right Away

It might take a couple of visits for you to “close” the dancer you like (getting her number, or meeting her after her shift). If you’re not buying dances and she has to go, encourage her to go make money. (“I’ve got some business to go handle, and I can see there a lot of lonely guys in here who’d love to pay for your company. I need to bounce, it was awesome to meet you.”)

Make your exit and return in the near future to continue building your connection with her. If after several chat sessions she’ll still giving you the “run around” and has excuses why she can’t hang out with you outside of the club, or she won’t even give up her phone number, be a man about it. Tell her, no problem, you understand, and the next time you return to the strip club you should select another girl to mack on.

If your original target gives you dirty looks while you’re macking on her co-worker, don’t even let it faze you. She missed her chance to get on board your train and take the ride of her life.

10 Really Unique Valentine’s Day Date Ideas

Kaylen Jackson — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:00:27 +0000

Valentine’s Day is traditionally a “date night” for most couples, but don’t do something cliche this year. Get creative and do something really fun and exciting that will make your partner feel super special! Forget about dinner and a movie – check out these brand new Valentine’s Day date ideas!

1. Surprise Valentine’s Day Dinner At Home

The idea itself has been done before, but this is where you have to use your imagination to take it to a whole new level. Don’t have cash? Grab McDonald’s – and a few candles from the dollar store. Have a romantic dinner by candlelight! If you cook something yourself, why not use red and pink food coloring to make it a Valentine’s Day delight? Seriously. Just use your brain!

2. Charity Work

This is another excellent idea if you don’t have a lot of cash this year to blow on romantic dinners and dates. Take some time out of your day to deliver inexpensive Valentines to the elderly at a nursing home, or the cancer ward of the hospital. Even better if you live near a large hospital like St. Jude’s that has a children’s wing. Wherever you choose to go, spend the day with your honey making the lives of others just a little brighter!

3. Painting Together

Grab some inexpensive painting supplies from your local hobby store and set out to paint pictures for each other. If you’re inept at drawing, try abstract painting. Or, watch a few Bob Ross episodes before you get going. It’s actually not too difficult to paint those happy little trees, after all! Have a blast painting with each other and present your gifts to each other at the end of the day.

4. Totally Decked Out Romantic Space

Surprise your girl (this one doesn’t work too well for guys, sorry!) with a totally decked out romantic space. this can be the bathroom if you want to give her a romantic bubble bath and an erotic massage, or it can be the bedroom if you’re planning a night of hot passion. Red sheets and a satiny comforter? Yes. So many balloons you can no longer see the ceiling or floor. Yes. Champagne, chocolate covered strawberries and roses by the bed? Yes!

5. Picnic And Dancing In A Field

If the weather is nice on Valentine’s Day, you can pack up a picnic and head out to an empty field. Once you finish the meal, you can open the doors and windows of the car and play music. Have fun dancing and rolling around in the grass with each other! If you’re really secluded, you might even want to have sex right there in the middle of nowhere!

6. Candlemaking

This is definitely a unique idea that really isn’t done often enough – probably because the thought of candlemaking with a girl makes any man’s insides squirm. But in all honesty, candlemaking is actually a really cool date. If you have somewhere in your town that has candlemaking classes, this is an excellent choice. If not, head over to your local craft store, pick up the supplies and do it at home. It’s actually really fun, your girl will love it, and the candles actually end up being pretty good if you use quality supplies.

7. Picnic With A Twist

A lot of couples don’t have picnics because who wants sandwiches? It’s not like that’s a super exciting cuisine, anyways. But head out anyways and have a picnic with a twist. Have a pizza or Chinese food delivered to wherever you’re at! This is easiest at a public place you know is in their delivery area, like a park with tables. It’s still pretty inexpensive as meals go, and it will be way more fun than just ordering a pizza at home.

8. Ice Cream “Social”

Go out for dinner, but plan to have the dessert at home. Grab all the fixin’s for ice cream sundaes (the more decked out the better) and have an “ice cream social” at your house after dinner. If you want to take this to a really special level, head to your local “paint it yourself” pottery store and paint her a sweet ice cream dish. She can take it home as her gift after the “social!”

9. Wii Competition

Lots of girls are competitive. Plan a simple date night by having a Wii championship. Choose whatever game your partner feels like they’re best at, and make sure to win a few times but ultimately end up losing the championship to her (make it believable!) Ideally, you’ll have both set a “winner takes all” wager, and she’ll get either great sex or a lifetime of servitude.

10. At Your Service

If you can’t plan something really special for Valentine’s Day, have a normal night at home. It won’t be a normal night though – you’re going to make her feel like a princess! Wait on her hand and foot, clean up the house, fix her dinner and give her an incredible foot or back massage afterwards. For the entire evening, she is to be treated like royalty. It’s a very special and fun Valentine’s Day date that doesn’t cost a thing!

How To Play Your OWN Game With A Stripper

Dean Cortez — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 17:00:50 +0000

A stripper will work you over to try to get your money – but if you’d rather date her (or just have sex), here’s how to turn the tables and play your own game.

Deflection Tactics

First of all, keep in mind that when a stripper approaches you, she’s asking permission to enter your space. You are the boss, essentially. When she starts going into her “sales routine” to try to get you to buy a striptease, don’t do anything to empower the part of her that is trying to seduce you or sell you. In other words, don’t play along with her game. Make her play yours.

Let her speak first. Then deflect whatever she says and change the subject. Take control of the interaction.

Another “deflection” tactic: Look at her, smile, and say “I don’t want to be rude, honey, but you’ve got something on your nose (rub your nostril). She’ll instantly get self-conscious and wipe her nose.

This is effective for “disarming” her and breaking her out of her sales routine. Tell her to sit down with you, then grab a napkin and gently wipe her nose (which doesn’t actually have anything on it). Now go into leading the conversation.

What To Do When A Stripper You Like Heads Your Way

When a stripper you like approaches you, don’t let her plant herself on your lap. Make her sit beside you. If she tries to sit on your lap, say, “Whoa, I’m not that easy! Have a seat, until we get to know each other a little better.”

If she offers a lap dance right then, you never want to say “yes,” because then you’re framing yourself as a typical chump customer.

But you don’t want to say “no” either, because then she’ll feel rejected—or she’ll figure you’re a cheapskate who wants to try to hit on her without having to open your wallet.

Do NOT offer to buy her a drink at this time. (Remember, you’re going to make her feel that she earned it.) You want her to sit next to you so that you can engage her in conversation and control the flow.

Deflect, and get her to sit down next to you. I might say, “Have a seat, I’m sure your feet are killing you in those heels. The craziest thing just happened, you’ve got to hear this….”

(A good “story” to tell: say that two of the dancers just got into a catfight outside the bathroom! Screaming, hair-pulling, hissing…it was wild!)

How To Take Control Of The Conversation

Once she’s sitting next to you, you’ve got to take control of the conversation, because otherwise she’ll go into her “routine.” Strippers, like computers, operate according to a program. She basically uses this same flirting routine, or program, with every customer.

If you don’t control the conversation, she’ll start asking you the standard questions (“So how are you feeling tonight,” “What’s your name,” “Is this your first time here,” etc.), in an attempt to build a connection with you and butter you up for a dance.

NOTE: The length of time she waits before asking me for a dance is an indicator of how skilled and experienced she is at her job. Essentially, strippers are saleswomen. The product they’re selling is themselves.

The real pros won’t hit you up for a dance too soon, and they won’t directly ask you “Wanna dance?” They’re craftier about it. They’ll take some time to butter you up and flirt with you. Once she has created the sense that there is a “connection” between the two of you, that’s when the skilled stripper will close the deal and get you to buy a dance. She might say, “Do you mind if I dance for you?” or, “I love this song! Can I dance for you?”

Put it this way – when you walk onto a car lot, no good salesman is going to walk straight up to you and try to sell you an expensive vehicle. He’s going to spend some time talking to you and feeling you out. He won’t go for the “close” until he knows he’s got you very interested in a particular vehicle.

Your goal is to disrupt her from her routine before she has a chance to go into it. “Short circuit” her program, and you’ll force her to engage in a real conversation. The most effective way to do this is to start talking about a completely unrelated subject. Remember, you’re making her step into your world, instead of taking the bait and stepping into hers.

Easy Tips For Building Confidence

Romy Morgan — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 17:00:57 +0000

Dating tips are all about how to improve your game, and the easiest way to do it is to get confidence! But just how do you do it? These dating tips will help!

Why Confidence Is So Important

Confidence is one of the most important aspects of dating. Building confidence is not difficult when you know how to use your best assets. Having self-assurance can easily boost your perception in the eyes of others and can have an impact on your work life as well as your dating life.

Creating a persona of poise can turn nerve-racking first dates and approaches into attainable scenarios by giving you the tools needed to be sure that positive outcomes are possible. Here are a few easy techniques for building your confidence.

Change Up Your Wardrobe

When you look good you feel good. Changing your wardrobe is one of the best ways to boost your self-confidence. When you change your wardrobe people will take notice. Your clothes are one of the first things that people notice about you. If you are going on a date in ratty jeans and a shirt that was too tight in the 8th grade, it’s time for an update.

A suggestion that a lot of guys do not take seriously is the consultation of a stylist. Stylists know what women like and they know the trends of the fashion industry. They will also be able to tell you where to shop without breaking the bank.

Let Go Of Past Relationships

Being hurt or humiliated by an ex-girlfriend can shatter any man’s self-image. Let go of past relationships. It doesn’t matter if an ex cheated on you or said hurtful things, you have qualities that a great girl is going to admire. Let go of the past and look forward to the future.

It’s only natural to feel like you’re never going to meet another girl or that you might be alone for the rest of your life. This unreasonable hopelessness is known as “catastrophic thinking” and can render you with the inability to approach women. Let go of your past relationships and think of them as a learning experience. It’s time to move on. Thinking about the future can give you a fresh perspective on your love life.

Get Healthy & In Shape To Feel GOOD About Yourself!

If you already work out then you’re a step ahead of the rest. However, if you are not working out you need to start now. Working out is a great stress reliever and can build your confidence immeasurably. Join a gym or just start running in the afternoons.

When you start to feel like you’re never going to meet anybody or that you’re not good enough for women, working out can make these thoughts fly out of your head instantaneously. Joining a gym is also one of the best ways to start meeting a new clientele of women.

Create A List Of Qualities You Want In A Woman

Creating a list of qualities that you want in a woman will help you weed out bad dates. Just taking any old date is not recommended. Knowing that you have no interest in a girl and that you’re just taking her out to try to make yourself feel better is selfish. When you are picky about whom you go out with you will feel a lot better about yourself.

Desperation is something that a lot of guys feel after recent break ups or being alone for a long time. Clinging to a girl that you know you have no future with is a recipe for disaster. Make a list of all the qualities you want in a woman and then stick to that list. When you find a girl that has most or all of the qualities, you will feel a lot better about your choice.

Laugh!!

Laugh about past missteps with former girlfriends or dates. Laughing can easily lighten the situation and take all of the darkness out of your thinking. Don’t take your dating too seriously. If a girl turns you down, laugh about it. Any girl that turns you down just isn’t right for you. Don’t fall into the cliché of saying “her loss.”

While you might say this to build your confidence, it almost always comes back to haunt your mind. You will start thinking, “Is it really her loss? Or is it mine?” Just laugh the situation off and move on. There are a lot of women out there that you can make happy. Every misstep is a step closer to finding somebody that you can connect with on a deeper level.

Confidence is a vital part of dating. When you do not feel comfortable enough with yourself it will show through your mannerisms. Stick to these suggestions and you will start seeing results in as little as a couple of days.

How To Ask A Girl Out For Valentine’s Day

Kaylen Jackson — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 15:04:42 +0000

Valentine’s Day sucks if you’re single. You definitely don’t want to be alone, hanging out at your house like you normally do every other day, while everyone else goes out and has fun with their significant other (or just an “other”) This year, commit to going out! Ask out the woman you’ve had your eye on for Valentine’s Day and you won’t be alone! Here’s how to do it.

Leave Roses And A Note In Her Car

Grab a bouquet of roses and write a simple note with your phone number on it. Plainly state, “I would love to take you out for Valentine’s Day. Give me a call!” Don’t be too lovey dovey or pushy in your note, because the flowers add enough intensity to this scenario – too much and you’ll scare her off.

Also, meeting her at her car, say when she gets off work, with flowers and asking her out in person is also very sweet and acceptable. If you don’t want to get rejected in person and you think there’s a possibility of that, the note works well for that.

Send Flowers To Her Work

Flowers are an excellent way to get a lady to warm up to you, as long as they’re not too extravagant and obviously expensive. Bigger is not better here – however, taking note of her personal style and taste and selecting flowers that you genuinely believe she’ll like is. Take some time to select a nice bouquet with her favorite flowers and colors and have it delivered to her workplace.

You can put “from your secret admirer” if you like (this is almost always exciting for a woman, because in all honesty, it rarely ever happens for real) but make sure to include your phone number so she can get back to you. The great thing about sending it to work is that you’ll be making certain that all her work friends (and frienemies) see it. This will make her feel intensely special, and they’ll also put some good natured pressure on her to accept your offer.

Text Her To Meet You Somewhere Romantic

If you already have her phone number, this is an excellent way to meet her to ask her out in person. Send her a text asking her to meet you somewhere romantic – but not too romantic if you think it might scare her off. Meet at the park under your favorite tree, by a lake or river, or anywhere else nature can help you out a little.

If your local grocery store has a large Valentine’s Day section – may of them inflate balloons and let them float up to the ceiling, creating an entire section of surreal pink and red floating ribbon – you can meet there (this really only works if the atmosphere is super appealing).

In A Scavenger Hunt

Send your potential date on a scavenger hunt, with lots of little notes that lead either to another note with a big reveal or you, holding flowers. Make sure the “gold at the end of the rainbow” is fun and exciting enough to have made it worth the hunt. Just use your creativity for this one!

Use the notes to write fun clues as to where to find the next clues. With each note, include something small, like a rose petal (to indicate that the big reveal might include roses) or candy. When she reaches the reveal, either use a note to ask her out for Valentine’s Day, or do it in person. Again, don’t put too much pressure on her to respond. Have a card in your pocket with your phone number on it that you can pull out and say, “Think about it and call me if you’re interested” if she chokes.

Remember, if she seems uncomfortable or reluctant at all, you want to use the card. You may still get turned down, but there’s a good chance she was just nervous or didn’t know what to say or do when put on the spot like that. If you slip her your number and allow her some time to calm down and think about what happened, you give her a reprieve.

If you don’t, she is much more likely to turn you down because she felt uncomfortable. If you do, you’ll increase your chances of her calling you and letting you know that she really loved what you did, but was really nervous and shy while it was happening.

4 Hot Dating Tips For The Modern Age

Chase Christopher — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:00:18 +0000

Dating tips are a dime a dozen from family, friends and loved ones. The problem with this is that a lot of people haven’t been in the dating world for the last 15-20 years. If you are tired of getting the same advice from Aunt Judy about how to land a girlfriend, you need to be in the know with how the dating landscape has changed over the last couple of years.

Taking different aspects into account can easily garner you a great date with minimal effort. Here are a few tips to help you through the digital age of women’s liberation.

1. Use Facebook

Facebook is the standard for proving that you’re a great guy. One of the best dating tips out there is to get your Facebook account updated right now. Facebook is going to be a way for you to show off pictures of your family and friends so the girl knows that you’re not a creep. When you meet a girl and get her phone number, she will probably ask for your last name. This is so she can look up your profile and make sure that you’re not a hermit. There are even specific dating methods that focus on Facebook for picking up girls.

The Facebook Method talks about setting up your profile like a dating profile so if you meet a girl she will see your best attributes when she’s checking up on you. Update your Facebook account with recent pictures and remove any pictures of your ex-girlfriends. If you have pictures of yourself with other girls, make sure that you put a caption showing that she’s a friend.

2. Pay The Small Bill

Let’s say that you meet a girl and ask her out for a drink. While dating tips of the past tell guys that they should pay the entire bill, this is not recommended. Pay for a small bill and let her pay for herself if you are getting dinner. If you are meeting a girl for a drink, pay for the drink. A drink will cost you anywhere from $4-$9 dollars. Having a $12 tab collectively is not going to leave you penniless.

If you are meeting her for dinner and she insists on paying for herself, let her. As cold as it may seem, she might not want a second date, so there is not reason that you should be shelling out when she is insisting on paying for herself anyways. Women have good jobs, most of which are going to be better than your own, so let her pay. Some men think this is a power play when in reality she just wants to pull her own weight.

3. Be Chivalrous In Other Ways

Traditional dating tips focus on chivalry as a staple of all dating. Even though we live in an age of women’s liberation, they still want to feel like a lady when you take them out. Holding doors, dressing appropriately and pulling her chair out for her are seen as chivalrous acts. Make sure that you are being chivalrous with all dates. Even if you’re not interested in going on a second date, she might have some single friends. In a lot of ways, dating can be comparable to business.

Never burn a bridge just because you don’t see a future with her. Keep in touch and she might tell her friends that you’re a great guy, but there just wasn’t any chemistry. You never know. She might try to set you up based on how well you treat her throughout the date.

4. Be Actionable

Letting a girl down easy by telling her you’re going to call might seem like one the best dating tips, but it’s not recommended. If you tell a girl that you’re going to call her again, call her again. Even if you aren’t sure if there’s chemistry, call her anyway. More than likely, she will pick up on whether or not you’re interested. You don’t want to miss out on a potential relationship just because you never called her back. Dates don’t always go the way that we want.

Having a bad day can easily reflect in a first or second date. Being on the fence isn’t an excuse. Play it out until you are sure that you don’t want to be with her. Telling a girl that you’re going to call when you know that you won’t is not fair to either of you. If you really don’t have any interest in seeing her again, say something like “It was nice meeting you.” This is much easier better than “I’ll call you this week” or “See you never.

How To Smooth Over The Waitress At A Strip Club (And Why You Want To!)

Dean Cortez — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:00:13 +0000

A stripper can be difficult to pick up, but not if you’ve got game. But did you know that smoothing over the waitress can actually get you in with a stripper?

What About The Server?

If the waitress likes you, she’ll talk you up to her stripper friends. They, in turn, will start paying more attention to YOU. This increases your chances of getting to go home with a stripper, or at the very least, you increase your chances of getting to go home with the waitress (who is probably just as hot, but not naked!)

Soon after you sit down, your cocktail server is going to come over to take your drink order. (Remember, the overpriced beverages is how these clubs make money, and you are expected to make a purchase.)

Even if you don’t want anything to drink right now, the correct move is to order something in order to establish rapport (and a little flirting!) with your cocktail waitress. It’s also important for you to order this first drink BEFORE you have a dancer come sit with you.

Yes, You Want A Drink FIRST

Otherwise, the moment a dancer sits with you, the waitress might come over and you’ll feel pressured to buy the dancer a drink as well, before it is appropriate to offer her one.

You’ll want some time to get to know the dancer of your choice before you offer her a drink. It’s the same way a suave guy plays it in a regular bar; you never offer a girl a drink immediately. You wait until you’ve been chatting with her for awhile and can spin it into an “I.O.U.”

The basic idea is that buying a girl a drink should feel like a reward you are giving her, because you’ve been enjoying her company. Never buy her a drink right off the bat because you feel obligated to do so. Don’t feel like you’re supposed to buy her a drink just because she’s sitting next to you and trying to hang out.

You’re going to make her EARN that drink – that is, if you choose to buy it and grant her more of your time. This is the correct mindset.

Ok, More About The Waitress

In a strip club, the way you interact with your cocktail waitress is important on several levels. In most clubs, you’ll have one waitress attending to you for the duration of your visit, and she’ll be stopping by periodically to check whether you need another drink.

Always make this waitress your ally. Give her a friendly smile and introduce yourself by name. Make sure you get her name, and remember it. Then pay her a quick compliment on some aspect of her appearance, something original that she’s not hearing from the other guys. Notice her smile, her hairstyle, or a piece of jewelry she’s wearing.

Chances are this type of compliment will catch her off-guard and bring a smile to her face. If your waitress isn’t attractive, this compliment can really go a long way towards making her your ally, because she rarely gets this type of flattery.

Remember, you want the server as your ally!

Just think about it. The server is working in an environment where she’s surrounded by naked women. When’s the last time a nice guy stopped to take notice of her appearance, and singled out her for praise instead of a stripper? Yeah. There you go.

While you want to know how to keep your spending to a minimum in strip clubs if you frequent them looking to hook up with a stripper, you can’t be cheap with your server. Period.

It isn’t about the size of the tip so much as it’s about the way you present it to her. You can tip just a few dollars and turn it into a special, generous gesture that she is bound to appreciate.

How EXACTLY To Get In Good With The Server

When she brings you your first drink and hands you the change, rifle through the singles, count out four or five dollars, and say “here, keep this Jackie, I’m glad you’re taking care of my service tonight.” A small gesture like this can go a long way.

Later on, when you’re sitting and chatting with the stripper you select, give your waitress another tip in the same fashion: rifle through your cash, give her a few dollars, and tell her “here, this if for you Jackie.” (Always use her name!) Your server will smile and thank you, which will make you look like way more appealing to the stripper you’re sitting with.

It’s not about the size of the tip. It’s all in how you present it. Any jerk can throw a $20 bill on her tray and dismiss her. You, on the other hand, can tip her $3 or $4 and make it feel to her like a friendly, generous gesture because you appreciate the good service.

Remember, if you’re in good with the server, you’re in good with the club and as a result, in good with whichever stripper you want to put your attention on for the evening. It’s win-win all around!

6 Dating Tips For Young Professional Men

Chase Christopher — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 17:00:02 +0000

Dating tips for professional fellas aren’t the same as those that most guys use. If you’re just getting into the working world, check out these dating tips!

If you have recently become a young professional male, you probably need some dating tips to help you transition from college dating. College dating is all about doing things on the cheap. When you’re a young professional male dating is no longer a couple of MGD’s in a field.

You are expected to class things up a little bit. Getting a crash course in dating tips for a young professional male will keep you from looking ridiculous when you ask out a girl that has a decent job. This can also help you look professional when out and about. Here are some dating tips for young professional males.

1. Pay Attention To Your Wardrobe

One of the best dating tips you can get is to make an immediate change to your wardrobe. Your wardrobe is going to be a dead giveaway of either having a good job or being a bum. You don’t have to put on your Sunday’s best when you’re doing yard work, but having nicer clothing will separate you from the rest of the guys vying for her attention. Don’t think that you have to wear Brooks Brothers to look good. Shopping at a retail outlet can easily save you some money on your wardrobe. The hierarchy should be nice shirts, decent pants and really nice shoes.

2. Keep In Mind Your Profession Doesn’t Define You

Congratulations! You made it through college and now you have a job. Yes, your job is important to you, but that doesn’t mean that you have to talk about it all the time. A job is something that can say a lot about you, but it doesn’t define you. When you are first starting out in the job market you probably will not be a VP of marketing.

If you do get an amazing job right out of college then you’re above the rest. But just because you have a good job doesn’t mean that the girl is going to be impressed. Successful guys approach beautiful women all the time. You need to separate yourself from the self-involved guys that always approach women by appealing to them on a real level. Don’t make your job the topic of every conversation.

3. Be Current

As a young professional male, one of the best dating tips to consider is brushing up on your current events. Current events are one of the best ways to easily have conversations with women. When you are in the know about current events, TV shows, movies and other aspects of popular culture and news you show that you’re interested in the world. Women don’t want a guy that is living in his own world. Make it a point to stay current with the various aspects of the news to alleviate any awkward silences during a date.

4. Leave The Frat House Behind

As mentioned before, you’re not in college anymore. You’re a young professional male and it’s time that you act like one. As far as dating tips go, being what you are instead of playing the part is one of the best tips to give. No more blackout drinking, staying out until all hours of the night or living in a pig pen. Ditch all of your old habits and start being a young professional man. This means going to bed at a reasonable hour, abstaining from alcohol regularly and keeping a professional attitude in all aspects of your life.

5. Be Active

It’s all too easy to work a 40-hour week and then just come home to lie around on the couch. Women don’t want a guy that doesn’t have hobbies. Find a couple of activities that you like doing and keep up with them.

Get into a routine of daily trips to the gym or weekly movies with your friends. When you have a hobby it’s much easier to get a potential date involved. This is one of the best dating tips for young guys because it leads to common interests and teaching the girl a new skill. This will also keep you from being clingy and needy.

6. Don’t Be The Bank

You have a great job, but that doesn’t mean that you’re her personal ATM. Paying on the first date is pretty customary. If she insists on paying for herself then let her, but if she lets you pay for her then go ahead and pay for the meal. You’ve got a new job and it’s probably the first time in your life that you have disposable income. Treat her to dinner or drinks and don’t make a big deal out of it. However, the last thing that you want to do is be her bank.

This is one of the many dating tips that are universal to all aspects of the dating world, but especially true for young professionals. Your money is your money. How you choose to spend it is your choice. If you want to make a good impression buy her dinner, but don’t make it an expectation on her part.

You Got A Stripper To Come To Your House – Now What?

Dean Cortez — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 23:00:27 +0000

A stripper is coming to your house – what do you do? Follow these simple tips to make sure your first hook up with a stripper is super hot!

Being a savvy strip club “dominator” does not begin once you start talking to a stripper. It begins long before that point. Just as you would prepare yourself for an evening out at the bars, where you plan on picking up regular chicks, you need to lay the proper groundwork before you head out to mack on dancers.

Make sure your home is clean and prepped for female company. You must always maintain the mindset that you WILL be bringing home a woman at the end of the night.

A lot of guys wind up meeting a chick they could potentially bring home, but they don’t attempt it because they’re worried in the back of their mind that their place isn’t ready for female company—whether it’s because their place is a mess, or their roommate might be home and will spoil the mood.

Make Sure Your House Is Always Ready!

Every time you go out to meet women (including strippers) you must be confident that your home is ready to host company. Make whatever preparations are necessary. This means always making sure your bathroom is spotless. A female guest in your home will always ask to use your bathroom, and if it’s grimy or foul-smelling, it reflects very badly on you and your personal hygiene.

(A lot of women come through my home, and in the past, the mood got killed more than once by my female guest finding another woman’s hair in my shower drain. Keep an eye out for that, too; a woman with long black hair is always going to leave traces of it behind, whether it’s in the shower, the bathroom sink, or on your bed sheets!)

Have Drinks Available

Also, make sure you to have at least two bottles of wine at your place. I recommend a bottle of Cabernet (a red wine) and a bottle of Pinot Grigio (a white). Any woman who drinks alcohol will enjoy a glass of wine (or several), and it sets a romantic vibe.

Plus, being able to offer her a glass of really good wine back at your place is a reason for you to bring her home later. (She won’t be able to tell the difference between “really good wine” and the bottle you picked up at the supermarket for $10. If you tell her it’s good, she will believe you.)

Personalize Your Space!

You also want to make sure that your living room reflects your interests and your personality. I talk about how to fully “deck out” your crib in the Mack Tactics book, but basically, you want to have some books laying out on your living room table that can generate conversation and show her stuff that you’re interested in.

I like t buy coffee-table sized books about subjects like photography, architecture, fashion, exotic cities, and classic rock n’ roll.

As far as the pictures on your walls, here are some ideas:

You during one of your travels—in an interesting destination that you can tell her about
You engaging in a physical activity (hiking, mountain biking, snowboarding, playing a sport, etc)
You surrounded by friends, all of you having a good time.

How To Meet Your Dream Girl

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 14:00:18 +0000

Dating tips can help you to find the woman you’ve been looking for all this time. Here’s what you need to know if you want to find Mrs. Right!

Dream girl. Those are the words on every guys lips (or other parts). There are as many different definitions of what a dream girl is as there are stars in the sky. We all want one, even though we all define it differently. You’ll need a few dating tips to make the search easier, more fun and more importantly to prevent burnout and frustration.

Becoming A Guy Who Gets The Girl

What’s the ultimate dating tip weapon for guys out there? It’s simple, not easy. If you want to get the dream girl, you have to become a dream guy. You need to be the guy girls want to be with. Think about it. If you want a girl who is a “ten” that’s fine. But why should she choose you? She can have anyone or anything she wants. Men and women are literally throwing themselves at this woman on a daily basis (sometimes more than once a day). If you want a woman who can stop traffic with her looks, you’d better be the guy who can stop traffic.

Be confident and funny. You may have heard this before, but we will say it again: life is short (if you do it right), so have fun. Enjoy your own life or she won’t. Yes, it’s true: sports cars don’t hurt, but you don’t need them. A girl who’s with you because of your money or car is someone you don’t want. That means you want a girl who will love you for you, because if a golddigger finds someone with more money or a better car, she’ll be off like a prom dress. So make your dream girl an offer she can’t refuse. Make your world amazing and fun and exciting. She won’t want to be with anyone else, even if they do have more money or a better car.

Have A Fun, Radiant Personality

How do you create that? Well, it’s funny you should ask. You should have a have radiant personality. So many get caught up or hung up on what to say or do. They can’t think of anything so they freeze or miss opportunities. Here’s the thing: it doesn’t matter. Nobody cares what you say or do. People remember how you make them feel. It may be hard to believe, but it’s really true. It doesn’t matter what you say or do.

Make sure to have fun. Everywhere. Women are different creatures than men. Girls are addicted to guys who make them feel good. So above all, make sure to have fun at all times, whenever possible. Because when you do, you’ll find yourself meeting women everywhere, and it will be effortless. Why? Because beautiful women are everywhere and all the world is your oyster. You don’t have to go to bars or any other specific place to meet women, though we’re not saying you can’t go there. When you’re having fun everywhere, you’ll be attracting women anywhere.

Have A Sense Of Humor

Don’t take anything too seriously. You know what? Meeting your dream girl isn’t driving the space shuttle. And if you are piloting the shuttle? That’s odd. Shouldn’t you be paying attention to what you’re doing? How are you accessing the internet in the space shuttle? Those computers are like thirty years old! Why are you even piloting it? It’s been decommissioned!

Anyway, the point is this isn’t that dating is big a deal. Yes, dating tips are important to finding and keeping your dream girl, but lighten up. It’s not that serious. Make a game of it or if you don’t it’s going to feel like work. Then you’ll be forcing it and it will get even worse. Get rid of anyone or anything that doesn’t serve you. Take the pressure off yourself. Eliminate excuses and take action.

That alone will set you apart. Think about it. How many people who are overweight and say they’re going to lose weight actually do it? There you go. IF you can lose the weight metaphorically speaking, you will set yourself apart. Just do something. Get in the game grasshopper!

5 Strip Club Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make

Dean Cortez — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 23:00:07 +0000

The strip club is a great place to pick up…well, strippers! But if you don’t play it right, you won’t be taking anyone home. Don’t do THIS at a strip club!

1. Dressing Like A Chump

When it comes to budgeting money on the stuff that entertains them, most guys have their priorities all backwards. Nothing on earth is more entertaining than having sex with beautiful women (in my opinion, at least) and yet they aren’t willing to invest money in themselves in order to achieve this goal.

I know guys who haven’t changed their style since high school or college. They’re wearing the same Levi’s jeans, the same type of sneakers, and the same tee-shirts they’ve worn for years. They complain about their lack of sex, but when I tell them they need to go spend some money to update their wardrobe, they bitch and moan about how they “can’t afford it right now.”

Yet these same guys are blowing hundreds of dollars a month on porn, video games, Starbucks coffee, going out and buying drinks for chicks who aren’t sleeping with them, and so on.

If you’re serious about attracting strippers (and hot women in general), then you need to do what is necessary to make sure your “look” is on point. Clothes are essential for your image—and it does wonders for your confidence when you go out wearing new clothes and feeling sharp.

2. Being Phased By Her Beauty

A lot of newbies lose their cool with strippers because they’re not used to “gaming” chicks who are this hot and sexual. The best cure for this is experience: once you’ve banged a few strippers and seen them in the morning, hungover and without makeup, you’ll realize they’re only human. Until then, follow these guidelines:

Never compliment a hot chick on her beauty. Instead, downplay her looks (the word “cute” is one way to do this) and use it to start a conversation about her other qualities—the ones that her customers are never going to appreciate because they’re too busy staring at her tits and ass.

Hot women are tired of guys only judging them on their looks and never noticing their other good qualities. This is especially true with strippers.

You’ll never get anywhere complimenting a girl on her looks when she already knows she’s beautiful. But when you compliment her on her sense of humor, or her knowledge, or the fact that she’s ambitious – now you’re connecting with her on a deeper level.

3. Blowing Your Body Language

This is another mistake guys make in strip clubs. When I’m trying to have sex with dancers I force myself to be aware of everything that my body is doing. My goal is to communicate comfort and confidence at all times. Also be aware of your tone of voice, and how you speak.

A deep voice indicates masculinity—so if you’ve got a naturally high-pitched voice, bring it down a couple of notches. And speak a bit slower than you normally do. Men who are important are not in a hurry to blurt out what’s on their mind. People listen to them and wait for them to speak, because what they say matters.

4. Insulting Her Profession

Some guys make the mistake of trying to “neg” strippers by knocking their profession, as if this conveys confidence or coolness. Well, this is probably the fastest way to get blown off without mentioning that you’ve got a rash on your penis. Don’t knock her job. Refer to her respectfully as a dancer, not a stripper. Refer to the venue as a “gentleman’s club” (sounds classy, doesn’t it?) Like I said before, the goal is to show her that you know how this game works—and that you respect her hustle when she’s dealing with customers. This doesn’t apply to you.

5. Playing Along With Her Routine

Dancers have routines, just as PUA’s (Pick Up Artists) have pick up lines they use on women. The difference is, the end goal of a dancer’s routine isn’t to have sex with you; it’s to get your money. You need to break her out of this mode and get her into regular chat mode.

One of the keys to doing this is avoiding answering her questions (“What’s your name?” “where are you from?” etc). These questions are part of her sales routine—designed to fool you into thinking she’s interested in you, not your money. The typical customer will answer these questions in an attempt to impress the girl, or to try find things he has in common with her.

How To Flirt With A Shy Guy

Romy Morgan — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 17:00:34 +0000

Flirting isn’t always easy, especially if the guy you’re trying to talk to is an introvert. Here’s how to flirt with a guy who isn’t as outspoken as the rest.

Flirting with a shy guy can be intimidating, but shy guys normally make the best boyfriends. Shy guys are usually caring, quiet, intelligent and funny. If you have your eye on a shy guy and you want to bring him out of his shell, there are a few things that you can do to accomplish the task at hand. Shy guys can be intimidating because you will need to guide the conversation. Once they feel comfortable with you they will open up and you can see the type of person they really are. Here is a short guide on how to flirt with shy guys.

Approach Him

Shy guys are not going to approach you. He might try to start a conversation if you have mutual friends, but in general you are going to have to approach him. If you’re not comfortable with approaching guys then you need to be the one that comes out of your comfort zone. Shy guys are usually shy for a reason, so don’t be too aggressive when you approach him. Start off with an easy conversation to break the ice.

Make Him Feel Comfortable

Chances are that the shy guy is not going to be comfortable with you flirting with him at first. Make sure that you aren’t making him uncomfortable with aggressive tactics. Ask him simple questions and see how well he reciprocates. If he’s not asking you questions about your life or what you do then he might not be interested. In most situations a shy guy can spring to life when a girl approaches him, but this isn’t always the case. Go slowly with him, but make sure that he knows you’re interested.

Touching

Touching him is a good way to show interest, but don’t fall all over him. Shy guys love a girl that will touch his shoulder or arm while she’s flirting. Make the touches subtle. Brush against him or touch his arm when you laugh at a joke. Even the subtlest touches will not go unnoticed. Wait for him to touch you back. Usually touching begins with the guy. He will put his hand on your back or touch your arm lightly. However, with a shy guy, you probably need to make the first move when it comes to physicality.

Give Compliments

Compliments are essential for flirting with a shy guy. Compliments work well because they are a quick boost of confidence. Shy guys aren’t looking for girls that are self-involved so when you compliment them you show that you are interested in them instead of yourself. Complimenting their job, appearance or taste in music is easy for breaking the ice and bringing him out of his shell.

Don’t Ask For A Date

Shy guys like women who are upfront, but don’t ask him for a date. Wait until he asks you or make an excuse to give him your phone number. Shy guys are notorious for letting great girls slip through their fingers, so you want to put the ball in his court without making it seem like you are. Use mutual interests as a way to get his phone number or as a way to give him your number. For instance, if you’re both into basketball, say something like “Let me give you my number so we can watch the game together this weekend.” Watching a basketball game together is not a date, but it is a way to get together.

Don’t Play Games

As stated before, shy guys are usually shy for a reason. Whether the reason is a tough childhood or being hurt in the past, shy guys are quick to drop a girl that plays a lot of games. If you are a game player, you need to put all of your nuttiness on hold. Not responding to phone calls in a timely manner or lying to him are off limits. If you really want to flirt with a shy guy and have it go somewhere, don’t play games with him. If he picks up on the fact that you are playing games with him he will probably never call you again.

Learning how to flirt with a shy guy is not difficult, but it does take a different approach than with other guys. Shy guys can be a lot of fun once they feel comfortable enough with you. Approaching shy guys and using the best tactics to flirt with them is vital to establishing a healthy relationship they feel comfortable in. Don’t be too aggressive and you should see an improvement in your flirting abilities with shy guys.

4 Types Of Strippers (You MUST Know This If You Want To Date One!)

Dean Cortez — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 17:00:16 +0000

A stripper will usually fall into one of four categories. Here’s how knowing them will help you snag a date with a super hot stripper!

In my hundreds of trips to strip clubs around the world, I’ve learned that the girls basically fall under one of four categories. Knowing these will help you to grab a date with a stripper (or just get laid by one), so pay attention!

1. The Pros

These chicks have got at least two years of experience under their G-strings. They’re hot, polished, and are experts at selling their sexuality. They smell amazing and almost never have real breasts.

Onstage, they work the pole like an Olympic athlete— they’ve got the splits, acrobatic routines, etc. down cold. They’re hyper-focused on making fast cash, which means they don’t get high or drunk on the job, and they’ll ditch a customer the moment he stops spending.

Be aware, the Pros have heard it all. If they work in a big market like Vegas, they’ve been propositioned by millionaires, movie stars and professional athletes (and they’ve had sex with more than a few). If they work in a club in a small town, they’ve had some of the wealthiest guys in the area try to get in their pants. And they’ve probably given it up—because pros are all about the cash.

You can bang them—but you need to take an original, tactical approach. The second you do anything that paints you as a customer, she’ll only view you as source of cash—and as soon as you stop spending, she’s moving on to the next guy.

Pros will rock your world in bed and give you incredible orgasms, but don’t get emotionally involved with them. You’re not going to change them. (In other words, don’t try to be “Captain Save-A-Ho.”) No matter what they tell you about wanting to go back to school or finding a different job, and say how much they hate stripping, they are addicted to the cash and the lifestyle and are going to keep riding this gravy train as long as they can.

When you’re hanging out with a Pro, expect guys to be calling and texting her cell phone constantly. She’ll tell you it’s “just a friend,” but this is stripper speak for, “I bang him once in a while, because he covers my car payments and buys me expensive stuff.”

2. The Semi-Pros

The Semi-Pros can be just as hot as the Pros, but they haven’t been working as long (less than a year). They haven’t mastered the game yet. They’re still susceptible to the lies some guys throw their way (i.e. the cheese balls who claim they’re movie producers or modeling scouts, and want to “make her a star.”)

These girls haven’t accepted themselves as hard-core, full-time strippers yet, and will tell you about their other plans, the reason they’re saving up their money, etc. In some cases, it’s actually true.

But, many of these girls get addicted to the stripper lifestyle and are unable to walk away from the easy cash. They wind up becoming “Pros”—scrapping their other plans and accepting this as their career for the foreseeable future.

3. The Rookies

You might meet some very hot Rookies in the clubs, especially these days—since the job market sucks and all kinds of girls are taking jobs in the strip clubs to pay their bills. Rookies can be easy targets because they’re still trying to figure out the game. Some really don’t want to be working in the clubs doing stripteases, and are open to meeting a guy who will help them out financially and allow them to quit.

In this lousy job market, some Rookies are women who are straight-up M.I.L.F.s (Mothers I’d Like To F***)—they’re in their 30′s or even 40′s and started working the pole out of financial desperation. With these ladies, you can play on the fact that they’re older than the other girls and are probably a little bit insecure about it.

Other Rookies start stripping at a young age (18-21) and are usually airheads. They flaunt the club rules (showing up late, drunk or stoned), and their stage routines and lap dances look like gymnastic tryouts, cheerleader practices, or some routine they learned from the latest music video.

Real breasts are one sign of a Rookie. She hasn’t been working long enough to pay for silicone airbags, or to meet some customer who buys them for her. The cool thing about Rookies is that they’re not jaded and warped yet by the job. It’s easier to get them talking honestly and openly about themselves, and usually they’re more into hanging out and having drinks than hustling customers. Get her laughing and chatting, buy her a drink or two, and she’ll be in no hurry to get back to the grind.

4. The Skanks

These are the chicks you’d pay to leave you alone. They’re usually hooked on some drug (coke and meth are stripper favorites), and look like they haven’t slept in days. Dark circles under their eyes; ratty-looking, bleached-blond hair; faded tattoos; and twitchy, manic behavior are all signs of the Skank Stripper.

You’ll often find Skanks at the fully nude clubs, where they’re not above doing things onstage that would make a Thai bargirl blush. If you’re going to use drugs as a lure, these girls are good to go—but bang them at your own risk, and do it at a motel. Otherwise, you can expect these train wrecks to show up at your home a few days later, pounding on your front door at 5am because they need to borrow money to get high or bail their boyfriend “Spider” out of jail.

Fatal Online Dating Mistakes That Can Cost You A Date

Romy Morgan — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 23:00:51 +0000

Online dating seems simple enough. You put a profile up, a few guys check it out and then you set up a meeting. As much as you would like to think that online dating is easy, there are several things that can turn a guy off very quickly. A lot of women do not realize that their pictures, profile text and usernames are so out of whack that no self-respecting guy would go near their profile.

If you are wondering why you haven’t received any emails over the last couple of weeks, you could be in the majority that has their profile set up incorrectly. Here are some fatal online dating mistakes that can cost you a date.

The Wrong Pictures

Sure, it’s great to have different pictures on your online dating profile that shows you have a ton of friends. The problem that most women have is that they put up pictures of them in nightclubs or pictures of them hanging all over other guys. Men are naturally jealous.

No matter how much confidence they have, there is still a tiny bit of insecurity embedded to resent a girl that has pictures of herself hanging all over guys. Replace the pictures of you with other guys so you have some that include you with family or enjoying your hobbies.

Being Generic

The profile is extremely important. Usually, women will just put up a few vague sentences and hope for the best. When you are dating online you want to give as much information as possible about your hobbies, what you’re looking for in a guy and what separates you from other girls on the site. If you look at other girl’s profiles you will see several common statements.

“I can enjoy a night on the couch watching a movie just as much as going out,” is one of the most frequently used statements online. Be specific about what you like to do in your free time. This insight will give you an edge over the competition.

The Wrong Username

Usernames are another pitfall that many women get into. The username that you choose is tricky. The username should not be anything that expresses weirdness or selfishness. Having a username like “princess102” is unacceptable.

You might think that you’re a princess, but guys are not going to be interested in a girl that thinks she is the center of the world. Most online dating websites will allow you to change your username for free, however, some will make you pay a small fee to change the username. Using variations on your name or a hobby as your username is a great way to avoid this mistake.

Relying Too Much On Pictures

Yes, most attraction begins on a physical level and there are guys out there that will simply email you because you’re hot. But you don’t want to rely on your pictures to get dates. Physical attraction is not enough to sustain a relationship. Establishing common interests and relationship needs is essential from the start.

You cannot establish this connection if you are simply relying on your pictures to get dates. If you are relying on your pictures you will probably not get the caliber of men that you really want. Guys that only look at the pictures posted by a girl are usually shallow and arrogant so keep this in mind when you’re creating your profile.

Responding To Every Single Message

Don’t respond to guys that you aren’t interested in just because they are emailing you. Online dating is not about finding the perfect guy, but it’s also not about taking sub-par dates. Just because a guy has expressed interest in you doesn’t mean that you’re obligated to go out with him. You’re not even obligated to respond to him. If you’re not interested in a guy, delete the message and forget about it. Never take a date from somebody whom you have nothing in common with.

Taking Too Long To Respond

When a guy emails you on an online dating site, you want to respond in a timely manner. If you’re interested in him then you can be sure that other girls are also interested. If he sends you a message, try to respond within 24 hours. If you do not respond quickly enough he could take it as a sign that you are not interested or that you are a flake.

The amount of time that you take in responding to a guy might indicate how you will be in a relationship. If you do not respond in a timely manner he could correlate this into how you will respond to phone calls or text messages. Make it a habit to log into your account once or twice a day to respond to emails.

How To Meet Singles During The Day

Chase Christopher — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 17:00:20 +0000

Singles usually gather at night, right? Wrong! You can meet some awesome singles by going places during the day – here’s how!

Nightclubs and bars are the most common places to meet singles, but what if you want to meet singles during the day? Meeting them during the day can feel more natural and build confidence. Most guys like meeting girls during the day because of the games that women play in nightclubs in bars. If you would like to meet singles during the day, there are a few places that you can check out. Having a routine and using a little bit of logic is the best way to accomplish the task at hand. Here are a few ways that you can meet singles during the day.

At Coffee Shops

Almost everybody has their favorite drink at Starbucks, Caribou Coffee or any other coffee shop around your town. The best time to meet singles is during the morning rush. People tend to stop by their favorite coffee shop before work. 7-8:30 is a great time to pop into a coffee shop because there will be a line.

If you have a traditional 9-5 job then you will be dressed in business attire, which makes you look like you have it together. Chat up a girl that is in line with you. If she likes you, she will probably show up the next day at the same time. Keep to this routine and you will start to see regulars at the coffee shop.

At Grocery Stores

Grocery stores are like a hub for singles. Everybody has to buy food and you can easily meet singles at grocery stores with just a bit of detective work. A lot of guys don’t like approaching girls during the day out of fear that they will have a boyfriend. Checking the items in their cart can usually be a telltale sign of whether or not they have a boyfriend.

Look for men’s products with a quick glance before you talk to them. Don’t scour through their stuff, but take a second to look for male shaving cream, face wash or something else that would indicate that they have a boyfriend. If you don’t see these items then she could still have a boyfriend, but if you do see them she definitely does. Approach her with ease and ask if she has used a product in the aisle. This is an easy icebreaker that can lead to a conversation.

At Gyms

Gyms can be a great place to meet singles. With all of the endorphins in the room you will find girls more open to talking. The best way to meet single women at the gym is to use a machine after them. The problem with trying to meet singles at the gym is that they usually have their iPod on. Smile at a girl as she’s getting off of a machine and simply say “hey.” If she doesn’t answer you then her music is too loud. If she does answer you back then you can start talking about the different machines in the gym. Wing it and you’ll find her more open to talking than you thought.

At The Bank

Almost everybody has to go to the bank now and again. Heading to the bank to deposit money or take money out can be a great way to meet singles during the day. If you’re single, it’s best to forgo the convenient services of online banking and get out into the world. It’s too easy to hide behind modern technology.

Instead of using the ATM, go inside and deposit your check with a teller. This will force you to get in line and you never know when another single will be in front or behind you. Say hello to any girl that is waiting with you. Not only could this lead to a potential date, it will help the time pass as you are both waiting.

At A Dog Park

This one only applies to guys that have dogs. It’s no secret that a dog park is a haven for singles. The best thing about a dog park is that you are standing around as your dog plays with the other dogs. This leaves you open to conversation. Chat up a girl that is in the park. A lot of girls go to dog parks in hopes of finding singles. They might never admit it, but it’s true.

Girls love guys who have dogs because it shows compassion. Dog parks allow people with something in common to have light conversations. Ask her about the kind of breed her dog is. Ask her about local pet services or different products that you have tried. This is an easy icebreaker that you can implement with little hassle.

Simple Dating Tips With Excellent Results (For Women)

Chase Christopher — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 17:00:06 +0000

Dating tips are a dime a dozen. Everybody and their mother seem to think that they have the answer to finding the right guy for you. When you’re out with somebody that you don’t have a strong connection with, you probably let a few things slide in your dating etiquette. But what about when you meet somebody that you actually like?

Meeting somebody that you actually like and think you could have a connection with can put you on Cloud 9. When you meet somebody that you think you could have a future with all you can think about is not screwing it up. Here are some simple dating tips with excellent results to help you keep the guy you like.

The Right Attire

Men like women who have classic looks. This means leaving the animal prints and other out there fashions at home during the date. It doesn’t matter if you work on Wall St. or at McDonalds, there are fashions that are affordable for any income that will allow you to have a classic look. Black dresses and other classic fashions can be found at various outlet stores. Dress up for your date but make sure that you’re dressed appropriately. You won’t want to wear a black dress to an outdoor event.

Realize When He’s A Loser

If a guy picks you up and has no plans then he’s a loser. If a guy picks you up and he’s not dressed appropriately, he’s a loser. If a guy doesn’t ask you questions or only talks about himself, he’s obnoxious and a loser. Don’t date a guy that you have no connection with just because you think that he’s interested in you. You know that it’s not going to work out and it’s best to move on. Realizing that he’s a loser from the get-go is the best way to avoid getting hurt or annoyed during the date.

Ordering Etiquette

One of the best dating tips out there is to monitor what you’re ordering at a restaurant. When a date is going well you should be on your toes about the guy paying for your meal. Only order food, drinks or dessert when the guy orders these. This is a courtesy that a lot of women do not take part in. If you really want dessert, then offer to pay for it. He probably will not let you, but he will love the fact that you tried to pay for yourself. The last thing a guy wants to do is drain his bank account every time he takes you out. If you are still hungry after the date, raid the fridge when you get home.

Don’t Bring Up The Exes

Never, ever, ever bring up exes when you are out for the first couple of dates. This is one of the best dating tips or a reason. Bringing up the fact that your ex cheated on you or left you for your best friend is not something that a guy wants to hear. Baggage is extremely unattractive to men and when you talk about your exes it can come off that you’re not over the relationship yet. If you do bring up your exes, don’t expect another phone call from your date.

Be Easy

No, not that kind of easy. Be easy in the sense that if plans change or the restaurant has a long wait you are not a complete prima donna about it. Men don’t want a woman that they have to be on eggshells with. Comfort on a first date is pretty foreign and there can be shake-ups along the way. However, when you let things roll off your shoulders you can show him that you’re cool and collected. Making a big deal about something that you ordered can have him thinking that you’re high maintenance.

Dating tips can be extremely useful when you meet the right guy. Being easygoing during the date and having the right etiquette throughout is essential to getting a second date. Never go out with a guy that you know isn’t right for you from the beginning and do not talk about your ex-boyfriends during the first couple of dates.

Dressing appropriately for the date is essential and you should know exactly what you are going to do and where you are going beforehand. Taking these dating tips to heart should yield you some pretty great results. If you break them you could find yourself at the bottom of a bin of Vanilla on a Friday night instead of having a fun conversation with a guy who will treat you right.

I’m Alone On Valentine’s Day! What Should I Do?

Romy Morgan — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 14:00:12 +0000

Valentine’s Day is the most romantic time of the year. But what are you supposed to do when you have to spend it alone? Being alone on Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a complete drag. When you’re with somebody you expect to have plans. When you’re alone and the depression starts to set in, it’s best to keep yourself occupied. There are a lot of things that singles can do when they’re alone on Valentine’s Day. Here are a few suggestions to get you started.

Get Together With Friends

Chances are not all of your friends have significant others. It’s a great time for couples, but it can also be good for singles. The majority of singles don’t want to be alone on Valentine’s Day. Get together with your other single friends and head out to a bar or nightclub. You will probably find other singles that are trying to escape from the fact that they don’t have anybody. Enjoy yourself and don’t let the holiday get you down.

Go To A Movie

Movies are one of the greatest escapes. Being engrossed in a movie can take away any thought of being alone on Valentine’s Day. Don’t choose a romantic film or something that is too harsh. An action film or a thriller is your best bet to keep your mind at ease. Check your local listings and choose a movie that starts a little later. An 8 o’clock show is perfect because you will probably need to be there by 7:45. This will take up your entire evening. Before you know it, the evening will be gone.

Go To A Party

So your friends are having a Valentine’s Day party and you don’t have anybody to go with. Usually you would just blow it off because it’s going to be filled to the rim with couples. Go anyway. Yes, there will be a lot of couples, but there might be singles. Single people tend to play third-wheel with their couple friends and some rely on them to find their next relationship. You could meet a friend of a friend and end up spending Valentine’s Day with a new flame.

Take A Short Trip

Is there a concert going on in the next town over that you would like to see? Even if you have never heard of the band, take a short trip. This is a great way to change up the scenery and get you into a different mindset. This works great with art exhibits or craft shows also. Grab a copy of your local paper and look at what is going on around your area.

Spend It With Family

If you don’t have any single friends and you don’t want to spend the whole time alone, shack up with some family. Family will never tell you to butt out so hitch a ride with them and have dinner or go to a show. Even if your family is not doing anything special, you can just spend it catching up. Your family will be understanding of what you’re going through and can lend a shoulder to cry on or even put a smile back on your face.

Work Through It

Work has the ability to take your mind off of anything. If you have a big presentation coming up or you really need to get a jump start on a busy week, go ahead and work through it. Your mind will be off of being alone on Valentine’s Day and can get you through it without a major breakdown.

Join An Online Dating Site

If you’re completely tired of being alone and Valentine’s Day is too much to handle, join an online dating site. You can spend Valentine’s Day online dating and looking at potential dates for the future. Just thinking about a new relationship could be enough to give you perspective. When you join an online dating site, make sure that it’s one you like. There are a lot of free options out there, but a paid dating site tends to have more sophisticated clientele.

Being alone on Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be depressing. There are a lot of activities that you can do to help you get through it without a mind-melt. Hit some friends up to go out or take in a great movie. Work can take your mind off of the event, but your family will always have open arms.

Romantic Date Ideas For Shy Guys

Chase Christopher — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 23:00:16 +0000

Romantic date ideas are essential for every guy. This includes shy guys. Shy guys can do really well with women because they don’t come off as aggressive, cocky or arrogant. The problem with being shy is hiding emotions. Romantic date ideas are great for women, but shy guys might have problems getting through romantic dates. If you are a shy guy that would like to take a girl out for a romantic date, don’t fret! Here are some romantic date ideas for shy guys.

Jazz Concerts

One of the best romantic date ideas for a shy guy is to take a girl to a jazz concert. Jazz concerts might not be your thing, but the slow beat of the drums and the improvisation is very romantic. As a shy guy, you might not want to be the center of attention. A jazz concert is perfect because it’s usually in a bar or small nightclub. You can sit at a table with your girlfriend in the back of the venue and have a conversation or just listen to the music. Either way, the setting will do most of the work for you. Put your hand on her leg and keep the conversation low so she has to come close to you when she talks.

Art Festivals

Romantic date ideas don’t have to involve traditional dinners and expensive wine. You can take your girl out for a romantic date at an art festival. The best thing about art festivals is that they are usually free. Local art shows also offer a variety of things to browse. Hold your girlfriend by the hand as you go from booth to booth. If you find something that you think she might like, buy it for her. It doesn’t have to be a grandiose painting or anything, but a small piece of jewelry can be very romantic.

The Movies

The movie theater can be a great romantic date idea for you and your girl if you’re a shy guy. The movie theater is dark and allows you get close with her. Put your arm around her or hold her hand to keep the scene romantic. Choose a movie that she really wants to see. Even if this is a terrible romantic comedy you will get points for going with her. Women find romance in a man that does things for them that he really doesn’t want to do. Going to a movie with her is a romantic date idea she will love.

Family Events

Women love a guy who takes her to his family events. If you have a parent’s birthday coming up or an anniversary party, take your girlfriend with you. Bringing your girlfriend with you to a family event is a great romantic date idea because she will start to see herself as part of your family. When she sees herself as part of your family she will feel that there is a future between the two of you. Family events are also good because they can bring you out of your shell a little bit. Who knows you better than your family? Take your girlfriend to your next family event for a romantic evening.

Double Dates

Double dates can be very romantic for shy guys. Get together with a friend who is dating somebody and plan an evening out together. When you are around a friend that has known you for a long time you can be comfortable. Feeling comfortable can make all of the shyness disappear. Get dressed up and make a night out of it to add to the romance. Keep engaged with your girlfriend as well as the other people at the table and put your hand on her thigh throughout the evening to keep her feeling special.

The Ballet

I know. It’s definitely not something that you will want to do, but she will love it. The fact that you’re doing something that she wants make the ballet one of the best romantic date ideas out there. The ballet can be very boring and tedious, but your girlfriend will love watching the grace on stage. Hold her hand throughout the evening and she will definitely feel the romance. If you get really bored, just think about what she will give you afterward.

Being a shy guy doesn’t mean that you can’t take your girlfriend out on a romantic date. There are romantic date ideas for shy guys and you should follow these suggestions to give your girlfriend the romance that she wants. Relationships are about give and take. This is your chance to give.

How To Be The Kind Of Guy A Stripper Wants To Date

Dean Cortez — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 23:00:16 +0000

A stripper has to date men too – but how can you separate yourself from the customers to become the kind of man a stripper wants to go out with?

You need to be:

Confident
Interesting
Masculine
Fun

When you can convey these four qualities to a woman during the first conversation, I guarantee she’s going to want to see you again (or have sex with you that night!).

Yeah, it sounds obvious—you need to be confident and masculine to attract women. Of course. But so few guys actually heed this advice!

Being Too “Nice”

They might read a book like this one and try to be confident and masculine at first, but as soon things start going well with the girl they worry about blowing it. So they revert back to being their “usual selves”—trying to keep the girl interested in them by being super NICE.

(The guy thinks, “If I can prove to her that I’m a nice guy and a gentleman, and that I respect her—and that I’m not looking for sex—then she’ll trust me and want to date me!”)

No. Sooner or later, she’ll want to cut you loose because you’re acting like a typical insecure chump who doesn’t have the balls to act like a man and give her what she’s really looking for: masculinity, confidence, fun and sexual excitement.

By behaving towards women in the “typical” manner, these guys mess up their chances. As for seducing a stripper, you can forget about it; you absolutely must man up if you’re going to capture their interest and get their juices flowing.

I also want you to remember this saying: “The best way to pick up women is to have something better to do than pick up women.”

Have An Actual Purpose In Your Life (Besides Chicks)

Women are attracted to men who have a purpose in life (beyond going out and trying to get laid, or find a girlfriend!). When a guy is passionate about his purpose and focused on achieving goals, that’s sexy. The problem with most guys is that they make a woman their purpose. They’re needy. They’re jealous. They’re worried about losing her. And eventually, they do.

Women want you to be their rock. They want to know they can count on you to make decisions, lead them, and calm them down and get them back on track when they’re going through one of their dramas or mood swings. Women are all over the place emotionally. They’re a swirling sea of emotions, and what they need is a man who can be the rock that their waves crash against.

Be about something. Have interesting hobbies and passions. Set goals for yourself. Have your own opinions, don’t just follow along with the herd.

How To Be A “Masculine Guy”

Be a leader. Lead the conversation. There’s no rule that says you need to talk about whatever topic she brings up. And you’re not required to answer her questions. In fact, I blow off all of a woman’s standard questions. (“Where are you from,” “what do you do,” etc. You’ll always get these questions from strippers because it’s part of their sales routine: they want to build a connection with you before they go for the close (ask you to buy a striptease). You’ve also got to lead physically. I tell girls that I’m hitting on them. I’d love to to be in bed with them.

Men are wired to spread their seed. Women are wired to want to be with men who can provide them with a stable, secure environment in which they can have kids and raise them.

This stuff is happening on a subconscious level. It’s not like while you’re sitting there having a drink with a stripper, she’s thinking, “Hmm, maybe I should let this guy knock me up. He seems like he would provide a stable, secure environment.”

What women (and strippers) are looking for are cues: signals that you have the qualities she is wired to seek in a man. The cool thing is, when you give her these signals (in a way that seems genuine, not phony) she’s going to feel attraction. She has no choice in the matter! It’s in her DNA.

When a man conveys those four qualities in an authentic way, women can’t resist feeling attracted to him—just as you will automatically feel attracted to a young, gorgeous woman with big breasts. You can’t shut off your brain’s “attraction mechanism.” Neither can women.

When you do masculine things in her presence, she senses that you are a confident guy. If you’re confident, you’re going to do things that demonstrate leadership—and then she’ll see you as a guy who can be her “emotional rock” and provide her with the stability she needs to feel safe.

Top 5 Reasons You Should Consider Online Dating

Chase Christopher — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 17:00:33 +0000

Online dating is beginning to be the biggest way of meeting single women. If you have been considering it, but just haven’t taken the plunge, it might be time to do so. It gives you a very cheap, and sometimes free, way of meeting a lot of women very quickly. Over the last couple of years, online dating has moved into the mainstream. Meeting women on the internet is no longer for social misfits and tons of “normal” people use online dating services.

1. Approach Anxiety

Online dating is the perfect solution for men who have approach anxiety. Approach anxiety can get the best of men. Walking up to a woman in a bar or nightclub can be nerve-racking. It gives men a way to avoid approach anxiety by simply sending a message through the service. It’s much easier to send a message through a service and take the rejection of never hearing from the girl than getting a fake number or being told point blank that they’re not interested. If you have approach anxiety with women, you should definitely consider online dating.

2. It’s Similar To Facebook

It’s kind of weird that we think online dating is for losers but we are addicted to Facebook. There are tons of people who have meet significant others through Facebook, so what’s the difference? On both platforms you upload pictures and basically outline your life. If you are an avid Facebook-er then why would you feel uncomfortable with online dating? Most people who have online dating profiles use their Facebook profile pictures on the dating site. Facebook also allows people to put their relationship status on the site. If you have a “Not In Relationship” status on your Facebook account then you kind of already have an online dating profile.

3. One Month Could Equal A Year

How many dates did you go on the last year? 2 or 3? By paying a small fee you could easily go on 10 dates in one month. Depending on your work schedule and how busy you are, you can arrange to go out with multiple women in the same week. This isn’t being a player; it’s just testing the waters. Sign up for a site and see how many women you can go out on a first date with in the first month. This will save you money on the next month’s subscription and will get you on the fast track of finding somebody that you really connect with.

4. Transparency

Have you ever met a girl, gone out on a few dates with her and then found out that she didn’t want the same things as you? It’s fairly safe to say that everybody has been through this. Whether you don’t want to date a smoker, want kids some day or never want to get married, online dating gives you the solution of transparency. Obviously you will need to vet the girls and get rid of any crazies, but getting a snapshot what your potential partner wants out of life can be an asset in finding somebody that you click with well. Using the filters provided by your online dating site can easily give you a list of matches in just a few seconds. This isn’t the case with dating in the real world and can save you a lot of time and money in the long run. You will no longer be spending money on women that will not work out in a long term relationship.

5. It’s Free To Try

All online dating sites allow you to sign up for free. Most online dating sites will allow you to see a small counter of how many people have looked at your profile. Sign up for different dating sites with the same kind of profile. Watch the counter to see how many women are looking at your profile. If you don’t want to spend money on multiple sites, subscribe with the site where you’re getting the most profile views. This will save you money and put you in touch with women that are interested in meeting you.

Online dating is becoming very popular with young professionals, parents and seniors. If you have been thinking about an online dating site, sign up for free and test it out. Remember that you aren’t a creep for using it and it doesn’t make you desperate. Nobody wants to spend their life alone and online dating could be the avenue that you’ve been waiting for.

Romantic Date Ideas For Valentine’s Day That He Will Love

Romy Morgan — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 14:00:34 +0000

Romantic date ideas are usually what guys plan for their girlfriends or wives for Valentine’s Day. However, if you would like to do something romantic that won’t get an eye roll from your partner, you might need a little help. If you have ever taken your boyfriend or husband to the ballet you’ve probably seen them groan or nod off for the entire duration. Choosing a fun, romantic date that your partner will actually enjoy is essential to keeping them engaged while feeding your need for romance. Here are a few romantic date ideas that he will love for Valentine’s Day.

Small Italian Restaurants

Almost everybody loves Italian food. Guys love the meaty red sauces, the filling pastas and the garlic bread. If you want to make the night romantic, try to find an Italian place around your area that is off the beaten path. These are usually found inside the city on a corner or hidden among other stores. Having a back table in a small Italian restaurant will get the romance started quickly. He’ll love the menu and love you for suggesting something new for the relationship. Make it a formal affair and dress up for the night to add more of an edge to your romantic date idea.

Camping

Nothing says Valentine’s Day like sleeping under the stars. If you’re looking for some quality time with your guy, consider camping. Roughing it in the woods and cuddling next to a campfire can easily make for excellent romantic date ideas! Although this is more of a trip, you can make it a date that lasts until the next morning. Instead of using two different sleeping bags, use one as your base and then cuddle with the other one on top of the two of you. Look at the stars and spend the night talking about the future for some easy romance.

Double Dating

Double dating is one of the best romantic date ideas ever! Going out on a double date with your guy and another couple can lead to great conversation and a lot of fun on Valentine’s Day. Choose a night where you want to go out with another couple and make it a little more formal than a regular dinner and a movie. Get dressed up to the point that he would rather stay in the bedroom than go out with another couple. Touch his leg throughout the dinner to make the evening more romantic. When the bill comes, let him pay for you. This time honored tradition will make him feel like a man and can definitely end on a romantic note.

Local Theater

Although your guy undoubtedly doesn’t understand the ballet, he probably wouldn’t mind a trip to the local theater. Local theaters are dirt-cheap and usually have pretty good shows. Check your local theater for shows that are coming up so you and your guy can make plans. Have dinner beforehand and go out for a drink after the show has finished. Local theater will give you all of the aspects of a real Broadway show without the pricey tickets. Choose a show that you think he will like, but will also give you some romance. There are staples of local theater so try to pick a show that you have heard of. If you are not really a theater guru, check local reviews and go from there.

Make A Day Of It

Dates tend to focus on the night rather than the day. If you want to really have a romantic date, try to have a romantic day. Start in the morning with breakfast in bed with your guy or by going out to your favorite eatery. Spend the day shopping together or running errands around town. Running errands together or shopping for a new outfit that he likes can be very romantic. Decide on somewhere to eat dinner or buy something to cook together that night. Finish your day off by cuddling on the couch and watching a movie together. The keyword throughout all of this was “together.” Make sure that you’re not dragging him around to something that is going to be excruciating. He’s a guy so leave some of your more effeminate errands for a later date.

Romantic date ideas don’t have to be some Hollywood representation of chivalry. Romance for a guy is totally different than romance for you. Although the two can intersect at points, it might be hard to tread the line. It’s important to do something that you want to do also, so don’t make the date all about him. Romantic dates don’t even have to leave you home. Follow these suggestions or make a few tweaks to have a great romantic date.

5 Seduction Tips Women Need To Be On Guard For

Chase Christopher — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 17:00:14 +0000

Seduction can be one of the most exciting and embarrassing moments in a woman’s life. Being put under the spell of Mr. Wrong can leave you wondering why you were ever attracted to him in the first place. As women, guys approach us on a daily basis. It doesn’t matter if we’re in a supermarket, a bowling ally or on the street guys try to run their game constantly. If you’re tired of falling for the same seduction tricks, there are a few things that you can watch out for. Here is a short list of some things you didn’t know about seduction.

1. Some Guys Really Do Just Want To Know The Time

Not all approaches are part of the seduction game. Men do approach women that they are attracted to, but a guy that needs the time could also just need to know what time it is. Brushing off every guy that tries to approach you is not the way to go through life. If a guy walks up and tries to ask you a question about a product then be aware that he might just need to know if the product works. When he starts to transition the conversation into where you work, if you’re single or any other personal information be on the lookout for seduction.

2. Speaking Of Time, If He Doesn’t Seem To Have Enough Of It…

A time constraint is one of the most widely used aspects of seduction. The basic concept makes the guy seem limited during his approach. This is the same concept that Internet marketers use to get you to buy a product. They say something like “I can only talk for a second,” which is reminiscent of “for a limited time only.” If a guy tries to pulls this on you, have your guard up. The reason that so many guys use this is because it does work. This is a universal game. What works on you will also work on other women.

3. He Seems More Interested In Your Friends

One of the biggest signs that a guy is seducing you is that he ignores you and goes for your friend. This is a tactic that has gotten a lot of women. What it does is it gets you thinking “Why isn’t he talking to me?” You feel a little rejected so you start vying for his attention instead of him vying for your attention. This is a good method for picking up women and if you look at any nightclub or bar after 11pm you will probably see it. Once the conversation has died a little he will start to talk to you and you will feel special. This is a fake feeling that he has crafted.

4. “Bouncing”

Another method of seduction is called “bouncing.” Bouncing basically involves getting you away from your friends. This is the sign of an experienced expert. He will basically tell you something like “Let’s go to this place for a quick drink.” He is trying to bounce you away from your friends. Seduction is all about putting you a place that you might not feel very comfortable in. If you have never been to a club, bar or restaurant then the most comfortable thing that you have there is him. Be on the look out for this seduction technique when a guy tries it and you won’t get played.

5. He Knows Everything

Does the guy you are talking to seem to have an answer for everything? Is he leading the conversation and saying all the right things? Does it seem too good to be true? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you are probably the prize in a seduction technique. Routines are a way for guys to get enough confidence to talk to you. The reason that they have an answer for everything is because they have done the routine hundreds if not thousands of times. You should start to pick up on his routine throughout the conversation. If you do pick up on it, give a short answer to end the conversation and watch him squirm.

Getting played through a seduction technique is not something that any girl wants to go through. Knowing the signs of seduction is the best way to avoid being a victim in a guy’s routine. Seduction can be fun when you know that you’re being seduced, Making him work for it and then shutting the whole situation down can bruise even the most experienced seduction expert. Take these signs into consideration the next time that you think you’re being seduced.

Why You Need To Know Strip Club Shifts To Bag A Hot Stripper!

Dean Cortez — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 17:00:23 +0000

A stripper works certain times to make more money, and timing is everything when it comes to bagging a stripper. Getting to know how the club works is a must!

Most strip clubs operate on three shift intervals: Days, Swing and Graveyard. Each is a different animal, and has pros as well as cons.

Days

This shift usually runs from about eight in the morning until five in the evening. Day shift dancers are a mixed bag: in a big club you’ll probably find some stunners, but this is also when the less attractive ones work. Some stunners will choose this less lucrative shift because they have personal commitments that prevent them from working evenings—such as kids, or a boyfriend who wants her home at night. The less attractive ones are employed during the day because the club management needs live bodies on the floor in the daytime and they’d rather the more attractive girls be on the floor at night.

Swing

Swing shift runs from about five until one in the morning. This is usually when you’ll find the top-shelf hotties. Also, most new dancers break in on swing shift, which is also known as the “party shift.” As the busiest of all shifts, this one has the most girls, the most customers, and the most challenges for you to deal with. While swing shift dancers might be the hottest, they’re also in higher demand because this is when the club sees the most traffic. This might make it difficult to engage the dancer you want in an extended conversation, since there are other guys willing to shell out money for a private striptease.

Graveyard

In cities where clubs are permitted to be open until very late (such as Las Vegas, where the clubs never close), graveyard shift runs from about midnight until about seven in the morning. If I go to a strip club on a weekend, I hit it late (which in Vegas means after 4am, after I’m through at the bars).

As a local, I don’t want to get caught up in hordes of drunken tourists throwing money around. Better to let the crowd thin out, then show up and work your magic. This applies to whatever city you live in.

I don’t suggest visiting during peak hours. I like to go to the club on slow nights. No matter how strong your dating game is, if the club is packed with guys, her main focus is going to be on making money.

IMPORTANT NOTE: The next time you visit a club that you like, find out the shift changes. (Ask a waitress.) Then, plan your future visits around the shift changes. I like to show up an hour or two before the swing shift (late afternoon-evening) ends and the graveyard shift (late night-early morning) begins.

This way, when I suggest meeting a girl after her shift, I know they’ll be off work soon and I’ll be fresh in their minds when they clock out. On the other hand, if you meet a stripper at the beginning of her shift, her memory of you will be hazy (if she remembers you at all) eight hours later, after she’s consumed a bunch of drinks and entertained twenty other guys. So, timing really is essential.

Discover The Strangest Way To Attract Women (It WORKS!)

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 20:29:18 +0000

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Top 5 Reasons Pick Up Lines Don’t Work

Chase Christopher — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 14:00:42 +0000

Pick up lines aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. Here’s why they almost always will cause you to fail at getting a girl!

Pick up lines are some of the worst methods getting a girl’s attention. When you use a line you show that you’re not only desperate, but also highly unoriginal. They are played out and make you come off as a tool. If you have ever thought about using a line, get it out of your head immediately. Here are the top 5 reasons they just don’t work.

1. They’re Generic

“Come here often?” The line doesn’t work primarily because it’s too generic. The fact that you’re using it on a girl that you don’t know shows that you don’t really care about her or have anything original to say. This shows her that you’re not a guy that separates himself from the pack. When you use an original “Hello” or “How are you” you don’t come off as a guy who bombards women at every bar with the same line. “How are you” and “Hello” are pretty common for every day conversation so this gives you a non-threatening way of approaching women.

2. They’re Needy

There is nothing more pathetic than a guy who is desperate. When you use pick up lines, you come off as a guy who only wants to have sex. This can be problematic for a guy who really does want to get to know a girl. When you use a line like “great dress, but it would look better on my bedroom floor,” you sound like a guy who is desperate for sex. Women want a guy that has options. When you use a line you look like you would just say the line to any girl that walks by. Avoid using pick up lines so you don’t look needy.

3. They’re Unoriginal

You know when you walk into a bar or a club and you see every guy or girl dressed the same? How many times do you think a girl has been given a pick up line and actually followed through on it? Women are hit on by guys every day and most guys stick with pick up lines because they are familiar. So when a girl hears you say something that she has heard a couple of hours before, she’s going to be even more put off by you. Pick up lines have been around forever. Chances are, she’s heard it and it’s not going to make her laugh or feel attracted to you.

4. They’re Creepy

How would you feel if some guy walked up to you and said that one about the angel falling from heaven? I would definitely be creeped out. This is exactly how women feel when some stranger walks up to her and delivers a line. Creeping a girl out is not the way to get a phone number. You want to build comfort and rapport with the girl in order to take a relationship to the next level. When you use a line, you’re going to creep her out and you will probably see it on her face.

5. They’re Not Funny

The fact of the matter is that pick up lines aren’t that funny. They can even be offensive to a lot of women. Do you think that you’re going to get her phone number after offending her? Probably not. It’s best to use a simple opener when approaching women. A pick up line can leave a bad taste in her mouth and leave you feeling like an idiot. If you think that it’s funny, stop yourself anyway.

Pick up lines are usually seen on TV or in movies, but think about the guy that is saying them. Is he the hero of the film or show? More than likely he’s the creep that nobody wants around. Pick lines are generic and will never come off as appealing to women. They have the ability to ruin a situation that could have become favorable with just a simple opener. Some pick up lines even have the ability to offend the girl and send her on her way after the first sentence is spoken.

Even if you do have a hilarious pick up line, she might not get the joke. This could leave you explaining why it’s funny and explaining a joke effectively creates an awkward situation. It’s best to leave you pick up lines at the door when you’re out approaching women. Use an environmental opener or mention something about her clothing to get a conversation started properly.

How To Meet More Hot College Girls

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 15:57:56 +0000

Dating tips aren’t just for older men playing the field – college guys want in on the action too!

Everyone wants one (or two, or three if you’re a rock star) of their own, but how do you get them? If a lack of hot college girls is your problem, take a look at some of the best dating tips around for meeting ladies at school Sit down, strap in and make sure you’ve got condoms, because we will have you knee deep in college hotties in no time!

Building Your Social Circle

So how do you get the hot girl of your dreams? Build your social circle first. Be the guy everyone wants to be with. You know that expression, “the life of the party?” That’s you, or it should be. We’re not saying be a clown or act like a train seal, but be confident and be the person people always want to be around. When everyone wants to be around you, inevitably, you will find yourself surrounded by hot girls.

Be less of an outsider. Once you’ve got that social circle going and they are at least associated with you in some way, you’re no longer some random creepy guy hitting on them. You’re now a friend of a friend, and someone who has a certain reputation and trust level. Once you have the trust level, you’re in.

Go to events, get in with fun positive people and let their good vibes rub off on you. Events are crucial. If you want to fish, you need to go to where the fish are. Going to a lake where tons of fishermen are trying to fish a pond, it’s great odds, no matter how many fish are in the lake. Generally, there won’t be that many fish in the lake, because so many people are fishing in it.

If you go to a lake that is teaming with fish and you’re the only fisherman (or one of the only fishermen) there, how good do you think your odds of catching a fish is? A lot better than it was. This is actually one of the most essential dating tips you’ll ever learn. Find out what kind of fish you’re looking for and find out what pond they are in and then go there. Yoga class, theatre, choir, you name it.

And when people have great vibes, people are drawn to them. You need those people in your life and they need to be your friends. They can only make your life better. In every way.

Don’t Hit On Everyone

Keep it casual, don’t hit on every hot girl. This isn’t brain surgery. You’re not trying to balance the budget or eradicate the national debt. You’re trying to hook up with hot girls. Don’t be too serious and relax. And be selective. If you hit on anything that moves, guess how that makes you look? Wanna guess? It’s not good, that’s a hint. Actually, it’s the answer, but whatever.

Use facebook, that’s why it’s there. Facebook was literally invented to hook up with hot college chicks. Social media is your friend. Use it. Hitting a girl up on Facebook can sometimes be less threatening that going up and asking for her number. Almost everyone accepts friend requests, so once she does, you’re in.

Go to class. If there is a hot girl in your class, sit next to her. Ask her for a pen, ask if she has a study guide for the exam. Better yet, ask her to study with you. Do something to start the conversation. Anything. Well, maybe not anything. No cheesy pickup lines. Allowed. Ever. No exceptions. Seriously. We mean it.

Ask her out to a lunch date on or off campus, that can be a fun, low pressure way to get the ball rolling. You should also go to fun crazy parties. Girls there have had a few drinks, they’re more relaxed, and more approachable

Bring Something To The Table

It’s also really important to have something to offer. Hot girls can have anyone they want. So why would they want you? To get the girl, you have to know who you are and what you bring to the table. You have something going for you that no one else on the planet does. Figure out what that is and develop it.

Join clubs, have hobbies. Hot girls like to see a man with balance. Why? Because if he’s got a lot going on and he’s got his act together, he’s much less likely to be needy and all over her (and not in a fun way)

Basically, it’s all about disarming the girl. Hot girls are always on def-con five. They have security walls up to protect themselves from losers, rapists, creeps and Tommy Lee. If you want to get in her pants or heart or mind, you’ll need to get her to lower the shields first.

How To Approach Men & Take Control Of Your Dating Life

Romy Morgan — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 18:00:02 +0000

Approach men instead of waiting for them to come up to you, and you can start taking over your dating life! Forget about being single for good!

Modern tradition implies that guys should make the first move. But what should we do if we see a guy that we think is cute and he’s not coming up to us? This is probably a very familiar situation for any woman. You’re in a bar or a nightclub and you a guy that you think is really cute. He’s standing by the bar or he is surrounded by his friends and he keeps looking over at you, but he’s not coming over. Most women don’t want to go after a guy because they think it makes them seem desperate. The fact of the matter is that most guys really appreciate a woman that approaches them. This shows confidence and can be very attractive. Here is a short guide on how to approach men.

Have A Reason

One of the pit falls that a lot of women fall into to their reasoning for approaching a guy. Most guys have some kind of routine that they use when they’re approaching women and so should you. Take notice of something around him or a piece of clothing that he’s wearing. If a guy is too shy to approach you, he will surely open up once you introduce yourself. He wants a reason to talk to you, but he’s probably just not that great with approaching women. When you walk up to him, have something to say and then let him take control of the situation. When you approach men, it is not as hard when you have something to say.

Sit Down

One of the best ways to alleviate any awkwardness is to sit down next to him if he’s at the bar. This implies that you are interested, but it creates a time constraint because you might just need a drink. When you approach men, sitting down can get the ball rolling very quickly. Simply sitting down and facing forward will show that you’re not desperate. After about 2 seconds, turn to him and say, “Hey, how are you?” or something simple. This gets a conversation started pretty easily.

Be Playful

When you are approaching men, the number one thing that you need to remember is to be playful and flirtatious. Make fun of something about him that won’t hurt his feelings. His shirt, his pants and his shoes are really easy to make fun of without hurting his ego. If you take it too far he’s going to walk away. If you are playful, he will play along and probably get you laughing. Approaching men is about having confidence. Allowing him to make fun of you a little bit will show that you’re confident enough to take a little jab.

Ask Him Questions

When you approach men, it is essential that you ask questions. When you ask questions you can get a feel for who he is as a person. Asking what he does, what he likes to do in his spare time and his age are just the tip of the iceberg. Get a little deeper so you can know if he’s worth giving your phone number to. Men like direct women and since you have already approached him he will probably ask for your number. If you don’t like the guy, don’t give him a fake number. Explain that you don’t think you’re a good match.

Ask For His Number

It’s pretty traditional for a guy to ask a girl for her number. If you really like the guy, ask for his. When a girl gives a guy her number, the guy wonders if she will actually pick up the phone or if the number is actually real. If you really like the guy, get his number and tell him you’re going to call. If you tell him that you’re going to call, then call. Guys love girls who follow up with what they say they’re going to do. More than likely, he will probably think that you just don’t want to give him your number. But when you do call he will respect you even more for it. Guys don’t want girls who play games.

When you approach men, it can be a great ego booster. Waiting around in a bar or a nightclub for somebody to walk up and talk to you can be disappointing. If you’re the kind of girl who has to beat the losers off with a stick, toss tradition and start approaching guys yourself. Once you meet a guy that you like your confidence will skyrocket and you’ll be well on your way to finding somebody to be happy with on your terms.

First Date Success Checklist

Chase Christopher — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 17:00:37 +0000

A first date can be nerve racking if you aren’t prepared. Too many dates go into the gutter because the guy is not prepared for the evening. If you have a first date coming up, there are a few things that you need to take into consideration before you walk out the door. First dates are first impressions. We all know how much a first impression counts so you want to make this as smooth as possible. Here is a first date checklist to help you get through the evening without incident.

Schedule The Date

Sounds pretty simple, right? Well, too many dates fall prey to guys forgetting times, where the girl lives and or what day the date is supposed to be on. Don’t miss out on an opportunity for a future relationship because you have forgotten pertinent information. Once you have scheduled the date, write it down on a calendar or set a reminder on your phone. Hopefully, the girl is good enough that you won’t forget any of this information. However, times and dates can get lost in translation. Make sure that she knows when the date is supposed to occur also.

Make Reservations

This might not apply if you’re simply going out for a drink or heading out to the lake for a day of hiking, but if you’re going to a restaurant, get a reservation. The last thing that you want to do is show up on a Saturday night to find out that there’s a 45-minute wait for a table. Double check the reservation the day of the date to make sure that the restaurant has not made a mistake. You’ll be glad that you did.

Invest In A GPS

How many times have you tried to wing it when looking for a store? This isn’t something that you want to do on a first date. Use a GPS and key in the address an hour before you have to be there. The GPS should give you the estimated time of arrival for the location. This can keep you on schedule. Plan on being a few minutes early. Don’t be 15 minutes early, but a couple of minutes gives you time if there is traffic or accident on the way.

Have Mints/Gum On Hand

It doesn’t matter if you’re going to a restaurant or just a walk. Being fresh is key and you’re breath can deteriorate over time. Make sure that you have something to combat this situation. The last thing that you want is to have a sewer system in your mouth when you lean in for a good night kiss.

Remember Your Wallet

You would think this is a given, but there are time when we get so flustered that we rush out of the house without our wallet or our credit card. Make sure that you have your wallet and all of the pertinent methods of paying for the date with you before you leave the house. If you have recently cancelled a credit card, take it out of your wallet. The last thing you want is to have the waiter come back saying that your card was declined.

Dress Appropriately

The date will really determine what you are going to wear. Are you going to a swanky concert or a find restaurant? Dress accordingly and make sure that the clothing is clean. Iron your shirts and pants if needed. Be aware of details that will make you stand out from previous dates she’s had. Don’t choose a shirt with a ring around the collar. Wear a tie if needed. A sport coat is a great way to show that you know how to dress for a formal date. Make sure that she’s aware of any specific attire that she needs. If you’re taking her paddle boating, make sure that she is wearing sneakers. If you’re going to a nice restaurant, make sure that she knows it so she can dress accordingly.

Make After Date Plans

If everything is going well, you might want to have a plan in place for after the date. Dinner is a great way to spend some time with a date, but the restaurant is going to want their table back at some point during the night. A change of venue is exciting anyway. Have somewhere that the two of you can go after the initial phase of the date if it’s called for. Choose something that you will both enjoy. Something as easy as a cup of coffee at a local brewer can work well.

First dates can be dreadful if you aren’t prepared. By following these guidelines you should be well on your way to a second date.

A Woman’s Guide To Writing An Online Dating Profile

Romy Morgan — Sat, 31 Dec 2011 17:00:28 +0000

Online dating the perfect solution for a woman who leads a busy life or has just moved to a new area. If you’re tired of spending your evenings alone and you’re willing to take the plunge into online dating, you need a great profile. There are a lot of guys online that could be an excellent match for you. The problem is that most women do not know how to write an online dating profile that will grab the attention of a man who will treat them right. Online dating can be a lot of fun and can give you a long list of viable candidates. But you want the guys to be right for you. Here is a woman’s guide on how to write a great online dating profile.

The Site

It all begins with what site you want to use. Do you want to go with a paid site or do you want to go with a free site? Each of these has their advantages and you should consider both when dating online. If you think you can handle all of the responses, you can use both of these for finding dates. Paid sites will typically have a better clientele than free sites. A guy who is willing to pay a monthly fee to find a girl should be established. However, there are more guys on free sites. Once you have written your profile, you can just copy it for both sites. This will give you a broader base and more dates.

The Picture

Choosing a picture can seem like a big ordeal, but there are just a few things that you need to keep in mind. Your main profile picture should not be with anybody else. The last thing you want is a guy to click on your profile thinking that you are your friend. Use the site’s picture tools to crop out friends or choose a picture that doesn’t have anybody else in it. Never use a fake picture. If you’re not confident enough in yourself to put up a real online dating profile, don’t put one up at all.

Why Would He Want To Date You?

We’ve all seen the profiles that say “I like hanging out with friends, going to the beach and spending time with family.” All right! Enough already! Who doesn’t like spending time with their friends and family? What girl doesn’t like the beach? These are non-statements. It’s like saying I like blue skies and wooden wood. You want to separate yourself from the rest of the girls on the site. Be specific. Do you play tennis? Are you an avid mountain biker? These are the kinds of details that guys want to read about. This will also weed out the guys that you’re not compatible with.

Crucial Info

What would a guy know about you after the first couple of dates? Would he know that you volunteer a local animal hospital or that you spend your time mentoring kids? There is a difference in online dating and reality dating. Online dating is all about comfort. You want a guy to think that he knows about 75% of your personality, interests and other aspects of your life just from the online dating profile. The more they know about you, the more you will to talk about when out on a date. In reality dating, you want to remain mysterious. Online dating is about putting yourself out there.

Deal-Breakers

Do you want to date a guy that is a couple inches taller than you? This is fine. Most women want a guy that is taller than them so they can wear heels. However, getting too picky about your deal-breakers can be a deal-breaker in itself. Saying that you don’t want to date a smoker or somebody that has kids is a preference that you might not want to budge on. This is okay. However, you don’t want to put that you only date guys with black hair and blue eyes that are only 6’3. Even if you do only want to date those guys, don’t put it on your profile. Just screen the guys that are emailing you. If you put this on your profile, the guys may think that you’re superficial.

Online dating can be a good way to meet new guys. But if your profile stinks or comes off as pretentious, you will be sitting at home on Friday nights snuggling with your DVR instead of a great guy. Follow these guidelines and wait for the dates to roll in.

How A Girl Sizes You Up (And How To Work It To Your Advantage)

Dean Cortez — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 23:00:57 +0000

For seduction to work, you must understand the way a woman looks at you first. Put your best foot forward and the seduction can begin right away! So let’s talk about “regular” beautiful women for a moment—the ones who aren’t doing stripteases for a living.

Beautiful women, who are constantly being hit on, are naturally going to put up barriers when they get the sense that a guy is sexually interested in them. (This is sometimes referred to as a “bitch shield.”)

What Happens When You Start A Conversation With A Hot Girl

So when a random guy tries to start a conversation with a hot chick, one of two things will happen:

If she is completely uninterested in the guy, she will ignore him or blow him off as soon as possible. (“Nice to meet you, but I need to go find my friends…”)
If she’s having fun talking to the guy, or finds him interesting or attractive in some way, she will begin to screen him. She will use certain questions and behaviors to elicit responses from him. The manner in which he responds will allow her to form a judgment of him: is this a guy she can picture herself having sex with (or dating), or does he lack the qualities that she is screening him for?

(If so, she might continue talking to him out of politeness, and even give her phone number if he requests it, but there’s no way she’s ever going to have sex with him. She’s already made up her mind about that.)

Your goal, then, is to control the conversation so that you don’t give women the chance to start screening you. You want to “turn the tables” so that you are the one screening them.

How To Get To Where YOU Are “Screening” HER

Remember this—because it applies in and out of the strip clubs. The main things a woman “screens” you for are your status and value. If she senses that your status and value are lower than hers, she knows she doesn’t stand to gain anything by being with you. So she won’t be interested.

If she feels that your status and value are higher than hers, she’ll want to keep talking to you—and she’ll begin to feel attraction, if you push the right buttons.

This has nothing to do with how much money you’ve got, or what kind of car you drive. There are much more important ways in which any guy can demonstrate status and value.

For example, if you give a stripper (or any girl, for that matter) the impression that you know other people at the club, and you’re familiar with her profession and how the whole “game” works, you’re conveying a higher status than the typical customer.

If you tease her during the conversation (instead of trying to kiss her ass) and qualify her (which means you say things that indicate you’re not so impressed by her, and want to find out if she measures up to your standards), you’re also showing status.

Give her VALUE

Providing value means she can tell she will gain something, or improve her situation, by hanging out with you. (In a strip club, a guy’s “value” normally means what he’s carrying in his wallet—but you’re going to attract women by different means, and in a more powerful way.)

Bringing value can be as simple as making her laugh and feel relaxed with you. Other ways of providing value include getting her to share her ambitions and goals (strippers always have some other “plan” for their lives), and encouraging her to go after that goal.

You want women to feel that if they spend time with you, you’re going to make their lives fuller and more exciting, and you’re going to help them grow and better themselves. That’s super-valuable stuff.

Best Online Dating Tips Of 2011

Kaylen Jackson — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 15:24:35 +0000

Online dating can be an excellent way to meet new people – so check out our best suggestions of this year and make a goal to meet someone in 2012!

Don’t forget to take a look at some of our all-time favorite online dating articles! The tips and advice here will help you pimp your profile to the max so you get maximum exposure to the people you’re interested in, as well as teach you what to say and what to do when you find someone you really like. You won’t have success in online dating without these great suggestions!

We’ve also spent this year searching for great dating resources to help you up your game and meet more people than ever before. We want you to have the confidence and the know-how to approach someone you’re interested in, ask them out, get a number, wow them with an incredible first date and sweep them off their feet! Although these resources aren’t specifically for online dating, they contain the SECRETS to dating (online or otherwise) that every man should know – that is, if he ever wants to snag a date!

Pandora’s Box (THE definitive resource on ALL things dating – after this, you’ll be able to date ANY woman you want!)
300 Creative Dates (great for when you actually take your online romance into the real world – you’ll learn unique, inexpensive dates that will totally capture a woman’s heart! NO OTHER GUY has ever taken her on dates like these before!)

How To Recover After Having Sex On The First Date

Serena Paige — Sat, 24 Dec 2011 18:00:51 +0000

Having sex on the first meeting can really screw things up for you. But is it possible to put having sex behind you and start over?

You messed up. You had too much wine, the lighting was just right or you gave into primal urges that you know you shouldn’t have. Now you’re looking for you panties as he’s making coffee in the other room. You really like this guy, but having sex with him on the first meeting was never supposed to be in the cards. The worst part is that you think you might have a future with him and you don’t want him to think that you’re the kind of girl that gives it up willy-nilly. Even though the relationship has gotten off to a sexualized start, you can recover. Here is a guide on how to recover after having sex with him on the first date.

Understand The Situation

You slept with him but that doesn’t mean that he’s your boyfriend. This also doesn’t mean that you’re his girlfriend. Understanding the relationship took a turn gives you perspective. Yes, most of the mystery was lost when you slept with him, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t have a meaningful relationship. Knowing that having sex with him on the first date doesn’t define the relationship is the first step in recovering from this misstep.

Don’t Return Texts

More than likely, the guy is going to feel guilty about having sex with you on first date. If the guy is truly interested in pursuing a relationship, wait for him to call. If he sends a text, shoot him one back that says “Give me a call when you get a second. Thanks!” or something similar. Guys that were only interested in having sex will text you with expectations. Guys that want to move past the mistake of getting physical too early will want to take you out on a proper date. Proper dates require real communication. Phone calls are real communication. The only exception is if he is truly busy and he sends you a text from work asking you to have dinner with him.

Second Time Around

So, you went on the first date and we know how that turned out. What about the second date? The second date is going to be the real date. This is a test of how you can handle the fact that you have already been together but don’t really know each other. One of the best things to do is talk about the fact that you did sleep together. Don’t make excuses or you could make him feel inadequate or unworthy. For instance, if you say “ Listen, I had a lot to drink the other night” or something similar, he might think that you used him for sex. You might even get him thinking that you think he used you for sex. Just say, “I don’t want what happened the other night to ruin what we might have.” This tells him that you are open to the idea of a relationship, but it’s business as usual from here on out.

Make Him Wait

You had sex on the first date, but that doesn’t mean that you’re going to give it up again. Make him wait and earn sex again. Having sex with him again on the second date could lead to expectation. If he asks you to come over to his house after the date, politely tell him that you don’t think that’s a good idea. He should agree. If he presses the issue, he might only be in it for the sex and you should tread lightly. Once a guy has had sex with you, he might lose interest. This is common, which is the reason that you should never have sex on the first date. If the guy does press the issue, he sees you as a way to get laid and his interest in a serious relationship has faded. Move on. Once a guy sees you in this light it’s going to be very difficult to bring him back. Decline the request and make him wait for at least 2 more dates before you sleep with him again.

Having sex with a guy on the first date is a horrible idea that usually ends badly. If you do slip up and give into the temptations of the flesh, there are a few ways that you can steer the relationship back to where it needs to be. By knowing how to handle the situation, you might be able to understand the situation and get your guy to accept the fact that you both faltered. Always remember that you are in control of the situation and if the guy isn’t up for a real relationship, you will move on.

Body Language That Turns Women Off

Chase Christopher — Sat, 24 Dec 2011 00:00:43 +0000

Body language is an important tool to use to attract ladies. But are your actions actually sending girls the other way?

Body Language That Women Don’t Like

It has been said that 80% of all communication comes from body language. This is a form of non-verbal communiqué that has the ability to instantly turn women off. When you use the right actions, you send a message to women telling them you are confident and available. When you use the wrong actions, the thought of dating you can go out the window in just a couple of seconds.

If you are not completely aware of your non-verbal communication, you could easily lose her. When you implement the right kind of non-verbal communication, you will be able to instantly show your qualifications as a potential date. Here are some examples of body language that women don’t like.

Eye Contact

Eye contact is essential to showing your confidence. When you make eye contact with a woman, the most natural thing to do is look away. If you instantly look away, the amount of confidence being conveyed goes through the floor. The best way to overcome this is to make contact with the woman and then keep the eye contact until she looks away. This will usually occur within a couple of seconds. When she looks away first, it shows submission.

Here is a guideline:

Make eye contact with her.
Wait for her to reciprocate.
Maintain the eye contact.
Wait for her to look away.
You look away.

Posture

Posture can be a magnet to women. Do you remember your teachers showing you how to properly sit in a chair during grammar school? Regress back to the 3rd grade and implement this back into your life. Posture is non-verbal communication that can turn women off from a distance. Slouching while sitting or standing does not convey confidence. Posture can convey power. The best way to overcome bad posture is to suck in your stomach a little and hold your head up. Arch your back slightly to pull back your shoulders.

This might feel a little strange at first, but it works. Try to make yourself look as big as possible. Women are not attracted to men who slouch. Just think, how attractive was Al Bundy?

Fidgeting

Fidgeting is definitely something that turns women off. When you fidget you suggest nervousness. Women don’t want a man that is nervous when they are talking to them. This can apply to when you approach her and during the opening conversation. Making really fast movements and playing with your belt or zipper instantly shows that you are submissive to her power. The most frequent signs that a girl is into you involve HER playing with her hair, playing with jewelry or any other nervous tick.

So when you think about it, this role should be reversed. Instead of you making these movements, you should be making her fidget. When you are talking to a woman, have a mental picture of a hypnotist. A hypnotist makes very slow and calculated movements. These are there for a reason. These movements make the person being hypnotized anticipate the movements. This brings mysteriousness to your personality and will convey dominance.

The Tone Of Your Voice

The tone of your voice is technically “language” but it’s also a form of body language that can turn women off. There is a certain tone that must be applied when talking to women. If you have ever taken a public speaking class, you should know that your voice sends a message. This is applicable to talking to women also. Weak and squeaky voice tone is not attractive. There is a breathing exercise that will help you out. Breath in to fill your stomach instead of your lungs. Talk as you breath out to achieve a deeper voice.

Body language is essential to showing that you are a confidence man with a lot to offer both sexually and from a personality standpoint. When you use body language that turns women off, you aren’t getting the message through. When you fully implement the right actions, you could see a rise in the amount of women that respond to you in a positive manner.

Eye contact is your first point of interaction. Once she has submitted to your eye contact, you can approach with confidence. Use the correct posture in your walk when you approach her and she will be instantly open to a conversation. Make slow movements while you are talking to her and watch for the signs of fidgeting. Implement your deeper voice tone and she will be putty in your hands.

Best Flirting & Seduction Secrets Of 2011

Kaylen Jackson — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 16:01:08 +0000

Being a flirt is super fun, especially when you’re really GOOD at it and can take it to the next level! Here are our fave flirting & seduction tips this year.

You can also pick up some excellent suggestions from our best ever flirting and seduction articles! Once you read through these, you’ll have a better handle on how to flirt and seduce, so the next time you go out, you’ll be ready to play the game!

We’ve also found an amazing resource this year that can help you improve your dating game like you never thought possible. If you’ve always struggled with being comfortable around women, picking up women or dating them, this resource is something you definitely don’t want to pass up. It’s one of the best dating resources we’ve come across and we wouldn’t recommend anything else if you want to learn how to flirt, how to date and how to become a Casanova – really, it’s that good!

Pandora’s Box (teaches you everything about dating, from prepping yourself beforehand to changing your attitude to what to say when you’re on a date – this guide doesn’t leave anything out!)

Make 2012 a year to remember by utilizing these great tips and techniques! You’ll be the one all the girls are flocking to every time you go out and all the other men will wonder what your secret is!

10 Signs He’s Using You

Romy Morgan — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 18:00:42 +0000

Relationship advice is something you need to pay attention to if you suspect that your man is taking advantage of you. Is it true? Find out now!

Being used can be devastating to the ego and your self-esteem. If you’re in a relationship –whether budding or established and you thin that he might be taking advantage of you, you’re probably right. There are a lot of reasons that men use women. Sex is the one that most women think of, but there are others. Men cherish their self-image and having a great looking girl by their side is one of the biggest statements he can make while in public. A beautiful woman is a sign of success and power. This is a coveted feature of any man’s life, but he may only have superficial interest in you.

1. You Can Tell That He Doesn’t Really Care

Does he ask how your day was when you walk through the door? If he does, can you tell that he’s actually interested in what you did for the last 12 hours of your life? If you sense disinterest in your work, your family or your passions, he’s probably taking advantage of you. A guy that takes a genuine interest in all of these aspects is going to respect you and really care about what is going on.

2. He’s Uncompromising

When it comes to making a choice about dinner plans or going to see a movie, does he take an interest in what you want to do? If not, he’s definitely taking advantage of you or he’s a sociopath. Neither of these is good and you should probably move on. You want a man that is going to compromise with what you want and what he wants to do.

3. He’s Cold Out Of The Bedroom

If things are frigid unless you’re under the sheets, you can bet your bottom dollar that he’s wants you for sex. A man that is genuinely affectionate outside of the bedroom and in public can’t help but to show how much he cares about you. Ditch one that is only interested in a connection in the bedroom.

4. He Doesn’t Make You Feel Special

A guy that really cares about you is going to show that you’re the only girl on his mind. If you’re dating a fella that buys you generic gifts on your birthday or blows you off to spend time with his friends, he probably wants you as a backup plan. Get rid of him and get with one that will make you feel like the only girl he’s thinking about.

5. He’s Not Concerned With The Future

No man should ever talk about marriage within the first couple of months, but if your guy isn’t talking about taking trips or possible future plans, he’s probably taking advantage of you. Men that are genuinely interested in a long-term relationship will want to make the appropriate comments signaling this interest. If your man is not talking about the future, you need to ask him if he wants a long-term commitment.

6. He Doesn’t Text Or Call You Back

If you send a text to your guy, what is his typical response time? Does he apologize if he doesn’t respond in a timely manner? If he takes a day or two to get back to you, he’s probably taking advantage of you. Men that are interested won’t leave you hanging.

7. You’ve Only Been On One Date

This is a huge red flag. If the only date that you’ve gone on was the first date, you can be fairly sure that he’s just taking advantage of you. Even if you’re not sleeping with him, he probably just wants you as somebody to hang out with when he has nothing else to do. Traditionally, men want to wine and dine women so be on the lookout for a man that has no interest in taking you on a proper date.

8. He’s Disrespectful

A man should always treat a lady as a lady. If he is disrespectful to you, he just wants you until you hit the breaking point. No man should ever treat a woman as anything other than an equal. Remember this the next time he makes a disrespectful remark.

9. He Hasn’t Introduced You To His Family

If you have only been dating for a couple of weeks, you can let this one slide. But if you have been together for a couple of months and you still haven’t met his parents, there is something else going on. A man wants to have the approval of his parents. Dump him if he refuses to introduce you to his parents.

10. He Doesn’t Want To Meet Your Family

If he avoids meeting your family, this is another red flag. Meeting your family is a big deal. Looking your father in the eye while he inquires about his intentions with you is a staple of every relationship. If your guy refused to meet your family, it’s time to move on.

How To Avoid Workplace Romances

Romy Morgan — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 23:00:20 +0000

Romance has a time and place – and at work ISN’T one of them. Here’s how to keep the romance out of your daily job.

A workplace romance can be detrimental to your professional life and career. There is no getting around this. Dating somebody who you work is never a good idea. Most workplace romance takes place with young professionals. Busy work schedules can lead to a lot of time spend with others in your office. Naturally you are going to get close with the girl from sales, but you need to realize what you may be doing to the way that other people in the office see you. Not having the time to meet people outside of the office is a common excuse, but recognizing that this is a recipe for disaster is the first step in avoiding these situations at all costs. Here is a quick guide on how to avoid flirting on the job.

The Signs

The first step in avoiding flirting on the job is to recognize the signs that one is beginning. If you’re getting really close with somebody from work, make sure that you aren’t being overly flirtatious. Being playful with somebody that you work with can be fun and can make the day go by faster, but being overly flirtatious can give them the wrong idea entirely. Take a step back and look for the signs that you are falling into a workplace romance before it even begins.

Make A Commitment

Make a commitment to yourself that you’re not going to enter into a workplace romance. Telling yourself that you’re not going to do something is a good way to avoid it. When you make this commitment, you will be letting yourself down if you break it. This is entirely different than make a commitment to your employer. Most employers frown on romance on the job and this could lead to a very awkward exchange between you, the girl and the HR department.

Think The Worst

The best outcome to a workplace romance could be that you date for a little while, get engaged and then get married. But what about the worst? Have you thought about getting fired? What about if this girl claims sexual harassment? Putting these situations aside, how you would you feel if you were passed up for a promotion because you were dating a girl that would be your subordinate? Always think about the worst thing that could happen to avoid work place romance.

Keep Personal Emails To A Minimum

Emails are a standard for a lot of businesses. Memos, promotional material and other business copy are sent through emails. But what should you do if you get a personal email from a girl that is not exactly “business oriented?” Respond to it with language that cannot be misconstrued. If the emails keep coming, ignore them and have a chat with the girl so she knows that it makes you uncomfortable. Emails have a way a of surfacing even after they are deleted so keep this mind before you that “Send” button.

Business Trips

Business trips can be a lot of fun. Most companies will send their employees to different conferences around the country to get them oriented with the latest technology or techniques in their field. However, business trips can also lead to romance. Sitting at the hotel bar with a coworker sharing stories from college or discussing former relationships can make sparks fly. If you see this coming, avoid the situation by heading back to your room early.

Get Out

One of the best methods to avoiding a workplace romance is to have a non-workplace romance. Being in a relationship will cut all of the funny business out of your real business. Make time to get out and meet people other than those that you work with. Join a gym or just get together with friends and head out one night a week. Making an effort to meet people other than those that you work with will put you in a position to meet a girl that will not affect your professionalism.

We have all heard the horror stories of a workplace romance. Some of the outcomes can even be scary. Dating on the job can easily ruin your credibility within a business and there are countless people who have changed jobs specifically because of this. If you love your job then you shouldn’t be willing to sacrifice it on a fling. Be careful during business trips and recognize the signs before a workplace romance begins. Following these simple guidelines will allow you to avoid flirting on the job and keep you in good standing with your employer.

Where To Meet The Right Guys

Romy Morgan — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 23:00:52 +0000

Dating tips can help you when you’re on a date, but how do you get there in the first place? Use THESE dating tips to help you find Mr. Right!

Meeting guys can seem like a pretty daunting task. If you have done the bar and club scene then you know what it’s like to have a sweaty guy try to rub his stuff all over you at 1 am. Even in a martini stupor this isn’t flattering. Meeting quality guys that will treat you right and respect a long-term relationship doesn’t have to be an elusive mirage. The fact of the matter is that there are worthwhile guys all around you. You just have to know where to look. Dating takes initiative. If you’re serious about find a relationship with the right kind of guy, here are a few suggestions to get your started.

At Church

Before you go into some kind of rant about religion, just hear me out. Men that go to church has morals that supersede the bar and club scene. They aren’t going to want some dirty tryst in the back of their car after last call. If you’re at all religious, think about how you can meet some quality guys at your church. You don’t have to be the biggest devout Christian, but if you were raised in the church this is a good place for meeting guys. Even if you don’t meet any guys, this could be a great place for making more friends.

At The Gym

Yes, the gym is a pretty popular choice. There are a ton of guys who like to stay in shape. If you also like to stay in shape then this could be a common interest that you might want to consider with your next potential relationship. Almost every town has local gym. In my experience, the local YMCA will have more young professionals because of the classes and services they offer for a cheaper price. The facilities are pretty vast also so you might want to take advantage of this.

In Electronics Stores

A ton of guys are wild about their gadgets. If you don’t believe me then head over to the Apple Store or you local Best Buy. Hang around the computer aisles and wait for a guy to come over. Ask him a question about a computer or a hard drive and let him teach you something about it. This is a great way of meeting men. You can base whether or not he’s a complete geek on how he dresses, but most guys know about electronics.

At The Dog Park

This is one of the best dating tips, especially if you have a dog, although you can still go if you don’t. Head over to your local dog park. The dog park gives you a great way to let your dog run free while you can chat up some fellow dog owners. A lot of singles have dogs. It gives them company since they are single. This is probably the reason that you have a dog. See a guy that you like? Ask him about what breed his dog is to get the ball rolling.

Take A Class

One of the best places to take a class at is The Home Depot or Lowes. Both of these places will have guys trying to learn about home repair. Even if you don’t meet a guy in one of these classes you can gain a little knowledge on how your home works. After the class is over you can scour the aisles for good-looking guys who are looking at tools. Strike up a conversation about painting a room and see where it goes.

Through Single Friends

Although this is a little obvious, your single friends know you best and they will be able to recommend some great guys. If you’re not using your single friends to meet guys, you should start immediately. Being set up on a blind date can be pretty nerve racking so if you do go with a single friend’s recommendation, make sure that you meet him first.

At Local Organizations

A great place for meeting single guys is through a local organization. Taking up a sport or a book club is a good place to meet single guys because you have something to talk about instantly. If you aren’t feeling it after a little while, you can reengage in the club or the sport.

Meeting men doesn’t have to be a full time job. In all of these occasions you can have a lot of fun while you try to meet some guys. In order to meet somebody that you really like you might have to come out of your comfort zone a little bit. The best dating tips are to take a chance and join a club or take a class. Just get out there! Meeting people is not very difficult when you have an open mind and connect on a deeper level than what he’s drinking.

How To Get Her Into Your Bedroom – Tonight

Chase Christopher — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 00:00:16 +0000

Seduction is a game that you have to get good at if you want to get a woman in bed with you. Try these seduction tactics if you want to get laid tonight!

So, we’ve all been there. You meet a woman that is really cool and you’ve been out with her a couple of times. Since you have taken her out for dinner over the last couple of dates, you want to move things into a more personal setting. You invite her over to your house for dinner and to hang out. Inviting a woman over to your house for dinner is one of the best ways to escalate the relationship to a physical and more personal level. This works the best because she gets to see your personal style and gains access to “your world.”

You cook the dinner and everything is going great. But then the nervousness comes in. How do you get her from the living room to your bedroom? This is where a lot of guys fumble. Getting her from your living room to your bedroom is not a very hard task, but many guys fail because they have not prepared for the situation. Here is a very simple guide on how to get her from the living room to the bedroom.

Getting Prepared

Preparing your home for an impending visit is imperative to success. Make sure that your bathroom has been cleaned prior to the girl coming over. If the girl walks into your bathroom and it’s messy or undesirables are left inside the you know where, you can be sure that she’s not going to see you in the most positive light. Vacuum, dust, and mop your floors. When it comes to your bedroom, make sure that your bed is made and that you have condoms in the nightstand. This is the only place in the house that you should keep them (more on that in a second). Dirty laundry should be in a clothes hamper in a closet and the blinds should be down. The last thing you want to do is be messing with blinds when you should be starting the seduction game.

NOTE: If at all possible, move the best TV in the house to your bedroom.

The Preview

Even though the girl has been out with you a few times, she could be just as nervous going to your house as you are having her over. When a woman comes to your home, they are in one way submitting trust. Even though this is fairly minimal, it’s still apparent. When she comes into your house, offer her a tour. This is essential to creating comfort. Women and men both feel uncomfortable with the unknown. When you give her a tour, she knows where everything is in the house and has a cognitive view of the entire structure. Think about this. Have you ever felt nervous when going to a new bar or club? That’s how she feels. This simple measure puts her at ease and starts the seduction process.

Entertainment

When you are finished with dinner, you can’t just start initiating foreplay. Come up with a way to display physicality between the two of you. A movie works best because you can put your arm around her or cuddle on the couch. Watching TV is not recommended because changing channels, awkward commercial breaks or indecisiveness on what to watch can interrupt the impending moment. You want a streamlined activity such as a movie to put the activity on autopilot. If you have a roommate, you can easily get her from the living room to the bedroom by saying something like “We should watch this in my room so we don’t bother my roommate.

Another way to get her from your living room to your bedroom is to say something like “The TV in my bedroom is better than the one down here” or “this couch isn’t very comfortable for watching a movie. We should go upstairs.” Since you have moved the best TV into your bedroom, this will work. Because she has already been in your room, she will be more compliant.

When To Throw In the Towel

Women are not stupid. If there is interest and trust, they will not have a problem with going into your bedroom. If she is repeatedly refusing to go into your bedroom, there is a problem. Half of seduction is knowing how to not push here too far. When she is uncomfortable she will have her guard up. When she is comfortable, she will comply with what you’re asking with little defiance. This is the easiest way to get her from your living room to your bedroom. When implemented properly, you will see a huge spike in your results.

5 Signs He Only Wants A One Night Stand

Serena Paige — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 17:00:26 +0000

A one night stand can be fun, but only if you’re in on it and okay with it. Here are 5 indicators he might only want a one night stand, so you can steer clear.

A one-night stand can be one of the biggest mistakes for a woman’s life. Let’s face it. Some men will do anything to get into a girl’s pants. If a fella has ever played you, you know how stupid you can feel afterward. Being able to tell if a guy is looking for a one-night stand or a real relationship is a huge asset for the nightlife scene in your area. There are several indicators that you can take into account when determining whether or he wants a one-night stand. Here is a guide to keep the creeps away.

1. He Buys You Drinks…A Lot Of Drinks

A date that is only looking for a one stand is going to buy you a lot of drinks. He will probably be drinking a lot also so this is something that you will need to look out for. Men that buy a lot of drinks for women are trying to get them loose and ready for whatever. The release of inhibitions associated with alcohol is a staple among one night stands. Refuse the drinks that he is offering your and see what he says. If he starts teasing you about being a lightweight, he probably just wants a one night stand. If he lets up and doesn’t push the drinks on you, he might be looking for a more serious relationship.

2. The Conversation Always Comes Back To The Same Thing

When you’re talking to a guy he should be telling you about himself. This could include what he does, what he likes, if he’s there with friends or where he went to school. Men that want one night stands typically sexualize the situation right off the bat. If you are talking and he keeps coming back to his car, his condo, his job title or any other phallic metaphor it’s probably best to leave the situation as is. Any fella that mentions sex within the first 20 minutes of meeting him is not looking for a serious relationship.

3. He’s Trying To “Bounce” You

Women tend to stay in packs. If you are out with a bunch of girlfriends and a potential date tries to get you away from them, he’s looking for a one-night stand. Here’s the reasoning. Women don’t want to be judged by their friends. A girl that goes to another club or a different bar with a guy they just met is less of an offense than a girl that goes home with a guy right in front of their friends. Men know this so they try to separate the girl from her friends.

When the two of you walk into a new bar or club together everybody will think that you’re a couple. This eliminates the chances of another guy hitting on you, leaving you as a victim to his routine. If he says something like “Hey, it’s kind of loud in here. Can we go outside and talk for a bit?” He’s probably not looking for a one-night stand. Bouncing is a very common practice in the “Pick-Up Artist” world.

4. He Doesn’t Want To Meet Your Friends

A huge tell for a guy that only wants a one-night stand is when they don’t want to meet your friends. When you’re in a bar or a club with friends, the guy should want their approval. A potential date that is interested in you and your life will want to meet your friends so they can put in a good word for him. For a guy wanting a one night stand, your friends are obstacles that could get in his way. They will try to keep you away from your friends for as long as possible and then make an excuse of why they don’t want to meet them. They might say something like “I need another drink” or “Let me run to bathroom real quick.”

5. He Doesn’t Ask For Your Number

If you really want to know whether the guy is looking for a one night stand, the best way to do it is to play the game yourself. Pretend that you and your friends are leaving the bar. Even if you’re not leaving the bar you can say “we changed our mind.” If the guy does not ask for your number before you leave, he’s only looking for a one-night stand. Men don’t want to be perceived as players by the rest of the girls in the bar. When he takes your number, other girls are going to be uninterested. This messes up his persona and he won’t risk it on a girl that is leaving.

Don’t Let Approach Anxiety KILL Your Dating Game!

Chase Christopher — Wed, 14 Dec 2011 18:00:25 +0000

Dating is intimidating if you’re nervous about making the initial introduction. Here’s how to get over it and go up to girls with CONFIDENCE!

Getting Over The Nervousness

Nervousness over the introduction is one of the biggest deterrents when it comes to dating. Many men feel that walking up to a girl and talking to her can be a detrimental action. “What if she doesn’t talk back to me?” “What if she thinks I’m an idiot?” These are things that run through our heads when we even think about walking up to a pretty girl in a grocery store, bar or night club. Getting over approach anxiety can be a serious confidence booster for a man. Achieving confidence of the introduction can even extend into the business world as well as making new friends. But how do you get over it? To say the least, this is easier said than done.

Have A Routine

Routines are one of the best ways to get over dating approach anxiety. Routines take the pressure out of introducing yourself to a woman. The best way to construct your routines is to make a few different ones for typical dating scenarios. For instance, come up with a routine for the grocery store, the bar, nightclubs, parties or other social occasions. Practice your routines in a mirror and think about the different answers that the girl would give to each routine. Make sure that you have a few things to say back for each answer that they could give. Being prepared for your introduction is a basic essential for getting over your fear.

Start Small

Starting small will build you up so you can eventually sustain an introduction. This can be implemented pretty easily. The next time that you go to the bank or to a restaurant, talk to the teller or the hostess. You don’t have to get into their life story, just ask them a few questions that you might not have otherwise. For instance, when you go into the bank, ask the teller how their day has been. Ask them if they have been busy. They will of course answer you back because they want to seem friendly, but it’s good nonetheless. When you walk into a restaurant, ask the hostess when the busiest time is for the restaurant or something similar. This small talk is a stepping-stone to an introduction and then, possibly dating.

The Venue

A great way to do you first approach is to go somewhere that you never go. For instance, instead of going up to girls at your favorite bar, go to a bar that is on the other side of town. Many men think that if they fail on the introduction, they will not be able to go back to the venue at which it occurred due to embarrassment. This will not occur if you go somewhere that you might not ever go back to. Going up to women at a place that you frequent is not recommended, as you might be uncomfortable seeing them again, especially if you’re dating someone else at the time.

The Actual Introduction

The first meeting can be nerve racking if you aren’t prepared. Remember your routines and how you made the small talk before. You want to use the same tonality during your introduction as you did at the bank or restaurant. Be friendly, but not overbearing. Always go up to the girl with a smile. Do not offer your hand, as this is not a sign of romanticism, but of a friend. Deliver the first line of your routine with confidence. It helps to envision yourself as a character in a movie. This puts you into a mind frame of control when playing the dating game. Movies are always controlled storytelling and there will be a part of you that fully believes the girl cannot resist.

The Conversation

Listen to what they say during the conversation. Don’t be scared if the girl does not respond to your routine the way that you may have thought. This is fine. Just be yourself and if you start to get nervous, excuse yourself from the conversation. One of the best non-threatening ways to get out of a conversation that is going south is to say something like “Well, I’ll let you get back to your shopping.” This shows that you are willing to let her go and shows confidence.

Getting Her Number

If the conversation is going well feel free to ask for her phone number. This might happen or it might not. If you are really nervous, act like there is somewhere that you have to be. This kind of gives her an ultimatum. Simply say “I didn’t realize it’s so late, but can I get your number? I’d love to talk with you again.” If she refuses, it’s not the end of the world. You’re somewhere that you will never go again and nobody has seen you. If she does give you her number, you’re off to a great start.

Dating nervousness can be a killer of men. When we are afraid of going up to women, we miss out on potential opportunities to date somebody really special. Following these guidelines can give you a low pressure way of introducing yourself to women with little hassle.

Why He Didn’t Call You Back

Chase Christopher — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 17:00:13 +0000

Dating tips can help the first date go without a hitch, but what do you do if the guy you like doesn’t phone back? What’s the deal?

It’s never easy when you meet a guy that you like and he doesn’t call you back. If you’ve gone out a few times and you haven’t heard from him a couple of days, it’s especially infuriating. This is an enigma that many women find themselves in. You were laughing, there weren’t any gaps in the conversation; you even left with a kiss. So what’s his problem? Many women make the mistake of actually calling the guy. Traditionally, men are the ones that should be vying for the woman’s attention. In this modern age, many women are taking the reins and trying to at least give it a mild effort to get together. But not all of the blame can be put on him. Sometimes you have to take a look inward. Here are the most common reasons that he didn’t call you back and why you shouldn’t call him.

Control

Control is a characteristic that not all men can handle. At even the slightest hint of a control issue, most men will walk away. If you insist on a restaurant or he sees you as anything other than warm and easygoing, he probably deleted your number right after the date. Being confident in yourself and knowing what you want is great quality to have, but some men are not turned on by it. In this specific case, it’s probably best to move onto the next one. If he wants to get in touch, he’ll call you.

Being Too Nice

Did you send him a thank you text after the date? While a lot of guys would appreciate this, some guys actually don’t like it. When some men are pursuing women, they like to be the chaser. When a girl concedes to liking him, he might lose interest. This is especially true with men that are in business or make a lot of money. They love the thrill of the chase and when that is gone, they are left with nothing –so to speak. There is a difference between being grateful and them perceiving you as desperate. Keep the thank you texts to a minimum. Words work a lot better than texts anyway. Say thank you right after the meal and then once again before you leave for the night. This will stick with them without coming off as desperation.

Blowing Up The Spot

How many texts or calls have you made in the last couple of days? How many of those were reciprocated? When you send a text and he takes a couple of hours to respond, he’s most likely busy or not interested. We live in a world where our phones have the ability to get online, purchase items and make the traditional call. For most of us, our phones are our lifelines. If you send him a text and he takes more than 6 hours to respond, you might not want to call him again. Wait for him to call or text you. Alternatively, responding to a text instantly can come off as desperation. If you haven’t heard from him a couple of days, give him a call to see how he’s doing. If he doesn’t call you back or responds to a call with a text, rest assured that he’s not putting you at the top of his priorities.

The Prima Donna

Were you rude to the waitress? Did you get hammered? Nice guys are not going to call you out on your actions if they don’t know you. They will just sit there and take it until the meal is over. They will say things like “I’ll call you” or “We should do this again,” but they have no intention of calling you ever again. Think about whether there was anything that you did on the date that would have turned him off. If you were the epitome of perfection, he might just be giving you a little distance to show that he’s not completely desperate. If you were a complete terror, learn from the experience and do it differently next time.

Exceptions

There are exceptions that must be considered. A death in the family, emergency at work or a busted pipe in his home are obviously appropriate reasons that he hasn’t called you back. But one thing that you must take into account is how many times these “emergencies” are occurring. If it’s truly a one-time thing, he probably feels bad and would like to make it up to you. If it’s happening frequently, he might be seeing a couple of girls at the same time. Gauge his excuses and make your own mind up of whether or not to give him a second chance.

Best Dating Tips Of 2011

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 14:00:39 +0000

Dating can be fun and exciting – not frustrating – if you arm yourself with the knowledge of dating experts. You don’t have to go into bars, clubs or malls blindly hoping that someone will approach you and ask you out. Instead, you can learn to take control and become a total master at getting dates!

We found a lot of great suggestions on how to flirt with and seduce women and what to say when you’re face to face with a potential mate. But one thing that became clear over and over was how important confidence and self worth were when dating! Even the best “tricks” don’t match up to how powerful a great smile and confidence are.

Take a look at some of our best advice of the year!

Don’t forget to take a look at some of our all time favorite dating articles!

Very few dating resources have what it takes to make a guy really, really good at the dating game. Even fewer resources can take a total dud and turn him into a Casanova! Here’s the best dating resources we found this year, including some great date ideas that we’ve never heard anywhere else!

Pandora’s Box – Hands down THE best resource for dating!
300 Creative Dates – Inexpensive date ideas that are truly unique.

Why Your Online Dating Profile Sucks

Chase Christopher — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 23:00:25 +0000

Online dating isn’t as easy as it’s made out to be. You have to present yourself in the best light if you actually want people to be interested in you.

Online dating has become a forefront of meeting people over the last couple of years. Anybody who has dabbled in online dating has felt the effects of emailing somebody who seemed cool, but never hear back from her. If you are the kind of guy who sends message after message but is not getting any results, you might have to concede to the fact that your online dating profile isn’t very good. Online dating is basically marketing.

Do you think that a company would ever market their product starting with the worst features? Of course not. So when you market yourself with your worst features, you can pretty much see the reason you aren’t getting any results. If you have a profile that has any of these characteristics, you can be pretty sure that it’s not good.

The Primary Picture

When you log into your dating site, look at your primary picture. Is it not the best photo of you? Is it just you and nobody else? If so, your online dating profile already blows. When a woman sees your picture in the listings, they will automatically determine whether or not they are physically attracted to you. One of the best ways to get them interested is to crop your photo. A lot of online dating websites allow you to crop your picture for the primary photo. Get a picture of you and a bunch of your friends and crop yourself for the primary picture. This way, when she clicks on the picture, she not only sees a great picture of you, she sees you out with friends having fun.

Bad Grammar

Did you know that there are people who actually pay to have their online dating profiles setup for them? Some of us aren’t great spellers or great writers. If you are not capitalizing “I” or using texting terms in your online dating profile, it’s not good. Use proper grammar throughout the profile to show that you have half a brain. Would you want to date somebody that can’t string a sentence together correctly? I hope not. That is what women think when they see your run-on sentences or terrible comma splices. Have a friend proofread whatever your profile says before you post it.

The Life Story Profile

Yes, women want to get to know you, but think of this as a cover letter. Would you write nine pages to a potential employer or would you send them a brief cover letter explaining that you would make a good employee for their available position? When you write your entire life story on a dating profile you give away all of the mysteriousness that should unfold over time after you meet the girl. This can easily come off as desperation, which is something that women can’t stand. Let them know that you’re a great catch, but leave the manifesto to your literary agent.

Not Enough Information

Have you ever opened an instruction manual and realized that it was pretty much useless? This is how women are going to feel if you only put in the required words to complete the profile. “I like being outdoors,” is a really bad sentence to have in your online dating profile. Elaborate without going too far. Make sure that are conveying the kind person that you actually are. Do not lie about things that you have done just to fill up space. Write something meaningful that is genuine and you will see more positive results.

Overly Sexual

Everybody loves sex. This is pretty much a given. But time after time, we see online dating profiles that are too sexually driven. Having an undertone of being a sexual being is acceptable, but there are websites for finding a “friends with benefits” situation. If you sex-up your descriptions, you could instantly turn women off. They remember this too so it might be a good idea to start from scratch. Change your username and primary photo if you are guilty of this. Most online dating sites will allow you to change your username with a paid subscription. If you are using a free site, close your account and open a new one.

Dirty Laundry

Your ex stomped all over your and you hate her. That’s fine, but there’s no room for that on your dating site. If you even mention your ex or previous relationships, your online dating profile blows. Talking about an ex and expressing your feelings about the breakup is something that should be left until at least the 5th date. Remove any and all mentioning of your ex. Women and men both want to feel like they are working with a clean palette even though we know that the person has been with others in the past.

Stripper Seduction – How To Pick Up A Stripper (For Free!)

Dean Cortez — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 17:00:22 +0000

Stripper girls can be seduced like any other girl – but it does take some finesse. Here’s how you can pick them up, without paying them to go home with you!

Why Strip Clubs Are So Irresistible

During my years living in Las Vegas, I came to appreciate strip clubs as one of the best environments on the planet to pick up hot, fun and extremely sexual women. As you know if you’ve ever partied in Las Vegas, there are countless bars and nightclubs where you can go to run game on “regular” girls. But I found that the logistics at strip clubs make them hard to resist:

Strip clubs are packed with sexy, scantily-clad women who love to party.
Every element of the atmosphere, from the lighting to the music, is designed to create an erotic, sensual mood.
It is the JOB of all these beautiful women to approach YOU!

Now, I realize of course that they’re approaching you because they want you to buy lap dances—at first. But by using a few clever techniques, you can get them to drop their “sales routine” and interact with you on a real level.

Pushing A Stripper’s Emotional Buttons

At that point, it’s simply a matter of knowing which emotional buttons to push, to get them to feel genuinely interested in you, and attracted. (The “stripper brain” is wired in a particular way, and there are tactics you can use that will work on virtually any girl who works the pole for a living.)

But before I arm you with the techniques necessary to pull off a successful Strip Club Seduction, I want to share with you the #1 Deadly Mistake that men make when they’re in strip clubs. This blunder utterly destroys their chances of ever hooking up with a stripper outside of the club.

By the way, I should also mention that if you’re content going to strip clubs just to hang out with your buddies, drink beer, and buy lap dances—knowing full well that you’re being hustled and will never sleep with any of the girls—go right ahead. You’re donating to a worthy cause: strippers have mouths to feed, bills to pay, and druggie musician boyfriends to support.

But on the other hand, if you’d prefer to step out of the “customer zone” and actually charm and seduce a hot stripper into your bed—and enjoy a rock star sex life, without having to spend any money—then I’ll show you the tactics you need to make it happen.

Trust me, once you use these methods to meet up with a stunning stripper outside of the club and bring her back to your place, you’re never going to want to return to the strip club as a “chump customer” again. You will see strip clubs in a new light. Instead of being a place where you spend your money only to be cock-teased, you’ll see the strip club as a target-rich environment where you can meet and charm beautiful and exotic babes.

Don’t Make THIS Mistake In A Strip Club!

So now, let me reveal that BIG MISTAKE that I referred to earlier, so that you never commit it in a strip club again.

The number one mistake that dudes make in strip clubs is behaving like a customer. The way the strippers see it, there are only two types of men in her work environment:

Customers
Everyone Else.

Your mission—should you choose to accept it—is to completely avoid category #1, and always be firmly planted in category #2. Every stripper I’ve ever hung out with (and I know hundreds) has a firm rule that she will not date/have sex with/party with customers. But they’re up for having fun with other guys.

It’s also important for you to understand the reason WHY strippers have this rule about not dating/sleeping with customers. It’s not because it goes against their morals. And it’s not because of the club rules (even though the management would definitely frown upon them it).

Why Strippers “Don’t” Date Customers

The reason is mainly financial. Strippers earn their living from customers. And the best customers are the “regulars” who come back to the club time and again, to sit with their favorite girl and buy stripteases.

Now, if the stripper was to accept this guy’s invitation to go on a date, and she wound up hooking up with him, do you think he’d ever come back to the club and spend more money on those silly lap dances? No way. He’d have no reason to blow any more cash at the club, and the stripper would lose a revenue stream.

The other reason strippers have their “I don’t bang customers” rule is because they associate the word “customer” with needy, desperate, or just plain creepy men. You can’t imagine some of the weirdos and sleazeballs these girls have to put up with at the club.

To cope with their job, they keep their minds focused on the money. They adopt a phony persona that they show to the customers. (This is why all strippers use “stage names.”) They don’t want to view customers as human beings; they see them as ATM machines from which they will withdraw as much money as possible.

And this is why the “golden rule” of strip clubs is this: STRIPPERS DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH CUSTOMERS. If you behave like one, you’re never going to lay a stripper. End of story.

Online Dating: How & When To Make The First Contact

Michelle Hemingway — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 18:47:22 +0000

Online dating should always be premeditated – that’s the beauty of online dating! You can have the communication well thought out in advance. Here’s how.

In online dating, the first move is unlike any “in real life” first meeting you’ve ever had.

The Hunt

The first move in online dating is entirely premeditated. There’s no striking up a natural conversation at the water cooler, or meeting at a bar. You came to the site looking for a date, and anyone that responds to your messages or profile is looking for the same thing. Sure, you may both be looking for different types of romance, but at least the core is the same.

This can make online dating feel like a bit of a hunt. Both parties are looking for certain traits that they will use to filter out potential candidates. These might be age, looks or location. Some people focus on the “attitude” or “tone” of the profile, or the level of commitment they think the profile conveys. Because of these filters, when the first move is made, it carries a certain feeling of excitement, especially for the person being contacted. Out of all these choices, you chose them. You looked at tons of profile pictures and while you could have gone with the flirty girl or the shirtless guy, you chose them, despite being unable to crop out that random guy’s arm from their profile picture.

When you finally do find someone you’d like to “meet”, you can make the process seem like less of a hunt by actually tailoring your message to him or her. Your first message should say more than “I saw your profile and you look interesting. We should talk.” They’ve received spam emails with more personality than that. Try to refer to at least one unique thing in their profile or picture. Try something like “That’s an awesome view in your profile picture. Where was it taken?” or “I had a friend who went to that college! They raved about this restaurant downtown.”

The Catch

Striking a conversation with someone online can be scary. When the Internet was in its infancy, many people held misinformed ideas of what it was. The cliche was finding that perfect profile of a 6 foot 4 inch tall, blond, muscular, polo-playing firefighter who happens to be the heir to an empire but risks his life because he’s so courageous, only to learn that he’s a 5 foot 2 inch tall unemployed couch surfer who took 30 seconds to find a good profile picture. Or falling in love with emails from a leggy super-model who shared your passion for old movies and football, only to learn that she’s also that same 5 foot 2 inch couch surfer.

Now, the risks remain, but there’s a certain level of honesty expected from all involved. Make sure that your first move is a genuine one, even if it’s not necessarily full disclosure. They don’t need to know about your unpaid parking tickets yet. Or that you love trash TV late at night. But you should still be honest. When you make the first move, avoid the temptation to send an inaccurate photo or to fake a passion for college lacrosse. As soon as you meet, they’ll know how accurate the photo was, and if the relationship becomes serious, you don’t want to risk old “fibs” coming back to bite you.

The Bait

Every online dating site or social networking site has their own twist on the non-verbal, and non-committal, first move. Depending on what site you are on, you can poke, wink, cruise, smile, nod, give a flower or do any number of other ice-breaking actions.

Before you click that button, ask yourself if this is really the way you want your initial meeting to happen. It’s literally the modern day equivalent of walking into a bar, winking at someone and walking away.

To some people, it’s off-putting. They think you only like them enough to click a button, but not enough to say “hello, I saw your profile and noticed that we both like traveling.” They can’t tell whether you’re actually interested, or just quickly hitting as many people as you can.

Consider making your first move a little more meaningful by actually sending a message, particularly one that includes a reference to something in the person’s profile. If you share a common interest, use that as an icebreaker, not a “wink.”

The Release

The initial contact can be the end of the road for many online relationships. Accept it. There’s no obligation that either party has to go on at least one date with every person that talks to them online, or even that they have to respond to your first message. Or your second, third or fourth. It’s possible that you’ve contacted an inactive profile, or your target just found the love of his or her life minutes before you sent your message.

If you’re absolutely convinced that the person was a match, then a follow-up message may be appropriate. They may legitimately have forgotten to respond to you, or unable to get to a computer. Be ready to call a time of death on this potential relationship if you still don’t receive a response though.

Making the first move in online dating can be nerve-wracking and unusual, but every relationship has to begin somewhere. If you can avoid certain behaviors and you are willing to start a conversation, you can find easily handle the world of online dating.

Online Dating – When To Take Your Relationship To The Real World

Michelle Hemingway — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 23:00:38 +0000

Online dating can be fun, but there’s a point where you need to move from online dating to real life. Here’s how to know when the right time really is.

Because people move at different speeds within the world of internet dating, it’s important to be careful about when you move the dating from online to offline. While you may connect with one person who is interested in meeting almost right away, the next person may prefer to take things slower and get to know you first.

No Pressure – Move At Your Own Pace

The truth is, moving from online to offline dating is not an exact science. The right time to venture offline and meet the other person is when you both are ready. This may take as little as one day for some internet couples and as much as a few months for others.

It’s important not to try to pressure your other, cyber, half into meeting you or not meeting you. The end goal is that both of you are comfortable with whatever decisions are made and that you are sure that whatever happens is right for you. If you put pressure on the other person to do what you want, you will be beginning the relationship in a flawed manner – one that could have more serious consequences in the future.

Make Good Use Of Online Tools

It may be a good idea to transition into video chat meetings before meeting in the real world. With video chat, you can get a good idea of what the other person looks like, if they’ve been putting up fake or altered photos, and if you connect with their appearance as much as you have with their personality. Video chat can get both of you accustomed to a more intimate form of meeting than simply chatting with another faceless entity. This can bring you both one step closer toward being ready to actually meet for the first time.

Honesty Is Always Crucial!

Whether or not you want to meet someone right away, it’s important to be honest and transparent in all your dealings with them. If you aren’t interested in meeting them, instead of stringing them along for months and months – getting their hopes up before dashing them to pieces – simply tell them how you feel. If you’re not really interested in meeting people, you may want to reconsider whether or not joining an online dating service is really for you.

How Online Dating Usually Progresses

The online dating progression usually begins with first contact on an online dating service. If you like the person’s profile, you then progress to chatting with them to further advance the connection. If this goes well, you may decide to upgrade to phone call status in which you exchange phone numbers and attempt a you-hang-up-no-you-hang-up kind of love. Once the phone calls are running smoothly and both of you are enjoying yourselves, laughing, and having a good time together, the relationship may finally be ready to progress to a first meeting.

If you are comfortable with your date on the phone and have also video chatted with them various times, chances are that your first meeting will go well and only enhance the relationship. Still, chatting with or calling a person is quite different than meeting them in person, and you should always be a little cautious at your first meeting. When moving from online to offline dating for the first time, always let a close friend or family member know where you’ll be going and how long you plan to be there. You may want to also leave them with a photo and some personal information about the person you plan to meet. First time meetings should always take place in a public area.

Examine Your Motives Thoroughly

Don’t pressure yourself into meeting your online date in person out of fear or guilt. If the only reason you are going to meet in person is because you’re afraid you’ll miss out on a golden opportunity, you may want to reconsider your motives. If you haven’t been able to talk to your special online friend for a few weeks and feel that the best way to make up for your guilt is to meet them in person, that might also not be the best reason to take the relationship from online to offline status. It is a natural part of the spectrum of human emotions to feel both fear and guilt, but make sure that you have better reasons than those to take your relationship into the real world.

If you do finally decide to take the plunge and move from online to offline dating, make sure that you can live up to the face you have presented them with in your online interactions. Being honest about yourself, your personality and appearance, right from the start is the best way to make your first meeting flow smoothly. Whatever you have said about yourself over the days, weeks, or months of your online relationship will all be either proven or disproven in the first few minutes of your first meeting, so speak wisely.

Dating – How To REALLY Be Successful

Michael Webb — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 23:00:29 +0000

Dating doesn’t have to be difficult with these easy to follow suggestions. Find out how to win the dating game today! There are some basic guidelines you should follow to ensure that your date is as successful as possible.

Be Flexible

When scheduling a date, try your best to plan for problems to crop up. If you are going to a concert that begins at 8:00pm, don’t plan on arriving at 7:55pm. Try to put in a 30-minute cushion in case your date is late, you have car problems, you run into traffic or something else happens. Being late can cause a lot of stress on a date. Arriving early gives you time to relax and have a good conversation while you wait.

If you are planning an outdoor date, try to have an indoor backup plan in case of inclement weather. Don’t let a date get ruined because you can’t have your picnic at the beach. Have your picnic in your living room instead. Or go bowling.

Realize that unavoidable things happen. You might lose your tickets or the restaurant might have lost your reservation. Don’t let these situations get you steamed. Show your date that you have class, composure and a sense of humor. Laugh it off.

Use Your Senses

If you want to have a really successful date, try to include as many of the five senses as possible. Here are just a few examples.

Taste – good food, eating wild berries, nice wine or champagne
Smell – candles, fragrant flowers, food grilling, mints
Touch – sand in your toes, waterfalls, a gentle back massage, a warm fire
Sight – sunsets, beautiful gardens, tour of a historic building
Sound – a live band, birds chirping, waves crashing, waterfalls

Make It Personal

The ideas in this book are just a guide. If you know your date’s favorite colors, music, movies, restaurants, hobbies, etc. you can make the dates even more meaningful. Perhaps you should do the “Favorite Date” as one of your first so you have this information on hand.

But just because someone has a favorite restaurant, don’t get stuck in a rut by going there all the time. New experiences will add pizzazz to your relationship.

Surprise!

Almost everyone loves a good surprise. Build up the anticipation for a date by keeping certain elements a surprise. Maybe you can send clues for the date throughout the week. If it is a rather “simple” date, don’t play it up too big, otherwise your date might be disappointed.

I think surprises always add to the mystery and romance of a date. It tells me that my date has taken the time to plan something in advance.

What NOT To Do On a First Date

On your first date (and future dates) you want to make a good impression. Here are some things you want to be careful NOT to do:

Forget your wallet
Talk about all your previous relationships
Brag – few things are more offensive than someone who is so full of them self
Chew tobacco or reek of cigarette smoke
Get drunk
Talk about sex or make physical advances
Be late
Do dinner and a movie (how ordinary)

Online Dating: 5 Ways To Stay Safe

Michelle Hemingway — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 17:00:54 +0000

Online dating is a great way to meet people, but it’s also an outlet for scumbags. Keep these tips in mind if you want your online dating experience to be safe.

Online dating has become one of the fastest-growing internet industries over the course of the past decade. Dozens of websites have staked their claim in the profitable realm of building relationships through the magic of cyberspace. While online dating is an attractive endeavor for folks who have a shortage of free time but an interest in meeting that special someone, it is important to know some general rules of the road in order to avoid regrettable or potentially dangerous situations. Here are five keys to keeping yourself safe while looking for a mate online.

Don’t Give Away Too Much

While you will certainly be asked about things such as your height, eye color and career field, it is important to draw lines regarding the distribution of your personal info. Information such as your address, the names and ages of your children or the location of your workplace should be kept under wraps until you have met with and personally verified the trustworthiness of a person. Not giving away too much applies to money as well as facts.

Over the years, hundreds of online daters have reported being the victim of scammers that were able to get money out of their pocket using a variety of creative techniques. As is the case with most situations that have a small potential for danger, a little common sense goes a long way.

Don’t Get Too Serious Too Quickly

Given that people who peruse online dating sites often do so while alone in the comfort of their own homes, thoughts and emotions tend to race in the wake of meeting someone who could be the one. In the aftermath of an introduction and a positive correspondence, many folks will drift off to sleep at night while fantasizing about a new life with Mr. or Mrs. Right.

While dreaming and wishful thinking can certainly be a fun and thrilling practice to engage in, it is important to not ante all of your emotional chips to the center of the table during the first hand. No matter how sprung you are on a potential online mate, you should never put yourself in a position to be easily heartbroken.

Use The Website To Communicate

Quality dating sites will have a user-friendly interface that allows correspondence between members in a private and secure setting. By conducting your communications within the dating website, you can streamline the process and ensure that nobody trolling the site will have easy access to pertinent information such as your e-mail address or phone number. Having a common place to do all of your online dating interactions can also minimize the chance of an un-received or lost message, which can sometimes lead to misunderstandings and missed opportunities.

Understand That Deception Does Happen

While the vast majority of online daters often slightly embellish entries such as weight or annual income, some folks go so far as to create a false persona. It’s one thing to say you weight 150 pounds when you are actually closer to 170, it’s quite another to say that you are a 27-year-old professional surfer when you are a 45-year-old manager of a Dairy Queen. Be careful of people or biographies that seem far too good to be honest. Hearts often race at the sight of a gorgeous face that claims to have a multi-million dollar annual income, but there is little means of verifying information up-front.

A good way to get to the bottom of a person and figure out whether or not what they are advertising is true is to attain the name of the company they work for and the city it is located in. Typing the information into a Google search will reveal if the company is real or not, giving you excellent insight into the legitimacy of the person.

Have An Easy Out

It is not a common occurrence, but at times online chemistry simply does not translate into real-life chemistry, causing dates to go sour long before their end. If this happens, having a plan to help yourself out of an awkward and undesirable evening is very important. The easiest approach is to schedule a planned phone call from a friend that can be used to prompt a quick exit if need be. If you are meeting a person for dinner at 7:00, tell a trustworthy friend to give you a phone call around 7:30.

If the date is going wrong, you can use your acting skills to pretend that your friend is stranded somewhere and needs a ride home immediately. If you are into the date and liking the person you are hanging out with, the call can be ignored or quickly finished, allowing you to get back to learning more about your new acquaintance.

Stripper Seduction: The Key To Dating A Stripper

Dean Cortez — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 15:51:43 +0000

Stripper girls are hard to date – but YOU can with these easy to use tips. Follow these guidelines and before you know it you’ll be going out with a stripper!

I’m not guaranteeing that you’ll get laid in the club. But I’ve learned that anything is possible when the mood is right. I’ve had many spur-of-the-moment makeout sessions with girls that I meet in nightclubs; and I do the same in strip clubs all the time.

It’s Not All About The Money

Don’t listen to the player-haters who say that strippers are ONLY about getting your money, and that trying to bang them is pointless. And don’t listen to the strippers, either! Whenever I post articles on the Internet about how to bang strippers, or share my stories in online forums, there are always strippers who respond scornfully: “Don’t listen to this ‘Dean Cortez’ jerk! We dancers are only in the club to do our jobs, not to be picked up! We deserve respect! None of this ‘pickup’ stuff works!”

Yet most strippers met their boyfriends (or the guy they’re currently having sex with) at their job. It’s the truth, and it makes sense. If they’re spending every night interacting with guys in a hard-partying environment, it’s only natural for them to feel attracted towards certain guys and want to hang out with them outside of their work. Why would they pass up the opportunity to land a cool boyfriend, or have sex with a guy they really like, just because they met him “at work?”

They Don’t Have Sex With “Customers”

When strippers say this, what they really mean is that they don’t have sex with customers. This is because going on a date with a customer, who spent a bunch of money on her at the club, sounds an awful lot like prostitution. These girls don’t want to think of themselves as hookers (unless they are hookers, which some are – but most are not). So the key is to re-frame yourself in the club so that she does not view you as a customer, and you aren’t treating her like a stripper. Then she’ll forget those concerns.

Women Are Women

The bottom line is, women are women. Most strippers aren’t as cunning and “untouchable” as you might think they are. When you’ve got tight game and understand the dynamics of her work environment, it doesn’t matter whether she works in the titty bar down the road or behind the cosmetics counter at the mall.

All women are open to being charmed and seduced by a guy with GAME.

Once you’ve mastered these moves, your local strip clubs can become like singles bars—but even better. You’ll no longer be hanging out at strip clubs just to blow your hard-earned cash, only to go home and masturbate at the end of the night.

You’ll be going to the strip clubs with a singular goal in mind: to hook up, close deals, and make it happen. These vixens might be professional manipulators of the male ego, capable of milking chumps out of their kid’s college fund, but even the hottest dancer can be putty in the hands of a true player.

Don’t Use The Word “Stripper”

I might refer to these chicks as “strippers,” but you should never use this term when you are conversing with one. Call them “dancers,” and refer to their profession as “dancing.” Using the term “strippers” will usually offend them. This remains true even if they use the word “strippers.” You never should.

I know, it’s sort of silly to have to use a respectful term for an occupation that involves grinding on the crotches of strange men, but showing respect and understanding for her job is one of the keys to “bonding” with these girls and building their attraction.

Stripper Pick Up Tips – Your Game Plan

Dean Cortez — Fri, 25 Nov 2011 17:00:41 +0000

Stripper girls are difficult to date, right? Wrong! You just have to have the right tactics. Here’s how YOU can bring a stripper home FOR FREE tonight!

Can You Really Date A STRIPPER?

Imagine how boring it can be for a stripper, having to sit with lame-ass customers night after night and listen to them blather on about their miserable jobs and marriages, or brag about how rich and awesome they are. The fact is, most of the guys who frequent strip clubs have terrible social skills. So when you show up and inject fun into their evening, making them feel attracted to you is not going to be a big stretch.

It’s Their Job, Right?

Now in the strip club, obviously the dynamics are a lot different because it is the woman’s job to seduce the men. As long as a stripper thinks you’re willing to spend money, she isn’t going to ignore you or blow you off. That would be bad business. No matter how unattractive or boring the guy is, if he’s offering to spend money on lap dances, she’ll be willing to hang out with him and entertain him.

However, a stripper —just like any other woman—are going to quickly form an opinion of you. 99% of the time, she knows right away that the guy she’s with is a customer; she’ll try to make money from him, and will never even consider sleeping with him. If he’s not spending, she’s gone.

Get Her Out Of “Business Mode”

You want to be in the other 1%. This means you’re going to break her out of “business mode” and make her view you as a fun, interesting, attractive guy who she can picture herself hanging out with her outside of her work. When you ask her questions about herself, you’ll be a guy she wants to impress—because you have status and value.

(The fact that you aren’t buying a striptease or a lap dance can be a sign of your status—when you frame it the right way. Otherwise, you just look like you’re being cheap. I’ll explain how to do this later.)

The important thing to remember is that you must have a game plan and then execute this game plan, step by step, to the best of your ability. If you encounter resistance from the girl when you try to move to the next step, it means you haven’t “warmed her up” properly and you need to do more of what you were doing in order to move things forward. Wash, rinse, repeat.

How To Seduce A Stripper, Step By Step

Build comfort with them. In strip clubs, guys normally aren’t concerned with making the girls feel comfortable hanging out with them. They reek of horniness and desperation and can’t keep their hands off the girls. Or, they’re intimidated—they simply follow the stripper’s lead, go along with her suggestions, and keep reaching into their wallet to fork over more cash. The stripper would never feel comfortable dating these guys away from her work.

You, on the other hand, are going to use techniques to make her feel comfortable with you. You’ll do things such as:

Demonstrate that you’re not a “customer” by responding to her approach the right way. (When she asks “do you want a dance,” you deflect it with the correct tactic)
Show that you understand her profession & her “hustle”— and you respect it
Identify her “hidden talent” or the ambition she wants to pursue
Compliment her on qualities that most guys wouldn’t bother to notice about her. (Her sense of humor, cool personality, business smarts, etc)
Display some chivalry—small, courteous gestures that make show her that she’s in the presence of as “masculine protector”

Next, you’ll tease her and make her qualify herself. In this stage, you “flip the script” and start challenging her (in a playful way). You ask her questions and make statements that make her want to show you that she’s cool enough, smart enough, fun enough, sexy enough, etc. to be a part of your world. You’re going to frame yourself as a guy who knows a lot of beautiful women and is familiar with the whole “stripper game.” The question is, what’s so special about this girl you’re sitting with that qualifies her to be with you?

Taking It Even Further

Then, escalate and sexualize the interaction. It’s not enough for you to be the “funny guy,” the “smart guy,” or even the “cool guy.” And just being her friend isn’t going to get her in the sack with you, either. In order to move the seduction forward, you’ve got to introduce some sexual banter into the conversation and physically touch her (in a way that seems natural, not creepy). Get her into a sexual mind-frame where she is imagining what sex with you would be like.

Then, you “close” her. This can involve a few different steps with a stripper. Usually, the first part of the “close” is getting her phone number. The next step is meeting her outside of the club—either later tonight (which is the ideal scenario), or within the next few days. And the final step is getting her back to your place and having sex.

This last step doesn’t necessarily need to take place in your bed. With strippers, you never know where a “sexual eruption” might occur. Back alleys, parking lots, nightclub bathrooms, elevators, abandoned buildings – the possibilities are endless when you master the art of seducing the stripper!

Online Dating: What To Look For In A Dating Profile

Michelle Hemingway — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 23:00:44 +0000

Online dating can be intimidating and overwhelming. Sort through the rifraff by keeping these things in mind when viewing online dating profiles.

What Online Dating Is All About

Dating websites have become a popular way of meeting romantic partners. They are helpful tools that the internet provides for finding relationships and often work because everyone who uses the site is interested in a relationship just as you are. The way you find out about potential romantic partners on these sites is by browsing through profiles. The profiles of the users give all sorts of background information on the person and allow you to choose people in whom you may be interested.

Though you shouldn’t jump to conclusions about somebody based on their profile alone, it can help to be able to identify profiles of people with whom you may find yourself compatible as contrasted with ones who will not be worth your time. Some of these sites even only allow you a certain amount of direct (i.e. messaging) contacts per month, so it pays to choose wisely who you would like to initiate a conversation with. Even on sites where this is not the case, wasting time with incompatible contacts just wastes your time and membership money. Though there are of course no set criteria as regards something like this, the following are some things you might consider looking for in a dating profile to help insure that it will be a fruitful contact:

Membership To Site

It is a good idea to look for others that have full memberships, because they tend to be the most active and easy to contact on sites. Many dating websites offer free initial memberships with a lot of restrictions. You may not even be able to send a message to somebody else who doesn’t have a full membership. Even if you are able to message them, they may not be able to respond. This will differ from site to site, but in general, paid site members are much easier to communicate with and begin a conversation with. They also tend to be more interested in the site as a real dating tool and not merely something to dabble in. So this is one this to look for if possible.

A Lot Of Information

A membership profile that offers a lot of information is often a good sign. It means the individual is forthcoming and open and that they are interested in the site. It also simply means that you can find out enough about a person initially to judge whether you’d like to contact them or not. If you only have a few pieces of information such as that their sex, age, occupation, and what they are interested in relationship wise, you really don’t have enough criteria for judging much of anything. Being able to read more about their interests, views, and activities before hand can save you wasted time.

Great Pictures

Few people would deny that a picture is important on a dating site. Though looks should by no means be the primary criterion for becoming interested in somebody, they do play a role. This is not only on the superficial level. You can tell “deeper” things about people by things like their smile, the way they dress, the environment where a photo was taken, and so on. Having a picture also shows that someone has an active sort of interest in the site and has taken to time create a complete profile. With all this is mind, look for profiles with pictures if possible.

Same Relationship Interest

It is a good idea to look for people with at least the same basic relationship interest as you. Certain people on dating sites will be looking merely for friendships, others for casual encounters, and still others for long term relationships. There may be gradations of these three categories as well. Generally it is important to find people that have a similar interest along these lines. This will maximize the possibility that you will both find the type of relationship you are looking for.

Friendliness

Though it might seem obvious, simple friendliness is an important trait to look for in a dating profile. If somebody expresses themselves in a friendly, encouraging, and open way in their profile, that is a sign that they will probably be this way in a relationship as well. If on the other hand they make a lot of demands, sound defensive, picky, or arrogant, this can also suggest the type of romantic partners they might be.

Active On Site

Just because somebody is a site member doesn’t necessarily mean they are very active on the site. So in addition to the things mentioned above, try to make sure a member is active and didn’t just sign up and then forget about it. You can often tell this by indicators that give the date of a member’s last visit to the site or that list the total number of visits.

Multiple Interests

A member with multiple interests is often a good person to contact, because it indicates that they will be an interesting and multifaceted person. This is definitely open to interpretation, and some people may like to find dates who don’t have a lot of interests and just enjoy a few simple things. But for the most part, people who have a number of different interests are dynamic and energetic people, and in most people’s opinion these are good qualities.

Online Dating: How To Create An Effective Username

Michelle Hemingway — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 23:00:16 +0000

Online dating can be hard if you don’t know where to start. A good screen name is the first step – use these online dating tips for a great first impression.

Choosing a screen name for an online dating site should not be a decision made lightly. It is one of the key elements to site experience and interaction with other members. It is the first thing a prospective date sees and what sets one member apart from another. The ability for a screen name to stick out among a list of other screen names may be the difference between love and…nothing.

Do Some Research First

Initial research should be done by members before choosing their screen name. If they look around a site, they will see for themselves which user names they find appealing. Many sites do not allow the use of vulgar or rude names. Many blogs and articles recommend that a user not vulgarity, rudeness, depression, or self-deprecating user names. This is not good advice for everyone. If a user has these qualities, and expects their possible dates to accept them, then they should include them.

The intended audience should also be kept in mind when choosing a user name. Users are marketing themselves and should keep in mind who they will attract with their user name. Putting too much emphasis on physical qualities may attract a shallow type of person.

Make a User Name That is Easy To Read

The effort of creating a great user name should be rewarded. This will not be the case if a viewer cannot easily read it. 95% of computer users scan web pages. Those same people scan lists. The best way to make a name readable is by clearly defining each word through the use of capital letters or underscores.

Make It Easy to Pronounce

There is a direct relationship between being able to pronounce a word and being able to remember it.

Make It Short

SweetGirl is much easier to read than ThisIsTheLongestUsernameEver, even though the words are distinct in both. The first is the easiest to pick out when scanning a list and the easiest to remember.

Make It Memorable (No Numbers!)

Numbers should never, ever be used in a dating web site user name. Humans are more able to successfully remember names than numbers. They are also less likely to mix them up than the letters in a word. The opportunity for love could be missed if a prospective date mistakenly remembered SweetGirl101 instead of SweetGirl110.

Make It Descriptive

Include a hobby or interest: Common interests and hobbies are often the foundation of a relationship. If a member has a certain passion for something, it should be included in their user name. If the member really desires a prospective date to share their hobby or interest, the member should include specific, more technical elements or terms associated with that hobby or interest. A sporting fan could use vocabulary from their sport. A reader may use certain terms or characters from literature.

Use It To Describe Yourself

A member should include a descriptive word about themselves. This should be a quality that they have and they are proud of. It may be that they are romantic, humorous, honest, etc.

Make Your Gender Clear

Many chat rooms or instant message systems within dating sites do not have pictures accompanying the user names. Sexual orientation does not matter here. No matter what gender someone is attracted to, they need to know that the member is that gender. Being able to put a gender specific face or voice to written words is helpful in creating any kind of relationship.

Make It Unique

Feel free to add a twist to your screen name. This may include using an easily translated foreign word or a few symbols. Only one or two symbols should be used. They are easier to remember than numbers, but not as easy to remember as words. Create a name that leaves room for questions. Using easily translated foreign words is a good way to do this. While the meaning of the word should be obvious, a viewer may ask what language it is as an ice breaker.

A user name is a first impression. It is the first thing a viewer will see and the quality that a future partner will likely expect you to keep. Choose carefully.

Online Dating Sites – How Do They Work?

Michelle Hemingway — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 21:00:08 +0000

Online dating sites have made meeting potential mates a lot easier, but it can be difficult to learn your way around. Here’s how online dating sites REALLY work!Dating has become much easier thanks to the invention of the Internet. Before then, people were limited on where they could meet potential dates by physical means. You would have to find dates through physical interaction, such as through friends or by meeting each other at places where both of you frequent. Many people would find dates through work, school or another regular activity.

What Online Dating Sites Are For

However, when online dating sites began appearing on the Internet, things were made a lot easier for people who may not have the time or social skills to meet a potential significant other. These sites allow people to find other singles that have the same interests as them, some of whom they may have never had the chance to meet any other way. While you may think that online dating is for lonely people or computer nerds, this is a common misconception. More people every day are using the Internet to find love and this is nothing that you should be embarrassed by, as it is a logical and convenient way to find love using technological advancements.

How They Work

Online dating sites work similar to social networking sites like Facebook or MySpace, in the sense that to start using them, you must register for the site and create a profile for yourself. Most dating web sites allow you to create a profile for free, but you may be restricted on what activities you can perform with a free profile. Once you have registered, you can begin adding information to your profile, such as a description of your personality, physical characteristics, interests, hobbies and other information that a potential date will be looking for when browsing the site. Make sure that this information is as accurate as possible, as you may find that your online dates will stop responding to you if they find that you are not what you described.

Your Profile Picture

Once you have finished adding text information about yourself, you can upload a profile picture. Some sites will require you have to a picture before you can begin finding dates, but it is always a good idea to include a picture or even several pictures on your online dating profile. This way, other users know exactly what to expect from your physical characters and can make sure they are attracted to you before making the commitment for a date. This may sound shallow, but physical attraction is a key component to healthy relationship.

Browsing

After this information is complete, you can begin browsing the site for other users who meet your criteria for someone you would like to begin dating. While it is always best to look for users who are within the area where you live, you can even find potential matches that live farther away, if you do not mind the idea of having a long distance relationship with someone. Online dating sites will usually allow you to set how far away a potential date can live from where you located, showing all of the users who are within a certain radius of your zip code.

Some sites even help you out in the process of finding a date by providing a series of questions or surveys that will help gauge how compatible you are with other users on the site. If you and another user who shares the characteristics you are looking for both answer these questions in similar ways, you will be determined as compatible and recommended to each other. There are also other ways to go about doing this, depending on the site. For example, you may be asked to rate other users based on their profiles. If you rate a user highly and they rate you highly, the site will send both of you messages recommending that you contact each other.

Congrats, You’ve Found Someone!

When you find a user on an online dating site that you want to get to know, you can start sending them messages. Again, whether or not you will be able to contact a potential match on online dating sites varies from site-to-site. Some sites will allow you to communicate through the messaging or chat service on their site, but you will not have access to their contact information.

After communicating with a potential date on the site, you can then mutually decide whether or not you would like to take your friendship to the next level and meet for a real-life or “offline” date. It is always best to have your first date in a public setting, such as a restaurant, coffee shop or museum, as having a date in your home or their home could become very awkward. Once you have met in person, you can then decide whether or not to continue your dating relationship. If it doesn’t work out, you can always try contacting another user!

Get Yourself Out Of The Friend Zone – STAT!

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 14:00:00 +0000

Dating tips can help you meet girls, but what if you’ve landed yourself in the “just friends” category? Can you dig your way out? Here’s how to do it, ASAP!

Be The Kind Of Guy Who Never Gets In The Friend Zone In The First Place

The best “dating tips” you could ever get about staying out of the friend zone is to never be the kind of guy who gets put in it in the first place. These guys are wimpy and weak, where guys who don’t get put on the “friends only” list are strong and confident – the alpha male type. The trick is to not be afraid to make women feel beautiful and sexy, and to not be afraid of showing a girl that you like her – like really like her. Don’t pretend that you don’t have a sexual or romantic connection to a girl – instead, just tell her! Be honest and confident about your feelings. Don’t apologize for who you are, and don’t act like her best girlfriend.

Show Interest In Her

If you like a girl, the best way not to get on her “friends only” list is to show that you’re interested in her from the get go. Don’t be too scared to admit that you have a sexual attraction to this girl – and be okay with that. If you think that it’s wrong somehow, or you’re not supposed to like her “that way,” you’re paving your own road to the friend zone! It’s normal and perfectly okay to be sexually attracted to a woman and for her to know that! In fact, it’s perfectly normal and okay that she be sexually attracted to you too – but she won’t be if you’re hiding the fact that you even want to be more than friends.

Make A Move

Don’t just wait and sit on the sidelines like a “best friend” when you could be out there with the girl you want to be with. Take that first step and make that move! Whether it’s to let her know that you exist (that’s a great first step), to start flirting with her or even a bolder move like leaning in for the first kiss, you need to go ahead and do it. Stop thinking about doing it, planning to do it or making excuses as to why now isn’t the right time. Just put yourself out there, take the risk and make a first move!

The Importance Of Building Sexual Tension

When a girl starts to think of you as more than just a buddy is when she begins to feel that undeniable sexual tension between the two of you. To get girls, you have to become a master at creating, shaping and using sexual tension. While some guys don’t find this difficult at all, other more “left brained” guys (you know, scientists, engineers, accountants, etc.) have a more difficult time accessing their more creative side to build sexual tension.

You can get more in touch with the right side of your brain, take up poetry or an art class – anything that engages your right brain. Do something creative that allows you to think differently than you normally do.

How To Build Sexual Tension And Get Her To Think Of You As More Than Just A “Buddy”

Start slowly – you don’t want to rush in too quickly and blindside her. Compliment her, tell her that she looks beautiful or stunning – don’t say “hot,” or “sexy” because this will turn her OFF immediately.
Get in her space. Touch her and when you do, let the touch linger just a little too long. Don’t be creepy about it, but you don’t want to end it until just after it becomes slightly awkward. Flirt with her.
Move at her pace, but take it just a little farther. This allows you to push her limits a little bit, but not way past where her limits usually are. You’re just going slightly outside of her comfort zone.

Show A Side Of Yourself That She Hasn’t Seen Before

If you’re already in the friend zone, these dating tips can be particularly useful if you want to get yourself out of it.

Show the girl you like a side of yourself that she’s never seen before. You’re an interesting guy, with passions and hobbies too, right? Don’t always be talking about her and what she likes or wants to do. Show her your motivation, drive and passion. Let her know that you’re a guy she could be with and have fun with!

Also, you want to make her laugh and feel happy. This is a huge deal, because women remember the way you make them feel more than they remember your name, what you do for a living or even what you look like (although she’ll probably remember all three if you make her feel absolutely amazing).

Online Dating: How To Create A Winning Profile

Michelle Hemingway — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 23:00:24 +0000

Online dating can be an excellent way to meet new people – if you do it right. Here’s how to create a page about yourself that will get you noticed!

Creating a top-notch page on the dating website that you choose is one of the most important tasks ahead of you. It shows others who you are while providing you with the opportunity to craft a compelling overview that will help attract the right matches. There are many things that you can do to create a great page and you’re about to discover the most important ones.

Honesty Is Critical

Being honest about yourself is how you’re going to attract the right matches. If you’re dishonest you’re simply taking the chance of not receiving the dating results that you set out to attain. Your goal here is to show others your most important attributes and give them a clear picture of what to expect if they want to take the online dating relationship even further.

Demand Excellence From The Photos You Add

Many people fail to take the time to post good photos to their online dating profile. This is critical as it’s a visual representation that others will be seeing when they visit. You want to make sure that the photos that you post are going to compel those who want to learn more about you.

Creativity Is Key

It’s no secret that the creative ones are the ones to stand out from the crowd. By being creative, you’re ensuring that you stand out to the matches that take the time to visit you. Nobody likes a dull person so make sure that your page doesn’t put you out to be one.

Avoid Any Forms Of Negativity

Being negative will be an instant turn-off to many people. If you are perceived to be a negative person the chances are that you won’t be able to connect with others. Make sure that you maintain a positive appearance and show others that you’re a person that’s not going to be the crash of the night.

Don’t Be A Dead User

Being active and finding matches that attract you is what’s going to contribute to your success in the online dating world. If you’re online daily you’ll notice that you will get a lot more views as dating websites feature the active users, not the inactive users that just add to the number of members in their user base.

You’ll also want to keep your page updated on a regular basis so that the image portrayed is one that reflects who you are now, not who you were before.

Bragging Can Lead To An Online Dating Failure

A lot of people think that if they brag about themselves they’ll attract more people and seem like the perfect person. This isn’t the case unfortunately. People don’t want to date someone that they see is going to do nothing but talk about themselves and how they are so awesome.

The goal here is to show others that you’re an extraordinary person. Have confidence but don’t talk about it – show it! This is simply a case that proves actions do indeed speak louder than words.

Clarify What You’re Looking For

Don’t expect others to automatically know what you’re looking for in a relationship. Clearly explain what would be the best match for you. This includes explaining what kind of personality you like and the kind of activities that you’d like your significant other to be a part of.

Being clear about what you want so you can give those who visit your page a clear picture of whether or not they would be someone that you’re truly interested in.

Don’t Forget That You’re Putting Yourself Out There

One thing that a lot of people fail to realize is that when they join a dating website they’re putting themselves out there for the world to see. This is why it’s important not only to follow the tips that were provided in this article, but also think about what they put on their page.

You want to be portrayed as someone that is worth having a relationship with. Not someone that aimlessly throws stuff up in an effort to quickly attract matches. After all, you can expect more people to be interested in you if you have a page that’s well thought out.

Flirting Tips: How To Do It Online

Michelle Hemingway — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 17:00:45 +0000

Flirting online should be an enjoyable experience. You should take your time while you are doing it. Getting to know a person, especially online, is almost like having your first date. You are finding out about each other and trying to attract and sustain mutual interest.

Make sure you have “scooped” the person, that you have carefully checked out his or her profile. If the “other” has been good in putting it together, there would have been just enough information offered to reveal an interesting, even captivating personality, leaving just enough to hope that the “scooper” would want to look for more.

Flirting is a sport, like fishing. The woman attracts the man with some nice-looking bait or the man attracts the woman with bait that is just as well nice-looking and uniquely attractive.

Be Lighthearted

Go light and establish an edge. Use light email conversation, but angle on something real that was seen in the profile, something that gave a small flash of the person as special. That special something is what could feature the person for you. It would be entertaining and, hopefully, eventually fulfilling. There’s a lot of advice on online dating that’s pegged on being funny and humorous. Surely, being light, easy-going and humorous could move the fish closer to your net. Your net, itself, must be inviting and charming.

Write Short Emails

Some of the online dating sites have shaped the initial response/reply vehicles to be short comments signifying mere interest. If you are a woman, take your time in responding to the initial inquiries. If you are a man, respond to them easily and effectively. Both of you are lighting a campfire. You want to get the coals burning to an enticing, inviting warmth.

Ask her something about her location. Find out if she wants to talk about her job, don’t assume she does, even though it may be revealed on the profile. Look for things that are uniquely interesting on his profile. Either of you can take your time in getting personal, looking for signs that show the individual revealing more of her or himself.

Take Your Time In The Initial Phases

Both of you may have several people you are responding to, initiating conversation. Again, you want to enjoy these first few moments. You want to create light laughter as people are usually obliged to do at parties, at first meetings. As the emails get longer, you decide to narrow your choices and get into chat sessions with this certain individual. You like the interests and responses each of you have shared and want to expand on them.

If she mentioned children and you have children yourself, slowly reveal your kids to each other. This would most likely be on the profile.

Continue to show and build support and consideration. This is the time where you can grow in honesty, revealing more. You are looking for a good relationship, one that can be sustained, one where it feels “just right” to be open to. It’s like you are building comfortable structures for each other. Chatting, you both will serve up what the person inquires about, keeping it light and not going too far.

All the time, keep asking yourself is this the person you would like to be with, is this an individual you can be comfortable with.

Stick To Your Profile

Profiles show movies, books, activities that people like and pursue. You believe in some ways these activities complement yours. Ask questions concerning it in relation to your own interests. Then inquire about interests and things the other has done that you would like to know more about. Compliment her on her experience. If he expresses a liking for his job, ask him about his interesting experiences with it.

You have so far:

Taken your time, shown comfort with the person’s profile.
Have not been too flashy, but have created smiles and laughter.
Enjoyed and appreciated the first few moments.

Good things don’t happen inordinately fast or quick. You are enjoying subtleties that build refreshing communication.

Don’t Dive To Deep In The Beginning

If the chatting proves okay, and there has been good humor, relaxation, it means you both have accepted and acknowledged a pace, a certain rhythm.

Sitting around the chatting campfire, some of the unusual stuff will come out. Check out some of this, but not all. Wait for the actual dates. Depending on age, experiences, there are several hills and valleys in people’s lives. Maturity shows that people can appreciate that others have had hard or difficult times. If the relationship engenders anything, it will present future soft places for these things to come out.

The initial aim is to see if both of you want to make a move for that first date, where it becomes a pleasure to move from the campfire into the dawn of a new friendship.

Can You Find Love Online?

Michelle Hemingway — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 17:00:03 +0000

Online dating can be fun, but is it really possible to fall in love with someone over the Internet?

Is Online Dating Desperate?

Online dating is a great way to meet people and form romantic relationships, but there are many people who doubt that someone can find love online. Also, there is a common belief that people who register for these sites are desperate, lonely or socially awkward. However, all of these thoughts are common misconceptions about online dating. Do not let these opinions fool you, because it is entirely possible to find love online.

All dating web sites work in essentially the same way: users create profiles that describe their personalities, physical appearances, favorite activities and what they are looking for in a date. Users also upload images of themselves to show other users exactly what they look like, which can also prove that their physical appearance description is accurate. With this information, other singles in their area find the profile and contact them for a date, if they are interested.

How You Can Find The Right Match

Dating web sites also use a variety of methods to match their users up with other singles who have profiles by gauging their compatibility. Typically, a dating web site will have a series of questions and surveys that users will answer to help create a score that can be used for judging how compatible they are with each other. The benefit of using these to find love instead of traditional dating methods is that you already know whether or not you have much in common with someone.

Another reason that online dating can help you find love is because you are not limited by physical constrictions when meeting people on the Internet. Traditionally, people would have to have met in person or be hooked up through mutual friends. You may only discover that your date shares or does not share interests with you after the first couple dates. However, with online dating, you can find a person who shares the same interests as you without discovering that they are different than you expect.

In fact, online dating allows someone to communicate with a match before they meet in person. Through chats and messages, a potential couple can skip the awkward situations of figuring out how similar they are before meeting in person. However, it is worth noting that some online dating sites will not allow users to communicate with each other with a free profile. In this case, you will have to pay for the site’s services. But you can always cancel your membership after you have found love, which will help save money.

Also, if you do not mind traveling long distances to find love, online dating sites go even further than traditional dating for finding matches. For example, let’s say a user in West Virginia finds someone who meets all of their expectations for a significant other on the site, but they live in California. Without online dating, this relationship would have never been formed, due to the fact that both people would not have crossed paths through the means of traditional dating and will be more likely to have a healthy relationship, based on the fact that they are compatible lovers.

Are Predators An Issue?

Another worry many people have about online dating is that the sites allow online predators to prey on potential victims. Fortunately, there are many ways to make sure that you will find love on these sites and not find yourself in a dangerous situation. Most online dating sites take extreme measure to prevent predators from using their web site, as it is obviously bad for their business. By contacting someone online and over the telephone before meeting in person, you can make sure that you are talking to someone who is genuinely interested in finding love.

If you are still worried, there is a very easy way to prevent any trouble from meeting someone for a date from an online dating site. First and foremost, do not meet someone in person until you are certain that you have made a match and think that you have found love. When you finally decide to meet someone for an in-person or “offline” date, make sure to pick a public place and do not meet them at their home or invite them into your home. Popular examples include restaurants, coffee shops and museums. Avoiding private places like your homes for a few dates will also help make sure that whoever you are talking to is actually who they say they are and not an online predator.

But do not let the unfortunate scenario of meeting a predator make you avoid trying online dating. There are many more stories about people finding love through these sites than the unfortunate stories described above. In fact, as the Internet becomes more and more of a cultural mainstay, you will find that more couples are meeting through technological means.

How To Meet More Women Than Ever Before In Just ONE Month!

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 16:10:41 +0000

Dating tips can help you improve your game, that takes time. You can improve yourself and improve how you approach women, but it doesn’t happen overnight. But what if you could speed things up? What if you could start getting dates right away? Here are surefire dating tips that can guarantee you’ll meet more girls in just ONE month!

The Best Ways To Meet Women

Meeting women doesn’t have to be as difficult or as intimidating as it sounds, although all the dating tips in the world aren’t going to make you feel like finding a girl is any less daunting. But it doesn’t have to be! There are actually lots of ways to get introduced to girls, and many of them may be through things you’re already doing! For example, some of the best places to meet girls are through activities and things you’re already involved in. If you have an interest or a hobby, try to find a group or club that you can get into where you can get to know people who share your same interests and passions.

Another great way to find girls is during the day – most girls are on guard at night, when they’re out clubbing or in bars. They’re expecting to get hit on, probably by a bunch of weirdos, so they’re automatically on guard against anything like that. During the day in relaxed situations like riding the bus or train or going to the supermarket is actually a great way to run into a girl while hear guard is down and start up a flirty conversation. You can make a much better first impression this way! Going to tourist spots or travelling, or enrolling in dance classes (those are loaded with girls) are also excellent ways to expose yourself to more people in general – and more girls.

Take Advantage Of The Weekend

Find things that are happening on the weekend, like festivals or get togethers. Bars, clubs, and even beaches can be great places to go on the weekend because they’re literally packed with people! Don’t just sit around at home on your couch on a Saturday – actually get out there and go somewhere that there are lots of people. You’re bound to meet someone there! Even the mall can be a great place to go – anywhere there are ladies around, that’s where you want to be! It may be nerve wracking at first, especially if you’re not a very social person, but as you continue to put yourself out there, it’s going to become easier and easier and you’re going to become more confident when doing it.

Don’t Be Afraid Of Speed Dating Or A Singles Event

If you live in a larger metropolitan area, chances are, there are lots of speed dating or singles events out there that you can attend. Most guys are a little shy when it comes to doing this type of thing, but there’s really no reason for it. Consider it no harm, no foul. If you meet someone that you really hit it off with, great! If not, you’re not going home any different than when you arrived. It’s also a great way to practice talking to women (which will come into play when you meet a girl you actually have a connection with), so you’re not really leaving empty handed at all. The more exposure you have to being around girls and talking to them, the more comfortable you’re going to be when you actually want to ask a girl out.

Enlist Your Friends

A lot of relationships start by two people meeting through friends. This is actually one of the best dating tips out there, but it’s often overlooked because a lot of guys think that it’s so simple, it can’t possibly work. Well, it can! If you get introduced to a woman through a friend (and you’re a good friend to this person), you’re actually going to come very highly recommended. So while you still want to make sure you’re making an excellent first impression, she’s already going to be thinking good things about you before she meets you. It also helps to be friends with guys who are actually great with the ladies! While it may turn you off a little to consider making friends with someone who is so smooth he gets all the girls, but think of it as a learning opportunity. Watch what he does and how girls respond to it. That is actually a great way to change up your game and start doing things that work!

Also, make friends with girls, even if they’re not necessarily the type you want to date. This is one of the dating tips that is often put on the back burner also, because many guys feel as though if they’re not going to be meeting the girl they could potentially date and have a romantic connection with, why bother? But remember, girls have female friends. And sometimes they’re hot!

Have Confidence And Get Comfortable In Social Situations

One of the best dating tips – if not THE best – is to improve your confidence by getting yourself out there and into social situations. It may feel awkward at first, but it is most definitely going to pay off when you finally meet the girl you want to ask out. If you’re just not ready to get out there yet, consider getting a dating coach. It could be your best friend, or another guy who happens to be really great with the ladies. You can even consider hiring a professional dating coach if you want the best advice. A dating coach can see what you’re doing and come up with a customized plan to help you get more girls in the shortest amount of time possible. Some professional dating coaches can be expensive, but it is well worth it to help you hone your skills so that eventually, YOU can be the suave guy that picks up all the ladies!

Online Dating: What You MUST Put In Your Profile To Get Girls!

Michael Kendricks — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 23:00:39 +0000

Online dating is a scary world, but it doesn’t have to be. Here’s what your online dating profile HAS to have if you actually want to get dates!

If you’ve racked your brain for days trying to come up with what to say in your online dating profile, you’re not alone. Many men, including myself, have faced this challenge. Luckily for me, I figured out what types of profiles have women checking you out and responding to your messages and which ones make them cringe and get away fast. In this article I will give you some examples of what you want to include in your online dating profile to generate more dates.

Anyone who knows what they’re talking about when it comes to online dating can tell you that you need to stand out in your dating profile, but how exactly do you do that? Mr. Creepy, who talks about his love of bondage in great detail will clearly stand out, but he will have women searching for the block feature on their dating website, instead of responding to his messages.

That’s why it’s important to point out that you must stand out in a positive way. If you do this and say some memorable stuff, you can show women you are a real person and not just a collection of words on a screen. By following the suggestions below, you can also be someone she responds to and eventually agrees to meet.

Write About Your Passions

Writing about something you actually care about in your dating profile will get you much more responses than the same old boring stuff. Now granted, if your passions include something really bizarre like collecting stamps, you might want to consider finding something else you love to talk about. However, the bottom line is if you’re excited about it, it makes it way more interesting for the woman, and you get better responses.

Communicate The Right Things

This includes showing women you:

Are well adjusted
Are confident
Have a busy life with a bunch of things going on in it
Have a sense of humor

Now, anyone can think of a list of great characteristics and write it in a dating profile, but if it really shines through by the way you write your profile it will be much more effective. For example, stating clearly why you’re on the dating website, what you’re about and what you’re looking for will make you appear confident. So will leaving out any wishy-washy or insecure comments like “I don’t know what to write on this thing.” The effect of confident writing will be much better than simply stating you’re confident.

Write Descriptively

If you ever browse through men’s dating profiles, (and seriously I recommend doing it to know what the online dating competition is doing), you’ll soon feel your head start to involuntarily drop toward your chest as you desperately fight off your body’s desire to nap. That’s because the typical vague list of likes and attributes is excruciatingly boring to read. What’s much better is to take one or two things that really show your personality, and get into more detail about it. For example, if you’re a bit of a chef you can describe some of the things you’ve cooked recently or what you’d like to make soon.

Being more detailed will give a woman an actual vision of who you could really be, which will definitely stand out among the crowd. You don’t even have to do that much with the details to really stand out, because 95% of men’s profiles as about as boring as reading a scientific journal article.

Keep It Light

Remember to keep it positive, light and flirtatious. This doesn’t mean you can’t include anything serious but keep the overall mood light. Keep in mind that this is your first impression. If you were to meet someone out at a bar and they started unloading all this serious stuff about world hunger and their dying cat in the first minute, you’d probably be turned off as well. This is that initial communication. It’s that first minute or two in a bar or a grocery store. If you can effectively keep it light and playful for now, you will probably be someone she wants to get into a relationship with eventually.

Use Appropriate Grammar and Spelling

You may not think it’s that big of a deal, but more women than you would think will instantly ignore your profile if they see you making a mockery of the English language all over your profile. If a woman is really overboard about it, like having a conniption fit because you forgot the apostrophe in the word “it’s,” you’re better off far away from her anyway. Imagine being around her when something actually goes wrong!

However, spelling things right and utilizing the basics of good grammar are still very important to most women, especially when it comes to online dating since all they have to go off of is what they’re reading. So yeah, you need to use all those annoying little periods and commas. A spell check would be a nice touch as well.

So there it is. Be sure to incorporate these dating tips in your online dating profile and I promise you your results will be much better.

The 3 All Time BEST Places To Meet Women

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 15:18:22 +0000

Dating is intimidating if you don’t know where to go to pick up chicks. You might have thought all hope was lost when you started wondering around bars and the like, hoping to see a girl you might want to get to know – chances were, you either didn’t find any chicks at all, or the ones you did find were ones you probably would only consider having a one night stand with. Leave dating anxiety behind and learn the three places that you’ll meet the most girls.

During The Day On Public Transportation

One of the best places to meet women is during the day on public transportation, such as the bus, the train or the subway. This works better if you’re in a large metropolitan area where public transportation is a part of daily life. Most guys who take the bus or subway to work and back sit reading a newspaper, or listening to music, without ever paying attention to what or who is around them. This is a big mistake! Next time you’re using public transportation, take your earbuds out and pay attention! Look for hot girls or ladies that you’d like to meet and get to know. You’ll be surprised – there are many of them!

Also, a woman is less on guard during the day (because she’s not in “dating” mode), so you’re likely to make a much stronger impression on her if you approach her when she’s not expecting it. When you approach a girl in a bar or a club setting at night, she is already on guard and is going to be a lot more selective of who she talks to and hangs out with. She’s more likely to turn you down or ignore you when she’s on guard in a situation like that. During the day, on the bus or train, it’s quieter than in a bar and you’ll be able to actually have a decent conversation and get to know a girl. It’s also more relaxed and friendly, so it requires less effort on your part to be smooth.

Getting Introduced Through Friends

Getting introduced to a girl through friends is a great way to meet someone you can actually have a relationship with. However, you have to be careful with this and make sure your circle of friends are people you actually connect with and who understand you and who you are as a person. This ensures that their friends are actually going to be someone you connect with too. If you currently have a small circle of friends, begin by working to expand that circle and become friends with more people before you start getting introductions to girls. If not, you’re going to build a reputation for being the guy that bounces around and dates everyone’s friends – and before long, no one will want to introduce you to their friends.

At A House Party

A house party is an excellent place to meet girls – the “house party” was pretty much designed specifically for that purpose. If you plan it right, the environment is intimate enough to make a girl feel comfortable but also exciting enough that there’s an edge there that allows you to create sexual tension (which is a must have when you’re flirting and getting to know a girl!) Have one of your friends plan a house party, or host one at your own house! Dating is all about getting out there, making more friends, meeting more people and being more social in general. Dating is a social activity – so if you’re not social, you’re certainly not going to be dating anyone anytime soon. Doing that is going to not only get you more girls, it’s going to get you the kind of girls you want to be with.

Hosting your own house party has it’s benefits, if you have a large enough house. If not, consider renting a party hall or another similar type of location that you can have the party in. Regardless of where you do it, if you’re the host, everyone wants to meet you! So really, if you’re the host of a party (especially if it’s a great party!), girls are going to be coming up to you and wanting to meet you!

Remember that dating is all about being confident and having fun. You’re not just making friends to get more girls, because the process of making and having friends is actually a great thing too, girls or no girls!

Online Dating: How To Choose The Right Site

Michelle Hemingway — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 23:00:42 +0000

Online dating doesn’t have to be difficult with these simple recommendations on selecting the right dating website for you! We are entering the glory days of a revolution, virtual love abounds and is just a mouse click or two away. The requirements are simple, easy. A good photograph will do and, of course, an unabashed heart that works. (Even if it is “bashed,” don’t worry. Anticipation will warm it up, and lots of blushing!)

How To Choose An Online Dating Site

How does one choose an online date site? There are really too many out there, a handsome, or rather, pretty variety primed right for every kind of yearning, lost or, just unengaged heart. What’s more, there’s a high – probably, even “huge” – success rate. This is because this “new thing,” online dating, has certainly become the acceptable thing.

It’s a way of avoiding the lonely, barely-lit confines of the corner bar stool and stepping into the light of what one may say could be immediate gratification. It’s a way of not having to close one’s eyes on the first few minutes of a blind date set up by a cousin. You can be “blind” or unseen on your computer screen for awhile as you “see” various photos of possibilities.

Whereas in the past there was auntie the matchmaker, there was some high school friend of your brother or sister, their next door cube mate at work.

Online Dating Is The New Black

But let’s face it. Online dating has become acceptable. Around the world it has become a convenient norm. It is amusing, really, quite amazing how far human relations – personal relations – have become primed and acceptable – normalized – via wireless, the Internet. All you have to do is figure out what category you want to be in, what kinds of relationships you want to attract and what kinds you want to stay away from. You decide the age, gender, race, religion and, of course, the income level. Then you click the button.

What online site should you use? That depends on whether you want to go “standard” or whether you are merely surfing and just checking out what’s out there.

Standard Dating Sites – The Ones You’ve Heard Of

The standard sites are enthusiastically advertised. You know them. You have heard about them. Any search engine will bear you the top five or ten popular online dating sites. You have seen wonderful faces of great story-telling unions. Fact is, some of these stories are true.

The standard sites have various monthly fees. But they have specials and discounts, too. If you place your name on their email lists, you will probably get a free offering on some popular holiday weekend. In general, the fees are reasonable, and it’s a good idea to try one for a month. See how it works out.

Free Dating Websites

There are a bunch of free dating sites. Place an asterisk beside the word “free” in your online search and you will come up with lots of selections. Whether you want to limit yourself to a certain location is up to you. Perhaps it is good advice to put together an alternative email from one of the popular email sites and use it to register with the dating site. This is just in case you change your mind in mid-ship and just want to make sure entirely new islands are possible.

Or if you are feeling confident and are used to social networking – you have a daily addiction to virtual socializing – then you may as well avoid the different mask layers and use whatever email and identity you have. Either way, the most important step would be to prepare the profile that will locate and attract someone you may like and want to go out with.

Your Profile Is Important – Choose A Site That Lets You Pimp It Out!

The profile is serious stuff. You will tell your habits, things you enjoy, foods you love, sport teams, if there are any. Depending on the website, your profile will be as exacting as possible or just a mere sketch. Some of the sites are based on “assured” algorithms drawn from psychological studies. They guarantee, to an extent, that you will find the most attractive “other.” It all depends on the approach you bring to this project.

The point is that you want to have fun. You want to at least meet someone whom you can talk to a bit and find out, for yourself, if compatibility is possible. This is the main attraction of the online dating site. It is convenient and you don’t have to commit. It allows you some pretty good ways of checking out new people and you decide for yourself if you want to go any further or not.

How do you choose an online dating site? Take your time. Don’t jump in. Read the site’s material. Compare it with others. Make sure, in general, it matches some of your profile. Toss a coin if you want to. Understand that it’s no big deal if you don’t commit.

Then, jump in!

How To Give Your Dating Strategy A Total Makeover

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 14:00:32 +0000

Dating tips can improve your game, but if your game is a little shabby to begin with, they’re only going to do so much. If you haven’t gotten a girl’s number or have gone on a date in awhile, it may be time to throw your old dating tips out the window and give your entire dating strategy an overhaul? Here’s how!

Improving Your Lifestyle

One of the best dating tips is to work on improving your lifestyle before you actively try to meet and date women. The reason for this is if you have a poor lifestyle, you’re not going to attract any women! Start by looking at all the different areas of your life and finding ways to improve them. This in and of itself will attract women!

Have a lifestyle that puts you into contact with people on a daily basis, especially girls. If you never go out or you’re not very social, find some fun places to go or things to do that puts you into contact with new people all the time. Go places, make friends and have fun!

You also want to make sure that your lifestyle is attractive to women – and we’re talking the overall package here.

Build Your Social Circle

Work on making friends and building your social circle. If you’re meeting new people, make an effort to become friends with them. Become happier and more social overall. Develop a passion for meeting and talking to people, and don’t be afraid to show attraction for a woman. Be confident enough to flirt with a girl and create a little bit of sexual tension. This is one of the dating tips that can directly improve your love life! If you’re not at all confident and don’t approach any women or flirt with them in any way, you can hardly expect to get a date.

How To Get Confidence

There’s never going to be a magical moment where you suddenly feel confident and completely comfortable with approaching women. You’re just going to have to get out there and do it! However, after you do it (and continue to do it over and over), each time you’re going to be a little more confident and a little more smooth when you walk up to that next girl.

Things You Don’t Want To Do

Being too one-dimensionally focused on just picking up girls. You want to keep them too!
Not caring about making friends or improving yourself
Being demotivated. Nobody wants to be around a downer.
Not taking action – you’ve got to get up, get out there and start making this stuff happen! It’s not going to magically happen for you if you’re just sitting around hoping a girl will approach you.
Not taking risks. You’re not going to get anywhere if you’re not brave enough to take a risk now and then.

Know On The Inside That YOU Are Worth It!

One of the best dating tips of them all (if not THE best) is to know inside that you have a lot to offer. Confidence is everything when it comes to dating and if you don’t believe in yourself and that you have a lot to offer a girl, no one else will either. You’ve got to believe it inside you first, before anyone else will.

Know that you deserve to be with the right girl, and you deserve to have a great relationship. You also deserve to date around and have fun if you like – have enough confidence in yourself to know that the right girl is out there and you will meet her. If you truly believe it inside, that will be all the motivation you need to go out and make this stuff happen for you!

Enjoy The Journey

Sometimes it’s not all about the end result and that goes for dating as well. Life is a journey and you need to enjoy it – every step of the way. Don’t just become a better person so you can get a date, become a better person for yourself. Enjoy the process.

Remember to relax and have fun. Nothing is going to happen right away, or in an instant. But as you improve yourself, you improve what you have to offer a girl. As you do that, more and more women are going to be interested in you! It’s a gradual process, but if you’re enjoying each step of getting there, before you know it, you’re going to be having a great time dating girls or in a blissful, happy long term relationship.

How To Keep Sex With A Co-Worker A Secret

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 14:00:02 +0000

Sex with someone you work with can be a lot of fun, but you definitely want to keep it under wraps. Whether you’re just having a casual fling with someone from another department or are actually involved in a more serious relationship with them, it may not be the best idea to have the details of your sex escapades made known to your entire workplace. Here’s how to make sure your sex life doesn’t get outed.

Is Sex With Someone You Work With A Good Idea?

Again, this is something you need to think about before you get into it, whether you’re looking at casual sex or a steady relationship. Although this kind of sex can be super hot, it’s also best to examine the situation beforehand and think with your head – not your penis.

What kind of rules does your workplace have about relationships between the employees? Is it simply something the company frowns upon or are there serious repercussions if you ever got found out? If the latter is the case, sex with someone you are employed with really may not be the best option for you. Some other things you want to think about are whether the person is married or not (that will really complicate things) and if you could withstand losing your job if you got busted. Really think it through first!

Keeping It On The Downlow

If you do decide to go ahead and have sex with someone you work with (in or out of an actual relationship), you’ve got to make sure that the sex stays on the downlow. Here’s how to make sure your secret stays a secret:

Don’t let the sex affect your attitude at work. Don’t walk into work looking like you just got laid, while your fellow employee does just the same. Pretty soon, people will put the puzzle pieces together. Just go to work like you normally do and act the way you normally do.
Be incredibly discreet. Put their phone number in your phone under another name.
Don’t allow the work relationship you have with this person to change at all – people can sense this. Treat them the way you normally would at work (as though nothing were going on between the two of you personally) and make sure the romance and sex is limited to only after you punch the clock. Work hours are not the time for flirting or sexual innuendo!
Never refer to sex at the workplace, and never talk about what you’re going to do later, where you’re going to meet up, etc. Make sure those conversations stay under wraps.

Is There Anything Really Wrong With Sex With Someone You Work With?

All disclaimers aside, no. If two people are legally of age to have sex and consensually do so, there’s really nothing wrong with it at all. So if you do decide to take the plunge and date a co-worker, have fun with it! Don’t be sorry or feel guilty about it if you and your partner have both agreed to make things stay professional at work.

Relationships that have started between employees are not at all uncommon – in fact, it makes total sense that since you’re at work all day almost every day, that you’ll meet someone you find interesting and want to get to know better (or have sex with). If you really like this person or feel a strong sexual attraction to them, there’s no reason to be completely closed off to the idea – because with the right attitude, you can have a lot of fun and you may just meet someone you fall in love with! You just have to make sure you go about it in an adult way and cover all your bases first.

Some Important Things To Remember

Absolutely no affection, fondling, flirting or anything else while you are at work. This rule CANNOT be broken if you don’t want to get caught and possibly lose your job.
If you’re going to date around the office, make sure you don’t date everyone in the office. You don’t want to get a reputation for being that guy.
Be open to a long term relationship. It may start out as an office fling, but it could easily move into something more. The thing that is unique about office relationships is that you spend so much time with the person at work that you really get to know them. So take your time with it and let it go wherever it goes!

5 Tips To Get Girls Who Are A “10!”

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 14:00:59 +0000

Most dating tips will help you get a “normal” girl, but what if you want a woman who is a FOX? Even if you’re an average looking guy, there are plenty of ways that YOU can get a lover who other guys could only DREAM of dating! Here’s the dating tips you need to date the hottest chicks.

Confident Women Like Confident Men

Know who you want to be and be that guy. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, and don’t get down on yourself for being who you are. Take pride and have confidence in yourself, because women who are really good looking are confident too. If you believe in the product you’re selling (which is yourself), women are going to want to buy it. You’ve got to believe you have the ability to approach and date ANY woman you want, or it’s just not going to happen. If you truly believe that you have a lot to offer any girl, your confidence will allow you to do just that – and then you’ll have the pick of women in the bar or wherever else you go to meet women!

Any Guy Can Learn To Be Amazing With The Ladies

A common misconception about dating is that if a guy is shy, or is a “nerd” that he can’t be good with women. Quite the opposite is true – ANY guy can learn to be amazing with the ladies. It doesn’t matter whether or not you’re the most attractive guy in the room, because honestly, even some of the best pick up artists aren’t underwear model material (far from it). If you think you’ll never be great with ladies because you’re “average” looking or for any other reason, you’re really only limiting yourself. Shed the negative thinking and have the confidence to know that you CAN learn to be great with women.

Be the cool guy that other people want to hang around. Work on improving yourself and have goals and a game plan. Don’t get caught up in faking it, using the right “pick up lines” or any of those “dating tips” that rarely ever work. It’s all about believing you have something great to offer (because you really do) and knowing that you can have any woman you want!

Stay Away From Anything Weird

Again, you want to stay away from any dating props or cheesy pick up lines. If it’s not authentic, women are going to smell it from a mile away. There are no magic “lines” that will instantly make women attracted to you, nor are is there anything else that will help you ask a girl out. You’ve just got to build that inner confidence and start putting yourself out there!

What you do want to do is be personable – be friendly, funny and be yourself! Don’t try to be a guy that you think women like, because that pretty much never works. Also, don’t be afraid to consider getting a dating coach. People pay personal trainers all the time to help them to work out and lose weight, a dating coach goes along the same lines – you’re having someone help train you to get the women you desire! If you don’t want a professional, enlist one of your friends (that also happens to be good with women) to help you through the process.

Focus On Being A “10″ Yourself

While looks certainly aren’t everything, if you consider yourself to be a “3,” you’re never going to get the hottest woman. So implement a game plan that allows you to work towards becoming the kind of guy that other women see as a “10.”

Have Fun Dating

It’s not always about “getting the number” or meeting the woman you’re going to have a long term relationship with or even marry. Have fun dating and meeting new people – it doesn’t always have to go somewhere. Also, don’t focus so much on meeting women, but also meeting new people in general – make new friends and find people who have similar goals. If you currently have friends that aren’t supporting you or are bringing you down, it may be time to get them out of your life and make friends that help lift you up and help you meet your goals.

Finally, you want to make the decision to become good at dating. Make the command decision to learn what you need to do to become more confident with the ladies and just do it. Put yourself out there and if you have the confidence, chicks who are a “10″ will flock to you!

Fingering Techniques That Will Blow Her Mind!

Michael Webb — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 23:00:13 +0000

Fingering can be so much more for a woman than a prelude to sex. Here’s how to use it to give your girl intense orgasms! Sex for many involves finding a hole and filling it.

Why Fingering Can Be Better

Almost always, that hole happens to be a vagina, and the filler, a penis. Of course, fingers are always at your disposal, and we have already discussed their utility over the genitalia. First of all, you have ten of them – which is always a good thing. Second, they gyrate in ways and venture into alleys your jimmy never can.

The art of fingering is a vital element in your sexual repertoire and no man becomes great in bed without the ability to handle her core with finesse and flair.

Things To Keep In Mind

Getting fingered is a vivacious experience. But since you’re handling a very personal part of her anatomy, she’ll expect from you a certain level of consideration. So don’t ever get involved with a dry vagina, it’s an unwelcoming one. Stir her libido first and make her wet herself before you administer anything.
Since the walls of the vagina collapse on each other, it can easily grip your fingers to oblivion, extremely tight ones will test blood circulation to a point where finger movement becomes out of the question. So make sure you have strong and enduring tentacles.
When administering any maneuver, consider your fingers’ length & size, and her elasticity.

The Right Strokes To Use

In & Out

This is as pedestrian as it gets. Who in this wretched world hasn’t tried the classic in & out thingy? For the creatively challenged, it wholly defines the very art of fingering. It’s as easy as ABC. With elbow grease and some arm action, merely slip a finger or 2 in & out of your partner.

The fun begins when you induce variety. And this is achieved by creating combos for rhythm and speed. Orchestrate cadences that alternate fast and slow motions. Some examples:

Start slow then rapidly increase speed, then STOP! Then return to slow and rapidly build up again
Start slow, then rapidly accelerate. Then gradually decrease speed, then giddiyap again
Have sex music playing and let your fingers groove to it. Or hold a beat in your head and move accordingly.

Finger Plug

When women say they feel empty and want to be filled by a man – they mean just that. They want to feel the warmth of a male inside their vagina.

So do her a favor and fill that void by inserting a finger or two in there. And STAY THERE! Decline temptation to withdraw. Let her luxuriate in your presence, allowing her vaginal muscles to squeeze your fingers as tightly as she can. Add eye contact and you’re gold. And while you’re in there, feel the warmth and wetness of her insides, attend to the contractions she makes.

Circular Moves

For hygienic purposes, her walls collapse on each other, effectively closing out unwanted stuff. Comparing the vagina to a hollow barrel or cylinder won’t be accurate since it merely stretches to the mold of the object inserted up there. But for our noble purposes here, let’s picture the vagina as a barrel.

Finger Roll

With this maneuver, your finger rolls back and forth like a log. Insert a finger or two straight up, then rotate your arm clockwise as far as it can go, after which you rotate it counterclockwise as far as it goes. Vary the speed & depths of your rolls.

Finger Tornado

The Finger Tornado has 2 variations. The first is powered by circular motions of the finger itself, the second, which is the heavier version, utilizes circular movements of the whole arm. But ultimately, both are drawing circles or spirals inside her vagina. (This could be a challenge for extra tight ones.)

Start at the surface opening and run circles with your forefinger. As you penetrate, imagine you’re barreling a tunnel by spiraling into her. Slide one millimeter at a time and hold a sensual rhythm to it. Continue rotating ‘til you reach the farthest possible point for your puny fingers. Stay in the area for a while, after which you slowly withdraw – still continuing with the circular actions.

Vary the pressure to the walls and do both clockwise and counterclockwise moves. Imagine what it must be like for her.

Finger Tornadoes are designed in such a way that you engage every millimeter of her vaginal barrel – as far as your fingers can go. If she has unusually sensitive spots inside, you’re bound to find them. Instead of the textbook ramming, which is really the forte of penises, worm your way into her. Tunnel your way through and you might strike orgasm gold.

Finger Rake

The Finger Rake works like the garden tool of a similar name. It’s similar with the previous technique, but you excite her insides by pressing and sliding the fingers SIMULTANEOUSLY – scratching with 2-4 fingers. It’s like clawing the insides of the vagina, without intending to effect blood or pain.

This goes without saying, but clean, trimmed nails are an absolute must!

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Do you have any idea what you can do to your lady’s sanity when your penis is angled correctly at her G-spot? But instead of trying different sexual positions to correctly aim your equipment, try the Penis Emulator – it’s a powerhouse. With this technique, you will use your fingers like a penis to POKE! POKE! POKE! directly at her G-spot.

Instead of doing sets of “come here” gestures – poke into it directly and firmly. Watch her go crazy with this.

Poking, however, is often not enough. You have to bring your arm into the stroke by moving it up & down, hitting the top wall of her vagina. The technique is a simple UP & DOWN movement. The upward stroke bumps the spot, the downward thing is the recoil.

You can go hard and build serious speed on this one, with the added enjoyment of hearing her vagina sound-off as you operate. Your other palm should be pressed firmly on the area below her bellybutton. This is not simply to hold her pelvis down and restrict movement, the bearing down isolates the area and causes more intense sensations. This may even make your partner squirt!

Q&A: How To Flirt With A Tomboy

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 14:00:49 +0000

How to flirt with a tomboy is different from doing it with a girly girl – you’ve got to be careful about what you say and how you act, because the same types of things that work on more feminine women aren’t going to work on a girl who isn’t. Here’s how to flirt with these types of women SUCCESSFULLY!

Question: How do I flirt with a tomboy (who likes me too)? How do I know she’s flirting with me? What do I need to know about tomboys?

–YouTube Viewer

The “Tomboy” Stigma

Just because a girl is more into doing “guy” stuff like playing sports, likes hanging out with guys more than girls and doesn’t do the whole “shopping and frilly dress” thing, it doesn’t mean that she’s any less girl when it comes to the way a guy can make her feel. She is still going to get butterflies in her stomach when you smile at her and she’s still going to be receptive to flirting. However, you do have to make sure your flirting style works with her personality. Cheesy pick up lines and standard seduction techniques may not work for these types of women.

Going Out And Having Fun

If you try to schmooze a tomboy, or try to be a really “suave” guy around her, she may hit you! The most important thing when learning how to flirt with a girl like this is to plan to do things with her that are a lot of fun. Take advantage of the fact that she’s not a girly girl, and plan dates that are super fun and keep you guys laughing and having a great time. Some great date ideas are:

Going to a ball game
Hiking
Hanging out and playing video games (if she’s a tomboy-gamer sort of girl)
See a movie (make sure it’s NOT a chick flick)
Instead of a fancy restaurant, have hot dogs in the park (and who cares if you get messy?)

How To Compliment Her

Complimenting a tomboy is where you can really get into trouble if you don’t choose the right things to say. You don’t want to compliment a girl like this on her looks – she works very hard to make sure that she doesn’t dress girly, because she doesn’t want to be noticed for the way she looks. Don’t compliment her makeup (if she wears any) or her outfit – instead, find things about her personality to compliment.

Tell her you love her smile and the way she makes you laugh, or compliment her hobbies. Tell her she’s really good at her favorite sport, even better than you! Compliment her accomplishments and the things she’s done that she’s proud of.

Be Yourself

With dating, it’s always important to be yourself and never try to be the person you think the girl you’re interested in would like. This comes off as fake and almost always backfires – regardless of the type of girl. Of course, a tomboy is going to see right through your charade a lot faster than any other type of girl and you’re probably not going to guess right on the type of guy she would be interested in – so she probably won’t like you at all if you try to be someone other than who you really are.

How Do You Know If A Tomboy Likes You?

Surprisingly enough, this is one of the areas where a tomboy is going to be pretty much just like any other girl. You’re going to be able to tell if she likes you the same way you might notice that another girl would like you. She’s going to be doing pretty much the same things like:

Making excuses to be around you
Getting in your space
Making more eye contact with you
Laughing and smiling at your jokes and things you say
A tomboy, however, may mockingly punch you rather than touch your arm or leg softly, but it means the same thing – she likes you!

She’s Not Going To Be Good At The Seduction Game

Unlike more girly girls, a tomboy isn’t going to know how to flirt or be very good at the seduction game. She’s going to be more laid back, casual and relaxed. So make sure you take things slow and don’t move too fast. If you do, you might scare her off! Aim to be more casual and relaxed yourself, and let the attraction unfold naturally. You’ll be able to tell if she likes you if she wants to spend more time with you, so after that, just let things take their natural course! Be yourself and remember to have fun!

How To Pick Up Girls – For Smart Guys

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 14:00:56 +0000

Dating tips don’t always give you all the answers you need. It can be tough if you’re an intellectual fella – because not just any girl will do. Smart men need a woman who will be able to carry on a conversation with them, as well as stimulate them emotionally, mentally and intellectually. Women like that can be hard to find – and even more difficult to pick up! Here are some excellent dating tips to get women with brains!

Difficulty Relating To Women

Okay smart men – you know who you are. You’re the science guy, the IT guy, the accounting and finance fella. You’ve got brains and you know that if any women really got to know you, they would fall madly in love with you! Here’s the problem:

Most brilliant men are so left-brained that they have incredible difficulty relating and talking to women! So how do you overcome this?

It’s time to get in touch with the right side of your brain! Some dating tips may give you pick up lines that promise magical things will happen as soon as the words leave your mouth, but that’s just not the case here. You’ve got to get more in touch with the right side of your brain, so you can learn to relate to women better. This is not going to immediately snag you a date with the smartest (and hottest) woman, but it will help you get better at relating to women on a larger scale.

Thinking Outside The Box

To get the right side of your noggin’ more involved, you need to find some creative hobbies that allow you to get into that mode and away from the super smart, super analytical side of your brain. Poetry and art are awesome ways to get that going, but pretty much any hobby or activity that allows you to think “outside the box” will do.

It might be uncomfortable at first, or you may feel out of place, simply because your brain doesn’t work that way. You’re not an artsy-fartsy guy! But if you get just a little outside your comfort zone and start doing things that help you develop an artistic nature or engage your creativity, you’re already on your way to meeting women and being able to relate to them well enough that you can pick them up!

Be Yourself

Being yourself always works better to attract women, simply because the ladies can usually spot a fake a mile away. A lot of guys don’t understand that women want to get to know YOU, not the guy you think they want to get to know. So many men put on a fake front because they think that will help them attract more women and in the beginning, it may. But it won’t be long before she realizes that you’re not who she thought you were and she’s out the door.

Be yourself and take pride in the fact that you’re an intelligent man! Ladies love this! They want to be able to have a real, amazing conversation with a guy! So have the confidence to put yourself out there – the REAL you.

Strong Masculine Energy & Eye Contact

Having a strong, masculine energy and having the confidence to make eye contact makes a big difference when trying to get a date with a smart chick. In fact, this is one of those dating tips that applies to pretty much any woman. Ladies don’t want to be with a wimp – and unfortunately, a lot of really brilliant guys come off as “wimps” simply because they’ve never had the confidence or practice to have a strong masculine energy about them. They may have grown up as “nerds” or were made fun of for being so smart, so they sink into that persona over time – without realizing that it IS possible to be uber-smart and great with the ladies.

Your Mindset Is Important

It’s very important that you have the right mindset when it comes to attracting intelligent women. Don’t think that these smart women are beyond your reach – they are just people too! A lot of times, guys are so intimidated by hot women, they don’t approach them – but in reality, these girls really don’t get many dates because men are too intimidated to approach them! Have the mindset that these women are real people and you can connect with them – just start that conversation! Hot women are often the most friendly, down to earth people you’ve ever met.

Don’t Focus On Looks

Don’t be so focused on a woman’s looks that you fail to see the amazing personality within. Have a conversation with her, ask her intelligent questions and give intelligent answers. Get to know who she really is! It’s critical to be open and real with a woman if you want a shot at having a true relationship.

Basic Tips For Talking To Women

On average, women say about 15,000 words per day and guys say about 6,000.
Make a goal to start talking more, period!
Learn to relax in social situations
Practice talking to women! Even if it’s not the girl you’re interested in, just get more comfortable talking to women in general.
Learn something new every time you talk to a girl! Women are people too.
It’s not a failure if you don’t get with a girl, but you learn something that will help you in the future.

How To Win A Woman’s Love

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 14:00:13 +0000

Love can be fickle – but it doesn’t have to be. The keys to getting a lady to fall head over heels for you isn’t all that difficult to understand – the emotions of a woman are complicated, however, with the right outlook, they’re easy enough to understand and influence. Employ these effective strategies to get the girl you’re after to fall in love with you.

Slow And Steady Wins The Race

It’s important that you approach the girl you’re interested in slowly, especially if she doesn’t know you or doesn’t know you well. A very strong come on in the beginning isn’t going to work well for you – in fact, it’s very likely to backfire. What you don’t want to do is come off as a creep, because then you could very well be scaring her off for good!

Understand that for a really strong connection to build, it has to start somewhere. It takes time for attraction to build, and if you ever plan on wanting to be in a relationship with this person, you want to make sure your taking the time to build a strong foundation in the beginning. Don’t be afraid to take it slow and let the attraction build naturally. Make sure you get to know her well, and make sure she at least knows that you exist!

If You’re Inexperienced With Women

If you’re shy and inexperienced talking to women, take that first initial step and go out there and start meeting women! Even if they aren’t the “one” that you want to be dating, getting practice talking to women and being comfortable around them will help you to be more smooth and confident when you’re around the lady you really, really like.

Don’t Lose Sight Of Your Own Passions, Goals And Interests

A lot of times what will happen when a guy becomes interested in a girl is he will begin to become obsessed with her. Thoughts of her will end up taking over his mind, and everything he does will somehow be related to her, what she’s doing or where she is. If you want to have any shot with the girl you’re pining over, you have to forget that completely!

Make sure you still have your own goals and passions. Don’t lose yourself when trying to get a girl! That almost never, ever works. She’s not going to be attracted to you if you’re completely obsessed with her. Having your own passions and goals in life (and participating in them actively) is actually the best thing you can do to make her notice you. Concentrate on living your life to the fullest and taking part in things that make you happy. If you’re happy all the time, she’s going to start taking an interest in you. If you’re fun to be around, you’ll really start to attract women!

Get To Know Each Other

In the beginning stages, it’s important for you and the lady you’re interested in to start getting to know each other. You may think you know all about her and you’re madly in love with her, but the truth is, until you’ve really spent some time with someone and have gotten to know them well, it’s really hard to tell if those feelings are genuine. Our brains are excellent at filling in the gaps when it comes to having a crush on someone, so we walk away thinking they’re the love of our lives when in reality, we don’t know them very well at all.

Search for things you and the girl you like have in common. Find out if she even likes you! You cannot force a woman to love you – if you don’t have anything in common or if she doesn’t even really like you “that way,” you can’t force a relationship to come out of it. However, you can “win” a lady’s love if the spark is already there by playing your cards right!

Invest In Yourself

Take some time to make yourself more attractive to women overall. You’re not going to get anyone if you look and feel like a bum! Exercise, eat healthy and nutritious meals and take part in activities that give you confidence and self-worth. Being more confident in general about yourself will automatically make you more attractive to women (including the girl you like). If you don’t love yourself and feel good about yourself first, no one else will either! Also, you ensure that by becoming more attractive in general, you’re leaving the door open for other women – who may be better for you.

The Less You Need Her, The More She Will Like You

You don’t want to be that needy, clingy guy that needs to be around her, be talking to her or be thinking about her to be happy. If you make her your sole source of happiness, she will run for the hills as fast as she can! No girl wants to be the “be all and end all” for a guy. So make a point to “need” her less. This goes back to not losing yourself for a girl and making sure that you still have activities and things that you’re passionate about and enjoy doing. Make time for your guy friends – go out to the sports bar and watch the game with your buddies, or do something else that doesn’t involve her. This will make you way more attractive to her – and it will give her room to chase you a little bit!

Respect That She Can Decide Who She Loves On Her Own

Give her some space. Let her chase you a little – if she feels smothered, she’s going to kick you to the curb in short order. If you’ve done everything you possibly can to win her love and she still doesn’t love you, you’re going to have to recognize when it’s time to move on. If you keep pushing forward when she’s pulling back, you’re going to make yourself out to seem like a stalker! (And you can forget a possible relationship with one of her hot friends if you seem like a weirdo who won’t let go).

She can decide who she wants to love and who she doesn’t all by herself – you cannot force a girl to love you! If this happens to you, concede defeat gracefully and with dignity. Move on, continue improving yourself and doing things that make you happy, and the right one will come along soon enough.

How To Use Sexual Tension To Get Immediate Results

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 14:00:35 +0000

Sexual tension is an amazing way to get a girl so turned on, she’s practically ripping your jeans off. If you do it right, you’ll create sexual tension that is so thick, you could cut it with a knife! This is the kind of stuff that will get you INSTANT results! Get laid TONIGHT with these incredible seduction tips.

How To Create Sexual Tension That Feels Natural

Many guys attempt to create sexual attention when they’re not already sexually aroused – this can actually backfire, because it comes across as completely fake. If you want to create that natural feeling, crazy sexual tension, you need to make sure you’re “in the mood,” so to speak, so that you can convey those feelings to the girl you’re with.

Uncertainty and anticipation is the core of what it’s all about, and if you’re not really experiencing those feelings, the girl you are with isn’t going to either. You really want to be feeling true anticipation that something sexual may happen, and you want to feel that real uncertainty that you may or may not get lucky tonight! The girl you’re with is going to pick up on those feelings, and they will intensify her own.

Getting Into A Controlled Sexual State

So you want to be sexually aroused when you go to create sexual tension, but you don’t want to be so aroused that you’re humping her leg or that you orgasm within just a few minutes if you do actually get to have sex. What you want to do is get yourself into a controlled sexual state – where you are feeling aroused but not too aroused. You can do this a number of ways:

Imagine her naked.
Think about what you want to do to her.
Imagine what she’s going to do to you.
Gaze at her lips while licking yours and imagining kissing her.
Make soulful eye contact.
Touch the back of her neck softly.
Don’t be afraid of awkward silences – use them to your advantage!

This will all help you get psyched up and into that mode of creating sizzling sexual tension – just be careful not to take yourself over the edge and get yourself too psyched out.

The Push/Pull Of Sexual Tension

It’s is kind of like a dance, or a game of tennis. There’s a lot of push/pull there that you can’t fake. You’ve got to be into it and she’s got to be into it – and you both have to go in a little and pull back a little to really create those intense feelings. Really great sexual tension will leave a woman feeling just a little confused, because you’re going to be giving a few mixed signals on purpose.

When you start feeling like she’s really into it, you want to back off just a little bit, to give her room to push. She’s not going to be interested in you at all if you don’t give her that room and make her question whether you really like her or not. That’s when she’s going to test you by getting in your space a little and contributing to the push/pull.

Make Her A Little Uncomfortable

Once you get to the point where one or both of you have just passed the feeling of being a little uncomfortable, you know you’re in a great spot and you don’t want to back off right away. Feeling a little uncomfortable (not the creepy kind, the good kind) is what fuels the fires of sexual tension, so once you’re experiencing that, you want to keep the flirting going for a little while before you back off and let her come to you.

Have Fun And Enjoy It!

If you’e afraid of talking to women, or if you aren’t confident enough in yourself, you’re not going to be able to create really great sexual tension. You’ve got to be confident, but you’ve also got to be relaxed enough to know that it’s a really fun game that you can enjoy – but not something you have to take completely seriously. Relax and have fun experimenting with different moves and seeing what reaction you get out of them!

Practice Getting In Touch With Your Feelings

Sexual tension is a feeling – and while most girls are already in touch with their emotions, a lot of guys aren’t. This may make it difficult for men to spot it. Practice by getting in touch with your emotional side by participating in activities or hobbies that require you to use your emotions. This will help you relate to girls more, so it will be easier for you to sense what move to make next.

Flirting Is Key To Sexual Tension

Flirting is a big part of creating sexual tension, so if you don’t know how to flirt, it’s time that you learn! Practice by getting out there and talking to women. Flirt with them and see what kind of reactions you get! Practice your eye contact, body language and conversation skills so that you can really master your game before you ever meet a girl you really like and want to make sure you do everything right with.

Practicing will also help you learn how to keep from overdoing it, because just like with anything else, it’s easy to overdo the sexual tension. You need to learn how to spot when it’s time for you to move on (if she’s just not feeling it) or when it’s time to move things along and get more intimate. When it feels right, you’ll know when to move on to kissing, touching and foreplay! This comes with time and practice!

The 9 Booty Call Commandments

He Said/She Said with John & Jenna — Thu, 29 Sep 2011 17:00:32 +0000

A booty call is a relationship and like all relationships, they have their own set of rules. Are you following these nine booty call “laws?”

What She Said:

Thou Shall Keep It Clear

The best way to have fun with a booty call is to clearly define your relationship beforehand. Booty calls, by popular definition, include sex without strings. It’s late night satisfaction – the fast food of sex. So make sure you’re not emotionally attached before picking up that phone.

Thou Shall Be Experimental

Take the opportunity to whip out the Kama Sutra and explore some new positions. When the two of you ultimately transition to other relationships, you’ll have some amazing moves to wow your next lover with.

Thou Shall Be Respectful

Booty calls are for legally consenting adults – so act like one! Though it’s a casual connection, the rules of etiquette still apply. You don’t need to exchange details of your day – but treating each other with kindness is a must.

Thou Shall Use Protection

Booty calls are fun and lighthearted. STD’s and unplanned pregnancies are not – use condoms.

Thou Shall Know When To Let It Go

There will come a time when you’ll need to wrap it up. Booty call arrangements are usually short-lived. If it’s not fun anymore – or one of you has met someone else – it’s time to call it a night.

What He Said

Thou Shall Have An Exit Strategy

These things will not last forever. It will be fun for a while, not a long time. Know this in advance and plan accordingly.

Thou Shall Not Expect Too Much

This isn’t going to go anywhere. Except to the bedroom. It’s not going to turn into something more. It isn’t a deep, profound, spiritual connection. If you go into a movie with super high expectations you’ll probably be very disappointed, why? Because you’re setting yourself up for failure. If you go in with lower, more realistic expectations, then you’re more likely to have a good time and really, really enjoy yourself.

Thou Shall Get Yours

Don’t expect the other person to care about your pleasure. This isn’t love making, this is f**cking. Period. It’s fast and nasty, down and dirty. The person on the other end of the equation isn’t concerned about your feelings or making sure you have a good time, more often than not. If anything, they are concerned about getting theirs. Take ownership of your orgasm and make sure you get it, and then some. Don’t wait for anyone else to make it happen. That’s on you.

Thou Shall Not Be Unrealistic

Yes, they are probably going to be having sex with other people. No, it won’t last forever. Yes, it will end badly (if you don’t end it first). What do you expect? It’s a booty call. You can’t accept a collect call from Cambodia and then be shocked when you get your phone bill. Take ownership and accountability. You made the call or at least you answered it. There’s an upside and a downside. Weigh the pluses and minus and act accordingly

How To Get Out Of A Dating Dry Spell ASAP!

He Said/She Said with John & Jenna — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 17:00:07 +0000

Dating doesn’t always mean you’re going to go out with person after person – some nights, you end up alone! Here’s how to get out of your dating slump NOW!

I’m in a dating dry spell. Big time. It’s been forever. I can’t seem to break it, no matter what! It’s beyond frustrating! What can I do?

What She Said:

Be open to meeting new people, having new experiences and be willing to put yourself out there – safely!

If you’ve been in a long-term dry spell, chances are, subconsciously or otherwise, you were abstaining from a relationship to keep yourself safe emotionally. Perhaps you went through a bad breakup that turned you off from dating for a while. The long and the short of it is, you were most likely feeling too vulnerable to date, so don’t be hard on yourself.

You’ve decided you want to end your dry spell, so that’s half the battle. Now that you’re open to dating again, you’ll most likely be putting out a vibe that interested parties are sure to pick up on! Setting an intention and giving yourself a goal is a powerful way to focus on moving forward.

Be creative. Ask friends to hook you up with their single pals. Register with an online dating service. Head to the park, the gym, the library, the bars. See who’s out there. Don’t be shy about striking up conversations. Have fun flirting! You’ve got nothing to lose.

The main thing, as always, is to be happy with yourself and your life. Your joy and confidence will attract similar people – and that’s a great way to start! Remember to have fun, enjoy yourself and trust that you deserve the best.

What He Said:

Well, the obvious answers are lower your standards and/or get a prostitute. Nothing says “slump buster” like hookers and ugly chicks/dudes. Aside from that, lower the stakes. It’s not that big a deal, and it’s not going to last forever. Even a broken clock is right twice a day.

Okay, maybe that’s not the inspirational quote that you’ll see on a Hallmark card, but it’s true. It’s not that big a deal. This too shall pass.

After that, you’ll have to figure out what to do next. If you have what you want, keep doing what you’re doing. If not, you will need to do something different. Try and find your patterns and break them. Or make a list of things you swore you’d never do (ask friends to set you up, online dating, whatever) and do them, no matter how painful or awkward. Doing things different will lead to different results.

Keep an open mind and be curious. Be interested but not invested. If something works, keep doing it. If not, don’t and try something else. Wash, rinse, repeat.

You could also give up and abandon all hope. That seems to work especially for couples who think they can’t have a baby. After they give up and make peace with the fact that it will never happen, it usually winds up happening. Funny how that works. Well, funny unless it’s you. Then, well, not so much. But still people will chuckle. Behind your back.

Being frustrated or angry isn’t good. It’s helpful to a degree in that it will make you get off your ass and inspire change, but after you get to that point, they really aren’t very helpful parts of the process. They’re like booster rockets for the space shuttle. They get you to a point and then they no longer provide fuel, so you have to jettison them.

I’ve Got The Hots For One Of My Roommates!

He Said/She Said with John & Jenna — Fri, 16 Sep 2011 17:00:55 +0000

A booty call can be a lot of fun – but it can also complicate things a great deal if you happen to be living with the person you want to hook up with! It’s not at all uncommon for young roommates of the opposite sex to be attracted to each other – you’re often seeing your roommate in their most vulnerable (and sexiest) situations such as being in the shower or sleeping soundly in their bed. Since you see your house mate often, it’s absolutely natural that you would be thinking about them often. It’s also natural for you to be interested in them in a romantic or sexual way. But does this mean you should act on your feelings and make your roomie a booty call? Or would the wisest thing be to keep your feelings to yourself?

I’m living in a house with a bunch of roommates (Real World style!). I’m attracted to one of the guys and we’ve been flirting a lot – but we’re putting off getting together for fear of complicating our living situation. Neither one of us can afford to move out if things go bad, but we really want to hook up. Thoughts?

What She Said:

I guess it’ll depend on what’s stronger – your libido or your desire to keep your living situation comfortable! I’ll be interested to hear which one wins out.

Ask Yourself Questions First

Here are a few questions to ask yourself before diving in: How strong is the connection? Is it worth possibly putting your living situation in jeopardy? Is this a hookup for sex or do you both want a relationship? If it’s an in-house booty call, how will you feel if he brings home another girl? How will it affect the dynamics of your household? Are you both mature enough to handle it if it doesn’t work out? Of course you can’t know the answers to these questions for sure, but it’ll behoove the situation if you can push yourself by playing devil’s advocate.

If you’re like the rest of us, my guess is that you’ll give in to hooking up – and that’s okay! If you decide to proceed, the best you can do is move forward with a mutual respect for each other – and, if you’re really smart, the utmost respect for your roommates. That means keeping your private time private; and if things do go awry, don’t drag your household into the drama.

You can do the pros and cons list all day long – but hopefully you’ll go with your gut and do what’s best for you. But keep that piggy bank full, just in case.

What He Said:

Hooking up with someone you live with when neither of you could afford to move out if something goes awry? What could possibly be wrong with this scenario?

Sure there’s a lot that COULD go right with this scenario, but is the juice worth the squeeze? That’s what it comes down to. I’m not you and I’m not there, so I can’t speak to that, but I can say I have trouble imagining a situation where the positives outweigh the negatives.

Could the sex be mind blowing? Could this person be the great love of your life? Sure, but they could also go batshit crazy on you and you’re stuck there in a really weird living situation.

And then so are your roommates. Maybe this other person doesn’t go psycho, but how will this affect your roommate dynamic? What if one of your roommates wants to hook up with this person and you do first? That can’t be good. Either way you’re going to be affecting the dynamics in the living situation – you can try and see how it works out. Could it work out, I guess so, but why would you really want to try? No, seriously, tell me. I’m curious.

Relationship Advice: Is It Too Soon To Move In Together?

He Said/She Said with John & Jenna — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 23:00:18 +0000

A relationship often progresses naturally from dating to moving in to living together and possibly eventually to marriage. When you meet someone, you start flirting and hitting it off, and then you go on a few dates together. Before long, you and the person you’re interested are in a relationship. Once you’re in the relationship, you may notice that you move from the beginning stages to sex to commitment before you really even know what is happening. It’s easy to move fast in a partnership when you’re with someone you really, really like. Countless happy couples met and fell in love quickly, but how do you know if your relationship is going too fast? How can you tell if sharing a house together is the next step, and how do you know if the timing is right?

I’m head over heels in love with my new boyfriend. We’ve only been together one month, but we both feel this is it. Is it too soon to move in together? Our sex life is amazing and we spend every night together anyway!

What She Said:

I’m going to be frank. I’d wait a bit to make sure what you’re feeling is love and not lust. I have no doubt that you’re blissfully happy with your new beau, but your experience is currently tangled with your raging hormones. If this is the real deal, what’s the harm in postponing a life-changing move?

Don’t get me wrong – I’m an optimist when it comes to love. I’ve fallen in love at first sight and it was amazing. I was with this man for over three years, so it definitely wasn’t a fluke. I knew in my heart (and a few other places) that he was the one – at least for that time.

Don’t Rush The Relationship

Of course your sex life is amazing – there’s a mutual attraction at work and things are new. Savor this time – it’s one of the best things life has to offer.

I’m sure you’ve been in relationships before, so you’re no doubt aware that this will fade a bit. And nothing makes the thrill of the new fade more quickly than getting familiar with the old. It’s exciting to strip off your clothes and tumble into bed – it’s another thing entirely to learn that your boyfriend never picks up after himself. The thing that makes the mess less annoying is a deep bond that develops over time.

If He’s The One, Take Your Time!

If this is it, why not enjoy dating to the hilt? Let your body tingle with anticipation on date night. Go a day or two without seeing each other while you still have some “single you” time. Let it build slowly with layers of shared experiences as you truly get to know each other. When moving day comes, it’ll be a confident decision and not a reaction to a situation.

What He Said:

Moving in after a month? What could possibly go wrong? Did my public education prepare me to count that high? No. Not so much.

It’s been a month. It’s been a month. Have I mentioned it’s been a month? Because it’s been a month. Is that sinking in yet? Because seriously. Seriously. It’s only been a month.

Your brain ain’t right. Because it’s been a month (sound familiar?) It’s filled with all kind of fun, narcotic like chemicals. You can’t make sense of things. You are not in a right frame of mind. You shouldn’t be allowed to drive, or operate heavy machinery, unless of course it’s a battery powered cock ring or Sybian.

Where’s The Fire?

It will take time for you to adjust to the great sex (or for it to die down, either one). If it is a great relationship and it is the one, why rush it? Where’s the fire? Are you in a race? Do you want to win a medal? Why are you trying to get so fast to some kind of imaginary destination. Slow down. You have nothing to gain by moving so fast and have everything to lose. Just enjoy the ride!

How To Tell If You Are Really More Than Friends?

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 14:00:50 +0000

Dating is difficult when you feel like you’re more than friends but just aren’t sure. It’s easy to meet someone and begin a friendship with them, only to start feeling more for them than you originally did as you get to know them. However, taking a friendship to dating can be intimidating, because sometimes you’re not really sure how the other person feels.

If you ask your friend out and they don’t feel the same way as you, you risk ruining the friendship because things will be different after you let them know you have romantic feelings towards them. It’s better to know (for the most part) if you and your friend are actually more than that – so how can you tell if you and your “friend” should start REALLY dating?

She’s Going To Want To Spend Time With You

If the girl you’re interested in has romantic feelings for you too, she’s going to want to spend as much time with you as possible. She’s going to make excuses to see you and be around you.

She’s Going To Be Okay If The Conversation Turns Sexual

If she’s into you, she’s not going to shy away if the conversation turns towards sex. If she’s not and just wants to be your friend, she’s going to shy away from sexual conversation and stick to topics that are completely platonic. So test her out and bring up a topic that is just a little sexual to see how she reacts – does she shy away from the conversation or does she actively participate in it? If she actively participates in a sexual conversation – and even takes it a little further – it’s a safe bet that she digs you.

You Will Feel It

The energy with friends isn’t the same as the energy you feel when you have an actual connection with someone. If you’ve ever felt that feeling before, you know exactly what it is – there’s no mistaking it. Guys who have never had this connection with someone may not be sure how it feels – but rest assured that you really will know when you do feel it. Pay attention and be looking for that – if you’re not experiencing that real connection, you’re most likely really just friends.

Is She Into The Next Step?

To find out if the girl you like is into taking the next step with you, you have to realize it’s not all about what she says. You have to pay attention to her body language, because she may not be saying anything that lets you know she’s into you at all. Her body language will, however, tell you whether she’s digging you or not. If she is, she’s going to make excuses to get in your space, making eye contact with you and laughing and having a good time with you. Here are some easy ways to tell if she’s ready for you to make the next move.

She starts dropping hints for you to make a move
When you flirt or are being playful, she reciprocates and shares in the witty banter
She opens up and seems to want to talk about more personal topics
She’s happy to see you or talk to you
She finds excuses to touch you or brush up against you
When you touch her, she doesn’t back away – she may even lean closer to you

Don’t Wait Too Long!

If you feel that energy and everything seems to be lining up, don’t wait too long to make a move. Just make it! Ask her out! Don’t wonder whether she’s really into you or not, or second guess yourself. So many guys second guess themselves so much that the girl they like – and who likes them back – thinks that he’s not interested in her! If you feel that romantic connection, go for it! If you wait too long to ask a girl out, you may end up missing the moment entirely.

Relax And Have Fun

If you’re so keyed up and worried about figuring out whether a girl likes you back or not, you may miss key signs that she really does like you. You definitely want to be aware of those signs so you can make the next move if you sense she’s into you too. So take a deep breath and relax! Have confidence that you’ll know when things feel right and that she’ll give you plenty of signs to lead you in the right direction. Have fun and wait for that special connection to happen!

How To Be Her Dream Guy

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 30 Aug 2011 14:00:31 +0000

Great dating advice can help you learn how to be every woman’s romantic fantasy. You can try to guess at what a woman wants in a man, or you can know for sure with these great tips. Here’s how to be everything she ever wanted!

Have A Strong Identity

The importance of having confidence in who you are and having a strong identity can’t be emphasized enough here. Think of yourself as the “product” and you’re “selling” this product to women – do you believe in what you’re selling? Do you like what you’re selling and do you think it’s a great product? If you don’t like what you’re selling, no one else will either!

Learn to get comfortable with who you are and what you have to offer. This will not only help attract women to you, it will also help you to know more about the kind of women that you could possibly have great chemistry with. Focus on being fun, energetic and exciting for others to be around – you want to be the kind of guy that has lots of friends that truly enjoy hanging out and having great conversations.

You also want to find your strengths and accentuate them. You don’t want to be the kind of guy that blends in with everyone else, because then girls aren’t going to notice you at all! You want to find what is unique about yourself and show that off. If you stand out from the crowd a little bit because of something that is special about you, that’s a good thing!

Learn How To Be Comfortable In Social Situations

No girl has a “dream guy” that sits in the corner at a party and doesn’t talk to anyone. Girls want a man who is passionate, has things to talk about and wants to talk about them with other people. So if you’re not comfortable in large groups or in social situations, you want to work on this. Practice makes perfect, so put yourself out there. The more you expose yourself to social situations, the more comfortable you will begin to be in them. As you do this, your self confidence will soar!

Be Someone She Can Be Proud Of

This is perhaps one of the best bits of dating advice out there. While women can and will fall in love with guys who they can’t be proud of, you don’t want this to be you! If you really want a girl to fall for you, you’ve got to be someone she can be proud to introduce to her friends and family. You want to be someone she can bring up in a conversation, rather than the topic she’s trying to avoid in a conversation.

Have an awesome job, volunteer or do things that you’re passionate about. Have short term and long term goals, and don’t be afraid to tell people about what you’re striving for. She will see and admire the things that you love doing that make you who you are – and this is what she will brag about to her friends and family when she is dating you!

Get Comfortable Being Romantic And Sensual

Women love sensuality and romance, period. If you can’t bring this to the table, it’s not likely you’re going to be any girl’s fantasy. Get comfortable with showing women affection, touching them and kissing them. When you kiss a woman, make it something that she remembers! If you don’t know how to be romantic or sensual with a woman, read up on seduction tips and how to really be intimate with a girl.

With physical intimacy comes emotional intimacy, so you don’t want to wall yourself of emotionally. Get comfortable with experiencing your feelings, talking about them and being in touch with your emotions. Don’t be afraid to open up to a girl and let her see that you’re a little emotionally vulnerable. Yes, you’re taking the risk of getting hurt here, but ultimately, this is the piece of dating advice that will get her to fall head over heels for you.

Develop A Posture And Presence That Women Want To Be Around

Girls want to be around that strong, confident guy. They don’t want to be around a weak, wimpy guy that asks permission for everything. Learn to make decisions about date ideas, where to go and what to do. Let a girl know that she doesn’t have to worry about things when she’s with you. Show her that you’re the alpha male – and she’ll be putty in your hands.

How To Be A Chick Magnet – Part 2!

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 14:00:29 +0000

Flirting goes a long way when attracting women, but it has more to do with YOU than what you say. If you’re a strong, confident guy who likes to talk, laugh and have fun, women are going to want to be around you. There’s no question that women are attracted to guys that make them feel great, so here’s how to be the kind of guy that has women flock to him.

Focus On Becoming More Attractive Every Day

Attractiveness isn’t just about how you look – it’s about how you feel on the inside. How you feel about yourself shows up on the outside, and people read into that. If you’re down on yourself or don’t have self confidence, it’s going to be written all over your face. If you want to be attractive to women, you have to have confidence and strength on the inside.

Becoming more confident in yourself and feeling great about who you are as a person doesn’t come overnight, especially if you’ve never had good self esteem. It will take time, but focus on becoming confident and secure with who you are a little more each day. Turn yourself into someone who isn’t afraid to go after what they want, instead of sitting back on the sidelines and watching life go by. Have passions in your life and things you care about. Have goals and work towards them each day.

Believe That You Don’t Need A Girl To Be Happy

The less you “need” a woman in your life, the less you will give off that needy, clingy vibe. You will automatically begin to attract more women, simply because you have that confidence to go home alone if there’s no one that catches your eye. Know that you can be happy within yourself – it’s a choice you have to make and when you do, it will totally change your life. Really believe that you can be happy by yourself and that you don’t need someone else to be the source of your satisfaction in life.

When you have things in your life that you enjoy doing – that you don’t need a woman for – and that you’re truly passionate about, people are going to want to be a part of that. When you exude confidence and happiness all the time, people are going to want to be around you, especially women. They all want a piece of that! Make an effort to increase your self esteem and know that you are happy with who you are, without a girl. Then, instead of trying to be someone that a woman will like, you can find one that is the right match for YOU.

Don’t Get Stuck On One Woman

A lot of guys get stuck in a crush and think that this is the only girl that will ever make them happy. They obsess over this one girl, and don’t make any room for other women that might be a better match. When you learn to be happy without women, it will be easier to know that the right one will eventually come to you. You’ll have the confidence to know that if a particular woman you like doesn’t feel the same way about you, it’s not the end of the world – you’ll end up with someone who is an even better fit with you.

How Do You Get The Right One To Chase You?

Believe it or not, it’s not difficult to get a woman you like to chase you. It is, however, the opposite of what most men try to do when they meet a girl they like. When most guys meet awoman they like, they go after her hard, flirting up a storm and making it completely obvious what he wants. This approach, however, will turn most women off. To get a girl to chase you is simple – let her see you around other attractive women! Talk to other women, be flirting with them and having fun.

There’s really nothing that will get a woman more interested in you and want to chase you than a little friendly competition! Take advantage of that, but don’t go overboard with it. Once you and a woman establish that you’re really into each other, you want to be focused on her.

Once you’ve gotten things right on the inside and are the fun, exciting, happy, confident and kind guy that everyone wants to be around, she’s not going to be able to stop herself from liking you!

I Keep Dating Mr. Wrong! Please Help!

He Said/She Said with John & Jenna — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 23:00:17 +0000

Are you dating all the wrong guys? Here’s how to break the cycle and find Mr. Right!

I’m like a magnet for all the wrong guys. I know the good ones are out there. I need to do something different. Help! Give me a plan!

What She Said:

Short answer? Try dating a different kind of guy! You obviously have a type – and your type isn’t working for you. Albert Einstein famously said that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. If you’re always dating the same type of guy, guess what your chances are of having a different experience? Slim to none!

A real life example: A girlfriend of mine is a musician and, subsequently, she was always hanging out with band guys. They were all in the same downtown scene with lots of late nights and drinking. Fun, for sure – but a bit of a merry go round as far as relationships. The fellow musicians were cool, but tended to be “bad boys” when it came to dating. No surprise, right?

Well, my friend got tired of this and decided to make a big change. She stayed in her band but put all fellow musicians on her “platonic” list. She sat down and thought about what she really wanted in a relationship. She made a list of qualities that were important to her in a mate. Then she put a plan into action. She got out of her comfort zone and made an effort to meet new people. She didn’t want a bad boy/band guy anymore, even though that had long been her type – so she stopped hanging out in bars. Instead she went to museums, the gym and the library. She ended up meeting (and marrying) an anthropologist – a complete 180 from her exes. They’re celebrating their ten-year anniversary next month.

I swear I did not swipe this story from Lifetime Television! It might sound cheesy, but you get the drift. If you want something new, don’t wait around for it – go out and get it! You have to make a change if you want something different. Trust me, it’ll be worth it.

What He Said:

You continue to do the same things, you are still getting the same results. Make a list of everything you can think of in terms of your current love life: where did you meet these guys, what do they drive, what do they do, etc. Pretty soon you’ll have a profile. This will give you a clear example of what you want to avoid.

That’s only half the equation, the “what not to do” part of the deal. That’s very important. But it’s not the whole enchilada. You know what you don’t want. Now what?

You have identified the old pattern, the one you want to break. Now you work on establishing the new one. The one you want to create.

Figure out what guy you want. Pick a celebrity crush as a template. Figure out what makes this guy your type. What do you like about him? Brainstorm as much as you can, and be as specific as possible. Then figure out where you would go in your area to find that kind of guy. It’s like getting “the look for less” but with dudes.

So when you figure this out, go to where he is and hit on him. Or do online dating. Or run naked down the highway at rush hour. Something. Anything. Do something different. Otherwise, you’ll get the same results.

Good luck!

How To Attract Women Without Saying A Word

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 14:00:45 +0000

Body language is powerful. It can say so many things even if you don’t utter a single word. You can show that you’re happy, angry, worried or surprised. It can show someone that you’re fun, confident and approachable or it can show someone that you really don’t want to be talked to right then. When dating, it’s important to make sure you’re giving off the right body language. Here’s how to use body language to attract women!

Body Language Makes Up The Majority Of Our Communication

Believe it or not, words do not make up the majority of our communication with other people – body language does. Even when you’re talking about something to someone, if your body language is coming off as something different, the person you’re talking to is going to pay much more attention to that than the words coming out of your mouth.

When talking to women, it’s not about the pick up line or what you say, because you communicate so much more non-verbally. To successfully attract women, you want to be able to understand how people read body language and you want to make sure you’re able to use it to your advantage to convey the right message to women you’re attracted to.

Posture Is Key

Your posture is the first thing any girl is going to notice about you. Are you slumped over, looking like you’re not interested in talking to anyone and you’re hiding in your own little world, or are you standing tall, looking confident and conversing with the people around you? If you have poor posture, the first thing you want to do is consciously work on standing taller, with your shoulders back and your head up. You want to have an air of confidence about you that is immediately noticeable just by the way you carry yourself.

One good way to improve your posture is to work out regularly and strengthen your core muscles. If your core muscles are weak, they’re not going to be able to hold you up very well and you’ll be more tempted to slump over. If you work out regularly, you’re going to stand taller, walk straighter and appear more confident overall.

Make Eye Contact

Lots of guys don’t make eye contact with girls when they’re flirting simply because they’re nervous. Being nervous when talking to girls is normal, but you really want to make eye contact. There’s a reason people say that the “eyes are windows to the soul” because you can communicate so much with someone non-verbally just by looking into their eyes for a few seconds. Practice making eye contact with other people when speaking, at work or with your friends. Get comfortable looking people in the eyes in general. Then, when you meet that girl you’re really interested in, you can make eye contact with her comfortably.

Be Upbeat And Positive

Having an upbeat and positive attitude is key to attracting girls. If you’re stiff, aren’t talking to people or are being a downer, no girl is going to want to talk to you or flirt with you. However, if you’re happy, having a great conversation with those around you and look like you’re positive and confident, you’re going to draw people into your world. Girls naturally gravitate towards happy and optimistic guys, so you definitely want to be that guy.

Be An Alpha Male

Having strength and confidence usually means being an alpha male – the guy who stands out from the pack, so to speak. Being an alpha male doesn’t mean that you’re aggressive and treat women badly, it simply means being strong and confident enough to stand out from the rest of the guys around you. Ladies automatically look for the alpha male in a group of guys – so be that guy!

Portray yourself as being self-assured and having a high self esteem. Don’t be cocky, but you also don’t want to look like you’re nervous, weak or wimpy. Girls aren’t going to be attracted to you if you look like you’re a wimp who doesn’t know how to talk to a girl. An alpha male is strong, confident and sure of himself and his ability to converse with girls. He’s not afraid of making a mistake, because if he does, he’ll laugh it off. He shows confident body language and looks approachable.

Practice!

Practice putting yourself out there and practice being an alpha male. Gradually build your self confidence over time and people will begin to see that change in you and begin to perceive you as the person you’re trying to be – a better, stronger, more confident you!

I Keep Dating Losers! Help!

He Said/She Said with John & Jenna — Sun, 21 Aug 2011 23:00:06 +0000

Dating means taking risks and knowing you might end up with a dud – but what if they keep coming along?

I just got out of a LTR with a guy who was a huge jerk. There’d been this guy flirting with me for months and since I was single, and he asked me out, I figured, why not?

We went out, back to his place and then we did it. And he never called me again. This loser makes my ex a great catch. Why do I keep finding these types of men?

What She Said:

Not to sound like my Grandma, but don’t let one bad apple spoil the bunch. You broke up with your ex for a reason and there’s no need to go running back to him at the first sign of bad news. Chalk it up to having fun having sex – and also one more step in moving on from your past. It’s shitty what your fling did to you – but that says everything about the type of person he can be and is no reflection on you.

I’m sure he wasn’t lying about being into you. He obviously spent time flirting and thinking about you. It’s more than likely that he dug you, but got scared at the possibility of you actually being single. You were an unobtainable fantasy that became real – and some people can’t handle real. Some guys want what they can’t have – and then don’t want it once they get it. It’s an immature side of human nature. Don’t beat yourself up over it!

Take this as a lesson. Hopefully you were safe and had fun. Now let it go.

Don’t let one night throw you back to the past. Enjoy being single! Focus on the bravery it took to split from your long-time BF and look towards a fabulous future. You have the freedom to create a new life, so get started today!

What He Said:

Shit happens. You got out of a relationship and you made a mistake. It’s a learning experience. It is not the end of the world. As long as you used protection, and you have been tested and all that, what’s the downside? You had some fun and more importantly, you learned an important lesson. Buyer beware. Just because something seems like a good idea, and people have good intentions, that’s not always the case.

And your ex isn’t better. He’s still a douchebag. You just are feeling nostalgic. There’s nothing magical that just happened to make him a better person, lover, etc. Just realize this is a thing that will pass. In time you’ll remember what a loser he is and more importantly, you will find someone better. Someone that you deserve and that makes you feel amazing. Give it time. This is a process and you’re still healing.

It’s a number’s game. Kiss enough frogs and you will find your prince. Relax and enjoy the ride. If you’re doing the work, you should just relax and expect your success. It is coming provided you put yourself out there and minimize your exposure to douchebags.

How do you do that? When you know, you know. If any guy remotely reminds you of your ex. Run. Be very conscious when making your choices and eventually, It’ll all come together.

Using The Power Of Scent To Get Her To Fall For You

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 21 Aug 2011 14:00:56 +0000

Seduction isn’t about just the eyes and ears – you can use the sense of smell in the seduction of a woman as well. In fact, smell plays a powerful role in getting a woman to be attracted to you – if you stink, she’s not going to want to be near you! Alternatively, if you smell absolutely delicious, she’s going to want to get closer to you. Here’s how to get a girl to fall all over you – with smell!

Why Smell Is So Important In Seduction

If a woman doesn’t like the way you smell, she’s not going to date you. It’s really very simple, although it may not even be a conscious decision for her. She may not know that she’s not attracted to you because of the way you smell – she may just not know why she doesn’t like you at all. Or, she may know that your aroma turns her off and she’ll be just as happy finding someone else to date, because you’re not doing it for her. Whether she realizes it or not, the way you smell plays a big part in whether you’re actually going to get a date or not.

A woman is going to get an impression of you based on the aromas around you – the way you smell, the way your house smells and the way your car does. These aromas are going to impact her and impact the way she feels about you, so you want to learn how to use this to your advantage and make it work for you!

Building Your Own Signature Smell

Seduction involving smell doesn’t necessarily mean you need to dump a bottle of cologne all over you and wait for the girls to come running. Sure, the deodorant commercials say that’s what will happen, but it very rarely does happen like that. What you need to do is work on building your own signature aroma – a smell that is uniquely your own.

High quality aftershave. Don’t buy the cheap stuff, and make sure what you’re using doesn’t conflict with any of the other aromas you’re using.
Practice good oral hygiene. Brush your teeth often, floss and use mouthwash. Carry mints or gum with you for those moments you need to freshen up. There’s nothing worse than for a girl to go in to kiss a really cute guy and be put off by nasty breath.
Use good deodorant. Find one that works with both your natural body chemistry and smell, but also one that controls your sweating. If your sweat breaks through your deodorant, consider an anti-perspirant. If it breaks through the anti-perspirant, look for a stronger formula!
Wash your hair. Yes, that “just rolled out of bed” look is hot right now, but you can achieve that look with a little bit of hair wax or pomade without your hair stinking like smoke from a bar or like fried food from the restaurant you were at. Use a clean smelling shampoo.
Make sure your clothes are clean. Keep up with your laundry, and use a good smelling detergent and fabric softener. You don’t want your partner to lean in and smell your shirt during a hug and wonder how long your shirt has been laying on your bedroom floor. Make sure your clothes smell good too!

Make Sure Your Space Smells Good

So you’re fairly sure that you can be a master of seduction with aroma because you’ve covered all the bases when it comes to yourself. You’re showered, shaven, deodorized and wearing a dab of that cologne you know drives women crazy. You’re good to go, right? Nope. What happens when you bring a girl you meet home, in hopes of having sex? Does your space smell as great as you do? Is your space ready for seduction too?

Clean up the clutter. A little clutter is fine, but if you have old Chinese take out boxes still hanging out in your trash from a few days ago, your entire place is going to stink like old Chinese food. Clean your apartment up for the most part. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but the dirty underwear has to go.
Clean the bathroom. The bathroom is something she’ll probably use while she’s there, so you want to make sure it’s acceptable for a woman to use. That means wipe down the sink where you shave, clean the toilet (if she’s drunk and has to worship the porcelain altar at your place, you don’t want your partner to have to stick her face in a toilet that isn’t sparkling clean. You weren’t ready for this girl to see that side of you, were you?) Make sure your shower is clean and smelling fresh too – hopefully you can get invited into the shower with your partner for a nice round of shower sex!
Use candles and incense. Sure, it may seem girly, but it will make all the difference in the world to a woman. If she walks in and it smells clean and fresh, or even warm and spicy, she’s going to be a lot more turned on than if she walks in and it smells like…well, a man’s dirty house!
Clean out your car. If you’re going to be picking her up for a date, or she’ll be in your car at all, make sure there aren’t old burger wrappers hanging out in the backseat. Give it a good vacuum, and hang a few air fresheners from the rear view mirror. If you smoke in your car, stop! Make sure your car doesn’t smell like an ashtray, or you’ll never be a master of seduction.

Do Things With Your Partner That Involve Aroma

So now you smell great and your place smells great. It’s time to start thinking about seduction with different aromas when you take your lover out on a date. When planning a great date, think about all the different ways you can use aroma for seduction. Take your lover to a restaurant where the food smells divine and make a point to smell your food and comment on how great it is before digging in. Take your partner wine tasting where you both can enjoy the bouquets of the wine.

When getting your lover a gift, go for candles, perfumes or lotions that smell fantastic. Take it one step farther by doing some research on aromatherapy and what smells trigger what emotions. For example, men respond really well to the smell of pumpkin pie and lavender, while women really enjoy the smell of chocolate and sandalwood. Also, some aromas arouse and excite, while others relax and calm the mind. Choose an aroma that goes well with what you’re planning to do and get it in a warming oil, a candle or a stick of incense. If giving your partner a sensual massage, make sure you have a great smelling massage oil to use!

How To Make Pick Up Lines Work For You

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 14:00:27 +0000

Pick up lines may seem cheesy to most guys. You often hear the horror stories about pick up lines gone wrong, but very few stories about ones that were successful and ended up getting a guy a phone number. Believe it or not, there are ways to make pick up lines win almost any girl over. Here’s how to make them work for YOU.

Why Pick Up Lines Rarely Work

Pick up lines rarely work because most of the time when a guy uses one, he’s hoping that the phrase he’s using is going to do all the work for him. He expects to speak these “magical words” that when put together into a sentence, automatically make a woman swoon. If you go into dating thinking that this is what pick up lines will get you, you’re going to be very disappointed!

Instead, think of pick up lines as a simple mechanism to get a girl’s attention. You want to get her attention and get her to notice you’re there, hopefully so you can strike up a conversation with her. The key to successful lines is to have a great attitude with it. The words you say may get her attention, but she’s going to be attracted to your positive, upbeat and outgoing attitude even more.

Learn From Guys Who Are Good With Girls

If you have a friend that seems amazingly great with girls and you’re not sure how he does it, ask him! Ask him what he does to get girls to be attracted to him and want to date him. Go out with him for a night and watch how he interacts with the ladies, what he says and what he does. Learn from him! Try to mimic what he does, but in your own way. Learning by example is a great way to practice your skills in talking to women and asking girls out.

Make Her Laugh

Don’t be so focused on learning “pick up lines” – instead, learn some funny one liners that are guaranteed to make her laugh. Make her laugh and get her attention, and you’ve opened the door for a great conversation in which you can flirt and build sexual tension – which is exactly what you want!

To find funny one-liners, try watching some stand up comedy or some good sitcoms. When you find something that really makes you laugh and you think would make other people – especially girls – laugh, write it down. Commit it to memory. Practice saying it so that when you’re in a social situation where this particular line would be the perfect thing to say, it comes out smoothly. Women love to laugh, so if you can make her laugh, you’re well on your way to getting a date.

Relax And Have Fun With It

So many guys take dating too seriously, when it’s really all about having fun. Sure, learning lines can help you be more comfortable when talking to women (it’s a little harder to get choked up when you know ahead of time what you’re going to say, but it still happens), but they’re not going to win you a girl just because of what you say. The success of pick up lines lies not with what phrase you’re actually using, but the attitude behind it.

Start using pick up lines to become more comfortable with girls in general. Get comfortable approaching women and talking to them. If you have friends who are girls, try some of your stuff out on them. See what they think, and listen to any pointers they want to give you. If you don’t have friends who are girls, it’s time to make some! Having friends who are girls will help you get more comfortable talking to women in general, and it will also allow you to practice some of your pick up lines so when you actually meet that girl you’re interested in and want to date, you’re comfortable with what you’re going to say and how you’re going to say it.

If You Can Make Her Laugh, You Can Date Her

Girls want to laugh! They want to be around a guy who knows how to have fun and how to tell a joke. Work on being funnier in general. Go to parties or get-togethers and work on being the one that everyone stands around because he’s so funny! When you meet a girl, she’s not going to remember what you say so much as how you made her feel. If you can make her feel like she’s having a great time and that she’s special, you’re a shoe in. The trick is to make her laugh, even if it’s a funny joke about you, and still be strong and confident underneath.

Women are able to see the many facets of a person – she will be able to tell that you’re not only funny, but that you’re sweet, sensitive and kind as well. If you’re strong and confident, she’s also going to see that. If you’re faking it, she’s going to see that too. Nothing much escapes women, because they’re incredibly intuitive. Be the guy who is strong and confident enough to get people laughing. When you get that special girl laughing, that’s when she’s going to start feeling that chemistry and connection between you.

Be A Flirting Expert With These Easy Tips

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 14:00:40 +0000

Flirting doesn’t have to be hard – in fact, with some practice, it can come as naturally to you as it does to the guys who always seem to be so good with women. Stop choking on your words in front of women and be smooth with these super simple flirting tips!

Have Fun And Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

The ultimate key to flirting is to remember to relax, have fun and to not take yourself too seriously. If you’re stressed out and worried about flubbing your ” pick up lines,” you are going to flub up your lines. If you relax, take a deep breath and focus on just creating a great conversation with a girl without “lines,” you might actually have a shot.

Also, you want to adjust your tone of voice and your laughter to appear more fun and approachable. Don’t speak in a monotone voice – instead, be optimistic and let it show through in the way you speak. Also get more comfortable with laughing on demand. It may seem awkward at first when you’re still learning how to be in social situations, but it will eventually become second nature. The thing is, as you relax and learn to have fun naturally in dating situations, these things will come to you with less and less effort.

Remember to keep open body language so you look and feel approachable to women. Your body language speaks volumes about you before you even open your mouth to say a word. If you’re standing over in the corner with your arms crossed, not a single girl is going to approach you to ask if you want to dance, what your name is or anything else. Make sure your body language says that you want to be approached!

Add Gentle Touching

Gentle touching is a great way to take flirting to the next level if the girl you’re talking to is receptive to it, and if you do it right. This is not manhandling – you don’t want to grab her roughly or take her by surprise with your touch in any way. Lightly touching her arm at the right time will send shivers down her spine, and brushing her hair out of her face while she’s laughing will get her making deep eye contact with you.

Think of flirting as a game of tennis – you hit the ball, and then it’s in their court. It’s time for them to hit the ball back. This is how that fun, witty banter escalates, and you definitely want to get that witty banter going. A little teasing, a smile and some light touching gets her interested and gets you in her personal space, which is where you want to be. If she’s comfortable with you in her space, you can take flirting even further.

Get A Phone Number

You often don’t have a lot of time to ask a girl out – you might only have a lull in between songs when the band is taking a break, or her girlfriends may pull her away to dance or go do something else. If you want her phone number, you’re going to have to ask for it and soon. So as soon as you feel that chemistry building, ask for the number! Ask if you can text her (girls are more willing to give their numbers out if they think you’re going to text them before calling) or at the very least, see if you can look her up on Facebook. When that chemistry starts building, you want to lock in that phone number or a way to contact her before you lose your chance.

How To Start The Conversation

Starting a conversation with a girl can be intimidating – it takes a lot of confidence and self esteem to approach someone and start talking to them, especially if you don’t know them very well or at all. Here are some things you can say to get that conversation started:

“Wow! You are so confident! Where does that come from?”

“You seem so passionate! What is it that motivates you?”

You can also introduce yourself and ask her name, but don’t get stuck on it. A lot of girls are very leery about giving their names out up front and honestly, the name doesn’t even really matter unless you’ve got that connection going. Wait until you hit it off to ask her who she is.

Remember That Less Is More

Jumping right into flirting may not be your best bet. Girls are receptive to different things at different times. Depending on how she feels or what is going on around her, she may not be receptive to strong flirting right away. Judging a situation and whether a girl will be receptive to your approach or not will come with time and practice – you may not be able to tell very well when you first start playing the dating game, but as you do it more and more often, you’ll get a knack for feeling it out.

While it’s fun to take risks and play the dating game, you also want to take your time with it. Don’t rush through it. Enjoy the flirting phase and enjoy feeling the chemistry build. If you rush through the process, you may get to kiss her or even more, but you can’t ever go back to that fun flirting phase where everything feels new. So take your time with it, relax and have fun!

First Date Tips: How To Make It Perfect

Andrew Wang — Tue, 16 Aug 2011 23:00:30 +0000

The first date is crucial – you want to make sure you get a second, right? We all know that first impressions can also be lasting impressions. As such, the first real date that you have with someone is extremely important. Even if you’ve already known each other as friends or acquaintances, that first date is when you’ll get to see each other in a non-platonic light.

You want to be able to learn more about the person you’re on the date with, and you want them to learn more about you. This is your first chance to show that individual how thoughtful you can be. One of the best ways to do that is to plan a great first date.

How To Stand Out From The Crowd

You not only want to make a good first impression on this date; you also want to stand out from the crowd of potential mates out there. That means planning a date that will be unique compared to most people’s typical first date. Eschew dinner and a movie or dinner and drinks for something more special.

Thinking outside the box will make your date sit up and notice you. Think about doing something that will shine a light on one of your better traits or talents. If you’re a good cook, invite your date over to your place for a dinner made by you, or make something that you can take on a picnic and enjoy together. Just make sure that you don’t come off as being full of yourself, or that the date seems to be centered around only what you enjoy.

Speaking of your date’s enjoyment, tailoring the night around their interests will show how thoughtful you can be. Is there anything you can remember about their hobbies or tastes from the previous conversations that you’ve had? Do you have a mutual friend who you can pump for some information to help plan the date?

Access whatever resources you can (without being a stalker about it, of course) to plot a date that shows you’re willing to put effort into a relationship with this person. If they like music, surprise them by taking them to a concert. If they’re into art or history, take them to the museum for the afternoon.

Take Advantage Of The Current Season

You can also look for special seasonal events that will create a memorable date. In the autumn you can go apple-picking, or in the spring you can visit a botanical garden. Does your date love animals? Take him or her to the zoo if the weather permits it. There are plenty of indoor special events out there, too. Just go online or check out the arts and entertainment section of your local paper.

Maybe a bar near you is having a special beer or wine tasting night, or there might be a touring musical or play in town over the weekend. There are so many options out there that go beyond dinner at a restaurant and two tickets to whatever rom-com is playing at a theater near you.

Most people are just too lazy to look into other first date ideas though, so that’s become the standard date. If you plan something above and beyond for your first date, there will be plenty of time to see movies and eat out on down the line. That initial impression will be certain to score you many more dates to come.

11 Date Ideas That Will Bring Out Her Inner Child – And Win Her Heart

Michael Webb — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 23:00:08 +0000

Date ideas can be difficult to come up with, but if you harness the child inside, you can make your date ideas unique enough to make her fall head over heels.

Invite her on a journey to rediscover her inner child. Make plans for an upcoming Saturday or make sure you have booked a day off work for her with her boss as guaranteed this will be her first line of defense in turning you down. Remind her of those carefree days of running around in the park with her friends, swinging on swing sets, making snow cones and catching fireflies at dusk. Remind her of the time when her biggest worry was which flavor of ice cream to choose.

Having Fun Being Kids Again

Whilst it might seem immature, just work with me. Call her up and invite her on a “play date.” If she starts to question you, you can offer a slight hint but the intention is create an air of mystery and fun. Then you need to start working on the type of activities you will take part in. You could consider some of the following activities:

Watch a lighthearted family movie
Draw pictures and create collages – create your own visionary boards for romance and this can give you clues as to what she needs from you.
Write stories and then finish each other’s stories… Once upon a time… and you’d be surprised at what comes out plus it can give you a clue as to her state of mind.
Make up a game or participate in your favorite game from childhood
Go to the park, go camping, visit the zoo, hang out with your own, hers, your siblings, friends, kids. Offer to baby sit the kids for a day because often just being around kids can make finding your own inner child a lot easier. Children have a fresh look on things, and sometimes when we get in bad moods it is because we are so jaded with the world around us. Experiencing life through the eyes of a child can really do wonders for naturally rediscovering a good mood.
If possible, take a trip to Disneyland or some theme park.
Blindfold one another, spin one another around and then see how you fall and feel all dizzy. Try feeding each other blindfolded. This can soon lead to something more romantic and intimate.
Buy some play dough and make shapes.
Play 20 questions, pull out some old board games, Scrabble, Monopoly, an old deck of cards.
Build a tent in the living room out of sheets, pillows and whatever else you can lay your hands on.
Ride your bikes, or borrow some other kids bikes and if this is too immature for you, go for more mature bikes and hire a Harley Davidson for an hour or two (assuming you have your license and all protective gear) and go riding off in the sunset with the wind in your hair.

The intention with this kind of date with your girl is to just let all the angst go and live and let live. Enjoy the moment and your youth, no matter what age you are. I know of couples who still dine out on the ‘mischievous practical jokes’ they got up to when they experienced with the “play date” idea. After all, what have you got to lose? Your dignity? Since when do children worry about dignity?

Is He Ready For A Serious Relationship?

He Said/She Said with John & Jenna — Thu, 11 Aug 2011 23:00:58 +0000

Dating is fun, but sometimes you want to move on to something more committed. How can you tell if your partner is ready to move past the dating phase?

I’m dating this amazing guy. But I’m the first girl he’s dated seriously since his last serious relationship ended. I want a future with him, and I’m ready to open myself up and give my heart to him, but I want to be sure. How do I know I’m not his rebound girl?

What She Said:

Beware of “Ghost Sex!” He may like you; or he could mentally be placing his ex-girlfriend’s face on your body and going to town. Sorry to sound so crass – but the old adage, “The best way to get over someone is get under someone” is often true. I’m sure he enjoys your company; but the fact is, depending on how recent the breakup, your presence might just be keeping him warm until his heart has healed.

Are You A Rebound?

How to spot a rebound? Be honest with yourself. Does he talk about her a lot? Are there still pictures everywhere? Does he seem angry or flinch if her name is brought up? If so, chances are his mind is still on the relationship and not in the present with you. If it was a long-term relationship, his penis will most likely be ready to move on before his heart. If you’re looking for sex and nothing more, this can be a fun time for both of you. If you’re hooked on this guy, stay away until he’s had time to sort things out.

Honestly, if I’m into a guy, my rule of thumb is to not be the first girl he’s with after a serious relationship. I find that you’re usually dealing with the fallout of the past and not the good stuff. Even guys need time to work through their feelings – whether they show it or not. It’d be great to move on as if nothing ever happened – but the hurt is there somewhere, and it will find a way to come out.

Getting His Mind On YOU

You’re worth 100% of his attention. Again, if you’re looking for a fling, this is a fine time to get some no strings attached lovin’. But, given that you’re bummed out, I’d cool it with this guy. Chances are if you set your boundaries and treat yourself with respect, it’ll be you and not his ex he’s thinking about in no time.

What He Said:

I feel really old, because I thought “Ghost Sex” involved Whoopi Goldberg, Demi Moore, and Patrick Swayze. Nevertheless, I am undaunted and proudly declare “Ghost Sex” to be my new favorite word and hereby dedicate the remainder of my existence to the gratuitous use of the term until it gets old for me (hint: it won’t. I’m like a five year old.)

Here’s a thought: if you haven’t met his friends, or if he doesn’t spend money on you or if you only meet in the backseat of his car, then well, you’re just for fun. You really need to figure out how long it’s been since the end of his last serious relationship and how serious was it (marriage, living together, etc) and how messy or amicable was the break up.

Trust Your Gut Feelings

Recovery time is a tricky thing. Everyone heals from injury at different speeds, so he may be ready for another relationship right away. Or maybe not. And he may not know where he’s at in that process. So go with your gut if it feels right, then it is. If it doesn’t, well…it’s time to cut the cord.

Online Dating: How To Pimp A Guy’s Profile

He Said/She Said with John & Jenna — Fri, 05 Aug 2011 23:00:50 +0000

Online dating requires a catchy profile to be successful. Here’s how to make one that gets the ladies’ attention.

I’m a guy trying online dating. It’s not working for me. What can I do to pimp my profile?

What She Said:

I’m a throwback to the olden (golden) days when I saw a guy in a club, batted my eyelashes and waited him for to come over and chat me up. And now I’m a married lady who doesn’t need that, so I’m relatively unfamiliar with the online dating world. But, that’s me and this is about you!

How to pimp your online dating profile? Think like the gender you’re trying to attract. For example: if you want to attract girls, you might want to put things in your profile that appeal to them. This doesn’t mean resorting to schmaltzy “I like puppies and long walks on the beach.” It does mean truthfully highlighting qualities you think a date might enjoy. Are you a foodie? Mention your love of fine dining and a few of your favorite restaurants. Are you game to watch a romantic comedy or two? Throw out your favorite titles – don’t be afraid!

Humor is also a great approach. Showing a sense of fun means you’re at ease with yourself and that you’re open and relaxed. Dating can be stressful enough – no need to take it (or yourself) too seriously!

What sets you apart? Your unique interests will not only stand out, they might also help you nab the perfect date. The key is to be honest. I know honesty and the Internet don’t necessarily go hand in hand – but this is your life. Assuming you’re truly looking for a date and not a booty call, telling the truth will help steer someone your direction who has the potential to be your perfect match.

What He Said

It comes down to this: if you want a 10, why should she choose you? She’s got tons of options. She’s obviously not into the bar thing, because if she was, she wouldn’t be online. You’re selling a product, and that product is you. But if you look at effective marketing campaigns, they don’t sell a product, they sell a feeling. How is this product going to make me feel if I buy it? That’s essentially what your ad should convey. You shouldn’t lie. You shouldn’t embellish. You shouldn’t be yourself. You should be your best, most confident self.

Be who you are and be proud and let them get an accurate picture of who and what you are. Be funny, be fun. You can’t really make anyone choose you. But you can make an incredibly compelling offer that anyone in their right mind would be unable to refuse.

How will you know if you’ve done that? Well, if you get emails and dates, etc. If you email a bunch of women and your emails get crickets in response, then you need to do something different. Continue to experiment until you have found the desired result. And be patient. That might take a while. And don’t take anything personally. It’s not like they’re rejecting you, they’re rejecting a representation of you. And if that representation isn’t working, just change it and continue to tweak until it does.

How To Win The Dating Game

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 05 Aug 2011 14:00:28 +0000

Dating doesn’t have to be impossible. It’s easy to get frustrated when dating, especially if you keep getting rejected or your relationships don’t last very long. Forget your dating troubles – here’s how you can actually come out ahead and win the girl of your dreams!

There’s No Magic Formula

When it comes to dating or getting a girl to fall in love with you, there’s no magic formula that will garner you success every time. You’re going to strike out some of the time, and you’re probably not going to meet the girl you’re going to marry right away. However, there are some things you can do to tip the scales in your favor!

Be The Best “You” That You Can Possibly Be

Many guys focus too much on “getting the right girl” or even just getting a girl to give out a phone number that they forget that girls are actually looking at what they’re bringing to the table. You may have the smoothest pick up lines, but if it’s all a front and you’re faking it, you’re not going to get very far at all. You have to be real and genuine, and have enough confidence to know that you’re a catch.

If you’re not a catch, work on improving yourself. Look at what you’re bringing to the table and see if it needs improvement. Do you have a crappy job that you hate or no job at all? Try to find a job that utilizes your skills and that you love. Go back to school if you need to.

Look at your physical health as well. Are you healthy? Do you need to lose weight or tone up? Would you feel better if you did? What about your mental health? Are you in a positive place in your life? Do what you can to make your body and mind healthy – not only will you look better to women, you’ll feel better too and that will come off in your attitude and demeanor.

Instead of trying to convince a girl to go out with you when dating, approach it a little differently. Be the best possible “you” that you can be, whether it’s finding a new job that makes you happy, taking up hobbies that relieve stress or losing weight and getting fit, moving towards the positive in life will put you in the perfect place to meet the right woman.

Never Give Up Your Values

Too many guys try to be the person they think a girl wants – and they change it up depending on what type of girl they’re dating. These guys almost never get women! First of all, a girl can’t tell who a man really is and what he stands for if he’s always changing it – because let’s face it, if a man is always changing his values, attitude and standards, it’s not likely he even knows who he is and what he stands for.
Develop your own morals and values, and stick to them throughout your dating experiences. You will attract women who are compatible with the real you, instead of women who you have to “make” yourself be compatible with. Learn to love yourself for who you really are, and let that confidence in yourself show through.

Don’t Play Games With Women

Have enough respect for a woman – and yourself – to be real with her. Be yourself. Take the risk and put yourself out there – because ultimately, that’s what you want. You want to meet a woman who is your true match and who you are compatible with. If you’re not putting the real you out there and are playing games, you’re either going to meet someone you’re really not compatible with or you’re going to meet a woman who is playing games with you.

Have A Magnetic, Positive Energy

Girls are attracted to men who are positive, magnetic, confident and fun to be around. Guys who are down in the dumps all the time aren’t going to get very many girls. Make sure that when you meet a girl, you’re putting off the right vibe. Be positive, tell funny jokes and listen to what she has to say. Get her laughing and make sure you yourself are laughing. Women will flock to you if you put off that magnetic energy.

Treat A Woman Well

While some girls like the the “bad boy type” type, that usually never lasts very long. If you want to snag the girl of your dreams, you need to learn to treat women well. Treat all women with respect – if you’re with her, support her and encourage her to do the things she loves to do and is passionate about. Don’t criticize women or cut them down. Make her feel great about herself and she’ll fall for you!

Compliment her and build up her self-esteem. Don’t assume that because you told her she’s beautiful one time that she knows you think she’s beautiful and you never have to say it again. If you’re thinking it, say it! Compliment her skills and things that she’s accomplished. Be proud of her.

Make Her Feel Like The Only Girl In The World For You!

All women want to feel loved and feel special to their partners. They also want to feel like they’re the only girl who can ever make you feel the way she makes you feel. So make sure she believes it! Make her feel like she’s the only one for you and you’ll have her falling head over heels.

Learn To Be A More Charismatic Person

Technique is important – and technique is learned, it’s not something that comes naturally. Take some time to learn how to be a more magnetic, charismatic person. Get out there and practice meeting women. Consider working with a dating coach. You’re not going to be completely comfortable introducing yourself and talking to women the first few times you do it, but the more you practice, the better you’ll get.

Even getting out there and just developing friendships with other people will help a man get comfortable talking to women – often, men who are uncomfortable talking to women are actually uncomfortable talking to people in general.

How To Get A Girl To Kiss You

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 14:00:42 +0000

Kiss a girl out of nowhere, and she’ll probably push you away. You want to flirt with her, get in her space and create that amazing sexual tension. Your best plan of action is to get HER to kiss YOU! Here’s how.

Things To Consider Before The Kiss

Many guys fail to plan for a kiss, either because they know they’re too nervous to initiate the kiss, or they just don’t think the girl will want to kiss them. Either way, these guys end up getting stuck right before the kiss worrying about their breath because they just ate hot wings and didn’t bring mints, or because their lips are chapped and aren’t soft enough for a good kiss. Don’t be one of those guys – make sure you are prepared for a kiss before you actually get one by assuming you will get one!

Good Dental Hygiene

This one may seem like a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised at just how many guys think they can get away without brushing their teeth, using floss and mouthwash or not using gum or mints after they’ve eaten something pungent like onions or garlic. Making sure that your mouth is fresh and clean at all times is the first thing you should do to prepare for kiss. Heck, bring a toothbrush with you if you have to!

Smell Good

Women are attracted to scent. Make sure you carry mints or breath freshener with you, and also wear deodorant that works. Make sure you also chose a cologne that isn’t too overpowering but that also compliments your natural pheromones. If you need help with that, get a friend that is a girl to go cologne shopping with you!

Have A Confident, Masculine Energy About You

Women are attracted to confidence as well. If you act like a wimpy guy who needs her “permission” before going any farther, she’s not going to look twice at you. Convey an energy of confidence and masculinity. Don’t ask if you can buy her a drink – wait until she’s nearly finished with hers and order another for her.

Get In Her Space

A girl probably isn’t going to go out of her way to kiss you. So get in her space – make sure she knows you’re there. Make eye contact with her and touch her lightly on the arm. Flirt with her and get her laughing and interested in what you’re saying. Make sure you ignite that emotional spark she needs to want to get closer to you.

Try scooting your chair a little closer to her or brushing past her on your way to the bar or restroom. See how she reacts to you getting in her space. If she seems to welcome it, that’s your cue to take it a little farther.

Be A Little Touchy-Feely

No, you don’t need to feel your date up. But you do want to get a little closer to her and start touching her when she seems like she’s ready for it. Touch her hair or stroke her cheek gently. Place your hand on her thigh as she’s speaking to you or telling you a joke or story. Hold hands with her – women love hand holding!

Get her to notice your mouth and start thinking about kissing you by licking your lips. Don’t bite your lips if you’re a guy – that’s generally going to make you look a little foolish! Girls can get away with it, but guys? No way. Drink your drink slowly, or through a straw. Whatever you can do to get your date to start noticing your mouth is a great way to get her started thinking about kissing you.

Don’t Be Afraid To Make The First Move

This goes back to having that strong, confident, masculine energy about you. Don’t appear too weak or wimpy by not being able or willing to make the first move. Whether you actually make the first move or not is irrelevant – she will sense that you’re into her and will make a move on her as soon as you get a clear window. She may very well beat you to it!

Go In Strong And Smooth

If you do end up making the first move, don’t sweat it. Be confident about it. Go in smoothly, and don’t make any sudden moves. You don’t want to bump heads or end up kissing her nose, do you? Find out if she wants to take it to the next level by leaning in part of the way and putting yourself in her space, and waiting for her to meet you halfway. Does she lean in for the kiss too, or does she pull away?

If It Doesn’t Happen The Right Way

Sometimes, a first kiss doesn’t go down the way you wanted it to, no matter how much you prepared and planned for it. If this happens to you, relax! Take a few steps back. Keep flirting with her and having fun together, and don’t let the moment get too awkward. It just may not have been the right time or place, or she just might not have felt like it!

Make Her Fall In Love With You – Using Only Words!

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 14:00:06 +0000

Love advice can be complicated, but did you know you can make a woman feel love for you just by using the right words? If you choose the right phrases to make her feel happy, excited and warm towards you, she’s going to fall for you fast. Here are the phrases that you need to use if you want to make her go crazy over you!

Words Are Very Powerful!

Don’t underestimate the power that language has on a woman. Certain phrases can trigger thoughts,emotions and fantasies and can easily affect how a person feels in both good and bad ways. There’s no denying that words can be used to affect someone in many different scenarios. You can also read into the way another person is feeling and thinking by paying attention to the words they’re using in a conversation.

Of course, not just any word is going to make someone upset, happy, angry or excited. It’s the use of emotional language that does that. Emotional language is certain phrases that evoke emotion in someone, whether it makes them feel good or bad or anything in between. You can use innocent words to turn a woman on, or make her feel happy or ecstatic. So it’s no surprise that you can affect how a woman feels just by paying attention to the words you’re using and using the right phrases to make her feel the way you want her to!

Actions Speak Too

Remember that even if you take the best love advice to heart and use the right phrases to win a woman over, you’re still not going to get very far if you don’t follow them up with the right actions. If you’re going to “talk the talk” so to speak, you’ve got to be willing to “walk the walk.” If you say something flirty and nice, and then turn around and do something else that negates what you just said, any girl is going to be able to spot you as a fake. Make sure that your actions go along with what you’re saying and that you’re being genuine about it.

Examples Of Things To Say

Here are some excellent examples of phrases that are going to evoke emotion in a woman:

Happy – “I feel so happy being with you!”
Excited – “I’m so excited to see you.”
Love – “I love it when you….”
Adore – “I adore you!”
Confident – “You make me feel confident.”
Amazing – “I feel amazing around you.”
Incredible “You’re incredible!”

Using Words The Right Way

To have the impact you want on a woman when using language, it’s important that you pay attention and use it the right way. Avoid talking about things that create a negative energy around you, such as talking about your problems or complaining about the things around you. If you’re creating negative energy around you, you’re not going to be able to make anyone feel good regardless of what language you’re using.

Pay Attention To The Words She’s Using As Well

Women communicate with words much, much more than guys do. In fact, it’s estimated that women use on average 15,000 words a day while men use about 6,000 – so you can pretty much guarantee that she’s going to let you know how she feels and what she’s thinking in her language, even if she doesn’t come right out and say it. Listen to the hidden meaning behind the words she’s using and look for the emotions buried within.

Is she using phrases that suggest she wants to touch or kiss you? Are the phrases she’s using suggesting that she’s happy or having a good time? If so, you’re definitely on the right track! Alternatively, watch for phrases that suggest she’s not having fun or that she isn’t interested in you at all. A lot of guys don’t pay attention to it when a woman makes it clear that she’s not interested in them, simply because it’s not what they want to hear.

Consider Taking A Language Course

Because women use words so much more than men, if you want to really understand girls and how they think, you might want to consider taking a course on the subject. Becoming more knowledgeable about how people use language and the meanings behind certain phrases is going to help you indefinitely when it comes to understanding and talking to women. If you don’t want to take a course, there is tons of information out there on the Internet to help you learn to understand language and how people use it to communicate with each other!

How To Set Up A Perfect Date At Home

Michael Webb — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 23:00:26 +0000

Date ideas for the summer are fun – going to the fair, going swimming or just hanging out in the backyard grilling. However, the romance really gets going when the temperature outside starts dropping. Cooler weather gives us the perfect opportunity for romantic date ideas – just think: fireplaces, snugly duvets, hot chocolate, romantic movies and comfort foods like pizza and pasta. Here is a great idea for getting cozy this winter.

You can either organize this date together as a couple, or you can use it as an excuse to create a sense of “togetherness” or “team spirit” in the relationship. Alternatively, for extra romance and excitement, you can organize a surprise date for your partner. One suggestion is to have a date at home and call it “Movie Night.”

The Makings Of A Good “Movie Night”

If you or your partner has kids, then the number one priority is finding a good baby sitter – or leaving the kids with their doting grandparents for the evening. After that, the night is all yours. While you may be tempted to plan an evening where you can watch movies with the kids, this doesn’t give your lover the feeling of romance at all. That would be considered more of a “family night,” which is a great idea for another time.

If You’re Surprising Your Partner

If the evening is a surprise for her, you can make her feel extra-special by organizing the movie night around her favorite things. My suggestion would be to choose a romantic “chick-flick” type movie and order her favorite take-out. Also, don’t even think about forgetting her favorite ice-cream or dessert!

A movie night full of romance means popcorn and junk food – so stock up on all of these. The more choice there is, the more she will see how much effort has been involved. Before she gets home, make sure everything is neat and tidy and that she does not have to do any work. You want her relaxed and pleasantly surprised.

Get The Place Ready

Set up the sitting room/television area with comfortable cushions and warm blankets – you could even put a mattress on the floor. Before you start the movie, chat about the good old days, about how the two of you met and what you thought at that moment. Look back at the travels and enjoyable times you two had together and all the fun moments. If need be, bring out the photo albums and browse through pictures of the two of you together and recall what was happening when that picture was taken. This is all part of the warm-up for later.

When You’re Ready For The Movie

After reminiscing about everything that you and your partner have gone through to get where you are today, it’s time to refill the wine/champagne/snifter glasses, dim the lighting and press play. Snuggle with her during the movie, hold hands and play footsie. Make sure you’re maintaining that flirty feeling throughout the movie – what you want her to do is to be thinking mostly about you but “pretending” to watch the movie. This is intense mental foreplay and works wonders for women!

Finally, when the movie is over and there is this “awww geesh” kind of feeling in the air, get up silently, switch on the CD and invite your lady to dance with you to your favorite song.

Taking The Evening A Little Farther

If you’ve done everything right and your girl is in the mood for love, she may start to flirt with you and get a little frisky. If you feel like this is where the evening is headed, let it! Kiss your partner deeply and release the passion you’ve been feeling for her since before you started the movie. Let her feel that you’ve been waiting for her all night long. She will respond to this very well and will most likely head to the bedroom with you for night of hot, passionate sex!

It Was Supposed To Be Just A Fling…Is It?

He Said/She Said with John & Jenna — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 23:00:16 +0000

Sex can be casual, or it can mean something more. What do you do if the sex wasn’t supposed to mean anything, but you start having romantic feelings?

There’s this hot guy and the office. He was a so hot, I couldn’t help myself…neither could he. We hang out, hook up, then show up at work like we can’t stand each other. It was strictly a “no strings” deal going in, but all I do is think about doing him. Am I developing feelings?

What She Said:

It sounds like you’re getting good sex, so congratulations are in order! And, given that you mentioned you’re thinking about sex all the time, it sounds like it’s the act you’re attached to – not the guy.

It reads like an ideal situation and you’re both doing everything “right.” You’ve agreed on the boundaries (you don’t spend the night and you don’t discuss it at work); as well as what kind of relationship you’d like (sex with no strings). I’m going to assume that birth control and safety from STD’s have also been discussed. An accidental pregnancy is a quick way to snafu non-attachment!

Women Naturally Develop Emotional Attachments

In broad biological terms, women are hardwired to get attached to men they sleep with – it’s released in our hormones when we mate, so there’s no getting around that reality. But there is a way to beat it. If you feel you’re falling for this guy, take a step back emotionally and physically. Journal, talk to yourself in front of the mirror, write “NO” on the back of your hand, splash cold water over your face – whatever it takes to wake up and remind yourself what you’re really getting out of this situation. You might think you’re falling in love with him, when you’re really only falling for his body.

What you’re getting out of this is valuable. Sex is a healthy and necessary part of life and it sounds like you have a good physical connection with this guy. You both knew what you wanted from the get-go, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Keep your priorities in check and treat each other with respect – you’ll be fine. If emotions are starting to surface, be honest and see what happens. In the meantime, enjoy!

What He Said:

Sounds like he just plain screwed you stupid. You got it so good, you don’t know up from down and all those orgasms have straight fried your brain. There’s nothing to be concerned about. It is, after all, called mind blowing sex for a reason. Give it time. Let the new-ness of the relationship wear off. After your body and mind have adapted to their worlds consistently being rocked by this guy, then you’ll know if it’s really more than just screwing for you.

Don’t Get Caught

Maybe it is, maybe it’s not. Time will tell. The most important thing to consider here is the workplace aspect. Never ever do it at work. Never talk dirty at work. Never send naughty emails via company email accounts. Channel your inner secret agent and you should be fine.

How To Use Poetry To Get A Girl

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 14:00:40 +0000

Using seduction to snag a woman isn’t always easy – it takes a lot of thought and planning to be able to say and do the right things to get a woman interested in you. It doesn’t have to be difficult though, because women are hardwired to respond to certain things – it’s part of being a woman. If you think poetry is lame, think again! Here’s how you can use poems as part of your seduction maneuvers and have her falling all over you!

Are Poems Lame?

A lot of guys think that using poetry as part of their seduction tactics is lame. However, there’s a reason most guys think poems aren’t cool – they’re not hardwired to respond to poems like women are. From a guy’s point of view, poetry isn’t going to get you anywhere. Fortunately, you’re looking for things to make a woman swoon. So throw out all of your preconceived notions about poems! You can learn how to use a few simple lines of poetry to make a girl melt, almost guaranteed.

So does reciting poems and employing that old school romance make you look like a fool in front of women? Not hardly! When done the right way, it shows that you have enough strength and inner confidence to try something new and different. Guys who are too “manly” to get in touch with their romantic side like this aren’t going to get very far with the ladies. Using poems as part of your seduction techniques is what is going to make you stand out from the crowd – which is important if you really want the ladies to notice you!

Don’t Be The Guy She Thinks Would Use Poems

If you’re the wimpy, super romantic type of guy who uses poetry and no one is surprised by it, you’re not going to get a lot of women to notice you. To make this seduction tactic to work well for you, you actually have to be the kind of guy that no one would expect to use poems. You have to be very strong, confident and assertive. Be a little bit of a “manly man” on the outside, because that is what’s going to make it so surprising and incredible when you start breaking out the poems.

You want to show her the soft, sweet side of you, but you want to make her believe that she is the only one who gets to see that romantic side. If you’re sweet and romantic all the time, this isn’t going to be believable. To make this work well, you have to be strong enough on the inside to let the romantic side out of you and make yourself vulnerable to her. Really make her feel that she’s the only girl who gets to see this side of you.

Benefits Of Using Poetry

Not many guys are actually doing this. It’s a great way to stand out from the crowd and make yourself noticeable.
Girls love it. Women respond much better to language than anything else. By reciting poems to her, you’re actually speaking a “language” she can understand – which can be better than anything you can buy her or do for her to show her you’re into her. Language is key with women!
You’ll surprise her with that aspect of your personality and it will make you look like there’s more to you than meets the eye – which is extremely attractive to girls!

Don’t Overdo It

Just like with anything else, if you do it too much, it’s going to boring, monotonous and it’s going to get lame. You definitely don’t want to overdo it when it comes to using poems during seduction. If you do, she’ll love it at first, and then begin to get tired of it. She’ll want to see and experience something new and if you’re doing the same thing over and over again, she’ll look for that something “new” in someone else. Think of poetry as your secret seduction weapon that you save for just the right time and place, and you only use it occasionally. Mix it up with flirting and other tactics to keep her interested.

How To Come Up With The Right Poems

If you’re not very good with the written word, or struggle with writing good poetry, look online for some poems that you can recite to her instead. Don’t be afraid to take some creative license with a poem that is already written and make it your own. Make sure to choose a poem that is short and sweet – a long Shakespearean poem is going to bore both you and your partner by the third verse, unless you’re both really into Shakespeare. Remember to have fun with it and don’t make it too serious!

How To Get Girls To Chase YOU

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 14:00:29 +0000

Dating means looking high and low for a woman to ask out – right? Wrong! What if you could get into the dating scheme by having women go after YOU? Instead of being desperate for a date, you’ll actually have women coming your way, wanting to go out with you!

Give Her Space

For a girl to actually want to go after you, she has to actually have room to go after you. If smothering her with attention and asking her out on dates all the time, she’s going to get sick of you being in her space and she’s going to start running. A girl who feels smothered or trapped isn’t going to want to go after you at all – she’ll be wanting to get away from you at every possible turn. At first, this is just because she needs to “breathe” – it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like you anymore. However, if you continue to smother her and stay in her space without giving her a chance to recoup, she’s going to try to get away – and stay away.

Let her develop her own life. In fact, encourage it! Make sure she spends time with her friends and you spend time with yours. Have a life outside of your friendship or relationship and make sure she does too. By giving her space, you’re ensuring that she has time to think about you and miss you – after which, she’ll start to go after you!

Let The Attraction Unfold Naturally

This is perhaps one of the most important parts of dating and getting a woman to want to go after you instead of the other way around. Far too many guys “try” too hard to win a woman’s attention and affection, which really has the opposite effect. She’s not going to be very attracted when you’re constantly in her space.

Attraction doesn’t often happen instantly – it’s something that needs to grow over time. When a man tries too hard, he stifles that natural process. The woman he’s interested in is so busy trying to get away that there’s no time for that attraction and sexual tension to develop. Enjoy being together, but don’t start out with high expectations of where the friendship is going to go or if you’re going to get into a monogamous, serious relationship any time soon. Instead, learn to enjoy the moments you have together and let nature take it’s course!

Dating Isn’t The Same As It Used To Be

Women aren’t sitting around anymore waiting for a guy to ask them out. In fact, it’s quite a bit different from the “days of old.” Women hold a lot of power in the dating scene and they’re often the ones who call the shots. The ratio of available guys to women are a bit skewed these days – about 5% of the single male population are the ones getting all the girls, and the other 95% is wondering what happened!

How To Be In The 5%

Look around and take note of all the guys out there that are getting women. What are they doing? How do they dress? How do they act? What are they saying? Chances are, they’re not offering up some cheesy pick up lines. What you’ll notice is that these guys appear strong, confident and independent to the women around them.

They have a life of their own, they have passions and they carry themselves with an aura of confidence and high self esteem. Does that mean you have to be cocky to get women to want to go out with you? Not hardly. But if you’re a wimp who is always asking “permission” for things or apologizing for things, you’re not going to get very far at all.

Learn to be that strong, confident guy. Learn to like yourself for who you are and be yourself when you go into the dating scene. You have something of value to offer – now you just have to believe it.

Develop A Magnetic Personality

For women to approach you, you’ve got to put yourself out there. Be someone who is magnetic, flirtatious, charming and really fun to be around. Have that core inner strength and happiness that radiates outward to other people. This is probably the number one piece of dating advice – if you don’t do anything else, do this. Having a personality that people want to be around is the first step to attracting friends and getting women to go after you – instead of you always having to ask them out!

Dating Tips: Is It OK To Ask For A Phone Number At Work?

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 16 Jul 2011 14:44:41 +0000

Dating requires you to ask a woman out first – but how do you get a woman’s number? She may be a co-worker of yours, or you may see her often if she works at a place you frequent. You’d really like to be dating this girl, but is it okay to approach women at work?

Question: Hi Dan and Jenn. I’m a new subscriber. I’ve watched a few of your videos so far but haven’t found one that answers my specific question. I was wondering if it’s okay to ask for a womens number while they’re working? The specific place I’m curious about is Subway. I’ve heard it’s not kosher to do this. Thanks in advance and I hope to learn a lot!

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Dating Won’t Happen Unless You Ask First

The first thing that guys have to understand about the dating process is that it’s probably not going to happen unless YOU do the asking. So you’re pretty much guaranteed a “no” if you don’t ask a woman out. So gather up your courage, and get ready to make the first move!

If You Share A Workplace

When most guys think about asking a girl out at work, it usually means he’s romantically interested in a woman that he is employed with. Generally speaking, this is almost always a bad idea! If you get involved in a relationship with someone you are employed with and things end badly, it can definitely make for quite an awkward situation later. Also, some companies have strict policies against dating at work, and it could cause you to lose your job. It might also end well, so you never know until you try. Just be aware that you’re taking a risk when you consider dating someone that you’re employed with.

At Your Potential Date’s Workplace

The situation is a little different when you talk about how to approach women at their place of business. For example, if the woman you’re interested in works at a restaurant or a hotel that you frequent, there’s no reason not to ask her out there. However, there are some rules that you want to follow if you’re thinking about approaching a woman where she works to ask her out on a date.

Do Not Go At Peak Hours

Every place of business has peak hours, especially restaurants. Never try to ask a woman out at a time where she’s slammed with customers, the boss is watching or she is too busy with other things. This will get you brushed off immediately, even though she may actually be interested in dating you. Timing is everything in this type of situation and if you do it at the wrong time, you’re just not going to get anywhere. Wait until she’s not busy with customers or other things, so she actually has time to process what you’re saying.

Make Sure You’re Able To Get One On One Time

This really goes for when you ask anyone anything – you really want to be one one one with that person, rather than having a bunch of other people listening in on the conversation you’re trying to have. Have the confidence to approach the girl you like when she’s alone.

Establish A Vibe

Going up to a woman you like and asking for a phone number right off the bat probably isn’t going to end well, even if you are one on one with her and no one else is watching or listening. So start flirting with her a little first. Smile at her, joke a little and make eye contact. Establish a connection or vibe first, before you suggest taking her out on a date. It’s more likely that she’ll be interested in dating you if you flirt a little first.

If She Rejects You

Depending on how you’ve set things up (and whether she’s really interested in you or not), you may very well get rejected. Don’t take it personally, especially if you’ve approached her at a bad time. You can always try again at another time. However, if she turns down your dating offer more than once, it’s safe to say that it’s not your timing that is the issue here. Remember that dating is all about having fun and meeting new people – so if you strike out more than once with one particular woman, remember that there are more out there that you could have an even better connection with. Don’t assume that if this one rejects you that it’s all over – because it’s not!

How To Turn Dating Your Crush Into Reality

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 16 Jul 2011 14:00:24 +0000

If dating the woman you really like seems out of reach, think again. With a few simple dating tips, you can make getting the girl you’ve had your eye on for awhile into something more than just a dream. Here’s how you can make dating the girl you like REAL, instead of just a fantasy!

Let Her Know That You Exist

If you really like a woman, nothing is going to happen – ever – if she doesn’t know that you even exist. Bite the bullet, go up to the girl you like and introduce yourself! She’s never going to know who you are if you don’t introduce yourself, and of course, if she doesn’t know who you are, how can you date her?

Get To Know The Woman You Like

Most guys (and gals) that like someone end up fantasizing about who this woman is, what they like and what they don’t like. In reality, however, there’s no way to actually know what this woman is like without really getting to know them. So after you introduce yourself to the girl you like, take the time to get to know her. Talk to her, find out what her interests and disinterests are, as well as what passions drive her.

This will do one of two things – you’ll either get to know her and figure out that you don’t like who she really is and that you’d rather not start dating her, or you’ll like her even more than you already did. Just don’t assume that because you like this woman that you know everything there is to know about them – because your imagination is actually what fills in a lot of the blanks. You may think that you know something about a person, when in all actuality, your imagination came up with that particular characteristic.

How To Get The Woman You Like To Want To Start Dating YOU

To attract women, whether you like them or not, you have to be the kind of guy that attracts women. Be a strong, confident guy who has passions and a drive in life. Learn to love yourself and be happy about where your life is going, so you can then radiate that happiness and confidence outward to other people. THIS is what women are attracted to! They’re not interested in weak, wimpy guys that are desperate to get a girl. In fact, quite the opposite. They want to be dating a guy who is confident in himself, and is happy and fun to be around.

Be positive, optimistic and enthusiastic
Enjoy social situations and meeting new people
Be a part of the “fun” crowd
Have goals in life
Know where you are and where you want to be in life
Be fun to hang out with
Know how to have a great conversation

Access The Emotions That Make Her Addicted To Being Around You

A woman will remember you depending on the way you make her feel. If you don’t make her feel good, all the dating tips in the world aren’t going to help you. She’s either not going to remember you at all or you’ll leave her with a bad memory – which is the exact opposite of what you want to do! Instead, focus on making her feel great when she’s around you.

Have a good time with her
Make her feel incredibly sexy and beautiful
Do interesting, fun, exciting and memorable things together
Show that you’re interested in who she is
Pay attention and listen to her

Never Change Who You Are For A Girl

Remember to never change who you are for a girl. Learn to love yourself for who you are and allow that to shine through – never change yourself to act the way a particular girl wants you to act or look the way a girl wants you to look. Changing who you are to impress someone else is going to do nothing but make you look lame – and the woman you may actually want to be with might see this and count you out because you’re too wishy washy and don’t have that self-confidence.

If the girl you’re interested in isn’t responding well to your dating efforts, let it go. It may not be a good fit, and if you keep trying to make it work with someone it’s obviously not going to work with, you’re going to be making yourself unavailable for the right woman that might come along. If you have that self confidence, you’re going to be able to let it go and move on to another girl who will appreciate you for who you are.

Dating Advice: Tips For The First Night Together

Andrew Wang — Sat, 09 Jul 2011 23:00:30 +0000

Dating will inevitably lead to sex. Here’s how you can make your dating efforts worthwhile and not send your lover running as soon as they walk in the door.

The First Sleepover

You’ve been on a few dates and things are going well, and then your date invites you over for dinner at their place. This can only mean one thing—tonight’s the night you’ll be sleeping over. Whether your place or your partner’s place will be the setting for the main event, there are ways to be better prepared for your romantic sleepover. Just a little advance planning will go a long way toward making sure your overnight experience is a great one.

Stock The Kitchen

Whether you’re hosting the night or your S.O. is, the key to a great sleep over is making sure that you don’t need to leave the apartment or house for anything. If things will be taking place at your apartment or house, you need to make sure that you’ve got food and drink covered for both dinner and breakfast. Get whatever you need for the meals you intend to make, plus some fruit and a snack like nuts or popcorn to have on hand.

Having at least one bottle of wine and a six pack of beer is a good idea, too—that way you have a couple of options in case you don’t like drinking the same thing on the date as your lover. You get extra points if you stock your kitchen with a snack or drink that you know he/she is a big fan of.

Clean The Place Up

If you don’t have time to truly clean your place, at least pick up any clutter and clean the bathroom. Slobs, take note—most people will be grossed out if your bathroom hasn’t been cleaned in over a week. Also be sure to have plenty of toothpaste and hand soap available, along with clean towels. Your date probably won’t be bringing an overnight bag, so it helps to think of what they might need and have it handy.

Throw a new toothbrush in the drawer so they can use it. Just tell them you always keep an extra on hand so they don’t think you thought that sex would be a sure thing. Make sure to make the bed, too, preferably with clean or fairly clean (no more than a couple of days old) sheets. Since you’ll hopefully be heading there sooner in the night rather than later, you want to make sure your bedroom looks nice and inviting. You can go all out with candles and flowers and music, but that isn’t necessary. Some people might even be intimidated by that. As long as the bedroom looks cozy and clean, you’ll be fine.

Pack Appropriately

If you’re the person heading over to your significant other’s place, try to think ahead for what you’ll need to sleep over. Since it’s your first time spending the night together, you can’t really bring over a backpack full of clothes and toiletries. That would look too presumptuous, and if you don’t end up staying the night, you’ll feel silly.

Girls are luckier here, because they usually have a purse on them. If you’re a guy and you’re coming straight from work, you can bring your briefcase or bag and hide some necessities in there. Otherwise, stick with what will fit in your pockets. If you can fit a toothbrush and floss in your bag or pocket, do so. Better still, pack a spare pair of underwear, too.

Since you’ll have to change into your same clothes the following day, having those clean undies will make you feel at least a little fresher. Another thing that always helps is deodorant. You could just sneak some of your date’s, but unless they use unscented or you’re both the same gender, you’ll come out smelling like the opposite sex. Better to bring your own if possible.

You should also consider bringing over a bottle of wine or something else to drink. Even if your mate already has beverages at his or her place, it can’t hurt to have a little more. That means there’s no risk that you’ll run out and have to make a late night wine and liquor store run. Plus, it makes for a nice host or hostess gift to thank them for having you over and cooking for you. Flowers never hurt, either.

Practice Safe Sex

There is one more thing that you need to stock up on, whether you’re the host or the invitee—birth control. Never, ever assume that your date will be supplying proper protection. Better that you both show up with a handful condoms than neither of you do. Nothing ruins the moment faster than realizing that one of you is going to have to go pick something up from the drug store. Plus, you don’t want to be tempted to forego using birth control out of convenience.

If you’re a girl and on the pill, make sure you put your pill pack in your purse. Whether you also use condoms or not, you wouldn’t want to miss your regular dose and throw yourself off. Being prepared with birth control is as important, if not more, as prepping all of the other aforementioned things. It takes the pressure off and lets you enjoy your first night together to the fullest.

How A Girl Can Hook Up With A Guy

He Said/She Said with John & Jenna — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 23:00:36 +0000

Dating is one thing, a one night stand is another. Here’s how to get with a man without bringing home a bunch of baggage.

What She Said:

Dress sexy, show up, flirt and ask him, “Your place or mine?” – repeat.

Dressing Sexy Will Do The Trick a

I’d find four more examples, but this pretty much does the trick every time. It’s not that men are simple creatures by any stretch – but if a woman shows up somewhere with the goal of hooking up, chances are she’s going to find some takers. This is especially true if she’s at a club or bar.

Think About Safety

If you’re a woman looking to hook up instead of dating, please consider safety first. Given the nature of one-night stands, fact of the matter is that you’re probably not going to know this guy very well. Getting laid is fun and there’s no reason why a woman shouldn’t be open about needing/wanting sex.

However, one night of fun is not worth an unwanted pregnancy or a sexually transmitted disease. If you’ve got the expendable income, a hotel can be a sexy place to meet – as well as making it neutral territory. If you’re going to his place, take your own car and let a friend know where you are.

Set Boundaries

Make sure to communicate and set the boundaries beforehand. Let him know condom use is a must. Don’t want to wake up and have to brew this guy coffee? Tell him it’s not a sleepover; odds are he won’t mind. You’re calling the shots, so make sure to get what you want and have fun. And, just like I advised the guys, the easiest way to hook up is be cool, honest and respectful.

What He Said:

Umm….seriously? You need help with this? No you don’t. You have a vagina. That means you can get laid anywhere, any place, any time.

Say whatever you want. At the end of the day, it’s a man’s world in every way, except when it comes to sex and dating. Women hold all the cards here. If you want to go get laid, just go into a bar and wait. That’s it. Granted you will have to choose from the guys who approach you, so that may not result in you going home with the guy you want, but you can guarantee that you will go home with someone.

Ask A Man Out

If you really want to up the odds and ensure you go home with the person you want, go up and hit on the guys yourself. Guys love that and it rarely happens. Go up to the hottest guy in the bar and tell him you want him to take you home. Now. Be very up front that this just sex and he won’t be dating you or meeting your friends or family. You’re not bringing him home for inspection. You’re bringing him home to have sex.

Have Him Spring For The Room

There’s really not much else to it. If you just want to have sex, it’s best not to give him your number until after you’ve done it (that way if it’s bad he can’t contact you) and it’s probably best to have him spring for a hotel room somewhere. Basically, you need to be as secretive as the CIA when just randomly hooking up with dudes, because a lot of things can go wrong or turn south in these situations and you just want to limit the risk as much as possible.

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