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3 Dirty Sex Secrets Men Must Know – REVEALED!

Lloyd Lester — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:00:44 +0000

Sex tips are commonly found by guys who are looking, but the ultra-awesome sex tips that really work are often kept secret. But we’re revealing them!

Are you having a hard time bringing your girl to a delightful orgasm every time you make love? You would be surprised how simple it is to give her the best sex of her life. While it takes less for men to reach a climax during sex, it is an entirely different matter with the ladies. To allay your fears of your girl feigning her orgasms all along, make sure you give her the real deal, with no ordeal! Here’s how to bring your lover to a climatic, heart-thumping experience every time you have sex!

1. Dirty Talk!

Words are your best ally in making her lust for you. Combine both dirty talk and romantic words to produce a potent effect on her. With your well-chosen words, you can make her boil with anticipation way before you even set a finger on her. How do you do this? Simply let her know the things you like about her, particularly about her body and sexuality. Admit with no hesitation how well she switches on your buttons! She will be blushing and turning hotter every minute.

2. Touch Her Everywhere

You should pay attention to her entire body – shoulders, ears, back, hair, between her breasts, inner thighs, forearms and her other hot spots. She will love it when you hold her hand tightly. Treat her as if she was the most precious person in your life. It will heighten the excitement and her sense of pleasure. Whenever possible, look into her eyes longingly.

It will bring both of you closer and heighten the whole sexual experience. Follow up the touches with massages and gentle caresses to help her relax even more. Try to be as natural as possible. Your moves should come across as smooth and gentle. Your patient foreplay and gentleness will build her trust in you. Your passionate and loving touches will seal her trust for you.

3. Appreciate And Tease Your Girl!

Women love to be appreciated. Unlike men, women often cannot separate the act of love with their surroundings and greatly attach emotional intimacy to lovemaking. Therefore, take advantage of that by playing the part well. Be that “one in a million” great lover and surprise her and build up her excitement even more. Try to give attention to her “non sexual” parts as well; this will catch her off-guard and fill her to the brim with excitement and desire.

Discover The Stunning Secret Of Turning Your Wife On With The Push Of A Button!

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 18:37:31 +0000

Has your wife (or girlfriend) just STOPPED having sex with you?

Does she seem to always have a headache, always too tired, or does she give you some other excuse as to why she doesn’t want to have sex?

Have you stopped asking for it because you “KNOW” she’s going to say “NO”?

The free video presentation on this page will show you the REAL reason you’re not having better sex with your spouse right now. It’s not because she’s “not into sex anymore!” In fact, when you watch this short video you’ll be shocked to discover that your partner’s sex drive is secretly much HIGHER than you think it is – and much higher than SHE thinks it is too!

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Warning: Make sure to watch the entire video to find out why flowers, jewelry and expensive nights out on the town could actually be KILLING your sex life and why you already have the “Magic Key” to your wife’s sexual mind – and how to use it to give her the EXACT kind of “fuel” she needs to make your love life take off like the SPACE SHUTTLE (no matter how long you’ve been married, how many kids you have or how little time you think you have for sex.) You’ll also learn what really turns women on, and why women don’t like porn and EXACTLY what to say to her to access her “secret sexual mind” on demand and literally at the push of a button.

Is She A Lost Cause?

Absolutely not. You may think your partner doesn’t want to have sex anymore and there’s nothing you can do to change that, but NOTHING could be further from the truth! She actually has a HIGHER sex drive than you – all YOU have to do is activate it!

Even if she hasn’t wanted sex for a long, long time, you can re-awaken her sexual desire and turn her into an absolute FREAK in the bedroom!

Honestly, this is a weird, but freakishly effective way to turn your woman into a freak in the bedroom!

But just what is it?

The truth is, you already have the 1 tool that you need – your cell phone!

Believe it or not, you can use something as simple as your cell phone to reignite her desire, with just the touch of a button! In fact, all those flowers you’ve been buying and all those dinner dates you’ve been taking her out on are actually a BIG MISTAKE on your part! In fact, those aren’t going to do a thing to make her want to have sex with you!

Text Your Wife Into Bed is the ONLY resource available that teaches you to access your partner’s “secret sexual mind” and turn her on at will - something not 1 married guy in 100 has figured out on their own!

What You’ll Learn

The 4-step sexting formula HUNDREDS of guys have already used to turn their wives on and skyrocket their sex lives
Exactly what to do if you don’t already text
How to “warm up” your woman so she’s eager, ready and desperate for every sexting message you send
The “3 Magic Texts” you can try out TONIGHT!

Believe it or not, it doesn’t matter how much you or your partner wife work, how many kids you have or how little time you have, how tired she is or how she feels about her body. Even if you and your spouse have been together so long you feel like having boring sex is “just part of being married.” Well, it’s not!

Watch this FREE video to find out how you can have INCREDIBLE sex, even if you’ve been married for decades!

She will actually CRAVE having sex with you when you use the tips in Text Your Wife Into Bed! By actually using these tips, you’ll notice:

She starts flirting with you more, like when you first met
She’ll start feeling sexier and having more confidence (because what you’re doing is going to make her feel like the sexiest woman alive!)
She’ll be very engaged when you have sex
She’ll brag about the HOT sex to all her friends
She’ll reach orgasm faster and harder than ever before
She’ll actually BEG for sex from you and do ANYTHING to please you!

Hotter, Wetter Sex Than EVER Before!

With Text Your Wife Into Bed, you’ll learn how a woman’s brain is SO involved in sex that you can get her dripping wet just by sending her the right texts!

You won’t find these secrets anywhere else – and they have helped hundreds of married men just like you, who have lost the fire in their sex lives.

See what these guys are saying about it!

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“My wife and I were right in the middle of a dry patch…her reaction was overwhelming. Now her friends keep asking me to teach their husbands how to do this!” – Jim

Remember, believing the myth that “she’s just not that into it anymore” and that it’s a natural thing for two people who have been married a long time to have boring sex, will RUIN your sex life forever.

Re-ignite it and bring the passion back JUST by using your cell phone!

It’s so easy, you can’t afford NOT to do it!

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6 Sexting Tips For Couples

Serena Paige — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 17:00:58 +0000

Sexting has taken the world by storm. The most common question about sexting is “Why would anybody send naked pictures of themselves?” The answer is that it can be really hot. If you would like to introduce sexting into your relationship there are a few things that you should know beforehand. Whether you’re just trying to mix things up or it’s been a long time interest, sexting can build a lot of anticipation throughout the day. If you’re not too sure how to start sexting as a couple, here are a few guidelines to follow.

1. Start Out Slow – Very Slow

Sexting is all about anticipation. If you rush into it you’re going to ruin all anticipation. Have you ever seen a stripper yank all of her clothes off in first 20 seconds of dancing? Of course not. You want to build up to the main event with your girlfriend or wife. A great way to start out is to ask them what they’re wearing. This gets them into the frame of mind to get descriptive. If you’re texting your boyfriend or husband, you can text them the same thing. When they text back, tell them how much you love that outfit and then make a physical reference. “I love how your ass looks in that dress” or something similar.

2. Plan What You’re Going To Say

Make sure that you’re comfortable with the things that you’re going to say. Remember that you will have to see your partner at some point so you don’t want to say anything that is too embarrassing or out there. For women, this isn’t really a problem. Men can handle, and will probably welcome, complete filth. However, men should watch it. It’s all too easy to fall into the sexting trap and send something that will turn her off or creep her out from the comfort of your cell phone’s keyboard. Think about what you’re saying before you send the text.

3. Lead Up To The Dirty Talk

Sexting can get very dirty, but lead up to it with anticipatory messages. “Wish you were here right now” or “I can’t wait to come home” can lead to a lot of anticipation. If your partner sends you something like this, ask them “Why?” This can lead into sexting easily. After your partner has texted you “Why?” follow up with something that is not necessarily dirty, but more loving. “I need you right now” or something like that is enough to get the message across without the attachment of a picture of your penis.

4. Actually Use Dirty Talk

Once you have established where the conversation is going it’s time to get into the grunt of it. “My cock is so hard” or “My pussy is so wet” works well as a follow up. If your partner is really sexual, they are going to follow up to your message with something even dirtier.

5. Escalate It

Sexting require escalation. Starting off slow and bringing the sexual level up is essential. You must escalate the sexting until you have a good rhythm going with the messages. Wait a little while between the texts. 3-5 minutes between the texts will build anticipation. Can you picture your partner sitting at his or her desk at work staring at the phone waiting for dirty talk to pop up? If not, then you’re not doing it right!

6. Send Pictures

Picture messaging has taken the cell phone industry by the balls. This is also a staple of sexting. When the time is right in the conversation you can ask for a picture. Tell your partner to go into the bathroom and take a dirty picture for you. This works much more for women than men. Surprisingly, women aren’t as likely to ask for a picture of your dong. There was a line in Seinfeld that pretty much applies to this: “Men are utilitarian. They’re built like Jeeps.”

The male body can be sexy, but it’s nothing compared to a woman’s body. Guys should remember that what they are saying is going to play much more of a part than a picture of them standing in a mirror with their penis in their hand.

Sexting can bring anticipation for the moment that your partner walks through the door in the afternoon. However, you need to know what you’re doing before you can get your partner turned on. Couples that sext often have better sex because text messages can be less personal than a face-to-face conversation. Having the ability to express your sexual desires through a phone can help you open up. Follow these guidelines and you’ll find your partner rushing home to fulfill their cravings.

Best Sexting & Dirty Talk Tips Of 2011

Kaylen Jackson — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 15:43:18 +0000

Sexting and dirty talk will heat up your sex life like you never imagined! You’d be surprised at just how much this stuff can take a dull and boring sex life and turn it around into sex so hot, you’ll think you and your partner just met! Check out our favorite naughty articles of the year!

Don’t forget to take a look at some of our best sexting and dirty talking articles – these suggestions will get your sex life so hot, you won’t be able to contain it to the bedroom!

Also, we’ve worked very hard this year to find you the best resources to help you improve your sex life with sexting and titillating talk in the bedroom. Check out the ones we thought were the best and why, and see what you can learn to make your sex life hotter than ever before!

Text Your Wife Into Bed (This is THE resource on sexting – these suggestions are so hot, she’ll be ripping your pants off before you’ve sent the third text message!)
Dirty Talk Secrets (a great guide on how to introduce dirty talk into your sex life, with plenty of examples for those who aren’t quite sure what exactly to say)

5 Red Hot Tips To Get Him Hard In SECONDS!

Rochelle Stavi — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 17:00:46 +0000

Foreplay isn’t just for girls – it’s an essential component in giving a man a ROCK hard erection! Use these mammoth-hard-on inducing foreplay tips TONIGHT!

Before you and your man are going to ravage each other beneath the sheets, in the kitchen, in the shower or wherever you both end up getting naughty, you have to get your man in the mood and ready to go. Foreplay is crucial to how your sex session will play out that night and if you want to make it a memorable one for your man, you better make sure he is ready and raring to go.

How Much Is Enough?

A lot of women assume that just stroking your man a few times and kissing him passionately is going to be enough. It might be enough for him physically to get aroused but women often forget that men need that mental stimulation as well. Not only does getting him aroused mentally help with his stamina and arousal, but it also helps to give him a mind blowing orgasm at the end of it.

Slow And Steady

Pacing is key when it comes to pleasing your man in the bedroom. If you move too fast, you run the risk of slipping up and causing him some pain. Not only that, but if you move too fast, you can also cause his stamina to become effected in a negative way, making sex a less than enjoyable experience for you.

With the right pacing, starting off slow and gradually increasing stimulation, you are on the right path to getting him rock hard and ready for far more fun. This also plays an important role in any stimulation you choose. Whether you are touching him, talking to him, rubbing him, or licking him, you always want to start off slow and end strong.

Confidence Is Key

You can’t expect your man to be drooling over you and begging for more if you don’t believe that you are capable of doing just that. Without confidence, you are like a deer in headlights in the bedroom and that surely isn’t going to get your man rock hard in a matter of seconds.

If you really want to get him going and wanting you bad, you need to believe in yourself and your sexuality. Most men would agree that the sexiest quality about a woman is her confidence. The more a woman knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to get it, the more a man loves her. Men love women who aren’t afraid to have the power and to work it to their advantage.

Go Down On Him

A lot of women assume that once you go down on a man, you had better finish or else you aren’t giving him the total satisfaction that he is craving. This is incorrect. Of course, if you are using oral sex as the main event for the evening and the only stimulation that you plan on giving him, naturally you will want to make sure that he has an orgasm.

However, if you plan on doing way more to him over the course of the night, you can most definitely use a blowjob as precursor to sex. Feeling your warm lips all over his most sensitive area will easily get him rock hard in seconds. Plus, this is an unconventional way of getting your man going for foreplay. His whole idea of foreplay might change just because of this.

Make His Fantasies Come True

Every man would be lying if he didn’t say that he had a fantasy of having his own private striptease show. Men like going to see women strip for a reason – it turns them on. Maybe he isn’t looking to get pleasure from a stripper but guaranteed that woman up on stage is making him feel something between his legs. If you really want to surprise him and get him going in seconds, getting in touch with your inner bad girl and putting on a secret strip show for him is just what the doctor ordered.

Dirty Talk

You’d be surprised to know how useful your voice can be in the bedroom. Too many women refrain from being vocal in the bedroom and that is a true shame. You can easily get your man aroused in seconds just from whispering something sexy and seductive into his ear. Pressing your body against him, and saying something along the lines of “I can’t wait to taste you later” will surely get him going.

Having confidence will help in this tip but once you can hone in on your sexual confidence, you can use your voice to do all sorts of things to him. Remember how much men love women who are unafraid to say what they want and to get it so be that woman for him and he will have something waiting for you underneath those pants.

Dirty Talk: What To Say & What Not To

Michael Webb — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 17:00:31 +0000

Dirty talk isn’t always easy to engage in. You may be wondering if what comes out of your mouth is okay. Here are dirty talk phrases to avoid – and ones to use.

Never, Ever Make Comparisons

It’s best to never make comparisons during dirty talk. Though you may think your partner would be turned on to hear “You are the best lover I’ve ever had”, or “You give a blowjob like no one I have ever known before!” The only part they might take from that little seemingly harmless statement is to start wondering “Wow, I wonder just how many partners he or she HAS had” or “I wonder how many people HAVE tried that move on him (or her.)”

This can cause the mate hearing these words to have very real feelings of uneasiness and then have them obsessing over every thing from “WHO” the other partner(s) were, “WHAT” you did with them sexually, what you didn’t do with them and just how you really stacked up in their mind against what they view as “the competition.”

No one likes to be compared to someone else when it comes to very intimate sex acts with a spouse. It is regardless of whether it was a long time ago or about a former lover from a now dissolved marriage. You don’t want what should be “fun” dirty talk to turn into something which could ultimately be used to fuel jealousy or cause feelings of inadequacies in the person you are with.

You Don’t Have To Use Dirty Talk All The Time

Once you begin using dirty talk on a regular basis, realize that it doesn’t need to happen every time you have a sexual experience. There are encounters where looks, touches and emotions allow the silence to be perfect. As a matter of fact, If you feel it’s one of those “moments” simply smile, press your fingertips to your lover’s lips and say a sweet “Shhhh… baby I just want to hear us breathing in each other tonight.”

Jumping In, Feet First

The hardest part about dirty talk may be the first step to getting started. Take the initiative and the leading role. Just remember to start out your attempt as a fun filled adventure. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Be lighthearted when you bring up your desire to add dirty talk to your relationship and simply look for a willing spirit from your partner.

You may be wondering to yourself, just how do I broach the topic? Try telling your partner, “Have I told you just how much you turn me on?” Chances are they won’t be expecting you to tell them that out of the blue. You didn’t say anything over the top, but it will require your mate to answer back. Once they have responded, tell them that you think you’d really like to try a little playful dialogue in the bedroom during foreplay so that you have another outlet for letting them know just what it is about them that really does it for you. And, as easy as that, the door to dirty talk has just been opened.

Oral Sex: How To Kiss The Clitoris

Gabrielle Moore — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 23:00:21 +0000

Oral sex is the best way to get your partner turned on and ready for sex – but first impressions matter. Here’s how to start oral sex by kissing the clitoris.

First impressions are always of high importance, but few more so than the first moment that your mouth touches your partner’s vulva. If done correctly? It’ll take her breath away and leave her primed for arousal.

Take It Slow And Enjoy It!

Try to view your first mouth-to-genital kiss with a woman as something to be savored, not devoured. Like an expensive wine or caviar, its first blossom in your mouth is something special and memorable. Allow yourself the time to smell its bouquet, swish it around to see how it reacts, let it breathe or move on its own, and then, with delicious anticipation, take the first dip. Avoid chugging it (metaphorically) in one fell swoop; instead, appreciate every moment that leads up to your first clitoral kiss.

Here’s how to get her craving it:

If she chooses not to remove her pubic hair, run your fingers through it gently, or, if she has no pubic hair, tap her labia gently with the pads of your fingers.
Tease and tantalize the flesh surrounding the whole genital area. Kiss her thighs, lick her Mons Pubis, nuzzle her folds. Make the first contact more sweet than sexy, more tender than pressing.
Use your breath to warm up her privates, making sure not to blow any air inside her vagina.

NOTE: We’re talking more a gentle kiss of warm air that hits her nether regions than a forceful fan blowing. Blowing air into her vagina can be very dangerous, and can do a lot of harm. So instead, breathe on her, blow lightly, but never blow into any of her orifices.

What To Do If She’s Still Clothed

If she’s still got her panties on, lightly kiss her from her vaginal opening all the way to where her labia meets the mons pubis. Then, look her in the eye as you take her panties into your teeth, and tease her with removing them. Prolong the tease, without hurting her or ripping her panties. You can get rough another time, today is just for her pleasure.

Next, pull apart the skin surrounding her clitoris, and with incredible softness, breathe on it from mere centimeters away. Let her feel you right up against her clitoris, without actually touching it.

Peel off her panties, and look appreciatively at her vulva. Now is an excellent time to remind yourself of the pleasure you plan on bringing your partner to, as well as any mental notes. This is all about assisting your partner from arousal to orgasm – keep the focus.

Incorporating Dirty Talk

If it helps, you could also tell your partner:

How much going down on her turns you on, and that you are as excited as she is about the process.
To relax and feel like she has all the time in the world. That this is meant to pamper and savor her in full.
That she smells divine, will taste even better, and that you’ve never seen her look more beautiful or alive than you do at this moment.

Of course, if you don’t feel any of those things, don’t say them but then perhaps take a few more moments to get into that head space, because bringing a woman to climax with oral sex is more about both of your mental states than anything else.

Imagine if you can, that you’re at an event that you’ve been looking forward to for weeks. What do you say to the hostess? These are the same kinds of things you’ll want to say to your partner now: how beautiful she is, how much you’ve been looking forward to the event, how excited you are. Use this time to really tease the senses and mind. Make her think you’re going to extend this part of the evening forever, that you’ll never actually touch her clitoris at all. That all you’re doing is teasing her, leaving her frustrated – it’ll make her go mad for you, and turn her on even more. Then, when she’s almost at the brink of losing it because of the pent-up passion!

Sex Tips: The Importance Of Communication

Michael Webb — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:00:46 +0000

Sex tips can improve your sex life – here’s how communicating with your lover is one of the best sex tips out there!

Couples who communicate the best tend to have the happiest relationships. Those who can communicate about their sex needs, feelings and desires tend to have the best sex. Silence is a big turnoff for most people.

We want to help you take those thoughts in your head and let them be conveyed to your partner. Women are DYING to know what is going on between his ears while you are buried deep inside of them. Men are DYING to know just what the woman they’re with is thinking while she’s losing herself in the throes of passion.

They say silence is golden? Not in the case of lovemaking!

Most women would love for a man to open up and tell them, in great detail, what it is like for them to view and touch our nude body.

What Women Want To Know From Men

How does my skin feels under your touch?
How do I smell?
Do you like for me to dress up for you?
What do you like to see me wearing?
Do you want to undress me?
Would it excite you for me to do a striptease in front of you?
How do I taste?
How does it affect you when my body responds to yours a certain way?
What the sexiest part of my body?
What is it that I am doing to you that turns you on the most?

Women are natural born “pleasers.” If you tell them what you like, they want to provide it and then go one step further by being so good at it, you’ll think they invented the act.

Case in point – once a man has told a woman his favorite food, dessert or drink, it tends to turn up often at the dinner table. If he mentions something that his mother made that he enjoyed, she’s going to find that recipe and be sure that NOW, she is the best at providing him what he likes.

The same goes for sex.

What Men Want To Know From Women

Do I really excite you?
Do you crave me the way that I crave you?
Do you fantasize about me or sex in some way?
What do your fantasies involve?
Where should I touch you that excites you the most?
Are there some other sex positions you want to try?
How can I make you moan?
What can I do to make you want more of me and to have more sex with me?
Was there something I did this time that was better or different that really turned you on?
What can I do to get you to sometimes initiate sex?
Do I last long enough for you?

How To Communicate What You Like To Your Partner During Sex

Healthy communication starts with an easy phrase or two and lets your mate know that what they are doing is something you are really enjoying. Listen to how they breathe as you are making love and listen to the noises that they are making as you make that first connection. Then introduce dirty talk by simply saying something like:

“Ohhhh, that feels good … right there.”

“Mmmmm, that feels incredible!”

“Your body feels amazing.”

“When you enter me, mmmm, it feels so good I have to catch my breath!”

“Ahhh… let me pull you in deeper.”

“That feels great!”

“Yessssss!”

If you feel it, say it!!!! It’s the easiest way to be genuine and tell each other what feels good, what you like and what you want more of.

Groaning and moaning during sex are just “wordless compliments” and totally hot. Simply put, stating what you LIKE is the first step to getting what you WANT.

Dirty Talk, Role Play & The Holidays!

Michael Webb — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 15:32:23 +0000

Dirty talk and role play are fun, but can be even more so when the end of the year hits. Here’s how to have some sexy fun this holiday season!

Once you’ve gotten used to using words and dirty talk in the bedroom, couples sometimes choose to venture into role playing. This can allow your dirty talk to evolve further because you’ve changed the dynamics and this opens up more opportunities to converse in a sexual setting.

Hot Role Play Examples!

Prisoner and Warden’s daughter
Professor and Naughty School Girl
Headmistress and Pupil
Adam and Eve
Cowboy and Cowgirl at the Rodeo
Nurse and Patient
Doctor and Patient
Hollywood Starlet and Producer (imagine the casting couch audition)
The Professor and Maryann
Boss and the Sexy Secretary
Police Officer and the Traffic Stop (works for either sex being in charge)
Stripper and Club Patron
Photographer and Model
Rock Star and Groupie

More Great Ideas….

Take the initiative and surprise him by handcuffing him to the bed (you can use silk scarves if you don’t have the real thing) and tell him he’s under arrest!

Advise him of his rights – that he’s not allowed to do anything but watch as you pleasure yourself. After you’ve put on quite a show for him and you have had an orgasm for him, ask him if he wants to be freed from the handcuffs so he can join in, but make him work for it! He’ll need to convince you of why he should be set free – maybe you’ll let him off for some “good behavior,” or just make him beg!!

Dress Up & Holidays

Take role playing a step further by dressing up. People use Halloween as a time to throw on an outfit and for an evening pretend like they are someone else. Imagine your wife in a sexy little Fireman’s outfit – while you lay in the bed screaming that you’re on fire and wait for her to come to your rescue. There are so many themes you can use and you can purchase affordable costumes online or make your own.

For some people, you can lower your inhibitions by playing dress up and getting to act like you are someone you’re not with an outfit sometimes makes it easier to throw a few words around that you might not say on a normal encounter.

You can work other holidays besides Halloween to your advantage as well. On Valentine’s Day set the mood by changing out the light bulbs in your bedroom to the red ones they sell at party supply stores. Surprise him or her with chocolates and champagne in bed and a homemade card with a dirty talk story that you’ve written about how you want to celebrate the night.Chris

Christmas Ideas

The whole month of December can be used for Christmas ideas. Stick a sprig of mistletoe into the belt loops of his pants with a little dirty talk note telling him in great detail where you plan to kiss him once he gets home from work. It will be a tough day at the office for him to think of anything else besides quitting time.

Wrap your headboard in Christmas lights and your partner when he or she is heading home from the office or puling into the driveway with a little dirty talk. Tell your beloved that you have blown a fuse and that the lights are not working in your bedroom. Once he or she arrives home to check out the situation, be waiting and using your best dirty talk let him or her know that the only real outlet in the room is waiting to be plugged into by the electrifying, red hot cock!

Any holiday can work to your advantage. Think outside the box! Be creative.

What Dirty Talk Can Do For Your Relationship

Michael Webb — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 23:00:46 +0000

Dirty talk is an excellent way to heat up your sex life. Here’s how to make dirty talk work for you!

Dirty talk can increase the intensity and actual frequency of your sexual experience. It will improve your lovemaking as you communicate your desires with each other more often. And it will increase the amount of lovemaking as it becomes more exciting. When it comes to sex, don’t settle for “common” – trusting each other and a lifetime of learning together makes for a great relationship. Spend time really getting to know your partner, while searching out what “does it” for each of you.

You hear far too often of sexless marriages and relationships where neither feels the romance. Dirty talk is a way to put the spark back into your relationship. If fun, it’s different – and it’s so seductive to be different! To this day, there are still things which my mate finds out about me, that keep me interesting and has her wondering what else might be going on in that brain of mine.

Gaining Confidence For Dirty Talk

A very important note to our female readers:

Many women are naturally insecure about their bodies. The media has not helped. The images thrown at us on a daily basis make a large percentage of women feel that if they don’t have the body of a Victoria’s Secret super model then their man couldn’t possibly be that attracted to them.

Work with what you have. Remember, the old saying “Every man wants a whore in the bedroom and a lady on the street.” It’s true! A Whore you say? Well, maybe just his whore.

Don’t forget, your body is HIS playground!!!! Don’t let feelings of insecurity (“Could I be skinnier? Do I need bigger/smaller breasts? Is my butt too big or too flat?) steal from you the kind of hot and passionate sex that you and your husband both deserve and desire from one another. You are THERE with him – and undressed. He’s completely sold at that point.

The Truth About The Way He Looks At You

He doesn’t care if your lingerie is perfect.

He doesn’t care if you panties and bra match.

He doesn’t care if you missed a day shaving your legs.

Cellulite and stretch marks don’t turn him off.

Jiggling in all the right places – including your hot breasts, butt and thighs – can be a big turn on for him when you are in the throws of him taking you. Women are much, much tougher on themselves and on picking out the flaws on other women than what men are towards judging their bodies.

How To Flaunt What Your Momma Gave You

Don’t undress quickly. Let him take in the unwrapping of the perfect gift you are giving him – your body. Slowly peeling away layers of your clothing and teasing him with little shots of the goods he is about to enjoy is very erotic. Don’t cover yourself with the sheets of blanket or he might as well be having sex with a down comforter. If you get up to go to the restroom – don’t grab a robe!

Walk slowly, stretch, look back over your shoulder and smile, he’s enjoying the view – the view of YOU!

Men are visual creatures and drink in the site of your body nude. Don’t be afraid to walk around the room naked. Confidence is the most beautiful trait any woman can possess. And ladies, after you have brought your man to the heights of pleasure and he has emptied his semen, you don’t have to be “done,” just because he has gone off the edge of the cliff. Take the time and relish in what he has just done.

Turning It Into Dirty Talk

Describe to him the look of it, the feel of it, the amount of it, and should you be so inclined, the taste of it. If he shoots his load on his chest, on your chest, or on to your stomach – play with it – trace your initials or name in it, doodle hearts on his body. Everyone say it out loud - semen is not BIOHAZARDDOUS!!!!!

If instead he empties himself inside you , once he has pulled out , don’t immediately grab for something to clean up with. Too many times women will make men feel like their semen is toxic. When in fact, it is what you cause him to do just by arousing him. YOU make him EXPLODE!

What a powerful thought that is! Tell your man how warm it makes you feel inside to have this extension and the complete final result of his intense desire for you, to now be a part of your body!

Phone Sex: How To Make It Totally Hot!

Michael Webb — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 14:00:05 +0000

Phone sex can be the key to keeping a long distance relationship from getting ice cold. Check out these tips to turn up the heat!

If you have a spouse who travels, phone sex can be just the trick to keeping the passion hot while they are living out of a hotel. Make an appointment to meet via phone before you go to bed so that you can use dirty talk and mutually masturbate. If you have to, write down some ideas ahead of time to get things started.

Don’t Be Afraid To Let The Fantasies Take Over

This is ‘fantasy time’ for both of you, since you obviously can’t be there to touch each other, so it’s perfectly okay to touch yourself. Set up the scenario and then just describe over the phone how you would want it to play out. Tell each other in great detail what you’re doing to your body and ask them to do the same.

Take your time. Good stories are worth the extra effort. Ladies, describe to him what you’re wearing and don’t be naked at the start of the call. He will want to hear you unbuttoning, unzipping and undressing. His imagination will paint the perfect picture if you tell him step by step what’s happening as you do it.

What To Say

Tell him you want to hear him undressing and to tell you every detail. Ladies, as you’re telling him you want to wrap your lips around his cock, ask him to stroke it and if he can look down and see you taking him in.

Men, when you tell her that you want to ease just the head of your penis into her wet and waiting vagina, ask her to take her fingers and pretend that it’s you. If you want to set aside a time for later that evening, start sending some emails or texts early in the day.

Here are a few examples of what you could say to get his attention:

“I get so wet when you call me – please call me!”

“When I get back home, I’m going to give you the most amazing blowjob of your life!”

“I’ve been sitting at this desk for hours, and the thought of you, here, bending me over – it is driving me crazy!!!”

“I can be 6 states away, but when I hear your voice on the phone my nipples get hard and I get wet, and warm you know where!”

“I can’t believe that here I am in San Diego in the middle of intense negotiations with these clients and all I can think about is having you under this conference room table, on all fours, lifting up my skirt.”

Did you know that when I’m in my hotel room and can’t get you off my mind, I masturbate? It’s true! Your name spills from my lips over and over again as I orgasm.

Use The Tools At Your Disposal

Home phones, office phones, hotel phones, cell phones are all game when it comes to a surprise call and some hot phone sex. Also, don’t be afraid of “inconvenient times” or being somewhere. Excuse yourself to the bathroom and make a game of how quiet and fast you can be! Be creative and open, and you will have lots of fun!

How To Set The Mood For Dirty Talk

Michael Webb — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 14:00:51 +0000

Dirty talk can revamp your sex life like nothing else – but you have to create a great mood first. Here’s how to introduce dirty talk into YOUR bedroom!

Using Your Voice

Dirty talk has to sound sexy. If you say “that feels great” in a very monotone, unexcited voice, then that is not very sexy. Put emotion into your dirty talk. Whispering and breathy comments can be quite sexy. Grunt, moan and make noises – varying the tone and the pitch occasionally so that it does not get monotonous. Scream or shout when you are really into it. Also, you aren’t giving commands like a Colonel or Major to his enlisted men.

The goal here is for both of you to be conveying to each other the passion and intensity of your encounter. It CAN and SHOULD be fun, not work. Imagine the basic tone of a football game. Everyone in the stadium has high expectations but as the game begins, as a sports fan, it starts out slow. We aren’t up off the couch screaming at the players at the top of our lungs from the coin toss.

Start dirty talk slowly – whispers and playful dialogue as you are kissing, and as you are face to face while first getting things warmed up. As the passion heats up you can change the tone and level of your voice to mimic the pace of what is happening in the room. If you’re further apart, or if he’s behind you, you’re going to need to be louder so that mid-stroke someone’s not saying “I’m sorry, honey what did you say??” That’s a sure fire way to break the momentum you have been building.

Another good example is a piece of symphony music. The first notes of the musical composition are not the loudest portions of the piece. The tempo starts out slower, building to the climatic heights in the middle, and then descending at the end.

Imagine your lovemaking as the same. A beautifully written musical form that should keep a pace that reflects the given situation. A lovemaking session where you have a whole night to play and explore would have a different tempo from one where you’re squeezing in a quickie between dinner and taking the kids to soccer practice.

Setting The Mood

Playing some music during dirty talk helps provide background noise that may make it easier so that you won’t feel so self conscious over the sound of your own voice. Some music also has great lyrics that will inspire you to pull them from the song and use them while using dirty talk with your partner. Have you ever known anyone to NOT be turned on while listening to Marvin Gaye, Barry White or Luther Vandross?

Songs like “Let’s Get It On,” “Sexual Healing,” “Got To Give It Up,” “If Only For One Night” and others are romantic, slow, sensual and have very erotic lyrics while providing great inspiration and setting the tone for a romantic night together.

Candles

Candles placed around the bedroom, living room, bathroom or any other room in your house only elevate the feeling of a close, private, safe haven for the two of you to explore each other.

Bubble Bath

Bubble baths are a great way to relax and spend a little more time with foreplay before hitting the sheets. Sitting in the tub together is a great way to start and work up some additional desire. By the time you have washed each others backs and played around in the bubbles, you maybe find yourself never even making it to the bed.

Aromatherapy

Perfumes and bed linen sprays are another way to set the mood for dirty talk in your bedroom. Spritz the pillow cases or the ceiling fan ahead of time so that the room takes on a special scent before it’s time to play. Once you’ve worn a special fragrance during an encounter and your lover smells it on you again, it will take you back to the moments you spent wrapped around each other in the heat of passion.

Wine, Or Your Drink Of Choice

Bring a bottle of wine to bed and poor some slowly into her belly button. Sip it out and then do the same to your partner. Ladies, when he’s going down on you, take a little wine and pour it into a shot glass. Pour it slowly from the top of your mound and it will drip down the inner creases of your thighs – ask him to lick it up. This is an excellent way to put a new twist on oral sex!

Dirty Talk Fiascoes To Avoid!

Michael Webb — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 17:00:23 +0000

Dirty talk can end up being a complete failure if you don’t steer clear of these warning signs! If you attempt to jump full throttle in to dirty talk, your partner could wonder where you suddenly came up with the idea and might even think that you’ve been having an affair or watching porn.

Be Honest With Your Partner From The Start

You will need to assure them from the get-go that this is something you want to try with them instead of just springing some hardcore phrases on them during the middle of a romp. A good deal of women are turned off by porn, so try not to emulate what you’ve seen during some of those movies. Lots of them have cheesy lines and actors that aren’t up for Academy Awards for a very good reason.

You could find that your better half finds dirty talk uncomfortable and off-putting. Some consider it to be raunchy and a put down to a person they love. Some heart to heart communication and a give and take attitude between two people who love each other should be able to put the uncomfortable one at ease. Be patient with the partner who has reservations and just use soft pillow talk from time to time to warm them to the idea.

Sometimes dirty talk can be more comical than erotic, depending on what is said and how it is said. It’s okay to laugh! But don’t give up – reread some of the suggestions from time to time if you are feeling like you haven’t quite got it yet.

Be Yourself When Using Dirty Talk

Women, please don’t try to be who you are not. Faking an orgasm and screaming like it’s the best sex you’ve ever had will only cause problems down the road. He’ll wonder why he can’t get you that worked up EVERY time when you get tired of pretending and you will eventually tire of faking it and long to really be satisfied. At that point, and rightly so, he’ll be frustrated and unsure of why he suddenly can’t put you into the throws he saw you ‘act’ your way through before.

When you’re using dirty talk, don’t tell your partner about things you honestly have NO intentions of doing (ie. Threesomes, group sex, farm animals, sex in public, midgets, bondage, etc.) You may find that it triggers some new fantasies or embeds some new images in his or her mind that he or she could continue to ask you to talk about and then want to act them out in real life.

Be aware that it can come across as very insincere. Telling your man, “your penis is so huge,” when in reality is only about 3 inches isn’t going to make him suddenly feel like a stud. Telling her that that you love her massive tits when she is more “grape” than “grapefruit” in size could backfire. Sure, indulge a little but don’t go completely overboard with your exaggeration. In fact, when your lover is overly conscious of his or her size, dirty talk can do amazing things to boost their confidence. Tell the guy with the tiny penis that he rubs your clitoris so perfectly or whisper to your wife that you love being able to put her whole breast in your mouth. Dirty talk gives you the avenue to banish their insecurities and make them eager for more hot sex with you.

Mix It Up

Dirty talk can also become redundant (just like missionary sex day after day after day). Make sure that you don’t use the same phrases, over and over, or trust me, it will have the exact opposite effect and your partner might end up thinking, “Okay, I’ve heard that so many times – please shut up already.”

Sex Tips: The 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make In Bed

Shawna Lenee — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 14:00:57 +0000

Sex tips will guide you in the right direction, but you also want to make sure you’re not actively ruining your own sex life as well. Are you ruining your sex life? Even the best lovers are often guilty of flubbing up in the bedroom, often WITHOUT ever knowing it.

It’s just a fact of life.

But that doesn’t mean that YOU have to be! Discover the most common issues men have in the bedroom – and what to do INSTEAD to drive your woman WILD with pleasure. Avoid these 10 sex life ruiners and you’ll have better sex the very NEXT time you make love, guaranteed!

Thinking She is Climaxing When She Isn’t

You may think that your lover is having “multiples” (or even ONE you-know-what) when she is not. She may make a bunch of noises and even TELL YOU it’s happening. But is she really?

Grab a Cosmopolitan sometime and look at how many articles and comments on “faking it.” I’m not saying that YOUR GIRL is faking it EVERY TIME but chances are there have been a few episodes of lovemaking where she was CRAVING something other than what you were doing.

When this happens women just want it to be over and encourage you to finish. It doesn’t mean you are awful in the bedroom; just that being a mind-blowing lover EVERY TIME takes some specialized knowledge.

If you are giving your girl the “Big O” (and absolutely 100% sure of it) then congratulations! You’re one of the few guys who is ACTUALLY pleasing a woman REALLY WELL. But if you’re not, it is crucial that you learn how!

Not Giving Her A Variety Of Sexual Experiences

A lot of guys who are new to lovemaking – or are used to doing it with the same woman – tend to forget that women want different KINDS of sensual EXPERIENCES. You might think that changing sex positions a few times and varying the speed of your thrusting IS a mixing it up. But it is not.

Women thrive on emotions. Sometimes they want to be taken, sometimes they want it hard, and sometimes they want to make love. If you are NOT talking during lovemaking and creating a strong emotional experience for her, she CAN’T be totally fulfilled. Women want and NEED strong emotional experiences in the bedroom.

Let’s look at an example. Women love bad boys because of the emotions that a bad boy inspires in them. This is why that when a women cheats, it is often with a “bad boy.”

However, you don’t need to be bad boy to create bad boy emotions within her in the bedroom. Just be a bad boy yourself by giving her a light spanking, talking dirty, and giving it to her good! Women also love very suave, romantic types. Think of the cheesy paperback romance novels they read with Fabio on the cover. This is not a myth – women REALLY read this stuff!

Now, I’m not saying you should grow long hair, huge man boobs, and start riding a horse, but what you can do is mix up your lovemaking with some romantic sessions in which you are telling your girl how beautiful she is to you and how much you love her.

Get it?

You NEED to give your lover a variety of sexual experiences – and YOU are capable of giving her each kind – but you have to mix it up!

Forgetting To Be A MAN

Ask any 100 women off of the street and 99 of them will tell you that they want a man that TAKES CONTROL. That’s right, we want YOU to call the shots! As long as you are respectful, your girl DOES want you to take control in the bedroom, to flip her around and switch positions without asking, and to do what YOU want!

Women are programmed to respond to strong, authoritative, confident men. It signifies that you are a protector, a leader, and a suitable mate. Sure, it’s okay to ask her if she is enjoying something, but keep it simple. Save the talk about actual positions she liked for AFTER you are done.

Now don’t get me wrong – you are not making her a slave here, but rather leading with authority and masculine strength.

Once you start doing this you will be able to do many things with her in the bedroom that she earlier would not do. Many guys often think a woman is just uptight if she doesn’t want to do something, when in reality she just needs you to be a man and guide her with strength and confidence. You’ll be amazed at just how powerfully she responds!

Thinking Sex Isn’t That Important To Her

If you want to know how much women LOVE sex, just think about how loudly we scream during lovemaking! You won’t ever hear a guy screaming like that! You might THINK that your drive is much higher than your woman’s because YOU are usually the one initiating sex with her. But as hard as it is to accept, recognize that if your girl doesn’t want to make love, it is NOT always because she doesn’t want to.

Unfortunately, it’s probably because you just aren’t getting her off. Fortunately this can be an easy fix.

Being Silent/Emotionless During Sex

You may think that it is “cheesy” or “creepy” to talk romantically during sex. (you may think its weird to talk at all in the bedroom) However, women HATE silent, mechanical lovemaking.

Why?

I’ll say it again: We women THRIVE on emotion. Dirty talk or romantic talk are EXCELLENT ways to give your girl STRONG EMOTIONS during sex. And strong emotions = strong orgasms. Never think that it is solely your physical parts or motions you are making that give your girl the most pleasure. The most POWERFUL “BIG O” will always be triggered by our MINDS, not by our physical bodies.

Unlock her mind through dirty talk, romantic talk, and emotional talk WHILE having making love, and she will experience the most intense pleasure of her life!

Trading Dinners/Flowers/Etc. To Get Sex From Her

Many men mistakenly think that we women aren’t interested in making love (we already discussed how this is incorrect thinking), and that they have to “trade something” with her to get her to want intimacy. This is why you see so many guys trying to “get there” with their girl by first taking her out to a nice dinner or buying her gifts.

While doing nice things for your girl is awesome, it should NEVER be with the intention of GETTING SOME. When you have to trade something to get intimacy from your girl, realize that this is PROOF you are just not truly satisfying her in the bedroom.

When you are intimately satisfying your girl you will not have to trade ANYTHING for it, but she will often spontaneously text you sexy messages, buy YOU a small gift, or begin initiating lovemaking constantly. Just wait and see!

Not Giving Her Enough “Foreplay”

If you still think of “foreplay” as the activity before lovemaking, well then you are thinking of it WRONG! Here’s a hint: Women consider foreplay as PART of the lovemaking. NOT as a separate thing!

Here’s why:

While a man is not always capable of having a “Big O” during foreplay AND then another “Big O” during the actual lovemaking, WOMEN CAN! Imagine if YOU could have one during foreplay AND not lose any firmness and keep having them well into lovemaking. You’d want to spend A LOT of time in foreplay too, right?

Well, your girl CAN have foreplay “O’s” AND penetration “O’s” so she DOES want to spend a lot of time in foreplay. As she should!

As a rule of thumb, spend at least the same amount of time on foreplay as lovemaking and you can always spend EVEN MORE time in foreplay. You can never get her too turned on and it will only make the lovemaking better when you are finally inside of her.

Not Lasting Long Enough

This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of problems in the bedroom would be complete without it. But while all guys know they need to last long, they don’t necessarily know HOW LONG that is!

Well, after talking to dozens of my girlfriends about the subject, I’ve discovered that we all think pretty much alike. If you can last at least 20 minutes, most women will be SUPER happy with that!

Mistaking Her Moody-ness For NORMAL Behavior

It’s no secret that we women can be a LOT moodier than you men. But if you’re in a relationship with a woman and she seems to keep getting more and more moody over time, this is often because she isn’t getting what she needs in the bedroom. FACT.

As we talked about before, while women aren’t usually as sexually aggressive as men, we do love and NEED to make love just as much! But here’s the thing – if you’re not giving her the “Big O” – then lovemaking does her no good!

Can you imagine if when you were masturbating you could NEVER “get there”? You’d begin to enjoy it less and less each time. Eventually you’d get so frustrated by the inability to “finish” that it would just be easier to avoid it COMPLETELY! So if you can’t give her the “Big O” why WOULD she want to make love with you?

The answer:

She won’t.

If your girl is not wanting to make love with you as much as you want then this is EXACTLY what has happened for her. In the beginning, she may have tolerated it because she was really into you. Now that you have been together for a long time and lovemaking isn’t satisfying for her, it is more fulfilling for her to take care of HERSELF when you’re not around. This leads to only being with you on special occasions, or when she feels obligated (like if a guy bought her a fancy dinner or some sort of gift.)

If you recognize any of these signs, it’s time to step up your game NOW before the drought gets even worse.

And when you do, you’ll discover that when you are completely rocking her world in the bedroom, not only is she in a better mood on a day-to-day basis, but SHE’LL start initiating making love with YOU! If you are giving her the best of her life, she won’t care if you are homeless and living in a cardboard box – as long as you can make love in it!

If your girlfriend or wife is often starting arguments, not wanting intimacy, or acting “distant” in some way, it’s time to stop blaming her. Re-examine your ability because the real culprit is inadequate lovemaking pleasure.

Not Getting Help

Top performers in any aspect of life realize that MASTERY is a journey, not a destination. Top athletes don’t all-of-a-sudden stop practicing. CEO’s don’t suddenly neglect their businesses and expect it to keep growing. And guess what lovemaking is no different.

To be an amazing lover you can’t ever be blinded by arrogance. Never think that you know EVERYTHING. You may know A LOT but there are ALWAYS new sex tips or tricks to get you to the next level.

Dirty Talk: Practice Makes Perfect!

Michael Webb — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 14:00:13 +0000

Dirty talk can be intimidating if you’ve never done it before. But if you do it over and over, you’ll get better at it – and you can make your sex life HOT! If you are new to dirty talk, you will most likely need some practice so that you are comfortable with the act when it’s time to begin.

How To Get Used To It

You can practice just like you would for a speech and even do it in front of the mirror. Try doing it out loud while you masturbate. You can practice with sexting, writing short notes or via email (but be very careful when sending to a work email address!)

Allow yourself some fantasy time and as your mind wanders as to what it is you’d like to be doing, jot it down. Once you give yourself room for self expression and the permission to write down these sexual thoughts that are floating around inside your head, you will find out just what kind of phrases turn you on. Choose a few at a time to spring on your spouse the next time you’re in bed together. Some people find it much easier to put the words down and use letters as a way of beginning their exploration into dirty talk. The more you use stimulating conversation the easier it gets and it will become like second nature.

It Takes Two To Tango

Dirty talk works best when it is used as a dialogue. No one wants to be doing all of the talking in any conversation. Encourage your partner after they’ve joined in by telling them the next day how hot you thought it was when they said something that sticks out in your mind. If you do this, they won’t be left wondering if anything they uttered was embarrassing or whether you found any of it odd or inappropriate. A little encouragement can go a long, long way.

If your partner is a novice or not very vocal, here are some ways to help get them in the game:

Watch an adult movie together that has dirty talk in it – either in the bedroom or out. This can help set the pace.
Read a book passage that has some very erotic text – these are very easy to find in most bookstores and are chocked full of plenty of sex scenes. Take turns reading them to each other or hi-lite passages that turn you on when you’re alone so that you can read them during playtime in bed.
Pick up a book on erotic poetry. Read portions to each other while rubbing on your partner. Ask them which ones they found the most stimulating while you were reading to them.
Write sexy emails back and forth and try to get the dialogue going. (Again, you probably do not need to use work email addresses for this).

Questions To Ask In The Bedroom

Do you want me to do it fast or slow tonight?
Do you like the feel of my wet ___?
Are you ready to shoot your load in me?
Where do you want me to ejaculate?

Let your partner start out with “yes” or “no” responses back to these open ended questions. Then encourage them by saying, “please, tell me more,” as they get more comfortable about talking back to you.

Dirty Talk Ideas That Will Make Your Girl BEG For More!

Michael Webb — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 23:00:00 +0000

Dirty talk can make a woman absolutely ecstatic with pleasure – here are some great ways to get started with dirty talk!

Making Erotic Noises

Most everyone is comfortable with erotic noises and it is a very good place to start. They are as natural as making a deep exhaled sigh as you relax down into a hot bubble bath or when you are getting a massage. Moaning, groaning, sighs and breathy exhales are normal and instinctive when something feels so very, very good.

“Nice” Phrases

Nice phrases are simple, yet effective, and step two to the process. They are an easy way to dip your toes in the water of dirty talk and will add a little excitement to your romp.

“Yes, right there!”
“Oh yeah, that’s nice.”
“You smell wonderful.”
“That feels soooooo good!”
“I am so happy to be wrapped up here with you.”
“Your mouth feels amazing.”
“I have been thinking about doing this to you all day long.”

HOT, HOT, HOT Phrases!

Once you have mastered some erotic sounds you will feel a little more comfortable vocalizing with your mate. Try adding some of these hotter phrases, but feel free to change up the ‘body part’ words with what you are most comfortable with. Below are some examples:

“My panties get wet just thinking about what you are going to do to me.”
“I want your ____!”
“I love your breasts!”
“Oh baby, I want to come all over you.”
“Who makes that cock so hard, cowboy?”
“Let me suck on those nipples.”
I want to ___ you all night long!”
“Mmmmm, harder… don’t stop!!”
“Can you feel how wet you get me?”
“Oh yeah, that’s it, don’t you dare stop _____ me.”
“You like banging this slick ____, don’t you?”
“Put me on my knees and bang me until I come all over you!”
“You are so tight!”

Hardcore Phrases

Edgy, raw and being totally frank about what it is that you want, hard core phrases convey just that. Not for the timid and not the first thing you should throw at your partner during your first ever encounter with dirty talk. Consider this the ultimate walk on the wild side compared to the basic ‘tamer’ talk we just read.

Many couples will never make it to this level. And that’s okay. It is not some video game where the higher you go, the better. It is really all about your partner. If you find that hardcore phrases turn both of you on, then go for it. But if it ruins the lovemaking experience for your beloved, don’t go there. Take it down a notch or two. We are all a little bit different in what rocks our world.

Here are some examples of hardcore dirty talk phrases:

“I want your fat cock to spew all up inside me!”
“Whip it out and come all over my ____.”
“Watch me while I’m sucking your ____.”
Get on your knees and suck my _____ dry!”
“Do you want to spank my ass while you’re grinding me from behind?”
“Tell me you want to swallow my load!!”
“Do you want me to deep throat that cock of yours, baby?”
“I want you to sit on my face!”
“I’m going to ____ that dripping wet ___ all night!”

“Play By Play” Dirty Talk

If you are at a loss for words, you can do “play by play” dirty talk. Simply describe what’s taking place as you are doing it:

“Oh yeah, you’re sucking on my nipples and it’s getting me so wet!”
“I’m fingering your dripping, wet ____.”
“I’m going to climb on top of you and ride you, cowboy.”
“I’m going to lift my legs so you can watch yourself _____ me!”
“I can see your dripping cock sliding in and out of me from this position and it’s getting me even wetter!!”
“I’m going to explode!”

Asking Questions

Asking questions works also, because you can often get a response out of your partner that way and engage them in dirty talk, even if they’ve never done it before or are nervous about doing it.

“How hard does my cock feel inside of you?”
“Do you like the way my tongue feels on your clitoris?”
“How sloppy do you want it to sound when I’m giving you a blowjob?”
“Can you feel my cock getting harder inside of you?”
“Do you like the way my breasts bounce around when you’re giving it to me like that?”

Use Your Imagination

With dirty talk comes creativity. Use your imagination and speak whatever comes to mind. If you’re really in the moment, what comes out of your mouth is going to be as hot as what you’re doing!

Dirty Talk Fundamentals – Know These & Become A Master Of Sex!

Michael Webb — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 14:00:16 +0000

Dirty talk can spice up your sex life and make it hotter than ever before. These dirty talk secrets will turn you into a SEX god!

Your Mindset

To get into the proper mindset for dirty talk, imagine studying and learning a new language. The first time you tried to wrap your head around say, Spanish, it probably felt like you would never master the skill and in the beginning, this may also feel as awkward.

Try to practice saying a phrase or two that you really find stimulating. Find some examples and make them your own. You don’t want it to feel forced. Once you begin to use some of these techniques, you will build on your intimacy with the rapport between you and your partner and it will begin to flow and become natural for you to speak to each other this way.

The Trust Factor

Real dirty talk is ideally for the married, committed couple and honestly, it is not intended for casual hookups. Its use is for a committed relationship and for the long haul. You may be asking yourself WHY?? It’s the trust factor. It takes a very trusting partnership to be able to lay yourself, so bare and so intimately, on the line with another person. You are exposing your innermost thoughts, sexual fantasies and desires. If you did this with everyone you dated, it would lose its value and worth. Throwing around words or phrase examples you learn is not all that it takes to create a long lasting relationship. It is a tool to build on the sexual intimacy you have already started together and to in turn, make it stronger.

Comfort Level

Back to the “trust” level, it’s important that you both agree that you institute a “STOP” word when the level has gotten too dirty or to signal that one of you is becoming uncomfortable with the situation. Pick one! NOW!!! Make it something fun!! Your stop word can be as simple as “Bridle” – as in to “rein in your horse” – or just a sweet, quick, “Honey, hush.”

“Sponge Bob” is a great word to use if, say, one of you hears the kids up and moving around and you need your partner to know they might hear you or to let them know to turn their vocal volume way down low. Your comfort level will likely change and grow over time as you experiment with each other and find out what works, what doesn’t and expand on your vocabulary.

What’s Offensive And What’s Not

Understand up front, that some words you try may be found to be offensive by your partner. Then again, you may be surprised at the types of words that get your partner turned on. IF there are words that your partner finds offensive, kick it to the curb, and find another word to take its place. Some women may find it offensive to be called a whore, slut or cock-sucker in the bedroom, while others may even encourage it.

Play With Your Location

Dirty talk is fun and gives an added dimension to your regular lovemaking, if your in-laws are visiting and sleeping in the next room or your child is having a slumber party, he or she may not feel like being as verbal. Be flexible!!

Foreplay Mistakes That Will KILL Your Sex Life (And How To Fix Them!)

Lloyd Lester — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 23:00:08 +0000

Foreplay is an essential part of sex and if you make any of these blunders, you could really do damage to your sex life! Here’s what NOT to do!

Many men slip up during an intimate foreplay with their women. These are three common mistakes that men make when initiating this prelude to sex.

Problem #1 – Foregoing The Kiss

You should prolong the kiss instead! It doesn’t have to be the usual lip-locking. Women actually enjoy it when their men give tender kisses, long strokes of the tongue, and loving bites on their neck and shoulders.

Problem #2 – Paying Most Of Your Attention To The Breasts

Women are uncomfortable when men pay too much attention to their bosoms. Of course, women love it when their partners do incredible things with their breasts. But, they still prefer that their partners adore EVERY detail on their bodies.

Problem #3 – Hurrying Through Foreplay

This is a big no-no. Always remember that foreplay should be done in the smoothest and most comfortable manner possible. Women love it when their men spend time in exploring every sensitive hot spots on the female body. At times, women are the ones who dictate when their men should proceed. However, there are moments when women allow their men to follow their own plans when pleasuring them. But you should not advance towards her inner thigh if she is not yet fully prepared for it. It can be quite unpleasant for women when they are not totally in the mood for the actual sexual intercourse.

What else can you do to give her phenomenal foreplay – one that will set her up for a powerful series of orgasms later? Well, the following tips will come in handy for you!

Tip #1 – Take Pleasure In What You’re Doing

You must be having fun during foreplay in order to become the best in what you are doing. Women can actually tell when their partners are not in the mood for sex even with the bits of action during the prelude. A man’s satisfaction in the sexual overture is a big factor in turning on a woman. Yes, it all begins in the mind! So make sure that you have the appropriate outlook when it comes to the foreplay and the main act.

Tip #2 – Open Communication

If you do not know what to do, then just ASK her. For example, ask if she wants kisses or those titillating nibbles on her skin and if she prefers gentle fondling to wild grasps. In return, be sure that you are ready to give her anything that she asks of you!

Tip #3 – Dirty Talking

Most guys do not know how effective dirty talking can be during foreplay. You may not know this but women CAN get highly aroused even with just words, especially those that depict what you plan to do to them in bed. Aside from dirty talking, try speaking to her of your unadulterated appreciation of her whole being, her beauty, and your contentment on having her all to yourself!

Tip #4 – Be Smooth!

Wait for her to tell you that she is ready to move forward. Let the whole act blend smoothly into sexual intercourse. Do not skip the “appetizer” and head straight for the “main course.” Always be gracious during the prelude to intercourse!

Let foreplay lead both of you into amazing sex. Don’t skimp on it. Apply the above tips and spice things up in your bedroom tonight!

3 Sex Positions GUARANTEED To Make A Woman Orgasm!

Shawna Lenee — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 14:00:50 +0000

Sex positions can help you improve your game and make your partner orgasm – if you choose the right ones. Here are three that will leave her gasping for breath!

These three positions that drive me and most women CRAZY. These positions are a sure fire way to bring your girl to some of the loudest, most intense orgasms of her life.

Most guys, in their struggle to please women never understand the SPOTS that actually trigger climaxes so they flail around uselessly trying weird sex positions that don’t work.

The Real “Orgasm Zone” Of A Woman – And Why Traditional Sex Positions NEVER Hit It!

Many guys know the feeling of having sex and wondering WHEN their girl is going to orgasm. In a futile attempt to get her to come you keep pounding away hoping it will happen. But it never does. The reason is because you are not hitting the “orgasm zone” that causes us to have an orgasm! Think about it like this:

Let’s say you burn your hand on the stove. You REALLY need to get some cold water. Your friend runs over with a bucket of cold water. But, instead of dumping the cold water all over your hand, they dump it all over your FOOT. You scream in agony that you needed cold water on YOUR HAND because that is what burned. Obviously the analogy is a bit dramatic and simple but it proves a certain point. Yes you need water, but you needed it IN A CERTAIN SPOT. Let me explain how this helps teach you about female orgasms. She NEEDS your penis to have a vaginal orgasm with you inside her. But if your penis isn’t hitting the CERTAIN RIGHT SPOT, its like dumping water on your foot when you burned your hand!

Now let’s talk about where the “orgasm zone” is inside of her. Guys don’t realize that the actual “orgasm zone” is the TOP INSIDE WALL of the vagina. This is where the g-spot, the deep spot, and all other sensitive orgasm zones are located!!! When you are having sex in most positions your penis is going IN to her not UP AND IN where it will give her an orgasm. Your not even giving yourself a chance at giving us an orgasm. However, there is hope! Once you learn how to ADAPT certain positions you will be going UP AND IN and nailing that “orgasm zone” EVERY TIME. You can expect your lover to start having g spot, deep spot, and maybe even a squirting orgasm when you start putting these powerful tricks into play!

The 3 Ideal Positions to Hit the Orgasm Zone and Drive Her Over the Edge

Position #1) A Very Advanced Version Of Doggy Style

What you want to do in this doggy style position is when you are entering her from behind on the bed you want to flatten her out. But, before you flatten her out you want to stick a pillow under the lower part of her stomach. Once you have pillow under her stomach (to raise her butt higher) you want to lie down fully flat on top of her. Often people refer to this position with out the pillow as “froggy style.” However instead of staying even with her body, move up as high as you can. The goal of this is so that as you thrust you are hitting the top inside wall of her vagina. The entire point of the pillow and moving up on her is so that you are thrusting down DIRECTLY into her “orgasm zone.” As long as you can last at least 5 minutes in this position you are sure to give her a climax.

Here’s how to take it to the NEXT LEVEL:

If you are doing it right your head should be right above hers putting you in a perfect position for some dirty talk. As long as you feel comfortable and she is comfortable you can throw in some dirty talk and really send her into spirals of orgasmic pleasure.

Here’s another secret:

You can use your arms to lightly pin down her arms to show male authority – by doing this you are going to increase the “animal primal instincts” that doggy style provides because it shows her that you are totally in control of whats going on.

And one more:

Once she has orgasm DON’T STOP – she will have an orgasm and think she needs a break. However, you can keep going lightly and she’ll recover – and be ready for an even more intense second orgasm. Slowly increase your speed and pressure and she’ll come again and again and again!

Position #2) The “2 Inches Bigger G-Spot Missionary”

The missionary position often gets a horrible name. Critics call it boring, plain, and vanilla. However, when used the RIGHT WAY missionary position can be one of the most intimate, climax giving positions there is. I personally LOVE missionary for the intimacy and most women do too!

Here is how to change missionary position to “2 Inches Bigger G-Spot Missionary:” (note: not only does it hit the spot, it also makes you feel 2 inches bigger inside of her due to the “angle of the dangle”)

What you want to do is take a normal missionary position and adapt it to hit the “orgasm zone.” Here is what to do:

Use a pillow (or two depending on physical proportions) under her lower back but this time in missionary position.
Start inside of her in missionary and scoop under her legs and put them on your shoulders.
Now place your hands under her lower back between her and the pillow.
Lift her up so that as you thrust in to her again you are thrusting UP AND IN and hitting the top of her vagina! (note: the entire reason you have the pillow is so that you don’t have to support her entire lower body weight with your hands)
Thrust up and in and the position that you have her in is sure to trigger an amazing orgasm

Here’s how to take it to the NEXT LEVEL:

If you have the flexibility lean forward and kiss her while you are inside of her. Due to the close physical contact with her (legs on shoulders AND hands around her lower back/ass) it is a very intimate position and adding in kissing makes it highly emotional. If you are a guy that likes romance (like women do!) then you can also tell her how much you like (or love her) and that she is your girl. This position is often a girl’s favorite.

Position #3) This Position Is Seated “Girl On Top” With Her Leaning Back

Often your lover will climb on top and show that she wants to ride you for a bit. The reason she is trying to do this is because is instinctively trying to position herself so that you are thrusting UP AND in!!

With a few simple adaptions to “girl on top” you can let her take control while you lean back and watch her climax!!!

How to do it:

Sit down in chair or sofa (not on bed) and have her get on top facing you.
Have her put her feet forward on the outside of your body.
Tell her it would be really sexy to see her lean back.
As she leans back and start riding you thrust straight up, and due to the positioning you will actually be thrusting UP and IN.
Lean back on the chair or sofa and watch her ride you to climax!!

Here’s how to take it to the NEXT LEVEL:

As she is riding you, reach forward and stroke her clitoris in a light circular motion. Now she is getting stimulation on the inside “orgasm zone” and the external one.

Beware: She will climax quickly!

Now that you have learned WHY normal positions don’t give women orgasms and you have the knowledge as to what does give her a climax.

6 Ways To Be The Alpha Male She CRAVES

Shawna Lenee — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 17:00:38 +0000

Sex tips show you what techniques to use, but they won’t matter if you’re a wuss who asks permission to do anything. Here’s how to be the ALPHA MALE she wants!

There are a lot of ways to be authoritative with your girl. Here are six you can use to get on the right track, tonight!

Take Charge!

These sex tips start right from the beginning. Don’t ASK for sex. Just make your move! YOU must lead the interaction. Here’s a great way to show her you’re in control: Once you have her turned on, naked, and ready to go, tell her she isn’t ready yet. Tease her, and show her she has to beg for it before you will give it to her.

Then have her get in the positions you want, tell her what to say – just make sure you are leading!

Make her orgasm on your command. When she is getting close, say to her you want her to come for you, or say she isn’t allowed to climax until you say it’s OK. Then keep doing her hard and make her wait for your okay.

Use Dirty Talk

The whole authority thing backfires if you proceed to have silent sex with your girl!

Start early. If you’re meeting up with your girl later, call or text her ahead of time and tell her you’re going to do naughty things to her. Tell her she’d better be ready. Don’t know what to say once you are all over each other? Start by just describing what you’re doing, then let her know what you’re about to do to her.

Say what positions to get into. Make to talk dirty to you, but save the “I Love You’s” for another day! (Or right afterwards to show her that you LOVE how dirty and nasty she was just for you, but you still cherish and love her).

Do It Hard!

You can’t be authoritative if you aren’t giving it to your girl hard, plain and simple. Save the sensitive love-making for another time. You have to put me in positions that are good for this – doggy style is GREAT for this!

But don’t confuse hard with fast. You don’t have to be pounding away like a jackhammer – just full, hard, and deep.

You can also gently but firmly pull her hair from the back near the roots, slap her lightly on the ass, throw her onto the bed, “mock” rip her clothes off with your teeth!

Use Authority Through The Whole Experience

Use dirty talk and she will love it.

Do her hard and she will love it.

But do ALL of these things – and watch her totally lose control and come over and over at your command!

It’s All Relative

Authoritative for one couple might be completely different from authoritative for another couple. If you have been ignoring great sex tips, having boring, quiet, missionary sex, with the lights out for the last 15 years – you have to be careful not to do too much too soon. This can make her uncomfortable and ruin the experience.

So start out slow if you have to. As you both get more comfortable you can keep adding to the authority and having more and more fun!

It’s Not The Same As Being Mean

Authority is all about being in charge, and telling the girl what you want. It’s NOT about degrading her, making her feel uncomfortable, or being too serious. One of my favorite things is when a guy is authoritative in a playful way. It’s more about him knowing that I enjoy him being in charge, that he’s not afraid to tell me what he wants, and that I can just safely give in to him.

Remember, authority is one of the best ways to get and keep a woman 100% sexually satisfied.

Many men have told me JUST these sex tips have changed their entire sex lives! And taken them from clumsily messing around and “hoping for the best” in the bedroom to confidently giving their women orgasm after juicy orgasm – whether it’s their very first time with a girl, or someone they’ve been with for years!

Dirty Talk Basics – What You Need To Know!

Michael Webb — Sat, 08 Oct 2011 23:00:32 +0000

Dirty talk is an exceptional way to bring the heat back into the bedroom. Just don’t get started without reading these essentials first!

What Is Dirty Talk?

The purpose behind dirty talk is to show you a new way of communicating with your spouse.

Some call it pillow talk, sexy talk, erotic talk or bedroom’s mother tongue, but regardless of what dirty talk is referred to, it is simply honest and open communication with your partner while enjoying sex with one another. It is something that both men and women can use to bring more excitement and pleasure to their sex life.

Open lines of communication are expected for successful marriages when it comes to finances, children and other areas, yet communication in the bedroom still often remains an “off limits” area to many couples.

Why is it that a wife can tell her husband every single detail about an incident involving one of their children or a story involving one of her best friends, but when it comes down to talking with each other, one on one, about what they feel and yearn for in the bedroom they clam up?

Why Use Dirty Talk?

The most important thing to remember is that YOU control the amount of excitement, eroticism and passion that occurs in your bedroom (or elsewhere, for that matter). By using this form of expression together, you can choose to NOT settle for the ordinary!! After all, do you want to have an “off the charts” exciting sex life, or an all too common, sleepwalk through the motions, predictable routine?

Consider dirty talk as a new “spice” in a recipe you have been preparing for years. Maybe you have made the same homemade salsa for decades but you have recently heard about a new way of making it, so you decided to add in some black beans and fresh cilantro just to see if it would really give It a ‘kick’. The results? NOTHING SHORT OF FANTASTIC! You’re not sure why you never thought of adding something to the recipe before. Same basic ingredients (you, your mate and some incredible sex) – but adding in a brand new spice and voila!

Dirty Talk Isn’t Dirty

The main purpose of dirty talk, or as I prefer to refer to it: a ‘very sexy verbal exchange’ between you and your spouse, is to enhance the level of excitement and to help build the intensity between you and your mate.

It is simply an erotic use of the English language (or any language you use) and is an easy way to take your love making to an even more intimate level.

Some women will need to be persuaded that it’s okay and SAFE to have a vocabulary they maybe have deemed ‘trashy’ or felt like mimicked the ‘mouth of a sailor’ when they, in public, are sweet and demure. For most men, there isn’t much sexier, than that lovely, prim and proper, soccer mom wife of his, who chairs the PTA and sings in the choir, but is still his – all his – and VERY vocal about how he makes her feel when it’s just the two of them.

How To Be The KING Of Foreplay!

Isabella Stone — Sat, 08 Oct 2011 17:00:41 +0000

Foreplay is crucial, because great sex starts before penetration. Women need foreplay to become fully aroused, because they simply just don’t “turn on” instantly like a lot of guys do. But many men tend to overlook foreplay, because they think that if they pound away harder, his partner will orgasm faster and harder. Hey, it holds true for him, why not for her?

Unfortunately, this is completely untrue, and can actually guarantee that your partner will not get to orgasm at all. Most women don’t climax during actual intercourse and if they do, it’s because there was some heavy foreplay first. In fact, some of the most intense orgasms a woman can have are through foreplay alone. If you don’t engage in foreplay first, it’s likely that your partner isn’t going to want to have sex with you very often! Instead, here are the things you need to know to be the best of the best when it comes to giving your lover the right kind of foreplay.

Learn To Use Your Fingers

After some deep kissing and heavy petting, you want to move on to her vulva. Get her nice and warmed up first, by lightly touching all around the area and kissing it and maybe even licking around a little.

Once she’s warmed up enough, make sure to focus your attention on her clitoris and G -Spot – these should be your first priority. Of course, if she’s not fully aroused first and isn’t craving your touch, you’re not going to get very far. This is part of why foreplay is so important – if you head straight for the clitoris or G-spot and your partner isn’t fully aroused, it could be very uncomfortable for them.

Also, it is very important for you to remember to keep your fingernails clean and trimmed smoothly. Although a workin’ man with very “manly,” callused hands can be a turn on to some women, no girl wants you to start putting your hands down there when they are filthy and grimy.

Talk Dirty To Her

Dirty talk is a great way to get a woman so hot and bothered, that it will become much easier for her to let her body go, and have loads of very powerful orgasms, without even thinking about it. Next time you’re in the sack, whisper a few sexy things in her ear about how much you love what is happening, how good it feels, what you want her to do or what you’re going to do to her next. This works wonders in getting a woman incredibly turned on!

Get Your Grope On

Remember when you were younger, and simply fondling a girl was the most exciting thing to happen all week? Well, don’t be afraid to bring that back! And don’t just grab her breasts and butt! Gently scratch your nails down her back, tug her hair a little, and massage her inner-thighs.

The next time you see your girl minding her own business, don’t be afraid to get your grope on! Just because you’re older now and you’ve had sex, it doesn’t mean that sex should be the primary goal every time you start fooling around. Think back to the old days when it was fun, exciting and a little scary to grope around without knowing what will happen next!

When you can combine groping, dirty talk, and amazing skills with your fingers, thee is no doubt that your lover will go nuts every time you are in the room. So now it’s your duty to go out there, and please her booty!

6 “Innocent” Dirty Talk Phrases That Will Make Her Weak In The Knees

Kaylen Jackson — Tue, 27 Sep 2011 14:00:24 +0000

Dirty talk is an excellent way to get your lover turned on and ready to take you all in. Use these six “demure” dirty talk suggestions during foreplay tonight!

“I Love How Wet You Are”

If she’s already wet, this dirty talk phrase will make her even wetter. A lot of women are self-conscious about being too wet – especially women who are able to ejaculate during orgasm. You’re probably thinking, “Yeah, right – that’s totally hot!” However, she may feel differently about it. Many women are self-conscious about their vaginal secretions, and they may even think that their ejaculate is urine and be embarrassed about it.

Let her know that you think that her wetness is arousing to you – tell her how hot it makes you when she soaks the sheets! This will make her feel sexy for letting go – which actually increases the chances of her squirting when she has an orgasm.

“It Feels So Good To Be Inside You”

She wants to know that her vagina feels good to you. She wants to know that she’s tight and that you love being inside her. Tell her how good her vagina feels against your penis! If you’re a little dirty talk shy, this can even be shortened to “You feel so good!” This should be a real, guttural response and it is best used when you first penetrate her. You can also use eye contact as you’re saying this (and as you’re penetrating her) to give it the maximum effect. Don’t be surprised when she wraps her legs around you and pulls you in deeper, gasping with pleasure!

“Wow, You Really Know How To Do That!”

Women put a lot of work into giving a great blowjob, handjob or whatever else skill your girl has mastered. If she’s halfway decent at giving head, commend her on her great skills! The same goes if she has just given you a handjob that rivals your own masturbatory skills.

Not only will this make her feel really great about what she’s doing to you, it will make her want to do it that much better. An added bonus is that she will automatically think that means she’s better at whatever she’s doing than every other girl you’ve been with – which works out great for you because you can make her feel that way without actually coming out and saying it (and possibly fibbing a little).

“I Don’t Want This To Stop”

Use dirty talk to make her feel like you want to be with her all night long. Of course, don’t use this phrase if you plan on having a quickie or are the kind of guy that gets yours and gets off. Telling her that you don’t want to stop must be accompanied by a long night of sensual lovemaking, where each step – from kissing to foreplay to oral sex to penetration – is elongated and more drawn out. Not only will she hear that you never want this night to end, she’ll feel it as you take your sweet time with each and every move you make.

“I’ve Never Been This Hard Before!”

Again, this makes your girl feel like she’s the best sex you’ve ever had – not only that, but that she’s also better than what you can give yourself (okay, maybe you are fibbing this time). Either way, this phrase calls attention to your erection (which she’s totally excited to have given you) and makes her feel like she’s turned you on more than anyone ever has before!

Don’t be surprised if after you use this dirty talk phrase that all she wants to do is lavish your penis with attention by giving you a slow, sensual blowjob!

“I Want To Eat You All Night”

So many guys make girls feel like going down on them is a chore. A lot of girls walk away from getting oral sex feeling like their partner didn’t like it, it was gross to him or he just wished it was over so he could get his orgasm and go to sleep. Don’t be that guy! Make her feel like licking her clitoris turns you on just as much as it turns her on!

This is another one of those things that you want to reserve for when you actually do want to go all night. She’s going to feel jipped if you say that and go down on her for ten seconds! So tell her you want to eat her all night and then actually do. Go slow, like it’s the most delicious thing you’ve ever tasted before!

How Turn On Her Mind!

Gabrielle Moore — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 23:00:45 +0000

Sex for a woman doesn’t just involve what’s in her pants – it involves the brain too. Here’s how to get her thinker aroused so her orgasm will be explosive!

Turning on a woman emotionally is almost equivalent to turning you on physically. If a woman is in the right state of thinking she can have much more enjoyable foreplay and, hence, equally terrific sex.

While arousing her body may seem like an easier, straightforward task (read more in the next chapter), stimulating her thinking takes patience and creativity (and a little bit of corniness).

Making Eye Contact

Don’t forget: an unexpected “look” can build the anticipation for later. Eye contact and a wink can be a boyish, coy way to captivate her. So can capturing her stare and giving her a genuine smile, stealing a look while she’s doing a chore or some other mundane task that wouldn’t usually warrant a sneak peek, or holding her gaze for longer than a split-second.

The Lost Art Of Kissing

What happened to kissing? Does it die out after you hear the minister say, “You may kiss your bride”? I have listened to so many of my married friends say, “I miss making out.” We yearn for no-strings-attached fooling around where we can make out without the immediate expectation of sex. There’s something thrilling about going at it like school kids on the couch or in the car (or, better yet, in a secret public place).

A few tips for reviving your kissing techniques and bringing the fun back to old-school make-out sessions:

Kiss her and let your tongue touch the very edge of her lips. The soft sensations will drive her absolutely wild.
Use your lips to “nibble” her bottom lip or, if you’re very careful, you can even use your teeth for a gentle bite. Just proceed with caution.
Kiss her with an open mouth and then pull away ever so slightly, allowing your tongues to continue dancing. Guys seem to really like this form of kissing.

Communicating Freely With Each Other

After years of marriage, talking openly and freely about your sexual needs can be an incredibly daunting exercise, especially if you’ve never done it. But if you want your wife to don a French maid costume or get a little forceful with a leather whip, she’s never going to do it unless you just ask her. The same goes for her.

In other words, one discussion about innermost desires can snowball and affect your general outlook on your entire relationship!

Dirty Talk

The art of dirty talk is different from the aforementioned intimate talk – dirty talk is, well, more risqué.

A common misconception is that dirty talk has to be raunchy and vulgar, but it can take on a wide range of forms. It’s really about the type of couple you are and the terminology that will get you the best reaction (you don’t want to insult her if she’s embarrassed about you using words she considers foul).

7 Sex Secrets Men Don’t Want You To Know!

Kaylen Jackson — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 14:00:12 +0000

Sex for a guy is something we all think we have figured out – but the truth is, fellas may surprise us. Here’s what guys think about sex that may shock you.

He DOES Like Cuddling After Sex!

While guys are pre-programmed to roll over and go to sleep after having sex, they don’t necessarily always want to do just that. In fact, he does like to cuddle every now and then, especially if he’s a married fella. He won’t admit it, but he likes falling asleep holding you in his arms – or at the very least, pressed up against you.

Your warmth, soft skin and scent lull him to sleep better than just about anything else. Keep in mind, however, that this doesn’t apply to one night stands. If he doesn’t know you very well, it’s more likely that he’ll want to get out of the bed afterwards as fast as possible.

If You’re Confident, He Won’t Notice Your Flaws

Self confidence is everything for a guy when it comes to selecting a woman to date. He’s not going to notice the girl who could be mistaken for a room decoration at a club, he’s going to notice the girl that is out there talking to everyone, even if the woman in the corner is “hotter.”

The same goes for sex – if you’re confident during sex and go in knowing what you want (bonus points if you know how to please him too with a great handjob or blowjob), he’s not going to notice the cellulite on your thighs. In fact, he’s probably not even going to notice the stretch marks on your stomach while you’re riding him – because you’re riding him! Be confident and don’t care about your flaws and he won’t either.

He Doesn’t Like Sex In The Shower OR On The Beach

Shower sex and sex on the beach are actually pretty overrated. While many girls think that guys like doing it in unconventional places – and while it IS true that guys like sex period – the shower and the beach are probably his least favorite places to get busy. Unless you have some serious equipment installed in the shower (we’re talking handlebars, foot rests, etc.) you’re not going to be able to line up well enough for penetration, especially if you’re all slippery from the soap.

And what guy wants sand in his pants? Sure you can bring a blanket and all, but let’s face it – he’s still going to get sand in his ass and so are you. Try doing it in the ocean or just in your bedroom with some lovely white noise ocean sounds playing in the background.

Dirty Talk Is Difficult For Him

While many people think that it’s the ladies that struggle with dirty talk, guys actually struggle with it too. He feels silly saying, “I want you to suck my…” or “I love it when you…” especially if he’s trying to be explicit. Also, he doesn’t know what to call your downstairs area – does he say the P word, or will that make you feel cheap? Does he call it a vagina, or will that make you feel like he’s being clinical? He’d rather avoid this grey area completely and just voice his pleasure with caveman sounds.

Sometimes He Doesn’t Feel Like It

Sure, girls are always the ones getting the bad rap for having “headaches” and foregoing sex for the evening. However, not all guys are horn dogs who want to get it on every single second of every single day. In fact, there are plenty of times that he doesn’t want to do it, and maybe his girl does! He may do it just to appease her or because he feels like he should, but that doesn’t mean he’s always super into it. Sometimes, he’d rather just take an aspirin and go to bed too.

Your Sex Toys Freak Him Out

Truth is, a guy can’t compete with a vibrator that offers 6,000 rpm and incredible clitoral stimulation. He just can’t. Does he know that you appreciate intimacy with him more than a killer orgasm, at least most of the time? Possibly. So keep your sex toys under wraps, especially if you two are new to each other. He doesn’t want you to ask if he can use your g-spot vibrator while he gives you oral sex. He also doesn’t want to see your Rabbit. Just settle for his finger this time.

He Doesn’t Always Want To Try For “Multiple Orgasms”

Multiple orgasms can happen for girls and guys, although it’s a little bit more difficult for guys to achieve this because of the whole ejaculation thing. Many women are under the impression that guys want to have more than one orgasm, or want to give their partners multiple orgasms. They may think that the more orgasms that are had all around, the better the sex is.

Sometimes, he just doesn’t want to shoot for marathon sex. He doesn’t want to try to give you more than one orgasm, and he certainly doesn’t want to try (and probably fail) to have more than one O himself. In fact, if the climaxes are good enough for the both of you, he feels like one should do it. Don’t try to have sex all night long if you sense that your lover would be plenty satisfied with one orgasm. Instead, focus on making that one climax as good as you possibly can.

If you rock his world enough with that one, he’ll be too sensitive and much too tired to continue on. Same goes for you!

6 Dirty Talk Phrases That Will Make Her Dripping Wet!

Kaylen Jackson — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 14:00:27 +0000

Dirty talk is a great way to engage her mind in sex – learn these six sayings that will have her so wet, you’ll have to change the sheets afterwards!

“You Look Stunning….”

The word “stunning” will work, as will the words “gorgeous” and “beautiful.” The word “sexy” or “hot” won’t – it will just make her feel like a sex object. Tell her how gorgeous, beautiful or stunning she looks when she takes off all her clothes and you see her naked, whether it’s the first time or the thousandth time.

Women are naturally insecure about our bodies, no thanks to modern media. When she gets undressed in front of you, she’s automatically wondering if you’ll think she’s flawed, even if you don’t say anything. She’ll wonder if you think her breasts are too small, or if you’re paying attention to her cellulite instead of her lacy black panties. Put her fears to rest as soon as she gets naked and let her know that you find her absolutely, positively beautiful.

“You Taste So Good….”

This is one you’ll want to use during oral sex. If your girl lets you perform oral sex on her, she’s likely a little nervous about it, even if you’ve done it before. Women are conditioned from a young age to make sure they’re “fresh” down there, and you’ve surely heard the jokes made about vaginal odor (so has she). Even if what you’re doing feels great, she’s likely going to be wondering if you think she tastes or smells bad.

Let her know that she doesn’t – in fact, let her know that she tastes divine! Don’t just say it either – show her by giving her the best oral sex she’s ever had. Don’t just lick her clitoris and call it done. Taste every inch of her and let her know you love it.

“You’re So Good At That….”

Your girl wants to be the best sex you’ve ever had. She wants to be better than all the other girls you’ve ever done it with, and she wants no one to ever be able to make you feel the way she does. So make her believe this by working it into your dirty talk.

This phrase is best use when she’s giving you a great blowjob. Giving good head requires some skill, and if she’s any good at all, it’s likely that she takes at least a little bit of pride in her oral sex skills. Stroke her ego and let her know that she’s incredible at giving a blowjob. She’ll respond with more enthusiasm, better maneuvers and she’ll feel like you enjoy her and her alone.

“You Make Me Rock Hard….”

Part of what turns a woman on is knowing that her partner is turned on by her. Let your lover know that she turns you on and sets you on fire! Tell her that she makes your knees weak, that she makes your erection rock hard and that you can’t wait to get inside of her. She will love hearing about how bad you want her!

“I Want To Make This Last….”

A lot of girls have been burned by one minute guys, who get busy without first engaging in foreplay and who don’t last very long at all. Assure her that you’re not one of “those” guys by incorporating it in your dirty talk. Let your lover know how much you’re enjoying having sex with her, and let her know that you want to make it last.

If you struggle with premature ejaculation or just don’t have the stamina for a hot sex marathon, go slow. If you’re close to orgasm, stop and kiss her softly or give her oral sex while you take a time out. This would actually be a perfect time to use the phrase, “I want to make this last….”

“You Fit Me Perfectly….”

This goes along the line of thought that women want to hear that they’re the only woman who could ever satisfy their guy sexually – or they at least want to know that they’re hands down better than the rest. So tell her that her vagina fits you perfectly. You can do this vaguely by saying “you fit me perfectly,” or you can take this to the next level.

Be wary of going too far with this if you’ve just met someone, but if you’re going pretty strong or are in a committed relationship, you could go on to say that it’s almost as though her body was designed just for you. This will make her melt emotionally and get her so hot physically, she may just set the house on fire!

How To Use The 5 Senses During Sex

Michael Webb — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 23:00:40 +0000

Sex should involve the whole body for a truly amazing experience. Men are visual creatures, and that is how they express themselves sexually. They like to look at boobs. They like to watch porn. However, women are multisensory. They experience sex with all of their senses. While a great set of abs does entice her visually, so does the sound of a man’s voice or the warmth of his touch.

When she is attracted to him, his scent is stronger than other men’s scents. While men may not be inherently moved to incorporate a woman’s fragrance or the cadence of her speech into his sexual nature, it doesn’t mean he can’t consciously make the decision to do so. Here’s a quick review of the five senses, and how erotic each can be.

Sight

You already know that men are visually stimulated. The respond best when they can actually look at what is going on, rather than just feel it with their bodies. That’s part of why porn is so popular! Men are already experts in getting turned on by what they can see, but you can take it even further. Really scan your lover’s body with your eyes. See how her body is different from other women’s.

Maybe she has strong runner’s legs or perfectly olive skin. Notice the things that make her special unique, and compliment them. Tell her how much you love her wildly curly hair or the curve of her stomach. You will see her in a new light once you’ve really taken her in.

Taste

Taste is definitely a component of good sex, but a lot of the time, the taste of your partner’s salty skin isn’t always erotic. So you can have a lot of fun playing with taste and incorporating new ones into our sex routine. Try giving each other sensual massages with flavored oils, and then lick it off one another’s bodies. Blindfold her, and then feed her passion fruits or chocolate mousse.

Have a sensual dinner before sex and really pay attention to the flavors and textures of the foods. Then, have dessert off her sexy body. Drizzle chocolate sauce and whipped cream all over her and have fun licking it all up. You can also buy a variety pack of flavored lip balms, and then guess the flavor every time you kiss her hello. Whatever it is, have fun with it.

Smell

There’s a reason that certain scents seem sexy to you, or turn you on. Your sense of smell can be heightened during times of extreme arousal. Maximize the power of aromatherapy by filling the room with warm, relaxing scents. Musky vanilla, sandalwood or lavender scents all help relax the mind and body, and makes a woman feel more sensual.

To engage your sense of smell, breathe in the smell of her skin when she’s under you. Once you know her smell, it will get you going every time you catch a whiff.

Sound

The sounds of sex are probably one of the best things about it. There’s nothing like hearing how much you’re pleasing your partner or listening to the sound of intercourse. Dirty talk is a great way to engage you and your partner’s ears when getting it on.

Whether you’re telling over the phone what you’re going to do to her when you get home, or whispering sweet nothings in her ear, you can heighten the anticipation with verbal stimulation. Also, when you’re pleasuring her or railing her, listen to her moans and hear her reaction. Then you can be certain you’re doing it right.

Touch

This is the most sexually satisfying of all the senses. What you feel with sex is what governs what you do and what you think when you’re getting busy with your lover. Play with touch by running your hands all over each other’s bodies. Feel the warmth of your lover’s skin. Sex games that maximize touch with your partner are also a great way to enhance your sex life.

Play a game where you touch her each part of her body from head to toe, but never lose contact. Then enjoy the intense pleasure when you’ve felt her with all your senses. You can also use this sense when “feeling” your orgasms. When you’re in the throes of orgasm, let the experience completely overtake you. Get lost in all the different sensations that you’re feeling, and let your partner do the same!

Dirty Talk Done Right

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 14:00:37 +0000

Dirty talk can spice up your sex life, but it’s hard to know what to say and when to say it. If you say the wrong thing, it’s easy to turn a woman off or offend her. Sometimes you can rectify a mistake like that and sometimes you can’t. It’s much better to avoid the blunder in the first place. Here’s how to do dirty talk – the RIGHT way!

Girls Love Dirty Talk

Believe it or not, almost all women love dirty talk. They may blush or shy away, but in all honesty, they really do like it! Some women may prefer a more romantic style, while others want to hear hardcore details and expletives. Regardless of what style a particular girl prefers, almost all women love hearing something while doing the dirty.

The right language in the bedroom will help a woman to open up mentally and emotionally, which is necessary for her to become really turned on and reach orgasm. So learning the right things to say to a woman while you’re getting it on is going to benefit both you and her!

How To Tell What She’ll Like And What She Won’t Like

Not every girl is going to like the same thing when it comes to dirty talk. In fact, some phrases that will turn a woman on without you even touching her may be something that another girl is completely offended by. Don’t assume that the dirty talk phrases that worked for one woman is going to work just as well for another.

Get To Know Her

This is one of the biggest benefits to a long term relationship or marriage. When you really get to know a girl, you start to understand the way her mind works. You’ll begin to understand what she does and doesn’t like in the bedroom and why. This will help you to find the right things to say when using dirty talk during sex.

How Does She Normally Talk?

Pay attention to how she speaks. Does she use a lot of expletives or does she talk more demurely? Does she speak differently to you than other people? Does she show you a side of her that is different than what she shows her parents or co-workers? Take your cues directly from her. If you’ve never heard her say a swear word, she’s probably going to be pretty offended if you drop the F-bomb in the sack. However, if she likes to get a little wild with her language sometimes, she’s not going to enjoy you talking about what you’re going to do to her “vagina.”

How To Get Started

Experiment with different words in the bedroom (or wherever else you like to have sex) and gauge her reaction to them. If you’ve already gotten to know her and have taken your cues from the language she usually uses, you’re probably not going to strike out here. Still, you want to gauge her reaction to see if what you’re saying to her is actually turning her on, or if it’s turning her off.

A great way to get started is to tell her what you want her to do to you. Lead by example first, and describe to her what you’d like her to do – either with soft or explicit language, whichever you feel she will respond best to. Then later, you can try flipping the tables to see if she will do the same for you. After you lead her into it, she may get incredibly turned on and start talking dirty too!

Does She Like To Talk Or Listen?

While most women do enjoy dirty talk, not everyone is going to enjoy both talking and listening. She may just enjoy one or the other. Get to know her to determine what she likes better, or if she really does like both. This is part of feeling it out as you get started. You’ll notice her respond better either when she’s doing the dirty talking or when she’s listening to you describe in detail what you want her to do to you or what you’re going to do to her.

Take The Risk

Dirty talk is a lot of fun and if you pay attention to your girl and really read her, it’s unlikely you’re going to say the wrong thing. It’s definitely worth the risk – so take it! You’re never going to know how much you can turn your partner on with dirty talk until you actually take that first step and do it!

Sexting: How To Evolve From Dirty Texts To Pictures

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 04 Jul 2011 14:00:18 +0000

Sexting is a great turn on, but what do you do when you want MORE? Men enjoy visual stimulation as opposed to mental, which is why women love getting dirty texts but men want to actually see something sexy. Here’s how to get your partner interested in sending you something more visually engaging.

Sexting Turns Her On – But What About Him?

Sexting is a great way to engage a woman and get her so turned on, she’s pouncing on you and ripping your clothes off as soon as you walk in the door. In fact, it’s one of the best foreplay techniques and you don’t even have to touch her to do it! Women respond very well to imaginative words, and when you send her naughty texts, you’re literally speaking her language. You’re bypassing her inhibitions and directly stimulating her mind – which is where arousal starts for a woman.

But where does it start for a guy?

Men are visual – meaning, words just don’t do that much for them. Sure, you’re going to love a text from your partner talking about how much they want to go down on you tonight, but is it going to make you crave her like a dirty text is going to make her crave you? Not exactly. But what if she sent you a picture of her breasts? Now THAT will turn you on! Problem is, what if she’s too shy to send you a picture or movie?

How do you get her to do it?

Slowly Introduce Your Partner To Sending Pictures/Videos

Just like with anything sexual that is new or that you and your lover have never tried before, it’s important to start slow and work your way up. You don’t want to approach your girl and ask her to send you a picture of her vagina if she’s never even sent you a dirty text before. So start with the basics!

Start by sending her flirty text messages. Tell her how pretty you think she looked before she left for work this morning, or let her know how much you can’t wait to see her when you get home. Once you’ve got her hooked to the surprise messages you’re sending to her, start sexting. Make your texts a little more naughtier each time. For example, tell her that you thought she looked great this morning and when she says “Thank you,” lead into telling her what she was wearing made you wish she wasn’t wearing it!

Don’t expect to get her texting you pictures and videos of her in just one day, especially if you and your partner have never sexted before. It’s going to take time to get her involved, and you want to make sure she enjoys it every step of the way. Make her feel cherished, sexy and beautiful first (both on the phone and in person) before you ever try to bring up her sending you pictures.

Once she’s responding well to your sexting, you can start thinking about taking it to the next level.

How To Get Your Lover To Send Naughty Pictures

A great way to introduce her to the idea of sending naughty pictures back and forth is to first send her a sensual picture of you! No, not a penis shot, because that will probably just offend her. You’re looking for a sensual picture. Something that gets your partner’s imagination working without showing too much. A woman isn’t going to be turned on by a picture of your cock erect and stark naked. Girls respond much better to sexual innuendo instead of porn. Instead, send her something like this:

A picture of your erection inside your jeans
A shot of your happy trail with your fly unzipped
A photo of your chest all wet and soapy in the shower

You get the idea. Send her something that intrigues her without showing her too much and possibly offending her. The great thing about sending her a sensual picture of yourself is that she will most likely respond with something sensual for you!

Introducing Your Partner To Sending Videos

Once you’re successfully sending sexy photos of yourselves back and forth, you may be chomping at the bit to see even more. You want to see your lover in action, but how do you get her to graduate from sending stills to sending something that you can actually masturbate to?

Start by letting her know how much her photos turn you on. Give her lots of encouragement and let her know that she looks beautiful and extremely sexy in every photo that she’s sent you. Tell her that you would love to see some of that in action!

You can also entice her with the idea of making a homemade porn for you by telling her how much it would turn you on to masturbate to HER instead of to some other random woman. Let her know that you care about her and she’s the one that turns you on the most – this may very well be all you need to convince her to make you a movie. She’ll love the idea that you’d rather be watching her than someone else.

You can start by making a movie of you both having fun together. If you’re both on film, she may not be as apprehensive about it. Make sure the lighting is flattering and tell her that she doesn’t have to get naked if she doesn’t want to. Sexy lingerie can be just as titillating as full nudity and sometimes even more so!

Giving Your Lover Positive Reinforcement

Make sure that you’re giving your partner encouragement and positive reinforcement when she does send you photos or makes a movie with you or for you. If she’s not getting any positive feedback, she’s not going to get into it and she’s certainly not going to keep doing it. Don’t be afraid to tell her just how much seeing her in photos or movies gets you hot!

Make sure that when you do have sex with your partner that you take the time to give her at least one good orgasm, if not more. If she’s sending you the photos and movies that you want to see, make sure that she’s getting what she wants as well.

How To Talk To A Woman About Sex – Without Freaking Her Out

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 08 Jun 2011 14:00:04 +0000

Guys need sex advice, especially when it comes to talking to a woman about doing the nasty. Sex is something you want, but you’re not exactly sure how to ask for it. You could be getting along great with a girl and bring up the topic of sex, only to end up scaring her off completely. Here’s how to have a conversation with a girl about sex, without sending her running.

Bringing Up The Topic Of Sex Is Risky Business

If you’re nervous about bringing up the topic of sex to a woman – even if you’ve been seeing her for awhile – you have good reason to be. There are many women that will be offended by the discussion of sex, no matter how polite or discreet you are about it.

Every woman will react differently to the topic of sex and the same woman may react in different ways to the same topic, depending on her mood. When talking about sex with a woman, you’re liable to strike out at any moment – but approaching it the right way can make all the difference.

The Indirect Approach

Probably the easiest and most friendly way to bring up the topic of sex with a girl is indirectly. Start talking about sex in a way that doesn’t directly involve you or her. For example, you’re definitely going to get shot down if you start talking about what kind of sex positions she likes. However, if you bring up the topic in an indirect way, such as telling a funny story about sex positions gone wrong, she’s more likely to laugh with you and open up to the idea of talking about sex with you.

Make sure that when using the indirect approach, you keep everything about other people in other situations. Don’t directly reference you or her, and definitely not you and her together. If you start talking about what “she” likes or what “you” want, you’re going to scare her off instantly.

Start Learning About Sex

For a girl to be comfortable talking about sex with you, you’ve got to be comfortable with the idea of sex yourself first. If a little dirty talk makes you blush or stutter, you’re not going to convince any girl to carry on a conversation with you like that. It can be difficult if you come from a conservative family, however, the more you learn about sex the more you will be able to talk about it smoothly and confidently. Read a sex advice column, or check out some online resources for sex tips and sex advice.

Pay Attention To Her Response

One thing that a lot of guys miss when having a conversation of this nature is reading a woman’s cues and knowing when it’s gone too far – and when to stop. There are many cues a woman will give you to let you know that now is not the right time to talk about this and she’s not into what you’re saying. If she’s exhibiting these signs during the conversation and you press the issue, you may end up turning her off for good.

Turning or looking away from you.
Acting embarrassed or blushing.
Stuttering her responses or acting nervous in general.
Short responses or refusal to answer any questions
Trying to change the topic

If She Engages You

If you’ve stayed confident and cool, made her laugh and created a little bit of playful sexual tension, she might end up engaging you in the conversation about sex and even contribute to it, taking things further. If she does engage in the conversation with you, you know that you can take it to the next level and start talking about things that have more to do with you and her. Signs that she’s into it are:

Making eye contact with you or looking at her lips
Laughing at your jokes
Joking with you, cracking jokes of her own
Touching you or accidentally brushing up against you
Standing close to you

Building Sexual Tension

If she seems responsive to talking about sex at first, it’s up to you to create sexual tension between you and her. This is what will ultimately lead to actually getting to have sex with her! The best sex advice to get a woman into bed is to always leave her guessing and keep a flirty element of mystery about you. When revealing information about yourself, don’t give away too much at once. Let her wonder a little bit and allow her imagination to go wild.

Being Sexually Confident

Girls are naturally attracted to sexually confident guys. They’re not attracted to wimpy looking guys that don’t look like they’re secure in themselves at all – so to even get her to want to talk to you, you’ve got to exude an air of self confidence and friendliness. However, you must remember that sexual confidence can go too far and suddenly become creepy and obsessive. Make sure that your sexual confidence doesn’t border on the strange side. You definitely don’t want to come across as just another horny guy looking to score – because this will turn her off immediately.

Relax And Have Fun

Remember that dating and talking to women is all about having fun and getting to know people. If you’re too uptight, worried or nervous about talking to women about sex, you’re not going to get very far. Relax, be yourself and focus on having a good time and making sure others have a good time as well. If you get your date laughing, talking and having fun, she’ll become more and more relaxed around you – giving you the opportunity to bring up the topic of sex without her shying away.

7 Sultry Things That Make His Toes Curl

Kaylen Jackson — Thu, 12 May 2011 16:51:21 +0000

Sex ruts are easy to get into when you’re in a relationship – but they’re not so easy to get out of. Without bringing some new moves to the bedroom, your man starts knowing what to expect – which can be a huge turn off for guys that like to mix it up. Make sex an incredibly new and wonderful experience for your man by surprising him with these sex tips that will blow his mind and leave him gasping for breath.

Suck On A Popsicle – And Then Suck On Him

Make oral sex super cool when the weather is hot by alternating sucking on a Popsicle and sucking on your partner’s penis. This is a great way to experiment with cold temperatures without scaring him off – let’s face it, a guy isn’t going to want you to do nothing but rub ice all over his penis. That’s just too dang cold!

When you suck on the Popsicle, it cools your mouth down quite a bit, but not so much that it is going to be painful for him. As you continue to lick and suck on his member, your mouth heats back up and the process is repeated. He’ll love the feeling of alternating hot and cold, and you’ll love the idea of oral sex being a little bit more fun (and tastier) for you.

Give Him A Handjob With A Masturbator

Most guys don’t use male sex toys when they’re masturbating – they simply just use some lube and their hands. A lot of guys don’t even use lube! Show your man the difference that a sex toy can make when you’re flying solo by introducing it to him during a handjob given by you.

Put some lube on the inside of a masturbation sleeve of your choice and slowly slip it over his member after you’ve gotten him nice and warmed up with your hands. At this point, he’s not going to ask you to stop and he’ll get to experiment with the feeling of a masturbation sleeve even if he’s been a little apprehensive about doing it in the past. He’ll be amazed at the difference in the way it feels!

Let Him Videotape Or Take Pictures Of You

Since guys are such visual creatures, they usually need something like pictures or a video to help them get off, unless you’re there in the flesh of course. If you’re confident that you’re in a relationship with a guy you can trust with something like this, surprise him by allowing him to take a few pictures or even a video of you while having sex or while you’re masturbating. It’s almost guaranteed that a video or pictures of you will be more cherished than any porn he’s ever downloaded.

Give Anal Sex A Try

Your man might not have ever asked you for anal sex (because he’s afraid it will hurt you or he doesn’t want to offend you) but it’s almost a sure thing that he’s thought of doing it with you before. Treat him to something special by letting him know one night that he can try it up your rear if he’d like, but make sure you practice on your own at first.

Buy a small butt plug or just use your fingers (along with plenty of lube) and try inserting them into your anus the next time you’re masturbating. It will be uncomfortable at first, but much easier than if you just let your man try it without ever having prepped yourself.

Next, move up in size until you’re comfortable with inserting something into your anus that is about as thick as your man is. When you actually do let him do it, he’ll be so surprised at the fact that you can take his penis – because he’ll be expecting you to freak out.

Leave Him A Sexy Voicemail While He’s At Work

The sound of your voice – especially during dirty talk – can do wonders for him. Take advantage of this fact and leave him a dirty voicemail on his cell phone while he’s at work. Plan to tell him what you want to do to him when he gets home, or what you want him to do to you. Of course, you can also do a combination of both!

If you’re shy, write it down first so you know what you’re saying and you don’t choke on your words – which is easy to do once you know you’re being recorded. After listening to the message, your man won’t be able to wait to get home and have sex with you. He may have to arrange to leave work early!

Use The Cowgirl Sex Position (With A Twist)

The “Cowgirl” sex position is pretty much just the woman on top position, but with a twist. In the real Cowgirl position, you’re going to sit up instead of laying your torso down onto his. Then, you’re going to take it a step further and lean back, placing your hands behind you on the bed (or whatever surface you’ve chosen for your tryst). This will give him the most incredible view of you and him having sex that he’s ever had. In fact, you may want to wait to let him do the videotaping until you try this!

Practice Your Kegels

You’ve probably heard of Kegel exercises – where you squeeze your vaginal muscles like you’re stopping the flow of urine. These muscles can actually become very strong if you exercise them regularly. Squeezing them during sex can give your man divine waves of pleasure, but not if your muscles aren’t strong enough to actually give him a good squeeze.

Practice your Kegels while he’s not around, or get a pair of Ben Wa balls that will help you exercise your vagina while you go on about your busy day. When you feel that you’re vaginal muscles are comparable to the female Hulk’s, try them out next time you and your partner have sex. Give him a squeeze as he’s pulling out and watch as he gasps and begs for more.

11 Surprising Ways To Have Incredible Sex

Kaylen Jackson — Wed, 04 May 2011 14:00:26 +0000

Incredible sex doesn’t have to be something you once had at the beginning of your relationship. It’s common for sex to become blase as you and your partner become more comfortable with each other, however, that doesn’t mean you have to resign yourself to mediocre sex for the rest of your relationship. Here’s how you can make sex great with these unconventional techniques.

Experiment With Condoms

Condoms are essential if you and your partner aren’t monogamous with each other, aren’t sure of each other’s sexual pasts or haven’t been tested for STD’s. However, most couples who have been tested or are in a monogamous relationship forgo using condoms, especially if they’re using birth control to prevent unwanted pregnancy. But did you know that condoms can sometimes enhance your sex life, even if you don’t need them? Condoms are great for anal sex, because you can just slip it off before engaging in vaginal penetration. If you experiment with different brands and styles of condoms, like ribbed and studded or twisted, you may find something that actually helps stimulate your g-spot and makes it easier for you to have an orgasm!

Wear Socks During Sex

Sure, socks aren’t sexy and most men and women only wear them to bed if they’re not planning on having sex that night. But did you know that if a woman’s feet are warm, she is 30% more likely to have an orgasm? Next time you get it on with your lover – especially if you have trouble reaching the big “O” – try donning a nice, plush pair of socks on your feet before you crawl in between the sheets. You might be surprised at how much better it can be!

Try Dirty Talk

A lot of women are too shy to try dirty talk, but there is definitely a correlation between dirty talk and absolutely explosive sex. If you’re not comfortable with dirty talk, start slow and work your way up to it. Start by simply vocalizing your pleasure when you feel something good, especially if your partner is doing something special to you like giving you oral sex. Next, start describing how much you like what he’s doing and then move on to telling him what you’d like to do next. Dirty talk doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be vulgar – it can be as simple as tell your partner what you like and how much you like it.

Start Sexting

Like dirty talk, sexting can drastically improve the quality of your sex life with your partner. While you’re at work or school, send your lover a naughty text that describes what you want to do when you get home that night. It will spark their imagination and get them thinking about you all day. When you finally do get home, it’s going to be all you can do not to tear each other’s clothes off as soon as you walk through the door!

Learn To Striptease

Men are visual creatures. They love watching women, especially naked women. The love dancing naked women even more! There’s a reason that strip clubs are so popular, but most women don’t like their guys going out and ogling other women. You can solve that problem in a heartbeat by learning to perform a striptease yourself! Don’t worry about not being a good dancer or not knowing what you’re doing – your man doesn’t care. Slip on some really great lingerie (a garter belt with thigh highs is a must) and do a sexy little dance for him. Chances are, you won’t be dancing for that long anyway.

Eat Celery

You wouldn’t think that celery would boost your libido, but it most certainly does. Celery contains a steroid called androstenone, which is also found in human sweat. This is one of the components of human pheromones that help attract men and women to each other. Eating celery will increase the presence of the steroid in humans and increase pheromone production – making people much more attracted to each other. Not only will it increase pheromone production, celery will also increase the amount of ejaculatory fluids in both men and women so orgasms will be more powerful and more pleasurable.

Take The BSPI Test

The BSPI Test (called the Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator) is a test that can accurately determine what your true sexual preferences are through both direct questions and questions that are designed to access your subconscious. Knowing your sexual preferences – what you like and what you don’t like – can help you better communicate what you want in the bedroom to your partner. You can also have your partner take the test to see if you’re sexually compatible!

Get Sexy

Women feel sexier when they get their bodies ready for sex. Sure, shaving may not seem like a very erotic act, but getting ready for sex by primping will actually make a woman feel more like getting busy than if she hadn’t done any primping at all. So next time you’re thinking about hitting the sheets with your partner, take twenty minutes to shave your legs (or other parts of your body if you like), put on a little lip gloss and fluff your hair. If you’re feeling like you’re looking good, you’re going to be much more receptive to having sex.

Bake A Pumpkin Pie (Or Burn A Lavender Candle)

We all know that scent plays a very powerful role in arousal, but many women (and men) aren’t sure what scents and aphrodisiacs will turn their partners on the most. Women respond best to the smells of vanilla and fresh cut grass, while men respond best to the smell of lavender or pumpkin pie. Next time you want to turn your man on, burn a lavender candle and slip into a bubble bath or bake a fresh pumpkin pie right before he comes home from work. He won’t know that the smell of pumpkin pie is what made him want to jump your bones as soon as he walked in the door, but you will!

Assign Him Chores

While men get turned on by a naked woman, women actually get turned on when men do chores! A woman will get much more turned on by a man in a work uniform covered in grease who has just changed the oil in the car than she will by a man who is primped, shaven and naked. If you want to give your libido a boost and become more attracted to your man, ask him to do something really “manly” like fix the leaky pipe or lift something really, really heavy. Even if you can do these things yourself, you’ll be much more attracted to him if he does it.

Take Some Zinc

Zinc is a great supplement to take when you have a cold or the flu because it can help you get over it faster, but did you also know that zinc will help boost your man’s libido? Zinc is essential for testosterone health and will raise a man’s energy levels and increase their desire for sex. Oysters have gotten their reputation for being an aphrodisiac most likely because they are one of the foods that are highest in zinc! Next time you want your man to really want you, feed him some oysters or just have him take a zinc supplement!

How To Make Her Fantasize About You In 3 Easy Steps

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 14:00:38 +0000

Sex of all kinds is fun, but it takes some fantasizing to really get into truly great, awesome sex. To have the kind of sex that will make your toes curl and your knees go weak (for both you and your partner), you have to get your girl to start thinking about you sexually. Instead of fantasizing about guys that aren’t you, you need to get your girl to create a fantasy with you in it by being your woman’s ultimate dream guy. Here’s how.

Fantasy Is Crucial To Great Sex

The physical aspect of sex certainly feels fantastic, but that’s not all there is when it comes to getting busy with your lover. Fantasies are incredibly important to sex that is out of this world, especially from a woman’s perspective. A guy can simply have intercourse and completely enjoy it for what it is, while a woman’s mind must be involved for your partner to even become sexually aroused in the first place.

By getting your lover to start having fantasies with you as the main subject, you’re getting the mind and imagination working. Stimulating your lover’s imagination is crucial to getting your partner to enjoy sex (and to really let go of inhibitions so YOU can enjoy it too) and it’s extremely difficult to get a woman turned on without getting the imagination involved first. If she’s using you to fuel sex fantasies, she’s halfway turned on before you ever hit the sheets.

Foreplay Isn’t Just Physical

Foreplay isn’t just about giving your partner oral sex or kissing them passionately. A huge part of foreplay before sex is the anticipation, the excitement and the fantasies about what is going to happen. That’s actually what makes having sex with someone new so awesome – you’re excited about it and the anticipation is sometimes better than the actual sex itself.

Step 1: Become Your Partner’s Fantasy

Start by finding out what kind of guy really trips your lover’s trigger. Does she love the idea of a police officer, who can assert his authority? Or does she like the idea of a different kind of man in uniform, such as a mechanic or a handyman? Find out whatever your girl’s fantasy is and develop a separate sexual persona that involves some kind of role play with the type of man that really gets your partner off.

Doing this will make it much easier for your girl to think of you sexually if she can see you in the role that she’s already attracted to. Essentially, you are becoming the man of your woman’s fantasies.

Step 2: Get A Great Body

A lot of people may think that focusing too much on physical appearance is shallow, but having a great body is actually incredibly important if you want your girl to think about having sex with you. The reality is, you care about how you look, she cares about how she looks and you both care about how you look to each other.

Having a great body will also make you feel much more confident about the way you look. You’ll be able to let go of your inhibitions more easily, and feel more confident when your partner looks at you in all of your naked glory. Being in great physical shape also gives you more energy and stamina to last longer in bed! Feeling great about the way you look and feeling strong and healthy on the inside will make sex that much more pleasurable and it’s simply just a better quality of life.

Step 3: Master The Skill Of Dirty Talk

Understanding how to get your partner aroused is an important part of getting her to think of you. Since a woman gets aroused with the mind first, work on mastering the skill of dirty talk. Dirty talk is like an “on” switch to the part of your woman’s brain that processes sex and even a few simple phrases such as, “I can’t wait until you get home tonight” or “You’ll never guess what I’m going to do to you as soon as I get my hands on you.”

What you’re doing here is turning the switch on and then leaving your partner to imagine what you’re going to do until you actually get to do it. You’ll also want to master the skill of emotional talk, such as telling your lover how she steals your breath when she walks into the room or how much you love the fact that she’s yours and only yours…to do with what you please. Be creative and come up with phrases that will really get your girl thinking – of YOU!

Sexting: Secret Conversation While In The Same Room

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 21 Mar 2011 14:00:43 +0000

Sexting is a super hot way to stay in touch with your girl when you’re not together, but can you use it to entice your lover while you’re in the very same place together? You bet! Having a private talk with your partner when you’re just a few feet away from them (especially if you’re doing something else entirely) is incredibly hot and will have your girl melting in minutes. Here’s how to do it:

Sexting – A Secret Conversation Between You And Your Lover

Having a special talk between you and your partner that no one else knows about is an incredible way to turn your partner on. If you’ve used sexting before to get her hot and had success with it, it will make this technique even better. She’ll be least expecting a naughty message from you describing how you would give her oral sex (in detail) while she’s sitting across from you. This is an excellent way to make a boring meeting suddenly hot and steamy.

Sexting In Inappropriate Places

The best way to use this technique is to do it while you and your partner are together in a place where PDA or public sex would be completely and utterly inappropriate. If you’re sitting across from each other in an area where nobody else is around, you’re not going to be able to have very much fun with it. But if you’re somewhere that being a little risqué would be considered taboo, the heat is on. For example, if you are together at a meeting, at a party or during dinner with friends. You can make this technique even steamier by doing it while you and your partner are engaged in a conversation with other people.

Why This Is So Hot

The fact that you’re near her while having this secret chat but can’t act on what you’re saying or how you feel is what is so powerful about sexting while you’re in the same vicinity together. There are lots of different things you can say to your lover to create an amazing level of heat between the two of you, and the right texts will get her imagination going and keep it going all day – or at least until she can get her hands on you and start ripping your clothes off!

What To Say

The use of sensual language while you’re sexting your partner is probably the most important aspect of this technique (and any sexting technique, really). Sensual language is what is going to unlock her sexual desire and get her imagining doing very, very naughty things with you. For example, if you simply say “I want to do you,” you’re not going to evoke a response from her in the least. However, if you change your language a little bit and say, “You look so incredibly sexy over there, my erection is straining against my jeans just looking at you. I can’t wait to get home and do you,” you’re going to get her turned on pretty much instantly. A secret sexting chat in the same vicinity might go something like this:

Example 1:

You say: “Stop it….” or “Stop it ”

She says: “Stop what? ”

You say: “Stop distracting me…I keep getting fixated on the curve of your neck and the way your ass looks in that dress.”

She responds: “Really?”

You say: “If I could right now, I would…”

She says: “Would what?”

You say: “Push you down on that table over there…kiss my way down your back…drag your panties down your legs and take you right here in front of everyone.”

She says: “Hmmm…would you really?”

You respond: “Do you have any idea how sexy you are?”

She says: “I’m starting to….”

You can really build on this and change it up to suit where you are with your lover or what you’re doing at that point in time. Having a chat like this with your lover is almost like a personalized, live and interactive erotic novel or a porn that your partner can participate in and that is completely private and just between the two of you!

Dirty Talk

Dirty talk can be incorporated into sexting very easily and is part of using exciting, sexual language to evoke your lover’s emotions. Use words like, “hot, wet, clitoris, need, desire, sexy, lick, touch, etc.” The right kind of language will have your lover melting before you can even get her home and take her clothes off!

Sexting: Keeping It Hot While You’re Away On Business

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 15 Mar 2011 14:00:00 +0000

Sexting is such an incredible way to keep your partner turned on and thinking about you (and what she wants to do to you or what she wants you to do to her) while you’re away on the job. It’s easy for two partners to grow apart a little sexually when they’re not near each other physically, but that doesn’t have to happen to you when you use your cell phones (and even your email) to your advantage. Here’s how to use sexting to keep things on fire while you’re out on the job.

Sexting Is The Best Way To Keep Your Partner Interested While You’re Away On Business

Remember that old saying, “out of sight, out of mind?” It applies here too. If you’re out on the job and haven’t been home for a few days or weeks, it’s not unlikely that your partner isn’t going to be thinking about you as much sexually. In fact, she may be replacing you in her sexual fantasies with other guys (even if she’s not cheating) or porn or erotic novels.

You want to be the only one she’s thinking about sexually while you’re gone, don’t you? Instead of her thinking about other guys during your extended leave, you want her thinking only about you and fantasizing about what you and her like to do together behind closed doors. This isn’t as difficult to achieve as you may think. In fact, sexting alone will keep her turned on while you’re away and even create amazing reunion sex when you get back.

Sexting is so effective at keeping your lover’s thoughts on you while you’re gone that she may want you to go away for your job more often! When you’re sexting, you’re building your lover’s excitement by really working with her imagination and emotions. This is way better than an erotic novel or porn, because it’s tailored specifically to her sexual interests and allows her to get involved too.

2 Kinds Of Texts To Send While You’re Out

While sexting of any kind is sure to get her blood boiling while you’re out, there are actually two specific kinds of texts that you can use to really ramp up her sexual excitement.

The “If You Were Here” Fantasy

This is a great sex fantasy to use if you’re stuck somewhere (like an airport or a hotel) and have time to kill. If you’re thinking about her while you’re waiting for your flight, why not send her a text and let her know what’s going through your mind? Remember that this is simply a fantasy about what you would do if your partner were actually there with you, and it doesn’t have to be realistic at all. Say something like:

“I’m imagining what I would do if you were here right now, wearing that little black dress of yours, smiling at me with those beautiful eyes, drawing the attention of all the guys in the bar, swishing your hips as you walk back to my hotel room with me so we can….”

The “….” is very important here, because this is where her imagination is going to fill in the gritty details about what you would actually do in the hotel room. She’s certainly not going to be imagining sitting in the foyer of the hotel drinking coffee with you. She’s going to be imagining giving you a sloppy wet blowjob as you slide her dress up her soft, milky thighs….you get the picture.

The “When I Get Home” Fantasy

This is a great text to use when you’re near the end of your trip and you’re getting ready to come home. Think about this as foreplay – it builds incredible anticipation and excitement for the moment of reunion and getting back together. This technique works even better if you give her specific instructions for when you get home – for example, what you want her to be wearing when you come home or what you want her to do as soon as you walk in the door. Say something like:

“I’m counting down the hours….”

“You can’t imagine how it’s going to feel when I finally touch you again….”

“Don’t wear panties when you pick me up….”

Anything that you can say to let her know that it’s going to be really hot and steamy when you get home is going to get her imagination working and start things moving in the right direction for an incredibly sexy and wild reunion.

Sexting: “Power Words” – Turn Your Girl On At The Push Of Button

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 14:00:00 +0000

Sexting is such a great way arouse a woman (without even touching her), but many guys fail to use the right language when sexting and it ends up not working at all. The most important part of sexting is to use the kind of language that instantly gets your partner thinking about sex – and gets your lover’s imagination working at the same time. Check out these phrases you can use while sexting to instantly get your sweetie’s mind in the gutter.

Sexting Successfully Is All About Picking The Right Words

While you do get some points for making the effort to use your cell phone to communicate with your partner sexually, sexting is not going to work well (or at all) if you’re not picking the right words and using the right language. For example, lame (but somehow popular) phrases might sound something like:

“You are so sexy…”
“I like your tits…”
“You are hot…”

As you can see, this language is completely uninspired and thoroughly “blah.” These phrases will do nothing to turn a woman on, simply because the words that are being used are doing nothing to spark your woman’s imagination and get the brain thinking about having sex.

This is where understanding the primary difference between they way men and women think about sex comes in. A man’s sex drive is often ignited by anything visual, such as porn, a naughty pic or even just a woman in a bikini. On the other hand, however, a woman’s sex drive is ignited by the exact opposite – a woman will get more turned on by reading or imagining something than just looking at it.

Instead of using lame phrases, strive to create sensual language when sexting your lover. Fore example, think of ways you can change an ordinary text into something incredible:

Instead of saying “I want to have sex with you tonight,” try saying “I’m going to make love to you tonight…make your whole body shudder…make you feel that warm, wonderful pleasure pulsing through your limbs, building and building until you explode in an orgasm.”

Using Primal, Sensual Language

A woman isn’t going to be turned on by hearing the words “tits,” or “sexy,” or “hot.” These just aren’t going to do it. The word “tits” does absolutely nothing to spark a woman’s imagination. On the other hand, however, using the word “thrust” is more likely to send your partner into a memory of the last time you two had particularly amazing sex – and she’s going to replay your thrusting in her mind over and over again – all because you used one simple word.

Another example of using primal language might be to use the word “lick” or “suck.” Instead of sexting your woman and saying “I want to go down on you,” you might want to say something like, “I can’t wait to get home and put my hot tongue on your clitoris. I’m going to lick you up and down until you squirt.” By using such sexy, descriptive language, you’re going to get your girl to immediately start imagining you performing oral sex.

Stimulate The “Sex” Area Of Your Lover’s Brain

So you know that using details and language that really play into the sexual part of a woman’s mind is the key to sexting. But what exactly are the phrases that when put into any text will instantly get your lover’s mind working? Next time you send your lover a racy text, try using some of these words when describing what you want to do – and what you want your woman to do to you.

Thrust
Scratch
Hips
Hair
Eyes
Throat
Nipple
Shudder
Shock
Force
Grab
Giggle
Slap
Spank

Other excellent words to use when sexting your partner are sexy verbs that are similar to those used in romance novels and erotic literature. For example, try using words like:

Lick
Suck
Tickle
Touch
Slide
Soft
Hot
Sweaty
Throbbing
Shaking
Wet
Dripping
Sticky
Taste
Feel
Hard

In addition to using the right words when sexting your lover, you also want to avoid using the wrong words. There are some words that even erotic novel authors use that aren’t going to arouse your woman – they’re going to make your lover laugh. Words that will make you sound ridiculous might be:

Manmeat
Man sausage
Love button
Sex hole
Globes
Love stick
Muffin

Remember that sexting should be fun and have a good time describing to your lover everything you want to do. She’ll imagine it all day long and when you actually get together, the fireworks will explode.

Sexting: Give Her Permission To Be Your Slut

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 14:00:47 +0000

Sexting is a great way to get your female partner turned on, but even if she’s aroused, she still may have trouble letting go and letting her inner “naughty girl” out. The pressures that society puts on women to be prim, proper and professional are strong, and most women have trouble getting rid of the facade, even behind closed doors. Here’s how you can use sexting to give your girl permission to be your slut and get her to let go of her inhibitions and get down and dirty.

Women Really Have Higher Sex Drives Than Men

It’s a common misconception that women have lower sex drives than men. This is usually because a woman doesn’t reach her true sexual potential until she reaches her mid to late thirties and early forties. By this time, she has learned to keep her sex drive very well hidden, mostly because being labeled a “slut” in a negative, derogatory way is something that no woman wants.

How A Woman’s Sex Drive Stays Hidden

A woman’s libido is like an oven – it takes a while for them to “preheat” and get warmed up, and after it’s hot and ready, it takes a significant amount of time to cool down. After the cool down period, it takes a while to get warmed back up again. Men, however, are different. Most men stay turned on pretty much all the time, without a long warm up or cool down period. Like a blowtorch, a man can be hot and ready almost instantly.

Since women will naturally go back to “zero” or square one when they’re not turned on, they learn to stay there. Even if they’re incredibly aroused and about to rip their clothes off, they learn to show nothing on the outside. That facade is what keeps them from being labeled a “slut” and allows them to function well in a society that looks down on women for being “slutty.”

Women Want To “Belong” To A Strong, Confident Man

Women are attracted to strong, confident men. It’s something in their genes that says, “He’s in control. He could take care of me. He would protect me.” Even the most independent women who can obviously take care of themselves will be attracted to men who are confident and in control.

Women also want to “belong” to a man, especially the strong, confident type. While many people have the misconception that “belonging” to another person (especially if it’s a woman “belonging” to a man) it’s always in a derogatory, “ownership” sort of way, that’s not what this means. Women want to “belong” to their man in a loving, safe and sexy way.

How To Get Her To Act On Her Impulses

Make her feel safe. A woman who doesn’t feel safe isn’t going to let any of her walls down, period. Make her feel safe in your relationship and safe being herself – the real her, not the person she shows everyone else.
Let her know she won’t be judged. It’s very important that you let your partner know that you’re not going to judge her, no matter what. Women get judged daily on how they look, how they act and who they are. Let her know that she can be herself around you and you’re not going to pass the least bit of judgement. Go one up on that and let her know that you are going to love her no matter what.
Let her act out her dirty side. When she gets a little frisky in the bedroom, make sure you offer her positive encouragement and let her know that what she did or what she’s doing really turns you on. If she goes a little outside her comfort zone and she doesn’t get positive feedback from you, she’s not going to go back out for awhile and not without a great deal of coaxing. If you let her know you really like it when she gets naughty, she’s going to want to do it more and more to please you.
Make her feel like she’s “giving in” to those desires. If you do this the right way, you’ll make her feel as though she “couldn’t help herself” and that she’s not responsible for her actions. This is absolutely key to getting a reserved woman to really let go and be naughty. This is also part of why a woman is much more attracted to men that seem as though they’re in control. If you’re in control of the situation, it gives her an excuse to get out of control!

How To Use Sexting To Unlock Her Inner Slut

So how does all of this apply to sexting? How can you use sexting to unlock her inner “slut” and become “your slut?” Sexting allows you to have a secret, private conversation with her, without her having to let her guard down visibly in front of others or in public. She can be as dirty and naughty as she wants to in a text, and no one will know about it but you. This is a very powerful concept for a woman and one of the reasons that sexting works so well. She doesn’t have to let go of her facade to let go of her inhibitions.

Using Sensual Language In A Story

When it comes to sexting and making it effective at getting your lover aroused, it’s very important to use sensual language to describe describe what you want to do, what you want her to do and what you’re looking forward to when you get home. Take that up a notch by using sensual language to describe a story where she’s being particularly slutty, in private with you.

Describe her giving you a sloppy wet blowjob (in detail) and tell her how much you love it. Or, describe bending her over and taking her without warning and tell her how much you love it when she gives herself up to you and lets herself be your slut.

Sexting: How To “Revivify” Her Best Experiences

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 14:00:33 +0000

Sexting is an extremely powerful tool that you can use to heat up your sex life with your partner almost instantaneously! If you want your lover to be ready for sex with you as soon as she gets home from work, try these sexting techniques to revive her favorite sexual experiences with you – so you and her can live them all over again!

Get Her Turned On Quickly

This sexting technique is one you want to use when you want to get your partner turned on quickly so she’s ready to pounce on you as soon as you both get home from work. It’s not one you want to use to create a long, drawn out romance – this is going to turn her on like a blowtorch! The key here is to find out what her best sexual experience is with you and get her to re-experience that through the descriptive language you’re going to use in a text.

Using Sensual Language

Telling your partner about your best sex experience again through text will only turn her on if you use descriptive, sensual language. Simply stating, “Remember that day at the lake where we had sex in the water and you had multiple orgasms?” is not enough to spark her imagination and get her thinking about the details of what happened. When you choose the language your going to use when you’re sexting your partner, select descriptive words. Instead of saying, “I loved touching your breasts,” you could say, “It makes me so hard to slide my hands over your soft, supple breasts.” This, in essence is dirty talk – but this is what is going to light your lover’s imagination on fire.

3 “Magic” Words To Use When Sexting

In addition to choosing sensual language when sexting your lover, you also want to use these three “magic” words that will help her to subconsciously remember and re-live the experience you’re talking about with her.

“Remember.” By using the word “remember,” you’re telling her brain to literally dredge up the memory from wherever it is stored.
“Imagine.” While men need visual stimuli to get turned on and start thinking about sex, a woman can do all of this with her imagination. By using the word “imagine” when writing sexts to your lover, you’re flipping the “on” switch to her imagination. Her imagination is much more powerful than anything you can say or write!
“Feel.” By using the word “feel” in your narrative, you’re signaling her brain to tell her body to get involved in the fantasy. Subconsciously, she’ll actually start to physically feel sensations similar to those she had when she actually went through the experience with you.

Use A “Curiosity Text” To Get Her Attention First

Before jumping right into describing your favorite sexual experience together in a text, it’s important that you get her to engage her first. Use a curiosity text to get her interested in what you have to say, so when you actually do start using the descriptive language, she’s totally focused on the words she’s reading.

A curiosity text is an opening line you’ll use to get her attention and get her thinking about what you’re going to say. Great examples of curiosity texts include:

“I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you….“
“Do you know what I’ve been thinking about?”
This has been driving me crazy all day….”

The key here is to spark her imagination and get it going. She’ll wonder exactly what you’re thinking about and it’s pretty much guaranteed that her curiosity will win over and she’ll text you back asking you what it is that is driving you so crazy! This is where you start in with describing your most amazing night together to her!

Why Describing A Sexual Encounter You’ve Already Had Is Better Than Making Up A New One

If you’re a particularly creative guy, you might be wondering if it would be just as effective to describe to her a fantasy or something that hasn’t happened yet. While this can turn her on, it’s definitely not as powerful as choosing a sexual encounter you’ve already had together.

The reason this works so well is that she’s actually remembering what she was feeling during that time. How it felt to have your hands all over her body….your tongue on her clitoris….you get the idea. You’re basically turning your best sexual experience together into “girl porn” and making it her hottest fantasy. Don’t be surprised if she starts thinking about it again and again after you use this sexting technique!

Sexting: How To Make Her Feel Truly, Undeniably Sexy

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 14:00:52 +0000

Feeling sexy is something that every woman should experience, but so few women do because of the unrealistic images that the media puts out there to show women how they “should” or “need to” look. If your partner doesn’t feel sexy, she’s not going to be sexy – and you’re not going to have very good sex! Here’s how you can use sexting to make your lover feel like she looks amazing so you can unleash a powerful, new sex vixen in your bedroom!

Understanding A Woman’s Sexual Self Esteem

Believe it or not, most women have very low sexual self esteem, or even none at all. Even very good looking and sexy women don’t feel like they’re sexy or attractive at all. Why is this? Media and social expectations play a big role in how women feel about themselves, because there is so much pressure for women to look a certain way.

Think about it – how many pictures of gorgeous women do you see every day in magazines, on signs and billboards, on television, in movies and in commercials? These pictures and videos are airbrushed and edited, not to mention the actresses and models had several stylists doing their hair and makeup before anything even hit the cutting room floor.

Society pressures women everywhere to look like the women that the media plasters everywhere, even though it is a completely unrealistic expectation because it is impossible for real women to look that perfect. As a result, many women feel as though they aren’t sexy or good looking because they don’t look exactly like the way models and actresses are portrayed. Even if a girl feels attractive, she will rarely feel as though it is enough.

What Happens When A Woman Feels Sexy

Confidence is sexy – that’s a given. So when a woman feels inadequate in the attractiveness department, she’s not going to radiate that sexy confidence. On the other hand, however, when a woman feels like she looks good, she’s going to have a better attitude about herself and feel more confident about the way she looks. This translates into looking better, feeling better, being more turned on and thinking about sex more often. Making your partner feel like she is attractive and sexy is a win-win situation all around because she’ll feel great and you’ll get to reap the benefits!

Make Her Feel Sexy In 3 Steps

Step 1: Find out what part of her body she likes the best.

Many men try to compliment what they like best about their partner’s bodies, but most of the time it backfires because they’re complimenting the very physical attributes that their lovers are the most insecure about. If you really want to make your girl feel sexy, find out what she likes best about herself. Find out the part of her body that she shows off and that she thinks looks fabulous.

Step 2: Wait to strike until she’s bored…at work, a meeting, etc.

This sexting technique works best when she’s bored. This usually will happen while she’s at work or in class listening to a boring lecture. This is the prime moment to work your magic because this is when she is the most mentally receptive to what you’re going to say.

Step 3: Send her a text complimenting her favorite asset.

When she’s at work or bored somewhere else, send her a steamy text that suggests how much you love that particular asset of hers – you know, the one she really feels good about herself. This will not work if you’re complimenting what you like about her! The key here is to talk about the asset of hers that SHE loves. Tell her, “I can’t stop thinking about your eyes” or “Your breasts looked amazing when you got out of the shower this morning.”

What It Will Do For Her

The “magic” here happens when you choose her favorite feature about herself and tell her how much that particular feature inspires lust and excitement in you through sexting. What this does is it makes her feel great about the things she already loves about herself. She’ll feel amazing because you noticed the very thing about her looks that she is most proud of and likes to show off!

This makes her feel super sexy and confident about the way she looks. When she gets home from work or class that day, she’ll already be turned on from the sexts you sent earlier in the day. Since you started the foreplay much earlier in the day, her imagination has been going for hours and it will be all she can do not to rip your clothes off when she gets home!

Sexting: How To Use Curiosity Texts To Turn Her On Like Crazy

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 14:00:40 +0000

While sexting is a great way to get your partner turned on enough to rip your clothes off and jump your bones as soon as you walk in the door from work, getting started is no easy feat if you’re not sure how to break the ice. A racy text that talks about explicit sex isn’t something that you want to send if you haven’t gotten her to engage you in a sexy conversation first – in fact, it may very well offend her. Here’s how you can word the first “sexts” to get her thinking about more and open the door for racier conversation.

How To Get Started

Sending your partner a text that explicitly details everything you want to do to her tonight (or what you want her to do to you) without building her curiosity will most likely backfire and only serve to offend her and put her off the whole idea for good. Easing into sexting the right way is one of the most important things you need to do, especially if you want to be able to use sexting in the future to revv your lover’s sex drive and send her into a horny frenzy before the two of you even touch each other.

While not all of your sexts have to be PG-13, it’s very important that the first ones you send are. Just like you would want to use foreplay in the bedroom to turn her on and get her warmed up for sex, you want to flirt with her a little through your texts to get her ready to talk about more.

How To Engage Her Curiosity

Start by sending her texts that spark her curiosity and make her wonder just what exactly is going through your head. Your first text should be something she’s going to have to respond to, simply because it makes her that curious! If you start out by describing exactly how you want her to give you a blowjob later, that leaves no room for her to think and wonder and let her imagination run wild – because you definitely want to let her imagination run wild.

Examples Of Great Curiosity Building Sexts

To get started, try some of these steamy but not too revealing sexting examples to get her wondering what you’re thinking about and engage you in sexting. These examples will get her mind going, which is exactly what you want to happen. If her mind isn’t involved, she’s not going to get turned on!

“I can’t stop thinking about you….”
“Do you remember that amazing night we had awhile back?
“Tonight….”
“I can’t wait to see you….”
“I need to feel you….”
“When I think of you, everything gets harder”
“Do you know what I want to do?”
“Do you know what would look good on you?”
“Thinking of you is driving me crazy!”

Once your girl responds to the first text (which she will if you’ve piqued her interest), follow up by leading her in the direction you want to go – a subtle but steamy conversation that plays with her imagination and gets her mind thinking and fantasizing about YOU. This is how you can use sexting to turn your girl’s cell phone into an erotic novel – which is of course, way more effective for a woman than any other kind of stimulation. Women respond much better to anything that stimulates their brains and their imaginations – such as an erotic book – than they will to visual stimulation like pictures or videos.

You say: “I can’t stop thinking about you….” She says: “Why?” You say: “Because you turn me on sooooo much!”
You say: “Do you remember that amazing night we had awhile back?” She says: “Yes, why?” You say: “I’ve been wanting to do that again sooo bad.”
You say: “Do you know what would look good on you?” She says: “No, what?” You say: “Nothing….”

As you can see from these examples, the “….” in the text is probably one of the most important parts of the text itself. It’s what allows her imagination to roam and fill in the blanks. She’ll wonder what you’re really thinking, because you made it appear as though your thoughts weren’t finished. After you build her interest in playing the sexting game, you can start making your sexts hotter by suggesting what you’d like to do to her later – whether you want to see her wearing her sexiest lingerie or you want to surprise her with oral sex by lifting up her skirt as soon as she gets home.

7 “Innocent” Words That Turn Women On

Vin DiCarlo — Thu, 13 Jan 2011 23:00:07 +0000

Seduction isn’t all action – a lot of what’s involved in seducing a woman comes from what you say. What if you could whisper a few simple words into any woman’s ear and then have her look at you with a big smile, grab you by the belt and drag you to her bedroom? Yeah, that may be a slight exaggeration, but the right word at the right time will turn her on quicker than roses, candy or even a romantic dinner for two.

And in this article, you’ll find out seven “seduction” words guaranteed to get a woman thinking about sex, how to use them and exactly what you need to say to make a woman wet her panties whenever you’re around.

“Wet”

These aren’t things you whisper into her ear by themselves. For example, if you lean over to your woman and say “wet,” she’s not going to instantly have an orgasm. That’s not realistic. However, if you’re making strong eye contact, flirting a bit, and then she drips a little bit when she takes a drink of water, you can say, “Oh baby, you’re so wet…”

And her mind will instantly go to sex. Why did it work so well? Because of three simple ways that the phrases must be used:

Indirectly. When you say “wet” you don’t want to say, “Wow baby, your panties must be so wet.” That’s just crude. However, if you say, “Baby, you’re so wet” after she came in from the rain, she’s going to respond to your flirting. This is because women’s minds are just as dirty as yours. So when she hears the word “wet,” she thinks about sex and her vagina being moist, just like you do. Even if it’s hidden in the conversation.

Timed Correctly. You want to use an innocent “seduction” word right after she does something that makes sense. Wet is the easiest example. Use it whenever she drips water from a glass, comes in from the rain, comes out of a pool or talks about some time she got wet in the past.

With The Right Tone You don’t want to bring attention to what you’re doing. Instead, you want it to seem like a regular part of your normal conversation. So use the steady, low voice tone you use when you’re chatting to her instead of ANY emphasis on the “seduction words.”

“Deep”

When should you use “deep” in conversation? Whenever you’re talking about feelings, emotions or anything physical. Here are a few examples:

When you’re talking about something exciting: “And how does that make you feel, deep inside?”
When you’re on a roller coaster: “I’m so excited. Can you feel your heart fluttering, deep inside you?”
When you’re planning a date: “I can’t wait to see how you feel, deep down.”

And when you’re about the meet a woman for the first time, one of the very best words is:

“Come”

Get your giggling out of the way, because “come” is one of the very best ones you can use. It has so many different uses and applications! For example:

When you’re waiting for her to come over: “I can’t wait for you to come..”
When you’re talking about a vacation: “It’s going to be so exciting when you come.”
When you’re talking to a woman about meeting up with you: “It’s OK baby, just come now.”

So you can see how each of those examples a “charge” of sex to it, yet it doesn’t set off any of her “horny” alarms. Another one of the most “under the radar” words to use is:

“Hard”

Obviously, you know what this one implies. And you know the ways comedians use it in bits. However, you may not know that “hard” is a quick way to make her imagine sex and unbuckling your belt. Which is one of the quickest ways to real life sex, even on the first date. So here’s how to use this “seduction” word:

When she’s teasing you: “You’re making it so hard, for me to resist you…”
When she’s making a tough decision – especially about coming home with you: “Baby, it’s so hard.”
When she’s talking about a challenging thing she’s doing: “Do you like it when it’s hard?”

And from here on out, these phrased get more and more blatant about sex, so you’ll want to use them when you’re really ramping up for sex.

“Eat/Mouth”

These are great for anything involving food or drink and because eating and drinking are so sensual by themselves, they pack a powerful punch. Here’s exactly how to use them:

When you’re feeding her food, tell her: “I wanna watch you eat it.”
Also, when you’re feeding her food, tell her: “Here, just put it in your mouth.”
If you’re eating something she finds gross, tell her: “No, don’t look away. I want you to watch me eat it.”

Do you see how the things you say can carry sexual tension? Try adding them to your conversations, to make your first date into something much more interesting.

“Inside”

This is the easiest “seduction” word to use, hands down. You can put it in, whenever you want – if you catch the drift. Here are a few examples:

If you’re going somewhere together, say: “Baby, I can’t wait to go inside, with you.”
If she says something that makes you happy: “You make me so happy. I feel warm inside when I’m around you.”
If a hostess at a restaurant asks where you’d like to sit, say: “I like it inside.”

“Dripping”

Paired with “wet,” this phrase is a sexual powerhouse. For example:

Say she’s eating and a little messy: “Baby, you’re dripping all over the place.”
If it’s raining, and she didn’t have an umbrella: “Look at you, you’re dripping wet…”
If you have ice cream, and it’s starting to melt: “Baby, you’re dripping all over yourself.”

So you see how you can use innocent “seduction” phrases to make any woman feel naughty, like having sex, around you. And you see how easy it is to toss these into any conversation you have. The real payoff comes when you finally use them on a woman you like.

Dirty Talk: The 5 Hottest Words To Say During Sex (For Her)

Jessica Perez — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 23:00:05 +0000

Dirty talk is something that every woman can do, but some women have to get over their shyness in order to do it effectively. But the whole process need not be too forced, and you don’t have to memorize a line or two to say during sex. It’s the spontaneity of the act of dirty talk that makes the sex hotter.

If you think about it, there are things that you usually say during sex, which means you’re doing this unconsciously. But even moaning out your partner’s name could get old, especially if it’s all that you utter every time you make love. You can increase your arsenal of ‘sex words’ right now.

“Ram It In”

Ramming is a word that brings to mind a forceful action. Just the mention of the verb ‘ram’ reminds you of a huge timber being pounded on a medieval castle’s entrance (i.e. a battering ram). Instead of saying ‘f—- me,’ you can say ‘ram me.’

The F-word is not all that when it comes to dirty talk, particularly if you live in a place where this word is used quite often as a cuss word or as a part of a normal conversation.” Therefore, you should think of another word to describe what you want your partner to do during sex.

“Yes”

Said in a certain way, this word takes on a sexual meaning that is so profound it makes a man go at it harder. Saying “yes” during sex makes your partner feel that he is doing something good and that you want him to keep doing it. If you simply cannot think of anything to say, use this word to express your delight and to alert him that you’re about to orgasm.

“My Pussy”

Hearing you refer to your vagina as ‘cunt’ or ‘pussy’ will excite your man, particularly if you’re not the type to swear or cuss on a regular basis. Instead of saying ‘touch my vagina,’ say ‘touch my pussy’ and instantly turn an ordinary request into dirty talk.

“Let Me Suck You Dry Tonight”

When you say this line, your man will instantly think of a prolonged blowjob session in which you will diligently stroke and lick him until he reaches orgasm. This is best said before sex right after a particularly long kiss, or while you’re sliding down his body with the intention of giving him head.

“You’re Making Me Horny”

Saying this line brings out the naughty personality of your man. Just knowing that his teasing is producing the desired effect makes him more excited.

It’s not that difficult to start dirty talk, especially when you’re with someone you care about. Just remember to act natural so that he won’t feel like you’re forcing yourself into dirty talk for his sake. Moreover, saying these words will convey your willingness to become more adventurous in bed, particularly if you have always been shy about your sexuality.

Dirty Talk: The 5 Hottest Words To Say During Sex (For Him)

Lee Jenkins — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 23:00:08 +0000

Dirty talk is a big part of sex. There’s no describing the level of arousal that a kinky phrase or two can put you in. Some of us do it consciously to goad a girl deeper into ecstasy, while some do it unconsciously. If you’re engaged in hot sex with a girl, here are some of the hottest phrases to tell her.

“My Bitch”

There’s a certain finesse that should accompany this phrase. Say it like you would ‘my darling’ or ‘princess.’ There are many girls out there who get excited just hearing this phrase during sex.

Women who are usually stubborn and with a lot of ‘girl power’ outside the bedroom like this dirty talk phrase in the sexual context, most likely because the term ‘bitch’ indicates surrendering (or losing) control because of extreme pleasure. These girls are also the ones who won’t take offense at the term, especially when said in the most adoring tone.

“Mistress”

What excites women is the notion that they’re doing something extremely evil during sex, not unlike the quintessential dominatrix characters who like BDSM in popular movies. Use this dirty talk when you’re encouraging your girl to do what she wants with your body, take the lead and stay on top during intercourse.

“So Good”

Not many guys understand that girls need more than just the occasional grunts of pleasure from their partners. This phrase sounds sexy coming from a guy who’s tensed up and about to have an orgasm. This phrase affirms that she’s giving you pleasure, which is gratifying especially when she’s going down on you.

“You’re Beautiful”

Believe it or not, this phrase can actually be considered dirty talk. Inside the bedroom, this phrase is like napalm. Use it while you’re on top of her or when she’s facing you; and before she enters her orgasmic phase. A girl becomes conscious of how she looks while having sex, and telling her she’s pretty even if her face is scrounged up in pleasure can boost her arousal.

If you’re torn between ‘you’re beautiful’ and ‘you’re sexy,” choose the former. Sexy is something that a woman is insecure about. What she knows as ‘sexy’ may have something to do with the type of woman that would fit inside a size 2 dress. The word ‘beautiful,’ on the other hand, has a certain ring to it that makes a woman feel all giddy and aroused.

“Want More? I’ll Give You More”

This isn’t just a passé line from a Britney Spears song, it’s something that tells a girl you’re not going to cut her pleasure short anytime soon. Remember, women can have multiple orgasms, which means they’re ready to go again as soon as they finish their first orgasm. Telling her this means she can expect you to last all night, or at least longer than you usually do.

When you decide to try dirty talk, mind your tone. Don’t try talking dirty when you’re pissed off, as it will come out differently. Your objective is to make her hot, not to embarrass or humiliate her during sex.

Make Your Sex Life More Passionate And Wild

Lee Jenkins — Sat, 16 Oct 2010 14:00:20 +0000

Sexual satisfaction through orgasm is what every woman expects when she goes to bed with a man. However, over half of the women who have sex with men end up disappointed. It doesn’t matter whether the relationship is based on love or not, women are often trapped inside relationships wherein they need to deal with unsatisfying sex, for the long term.

It’s not enough to tell a woman you love her. Everything in your relationship must reflect how you adore her. Sex is one of the best ways to convey your feelings, which simply means that the same old boring methods are not acceptable.

If you want to please a woman and make her orgasmic dreams come true, learn the skills that will turn you into the man she would want to make love with every single day. To do this, you must find ways to solve the two most common problems involved in pleasing women: how to make a girl wild with desire (so that she craves sex with you all the time), and how to give her the most satisfying orgasms every time you have sex.

Be A Little Rough

If you’ve always been the polite partner (you never demand anything during sex, and you assume she likes everything you’re doing), change your bedroom behaviour for one night and find out if she likes it. I’m not saying you should buy all the leather S&M uniforms you can find. Begin gently so that you can introduce her to your other methods of making love; and also, so that you don’t shock her too much.

You can have a little BDSM without going overboard, at least during the first few times you try to pull off your “bad boy” routine. You can start with tapping her butt when you’re in doggy mode. Time your taps according to your thrusts, and be a little rougher (i.e. moderate spanking) if she responds in a positive manner.

Dirty Talk

You should also try talking dirty. If you’re not sure if your girlfriend will appreciate you dropping F bombs or saying the B word while you’re in bed, try the romantic way of dirty talk first. Begin by expressing how you feel. Tell her that you feel her warmth and you like how wet she is.

Be a little more graphic when describing how you’re penetrating her. Better yet, make her watch your movements using a mirror or by engaging in a position that allows her to see the actual penetration, as you whisper erotic things in her ear.

You can make a woman climax just by igniting her imagination. Dirty talk, or erotic talk, can give a woman some material to masturbate on when you’re not around. Words spoken and images created during the act are extremely erotic for women. You can bet that she will be fantasizing about your last sexual adventure in the future if you turn her on enough. By doing this, she will crave sex with you more.

5 Mistakes Couples Make When Trying To Dirty Talk

Michael Webb — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 14:00:43 +0000

Okay, so you’ve agreed to give talking dirty a go with your partner. You may be a little nervous, but you love them so much and only want to make them happy. Besides, your sex life could really use a boost. However, many people make grave mistakes when learning how to dirty talk and these mistakes will end up causing more problems than you originally bargained for. Like you, many people have the potential to fall into the trap of these 5 mistakes. Avoid these mistakes at all costs to save yourself the embarrassment of a dirty talk attempt gone horribly wrong!

Mistake 1: Emulating The Dirty Talk In Porn Films

A good deal of women are turned off by porn, so try not to emulate what you’ve seen during some of those movies. Lots of them have cheesy lines and actors that aren’t up for academy awards for a very good reason. Many of these lines are not only cheesy, but they can be crass and derogatory towards women and sometimes even men. Also remember that these lines are scripted, and very, very fake. Your partner will definitely be able to tell that you’re not sincere at all in your dirty talk if you use lines from a porn movie. Avoid copying what you hear the porn stars say in the bedroom and you’ll be on your way to successful dirty talk.

Mistake 2: Making The Dirty Talk Unbelievable

Be aware that sometimes talking dirty can come across as very insincere. Telling your man, “Your cock is so huge,” when in reality is only about 3 inches isn’t going to make him suddenly feel like a stud. It’s actually going to make him feel much more self conscious about his smaller size. Likewise, telling her that that you love her massive tits when she is more “grape” than “grapefruit” in size will more than likely backfire. Sure, indulge a little but don’t go completely overboard with your exaggeration. In fact, when your lover is overly conscious of his or her size, dirty talk can do amazing things to boost their confidence. Tell the guy with the tiny penis that his cock rubs your clit so perfectly it makes you cum or whisper to your wife that you love being able to put her whole breast in your mouth. Dirty talk gives you the avenue to banish their insecurities and make them eager for more hot sex with you. Instead of exaggerating what they’re insecure about, talk about how much you love it. They’ll feel great about their body if they know it makes you really, really hot.

Mistake 3: Putting False Expectations In Their Heads

When you’re using dirty talk, don’t tell your partner about things you honestly have NO intentions of doing (ie. a threesome, group sex, farm animals, sex in public, midgets, bondage, etc.) You may find that it triggers some new fantasies or embeds some new images in his or her mind that he or she could continue to ask you to talk about and then want to act them out in real life. Reserve your dirty talk for things that you and your partner can actually make happen. Tell her that you want to bend her over the washing machine and do her from behind or tell him that you want to give him road head the next time you guys have a long drive in the car.

Mistake 4: Using Dirty Talk As The Sizzle Rather Than The Spice

Talking dirty can also become redundant, just like the same sex positions day after day after day. Make sure that you don’t use the same phrases over and over, or trust me, it will have the exact opposite effect and your partner might end up thinking, “Ok, I’ve heard that so many times. Please shut up already!” Instead, try your best to find new and different ways of telling your partner that they turn you on or what you want to do to them when you get them alone. If you’re having trouble thinking of something new to say, try using your surroundings as an inspiration. Going grocery shopping? Tell her how hot it would make you if you bought a very smooth, large cucumber and used it at home! Dirty talk won’t get boring if you use your imagination.

Mistake 5: Giving Up When It’s Not Turning Them On

Sometimes dirty talk can be more comical than erotic, depending on what is said and how it is said. It’s okay to laugh! But don’t give up. There’s actually a lot to learn! It’s not just the words you say, it’s how you say them. If your dirty talk isn’t appearing to turn your partner on, ask them why. Keep open communication about what they like and what they don’t like. If they’re not into something in particular, it doesn’t mean they’re turned off by dirty talk all together. It just means that that particular phrase didn’t do that much for them. Find something else to say instead!

Q&A: Sex Tip – How To Get Her To Be On Top

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 13:28:54 +0000

One of the most challenging things in the bedroom is finding new sex positions to be in that you and your partner both enjoy. If you are really into a certain sex position but your partner doesn’t seem to want to try it, here are some great ways to get her to be more interested in it so you both can enjoy fun and exciting sex!

Question: My girlfriend and I are happy and in love and everything is going great. We have sex almost everyday. It’s wonderful! But she doesn’t like to change up the sex position. She knows that I like when she’s on top because we talk about it and when we “talk dirty” via phone/text she always says she’s going to get on top of me, but when we get in bed, it seems like she doesn’t want to. Do you think she wants me to throw her around and put her on top of me and stuff? I’ve thought about trying that, but I don’t want to throw her into a situation she doesn’t want to be in.

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Trying Other Positions

So maybe your partner doesn’t want to try being on top right now, but perhaps she’ll be interested in trying some other positions that give her a little more control without giving her all the control. If your partner is very shy, especially with sex, she may be apprehensive about having all the control when it comes to having sex. Some great sex positions to warm her up to being on top are the lotus position or the spoon position. In the lotus position, you and your partner are both sitting up, with her sitting on your lap facing you. This allows her to be “on top” but then again, so are you! In the spoon position, you will enter your partner from behind while you are both lying down as though you were spooning. Although you are in control here, she can actually control the depth and speed of your penetration.

Help Her Get On Top

Your partner may want you to take the initiative to get her on top. She may be too shy to get out of her missionary position comfort zone herself, but she may like it once she gets there. During sex, gently roll over so she ends up being on top for a few minutes. If she seems to really like it, stay there! If not, roll her back over so you’re on top again. You can increase the time she spends on top as you do this more often during sex, and eventually she will be on top for the majority of the time during sex! Another thing you can do is go down on her first and get her really, really turned on. She will be more receptive to new things when she’s losing control and in the throes of passion. Help her to relax before sex with a hot bath or a glass of wine, and if she’s in a more relaxed state of mind, she’ll be more receptive to your advances.

Encourage Her!

Let her know how much you like it when she’s on top. Encourage her when she is and let her know how great she is doing. Give her the right body language too, such as making noises during sex when she is pleasing you or grabbing her harder and holding her tighter. She may be afraid of being on top because she’s afraid she won’t please you! Just let her know how great she’s doing and how much you like it and she’ll be more inclined to do what really turns you on.

Who Doesn’t Want Better Sex?

Lee Jenkins — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 23:00:59 +0000

Sex is the most gratifying thing that a man and a woman can share. It’s supposed to be filled with excitement. Everyone has an idea of what great sex is, but there are times when sex isn’t as great as you want it to be. Maybe it’s because your partner is not in the mood and she was sort of just going with the flow because you wanted it so bad. Maybe it’s because you’re always thinking of ways to pleasure your girl but you end up failing every time. There are so many things that affect your performance in the bedroom. Read on to discover what these factors are and how you can make sex better for you and your girl.

Prepare Your Room

Lack of preparation will kill the mood.

Before you even go out on a date with the girl you want to have sex with, have a plan in mind. This will help you prepare for the eventuality that she will come back with you to your place. No girl will find pleasure in making love inside a pig sty so make sure you tidy up, buy some condoms, arrange the bed and clear the clutter. Ironically, doing these things will help you become more spontaneous. Imagine not having to worry about where you can go after your date.

Preparing your room, and yourself, for the inevitable will help with escalating from the normal date to a full-blown hook up.

Try Something Different

Great sex is almost always defined as “something different.”

To a woman, this means you should surprise her by doing something else other than the usual man-on-top position. Learn some kinky sex positions, or put a mirror near the bed. If you’ve never tried sex while still wearing clothes, this is the best time to try. You never know; you might even discover a hidden wild side just by trying something kinky like bringing out a sex toy or asking the girl to roleplay with you.

Dirty Talk

Verbal seduction is a great way to improve sex.

Dirty talking has always been a “feature” of kinky sex, but believe me, I know a lot of men who won’t go there because they think it’s disrespectful to women. However, if your girl enjoys it, you should try it out.

How do you know she’s into that? One way to know for sure whether the girl likes it or not is to ask her leading questions such as, “do you like it when I do this to you” and watching for signs that she likes it when you talk that way. A girl is very sensual, and erotic talk tops the list of “major turn ons in bed.”

If you want to be better in bed, here’s a final reminder for you. Whatever you do, don’t think about your past failures to perform in bed. Just relax and make it work by always keeping tabs on what the girl is feeling, and more importantly, how she is responding to your actions while you’re making out.

Phone Sex – Tips For Talking Dirty

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 14:00:57 +0000

Talking dirty is an art form, one that can seem quite intimidating to master. Contrary to popular belief though, learning to talk dirty isn’t at all difficult. You just have to learn to let yourself go! Here are some excellent tips on how to talk dirty with your partner whether you’re having phone sex or whether you’re in the bedroom!

Set The Right Environment

Getting comfortable and setting the right environment will help you feel sexy and relaxed, therefore you’re going to sound sexy on the phone. Find a spot in your home that is quiet and where you won’t be disturbed, such as your bedroom or a guest room or sitting room. Wait until the kids go to bed, or you’re done watching your favorite television show so you can be totally present in the conversation. Don’t try to have phone sex in the kitchen, the garage or the bathroom (of course, unless you’re taking a hot, steamy bath) because when your partner asks you where you are or what you’re doing, saying, “in the kitchen” is definitely not a turn on. Wear some comfortable clothes, or try wearing some sexy clothes and describing to him what you’re wearing. Light some candles or burn incense, and make sure the television is turned off. You want to be relaxed and able to focus on what you’re saying.

Don’t Be Afraid To Take The Lead

Men love it when women take the lead in sex, and phone sex and talking dirty is no different. While some men do enjoy hearing themselves talk dirty, he’s going to like it even more when you’re the one doing it too. He wants to hear what you like, what you fantasize about and what turns you on – in intimate detail. He will like talking about what turns him on too, but he’ll get bored quickly if he’s the only one doing the talking. Take turns describing what you’re wearing to each other and what you’d like to be doing to each other if you were together. Don’t be afraid to get totally absorbed in the conversation and let your true sexy self come out.

If You’re Feeling Shy

Many people, both men and women, are very shy when it comes to talking dirty, whether it’s on the phone or in person. If you’re feeling nervous about it, there are many ways you can try to overcome your shyness. First of all, make sure you’re using grown up words. You may not want to use some of the “hardcore” words that many people associate with talking dirty, but using anatomically correct words such as “penis” is much better than using other words such as “wee wee” or other pet names. If you find that you can’t come up with anything on your own, ask him to describe what he wants you to do to him. Take notes if you need to, and then simply repeat back to him what he said in first person. If your partner is the one that is shy, let him hear what you’d like to do and have him repeat it back to you! This is a super easy and fun way to break the ice and start talking dirty!

5 Phone Sex Tips For Beginners

Jessica Perez — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 00:18:27 +0000

Phone sex is all about having a sexy conversation with your man. It’s also known as “tandem” masturbation because you’re fondling yourself while talking to him and he’s doing the same thing. Phone sex can be a challenge if you’re not used to masturbating with someone listening to your moans, or if you’re not used to talking dirty.

Let’s suppose, one night, while you’re talking on the phone with your boyfriend, your inner bad girl whispers a suggestion in your ear, “have phone sex with him”. How do you go about instigating sex on the phone? Here are some tips to help you out…

Open Up Sexually

You must slowly open up your sexual side to the man you love. Always worrying about acting slutty will get you nowhere near the girl who can talk dirty on the phone. If you trust your man, and you know that he will never change if you acted “out of character”, don’t be scared to drop F-bombs if he enjoys that. Being shy doesn’t mean you cannot learn how to talk dirty. Start with the words that you can say without cringing.

Gradually open yourself to sexy talk. Phone sex is the perfect opportunity to open your sexuality. You’re providing yourself a sexual outlet, and he gets to listen to your erotic fantasies.

Fantasize

Fantasies are just dreams until you act on them. Because it’s impossible for your man to do erotic stuff with you on the phone, you should talk to him about your fantasies and what you want him to do to you when you meet up.

One good way to do this is to think of “what if” scenarios. Talk about what you would be doing if he were beside you at that moment. If you’ve attended some gatherings with him (high school reunion, your cousin’s wedding, etc.), why not use those events during phone sex.

Men Are Visual

Your man needs to know what you’re wearing, what you’re holding and where you are to feel aroused. He might even ask about the other people in your house to check if they’re out of sight. Most men need to know these things so that they can put everything in perspective.

Even if you’re wearing your dorkiest pyjamas, tell him you’re wearing nighties, red ones. Nighties are easier to remove than pyjamas, so he gets hotter thinking he can “remove” your clothes easily.

Report Your Actions

You know he’s getting hot when he starts asking you to do things like touching your breasts, your thighs and your vagina. Indulge his needs, and do other things to excite yourself more.

Tell him he’s making you horny and you’re now touching yourself with your dildo. Responding to his teasing by acting like you “can’t help” but follow his orders.

Moan When You’re Near Orgasm

When you’re getting closer to orgasm, be more expressive. Tell him you’re feeling really hot and you’re almost there. Scream when you climax so that he can climax with you. If you reach orgasm first, keep moaning to goad him on.

You can tease him by describing how wet you are at that moment, and how you really want his dick inside you. This kind of talk will turn him on and make his orgasm more intense.

Q&A: Tips For Talking Dirty – With Examples

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 13 May 2010 00:03:06 +0000

Talking dirty is a great way to spice up your sex life with your partner. However, many people are uncomfortable with talking dirty, are embarassed about it or aren’t sure what to say. How can you do dirty talk without sounding ridiculous? Here’s how to talk dirty in the bedroom with your partner, with some sexy examples!

Question: Hi Dan and Jenn, do you have any tips for dirty talk? My boyfriend is really into it, but I have no idea what I’m supposed to say without sounding like a washed-up porn star. Please help!

–YouTube Viewer

Talking Dirty Got A Bad Rap

Talking dirty isn’t “dirty.” Actually, it can be quite sexy and a lot of people enjoy talking during sex. Talking dirty in the bedroom got a bad rap because back in the day, it wasn’t considered “polite” or “proper” to talk that way during relations. Fortunately, society has come a long way sexually since those days but the fact that sexy talk is considered “taboo” in the bedroom is half the fun! If your partner wants to hear you talk dirty to him during sex, it’s time to learn how.

Ways To Talk Dirty

There are lots of ways to talk sexy to your partner, and not all of it has to be during the actual act of sex. You can talk sexy to your partner over the phone, or via text, called sexting. Send him a racy email to find at a random time, or leave a hot note by the coffee that he can find before he goes to work (which will get him hot for you all day!) These are also great ways to “break the ice” when it comes to dirty talk, because it’s a lot easier to send a dirty text at first than to jump right in to talking dirty during sex.

Get Comfortable With Talking Dirty

Remember that when talking dirty, your partner is going to appreciate the effort. Even if you don’t sound super sexy at first because you’re still getting comfortable with it, he’ll be glad you tried. Try practicing talking dirty to yourself in the mirror at first, because if you can’t talk sexy to yourself in the mirror, how are you going to do it to him? If you’re unsure of what to say in the bedroom, start by talking about what feels good, why it feels good or describing how it feels. Get some ideas from an erotic book. Yes, some of them are cheesy but there are a lot of good, realistic erotic novels that can give you an idea of exactly what to say. When you feel more comfortable with the idea of talking dirty in the bedroom, take a little time to find out exactly what gets your partner off. What are his fantasies when it comes to dirty talk? Does he like it a certain way? Don’t be afraid to ask him questions or use a “fantasy box.” Your efforts will be much more effective if you’re talking dirty right up his alley.

Q&A: Cracking Jokes And Talking During Sex

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 14:00:44 +0000

A lot of people find themselves cracking jokes or talking during sex. While sex is generally “supposed” to be hot, heavy and sexy, it can actually be funny too! Is cracking jokes, laughing or talking during sex wrong? Can doing it hurt your relationship with your partner if you talk or laugh too much?

Question: Cracking jokes during sex?? So, when I’m REALLY into it, I tend to ask him, “Am I your bitch?” To which he’ll be like, ‘Yes, yes! My horny ‘lil bitch!” (Damn this is horrible putting this out here) Anyways, I just randomly cracked up a few days ago RIGHT in the middle of going at it and said, “You get the whole bitch thing right? Yeah, cause I’m always presenting myself to you like a bitch in heat.” I swear he laughed, then smacked me on the asscheek. He also says I talk WAY too much during sex. How can I help that??

–YouTube Viewer

Sex Is Supposed To Be Fun!

One of the best things about sex is that it can be whatever you want it to be. Whether you want it to be soft, slow and romantic or hard, fast and dirty, sex is all about what you make it to be. If you want sex to be fun and lighthearted, it can be that too! Sex is supposed to be a way to have fun, relieve stress and make you feel good and if you want to laugh, talk or crack a joke or two, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Of course, making sex out to be a complete joke won’t work for you or your partner though, so where do you cross the line?

Too Much Goofiness?

While it’s great to have fun during sex, laughing and making jokes can go too far if you let it. Are you always cracking jokes, or always laughing? Is sex ever serious or sexy for you? If not, you might want to try stopping the joke making, laughing and talking some of the time and try having a sweet love making session or a downright dirty one. It doesn’t matter which (or anything in between) as long as there’s no joking involved. Giving your partner a break from the laughing and joking and focusing just on the pleasure might be more incredible than you can imagine!

When One Of You Isn’t Into It

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with laughing and talking during sex. But if one of you isn’t into it, it gets old quick. You just can’t be sure if your partner is laughing at you or not and sometimes you just want sex to be sex instead of a joke. If your partner isn’t into the talking or making jokes during sex, it can damage your relationship and your partner’s sexual satisfaction if you keep it up. Think about why you’re laughing and making jokes all the time during sex. Are you unable to let go and fully enjoy sex? Are you trying to cover up for being uncomfortable or nervous during sex? If you can’t quit laughing and joking during sex (at least some of the time) it’s time to dig deep and figure out why.

3 Tips To Talk Dirty Without Offending Her

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 14:00:55 +0000

Talking dirty is a great way to spice up your sex life and make sex more enjoyable and exciting for both you and your partner. If you’ve never talked dirty to your partner during sex, how can you start? Some women are put off by dirty talk, but other women really enjoy it. How can you avoid making her uncomfortable? Here are 3 tips to talk dirty to your partner during sex without offending her!

Start Slow

If you’ve never talked dirty before with your partner, you definitely don’t want to jump in feet first. Avoid being vulgar at first, and start slow. Start by simply vocalizing your enjoyment during sex and see if she likes it. Try describing what you’re doing to her, what you want to do or what you are ab0ut to do. Watch her facial expressions and body language to tell if she likes it or not. Go with the flow and let her show you if she wants you to take it further.

It’s Not What You Say, But How You Say It

Your tone of voice and attitude is more important than the words you’re saying when you’re talking dirty. It’s important to be genuine when talking dirty to your partner, because it’s easy to see right through you if you fake it. Take the time to get to know your partner sexually, and don’t be afraid to ask your partner what she likes and what turns her on. You want to tailor your “dirty” talk to what turns her on. For example, a woman may be very turned on by romantic talk, such as hearing how much you love her during sex. A woman on this wavelength is going to become very offended by vulgar dirty talk. On the other side of the spectrum, however, a woman who really gets off on vulgarity is not going to want to hear anything romantic. Try talking about your fantasies with your partner, or talking about her fantasies. Describe them, act them out and roleplay them. You can even incorporate costumes and toys when you and your partner begin to incorporate dirty talk more and more into your sexual habits.

The Possession Theme

One “dirty talk” theme that many women enjoy is “possession.” Talk about how your partner is “yours” and how she “belongs to you.” Say, “I want you, you’re mine.” There is very little risk involved in this type of dirty talk, because women in a relationship generally like to have a claim staked on them, even if it’s just in the bedroom and between you and her. She wants to know that she’s yours and that she’s attractive to you and you want her. As you become more comfortable with talking dirty with your partner during sex, you can use the possession theme in a romantic way or in a dirtier, sexy way.

When Preoccupation With The Stuff Of Life Interferes With Your Love Life

Sarah Elizabeth Malinak — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 23:00:55 +0000

There are times when the stuff of life gets in the way of good loving. Whether it’s the demands of work, raising children, or friends and family who need extra attention, life is messy and therefore demanding. My husband and I have experienced this lately and stumbled upon a cure for turning our attention back on us as a couple.

The secret to breaking free of preoccupation with the stuff of life is simple and direct. It lies in the nature of who you are as a man and a woman.

Talking Sexy

If your husband is the one who is preoccupied, find moments to talk sexy. Find double entendres in his speech and get the pair of you giggling. Without needing anything from him in return, admire something about him that you find sexy. It could be the sound of his voice, the way he rests his weight on one leg while resting his hands on his hips when he’s standing around waiting for someone, the hair around his temples graying, or the way he handled a difficult situation. Whatever you can admire about your man, do it without a need for attention. In a relaxed atmosphere, your sexy talk and admiration will soften the cloud of preoccupation hovering around him. He’ll rest his handsome eyes on you, take you in, and allow the chemistry between you to percolate.

Talking Her Up

If your wife is the one who is preoccupied, find genuine ways to compliment her. If her hair is especially pretty or her outfit is particularly becoming, tell her so. If she has just cooked a delicious meal, really pour on the praise and do one more thing. Insist on either cleaning up after supper or insist on helping. Even if she is an “I’ve gotta do it my way so don’t get in my way” kind of woman and can actually be irritated by an extra pair of helping hands, then just clear the table for her. Or find her favorite music or something on television she’s keen on to keep her company while she works.

One of the nicest ways to compliment any woman is to notice the things she does to keep the household running smoothly, tell her you appreciate it, and offer to do some of those things so that she can have time to herself to relax. Particularly when she is preoccupied with fresh demands on her, perhaps a good friend is having surgery, for example; you can anticipate some of the stuff she usually takes care of and tell her you will handle it.

Talking Magic

You probably noticed that I suggest you do two completely different things depending on the sex of the person who is preoccupied. That is purposeful, so let me explain. When your spouse is preoccupied while you pine for his or her attention, the best way to get that attention is to get inside his or her head.

Most men are crazy about sex. A woman who can tease and cajole about sexy topics gets her man in touch with the thing that connects him to his heart, sex. That kind of gentle love talk can persuade him to relax and take notice of her like a magic spell. Most women feel as though they give too much. When her man appreciates everything she does, continues to find her attractive, and is proactive about lending a helping hand, he hands her an aphrodisiac that works, again, like magic.

So break through the preoccupation with the stuff of life by putting attention on the things that will speak care, concern, and interest to your spouse the most. While the “stuff” may continue to need his or her attention, you can get a little loving attention for yourself to tide you over till life is normal again.

Sex Is Boring… How Can I Get My Wife To Be More Seductive?

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 13:31:08 +0000

This is a question many men would like to have answered. How can you get your wife to be more seductive? How can you get your wife to do all those things that turn you on so much?

It all starts with whether or not she feels comfortable enough with herself. If she is comfortable with herself, she will begin to let go of the doubt she has over dressing in that skimpy lingerie, talking dirty during sex, or whatever else she may otherwise be inclined to hide for fear of being rejected. Getting your wife to be more seductive begins with making her feel more attractive and accepted.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My wife and I are very sexually active, but I’m getting rather bored. She wants to have sex but that seems like that’s ALL she wants to do.

How can I get her to talk dirty and to seduce me?. She seems to be too self conscious about her body and thinks that it’s “silly” and only happens in the movies. Please help.

–Paul, Washington

Dressing sexy

No matter how good a woman looks to you, chances are she doesn’t see the same thing you do when she looks in the mirror. It is a scary notion to step in front of someone naked only to have them recoil in disgust. Many women have this very fear, so they are often afraid to dress in sexy, skimpy clothes.

Imagine if someone dressed you in a loincloth and threw you in front of a stranger. You’d feel very exposed and tense. Chances are pretty good that you would also feel a bit embarrassed about standing in front of someone with barely anything to cover you.

Even if you have been married to someone for years, it can still feel awkward or uncomfortable to stand in front of someone with next to no clothes on. This is where feeling comfortable with her body comes in. If you let your wife know that you think she is beautiful and talk with her about trying new things to be more seductive, then you are taking steps in the right direction.

Ask her to simply try dressing seductive, and if she feels uncomfortable she can stop. This lets her be in control and if you show interest in her while encouraging her to let go of her doubt about herself, then you have opened the doorway for you and your wife to experiment with new areas of arousal and sexual excitement.

Talk dirty to her

Talking dirty is another aspect all together though, as it has nothing to do with the body and everything to do with the mind. You’d probably give a thousand bucks for the ability to know just the right dirty things to say to make your partner moan with desire and you’d give a million to take back saying the wrong things and having your partner look at you like you’re crazy.

This alone can be enough to deter many women and men from experimenting with dirty talk at all. The most important thing about incorporating dirty talk into your sex life is starting small.

Don’t try to go over the top at first, as this can make for some awkward moments. You can start by simply describing what the other person is doing to you, or how you want them to do it. Don’t feel bad if the words don’t come rushing out at first, as with everything else practice makes perfect.

You can ask your wife to be more seductive, for which you may get shot down, or you can help her. Compliment her, romance her and make her feel sexy in her own skin. Let her choose lingerie that she likes, even if it’s not the skimpiest thing on the rack.

Talk dirty with her, instead of asking her to talk dirty to you. With your help, your wife will feel better about herself and your sex life will improve drastically!

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