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How To Relax And Turn On Your Girl With A Tummy Massage

Gabrielle Moore — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 17:00:58 +0000

Erotic massage can do wonders for a woman when getting her to think only about sex. Rub her belly like THIS to get her relaxed and HOT!

Why The Stomach?

The stomach is a very emotionally comforting place to rub gently and lightly. By lovingly stroking here, it will help her to feel nurtured, honored, and safe. And, because it can make such a deep and emotionally satisfying connection, it makes for a strong arousal point as well that can bring about sensual and sexual stimulation.

Make sure to be soft with your touch, as some women can be tender in this area. You always want to create pleasure, but if there is any sign of pain or discomfort, let up on the pressure you are giving with your hands, or discontinue massaging her here and move elsewhere.

How To Get Started

Start by placing both palms of your hands down over her belly. Begin the massage by using a sliding motion, alternating your hands across her stomach from side to side. Side to side is the best direction to go as up and down over the belly can sometimes create discomfort (another “going against the grain” situation). Continue this motion back and forth for quite a few minutes or as long as she is enjoying it.

You can extend your movement beyond her stomach area by reaching down over the sides of her body down towards the surface she is laying on when giving her an erotic massage. When you reach the bottom of this movement, wrap one or both hands underneath her back and then pull back up over her side and belly again, following through to her other side in the same way.

Another great movement for this area is to run your hands in circular clockwise motions around her belly. You can start at the center around her navel and then progressively begin making bigger and bigger circles around her entire belly until you reach the outside perimeters of it. Then, just continue massaging around and around in smooth, slow, soft circles. Doing this can be quite pleasurable for her and evoke many sweet and loving emotions.

Stretch Her Arms Too!

With your lover’s arms resting up over her head, place your hands on her arms just around the point where they connect to her chest muscles (just above her armpits). Next, move your hands up her arms all the way to her fingertips, and then lightly grab her hands and begin pulling her arms upward over the top of her body and then bring her arms back down to her sides and let them rest there. Continue with light strokes to her arms from your hands and fingertips.

Also, lightly stroking the sensitive skin on the insides of her arms where the elbows fold is another erogenous zone that women usually love and get turned on by (similar to the inside of knee fold area). Do a few sensual grazes with your fingertips to get her turned on.

Another way to stretch her arms is by holding one arm at a time in both of your hands while gently pulling and stroking upwards all the way to her hand. This will massage the long muscles in her arms as well as muscles in her shoulders and sides of her body. Remember to be gentle however, as you don’t want to pull so hard as to create discomfort.

You can reverse this move if you like and run your hand all the ways back down her arm again. Repeat this a few times and them move on the next arm and do the same.

An Extra Erotic Touch

A fun follow through to this as you end your arm massage stretch, is to pull her arm to one side so that you cause her body to twist slightly and expose her back. Once there, you can now massage her back in this nicely stretched position. Whenever you can stretch long muscles like this (such as the back muscles) it gives a more tension releasing experience to the receiver. Do a few strokes here onto her upper shoulders and middle back muscles in a vertical fashion (hands pulling upward with each stroke).

You can also do horizontal strokes starting from her lower back on up to her shoulders by mostly using the heel of your hand to massage with. Be creative and have fun with this one, but remember some people may have lower back issues and may not like this much twisting and stretching to their body. Check in and ask first before you try during an erotic massage.

How To Give An Amazing Leg Massage

Gabrielle Moore — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 23:00:04 +0000

Erotic massage can really make a difference when it comes to sex and foreplay for a woman. Use these leg & thigh techniques to make your girl melt!

Let’s get to the sexiest and most sexually arousing area of your lover’s body—her legs and thighs. After you’ve thoroughly primed her libido with lots of kissing and erotic massage, it’s time to go for the gold. But before you do, start out with a sweet long stroke completely around her body.

The Long Stroke

Placing both of your hands onto one of her legs (either one will do), begin moving them up her leg to the side of her body and continue up over her arm, up to her shoulder, and then up to the top of her head. Repeat the same movement down the opposite side of her body all the way down to her feet. Lightly touching and grazing sensitive and sexually arousing areas of her skin are highly encouraged with this move, and you should feel free enough at this point to tease her most private areas.

Once you’ve finished moving your hands up her body in one long stroke, you’ll want to move them back down to her legs, where you will begin your ultimate magic.

Massaging The Legs

Starting with one leg at a time, with palms facing down, place both of your hands on top of that leg just above her ankle. Now, using long slow strokes, massage up and down lightly the length of her leg. As you begin moving down from the top of either leg, let your hand drift and glide smoothly into the sensitive area of her inner thigh, then move down to her knee, over her shins, and all the way down to her foot. Repeat this move a few times over each leg and every time you do, come a bit closer to her vagina as you dip down into her thighs. You can even begin to ever so lightly graze her labia with the tips of your thumbs or fingertips to help prepare her for the erotic phase of the massage.

If she lets you go this far and is loving it, it’s time to crank up the heat. So the next technique is to lift up one of her legs by bending it at the knee. Next, place her foot flat down on the surface she is lying on.

Moving On To The Inner Thighs

By lifting her leg, it will create even more access to her inner thigh and other sensitive areas on the backside of her leg. This will allow you to massage deeper, further, and get closer to her most sensitive and intimate areas of arousal. A great location you can now easily stroke is the backside of her upper leg – this area is especially arousing in this position as you can massage all the way from the backside of her knee all the way down to her buttocks.

In this position, begin by rubbing her calf muscles gently with both of your hands in an up-and-down motion. Do this a few times and then move your hands over the top of her upper leg and then down towards her hip. As you come back up, with your hands now placed on either side of her upper leg, delicately stroke her inner thigh. Repeat this move several times.

Grazing Sensitive, Nerve-Packed Areas

Next, with a downward stroke, move your hand completely underneath the backside of her leg and stroke down towards her butt and even go underneath it a bit. On the way back up, stop at the skin behind the backside of her knee, and lightly stroke around there with your fingertips. The sensations of this combination will surely ignite her fire of sexual desire.

Another effective move for increasing her desire for sex is to place both of your hands on the sides of one of her legs, just above the top of her knee (while it is still in the bent position). Next, make slow circular motions while you run your hands down her thigh. As your movements get closer to her vagina, let the fingertips of your hand on the inner side of thigh lightly graze the outer lips of her vagina. Do this a few times up and down on each thigh area of both her legs. It will drive her absolutely crazy with desire!

By the time you get to this point of your massage, your lover should be very ripe when it comes to her level or sexual arousal and desire for sex!

How To Romance Her Before Giving Her Oral Sex

Michael Webb — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 18:00:19 +0000

Romance is important for a woman during sex – especially during oral sex, because it gets lonely up there all by herself. Here’s how to up the romance factor.

No, we’re not talking about the obvious here. We’re talking about mental differences between men and woman and that is generally considered to be the biggest one. Specifically, we’re referring to the different ways men and women get turned on. Men are visual creatures and this is why the pornography industry brings in billions of dollars per year. Just the sight of a large pair of soft, bouncy breasts can get a man turned on in a millisecond. This is not so with women. Very, very rarely a woman is turned on by something (or someone) she sees. For women, it is mostly mental. A steamy novel will get her juices flowing before any film or movie will.

It is time for you to learn to take advantage of this knowledge and apply it to your cunnilingus technique. Yes, we’d like for you to think of getting her mentally turned on as part of your technique, so you never forget to do it. How do you get a woman mentally turned on? Romance. No, don’t cringe!

Men couldn’t care less about romantic dinners, flowers or any of the like but women can go from zero to hot and horny with these simple gestures. If you’ve been married for years and a romantic dinner doesn’t seem up your alley, this is where you can use your imagination. What would be romantic for the two of you? It can be something like an elaborate gift or a simple compliment. Most guys can’t grab this stuff off the top off their head though, so we’ve got a few ideas for you.

Erotic Massage

With erotic massage, you can kill two birds with one stone. If you’re not skilled with your hands in that area, book her an appointment with a professional masseuse. You’ll get the gift-giving bonus too! Women love massages – not only does it relax them, it makes their responsibilities melt away and as a result, they feel loved and cared for.

Thoughtful Gifts

These can be large or small, but they must be thoughtful, not generic! Getting her that new can opener (even though she’s complained about the old one for weeks and desperately needs a new one) will not do the job here! So let’s make a rule of thumb – if you’re getting her a gift, don’t get anything that can even remotely be construed as practical! Although it may seem a waste of money to you, it makes your partner feel truly special. Jewelry, Bath & Body Works goodies, comfortable sleepwear, the delicious perfume she’s been eyeing flowers, etc. are all great ideas.

If you do choose to get her flowers, don’t get her a plant! Even though flowers will die in a few days, a plant is just another thing she’ll have to take care of and in time will become a hassle (unless she absolutely loves plants).

Dinner (No, This Is Not As Cliche As You Think)

Whether you take her out, bring dinner home or cook for her, letting her forget about what to put on the table when she gets home from work can do wonders for her sexual mood! Make an effort to eat with her at the dinner table if this is something you don’t normally do – the idea here is to spend time with her and enjoy being in her presence during an every day activity. You can also turn this idea into anything, such as going bowling together, taking a walk in a nearby park or just a quiet drive to the ice cream parlor on a hot summer evening. Your time is valuable to her and is probably better than any gift you could give.

Chores

Believe it or not, chores are to women what lingerie is to men. Nothing will romance a woman and get her more instantly turned on and inclined toward her partner than if he were to do a few chores without being asked! Yes, we said without being asked. It will only take a few minutes of your time (such as taking out the trash or doing the dishes) but here again; the idea is to lighten your lady’s load. In doing so, she will not have much on her mind except what you’ll be doing to her next or the orgasm you’re going to give her.

Be Original

If you’re unsure about how to mentally get her in the mood and romance her, just follow this simple rule: break her out of her daily routine. It is that daily grind that gets women so worn down that they are turned off or “not in the mood.” If you can lessen that or break her out of it (even for a short time), you will most likely succeed in getting her mentally turned on.

How To Seduce Her With A Leg, Butt And Lower Back Massage

Gabrielle Moore — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 17:00:18 +0000

Erotic massage will make your woman melt if you use touch the right way. Here’s where to focus when you do the butt, lower back and legs.

How To Get Started

When beginning foreplay, start with your lover still lying on her front side with her back exposed. The natural progression will be to continue massaging down to her buttocks, legs and feet. To do this, make a nice transitional move by starting at the top of her shoulders with the palms of both of your hands facing flat down, and in a long slow smooth stroke, work your way down to her lower back, buttocks, upper legs, calf muscles, and feet, and finally to her toes.

Important Note! Because you will be including her buttocks in this portion of the massage, you will want to remove the covering you placed over the area at the start of the massage.

Now, reverse this move by continuing up from her feet all the way up to her upper back again and then repeat these same moves up and down again a few times more. You don’t have to follow the same path strictly every time, so make sure to vary it using your own creativity. You can try running your hands all the way up and down the sides of her body from just below her armpits or breasts to her feet, or try a combination of both described methods on top of her body and the sides.

Switch around a few times and see what works well for you and her. The main point in this transition is to make long stroking movements all the way from one end of her body to the other, with your last transitional stroke leaving you at her legs and buttocks so that you can begin teasing new areas.

Beginning The Leg Massage

When you are ready to begin massage her legs, you will want to start at her ankles. Focusing on one leg at a time, lightly grasp her on the calf with both hands just above the ankles and begin moving it upwards towards her buttocks as shown in the photo below.

Continue moving up and down her leg a few times in this way. You can also add a kneading motion by grasping in and out with your hands as if squeezing a soft foam rubber ball. Your thumbs can come in handy too. As you are running your hands up towards the top of her leg, use your thumb on the inside of her thigh while adding a firm pressure. It’s very relaxing and also very sensual for her to have your thumb getting in the proximity of her vagina. So don’t be afraid to tease her a bit.

The next maneuver is something that will feel delightfully sensual to your partner while massaging her upper legs. Just as you wedged your hand underneath her upper torso (in between her body and the surface she is laying on), do the same with her legs. This time, however, wedge your upturned palm underneath her leg and in between the surface it is laying on. Start at the upper portion of her leg near her hip, and then glide your hand all the way down the front of her leg to just above her kneecap. Next, with your hand completely wedged between her leg and the surface, glide your hand back up until you reach close to where her legs meet her hip. This will get your hands very close to her vagina, but remember to not yet directly touch her vagina, as you want to create a bit of anticipation and playful sexual tension first.

The Calf Massage

Proceeding down to her calf muscle, you will now be moving your hands back to the top of her leg again. When massaging the calf muscle area, be very gentle as this muscle can be quite sensitive to pressure on some people. Light to medium pressure works best.

To start, take your hand and lightly grasp her calf just below the knee fold area. Now run your hand down her calf until you reach her ankle, and then slide back up again. You can add a “kneading” motion as well to this as you travel up and down for an extra soothing feel.

Important Note! When working solely on her legs, place the cover over your partner’s buttocks. Not only will ensure her comfort, it will help to increase her anticipation for more sensual pleasure. With her buttocks covered once again, she will wonder when she will get to experience the delight of being completely exposed and having more intimate areas included in the massage.

With one hand now supporting her raised foot, take your free hand and run it up and down her calf a few times while applying a firm pressure. You can also add a light kneading motion to this as well for and extra soothing experience.

Erotic Massage: Leading Up To An Amazing Breast Massage

Gabrielle Moore — Sun, 04 Dec 2011 23:00:43 +0000

Erotic massage sets the stage for incredible sex. Don’t forget to rub your girl’s breasts when giving an erotic massage! Here’s how to do it.

Start With The Arms

With your lovers arms extended in front of her, lightly run your hands down her arms all the way to her fingertips. When you reach her hands, give a light squeeze of affection to let her know that you care. To her, it will create a similar and safe sensation like that of holding hands. You can even play with her fingers and hands a bit by caressing them gently. With a light grasp, and using your thumb, gently rub the palms of her hands, all the way down to her fingertips. This can induce an incredibly relaxing sensation, as we use our hands in just about everything we do in life, so massaging your partner’s hands can give her a considerable amount of pleasure. After a brief hand massage, run your hands back up her arms until you get to the sides of her upper torso.

Using your fingertips, lightly stroke the sides of her upper body and the soft delicate skin around the sides of her breasts, lightly grazing and teasing these areas.

Important Note!

Although the sides of the breasts can be very sensually arousing for women, they can also be a potential source of pain if too much pressure is applied to the area. This is especially true a few days before menstruation. So be sure not to apply pressure to the sides of the breasts. Simply stroke the tips of your fingers along the sides of them in a teasing fashion.

Continuing On The Upper Torso

Next, while using a bit more firm pressure, you can use a “pulling” movement with your hands (again using your fingertips) starting from the lower part of her sides (nearest to the surface she is laying on) and moving upwards (vertically) towards her back. Continue this movement all the way across (horizontally) the side of her body back and forth a few times. Repeat on the opposite side of her body as well. Just be sure not to push your fingers into the delicate tissue along the sides of her breasts when performing this particular maneuver.

Another nice move you can perform is to take the flat of your palms and run up them up the sides of her upper torso starting around her hips and then continuing up to the point just below her armpits, and then back down again (this will be done in a horizontal fashion). Perform this maneuver a few times up and down in a smooth and soft motion.

For an added relaxing and sensual effect, as you are coming down her sides from top to bottom, begin moving your hands slightly under the front-side of her body so that your hands are now in between her skin and the surface she is laying on (your hands will now be facing upward). Essentially what you are doing here is “wedging” your hand under the weight of her body. The sensation to her as you move around under her like this is very pleasant and gives a great sensual effect, plus it will relax and soothe her muscles in a very pleasant way.

Also, when doing this move, a natural continuing stroke while you still have your hand “wedged” underneath the top half of her body would be to follow down along her sides under her hips, and then down under her upper legs all the way to her feet. This particular maneuver will begin to prime your lover for the more sensual stage of the massage.

The Blissful Face-Down Belly Wave

This move is another one you can use while your partner is laying face down. It’s similar in nature to the one above where you “wedge” your hands in between her skin and the surface she is lying on, but this time what you will want to do is insert your flattened hands (palms facing upward) underneath her entire belly area as shown in the picture below.

Starting from one side of her body, begin slowly sliding your hands under her belly all the way to the opposite side of her torso from the direction you are facing her. Now move your hands back and forth away from and towards yourself in a gentle, rhythmic, and wave-like motion. Repeat this maneuver three or four times. For this move, it is especially important to use enough oil or lubricant on your hands to allow maximum glide and reduce friction—smooth is the rule!

What will happen as you continue this movement is that it will create a very pleasant and gentle rocking motion. The result will be a movement that soothes and relaxes your partner’s entire belly area and stomach muscles. It’s also very sexy to her for you to have your hands underneath her like this. The weight of her body pressing down upon hands, along with their movement over her stomach, produces a very sensual effect that she is sure to enjoy.

After finishing the belly-wave technique, continue massaging her upper and lower back, shoulders, neck and arms for as long as you and she desire. The main idea at this point is to soothe, relax, and de-stress your partner to the point where she feels completely relaxed and at ease with you. From here, you can now move in the direction of more sensual, sexual, and erotic destinations on her body.

Important Note!

Whenever transitioning from one location on the body to another, add more oil to the new area of skin you are going to be massaging. And again, remember to warm the oil by rubbing it between your hands a few times first before applying it to her body.

Erotic Massage: How To Give A Spine Tingling Foot Massage

Gabrielle Moore — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:00:56 +0000

Erotic massage doesn’t mean you automatically start with your lover’s no-no parts – you have to get a girl worked up to that first! Start with a killer foot rub.

A Foot Massage Can Be Just As Awesome As An Erotic Massage

If you’ve never experienced the delight of a foot massage, then you’ll need to ask for one from your partner one day. Of all the areas on a woman’s body where she likes to be touched, feet are definitely one of the most popular. Why do you think women spend so much money on pedicures? Yes, they like the way their toenails look all trimmed and polished, but the part they enjoy most is the foot massage that accompanies the pedicure.

So, your partner’s feet are a terrific area to focus on for a while during foreplay. It’s also a great place where you can get a bit “suggestive” with your fingers in ways that will trigger more intimate thoughts and sexual desire.

The foot is full of sensory receptive nerve endings, and learning how touch and rub those areas can send your lover into sensual heaven. In performing a foot massage, have your lover lie either face down or face up—either way works well.

For the purpose of this example, you will perform the massage with your partner lying face up, since she is already lying in this position.

How To Start The Erotic Massage – On Her Tootsies

Starting with her leg bent up slightly, cradle her foot in the palm of both of your hands. Next, using your thumbs, apply a light but firm pressure into the arch of her foot near her heel, then work your way down towards her toes as if your thumbs are “walking” their way down. Be sure to apply pressure onto one thumb and then release as you are beginning to apply pressure onto the opposite thumb.

An alternative option is to walk your way down her foot using pressure from both thumbs at the same time. Either way works fine, and once you try the two different techniques, you will figure out which one suits you best.

Another effective move is to place one of your thumbs in the arch of her foot and glide it all the way up from her toe pads until you reach her heel, all in one continuous stroke. You can start at one side of her foot, such as the right, and then with each upward stroke, move a bit more to the left or until you reach the opposite side of the foot that you started at. Remember to apply a firm pressure but not too hard. Communicate with your woman and see how much pressure she would prefer. This is a great way to find out what she likes.

More Squeal-Inducing Strokes

Now that you know how to use your thumbs on her arch, you can apply the same type of strokes onto the heel of her foot. The heel itself is usually pretty thick skinned and tough, so you’ll probably want to apply a bit more pressure with your thumbs. Using the same basic technique as you did on her arch, walk your thumbs across form side to side and up and down her heel, covering the entire area.

On her toe pads you can do the same as above but with a slightly lighter pressure. Walk your thumbs over her pads alternating with both thumbs and move up and down and from one side of her foot across to the other, stopping at each pad for a little individual attention.

An erotic massage is about providing your partner with pleasure. You should not expect anything from return from your partner. Your goal is to provide your partner with a pleasurable experience. When you do this, your partner will sense your ease and comfort, as well as your meaningful intentions. This will encourage her to relax and open herself to you during the erotic massage, so you can get to the good part – giving her an orgasm!

Erotic Massage: How To Give A Killer Butt Massage

Gabrielle Moore — Sat, 26 Nov 2011 17:00:33 +0000

Erotic massage relaxes your lover, getting them ready for sex. You don’t want to neglect the neck – here are the erotic massage techniques you want to use.

The first goal of the erotic massage is to relax your partner. Taking adequate time to apply the following relaxing and stress-reducing massage techniques will help melt away any apprehension your partner may have and encourage her to let go and to trust you. You will want to begin with your lover lying face down on the massage table with her backside exposed to you. Next, take the towel or fabric and gently drape it over her buttocks. This will help make her feel more comfortable about lying naked in front of you.

Next, apply about a teaspoon of warmed massage oil onto one hand and rub it briskly between both of your hands until the oil is warm. Once your hands are primed with oil, you are ready to begin the massage, starting your partner’s back.

Back Techniques

With the flat of your hands facing downward and using long, slow soothing strokes, apply a delicate pressure and move your hands back and forth and up and down the entire area of her back. If you feel too much friction on her skin during your rubbing motions, apply a bit more oil.

When stroking your partner, it’s good to use directional movements. Start at a particular spot on her back and end at another spot. An example of this would be to start at the base of her lower back just above her buttocks, then move up in a long slow stroke to her shoulders, and then down the sides of her arms all the way to her hands. Using both of your hands one on each side of her body simultaneously to do this gives a great effect, but you can as well do it using one hand. After finishing a stroke such as this, you can then repeat it in reverse by starting from her hands up to her shoulders and then back down to the base of her lower back. Or, start by following in reverse and then continue a transition to another area of her body.

Remember that any suggestions in this book are only to give you ideas on how to get started as a great giver of sensual touch massage. By getting a good idea of what to do through these practices, you will become more confident and be more capable of creating your own strokes and techniques. The main rule here is that whatever you try on her, if you notice that she is enjoying it, expand on those moves and techniques using your own intuition and guidance. In short, be creative! That’s the fun part of the exploring your partner through massage. The more you explore, the more you will learn and the more fun you and your partner will have.

Shoulders And Neck

The neck and shoulders are typically very stressful areas. Most people hold a majority of the tension in their neck and shoulder regions. Women especially carry their stress in these locations. So massaging these areas makes for a great opportunity to relax and soothe your partner with your masterful hands. Learn how to massage these areas well and she’ll be putty in your hands – this is what makes this area such a great place to start!

Standing or kneeling beside her on either side, start your stroke from the outside edges of her upper shoulders where her arms connect and move up towards her neck. You can use both hands simultaneously to do this or just one hand and shoulder side at a time. Continue this stroke a few times up to her neck and then back down again to the outer edges of her shoulders. Using the ends of your fingers and thumbs works well for this move versus the entire palm of your hand. Circular strokes are also effective.

If you want to apply a bit more pressure on her shoulder muscles, you can lightly grab (like a light pinch) and knead them between your thumb and fingers. This works well when using both hands together, with one hand on each side of her shoulders. And remember, if she expresses any kind of pain while you are doing this or any other massage techniques on her, back off the pressure or move to another location.

Remember to keep an eye on her facial expressions and body language, as well as any verbal moans or groans. Be sure to check win with her from time to time throughout the beginning phase of the massage so that you can get a better understanding of what feels good to her and what doesn’t.

Now on up into her neck. Again using the ends of your fingers flat against her neck, rub gently up the sides of her neck starting from bottom to top. The lower point of the neck muscle you are massaging here starts around the base of the shoulders, and the highest point is where the muscle connects with the back of her head. These muscles tend to hold quite a bit of tension and stress, so it’s important to spend some extra time in this area.

Another effective technique for massing the back of the neck is to lightly grasp the muscles between your thumb and fingers as shown in the picture below. With an in-and-out kneading motion (grasping and releasing), work your way up and down her neck. This technique will feel especially good to her as you can really work those muscles deeply to release the tightness and tension. The amount of pressure you use depends on what she personally likes. The best way to find out is to ask her how it is. Is it too much? Is it too little? Good communication is essential when giving massage.

As mentioned previously, women tend to contain a lot of their stress in their shoulders and neck, and the more relaxed you can get her by massaging these areas, the better off the rest of the massage will go due to her being able to relax and release her tension. If she expresses a lot of pleasure and relief by massaging these areas, by all means continue for a good amount of time before you move on. Ten to fifteen minutes should do well.

Erotic Massage: How To Give A Great Genital Massage

Gabrielle Moore — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 17:00:07 +0000

Erotic massage should eventually lead you down to the land in between your partner’s legs. Here’s how to make her squeal with erotic massage “down there.”

At this point, your lover should be ready for some direct stimulation of her vagina and clitoris. In fact, many women are so ripe at this stage of the massage that they achieve orgasm very easily and very quickly.

The Right Lube For Erotic Massage Down South

Important note! As mentioned, when working directly in the area of the vagina, be sure not to use oil. It’s okay if there is a little oil on the outside of her vagina from when you placed your hand on top of it just before this point. Just don’t use it as a lubricant on the inside of the vagina or within the vaginal folds. Instead, use a lubricant made just for sex, such as Sylk, Astroglide, or Glyde. K-Y jelly will work, but it tends to be thicker than the other lubricants mentioned and doesn’t glide as easily. Be sure to prepare ahead of time by having a damp towel nearby. Use this to remove oil from your hands before warming the lubricant between your fingers.

How To Get Started

You’ll want to be the focus on her intimate zone by gently stroking her pubic hair over the outer portions of her vagina. Be sure to use very soft and gentle motions. Next, gently stroke and tap her outer vaginal lips with your fingers, making sure to keep a consistent and regular rhythm.

To stimulate her clitoris, gently spread her legs apart and place your hand between her thighs in the form of a fist. Apply the knuckles of your first two fingers to the outer lips of her vagina and knead them around her clitoris, moving forward and backward as you massage. Make sure you’re not pinching her skin. You should be gently kneading. Working your way downward, massage the entire labia with a slightly firm but gentle pressure. Make your way toward her anus and then lift your knuckles and start from the top again. You can also use your first finger and thumb if it feels more comfortable.

Better known as the “bread and butter” or “two-finger” stoke, this technique is one of the easiest ways to give a woman pleasure. Place your thumb and index finger comfortably just under the hood of the clitoris (just inside the lips). Gently rotate your fingers around the top of her clitoris and then move your fingers in a downward direction.

Things To Keep In Mind

Be sure to massage and roll evenly, rubbing up and down on either side of the vagina, settling into an even rhythm. When she opens her legs wider, raises or pelvis, or pushes against your hand, that is your signal that she is ready for more direct stimulation of her clitoris.

When massaging the vagina and clitoral area, it’s helpful if you imagine the face of a clock, with the portion just above the hood of the clitoris being the 12 o’clock position and the lowest point near the vaginal opening being the 6 o’clock position. Pay attention to what she tells you feels good and make a mental note of the location in terms of the clock position (9 o’clock, 3 o’clock, etc.) for the next time around.

Circular Strokes

Now, take the tip of your finger and move it around her clitoris in a circular motion. Slowly move down the entire length of her vagina, alternating between bigger circles, stroking, and teasing caresses with your fingers. Next, move back to her clitoris and circle over it with the tips of your fingers. Be gentle when doing this, as every woman is different when it comes to clitoral stimulation. Some women don’t like it. So keep checking with her on what feels best using the clock as your guide. If she enjoys what you’re doing, attempt to “pull” the clitoris between your two fingers through the hood. Although it’s not possible to grip the clitoris itself, the sensation the pulling motion creates is fabulous!

Fingering And G-Spot Stimulation

Next, you’re going to apply a stroke that works both the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time. If done correctly, it will bring your lady to orgasm.

After ensuring her vagina is well lubricated, insert one or two fingers, curving them upward so that you’re working on the vaginal wall closest to her stomach. Hold your finger motionless for a few seconds so that she has time to relax and get comfortable, then being feeling for her G-spot.

The G-spot feels like a small, spongy lump. When a woman is aroused, the area will engorge with blood and become much more sensitive to the touch. After you’ve found her G-spot, move your finger in a “come here” motion, as if telling someone to come over to you with your finger. Don’t apply constant or hard pressure. All she needs is a gentle stroking motion to experience intense pleasure. You can also try a zig-zag motion from time to time so that your finger avoids focusing too much on the same area as it passes over the G-spot.

With your other hand, continue circling her clitoris with your thumb, finger, or the flat surface of a vibrator. When you sense she’s about to orgasm, move back and forth over the clitoris.

Don’t Overwork The Clitoris

An important thing to know about the clitoris is that it is very sensitive. Even when thoroughly lubricated, it is extremely sensitive. If your touch is too direct, too rough, or if you spend too much time stimulating the clitoris or even apply the stimulation too soon, it will become oversensitive. This will result in discomfort or pain, as well as a loss in sensation and inability to achieve an orgasm. So when it come to focusing exclusively on the clitoris, be sure to do so only when you know your lady is close to reaching climax. As soon as she does, back off from the clitoris until her sensitivity lessens.

6 Places To Never Overlook When Giving An Erotic Massage

Gabrielle Moore — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 15:22:50 +0000

Erotic massage can lead up to some great sex, but make sure you don’t miss any of THESE areas – or your erotic massage will flop before you ever have sex!

There are few things that feel better than a massage. It can be relaxing or invigorating, subtle or intimate, sensual or straightforward. Here are some unusual suggestions to share a massage with your partner that will prime her for the orgasm experience of her life.

As our skin is an organ, every little bit of it is covered in sensitive nerve endings and the same is true for your partner. Lest we not forget some of the more hidden away, less known or irregularly used areas begging to be touched, let’s discuss briefly where they are, and how to touch them to get your partner aroused and excited.

The Neck And Shoulders

There are few things better than a nice massage after a long day. Grab the massage oils and start rubbing her lightly, then increase your intensity as her muscles warm to your touch. Look for the cues that your partner is giving you, they’ll let you know if they want a harder or softer touch by the way they respond and move. Add some kisses up and down her spine, neck and shoulders, and you’ll add a romantic feel to the already relaxing benefits.

Ears

When kissing a woman’s neck and shoulders, throw in a little ear nibbling too. Gently lick inside the ear lobe but don’t go too crazy with your tongue. The key is finesse and a lightness of touch; you want her to shiver with pleasure, not recoil with wetness.

Hands And Fingers

A lot of people over look the hands and fingers but there are a lot of sensitive nerve endings in this part of the body. Massage each hand thoroughly with a bit of massage oil, taking special attention to rub each finger, as this feels very good. If you are feeling adventurous bring them up to your mouth and suck on each finger, or if she’s struggling to get in the mood, try massaging the soft flesh in between her index finger and thumb to magically melt away her headache or tension.

Feet

Massaging someone’s feet can be very intimate, depending on how you go about it. Maybe even grab a reflexology chart specifically made for lovers that you can attach to her feet such as the Sexy Love Sock – this way you know exactly where to rub to relax the corresponding body part. Just make sure to massage with enough pressure so that you don’t get her laughing and tensing up from being tickled.

Inside Of The Elbows/Back Of The Knees

These crooks aren’t touched very often, so why not give them a bit of attention too? Use the tips of your fingers to lightly scratch these areas, starting just before the bend and ending just after; it’s an easy way to give your partner goosebumps and in a way that few others will seek out and try.

The Face And Scalp

We’re not talking about the kinds of caresses that you give when you’re just about to kiss a woman. No, these are deeper strokes that relax a woman around her face and scalp. Try lying her down on her back, and putting your thumbs along the inner sides of her nose where it meets her eyebrows. Push lightly to see how much pressure she likes (it can hurt or throb at bit at first if she holds tension here) and then move your fingers just a hair out towards the edge of her eyebrows and repeat. Move along the entire eyebrow area in this manner. Some spots will be much more tender than others, so make sure she tells you how each one feels, and spend extra time anywhere it’s really sensitive.

Then, move behind her and fan your fingers over her hairline so that your thumbs are at the top of her head, your index fingers are almost together, and your pinkies are by her ears, then rub small, firm circles. Ever so slowly move your fingers as you rub towards the back of her head, and soon you’ll have a puddle of a woman at your feet. She’ll definitely be ready for sex after this!

Erotic Massage: Melt Her Tension With A Head And Face Rub

Gabrielle Moore — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 17:00:56 +0000

Erotic massage gets a woman relaxed and ready for sex – but before you head down south, start with an erotic massage for up north for complete relaxation..

Women love attention around their head and face. Massaging these areas can be a delightful experience to your partner. It’s also a great way for you to connect in a sweet and intimate way. With you being so close to her ears and face, this proposes a great opportunity to whisper something sexy to her and then follow up with a few tender, loving kisses to her face as well.

Touching and stroking her delicately and softly along her neck, sides of her face and shoulders are very stimulating areas of arousal. As well, stroking her hair and top of her head will give her a sense of comfort.

Erotic Massage On The Scalp

Run your fingers through her hair with your fingers spread, slowly and delicately slip them through her hair while applying a slight pressure downward to her scalp. As you do this, you can also move your fingers around in small circular motions onto her scalp. The sensation is one of the best you can create while giving her an erotic massage. It is rare to do this one without lots of very pleasurable moaning and groaning going on. Use your thumbs here as well as you will be able to apply a bit more pressure with them.

The neck muscles in the back of your partner’s head where they connect to her skull are also very good points to massage. They tend to be very major stress holding points and giving them a good rub will help her to relax and release any tension she has in that area. With your hand facing up, walk your fingers way down the back of her head until you feel where her neck muscles meet her head. Then, begin pulling your fingertips towards you in a “come here” motion while stroking these muscles up and down. The closer you massage to the connection points the better. You can even stop along the way and just hold pressure there for ten seconds or so and then continue on.

Erotic Massage On The Face

After massaging her scalp, lets move up to her face and temples. Located on the sides of her face directly behind her eyes and just over her cheekbones you will find her temples. Applying a very light pressure with your fingertips, make slow soft circular motions to these areas. Your movements should reach as far back as the fronts of her ears, up to her the sides of her forehead, and down to her cheekbones. Vary the sizes of your circles from the center outward from small to large and then back in again. This will ensure that every area of possible tension is addressed.

Now, taking the flat part of your downward turned and closed fingers, move up to her forehead. Starting from the center of her forehead with your fingertips from each hand touching each other, begin pulling them away from each other across the skin of her forehead until you reach down to just above her temples, then place your fingertips back together over her forehead again and repeat a few more times. Light pressure is the key here, especially on a woman’s face, as you don’t want to overstretch her skin or muscles.

From her forehead, move down to her cheeks. Again with the flat part of your closed fingertips, make slow soft circular motions over the skin and muscle. Do this a few times. The best direction is to start your motions inward towards her nose at the top of the cheek, and then outward towards the sides of her face at the bottom of the cheek.

Be sure to spend 5-10 minutes massaging your lover’s scalp and face. When done, you’ll want to move your attention to the rest of her front side—starting with her belly and then moving on to her breasts.

Erotic Massage: How To Take It To The Next Level

Gabrielle Moore — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 17:00:13 +0000

Erotic massage is an excellent prelude to sex, but here’s how to go from just erotic massage to something much, much more!

Whether it’s before or after your lover has experience an orgasm (or two), there will come a point when she will be very receptive to your penetrating her vagina with your hard penis—and believe me when I say, it will be very hard at this point!

She’ll Want To Engage In Sex

Although you can expect her to pull you into her and gyrate around until you experience the same orgasmic pleasure, keep in mind that this might not be all she’s willing to do. Being in a highly sexually aroused state, she may want to take you in her mouth or use the oil to give you the best handjob you’ve ever had.

How you get your pleasure at this point isn’t what’s important. What’s most important is that through the art of sensual and erotic massage, you were able to meet both the emotional and sexual needs of your partner and provide her with a highly intimate experience that will surely make her long for more of the same.

Don’t Focus Only On One Area – Involve All Her Erogenous Zones

When you continue on to lovemaking, keep in mind that while there are fairly obvious pleasure zones, women have other body parts that are very sensitive to caresses, strokes and kisses that can increase their desire for sex and intensify their orgasms. These areas vary from woman to woman, but it’s definitely worth paying attention to the ears, neck, back, arms and other less obvious places to see what she likes. When you find those magic spots, spend some extra time stimulating those areas both during and after your massage. Don’t just focus strictly on her vagina to keep her going. Pay attention to her entire body. This will help to intensify her desire for sex and provide a more intense love making session.

Be sure to spend adequate time playing with your lover’s breasts, as well. If you’re lady is a size DD, paying attention to her breasts probably isn’t a problem for you. But if your woman has small breasts, you might be like some men and bypass them on your way to what you might perceive as what matters most—her vagina. For most women, however, both big breasted and small, their breasts are highly erotic zones and a vital part when it comes to stimulating her sexually.

How To Play With Her Breasts

Explore her breasts by sucking, licking, stroking, nibbling, and gently squeezing them. Although the nipples and areola (the pinkish-brown circles around her nipples) are known to be sensitive, so are the undersides of her breasts just under the areola. Some women don’t feel a thing when their nipples are touched. But stroke or lick just under her areola and, zing, the nipples instantly harden. Be sure to use your fingers, tongue, lips, hand, and even the head of your hardened penis to explore and stimulate her breasts.

Some women enjoy having their nipples pinched, bitten or flicked. However, this depends on your lady’s personality, mood, where she is in her menstrual cycle, as well as how many glasses of wine she’s had! There might be times when just the pads of your fingertips feel to rough. Other times, she might beg you to bite her nipples harder and harder. There’s really no way to tell what she’s going to be up for from one day to the next, so be sure to ask her what feels good.

Erotic Massage: How To Please Your Girl Both Emotionally And Sexually

Gabrielle Moore — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 17:25:15 +0000

Erotic massage is like a session of extended foreplay. And what do women say they wish men would do more of? FOREPLAY! Open your girl up with erotic massage.

Erotic massage is a fabulous way to open doors in your relationship. Taking the time to explore your partner’s body can help you learn what makes your partner more relaxed, excited, turned on and so on. By incorporating erotic massage into your relationship, not only will you be able to use it as a way to meet your partner’s innate need for affection, you will also meet her need for foreplay.

What Women Need To Be Happy

But women need a lot more than just “good” sex to feel happy. For a woman, sex equates to emotional intimacy. If a woman does not feel emotionally connected with her partner, then she will not want to have sex with him. For example, many men can have an argument with their wives, yet still jump into the sack even with unresolved feelings. But women are much different. If a woman is upset with her man due to an argument or any other reason, the last thing she will want to do is have sex with him.

If you are nodding your head in agreement right now, then good for you! At least you recognize the difference between males and females in this respect. But how much you understand may be an entirely different story.

Giving Her A Lot Of Attention

Think about it. In the beginning of your relationship with your woman, you gave her A LOT of attention. She was all you could think about. All you wanted to do with your time. She was the only woman that captured your interest. You dated her, maybe even surprised her with flowers and small gifts for no reason. You commented quite frequently how hot she was and how much she turned you on. But as time went on, she became less of a focal point for you. You found yourself wanting to spend more time with your friends or at work. Maybe now you have a few drinks with your buddies on Fridays or get together on the weekends to watch football. Now you only buy your lady flowers and gifts on special occasions. You still find her incredibly attractive, but you don’t tell her anywhere near as much as you did early on in your relationship—maybe only when you are looking to have sex with her.

This is why sensual and erotic massage is so important. It can help move you out of this sort of rut with your partner and give you a way to show her just how important she is to you. Women need this reassurance from their mates. Without it, they can never be truly happy. By taking time out of your busy life to stop and totally devote yourself to your partner by giving her a sensuous massage, you will please her both emotionally and sexually in a way like never before.

It’s important to keep in mind that sexual desire in a woman begins with sexual arousal. One of the best ways to go about creating sexual arousal within your partner is to satisfy her need for affection and emotional intimacy.

Creating Sexual Arousal Through Erotic Massage

Erotic massage is great for creating sexual arousal in a woman. This is especially achieved through the sexual tension and anticipation it promotes. For women, the thrill and anticipation of sex is what makes the actual act of sex so much better. Through erotic massage, you can create sexual tension by engaging your woman both physically and mentally. The mental and emotional part of the massage is just as important as the physical part. You cannot achieve the ultimate state of sexual arousal or even orgasm if one of those two important components is missing.

Reconnect With Her

Reconnecting with your woman on an emotional level is one of the keys to sexually pleasing your woman. So don’t look at this part of the process of erotic massage as insignificant. It is actually the most significant part of all. It’s like the key that turns an engine on. Without it, you’re not going to go very far. Also keep in mind that women are not carbon copies. No two women are alike. This is why it’s important to find out exactly what your lover likes and doesn’t like as you perform the massage. You can’t use intuition or tricks to get the job done. You have to make a sincere effort and pay attention to your lover and her responses. Erotic massage is not about tricking your woman into sex. It’s about sexually arousing your lady so that she “wants” to have sex.

Erotic Massage: Creating A Soothing & Relaxing Environment

Gabrielle Moore — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 23:00:29 +0000

Erotic massage preps your girl for amazing orgasms – but she won’t be able to relax if the room you’re in isn’t right. Find out how to set up the perfect area.

Before you begin your erotic massage, it is very important that you prepare the room or location in which you will be performing the massage on your partner. Your ultimate goal will be to create a soothing and relaxing environment that encourages both romance and release of stress, anxiety, and inhibition.

The first and most important thing you will want to do when preparing for the massage is to schedule the massage during a time when you and your lady have will have a couple of hours of alone time together. You don’t even have to tell her what you’re up to. Just tell her you have a surprise for her a couple of days in advance, get your massage supplies ready, and be willing and able to perform when the time arrives.

Eliminate Interruptions

When performing a sensual and erotic massage, you will want to eliminate all possible interruptions. This includes things like turning both the phone and the answering machine off. The same goes for cell phones, pagers, and any other electronic devices that make noise or vibrate when some type of message is received.

Other possible distractions might include pets, like a cat or dog that may enter the room or whine, whimper, and scratch at the door. Watches that have alarms or beep to signal each hour can also pose as a distraction. And, of course, children!

It’s very important to keep in mind that when performing an erotic massage, your goal is to connect both physically and mentally with your partner. To achieve this, both you and your partner will need to be able to slip into a state of mind that requires intense focus and concentration. You will not want anything, not even the faintest beep of a watch or the sniffing of a dog’s nose under the door, breaking your concentration. So be sure to alleviate any interruptions that might keep you and your partner from having a relaxed and sensual environment.

Music & Sound

Nothing helps set the mood for a romance and peaceful environment like the sound of soft music. Music is also helpful in reducing background noises, such as children playing outside, cars driving by, and barking dogs.

When it comes to your choice of music, you will want to choose something that is slow and soft. The music should be relaxing. Music that has added sounds of a soothing stream of water or ocean waves in the background can also be very soothing. There are many musical tracks made just for erotic massage. Not only are these musical tracks soft and relaxing, some of them are very sensual and seductive, so it never hurts to look into them.

Lighting

Lighting is also very important when it comes to creating a soothing and romantic environment for erotic massage. And what’s the most popular source of light that’s directly linked to romance? That’s right—candles!

When preparing your massage environment, turn off all electrical lighting and fill the room with the light from several candles. The soft warm glow and flickering of candlelight sets a romantic and seductive space. It will also help you convey the message that you are giving a sweet and pleasurable massage with several seductive experiences to look forward to.

Be sure to test out the lighting beforehand to ensure you achieve adequate lighting. When using candles, be sure to place them in areas where they can safely burn. Avoid placing them too close to curtains or near anything that could easily ignite from the constant heat, such as paper and fabric.

Massage Table Or Bed

Because your partner will be lying down for up to an hour or more, you will want to ensure the table or bed you create for her is soft and comfortable.

Although a bed can be very cozy, it can be difficult to maneuver around due to its large size. Many beds are also not high enough. As a result, if you use the bed you sleep and have sex in to give your lady a massage, you could wind up having to hunch over most of the time, which can be very uncomfortable for your lower back. You might also have to get into the bed to perform the massage, which is not what you want to do, as it could create too much jostling around as you reposition yourself in an attempt to reach other areas of your partner’s body.

The ideal massage bed or table is one that elevates your partner to about the level of your waist and can be easily worked around while performing the massage. If you are like most people, you probably don’t have a massage table. However, you probably have a table, such as a dining table, from which you can create your own massage table. Again, be sure the massage table is warm and comfortable. You can test it out yourself first by lying down on it. If you find the surface is too hard, just add some more blankets—the thicker the better.

Massage Oil

Using oil during massage is very important. Not only will this help your hands to glide smoothly over your partner’s body, its scent, warmth, and sensation will add to the seductive nature of the massage itself. Picking the right type of oil is important.

Almond oil makes for a great massage oil. Although it’s a little higher in price than other oils, it’s worth every penny spent when using it for a home massage on your partner.
Sunflower, grape seed, safflower, sesame, peanut, coconut, and avocado oils make great massage oils. They can be easily found it most grocery stores.

To add to the sensuality of your massage oil, try adding a few drops of aromatherapy oil, such as chamomile or lavender.

Never use petroleum-based oils for massage (including baby oil). Although mineral oil is often touted as great oil for the body, many massage professionals don’t like the feel of it. It is also felt that plant-based oils are healthier for the body than mineral oils.

Be sure not to squirt the massage oil directly onto your partner. This is not romantic and you also risk the massage oil being too hot or cold if you don’t take the time to rub it in your hands first.

Last but not least, never apply the massage oils to your partner’s vagina. The breasts, of course, are fine, but avoid rubbing the massage around or inside the vagina. Before touching her vagina or inserting your fingers, you will want to wipe the oils from your hands. This means you will need to keep a warm, wet towel nearby for when the moment is right. Never wipe her with the towel, however, as this could kill the mood.

Genital Massage And Lube

If you need lubrication for the genitals during the massage, use a personal lubricant. Make sure you take time to keep it warm and out of sight prior to using it. An effective way to do this is to heat a damp hand towel in the microwave before the massage and then wrap the warm towel around the lubricant. You can then set it aside on a nearby table. When the time is right, you can use the damp towel to wipe the massage oil from your hands and replace it with the warm lubricant.

When it comes to using the massage oil, the key is to key it warm. The best way to do this is to heat the oil in a glass bowl or plastic squirt bottle in the microwave just prior to inviting your partner into the room for the massage. To keep the bowl or bottle of oil warm throughout the massage, wrap a warm towel around it that has been heated in the microwave or dryer.

How Erotic Massage Will TRIPLE Your Partner’s Sexual Desire!

Gabrielle Moore — Sun, 23 Oct 2011 17:00:14 +0000

Erotic massage can be exactly what your lover needs if your life has dwindled. Find out how erotic massage can make your girl want it again!

When She Doesn’t “Want It” Anymore

One of the most common complaints among men in long-term relationships is their female partner’s lack of sexual desire. And no matter how many different attempts they make to sexually are one of the most common complaints among men in long-term relationships is their female partner’s lack of sexual desire. And no matter how many different attempts they make to sexually arouse their partners, more often than not, they find themselves having to go to bed at night without sex, along with feelings of frustration and rejection.

What a lot of men don’t understand is that a woman’s desire for sex is directly linked to how she feels about her partner and her relationship. If her needs are being met by her partner and she feels happy and emotionally connected to her partner, she will be more receptive to sex.

Sexual desire is part of a man’s chemical makeup. That is not the case for women. A man is almost automatically wired to desire sex. A woman, however, has to have a reason to desire lovemaking. While a man can feel instant arousal by the sight of his female partner showering naked, it usually takes a lot more for a woman to feel aroused. And this is exactly where erotic massage comes into play!

How Erotic Massage Can Help

Erotic massage can be quite rejuvenating both physically and sexually for both partners. This is due to the massage having the ability to influence our brain chemistry through the stimulation of our endocrine glands. During this stimulation, our glands produce more serotonin, DHEA, testosterone, and oxytocin—chemicals responsible for inducing sexual desire.

For women, the effects of an erotic massage are like a natural aphrodisiac. In addition to the stimulation of hormones linked to sexual desire, the massage also increases blood circulation. As the hormones begin to flood into her enhanced blood stream, she becomes sexually aroused and her desire for sex increases. Erotic massage has also been proven to enhance orgasms in women. One scientific study conducted by the University of California San Francisco found that women given a 15-minute Swedish massage experienced increased levels of oxytocin—a hormone that is released during climax. So not only does her desire for sex increase, she’ll also be more likely to have an orgasm.

Erotic massage can also reduce anxiety about sexual performance in both men and women. Preliminary findings of a study at the Touch Research Institute showed that couples that massaged each other had lower levels of sexual performance anxiety. They also reported increased physical intimacy (Hernandez, 2000). With reduced anxiety and increased affection and intimacy, many couples’ sex lives are rejuvenated by introducing sensual and erotic massage into their relationships.ouse their partners, more often than not, they find themselves having to go to bed at night without sex, along with feelings of frustration and rejection.

The Best Erogenous Zones Below The Belt

Michael Webb — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 23:00:04 +0000

Erogenous zones underneath the navel don’t just include the clitoris – there’s a lot more! Check out these erogenous zones you probably didn’t know about.

You probably think this is going to be a guide to the clitoris. Well, you’re wrong. There are other erogenous zones below the belt you can touch her besides between her legs. I will break it down into regions for you so it’ll be easier to comprehend.

The Booty

I’m sure that you go for the booty-grab at every moment you can sneak on in. She leans in for a kiss – grab the booty. She gives you a hug – grab the booty. She’s doing dishes – grab the booty. When you’re in bed, there’s also the booty smack. Before you incorporate this move, be sure she’ll be down for it. I don’t mean you should stop while you’re railing her from behind and say, “Excuse me, miss, would you mind so much if I smacked that booty?” You should be comfortable enough with her to know in advance how she’s going to react.

Then there’s the more sensual approach to touching her booty, and that is the tickle. You can use your fingers, a feather, or anything else lying around. Start with her back. Caress her so lightly that you hardly make contact with her skin. Move down toward her lower back. Hang out there for a while as her body relaxes. Trace the sides of her hips, and finally, right where the thigh and the buttocks meet. Move away, and come back every once and a while. It will send shivers through her whole body. Especially to the spot you want to stimulate.

The Knees

The knees are an often overlooked area when it comes to erogenous zones. You can give fluttery little kisses around the kneecaps, or tiny bites on the sides of the knee. The real pleasure center here, though, is the back of the knees. Now, most women are quite ticklish on the backs of their knees, but if she’s relaxed, it can give exciting sensations similar to when you tickle under her buttocks. Make sure you use only the lightest of touch, but caressing her behind her knees will give her a thrill even she’s not expecting!

The Feet

Never underestimate the power of the foot massage. It’s become a bit of a cliché, but its effectiveness has stood the test of time. Women typically wear all kinds of crazy shoes. If you give even five minutes of a good foot rub, it will ease the tension of the day. Use slow movements to make it a more erotic massage, and add some lotion to your palms to help glide along the foot. She will be so grateful, she’ll want to come up with some way special to thank you!

Build Your Relationship With Erotic Massage

Gabrielle Moore — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 17:00:59 +0000

Love and relationships are not anywhere near like the stories depicted in the movies and romance novels. Although they’d have you believe that expressing love is simple and hassle free, if you’ve ever been in a long-term relationship, then you probably know just what it feels like to be with someone yet still feeling alone.

It’s not very often that the movie producers, script writers, and authors explore the loveless side of a relationship. When it comes to battlefields, the bedroom is a common source of tension, suspicions, cunning strategies, defensiveness, anger, submission, and control.

What Happens When Your Relationship Gets Boring

When a relationship becomes complacent, it’s usually because one or both partner’s needs are not being met. For men, that vital need is sex. For women, it’s affection. By vital, I mean that most men and women cannot live a happy and fulfilled life if their most important needs are not met. Many times when a man is not happy with his relationship, it’s because his partner is not providing him with enough quality sex. When a woman is unhappy, however, it is quite often because her ultimate need for affection is not getting met.

No matter how it starts, when one partner’s needs goes unmet, a vicious cycle often begins. For example, if a man fails to provide his female partner with the affection she needs, she will feel neglected and withdraw from him, often turning down his sexual advancements. In turn, the man feels rejected, negative feelings develop, and he holds back his affection towards her.

This cycle is very common between couples, especially those who are married or who have been living together for many years. But the good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way.

How Erotic Massage Can Help

Sensual and erotic massage can give you the tools you need to break the cycle and meet your lady’s need for affection. Through the act of touching your partner, you can heal both your partner and your relationship. In doing so, you will be able to better connect with your partner and strengthen the bond between the two of you.

Not only does erotic massage help relax your partner’s body from the daily stresses of her life (therefore associating you with the dissolution of her negative feelings), it also brings about positive feelings of well being and sexual arousal. When you replace her negative feelings with feelings of sexual arousal, she will become intensely attached to you both physically and sexually. This, in turn, will help her to have better, stronger and faster orgasms.

Yου can use erotic massage and the power of touch to give your partner your loving admiration, love, and support. Wһеn you give your partner the gift of touch, she will have no choice but to let down her walls and open herself to you. Just one session of consciously touching your partner can dissolve years of misunderstandings and neglect, and release feelings of long, companionship, trust, and intimacy.

Love Takes Work

A loving relationship is much more than a few scenes of romantic conflict. It’s a work in progress that needs constant reinforcement and nourishment. Through the art of erotic massage, you can naturally reinforce and nourish the love and intimacy in your relationship and elevate it to an entirely new level—one that promises many happy tomorrows.

The Essence Of Erotic Massage

Gabrielle Moore — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 17:00:23 +0000

Erotic massage can mean the difference between mediocre sex and mind blowing sex! Here’s what you need to know about erotic massage.

While a good back massage can be an enjoyable experience for many, those delightful feelings are nothing in comparison to the intense pleasure experienced physically and emotionally during an erotic massage—not just for the receiver, but the giver, as well.

What Massage Is All About

Massage is often used to relax tense muscles and relieve stress and tension. Although the sensual form can achieve these same results, this is not the ultimate goal. Erotic massage is both an experience of the body and mind. It’s as much about the way you touch your partner, as it is where and when you touch her. This is a slow and sensual process that entails a great deal of intimacy. With the receiver completely nude, the giver has not only their partner’s naked and vulnerable body in their hands, but their trust, as well.

Erotic massage is not just about sex. Instead, it’s about reconnecting with your partner through the power of touch, letting go of stress and inhibitions, meeting your partner’s need for affection, and discovering the true meaning of love and intimacy.

For a better understanding of the intimate nature of this type of rubdown, let’s take a look at some of its most important benefits:

It is the ultimate stress reliever. Not only will your partner feel relaxed, her stress will subside. At the end of the session, she will have a much better outlook about her life, you, and your relationship.
Like other forms of massage, erotic massage is therapeutic. It can help comfort physical pains and ailments, such as sore and knotted muscles, pinched nerves, aching joints, injuries, contracted illnesses, and disease.
Erotic massage is just that—erotic! Not only does it tease the senses, it shows your lover that the two of you are capable of sharing unbridled passion. It also heightens intimacy, which can ultimately lead to release of all inhibitions, titillating each partner into the act of lovemaking.
It can help couples let go of emotional conflict and encourage understanding and forgiveness.
Erotic massage is perfect for setting the mood for a romantic evening or a sexy adventure.
It can reduce anxiety about sexual performance and body image.

What Else Can It Do?

It can enhance sexual desire within both partners, even in women whose desire for sex seems to have burned out. Sensual and erotic massage is sometimes all that is needed to rekindle those flames of desire and keep the fire burning.

When allowed to blossom into lustful passion, erotic massage can bring about intense orgasms as your partner allows both her body and mind to unite with yours. Sensual massage is an expression of love and desire that never fails to provide your partner with the reassurance and comfort she needs.

Erotic massage can be used as another form of communication that is translated through touch, without any need for words.

3 Steps To Female Sexual Arousal

Gabrielle Moore — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 22:53:04 +0000

Sex tips will only get you so far – if you don’t get how a woman is sexually aroused (it’s a whole process) then you’re going to crash and burn!

The Process Of Arousal

There’s a process to arousal, no matter if it’s with a man or a woman. Each step builds upon another, and without the ones that come before it, the next cannot occur. There’s a defined start, middle and end, with each item holding its own along the continuum. Each of the anatomical bits have a part to play in the process as well; some are small, others large, and yet others pop up at different times for different reasons. There is an ebb and flow of sorts to the process, where one thing slowly grows in importance and another falls away.

Step One: Foreplay

In the first part of female sexual response, foreplay is the main event, which propels a woman’s brain and body towards arousal. Some markers of this step are:

Hormones start flooding a woman’s system as soon sex enters her brain. If the process continues, she becomes “emotionally stoned” by one specific hormone, oxytocin, as one author by the name of Theresa Crenshaw, M.D., suggests in her book “The Alchemy of Love and Lust.”
Blood flow moves to focus more on the pelvic region of a woman’s body, and her genitals start to fill with blood. Some women you’ll be able to see the difference by looking at her vulva, as it’ll become darker the more excited and closer to orgasm she gets.
The skin is also an organ of the human body, and as such, it becomes more sensitized during this process.
Any breast play during this phase increases the oxytocin floating around in the bloodstream.
Both the nipples and breasts swell during this stage of the arousal process.
As more blood pumps through the vulva, the Bartholin’s Glands create thick lubrication to prepare for stimulation of the clitoris.
The Clitoral Head peeks out from underneath its Clitoral Hood.

Step Two: Climax

During this stage, the body tenses up, breathing gets shallower and faster, blood pressure rises, and the heart beats more quickly than during stage one. Also:

The vaginal opening gets smaller while internally it gets both wider and longer up to two inches difference
The clitoris body gets longer and firm, similar to how a penis stiffens
The G-Spot fills with blood and can easily be felt along the wall of the vagina
The Clitoral Head hides again as the ligament that holds it in place firms up; both parts will remain like this until climax occurs
Another ligament positioned along the uterus and ending at the Labia Minora tightens, thus involving the entire uterus during the sexual stimulation process

As sexual arousal continues, a woman:

Blushes along her face and chest
Breathes deeply
Increases her heart rate to a staggeringly quick beat; and
Has her Labia Minora flush with even more blood, until the whole area becomes dark purple.

Then, when she orgasms, all of this built up tension blows up during climax, where rhythmic contractions overtake her and then lessen in severity and speed as she releases.

Every second or so, the vaginal walls contract along with the pelvic floor muscles, and as the vaginal walls contract, the uterus also contracts because even more oxytocin is pumped into that general area. Each contraction provides a wave of pleasure, with some women ejaculating a small amount of clear fluid.

Step Three – Release

After the orgasmic event, a woman comes full circle to her normal, non-aroused status quo. This is where men and women differ the most strikingly during the arousal process. For the most part, men will lose their erections shortly after climax, and will enter into a stage of what researchers call the “refractory period” where they require a bit of down time before starting the circle again.

Also, women’s bodies don’t normally process oxytocin as a sleep-inducer (men do) their bodies aren’t extremely sensitive after orgasm (except for the Clitoral Head), and they can easily start the arousal process again without any waiting period.

The major difference between the genders with this downtime is that it leads to differing needs. Men want to roll over and sleep after sex, whereas women either want to go on and have multiple orgasms, or want to connect and snuggle before sleeping. Many a magazine articles written on the subject suggests a variety of tools to reduce the stress associated with these biological mandates, but in essence, the answer is simple: roll over and cuddle your partner as you fall asleep, and everyone is happy. It’s not asking either partner to stop what is natural to them, while still giving each what they need.

So, there’s female sexual arousal explained in a short, relatively simple manner, with a bit of comparison thrown in so you understand how it differs from a man’s.

Sex Games That Women Love – Take Your Girl To Orgasmic Heights!

Lloyd Lester — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 17:00:40 +0000

Sex games can be an incredible way to spice up your sex life. Try these fun sex games and your partner will be all but ripping your clothes off!

It is natural for a relationship to grow dull at each passing years of being together. It is the responsibility of both the man and the woman to do something in order to liven up their sex life. It may be hard for couples to think of what they can do to keep the passions burning in their relationship. The answer to this is to play an adult sex game while inside the bedroom.

Below are three fun and exhilarating sex games that can guarantee you and your woman a more satisfying sexual union!

Be An Audience

One of the most exciting bedroom rituals is in watching your partner masturbate. Let’s face it – we all have skeletons in our closets. Deep inside, we all have a voyeuristic attitude where we find enjoyment in viewing a sexually stimulating act. And when seeing your partner pleasuring herself in front of you, you are also unleashing your wild persona.

Pick your favorite position in bed as she pleases herself with very sensual moves. After she is done, you may handle the rest of the job on her behalf. Then you will arrive at a point where you will no longer have those inhibitions and you’ll just be dominated by the euphoria of having those intimate moments.

You will not only be sexually gratified by what you are seeing but you will also know everything when it comes to your woman’s pleasure points. And when you know how you can give her the addictive ecstasy, you can do better in making her feel blissful the next time you get her to bed!

Enjoy A “Movie Night” Together

This entails watching an erotic film together during one of your intimate nights. Pick any suggestive videos, which both you and your woman would prefer. Be sure to pay close attention to the scenes in the media material because after viewing some of them, you should be ready to relive each moment. You can do the remakes of the scenes and let these run for 15 to 20 minutes. Like with the first idea, you will be able to learn about things that will keep your other half heated up!

Give An Erotic Massage

The kneading of fingers along each other’s body is a key factor in keeping the sexual bond stronger. The use of fragrant oil plus those heavy yet gentle caresses all over her body is what makes those sexual encounters more exciting.

Of course, there are proper ways to perform a sensuous body massage on her. For example:

Purchase hot oil and plastic sheets for the warm effect on her body. You can heat up the oil, which you will use later on her body.

To begin the massage, pour generous amounts of oil on your hand and rub it all over her body. Then give her a very soothing body massage, which will brighten up her mood. Once she is ready, you may proceed to touch her more private areas. But never forget that you are doing this as a way to give her comfort!

Using body massage is like hitting two birds with one stone. You are not only giving your partner the relief her body badly needs, you are also leading her to a more sexually-pleasurable experience that she will never forget!

Try out these three suggested sex games and you’ll be surprised at how electrifying these can be when mixed with your usual bedroom activities!

Massage Her Breasts THIS Way And She’ll Be Putty In Your Hands!

Gabrielle Moore — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 14:00:18 +0000

Breasts are lovely areas that we men like to look at, fondle, lick, and suck. They are also very arousing areas for women. With this combination of our adoration for them, and women’s desire to be touched there, she can really be turned on with the right timing and techniques.

Always Start Gently

Important note! Remember: the breasts can be very sensitive depending on the woman and the time of the month she is experiencing at the moment. The entire area of the breast is very delicate and sensitive, especially around the nipple. The key is to start with a light and gentle touch, and increase pressure if she prefers it. Pay attention to her body language – if she ever winces, then let up on the pressure and continue only with soft caresses and strokes.

An overview of the first technique will be a movement that starts from one location (the chest) and sweeps down the sides of her body, up over her stomach and back to her chest.

Cupping And Massaging The Breasts

Begin with your hands placed flat over her chest just slightly above her breasts. Then, you will want to pull each of your hands away from each other towards, and down to, the sides of her body. Now your hands will be flat against each side of her body just below her armpit area. From here, slide your hands all the way down her sides to just above her waist. Then, slide your hands up towards and on top of her stomach. Next, slide your hands up from her stomach back to her chest where they originally started. Repeat this move as many times as you and her enjoy it. You can as well reverse the move by circling both hands around in the opposite direction.

On the last round of the above movement as you are approaching her breasts, run your flattened hands directly over the tops of her breasts and up towards her shoulders, then run them back down over them again. Then on your way back up, stop your hands right on top of them and just hold them there for a few moments. Slowly, begin massaging both of them with both hands in a very light squeezing motion. Another good breast massage technique is to place a hand on each breast, moving your right hand in a clockwise direction and your left hand in a counter clockwise direction. Massage directly over them in circles for a few minutes.

Tease By Moving To Another Part Of Her Body And Then Going Back To Her Breasts

It’s good to give the breast direct attention, but like any other body part, take a moment here and there to break your foreplay routine and explore other areas close to, but not touching her breasts, such as her upper chest, upper arms and shoulders, stomach, and sides of her upper torso again. This will soothe, tease, and create sexual anticipation on her part. You can then come back and continue on her breasts for further stimulation.

Her Highly Excitable Nipples

Women’s nipples are highly sensitive areas that when touched and fondled just right will really get her juices flowing. Some women are even known to have orgasms directly from nipple stimulation. Just be sure to be aware of her personal sensitivity in these areas, going as far as checking in with her by asking what she likes and doesn’t like. Be sure to use a soft voice anytime you feel the need to talk to her, as it will help maintain the mood.

Using your thumb and index finger, gently and directly massage her nipples in a rotating motion moving clockwise and counterclockwise.

Next, place your hands flat over her nipples and roll around them using the palm of your hands. Now, taking your thumb and forefinger, gently pull up on her nipples to slightly elongate them. Switch around the above movements every so often and see which ones she likes and gets most excited over.

Now that you have a few basics, feel free to experiment and try your own movements and techniques. The idea here is to have fun and create pleasure for her. As a note of caution, if she isn’t that into it, move on and continue to explore other areas of her body.

How Erotic Massage Can Turn Up The HEAT In Your Sex Life!

Gabrielle Moore — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 17:00:47 +0000

Erotic massage can connect you with your partner in an intimate way that you’ve never experienced before. Here’s how to make your love life HOT again!

Complete & Total Connection

Imagine the pleasure you’d feel in being completely connected with your partner in terms of physical intimacy. This is what erotic massage can do for you! No matter what stage or condition your relationship is in, sensual massage can help take your relationship back to a reinvigorated state of excitement, as well as bring it to a whole other level. By touching your partner through the art of sensual massage, you can encourage your partner to bond and open up to you like never before.

The History Of Erotic Massage

Both royalty and commoners alike have practiced erotic massage for several centuries. It was practiced in many countries, including China, Egypt, and India, as well as in a variety of cultures around the world, such as by the Greeks, Egyptians, Celtics, and Aztec Indians. Over the years, it continued to develop into a respected form of art through which partners express both love and passion.

The Benefits Of Erotic Massage

The art of touch through sensual massage provides many benefits, not only for the recipient, but the practitioner as well—benefits that can greatly strengthen the bond between lovers. For men who complain of a lack of sexual desire in their female partners, sensual massage can bring about a great deal of positive change in their sexual relationships.

Sensual and erotic massage helps facilitate communication between couples through the simple act of spending quality time together in a caring and sensual manner. This helps to build greater trust and intimacy. Although the act of sex itself is a form of touch and intimacy, the problem is that it’s often over too quickly. For a man, sexual intercourse often results in focusing on his own performance and pleasure rather than his partner’s. As a result, the woman is often left dissatisfied.

One out of three woman is having difficulty achieving an orgasm. Even more women complain of feeling dissatisfied with sex. The reason for this is often due to men not taking the time to set the mood for their female partners. Instead, men have a tendency to move too quickly. As a result, for many women, sex becomes more of a chore than a pleasurable experience.

Women Aren’t Wired The Same

What many men don’t realize is that women are wired differently than men. While men are biologically programmed with an instinctive desire to have sex, women need to feel sexually aroused before they will want to have sex. Although it is easy for a man to get aroused by simply thinking about or seeing his female partner naked, a woman needs much more than that to feel sexually excited.

Some men who have learned this important lesson about women have tried turning to massage as a way to sexually stimulate their female partners. However, a lot of men have failed to achieve their desired results.

This is because many men don’t know how to give a massage. Instead of relaxing and sexually stimulating their partners, they wind up causing unintentional pain and discomfort, often times leaving their women with more stress than they had before the massage.

Improve Your Relationship

Incorporating sensual and erotic massage into your relationship is a great way to meet your partner’s innate need for physical touch. The blissful benefits of sensual touch can help relax, soothe, and even sexually stimulate your partner to the brink of pleasure.

By taking the time to learn how to perform these special massage techniques, you will know just how to go about providing a sensual massage that unlocks your partner’s desire for sex, unleashes her wild and playful side, and helps her achieve those mind-blowing orgasms she so desperately wants and needs!

Getting To Know Your Girl’s Erogenous Zones

Gabrielle Moore — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 23:00:34 +0000

Foreplay will make or break your lover’s orgasm. Learn your lover’s erogenous zones so you can work all the hot spots just the way she likes!

This may come as a shock to you but sex is really pretty boring IF you end up following a routine. So how do you avoid this? Don’t be afraid to use your imagination! That is why most people say that the brain – not the genitals – is the most important sex organ.

And when you use your imagination, it’s equally important to apply your ‘naughty thoughts’ on your woman’s erogenous zones. Erogenous zones are those unique places in her body that generate sexual arousal when stimulated. And so if you learn her erotic zones and apply your lustful imagination on them, you can make having sex with her a whole-body experience instead of just engaging in sex that’s limited to her genitals.

Erogenous zones are also important to use when you are giving her an erotic massage! So do you have any idea where your woman’s sweet sex spots are? Here’s a quick rundown of what they may likely be and what you can do to it during an erotic massage.

The Breasts

Ok, her breasts may not be a big erogenous zone secret for you but do you know how to handle them properly during a sexual massage? Most women find men too rough when it comes to fondling their breasts. And more so during sexual massage! So what do you do? First of all, remember that the goal of a sexual massage is to de-stress while heightening sexual desire. So the general rule is to handle her body with TLC.

When it comes to her breasts, this is what you should do during your sexual massage session: avoid putting your whole hand over her breast. Using your index fingers, lightly press on her nipples as you would press a sensitive buzzer. First use dry fingers, then lick your index fingers and push down again.

The fact that she does not feel anything except your index finger on her nipple will send shivers through her body! And because you’re not touching her anywhere else (avoid any other body contact), her body is still in total relaxation (while her mind is already advancing towards sex).

Now, after about 10 ‘finger presses,’ very lightly lick her nipple. Do not overdo this, just give her butterfly licks. After about 10 licks on each breast, stop and go to other hot zones.

The Armpit

Another erogenous zone is her armpit. Lick this during the massage and she will feel delirious and lustful! To make sure that this is not unpleasant for you, prepare a wet, hot towel before you start the sexual massage and use it to wipe her armpit before you start licking gently.

Do The “Dip”

From her upper torso, gently move towards sexually massaging her by doing “The Dip.” Put her arms above her head then position your arms under her shoulder (as if you were embracing her in bed). This position will ‘open’ her body to you. Breathe warmly against her collarbone, kiss the side of each breast and then position your tongue between her breasts.

From this position, lick her all the way down, passing her stomach, belly button, belly and then ending with a quick ‘dip’ in her vagina!

The Feet

This is the proper position when you start focusing on her feet: have her bend her knees and spread her legs a bit. This vulnerable position will already bring images of sex to her mind. You then kneel between her legs and lift one of her legs so that you can massage her foot. Put a lot of warm, massage oil on your hands and then slowly knead her feet. At the end of your massage, breathe against the sole of her feet. Your warm breath will both relax and sexually stimulate her.

Toes are often neglected erogenous zones! The proper way to sexually massage toes is this: clean off any oil on and between her toes with a soft, wet and warm towel. Hold her big toe, run your thumb against its sole (out a bit of pressure) and follow through with a quick like. Do this for each toe. The next step is to slowly and seductively suck each toe!

The Butt

Have your woman lie on her back. Put some warm oil on your hands and gently massage her ass, kneading lightly. After this, progress to kissing them and licking them. And then just when she’s so relaxed, comfortable or maybe even about to drift off, part her buttocks and lick her anus. This will send her a sexual charge like no other!

Proceed to licking her crack and when you notice that she’s getting too excited. Turn her over and let the love-making begin!

The fact that your bodies are both slick from the massage oil and glistening in the dark makes love-making even more exciting.

Erotic Massage – Why Women Love It (And Why You Need To Do It)

Gabrielle Moore — Tue, 27 Sep 2011 23:00:27 +0000

Erotic massage takes your sex life from lackluster to hot, heavy and passionate. If you’re not giving your partner erotic massage often, here’s why you should.

Erotic Massage Touches A Woman’s Emotions

Every great experience we have in life contains a powerful emotional association. And in contrast, every boring experience has very little. The powerful experiences are the ones you can easily remember because they contained so much “charge” when they were created and so as a result, they stuck in your head as permanent memories.

The same holds true with any great sensual, sexual, and erotic experience. The more we can feel the emotional energy of it, the greater the electrical current will be and the greater the sense of satisfaction we will get from it.

Women are powerhouses when it comes to expressing and feeling emotions—it’s no secret. Their ability to so easily express emotions also allows them to have mind blowing multiple orgasms that have them going out of body with delight. And this can all be achieved through erotic massage and its power of sensual touch.

She Wants A Strong – But Caring – Partner

Women want a man who can be a protector. A man who can keep them safe and out of harms way. It’s hardwired in them. She also wants a man who can protect her from herself – emotionally that is. When you are able to do this for her, she will feel more strongly to surrendering her heart, body and soul to you.

Women love, need, and crave intimacy and affection from their partners. The more they feel and sense it from you, the more sexually open they will become, and the more they will surrender their hearts, bodies, and souls to you. Taking the time to connect with your partner and meet her needs builds trust and safety; two very crucial things that women need to be able to say, “I can relax because I trust that my man is going to keep me safe and take care of me.” When a woman feels this way about her partner, she is free to let go of her inhibitions and explore new things with her lover.

Establishing An Emotional Connection Through Erotic Massage

Massage in itself is a great way of establishing emotional connection. It gets us focused on bodily sensations and at the same time gets us out of the busyness of our minds. Also, when we touch each other in a loving way, our bodies release powerful hormones that further encourage our desire for intimacy and physical touch. One such hormone is oxytocin.

This mysterious hormone is known as the hormone of love and bonding and is most popularly recognized as “the cuddle hormone.” It is directly related to the bonding that occurs between mother and infant during the early stages of life after childbirth. It’s also responsible for creating strong and deep connections between men and women during the early stages of their relationships.

As mentioned earlier, this same hormone is released during massage. So in giving a massage, the more meaningful your touch, the better the entire experience will be for both you and your lover. The key to giving your partner a sensual and erotic massage is to really feel the joy and pleasure you are giving to your lover while massaging her.

Get A Massage Yourself!

A great way to thoroughly understand this concept is to go out and get a relaxing massage yourself before you give one to your woman. This will get you in touch with your own feelings of pleasure, joy, and satisfaction from which you will more easily be able to relate to with your woman. Another benefit of getting a massage is that you can take notes on various moves, techniques, and strokes, as well as what feels the best to you. Doing so will help you to recreate the same pleasurable experiences with your lover.

Massage is an excellent way of establishing the bonds of trust and safety women look for in their relationships with men. Women tend to feel emotionally safe when a man is emotionally available, honest, trustworthy and authentic in his being. These are ways in which she wants her man to be with her and express his love.

It’s all up to you, now. So may you go forth and discover the many pleasures of erotic massage with that special someone in your life and restore the intimacy back into your relationship!

4 Ways To Drive Your Girl CRAZY!

Michael Webb — Tue, 27 Sep 2011 17:00:05 +0000

Foreplay can get your woman so turned on, she’s ready to orgasm at a single touch. Check out these four foreplay tips that will make your partner wild!

I’m sure you love to touch your woman. Scratch that, you love to grope your woman. She is so soft and malleable and has these amazing thing called breasts! If it were up to you, you would grab and squeeze her breasts all day long. Settle down, hoss, it’s not as cool for her when you man handle her soft tissues.

That’s not to say that she doesn’t like it when you touch her. In fact, she loves it when you touch her. She’s just wants it a bit gentler most of the time, not to mention more variety. Below are some ideas for how to touch her that are slightly classier than the breast grab.

Feather Light Touch

Touch her as lightly as possible. This is also referred to as tickling, but I don’t want to give the impression that you should actually tickle her. Slowly run your finger tips all over her body. Barely touch her as you stroke her, and it will have all her nerve endings standing on end. You’re not limited to just your finger tips, you can use your lips, or even the head of your penis, for some added intimacy.

Touch Her With Different Objects

Find household objects you can use to stroke her with. Feathers and silk are the obvious choice, but feel free to be creative. It’s less about what you use, than it is how you use it. It could be a cork from the bottle of wine you just opened, or a pen, or even a credit card. Playing with temperatures is fun too. Rub her down with an ice cube ala 9 ½ Weeks. Whatever it is you use, if you oh-so-gently run it over her body, it becomes an erotic tool.

Use Body Tracing

Body tracing is a good way to get to know your partner’s hot spots. With this it doesn’t matter what stroke her with or how much pressure you use. The only rule is that you never lose contact. If you are tracing her collar bones, and you want to move down to her knees, you get their by running whatever you’re using to touch her with down the length of her body. She will be completely attuned to your touch, and you’re bound to find ticklish spots you never knew about before.

Communication Is Essential

How ever you go about stimulating your partner through touch, communicating with her is key. Whether it’s paying attention to her body language or asking her outright, she is the only one who can let you know what she likes. Don’t be afraid to seek her guidance, the only consequence is pleasuring her!

How To Give An Erotic Massage In The Bathtub

Gabrielle Moore — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 01:29:09 +0000

An erotic massage will make a woman so relaxed, she’ll want to do anything with you! Here’s how to give her a great rub down in the tub.

One of the ways a woman gives herself a relaxing treat is by soaking in a long, hot bath so you can take this opportunity to really give her a treat by preparing a bath for her. Of course, with other ‘extra treats’ as only you can provide.

How to Prepare a ‘Proper’ Bath for Her

No guys, a bath is not just filling the tub with hot water and pouring some bubble bath solution in it. If you’re going to do this, do it good and create the right ambiance for her.

First, close the windows and blinds and submerge the whole bathroom in darkness. Next, light some candles. They can be scented or not depending on what type of aromatherapy or scented oil you used.

So for example, if you’re using vanilla oil on the oil diffuser, don’t use strawberry-scented candles as the heady, super sweet smells will most likely give you both a headache. Aim for one scent or like what’s mentioned above, use non-scented candles if you’re going to burn scented oils.

Also, don’t scrimp on the candles okay? The more, the merrier!

Next, put on some soothing music and make sure it’s not too loud or too soft. To test this, turn the music on and go into the bathroom and close the door a bit. Check if the music level is just right.

Next, make sure everything you need is within reach. It’s not good if you break the erotic massage all the time by running out of the bathroom! Plus, it’s not good for the overall warm temperature in the bathroom. Just put everything you need on a tray and set this on the toilet or on a small chair.

Don’t forget a few edible treats. A glass of wine or champagne and a platter of crackers and cheese are sexy and will make you both last long during the erotic massage.

Sexual Massage Moves In The Bath

For starters, let her soak in the bath for about 5 to 10 minutes just to loosen her tight muscles and wracked nerves. Don’t join her in the bath just yet.

Start sexually massaging her while you’re still outside the tub. Sit on the edge or pull up a chair and use a wooden massage roller and move this along her body.

You can also position yourself at the top edge of the tub so you can massage her head. Slip your hands under her shoulders and then draw them up and out. A variation of this step is to pull your hands along the underside of the head, with your fingers against the back of the neck.

Feel free to shampoo her hair too. The pressure of your hands on her scalp in combination with the soft suds of the shampoo will feel great. Besides, this is the beauty of an erotic massage in the bathroom, no cares for the all the water and soap that might spill on the floor.

Get In The Bathtub Too

Now, without breaking your massage strokes, climb into the bathtub and join her. Sit behind her with her back to yours (sort of like spoon to spoon). Start massaging her shoulders and work your way to her lower back. And now comes the best part – massaging her front.

Start by reaching over and cupping her breasts (gently!) You can use the soap suds or better yet, put more soap gel on your hands and start massaging her breasts as if you were trying to create a lot of lather!

Tease her by massaging her breasts, moving to her shoulders, going back to her breasts, going down and rubbing her stomach, back to hear breasts again. Each time, be a bit more daring and go lower and lower her front. For instance, just massage or ‘clean’ her belly button with your finger and then go back to her breasts before going down to her clitoris.

Here’s a naughty tip for you: unless your woman has gone Brazilian (i.e., has had all her pubic hair shaved off) you can try ‘shampooing’ her hair down there! Simply apply the same strokes you would as if you were washing her hair.

As a climax to this hot tub sexual massage, you may go ahead and insert your finger in her ‘sweet spot.’ Remember, this should be part of the sexual massage and should not be seen as the sexual act itself so be gentle while you finger her. The objective is not to make her orgasm but to simply ‘connect’ with that special place as well. Good luck!

Erotic Massage: How To Make It REALLY Special

Michael Webb — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 17:00:47 +0000

Erotic massage is one of the best ways to seduce a woman and get her turned on for sex. Here’s how you can give your lover an erotic massage that is incredible.

It’s no big secret that women like to be touched. They love the feeling of comfort it provides. Which is why, if you want to please a woman, you should never underestimate the power of the sensual massage. The strokes of your hand will both relax and entice her. By the end, she will have a clear mind and be focused completely on you – as long as you create an inviting ambiance. This is a step-by-step guide to help you understand the basics of sensual massage.

Set The Mood

If it is too cold or too bright, it will not be soothing to her. Dim the lights or light aromatherapy candles. For an extra soothing sensation, put on some soft music. I personally recommend some Al Green, but definitely choose music she likes. If you’re not sure, nature sounds or ambient noise CD’s are a good alternative. Make sure it’s nice and warm in the room, or she won’t want to get naked!

Lube Up

Not lube in the way you’re thinking. Apply a creamy lotion or oil to your palms before you start rubbing her down. It will allow your hands to glide across her skin more smoothly. Get something special that you only use for this purpose, and get it in a yummy flavor so you can lick it off of her later. The aroma of it will tingle her senses, heightening her experience as well.

Master Your Strokes

Don’t press too hard, you are her sexual partner, not her athletic trainer. You don’t need to beat out tight spots or loosen up joints; you want to relax the poor girl. Slow and steady strokes are key. Avoid loosing physical contact during the massage. It agitates the senses, which is counter productive to what you’re trying to accomplish.

Don’t Play Favorites

If you rub down one arm, you must rub down the other. Giving all of your attention to one part of the body makes her feel unbalanced and uneasy. Additionally, don’t do her right side and then her left. If you massage her right arm, do her left arm before moving on to her right leg and then her left. This applies not only to sensual massage, but to any intimate situation. If you suck on her left nipple, make sure you give attention to her right one. Conversely, if you spend time on her lower half, make sure you kiss her on her upper half to help balance it out.

9 Scorching Hot Sexual Massage Techniques

Gabrielle Moore — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 17:00:27 +0000

A sexual massage is just something I LOVE to receive from my partner. It always relaxes my body and my mind, and never fails to stir my center till I’m all wet and ready to have mind-blowing sex!

I’m sure you want your woman to feel this too so I’m going to give you some basic sexual massage moves you can do tonight. Ready?

Setting The Stage

In addition to ensuring that you have the right environment (i.e., a quiet room, a well-laid out bed or place on the floor, etc.) and equipment (e.g. scented candles, massage oils, lube, etc.), consider making use of fabric or items made of silk, satin and velvet as well. All these different textures can help bring about different reactions from her. If you don’t have them, don’t worry. Nothing can beat the best part of this sexual massage session: you.

Undressing

Firstly, ask your woman to undress (or better yet, undress her). Another tip here to ensure good hygiene is to give her a warm bath first. Either way, once she’s nude, have her lie face down on the area you prepared for the massage. While she has her back to you, undress as well.

Use Hot Breath

Make sure your body and hands are not cold and then lie on top of her (you facing the back of her head). Support your weight on your arms (don’t crush her!) This move does three things: it signals the start of the sexual massage by applying pressure on her whole body; it helps to warm her body and prepare it for the massage; and it starts to introduce sexual thoughts into her head because she can feel your penis between her thighs.

Now don’t get carried away here and start sex. Proceed with the sexual massage and you will be rewarded as the sexual tension builds up! Now, start to breath on her neck and her back. Your hot breath should stimulate her sensitive skin.

Use Your Fingertips

Now, pull yourself up and straddle her thighs (your penis resting between the backs of her legs), put some warm oil on your hands and start to massage her back with just your fingertips. Alternate your strokes. Apply hard, pressured ones with light touches.

Palm Circling

Progress from using your fingers to ‘palm circling’, which is basically massaging her back by applying the whole width of your hand. This is a firmer technique that helps her body really relax. As a general rule, never massage her on the bones. Place the palms of both your hands on her back and move them in circles, firmly outward and away from her spine.

Palm Gliding

Scoot yourself down her body. You buttocks should be by her feet now. Now reach to the top of her shoulders and start doing the palm circling massage – but this time, glide down to her ass and start massaging there too. After a few strokes, you can be naughtier with this one.

Reach to the top of her shoulders again but this time, keep your head low so that your face is right in front of her rear. (Like kneeling and bowing to someone.) You can do the palm circling again while breathing hot and heavy against her butt.

Combining Techniques

A slight – and naughtier variation – would be to give her analingus instead of breathing your hot breathe on it WHILE palm circling her back. (Hey, don’t forget the massage part even while you’re busy sexually arousing her.)

Thumbing

Go back to straddling her thighs, sitting up now, and use your thumbs to massage her lower back. You should make short, rapid, alternate strokes with each thumb, moving up and across her butt toward her waist. Continue up the right-hand side of her body all the way to the shoulders. Repeat this on the left side of her body and finish off by going back and concentrating again on her lower back (just above her butt).

A Little Naughty Anal Play

Now for the sexual part – continue to thumb massage her while your hands move slowly down her butt. Part her crack and start to thumb massage her anus. You can do this alone, or while you finger her vagina and play with her clitoris. She will try to squirm here but be firm! If she can take it, alternate between this massage and breathing your hot breath on her anus.

Repeat all these back massages as long as you want! Just remember to oil up often as the warm oil and the gliding effect of your skin on hers does a lot of sexual magic!

6 Ways To Set Monogamy On Fire

Kaylen Jackson — Tue, 10 May 2011 14:00:28 +0000

Sex gets boring when you’re monogamous – but does it have to? Should you resign yourself to lame sex just because you’re in an exclusive relationship with someone? Of course not. Part of the benefits of being in a steady relationship is being comfortable enough with someone to try new things and go a little bit outside your box. Here’s how you can heat up your sex life – tonight.

Take A Break

A lot of couples that are in a sex rut just keep trying to have great sex with each other, but it always ends up being mediocre no matter how hard they try. Instead, remember the quote “absence makes the heart grow fonder” and apply it to this situation. Plan to take a break from sex all together for a few weeks. This may seem like the exact opposite of what you want to do, but abstaining from sex for a little while will actually make it hotter when you do get back together.

Give A Foot Or Back Rub

No, not an erotic massage. This actually isn’t going to get you sex right away – but it will help your partner to become more open with their bodies and more receptive to your touch. Next time your partner has a hard day at work, grab a little massage oil and give them a great rubdown. Really get into it and do it well. Make it good, and show them that you truly do care for them. This act of complete selflessness and genuine interest in how they feel will help them open up to you sexually.

Pay Compliments

After being in a relationship for awhile, you tend to take your partner for granted. We all do it, but getting too comfortable contributes to a boring sex life. Next time your lover spends a lot of time getting ready, puts on a new outfit or does something out of the ordinary to look good, make sure you pay them a compliment. Let them know you still find them sexy and attractive. Take this a step further and compliment your partner for something completely ordinary. Guys will enjoy a compliment on their hard work or something they’ve fixed while women respond well to compliments on their ideas.

Touch Each Other

Couples who have been together for a significant amount of time find that they don’t touch each other as much. Not necessarily just in the bedroom, but in general. They may avoid brushing up against each other or simply keep their hands to themselves more often. Improve your sex life with your lover just by making an effort to touch them more every day. Hold hands in the car while you’re driving to work or take time for a prolonged hug when you get home. Don’t let a day go by where you don’t touch your partner several times a day, both casually and passionately.

Make Out

Remember when you used to kiss your lover just for the sake of kissing? In fact, you probably kissed for hours without ever thinking of what was going to happen next. Bring that back to life in your current relationship by having a good old fashioned make out session with your lover. Put on a great movie (but maybe something you’ve seen before so you aren’t tempted to get too engrossed in it) and start softly kissing your partner’s neck.

Move to their lips and make it clear that you want to make out. Don’t let things progress past making out or heavy petting. Then, go to bed without ever thinking of having sex or where the kissing will lead. It won’t be long before your lover can’t stand it anymore!

Do Something Taboo

Part of what makes sex boring in a monogamous relationship is that things stop being “taboo.” You start expecting things a certain way and know what’s going to happen next. Shake things up a bit by doing something with your partner that is “taboo” or slightly outside of your box. Instead of doing what you normally do in the bedroom, take it out on the couch or even outside to the yard or in the car. Bring in a new sex toy or try bondage for the first time.

When you’re with someone you completely trust and love, you have the benefit of being able to try new things without the fear of judgement. You can be open and honest about what you like and what you want to try – and the same goes for them. Take advantage of the opportunity and do something with them you’ve never done before!

5 Tips For Better Lovemaking

Michael Webb — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 23:00:07 +0000

Here are five really simple ways to make your lovemaking more hot, steamy and passionate - starting tonight!

Find Your Partner’s “Hidden” Zones

I call these “hidden” zones because many people don’t realize, or forget, that these areas of the body LOVE attention. While many of these zones are obvious, like the lips, breasts, inner thighs and genitals, there are also areas that, when stroked, caressed and kissed, can drive your partner wild and even intensify their orgasm.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms and hair are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner.

Set A Romantic Mood

People often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of your lovemaking is too “cliché.” Are they kidding?!? Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

Give Them A Sensual Massage

Why stop at setting the mood? Go one step further and give your partner an erotic massage that makes them feel relaxed and loved at the same time. Make it sexy, sensual, and pleasurable.

Massage them naked or build up the anticipation by having them slowly undress during the massage. Then kiss, caress and slowly transition “under the sheets” where a massage of another kind can take place. And no, you don’t need years of study to give a great massage. Just grab some candles and music, and bless your partner with an experience they’ll never forget.

Please Your Partner With More Oral Sex

Did you know that oral sex is a great way to strengthen your relationship? Think about it. It takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. Not to mention it’s great for men who want to relax without pressure to perform, and for women who can’t reach orgasm from only intercourse. In short, it’s an important part of foreplay. Here are some tips for both men and women.

LADIES: Women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straight away when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation.

GENTLEMAN: A mistake men often make is moving their tongue in a thrusting fashion, when stimulating the vagina and clitoris orally. Instead, they should lick it like an ice cream cone. Another great tip to keep things exciting is to write the alphabet around the clitoris with your tongue.

Constantly Explore And Try New Things

If I could only give you one piece of advice for better lovemaking, it would be this: become adventurous and creative.

Nothing is stopping you from red-hot passion except your level of creativity. Try new sex positions, do it somewhere new, or spice up your foreplay with a game. Let’s face it, the basic act of lovemaking, no matter how hard you try, is always kiss and thrust, but it’s HOW you do it and the way you make your partner feel that really counts.

By dedicating time to finding new things, you can turn ordinary lovemaking into extraordinary lovemaking. This is the sure-fire way to make sure your lovemaking stays passionate, pleasurable, and intimate for years to come.

3 Sex Games That Women Love

Lloyd Lester — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 23:00:50 +0000

Below are three fun and exhilarating sex games that can guarantee you and your woman a more satisfying sexual union!

Be An Audience

One of the most exciting sex games is watching your partner pleasure herself. Let’s face it – we all have skeletons in our closets. Deep inside, we all have a voyeuristic attitude where we find enjoyment in viewing a sexually stimulating act. And when seeing your partner pleasuring herself in front of you, you are also unleashing your wild persona.

Pick your favorite sex position in bed as she pleases herself with very sensual moves. After she is done, you may handle the rest of the job on her behalf. Then you will arrive at a point where you will no longer have those inhibitions and you’ll just be dominated by the euphoria of having those intimate moments.

Enjoy A Sexy “Movie” Night Together

Make a sex game out of watching a porn film together during one of your intimate nights. Pick any suggestive videos, which both you and your woman would prefer. Be sure to pay close attention to the scenes in the media material because after viewing some of them, you should be ready to relive each moment. You can do the remakes of the scenes and let these run for 15 to 20 minutes. Like with the first idea, you will be able to learn about things that will keep your other half heated up!

Offer Her A Sensuous Body Massage

Another fun sex game, or at least fun and sexy idea, is sensual massage. The kneading of fingers along each other’s body is a key factor in keeping the sexual bond stronger. The use of fragrant oil plus those heavy yet gentle caresses all over her body is what makes those sexual encounters more exciting.

Of course, there are proper ways to perform a sensuous body massage on her. For example:

Purchase hot oil and plastic sheets for the warm effect on her body. You can heat up the oil, which you will use later on her body.
To begin the massage, pour generous amounts of oil on your hand and rub it all over her body. Then give her a very soothing body massage, which will brighten up her mood. Once she is ready, you may proceed to touch her more private areas. But never forget that you are doing this as a way to give her comfort!

Try out these three suggested sex games and you’ll be surprised at how electrifying these can be when mixed with your usual bedroom activities!

Sex In The Shower: 5 Tips For Soapy Fun

Kaylen Jackson — Mon, 18 Oct 2010 23:00:31 +0000

Hopping in the shower for some soapy adult fun is a favorite of many couples and for good reason. Sex in the shower can be great fun and can give you and your partner opportunities to try new things (or things you’ve done before but haven’t tried in a while) and spice up your sex life. You can try new sex positions in the shower, or give your partner a wetter, wilder version of your signature blowjob. Here are some great tips for shower sex so you and your partner can have some sexy fun in the water!

Silicone Based Lube

Silicone based lube is probably the best sexual lubricant out there for sexy shower fun. Silicone based lube is much thicker than traditional water based lube and doesn’t rinse away as easily. If you try to use water based lubricant in the shower, you’ll find that it doesn’t last very long at all! Water based lube is designed to be easily rinsed away with water, so you’ll end up washing the lube off in the shower before you even start having sex. Silicone based lubricant will wash off with soap and water, so it’s great to get started with before you break out the suds. Just don’t use a whole lot of silicone based lube often, because it can be difficult to remove it all from the vaginal canal after sex since it doesn’t just rinse away.

Water Safe Sex Toys

The shower is a great place to introduce new sex toys. The slick environment will allow for greater ease of insertion of dildos or vibrators and the feeling of water running down your body will intensify the waves of pleasure created when using t0ys. This is especially helpful for couples who have never used a sex toy before. Glass sex toys are not recommended in the shower, because they’re slick to begin with and coupled with lube, you won’t be able to get a grip on it in the water. Instead, choose a waterproof vibrator or latex dildo to have fun with. If you have a detachable massaging showerhead though, it may be all the toy you and your partner need! Experiment with the different streams that the shower creates on your partner’s genitals and watch as your partner gets incredibly turned on! Using a showerhead during foreplay will help a girl that has trouble reaching orgasm get warmed up and may even give her a climax before you start having sex.

Soapy Massages

The shower is famous for being a great place to give your partner an sensual massage. Lather up your favorite great smelling soap and rub it all over your partner’s wet body. Have them do the same for you. Rub each other up and down with soap, or rub your bodies together as you kiss your partner deeply. You and your partner will both love the slippery feeling your bodies have against each other! Giving your partner a soapy massage will also help them relax and become exceptionally aroused, helping them to reach orgasm sooner and have a harder, more intense climax.

Blowjobs In The Shower

A lot of women truly enjoy giving their partners a blowjob in the shower because it becomes a much cleaner activity in the water. For example, a good soapy massage before the blowjob to get your partner’s penis erect will also help him to smell fresh and clean when you head south. Instead of trying to swallow the gobs of saliva your mouth produces as you’re giving him head, you can simply spit discreetly or let them drip out of your mouth to be washed away by the shower stream. Perhaps the best thing about giving a blowjob in the shower is that the environment is more conducive to her taking his semen in her mouth when he ejaculates. The ejaculate can be spit out quickly and she can rinse her mouth out immediately, which might make women who find swallowing semen distasteful reconsider if he really wants her to do it.

Hygiene

Of course, a shower before sex is the best way to get prepared for a romp in the sack, so why not make it a sexy shower and include it in your foreplay? Soaping each other up and down is not only extremely erotic for both partners, it also helps to remove sweat and odors that will dampen a hot mood pretty quickly. A guy that isn’t very interested in going down on his woman may be more inclined to give her oral sex if she’s just had a shower – and if he was a part of it!

3 Mistakes That Women Make On How To Give A Massage Handjob

Jessica Perez — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 22:00:59 +0000

Even if you consider you and your partner to have an amazing sex life, there will come a point when you as a woman will not be in the mood to go all the way with him. Or, it could be that you just don’t have the time – but what if you want to help him release some of the sexual tension that he is feeling?

This is where a massage handjob comes in, well, handy. For the most part, your goal should be to stroke him using both of your hands until he reaches a satisfying climax. But if this is your goal, why is it that there are still some women who commit blunders when trying to give their man some manual loving using their hands?

If you want to keep his fire stoked, make sure that you will steer clear of the top 4 mistakes that women make when learning how to give a massage handjob.

Mistake #1: Leading Him On Endlessly & Not Delivering The Goods

Remember that most men want handjobs to be quick and satisfying. As such, you should make sure that when you start stroking his penis, your goal is also to give him a quick and satisfying orgasm.

Sure, you can tease his body a bit first just to get him hard before you zero in on his penis – but the main event should not last forever – otherwise, he may end up wanting to be inside your mouth or to go all the way through penetrative sex.

Mistake #2: Not Being Firm Enough

When you’re pleasuring yourself, you do have a secret touch, stroke or rhythm that drives you over the edge, right? For men, the same thing applies. So if you want to give him a really good handjob, make sure that you know the exact pressure to apply to his penis.

The shaft shouldn’t be handled like it’s an expensive vase – rather, think of it as a beer bottle that you would be gripping firmly and solidly. Better yet, let him show you the type and tightness of a grip that he wants to be applied to his penis so that you can end things quickly, with a bang.

Mistake #3: Not Talking To Him While Doing It

Learning how to give him a massage handjob is as good a time as any to polish your dirty talking skills. Don’t bombard him with questions like “Are you about to come?”. Instead, tease him with images of what you would like to do with him later on when you have more time to engage in some real, hot and sweaty sex.

Steer clear of the top 3 mistakes that women make when giving men a massage handjob – and he’ll practically be your willing slave once you manage to send him over the edge with highly satisfying results.

Now that you already have an idea about the top mistakes that women make on how to give a massage handjob, visit our site to get a blow-by-blow account on how you can tease and stroke him towards one of the most satisfying orgasms of his life.

Hand Job Tips – A Few Tid Bits On How To Work Your Man’s “Bits”

Chick In Heels — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 00:36:07 +0000

Ask most men and they will admit that YES, they have experienced a bad hand job or a bad blow job and of course – everyone has likely had the odd lack-lustre sexual experience. I remember prior to having any sexual expertise under my belt, I referred to a friend who literally wrote me out her ‘tips’ on a piece of paper. Years and experiences later I know realize how valuable those pointers were. Since I believe in continuous learning, I figured I’d share my ‘style’ and perhaps it will contain some little tips for you to put on paper – or better yet, into practice!

Giving A Hand Job

Let us begin with the hand job. Simple as it may sound, being good at this technique means paying a LOT of attention to the reactions he gives you. Of course, every man is different and may like things done in certain ways. My input here carries the weight of having had some experience and some excellent feedback!!

First off, do NOT assume it’s a pull toy – the preferred motion is stroking ‘towards’ his body. From what I know most guys want to experience the same sort of movement from your hands or mouth as they would as if you were having intercourse. Of course there is the standard back and forth jerking that most people know. Now, learn to master that with JUST the right amount of grip (I say imagine holding a peeled banana – lightly enough so you don’t smush it at all but firm enough that you’ll have some banana residue on your hands afterwards).

Once that step has been established it’s time to add the ‘twist’. Imagine grasping your forearm and massaging in a twisting motion, this should be a good indication of the tension you are looking for. If your delivery of the twist contains too much grip it could cause your man to wince in pain instead of pleasure. So, if this is your first attempt at the twist then gradually work your grip – pay CLOSE attention to his response – when he looks to be in ecstasy – THAT’S your sweet spot – this is the grip you want – make a mental note.

Taking It To The Next Level

To take this step to the next level work the back and forth motion with a slight twist and you’ve got a move that will make men drool. Advanced hand jobbers can apply the second hand to this motion – starting in the middle of the shaft and working the hands in a twisting motion base to tip and back to the middle again..(imagine every so lightly wringing out a wet cloth, similar idea here). If he’s not in love, he will be lol! All of these moves are enhanced with the use of lube or saliva as well!

With all of these ‘moves’ I suggest starting slow and gradually building up speed – keep in mind this is not a race though, nor do most people desire these motions to be delivered with super speed. In other words, guys and girls tend to like a ramp up to speed when it comes to being digitally pleasured. Ask for feedback ‘is that good?’ ‘do you want it faster or slower?’ – knowing what your partner enjoys is vital!! Plus, say it in a sexy voice and that just adds to the allure.

What About Blow Jobs?

Regarding blow jobs, from what I’ve heard one of the biggest complaints that men have about receiving a bad blow job (sounds like an oxymoron but it does exist lol!) is that some women suck too hard. When giving a blow job use finesse, keep it wet and loose and ALWAYS bring in the tongue play. Never get into Hoover mode – save that for the hickeys alone! Always remember, soft and wet, take it in, continue to work your hands at the base creating continuous motion.

To drive him over the edge, work your tongue just under the tip, this is one of the most sensitive areas for men guaranteed to drive him wild! One of my signature moves is slow slippery circles of my tongue just under the tip. Most guys love the idea of a woman being able to take him into her mouth deeply. Relax your mouth and once in a while go as far down as you can. Whether you reach the baseline or not, the attempt will be greatly appreciated!! Another no-no would be the use of teeth when giving a blow job. It takes a skilled woman to know how to successfully and ‘ever-so-feather-lightly’ use her teeth when giving a blow job. If you do cross that line be on guard for any and every flinch!

Most guys also LOVE a good lick job. Incorporate this with your blow job skills and you’re away to the races! Lick his shaft and tip as if you were licking an ice cream cone. Up and down, all around the sides – he will be quivering with excitement!

Getting Into The “Nether” Regions

Anyone giving tips regarding how to give a good hand job or blow job would be remiss if they left out the added bonus of working your man’s testicles, or ‘boys’ as I like to call them.. Now, if there is one thing you need to know about the ‘boys’ it’s that they are extremely sensitive so whatever attention you give to them needs to be done with that in mind. A feather light touch goes a long way when it comes to the ‘boys’. I have yet to meet a guy who doesn’t love to have some attention paid to them though.

Be it a caress or a slippery lick, if it’s gentle, it’s good! I do however, have a move – that when executed correctly can be very intense for your fella. When giving a blow job or hand job I use my other hand to gently pull my thumb down the middle of the scrotum between the testicles and hold it there. This causes the skin on the shaft to pull down creating even more intensity at the tip while tightening up the skin around the ‘boys’ thus making them even more sensitized. A little side note here, if your guy ‘manscapes’ (a.k.a. shaves) his ‘boys’ then you know he likely desires you to venture down there for some extended play.

Hopefully this gives you some ideas on how to work your man. It’s a good place to start anyway.. never forget though, pay attention to the reactions you get, ask what they like and be attentive. Communication is key to the best sex life you can have!

How To Give A Terrific Breast Massage

Maya Silverman — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 17:00:04 +0000

The eternal fascination for most men, and indeed many women, the breasts, can be an incredibly neglected and forgotten area in the realm of Tantric pleasure and touch.

Think about it. If you’re a man reading this, how much time do you lavish on her breasts?

Do You Have Tunnel Vision With Women’s Breasts?

The ‘Tunnel Vision’ approach assumes that a woman’s breasts are always ripe and ready for a bit of manual molding. Nothing could be further from the truth. The breasts and its many parts are very sensitive, and only a lover with a slow hand can truly appreciate them in full majestic glory.

Structurally they are made up of fibrous connective tissue and a layer of fat tissue. They are rich in blood and lymph vessels, hence the importance of massage in maintaining good circulatory flow of blood, lymph (tissue fluid) and sexual energy.

Perhaps more importantly the breasts are symbolic of a woman’s emotional center, healing and nurturing. By neglecting these lovelies, you fail to acknowledge an incredibly important part of the feminine mystique.

The Kama Sutra On Foreplay And Breast Plat

The Kama Sutra refers to the importance of foreplay and breast play:

“Ardent young men, do not neglect the preliminaries! Endeavor to satisfy your mistress. Listen to her desires. Some men, carried away by the power of their desire, forget the prelude, only to be surprised when they are pushed away later! Yet it is such a delight to kiss, to caress, to nibble one another…

To explore with your hand or your mouth her body, her breasts, her neck, her belly, down to her innermost curves. Fulfilled, the beloved shall return these kisses and caresses wholeheartedly. No part of the beloved’s body should be neglected. Her lover shall make it his duty to discover them, to reveal to his mistress all the pleasure she can receive from them.”

Tantric breast massage is an incredible gift with which to lavish unbridled attention on your lover. Pleasure, better circulation, toning, and nurturing are all aspects of the massage.

The Kama Sutra mentions key areas on the female body sensitive to kissing:

neck
forehead
cheeks
eyes
breasts
lips
palate inside the mouth (not sure how this works!)

Prepare Your Sensual Environment

Prepare your sensual environment with soothing music, dimmed lighting, perfumed candles and make sure the room is warm and visually inviting. Introduce items of spiritual or personal significance such as flowers, favorite nibbles, a photo – whatever works for you and your lover.

Begin by covering your lover with a sheet or towel so that she does not get cold. Rest one hand on her heart and the other on her yoni and visualize warm heart energy moving from your heart into your hands and down towards your lover’s heart and yoni. This is a very relaxing, healing, connecting and balancing visualization to use before launching into the breast massage.

Beginning the Breast Massage

Pour the warmed oils into your hands. Rub your hands together so as to spread the oil, and now place your hands on each of the breasts. Always massage slowly and gently up towards the heart, your right hand moving in a clockwise direction, and your left hand moving in a counter clockwise direction.

Massage from the outer edge of the breast inwards, but avoid the nipples until after at least 15 – 20minutes of breast stimulation. Don’t forget the skin above the breast (check area under the collar bone, as well as the skin under the breasts – two very sensitive areas).

Focus Your Attention One Breast At A Time

Now focus your attention on one breast at a time.

Place on hand lightly on the upper half of the breast, applying gentle pressure with the other hand again moving the hand in circular sweeps from the outer breasts in toward the nipples. Continue for a further 20minutes or more.

End the breast massage as you began, placing one hand on her heart and the other on her yoni. Visualize healing heart energy entering your lover and breathe slowly and deeply together for a few minutes. Allow her to rest.

If you’re not in a relationship, or just welcome the opportunity to nurture yourself and body, why not take the time to give yourself a great tantric and sensual breast massage. Once again, don’t be tempted to cut corners, take the time to create a sensual and erotic environment, dress to kill, get out your favorite relaxing music, perfumed candles, lie back and enjoy!

Multiple Orgasms – Did You Know That It IS Possible For Men Too?

Carla Tara — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 13:15:36 +0000

Tantra is such a vast subject that it’s fascinating and awe-inspiring. It includes so much that it can be very confusing to the beginning student. Tantra is an art, a science, a way of life that is honest and courageous. It includes and faces squarely our sexual energy, this awesome force that some religions fear and want to suppress.

It can be used to help us reach our highest potential of pleasure, and union with the divine. To achieve this, it offers a series of exercises in breathing, tone vibrations, the use of certain muscles, and concentration on certain symbols representing the energy centers of the body.

One of the techniques it teaches allows men to have an orgasm without ejaculating, which makes it possible for him to come again and again.

How is This Possible?

Well, by using tantric principles, such as breathing, visualizing, and squeezing the love muscles to draw sexual energy from the sex organs up the spine to the back of the brain, a man can learn to ride the waves of orgasm and start coasting along the crest of those waves like a skilled surfer.

He can go down in the valley of the wave and enjoy playing more safely in a sweet and intensive romantic/spiritual space, absorbing the benefits resulting from the heightened pleasure he just achieved. He feels as if he’s buzzing with energy, more open and tender toward his partner and himself.

They can look into each other’s eyes, exchange gentle caresses, or simply breathe together to expand the state of bliss. All this can be done without the man losing the precious life-force contained in his semen.

Then the couple can proceed to make love actively, and reach several peaks in one love session. After having reached several peaks and experienced several body orgasms, the man can choose to have an ejaculatory orgasm if desired.

Controlling Ejaculation

How quickly a man can learn to control his ejaculation response depends on how much he practices, and the attitude he practices with. It’s almost a paradox: The more patient and loving you are with yourself, the less in a hurry to achieve quick results, the faster you’ll learn.

That’s because relaxation is the key, and you can’t be relaxed if you’re very goal-oriented. When you’re goal-oriented, you’re tense and usually judgmental. Ideas like, “I don’t know if I’ll ever learn this stuff…..Perhaps it’s not for me….I’m wasting my time….” or similar discouraging thoughts will retard the process of learning.

Be Positive and Loving

Start with self-pleasuring sessions as though you would pleasure the body of a god, or a person you love and admire. In such a case you wouldn’t care how long it takes that person to learn ejaculation control, or anything else. It helps if you set the mood by lighting a candle, burning your favorite incense, and perhaps having some of your favorite flowers or inspiring pictures in view.

The right kind of music can help set the right atmosphere for relaxation as well. Each time you pleasure yourself and feel an ejaculation approaching, try to become more consciously aware of all the signals your body is sending you. With practice, you’ll be better able to anticipate, and then regulate, your reaction.

Regulate Your Reaction

By the way, the more I work with clients concerned about ejaculation control, the more I realize that the word “control” is not really appropriate. It’s rather a redistribution of energy throughout the body. With breathing techniques and the use of your PC (pubo-coccyceal) muscles, you engage your imagination.

Visualize that you’re bringing the very hot energy that has collected around your genitals to the rest of your body, especially to your heart, mixed with a feeling of love for yourself. It’s almost as if you’re opening up a dam and letting the flow of water run along the river. Imagine that it’s a river of warm energy, love and light, spreading throughout your body.

Most men need to try more than one session before they can actually own the techniques that will extend their pleasure by postponing their ejaculation.

While reading about these techniques can point you in the right direction, it really helps when someone knowledgeable can guide you through the experience, and this is one of the areas where an experienced Tantric practitioner can aid you immensely in your practice.

What is Tantra and Tantric Sex?

Carla Tara — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:22:35 +0000

Tantra is such a vast subject that it’s fascinating and awe-inspiring. It includes so much that it can be very confusing to the beginning student.

Tantra is an art, a science, a way of life that is honest and courageous. It includes and faces squarely our sexual energy, this awesome force that some religions fear and want to suppress. It can be used to help us reach our highest potential of pleasure, and union with the divine.

What Tantra Is and Isn’t

However, Tantra is not a religion. Tantra does not require anyone to follow any dogmas. Rather, it encourages us to discover through our own experience our true creative potential for pleasure, and our ability to connect with all the elements that surround us, and the spirit that we all share.

To achieve this, it offers a series of exercises in breathing, tone vibrations, the use of certain muscles, and concentration on certain symbols representing the energy centers of the body. This helps us clear blocks interfering with the movement of energy, and guides us into altered states of consciousness.

There we can transcend our everyday self-identification, and we can get a glimpse of our true larger reality. This includes the body, and goes beyond to include “all that is.” It’s a state of great expansion and orgasmic pleasure that surpasses by far the short-lived ejaculatory orgasm that many are accustomed to.

Engaging in the Tantric Journey

There are many wonderful book on Tantra, and reading can open your mind up to Tantra, but in order to actually engage in the journey, I think the best way to start is with a good guide. Why do many people need a guide?

Some books can be confusing and no matter how well written they can never express the warmth and guidance of a real knowledgeable professional who can transmit her energy and knowledge to the seekers who are open to receive it.

Connect With and Clear Emotional Issues

If you want to prepare for a really high Tantric experience with each other, it is also essential to start by taking time to connect and catch up with emotional issues that might linger unexpressed. People often leave these issues unsaid because of some common rationalizations, such as “I don’t want to start a fight with her” or “he’s not ready to hear me.”

But when we leave these emotions hidden, they become a hindrance to the moving of erotic energy, and end up suppressing our passion for each other. Paying attention to each other and really listening to each other’s concerns is essential. Learning how to “make love grow” becomes especially imperative if you did not see good models for this process while growing up.

Making Love Tantrically

Over time, most of us fall into a sex routine that becomes boring and depleting instead of nurturing, and does not deserve the name of love making. Making love tantrically allows you to achieve high pleasure for the body, and great satisfaction for your emotions and spirit. It is deeply nourishing and bonding and always new, because it is taking place in each moment, as you respond to each other with honesty and support.

Making love this way becomes a priority in a relationship. Great lovemaking restores and/or adds harmony, peace and joy to everyone else you interact with too.

It is worth the time and the investment you make in learning how to achieve this hot and relaxing Tantric space, a door through which you can enter into a new, higher, more expanded you on your way to Enlightenment.

Spiritual Sex: Reuniting Body And Soul For A Whole Body Orgasm

Maya Silverman — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 11:39:16 +0000

In today’s stressful modern age, it seems as though the practice of sensuality has slowly become a lost art.

Just think about it: with our fast-paced culture and hectic schedules, it’s no wonder that we have very little time for things that require us to slow down and take our time especially when it comes to our sex lives!

Everyday Life Gets in the Way

After all, each one of us is guilty of this behavior. Perhaps you had a long day at the office, or you’ve got a big meeting to prepare for in the early morning. Either way, when you engage in lovemaking with your partner, your mind is somewhere else completely.

You’re focusing on that big report or review at the office, or maybe you’re forming a mental to-do list. Since you’re mind is entirely occupied by distracting thoughts, you can’t focus on lovemaking, and you deny yourself the pleasure that you need.

It’s not that difficult to see why we let the stress of our daily lives negatively affect our sexual energy.

Stress Affects Our Sex Lives

While the act of sex may not require that much thought, achieving an orgasm takes focus which can be hard to do if our minds are focused on our day at the office! Yet if you’re looking to reclaim your sexual pleasure from the stresses of modern life, and to achieve that elusive whole body orgasm that you’ve longed for, follow these rules to max out your soulful sack sessions!

When you want to get your partner revved up for a bedroom romp, chances are you probably focus less on touching and caressing and more on the actual act of sex. Yet if you’re looking to reunite your body and soul for a whole body orgasm that will have you seeing stars, you need to take a step back and focus more on the pleasure that comes with erotic touching.

Max Out Your Partner’s Bliss

Not only can you max out your partner’s bliss by taking the time to caress him or her, but you’ll be heightening the anticipation for lovemaking – a key ingredient for that whole body orgasm!

Erotic touching is an intense and soulful experience, so be sure to engage in intimate behavior: stare into your partner’s eyes while gently stroking him or her along the length of the body. Use erotic touching as a means to explore your partner like never before.

Sure, you may know every nook and cranny of your partner’s body, but how well do you really know it? By using erotic touching, you’ll experience your lover’s body in a new and more spiritual way that will intensify your relationship, both in and out of the bedroom.

Erotic Touching Melts the Tension

An additional bonus: erotic touching can melt the tension that builds up in our bodies from experiencing the daily stress of our modern lives. After all, touch plays an important role in melting away stress and tension.

Just think of all the times that a friendly hug or gentle kiss instantly made you feel more relaxed. Well, this especially applies to your sex life as well, as intimate touching can make you feel relaxed and stress-free. Once that tension is sapped, your mind will be free to focus on your lovemaking which eliminates those pesky roadblocks towards achieving orgasm!

Ideally, erotic touching will build up that first layer of sensation in your quest for the whole body orgasm. Spiritual sex is a multi-layered experience, where sensations are built upon one another until finally culminating in a powerful and soulful orgasm.

Treat Foreplay as the Main Act

So don’t just rush through erotic touching and jump straight into intercourse; instead, treat foreplay as the main act in which you build up a strong foundation towards reaching the brink of sexual nirvana. This is a focal point of tantric sex, in which lovemaking has no final destination, but instead is a spiritual journey which must be enjoyed.

If you approach your sack sessions with this view point, you’ll not only free up your mind from tension and stress; you’ll be more likely to achieve a powerful orgasm because you’re taking the pressure off of it. Sounds a bit backwards, but the less you focus on orgasming, the more likely you will!

The layering of sensations is critical towards intensifying relaxation, arousal and eventually orgasm.

Think of each sensation as a pleasurable journey with no destination in sight; therefore, when you finally are at the brink of pleasure, you’ll easily achieve that elusive whole body orgasm, and what greater stress relief is there than an intense orgasm with your lover that has you seeing stars?

Tantric Massage: How to Give Your Partner the Ultimate Sexual Experience

Maya Silverman — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 13:53:42 +0000

Do you want to give your lover the ultimate experience in sheer pleasure? I’m not just talking about “oh, that feels good” kind of pleasure, either.

I’m talking about the kind of soulful, intense pleasure that will have your partner reaching the brink of sexual nirvana and seeing stars for days!

Not sure if this is possible? Or if it is, you need to be some kind of expert lover to do it? Well, put your doubts to rest, because there’s a type of method out there that will intensify your relationship both in and out of the bedroom, and it’s easy to do!

That’s right. I’m talking about the tantric massage.

What is Tantric Massage?

The tantric massage may sound complicated, but it’s actually not all that hard to accomplish. The tantric massage was developed centuries ago in Asia as a vital ritual that served to balance out a person’s physical and emotional energy, which eventually lead to healing, tranquility and the kind of sack sessions that would make Casanova jealous.

There’s also an additional bonus: tantric massage can free your lover’s mind from the stress of daily life and melt away tension, thus increasing your partner’s chances of achieving a bed-shattering orgasm.

While the actual practice taught in the tantras (the ancient texts from where Tantra comes from) can take a very long time to perfect – in fact, several followers of the practice have been at it for decades – there are a few tricks and tips that you can easily use tonight in order to give the kind of tantric massage that will have your lover purring with pleasure.

Set the Mood

First, before you can begin your tantric massage journey, you have to set the proper mood. You don’t have to sprinkle rose petals over your bed, but a few changes to your normal bedroom atmosphere will work wonders.

Dim the lights, light a few candles and play music that’s tranquil and soothing (try to avoid any music that has a rhythmic beat). If you normally make love on ordinary cotton sheets, try swapping them for a set with a luxurious thread count, or for a more affordable option, use sheets made from jersey material, which feel silky and smooth against bare skin.

Your lover will definitely appreciate the time you took to set the mood!

Grab the Massage Oil

Once you’ve set up your bedroom to max out your lover’s tantric experience, grab some massage oil, have your partner remove his or her clothing and lay face-down on the bed (if you don’t want oil on your sheets, place a towel between your lover and the bed).

Pour a few drops of oil in the palm of your hands and rub them together in order to properly warm the oil After all, nothing can break a sensual mood more than a few drops of too-cold oil!

Begin the Massage Gently

Take your hands and slowly begin to massage your partner’s shoulders and back. Remember, the tantric massage is very different from a typical back-and-shoulder rub, so try not to focus on loosening up knotted muscles.

Instead, focus on the feeling of your lover’s skin as you glide your hands back and forth along their back. Work your way down to your lover’s buttocks and legs as you gently rub your hands in an up-and-down stroking motion. Remember to ask your partner if your touch is too soft or too hard!

After massaging the back of your lover, have them turn over onto their backs. Begin to gently massage your partner’s chest and stomach. Pay attention to sensitive areas, such as your partner’s breasts or nipples, but don’t overtly focus on them, as this could lead to lovemaking too quickly.

Massaging the Genital Area

When you reach your partner’s genitals, be sure to softly massage them as well, but again, at this point, be sure to focus more on the act of the tantric massage and not on pursuing an orgasm.

Enjoy!

Once you’ve completed your tantric massage, your partner will be both relaxed and aroused, which is an ideal physical and mental state for achieving the kind of spiritual orgasm that will make your relationship unbreakable.

Yet remember, don’t engage in tantric massage with the expectation that intercourse will always follow. Sex should be a pleasurable bonus, not a final destination.

Most importantly, have a fun and positive attitude while giving your partner a tantric massage. Devoting yourself to your lover’s pleasure is a beautiful experience, so don’t take yourself so seriously.

After all, if you’re too busy focusing on whether or not you’re doing it correctly, you’ll cheat yourself out of the opportunity to engage in one of the most pleasurable and spiritual rituals of Tantra!

Erotic Massage: How Erotic Touch Can Turn Up the Heat in Your Bedroom

Maya Silverman — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 14:36:11 +0000

It’s no secret that when it comes to turning up some serious heat in the bedroom, nothing is more effective, or pleasurable, than erotic touching.

After all, the right touch or caress can arouse both you and your partner for some exciting foreplay, bring you to the brink of nirvana over and over again and even rev you up for a second bed-shattering round.

It seems like there’s nothing that erotic touching can’t do for a healthy sexual relationship!

The Benefits of Erotic Touch

Yet the blissful benefits of erotic touch doesn’t have to be limited to your between-the-sheets playtime; in fact, erotic touch can do wonders for your relationship outside of the bedroom – and even boost your mental, physical and emotional health!

Here’s the latest scoop on how erotic touch can be used to boost your individual health and well-being and max out your pleasure!

Hardwired to be Touched

Humans are hardwired to be touched. Even during our modern age of hectic schedules and impossibly long work hours, there’s nothing more satisfying or soothing than the caress of a lover at the end of a busy day.

Even platonic touching can go a long way towards boosting our moods; remember all those times when a comforting hug or a reassuring pat from a friend made you feel a million times better than before? Well, there’s a biological reason for that response.

Long before humans developed language we relied on touch in order to communicate or express feelings of joy, sorrow, pain or love. Touching is an ingrained part of how we socialize with others. In fact, scientific studies have shown that the more healthy touching that an adolescent or child is exposed to, the more likely he or she will develop into a well-rounded adult.

Touching also plays a vital role in our emotional development as well and not just when we’re children. Studies have shown that adults who are regularly exposed to touch, say the comforting hug of a friend or the soothing caress of a lover, often report themselves as being happier and more content than those people who are touched less.

So it’s easy to see how touching can not only spice up your sex life, it can also emotionally heal you and your partner as well.

So if you’re wondering how you can incorporate more of the blissful benefits of sensual touch into your relationship, here’s the scoop on how to soothe and emotionally heal your partner though erotic massage and bring him or her to the brink of pleasure again and again!

Incorporate Sensual Touch Into Your Relationship

While we may all enjoy a good back and shoulder rub from time to time, erotic massage is in no way similar to the typical massage. Massages are often used to release tension and relax knotted muscles. While this may be a pleasurable bonus to erotic massage, this should not be the ultimate goal.

Erotic massage is a slow and sensual activity that involves a great deal of intimacy and nudity. If you’re usually uncomfortable with prolonged nude activity,perhaps you’re too self-conscious of your own body or what your lover thinks of your sack skills, then take the time to set the proper mood.

Set the Mood

Light a few candles, play some sensual music or even swap your normal bed sheets for something light and silky. If you really want to turn the heat up during the massage, use massage oils in rich sensual scents, like sandalwood or jasmine.

When beginning your erotic massage experience, remember to communicate with your partner at all times. Remember to stare into each other’s eyes as you exchange gentle kisses and soft caresses.

This connection will not only make your partner feel more aroused and heighten his or her sexual desire during the erotic massage, it will reassure your lover of the strength and importance of your emotional commitment. This reassurance plays a vital role in the overall emotional healing of your lover.

Performing the Erotic Massage

When performing the erotic massage, remember to keep your hands on your partner at all times. Use soft yet rhythmic strokes as you slowly vary between gentle and deep touches (remember to ask your partner the type of touch that he or she prefers). While performing the massage, lightly brush your partner’s body with your genitals and/or breasts, as this will prolong your partner’s desire by keeping them in a sexually aroused state.

Continue with the massage until you feel that your partner is ready to move on to intercourse. Remember, erotic massage doesn’t necessarily have to lead to sex, and it only should when your partner invites it.

After the Massage

After giving the erotic massage, take the time to hold your partner and communicate how much you truly care for them. This non-sexual touch is not only a tranquil way to wind down from the intense pleasure, it’s also a great way to max out the intimacy for as long as possible.

This is truly one of the greatest benefits of erotic massage: it’s not only a pathway to intense sexual pleasure, but it can improve the quality of both your relationship and your own emotional and mental well-being.

Make erotic massage an important bedroom ritual and feel the amazing benefits of sensual touching in your relationship!

Great Sex Begins With A Sensual Massage

Lee Jenkins — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 14:20:54 +0000

With today’s hectic and fast-paced world, it’s not a surprise that a lot of people don’t have great sex.

Everyone’s just too tired!

So how do you ensure that you and your partner are on your way to great sex without being discouraged by ‘all the work’ that lay ahead to ensure it? Indulge in a sexual massage.

A Sexual Massage Paves the Way for Great Sex

A sexual massage puts you and your partner in the perfect mood for a long night of great sex. Think about it. You’re not just jumping on each other, and subconsciously telling yourselves to ‘hurry up’ and get it over with.

A sexual massage actually tells your mind and body to RELAX; but because it’s a sexual massage, you can bet sexual tension will be there, making for a night of great sex after all!

Bathroom or bedroom?

Decide if you want to carry out the sexual massage while having a long, luxurious, warm soak in the tub or in your bedroom. Either way, just make sure you have the ambiance right.

In the bathroom, make sure candles are lighted and scent oils are burning.If you’re joining your partner in the tub, make sure everything is within your reach. And if you’re planning a long session, a bottle of wine and a few food items (cheese, crackers, etc.) are fine too.

If you’re having the sexual massage in the bedroom, then make sure you’ve cleaned the room and allotted a space for the massage. If you’re worried about staining your bed sheets, you can put another type of fabric over your bed. You can also just put thick blankets and throw a couple of pillows on the floor. Candles, music and scented oils should complete the look.

How To Give A Sexual Massage

Use your fingertips

Here’s a sexual massage technique using your fingertips: straddle your partner’s thighs. Rub warm massage oil on your hands and massage your partner’s back with long, soothing strokes. Don’t put your hand flat on his/her back. Just use your fingertips and ‘rake’ his/her back. Alternate your strokes. Apply hard pressure, and then light ones.

Use your palms

Without skipping a beat, massage his/her back using the whole width of your hand. This firmer technique helps the body relax. Remember to NOT massage ‘bony areas’. Place the palms of both your hands on his/her back and move them in circles, firmly outward and away from her spine.

Use your hot breath

Now it’s time to up the sexual tension in the room. Put some warm massage oil on your upper body. Put your arms on either side of your partner’s body (he/she should be lying face down) and then slowly lower yourself till your covering his/her body. Try to envelope his/her body as much as possible with yours. Now start to glide your body over his/hers… and if you get carried away now and proceed to having a long night of great sex, then so be it!

7 Tips For More Pleasurable and Passionate Lovemaking

Michael Webb — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 14:40:36 +0000

Need some ideas to make your lovemaking phenomenal?

These 7 tips should give you plenty of ideas to make your midnight sessions more hot, steamy and passionate, starting today…

1. Become more sensual

While most men want to ‘get the job done’ and reach the goal of orgasm, for women it’s more about the journey. Women love to reach climax as much as men do, but they also love a sensual stroke from your hand across their leg.

2. Try positions proven to increase pleasure

For women: The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary position except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

For men: Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because they have full control over movement and pleasure.

3. Play bedroom games

Tasteful, fun and alluring sex games are one of the best ways to intensify orgasms and the entire lovemaking experience. They’re fun, sexy and have a lot of replay value.

Maybe you’ll use a deck of cards or dice to create your own passionate play. Perhaps you’ll adapt a sport game for the bedroom. Or maybe you’ll just want to use your bodies as the props. It doesn’t matter. Simply get excited and unleash some creativity!

And even while some games only consist of familiar tips and moves, you’ll be using them in new scenarios, which actually makes them feel new.

4. Set a romantic mood

People often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of their lovemaking is too “cliché.” Are they kidding! Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

5. Give them a sexy massage

Why stop at setting the mood? Go one step further and give your partner a sensual massage that makes them feel relaxed and loved at the same time. Make it sexy, sensual, and pleasurable. Massage them naked or build up the anticipation by having them slowly undress during the massage. Then kiss, caress and slowly transition “under the sheets” where a massage of another kind can take place.

And no, you don’t need years of study to give a great massage. Just grab some candles and music, and bless your partner with an experience they’ll never forget….

6. Please your partner with more oral sex

Here are some tips for both men and women.

Ladies: Women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation.

Gentlemen: A mistake men often make is moving their tongue in a thrusting fashion, when stimulating the vagina and clitoris orally. Instead, they should lick it like an ice cream cone. Another great tip to keep things exciting is to write the alphabet around the clitoris with your tongue.

7. Use household items

It makes sense that to spice things up you need to do something different. The more unique the experience, the more it fires up your lovemaking. Well, just recently I’ve found one of the very BEST ways to keep things passionate and exciting. It’s by using household items.

Huh? That’s right! There are literally 100′s of household items you can play with in your house. Everything from a rolling pin for a massage, ice for a cool sensation, cards for a naughty game or sheepskin that feels soft under your skin.

By dedicating time to finding new items, you can turn ordinary lovemaking into extraordinary lovemaking for longer, and keep it that way. And while positions and techniques get old quickly, these items add a NEW LEVEL to your lovemaking that normal lovemaking just can’t do. This is the sure-fire way to make sure your lovemaking stays passionate, pleasurable, and intimate for years to come.

In fact, unlike all the other suggestions, using household items for foreplay and intercourse proves to be the most unique and powerful way to spice up lovemaking.

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