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Does You Really Need To Know If She’s Faking An Orgasm?

Paul Tony — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 15:09:42 +0000

I have had many people ask me if it really is possible to know when a woman is faking an orgasm. My answer to that question is yes, if you are extremely alert.

However, why spend so much time trying to find out if she’s faking an orgasm when you can rather spend that time learning different techniques in cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse.

More importantly, why not spend that time to learn what your woman’s sexual wants and needs are in the bedroom. By doing that, you won’t ever have to wonder if she is faking it or not.

Why Is She Faking Her Orgasm?

If your woman truly is faking an orgasm, it is because she does not want to hurt your feelings. So, the only way to make sure that she never does this again, is by allowing her to be open with you in the bedroom.

Take the initiative to be the first to open the communication channels between yourself and your partner. Make her feel totally relaxed and comfortable when she is with you. The way to do this is by showing her that you don’t take yourself too seriously.

For example, if you make a small yet embarrassing mistake during a lovemaking session, don’t just keep it quiet. Instead, acknowledge it in front of her, and then laugh it off.

By doing this, you will show your partner that if things don’t go the way they should when making love, you won’t get all upset and act like you have just lost your manhood.

Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

By not taking yourself too seriously, you will show your woman that you are open to criticism, and that if all still fails in the end, it doesn’t matter, because you are both just having fun. Once she has opened up, take the opportunity to ask her what really gets her going.

Let her know that you are open and ready to do whatever it takes to please her, and that you lay no judgment on her for showing you. Do it in a fun way so that it does not look like a science project, and never feel frustrated or anxious if you do not get it right the first time.

By applying this type of mindset, you will make it easier for your woman to be open with you. This will then allow her to openly tell you what her deepest and darkest desires are.

Think About What Faking An Orgasm Really Means

Faking an orgasm spells "miscommunication between two lovers". Both are afraid to open up to each other, because both feel the other might get upset or judge them incorrectly.

So really, if you read between the lines, you will realize that each partner has a common goal, and that goal is to please the other, even if it means not hurting the other’s feelings. Unfortunately, the outcome is disastrous, because both shoot themselves in the foot. Someone needs to break the ice, so why not take the lead and let it be you?

By spending your valuable time on being open, and learning to accept your other half for who they are, you will be paving the way for a much healthier, passionate sex life between the two of you.

So ask yourself seriously, what sounds more productive; Finding out if she is faking an orgasm in the hopes that one day you can catch her out and embarrass her, which in the end will make your woman close up even more in the hopes that you never catch her out again, or rather spending the time to learn how to prevent your woman from faking an orgasm by learning how to communicate openly and not take yourself so seriously, so that both parties can actually learn to enjoy a night of passionate sex.

You decide.

How To Tell If She Is Faking Her Orgasms! And What To Do If She Is…

W. Wilcox — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 18:42:32 +0000

It’s every sexually active man’s fear, that his partner or partners have or are faking their orgasms. So is there a way to tell if a girl’s only acting like she’s in pleasure heaven? And what can a guy do to turn her amateur dramatics into fully blown, sexual satisfaction?

The female orgasm has always been shrouded in mystery for men (and many women!). Unlike a guy’s guaranteed sexual pay-off, a female orgasm is never a certainty; for it to occur at all requires a whole host of special requirements to be met.

Things like the male’s sexual technique, the woman’s knowledge of how her body works and responds to different things, and the female’s mood at the time of sex all play a part in either preventing or allowing an orgasm to take place.

So let’s tackle the first issue: what signs should you look for to tell if a girl’s putting it on in the sack and not really reaching her ultimate climax?

1st Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

BLOOD FLOW SIGNALS. When a woman is sexually aroused, the blood flow to specific parts of her body change. These changes are most notable (and useful to us guys!) when a woman climaxes by reaching an orgasm. Here are the Blood Flow Signals you should watch out for:

A. Watch her cheeks as you have sex and take note of how red or blushed they are. When a girl climaxes, the blood flow to her face typically increases, you’ll often notice her cheeks suddenly become more pink and flushed.

B. Another part of the body that receives an increased flow of blood when a woman reaches orgasm is the nipples – again, try to watch out for how they change as you have sex and especially when she appears to be having an orgasm. If she IS truly cumming, her nipples may very well become harder and more “erect”.

C. Her chest is another GREAT place to notice the after-effects of an orgasm. A massive percentage of women, right after they climax, have a red flush on their chests that almost looks like a light rash. If your girl has this, it’s a strong sign she’s just achieved the magic “O.”

D. Lastly, her vagina’s lips (labia). Look for a slight swelling and reddening as another indication that she’s not play-acting her ultimate pleasure.

2nd Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

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He Knows I’m Faking It! What Should I Do?

Rose Rivera — Tue, 04 Dec 2007 17:27:04 +0000

Although we, as women, like to think of ourselves as Oscar winning actresses in the bedroom, the truth is we’re not!

And the number of sexually knowledgeable men out there is growing. They’re educated, well-read, and many have gained the amazing ability to spot our fake orgasmic performances every time.

(Un)fortunately for them, they’re usually good, caring men who pretend to believe our exaggerated moans in order to spare us the embarrassment of being caught in such a classic lie. The real problem then becomes how to tell us they know without hurting our feelings. Obviously this is an emotionally complicated conversation to bring up.

Just think about it. If he approaches the issue directly, you’ll probably react defensively and deny your pretended “O’s.“ If he approaches it indirectly, hoping you’ll confess, you’ll probably turn the conversation to something else rather than justify his obvious suspicions.

So if you believe your lover already knows you fake “it” and is not broaching the subject out of politeness, then the best thing you can do for your relationship is to make the first move toward clearing up the harmful unspoken questions he’s probably asking himself over and over again.

Questions such as, why are you faking it? Don’t you enjoy your sex together? Is there a physical problem he doesn’t know about? Have you ever had a real orgasm? What should he be doing differently to please you? Is the problem emotional? Should he be worried?

First, Understand Why You Do It

Sometimes women feel compelled to fake orgasms because it seems like the “right thing to do” in the moment without consciously understanding why. If you’re one of these women and you’re not exactly sure why you pretend to orgasm during sex, then this step should be an eye-opening part of the process.

Often the reasons are hidden in cultural expectations of what sex “should” be (ie – both people should orgasm at approximately the same time, sex is not fulfilling without an orgasm, if she doesn‘t orgasm it means she is not enjoying the sex, etc.), other times the reasons are more personal and related to the relationship dynamic itself.

Most Common Reasons Why Women Fake Orgasms

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How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms – The Female Orgasm Black Book Review

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 03:18:03 +0000

Oh Boy… We’re at it again. Covering sex and intimacy topics that seem to be considered hush-hush.

Do you believe your girlfriend or wife when she claims to have an orgasm?

How can you know for certain that she’s not faking?

Here are some surprising facts about female orgasm:

70% of women have NEVER had an orgasm with a man.
25% of men will get turned down by their own lovers over half the time. These men have women who think sex is a chore.
Nearly 50% of men have partners that will NEVER ask for sex (would you ask for something that doesn’t give you any pleasure?)
92% of women will FAKE ORGASMS just to “get it over with”. It’s obvious that what most men are doing simply isn’t working.

If you have never given your partner an orgasm, and you don’t know how…

Do you know how to give your woman a clitoral orgasm? How about a G Spot orgasm? And which type of orgasm should you give her first to really get her going?

Do you know exactly where the G Spot is and how to properly stimulate it?

It’s absolutely amazing how many women have never had an orgasm. Or how about the lucky ones that enjoy an orgasm once every year or two. Can you imagine the vast majority of men only having an orgasm once every few years? Right.

Get This. Our good friend, Lee Jenkins, has created the Female Orgasm Black Book for men and women, but it is especially valuable for caring boyfriends and husbands who want a no-nonsense, step-by-step plan for bringing explosive sexual pleasures to their partners.

You do want that, don’t you?

The “Black Book” explains the female orgasm, A-to-Z, with sex tips, checklists and examples of “orgasm routines” you can use to bring your partner to an orgasm (and yes, also multiple orgasms).

Here’s just a peak at the great information that Lee gives you in the Female Orgasm Black Book:

Why being a “pick up artist” doesn’t guarantee that you’ll be a “Stud” in bed!
How to re-ignite the white-hot passion of any long-term relationship!
The number one reason women can’t have orgasms…even if you’re using every trick in the book…and…what to do about it!
How to tell if she’s faking an orgasm on you and How to tell if she’s having a real orgasm!
A simple “shortcut” to knowing exactly how she likes to be touched! (This takes the guesswork out of foreplay)
How to create a setting in your home that will make her want to have sex!
The 10 best sex positions that will give her an orgasm
How to train your woman to be more orgasmic, and want sex more often!
The most common female orgasm problems…and what to do about it
18 hidden signs that reveal if a woman is really “turned on”…or…if she’s just faking it! (most men don’t have a clue about what “signals” a woman can’t stop sending out…which…always reveal the honest truth).
How to make heart-pounding intimacy last forever!

This book is easily one of the best and most comprehensive guides to the ever elusive female orgasm that we have found.

But, here’s a word of warning before you get the Female Orgasm Black Book… This guide will not make the woman in your life spontaneously orgasm. It may be an amazing resource that is actually easy to follow (yes, it has simple diagrams and step by step instructions), but you have to actually want to make this work. This means that you will first have download the Female Orgasm Black Book then then you will actually have to read it and do what Lee says!

So before you do anything else, decide that you will actually read this guide after you download it.

And don’t forget to check out the included 35 page Advanced Fingering Techniques (also complete with diagrams and simple step by step descriptions).

Caution. Once your woman experiences a night of orgasm after orgasm (read: basically what she’s been asking and waiting for), she will NOT want to go back to sex once every 3 to 6 months. If you’re just playing around, then this is not for you.

She’s going to want you to work this magic on her every chance you get. And you can be sure that after you give her 3 orgasms in a row, she’s going to want to reciprocate and give and give to you. A satisfied highly aroused woman can be very, very giving!

First, go to the Female Orgasm Black Book website today and sign up for the free Female Orgasms Exposed email newsletter.

And then download the Female Orgasm Black Book and find out for yourself how much better your sex life can be…