5 Reasons Why Women Fake Orgasms

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 12:21:03 +0000

We exist in a results-hungry world where our achievements are measured in terms of how we reached our goals. If we didn’t reach them, someone gets mad, someone gets blamed (you) and someone gets disappointed.

Achieving female orgasm is the same. Sometimes you meet women who can climax easily, and you may or may not attribute it to how well you made her. She could claim that she did it herself.

No matter who gets the credit, the important thing is that it happened. You both made it happen, one way or another (though, in your mind, you know that YOU made it happen. Enough said).

In a world where achievements and egos go hand in hand, how does a guy who can’t make his girlfriend reach orgasm feel?

Here are Some of the Reasons Why Women Fake:

So That You Won’t Feel Bad

There are some men who don’t care if a girl climaxes or not, but there are more men who do. A girl’s orgasm is an affirmation of how well these men perform and it becomes a ‘pride’ thing. There’s also that nagging doubt in a man’s mind that if he can’t satisfy her, she will leave.

A woman, being intuitive enough to know these things, will sense that her orgasm is sometimes more important to the guy than to her. So, she fakes.

So That She Won’t Feel Bad

With all the stories she hears from her friends about how good sex is, especially when a girl orgasms twice, thrice, four times, five times….ten times! Oh yesss yesss!!

She might feel compelled to tattle about how great sex is for her too, how she came TWELVE times with her boyfriend. But she didn’t and she knows it. Yet she makes you believe she did, and she tells you that she did. But, she didn’t.

Because It’s How It’s Supposed To End

Blame it on porn or on yourself, but answering “no” when you ask her “was it good for you too?” would be just wrong. You shared a great cuddle after sex, and the man she loves wears a smile on his face as he drifts off to sleep. He whispers her name as he feels her move away to pee.

So, who cares if she feels like there’s something missing from the whole sex thing? She’s in love, and her man is so happy with her. That’s enough, right?

She Doesn’t Want To Look Ugly

Believe it or not, there are women who fake because of vanity. She probably saw her face in the mirror while she was really cumming and she was horrified that she looked like someone in a bad Exorcist audition while she was having the big O. And, was that pig-like grunting she heard herself utter while she was having her orgasm?

No, it just won’t do. She fakes because she wants her man to see her as a diva while she cums, with a seductive smile on her lips and moaning so artfully. Besides, she knows how to make herself cum anyway. She can do it when you’re asleep.

She Just Feels Like Faking

There are women who feel sex is really overrated, and if she doesn’t climax this time, she won’t waste her energy and nap time stressing over it. She didn’t cum for real, but if it’s important to you, she fakes. No big deal.

In the end, faking an orgasm goes against the idea of being honest in a relationship. Yes, in the short term, a woman who fakes an orgasm avoids any pains of disappointment and awkward moments.

But in the end, it will be a lot tougher to experience a real orgasm, simply because the “problem” (not being able to reach orgasm through sex) is not being addressed.

Communication and education are the keys to unlocking the female orgasm.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

Is Your Woman Faking Her Orgasms?

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 21:09:19 +0000

Ever seen a porno film? Of course you have! And did you really think that all those ‘climaxes’ were for REAL? Of course not. Many of them were for REEL.

So how can YOU tell the difference if your woman starts to fake her orgasms with you too?

How to Spot a Fake Orgasm

Many men don’t want to admit it, but just because she ’screams’ doesn’t mean she’s reached her sexual climax. According to studies, 70% to 75% of women don’t reach an orgasm during sexual intercourse. This means if you’re woman has been shouting, kicking and screaming all the time, there’s a 70% to 75% chance she’ been faking an orgasm with you!

Here are some tips to tell if she is ‘faking it’.

She’s too loud

Is she too ‘loud’? Thanks to adult or x-rated movies, we now have this image that if a woman is ‘cumming’ she should be shouting from the top of her lungs (can’t contain the sexual pleasure you know).

Again, this is really just all for ’show’. Most women who DO experience orgasms say that they are actually not noisy at all. They would rather ‘feel’ the intenseness of cumming rather than to drown it with their own loud voices.

Body language

How is her body reacting? Your woman may be shouting till your neighbors hear her, but is her body displaying the same intense emotions? Her body is not THAT different from yours when YOU reach your climax. As such, her body should also be ‘contracting’ like yours.

For instance, her anus and vagina should be clenching or contracting when she reaches an orgasm. If you’re having sexual intercourse and she’s indicating that she’s cumming, check if you feel a certain ‘tightness’ around your penis.

Why? Because during a real orgasm, a woman’s vagina should be clenching strongly at around 1 contraction every 0.8 seconds. And ‘faking’ this pace is quite difficult to master.

Also, check her skin, is she flushed from all that release of sexual tension? If not, she may be faking it.

How about her eyes? Are her pupils a bit dilated and have that certain glassy sheen? If not and her face registers a ‘blank’, then she’ probably just faked an orgasm.

Do I really want to know?

You may be wondering why you would want to know if she’s faking her orgasms anyway, right? Well, let’s put it this way. Would YOU be interested in sex if you never reached an orgasm? Probably not! What does that spell for your relationship in the future?

So knowing if she’s faking it will enable you to take the necessary steps to make making love better for her. And as you know a sexually satisfied woman, can be verrrrry grateful in bed.

It’s a win-win situation!