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Best Blowjob Tips Of 2009

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:00:59 +0000

Men love getting a blowjob. It’s a fact – some men even enjoy blowjobs or getting head more than they enjoy sex! Many women know how to give great fellatio – but many still don’t! If you want to get your man wrapped around your little finger, the secret is giving him amazing head – but it’s not all about technique! In fact, many women make blowjob mistakes or fail to do the few crucial things that make getting head so great for a guy! If you want to give your guy the ultimate blowjob, check out our favorite blowjob articles of 2009 so you can get a “head” start on 2010!

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Blowjob Tip #2 – She’s In Charge, Here’s Why… (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 14:00:26 +0000

If you’re learning how to give a great blowjob, one of the best tips you can employ is being in charge and being confident of your abilities to give great head. Even if you’re new at it, being in charge can be pleasurable for both you and your partner. Here’s why!

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Why It’s Good For Him

Since most men take control during sex and even during a blowjob, logically, it doesn’t make sense that they would want to give up control, does it? But get this – most men take control during sex because they have no choice. Many women don’t know how to enjoy themselves during sex and end up lying there, making the man do all the work if he wants anything to happen. Guys are actually aching to give up control! What better way to get pleasure than to have a woman worship your penis and be completely devoted to giving you pleasure? It’s awesome! He loves it when you take control, let him lie back and enjoy the ride.

Why It’s Good For You

Taking charge when giving head is good for you because you get to do what you want to do. Don’t like a certain position? Try another one. Getting a jaw cramp? Switch to using your hand for a little while. Deep throating make you gag? Lick it like a lollipop instead. Of course you want to take his verbal and non-verbal feedback into account when using different techniques and do what he likes best, but you want to be comfortable and enjoy giving him head as much as he enjoys getting it.

Why You Need To Be Confident

It’s important to be confident – or at least appear that way – when you’re going down on your guy. Nothing ruins a great blowjob than a passive girl asking, “Am I doing this right?” or “Did I do something wrong?” Sure, you want to ask your man questions. But you want to use positive, confident phrases that assert your control, such as “Do you like this?” or “Does this feel good?” or even, “Tell me what feels good.” Your demeanor can actually make all the difference during fellatio. You want your man to relax and let go, feeling good about leaving you in the driver’s seat. Who wants to enjoy the ride with a driver who’s constantly worried they’ll wreck and asking you if they’re hitting the brakes right or accelerating properly?

A blowjob works much the same way – a guy just wants to know that you know what you’re doing (or at least perceive that you know what you’re doing) and get lost in the feeling of getting great head. So be confident and take charge! You’ll both like blowjobs a lot better if you do.

Think You Know How To Give A Great Blowjob? Take the Blowjob Quiz and find out!

Take just a minute to check out ‘Blow His Mind Tonight’: “What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!”

Blowjob Tip #1 – Why It’s a Gift, Not an Obligation (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 13:00:58 +0000

Men love to get blowjobs – in fact, many men prefer getting oral sex to vaginal intercourse and sometimes, it’s their favorite type of stimulation of all time. Naturally, women who want to please their partners want to find out the best blowjob tips and advice so they can be an oral sex master – here’s what you want to know on how to give the best blowjob!

Oral sex is one of the most intimate gifts we can give one another. When a woman gives a man oral or manual stimulation, you are giving him a very special gift. That means you’re in charge! Here are some tips to make the experience more pleasurable for both of you.

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The Greatest Sexual Gift

When a man gives a woman oral sex, he does what he thinks will make her feel good. When a woman gives a man oral sex, she let’s him take the reins and shows her how he likes it, even to the point of physically manipulating her to maximize his own pleasure. Not only can this be uncomfortable for a woman, it doesn’t allow her to give head as a “gift” to her partner. One of the great things about oral sex is that it’s one of the best sexual gifts you can give. Since oral sex provides the giving partner no physical stimulation whatsoever, the focus is totally on the receiving partner and their pleasure. So to give oral sex to someone means you’re focusing on their pleasure and their pleasure alone. When a man takes the reins when she’s giving him a blowjob, that takes away from the fact that she’s “giving” him a sexual gift, making her feel more used than treasured.

Women In The Driver’s Seat

If you’re going to go down on him, it’s time to sit in the driver’s seat. Let your partner know that you’re in control and that you’re giving him the gift of oral sex – so he just needs to sit back and enjoy it! Blindfold him and tie his hands behind his back if you have to (which can, of course, add to the fun) but it’s important that he doesn’t try to take control while you’re giving him oral sex. If he’s not the submissive type, it may be an adjustment, but in the long run, allowing you to enjoy giving him the gift of oral sex – instead of making it an obligation or making you feel used – will give him more pleasure. He’ll like watching you enjoy it and he’ll get blowjobs more often!

Listen To His Feedback

It’s essential that you listen to his verbal and non-verbal feedback when you’re giving your partner fellatio. While you get to pleasure him how you’d like, listening to what makes him feel good is important. For example, if he lets you know verbally what he likes, make sure you incorporate that into your blowjob routine. You can also listen to your partner’s non-verbal feedback. For example, if your partner is quiet or doesn’t seem to be getting into it, change what you’re doing. If your partner starts making noise and showing that he’s really enjoying what you’re doing, keep doing what you’re doing! Otherwise, your partner should lie back, relax and enjoy your oral sex gift!

Think You Know How To Give A Great Blowjob? Take the Blowjob Quiz and find out!

Take just a minute to check out ‘Blow His Mind Tonight’: “What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!”

Blowjob Tip: How To Make Her Want To Give You More Oral Sex (Video)

Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 14:00:36 +0000

Men want blowjobs – it’s a fact of life. Some women enjoy giving blowjobs, but others don’t. What if you’re a guy with a gal who you wish would give you more oral sex? Does she not do it enough? Does she not do it at all? Either way, you wish she would go down on you more. How do you get her to want to give you head?

Most guys just wish there girl would give them more oral sex – call it a blow job, giving head, or going down on him – fact is there are a lot of women out there who just don’t do it. Here are some things that you can do to actually help her enjoy the process so that she’ll want to do it more. Come on… You’ve just got to give a little to get a lot!

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Getting Her To Want It

That’s the key statement right there – getting her to want to give you a blowjob. There’s nothing that turns a woman off more than a man who wants to “make” her give him oral sex. Have you pressured your woman into giving you a blowjob? Have you tried to make her do something she doesn’t want to do? We bet you didn’t get very far, did you? The trick is to help her to want to give you oral sex. Pressuring her to do it, or complaining or whining about how you don’t get enough oral sex…well, that’s just not going to get you very far.

Lead By Example

The best way to get your partner to give you good oral sex is to give her good oral sex first! There’s nothing more giving than a satisfied woman, and if you give her the orgasm of her life by going down on her, it’s only natural that she’ll want to return the favor. Read a few female orgasm tips to help you get in the mood to give her oral sex, and try some of the new, fun techniques that she’s never experienced before. She’ll be putty in your hands before too long! After you’ve given her excellent oral sex, relax and let her take the bull by the horns.

Make Blowjobs For You Fun For Her Too

A woman won’t give a blowjob twice if it’s not good for her too. That doesn’t necessarily mean pleasuring her while she’s pleasuring you (although that’s not a bad idea sometimes), but it does mean that you have to make giving you a blowjob less like a chore and more like something fun for her to do to pleasure you. Make sure you’re clean – a sweaty, smelly penis is no fun to go down on. Trim if you’re hairy, or shave if you want to give her a real surprise. The best way to make a blowjob fun for her is to let her know how crazy she’s making you! Give lots of good feedback. Before she gives you a blowjob, make sure to tell her how excited you are that she’s going to do it, and how much it turns you on to think of her giving you head.

While she’s going down on you, give her plenty of verbal and non-verbal feedback, such as groaning, shifting your hips, grabbing her head (if she likes that) and really getting into it. Don’t fake it – she’ll be able to tell. Just let yourself go in a way that you might normally do. After the blowjob, make sure to tell her how good it was for you, how much you love her and how happy she made you. She’ll definitely want to do it again!

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Sex God Method’: “If You Want to Give Women Screaming Orgasms, This Video May Be The Most Important Video You’ll Ever Watch”

Blowjobs 101: What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… Blow His Mind Tonight Book Review

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 22:40:32 +0000

Most women know that men love blowjobs. And many women can adequately please their partners orally, more or less anyway. But can YOU truly blow your partner’s mind when you give him head and have him absolutely begging for more?

Here are some surprising facts about blowjobs:

Did you know that your tongue is a muscle just like every other muscle in your body and exercising it will make it stronger and more powerful?
Did you know the tongue can put six to eight pounds of pressure on a man’s penis?
Did you know a great handjob can feel as good as a blowjob to a man if it’s done the right way?
Do you know that a string of pearls, a silk scarf and a bag of Skittles can make your man’s toes curl?

If you’ve ever wanted to give your partner the kind of blowjob you know he wants, then we have a little secret to share with you.

Our friend Jessica Perez just published an amazing guide called Blow His Mind Tonight which is all about the in-and-outs of giving your man the best blowjob of his life. Never before have we seen a book so jam packed with useable blowjob tips and techniques as this one!

Not only is Jessica’s book great for beginners, it also contains a wealth of information for women who simply want to amp up their blowjob skills and increase their sexual skills.

Jessica’s Blow His Mind Tonight book is not only a great place to get started with lots of exercises to help your mouth’s strength and stamina, but also a great place to get tons of ideas on what positions to use and what tongue techniques will work the best.

If you’re ready to take the plunge and start learning about how to really turn your partner on, check out the awesome information that Jessica has in her incredible book:

Learn correct tongue placement and easy tongue exercises that you can do anywhere, anytime to make your mouth a powerful pleasure deliverer!
Find out the right way to breathe during a blowjob
Learn how to make your hands baby bottom soft for that perfect handjob
Test your blowjob abilities with two fun, before and after quizzes to see how much you’ve improved your oral sex skills
The different parts of an orgasm, including arousal, ejaculation and recovery
Learn how to give your partner the holy grail of blowjobs – deep throating – without gagging
Learn dozens of different techniques to use during handjobs and blowjobs to give your man the ultimate pleasure

But hold on a second, there’s a catch.

Before you download Jessica Perez’s Blow His Mind Tonight book, make sure you’re willing to put in the effort it takes to learn how to give your partner the ultimate head. While Jessica’s book is practically bursting at the seams with information, it’s not going to guarantee that you instantly become an oral sex goddess. The tips and techniques included in her book are things you actually have to do to make work, so make sure you’re willing to invest your time into learning how to give your partner an amazing blowjob.

If you think you have what it takes to learn tongue exercises, handjob techniques, blowjob techniques and the ultimate deep throating techniques to really blow your partner’s mind, download Blow His Mind Tonight and get started!

5 Mistakes To Avoid While Brushing Up On Your Oral Skills & Learning How To Give Great Head

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Sat, 30 May 2009 19:48:01 +0000

Would you like to learn how to give great head? When it comes to the skills in bed that they need to master, this is probably the number one aspect that most women are insecure at.

It’s quite intimidating to go down on your knees and not know exactly what you should do once you’re face to face with his equipment. So what’s the best way to start? If you want to be the type of lover that men never forget, then you should brush up on your oral sex skills and avoid these top 5 mistakes that women make when giving head.

Mistake #1: Using Your Teeth

Sure, your man would not like you to treat his penis too gently when you’re going down on him – but using your teeth is too much on the rough category. You don’t want to nick the skin of his penis, so use your lips as a shield while you’re slowly taking it in.

Mistake #2: Not Playing With His Balls Enough

Just as it is when women complain that most men usually skip on the foreplay to get to the main event, you don’t; want to skip on giving him mind-blowing pleasure by ignoring ‘the boys’.

So what are the rules to follow when it comes to playing with his testicles? Don’t yank, don’t pull them down using a vise grip, never grab and squeeze his balls. What you should do is rub, lick and oh-so-gently tug them until you hear moans of pleasure instead of grunts of pain.

Mistake #3: Giving In To Your Gagging Impulse

The problem is that there are certain levels when a woman’s gag reflex gets triggered. Gagging when you’re trying to give a guy head is definitely a turn off – but what if you can’t help but give in?

Well, you shouldn’t put yourself in such a situation in the first place. Watch when you’re being overly enthusiastic while making sucking motions. If you’re new at giving head, don’t try to take it all in and if you find out from previous experiences that it’s something that you just cannot do – stop trying.

Mistake #4: Not Varying The Pressure Enough

There’s no rule book that you should follow when giving a guy head – but repetitive motions without varying your pressure is not enough of a turn on for him. Use his moans of pleasure to amp up the speed, or slow your motions down to an almost caress if you want to cool him off a bit.

Mistake #5: Not Being In The Moment

Men need to see that you do like worshipping his penis – so don’t just be still while you’re going down on him. Bob your head a bit, use your hands on other parts of his body, make sounds – live in the moment and make him feel like a king when giving him head!

Learning about the top mistakes that you shouldn’t make when giving a guy head is the first step to being the best lover that you can be, so steer clear of this blunders and you can get him off using your mouth in no time at all.

Now that you have an idea about the top blunders that women make when giving men some oral love, visit our site to get a detailed guide on how to give great head.

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How To Give Great Head: Top 3 Steps To Follow In Mastering The Art Of Fellatio

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Sun, 24 May 2009 21:12:19 +0000

Did you know that there are some men who prefer receiving oral sex over intercourse? This is similar to the fact that there are a lot of women who cannot achieve an orgasm through penetrative sex, which is why they prefer when a man goes down on them.

So if you want to be the type of woman who will never be forgotten by a man because you’re such a great lover, then you do need to learn how to give great head. Take a look at some of the steps that you need to follow if you would like to master the art of fellatio.

Step 1: Remember That Achieving An Orgasm Is As Much Mental For Men As It Is For Women

Did you think that it is only women who can use their brains as the most important sexual organ? The same thing applies for men, too. So how exactly does this relate to learning how to give a guy great head?

Basically, you need to play the part and make him think that you love going down on him. Nothing kills a mood more than acting as if giving him head is a chore – or worse, a favor – that you owe him. Get in the mood by engaging in some naughty or downright trashy talk, or live out your sexual fantasies while giving him head.

Step 2: Make Sure That You Are In A Position Where You Will Not Get A Crick In Your Neck While Doing It

Scope out the sex guides online and look for a position which looks comfortable enough for you to really mean business while giving him head. Although it only takes about five minutes of direct stimulation for men to achieve an orgasm – you don’t want the action to be over too soon, so you might as well get comfy while going down on him.

Step 3: Get Down To Business

Start by lightly flicking your tongue over the head of his penis and slowly take it into your mouth. Remember that you shouldn’t use your teeth while giving him head, and you do need to give him variations when it comes to the rhythm and pace of your strokes.

Use your mouth, your tongue, your lips and your fingers to make sure that you are not ignoring any part of his penis. Try to listen to his moans and groans, take a cue from how his hand is making a gesture while holding your head – that should give you a clue as to whether he wants you to keep the pace, or go faster or slower.

No matter what you do down there, the trick is to try and love what you’re doing, keep on varying the pressure and use all the tools at your disposal so that you can give your guy great head.

Tips

To swallow or not to swallow is more of a personal preference, but don’t kill the mood by spitting it out openly if you don’t like the taste of his semen once he ejaculates.

What you can do instead is have him come on other parts of your body by taking his penis out of your mouth once he’s about to reach his peak – that’s as equally erotic as swallowing.

Warnings

If you’re having sex with someone who you’re not really sure of physically – make sure to always use a condom to be on the safe side.

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Oral Sex and Orgasm Dilemma – I Want To Finish In Her Mouth… (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 17 May 2008 14:46:44 +0000

Men love blow jobs. That’s a fact.

Many men also love finishing in a woman’s mouth during a blow job.

It can make them feel powerful or good about themselves and for some men, it just feels better physically to orgasm in a woman’s mouth than finishing another way.

Unfortunately, not all women relish the idea of having a man orgasm in her mouth.

There can be many different reasons why, but if you’re a man who enjoys finishing in a woman’s mouth, it can be disheartening when she doesn’t want to. What can you do?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

When my wife gives me a blow job, she can’t quite let me finish in her mouth. Is there any advice you can give her?

- Pete, Alberta

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5 Tips To Please Your Man In Bed

Michael Webb — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 14:50:22 +0000

Want to give your man a thrilling experience like never before? Here are 5 really simple ways to make your lovemaking hotter, steamier and more passionate, starting tonight!

1. The best position for his enjoyment

Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. While you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It’s great for guys because it gives them full control.

This is one of the best positions for hitting her G-spot and allows him to fondle your breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. The main benefit for your man is that he’ll be able to get incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

2. Find your man’s “hidden” zones

Yes, men love to be touched sensually too. I call these “hidden” zones because many people don’t realize, or forget, that these areas of the body LOVE attention.

While many of these zones are obvious, like the lips, groin, and inner thighs, there are also areas that, when stroked, caressed and kissed, can drive your partner wild and even intensify their orgasm.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms, chest and scalp are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner.

3. Set a romantic mood

Think men aren’t romantic or wouldn’t appreciate it? Think again! Everyone loves a thoughtful and kind gesture. Of course you might think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of your lovemaking is a little too “cliché.” But he’ll think differently!

Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

4. Give him a hand job

When beginning a genital massage, start with lighter, irregular strokes – like teasing. As you get further and further into it, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys.

Developing a good rhythm that your partner can get into is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage.

5. Please your man with more oral sex

If I had to give you one piece of advice to make your lovemaking perfect, it would be: learn the art of fellatio. It’s true, all men love it. It feels great and actually takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. In short, it’s an important part of lovemaking and is often the main event.

Problem is, women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches.

This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation. Make sure you use different techniques and your tongue, as well.

So there you have it. Five great ways to make your man more satisfied in the bedroom. While they’re all great, I would recommend putting most of your energy and time into learning fellatio, simply because men crave it so much and the loving smile and kisses you’ll probably get in return are definitely worth it.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of Blow by Blow: The Complete Guide to Fellatio. Unfortunately, most women leave men frustrated and disappointed after fellatio.

Learn to be one of the rare women who can satisfy him with oral sex. To learn more, visit: the how to give a blow job website.

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Desperate Housewife – Husband REFUSES Oral Sex! (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 23 Dec 2007 13:57:15 +0000

Oral sex is undoubtedly one of the most pleasurable of all sexual activities.

With the seemingly endless amount of delightful sensations oral sex can bring, it’s a wonder why anyone would willingly say no to it.

And although some people prefer to give it, and others prefer to receive it, most people enjoy doing both – Sometimes at the very same time!

But what happens when one person in a relationship completely refuses to engage in any kind of oral sex play, and the other absolutely adores it?

Is it possible to change someone’s mind about oral sex? Is it even reasonable or moral to try?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’ve been married for 15+ years & would love to have my husband to try anal &/or oral sex. He thinks it’s "vile & disgusting".

I have been around the block once or twice before I married & enjoyed these activities very much! He won’t even let me give him oral sex, which I’ve been told I’m pretty good at.

How do I convince my hubby that I want this type of activity?

–Samantha, Ohio

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How Can I Get My Husband to Try Oral Sex?

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Gasp! Do People Actually Have Oral Sex? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 19 Sep 2007 23:53:15 +0000

Everyone has their own sexual preferences, whether it’s plain old missionary position, lights off, oral sex, anal sex (gasp!), or any one of dozens of exotic sexual activities.

Of course, nobody thinks of what they like as a weird fetish. No, what they like is always "OK" and "mainstream". Then we hear about someone doing something just a little more weird, just a little different from what we’re comfortable with, and suddenly it’s a "kinky fetish".

Here’s a question from a man in Georgia, who’s absolutely shocked to have discovered that some people seem to actually enjoy oral sex. Is it blasphemy, or has he just been missing out?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Do people really perform oral sex? Seems disgusting to me. Is it rare, or do couples regularly do it? I never thought of such a thing until I got on the Internet. It was never discussed in my circle of friends.

– Harold, GA

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Do Regular People Actually Engage in Oral Sex?

Absolutely. There are people out there who enjoy every type of fetish and exotic sexual activity imaginable. From enjoying oral sex, to relishing anal sex, to threesomes and swinging, and other fetishes you’ve never even imagined….