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Targeting Her Pleasure Buttons: How To Finger A Woman’s G-Spot

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 01:00:18 +0000

From a man’s perspective, there are a lot of issues about sex which may bring you insecurities especially if you’re not so confident about your skills as a lover. Did she reach orgasm when during your first time together or was she faking it? When she has one of those ‘girl talks’ with her friends, do you think that she raves about your skills in bed or does she portray you as a lousy lover?

In order for you not to feel any insecurity in this department, the best that you can do is develop your skills as a lover. Remember to always be sensitive to a woman’s sexual needs, always take her pleasure into account instead of always looking for your own pleasure, take your time and learn new sexual tricks every now and then. This way, your wife or girlfriend will feel satisfied about the way that your sex life is going.

A Woman’s Pleasure Buttons: Differentiating the G-Spot from the Clitoris

For men, the erogenous zone is pretty much concentrated on the area below his waist and above his thighs. For women, however, there is a pretty wide area which can be considered as her pleasure zones. The breasts, her thighs, her waist, the back of her neck and even the not-so-erotic curves of her body can bring her pleasure when stimulated. And of course, there’s the center of all her pleasure zones which is her vagina.

Now, if you want to be a master lover, there are two aspects of a woman’s sexual organ that you need to learn the map for: the clitoris and the G-spot. Target these two pleasure buttons and you’ll surely be able to bring her multiple orgasms. To make the distinction between the two, here’s a crash course on the basic things that you should know about the clitoris and a woman’s G-spot.

First, the clitoris is the sole organ in the female body which is dedicated to physical pleasure. Think of the sensation that she feels down there as comparable to the pleasure that you feel when the head of your penis is being stimulated. The clitoris is a nerve-packed ending which is sensitive to the touch, and it is located just above the opening of her vagina.

Second, there’s the G-spot or the Gräfenberg spot. This is actually a bean-shaped tissue which has a spongy texture, located about a couple of inches back from the opening of her front vaginal wall.

Confused? Don’t worry, the G-spot is something that even women themselves find difficult to locate. But once you do manage to find it and bring her mind blowing orgasms by stimulating her G-spot, she’ll practically be under your sexual spell for life!

How to Bring Her Mind Blowing Orgasms by Fingering Her G-Spot

So how exactly should you stimulate her G-spot? Just as it is when you’re introducing a new sexual position to her, the best way to start stimulating the G-spot is by easing your way into it. Always start slow and be sensitive to her responses.

Don’t scrimp on the foreplay since this is one of the best ways to prepare her for the G-spot stimulation. The best way to go after her G-spot initially is by using your fingers. Once you’ve mastered the location of her G-spot, that is the time that you can target this particular pleasure button using your penis during penetration.

To do it, face your partner while she is lying on her back. Then, insert your index finger or your middle finger into her vagina as far back as it will go. Since the G-spot is located near her front vaginal wall, you should crook your finger along the top of the vagina. Do this gently until you feel an area which is rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall. Watch for her reaction – you’ll know when you’ve hit the right spot from the way that she will respond.

Don’t be afraid to communicate during the process of searching for her G-spot. Since she knows that it’s her ultimate pleasure that you’re after, she will surely cooperate.

The best way to make her reach an orgasm by fingering her G-spot is by using a firm tapping motion with your finger. Other women prefer G-spot stimulation during intercourse and the best position for this is when she’s on top or when you’re on a rear-entry position.

If you haven’t yet mastered the art of using a ‘helping hand’ to reach and stimulate her G-spot, don’t feel frustrated – try again and experiment. In due time, you are bound to reach that oh-so-elusive G-spot and use your finger to stimulate a woman’s ultimate pleasure button and bring her an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

3 Things All Men Need To Know About The Female Orgasm

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 19:12:31 +0000

Fortunately for women, gone are the days when it is commonplace for them to have sex and not reach an orgasm. As sex experts have started delving deeper into female sexuality, there has been more awareness about what female orgasm is all about.

Today, women reach orgasms as often as men ejaculate – and they’re even luckier in the sense that they are capable of achieving multiple orgasms.

A Quick Look At What Happens When A Woman Reaches Orgasm

First, let us take a look at exactly what happens when a woman reaches an orgasm. This, of course, is entirely for a man’s perspective. Just imagine what happens to your body as you ejaculate. There’s basically a tightening in your balls and an almost liquid feeling climbing up your spine when you’re close to coming. This sexual experience is very similar to what a woman goes through during a female orgasm.

For a woman, reaching orgasm involves a sensation like no other, wherein excitement slowly builds up until such a point that her vagina ’surges’ and contracts almost every second. That throb of pleasure that you feel once you ejaculate is similar to the feeling of a woman reaching an orgasm – minus the production of fluid.

And you’ll be glad to know that some women are capable of reaching multiple orgasm if they so desire and if you’re that good of a lover. So it’s perfectly fine to ‘tune her up’ first by letting her reach an orgasm through oral sex first – and then joining in on the action as you penetrate her later on. At that point, she’ll be primed and ready again for her second, third or even fourth orgasm!

Myths About Female Orgasm

Despite being in sexually liberated times, there are still myths about female orgasm which persist until today.

First, there’s the myth that there is something wrong with a woman if she cannot have an earth-shattering orgasm. This is not true at all, because most women have orgasms without them being aware of it. In every sexual contact, they will reach a peak of arousal which is the same as having the feeling of reaching orgasm.

Another persistent myth is that ‘normal’ women can reach orgasm during intercourse. However, a large percentage of the female population cannot reach female orgasm this way. Instead, they can achieve it through a combination of intercourse and oral stimulation – or even by oral stimulation alone.

3 Things That Men Need To Know About Female Orgasm

Now, here are the three things that every man should know about female orgasm:

1. If it takes men two to five minutes of direct stimulation to have an orgasm, the average female needs about 20 minutes of direct stimulation.

So the moral of the story is that you should be patient, prime her up and try to hold off your own pleasure for as long as you can. This is especially true for women who have problems producing natural lubrication. If you want to reach the point of no return together, giver her at least a 20-minute head start.

2. Women also experience the equivalent of ‘blue balls’.

You already know what blue balls mean – but you probably didn’t know that women experience an equivalent of this, too. Once she gets extremely turned on, the clitoris becomes engorged with blood. If this is not released through an orgasm, she will experience the same level of discomfort that you feel in your penis once your sexual tension isn’t released.

So when you’re going down on her, for example, help build up the tension through stimulation so that she will reach that explosion of release – which is already the female orgasm.

3. Aside from the obvious perks of reaching a female orgasm, there are also health benefits which are in it for them.

Let’s say that women needed another reason for reaching an orgasm besides its being extremely pleasurable. Its health benefits include being less sensitive to pain, relief in menstrual cramps and it also alleviates stress.

There you have it – the top three female orgasm facts that men need to know about. So what are you waiting for? Sharpen your sexual techniques now so that you can give that special woman in your life a female orgasm that she’s not bound to forget!

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

Clitoris 101: 3 Things Men Need to Know about the Clitoris

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 19:11:31 +0000

Would you like to be a master lover and bring your partner earth shattering orgasms in bed? It doesn’t even matter whether you have an average, below average or above average-sized penis. As long as you’re familiar with the female parts which are located down south, you will be able to keep women begging for more – because you’re that good in bed.

Why it’s Worth it to Pay Attention to the Clit

For men, the answer to the question about which part of the body can be considered as their most erogenous zone, the answer is easy: the penis. All the sexual sensations are concentrated to that area below the hips and above the legs. In the area of oral sex, as long as a woman agrees to go down on you, you’re bound to experience an orgasm no matter how long or short a time she’s willing to spend on giving you some oral love.

For women, however, the answer is a bit more complicated. First, when it comes to her erogenous zones, there are her breasts and her vagina that you can focus on. Second, the vagina, unlike the penis, can be considered as an unchartered territory for most men. This is because the vagina is composed of different parts: the inner and outer labia or lips, the clitoris, and the G-spot which is located about a couple of inches inside the vaginal opening.

But one thing’s for sure: if you want to give that special woman in your life an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon, you can go for either the clitoris or the G-spot. Here, let us try to focus on learning about the clitoris.

The Top 3 Things that Men should Know about the Clitoris

Take a look at the top three things that men should know about the clitoris:

1. The ‘anatomy’ of a clitoris

Simply put, the clitoris is that tiny bud located just above the opening of her vagina, right at the top of her inner labia. Experts say that this is the only human organ which is solely dedicated for sexual pleasure. So just imagine just how mind blowing her orgasm will be if you target this spot.

The clitoris is as packed with sensitive nerve endings as the head of your penis and it becomes engorged when a woman is aroused. Don’t go heading immediately after her clit when you have sex, however. The clitoris can be extremely sensitive so she needs to be prepared to take it in, so to speak.

Another crucial information about the clitoris that every man should know about is this: most women do require clitoral stimulation – whether it’s orally or though penetration – in order to achieve an orgasm.

So if you seriously want to improve your skills as a lover, now is as good a time as any to learn everything that there is to know about the anatomy of a clitoris.

2. How to play with the clitoris

Before heading down south, remember that women need more than physical stimulation to be totally into the sexual act. Turn her on by using flirting glances, compliment her with your words and most importantly – never skip the foreplay. If you manage to get her as aroused as she can be before her clothes come off, the more intense things will be later on.

Now, there are two ways for you to stimulate her clitoris. You can either use your tongue and mouth, or your fingers. When deciding to use the latter, start by caressing her legs while working your way towards her inner thighs. Then, touch her outer vaginal lips before making contact with the area just above her clitoris, since direct stimulation might be painful for her.

The second method, you are probably already familiar with: cunnilingus. Using your mouth and your tongue, you can bring her to a mind blowing orgasm by eating her out. Enough said.

3. How to bring sexual fulfillment through clitoral stimulation

At the end of the day, it all boils down to the fact that vaginal intercourse alone is about as exciting for a woman as a bumpy ride on a beat up car. If you want to take her to new sexual heights, never take the clit for granted. Try to communicate or learn her body language so that you’ll know when to go faster or harder, when to stop or not stop.

Through clitoral stimulation, you will be able to send that special woman in your life to greater sexual heights and give her the best ‘ride’ of her life.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

Top 10 Tips To Give Women An Orgasm

Michael Webb — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 15:43:17 +0000

Did you know that women can experience different types of orgasms and can even have multiple orgasms? It’s true! Unfortunately, many women can go years without an orgasm from their partner, and we all know how hard it is to satisfy a woman. Here are 10 tips to increase the chances she’ll reach climax, including the secret to multiple orgasms:

Start outside the bedroom

Want to increase the chances she’ll orgasm? When was the last time you surprised her with a little drawing, letter or flowers and sent them to her at work? Believe it or not, creative and romantic gestures DO turn women on because love and lovemaking are interconnected in a woman’s brain. Do this and you can bet-your-bottom-dollar you’ll be doing more than just eating dinner when she walks in the door!

Relax her

It’s very hard for women to orgasm if they are stressed. Give her a quick back massage. Rub her shoulders, upper back and neck to melt away the tension.

Ignore the vagina

Did you know that prolonged foreplay actually increases the chances of her coming? That’s right. By kissing, caressing and touching her LONGER, you’ll build the sexual tension and often the anticipation will be very powerful.

Change your focus

If you focus all your attention on the woman first, you’ll make love to her much more passionately. Think about it! If you’ve finished first and decide to help her come, you won’t have the enthusiasm and passion that’s needed to keep her hot and turned on.

Tip to last longer

Of course the first step to help her reach orgasm is by not coming. The best way I’ve found to not come is: Penetrate as normal and when you feel like you’re about to come, simply move your hips in a circular motion (like swaying a hula hoop) and wait until the “little guys” subside again. Now continue pleasuring.

Don’t use lubricants

Women have a natural lubricant that fills the vagina when they’re turned on. By using a product substitute, you’re only fooling yourself. Without products, you’ll instantly know if things are working; but with them, you can never be sure. * Editor’s note: use this tip with caution; we’ve always found lubricants to be helpful.

Never too much clitoris

Did you know that once you’ve stimulated the clitoris for some time, a little thing called the clitoral hood will actually come out and cover the clitoris to protect it from further direct stimulation? (And no, I’m not making this up!) The point is, once the clitoris is fully stimulated, make sure you pleasure the G-spot next, whether it be with your hand, tongue or penis.

Find and stimulate the G spot

The G-spot is a zone that feels like the roof of your mouth and is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. (On the underside of her stomach.) There are two basic ways you can pleasure the G. With your fingers by doing a “come here” motion or with a love position that helps hit the G-spot…

Use the best position

Not all love positions are made equal. The best one for women is the reverse missionary (woman on top). This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

Give her oral sex

The single best way to help a woman reach orgasm, even multiple orgasms, is by going down on her (cunnilingus). While at first I didn’t believe it, countless studies have been done to prove this fact. Oral sex is easier and much more satisfying for women than intercourse is. Try the ABC’s with your tongue, ask what she likes, and mix it up with lots of different movements! However be VERY careful! With over 6,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, make sure you know everything there is to know before poking your tongue around there, otherwise it could be really painful and, even worse, spoil the mood. So there you have it – 10 tips you can start using right away to give women the most earth-shattering experience of their lives. Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of Lick by Lick, the complete guide to giving women oral pleasure. Unfortunately, most men leave women frustrated and disappointed after cunnilingus. Find out how you can be one of the rare men who can satisfy her with oral sex by visiting the Lick by Lick website. Read our review here.